I’ve being in a relationship for almost 2 years and my boyfriend thinks I don’t respect him in the sense that, he says wearing jeans, applying makeup on, wearing wigs are all not good because the Bible speaks against it. I really tried to stop at first but this is so hard for me stop because I am young lady and I feel like I need to dress up nicely and all that. We’re at the edge of breaking up because of these things and I feel like sometimes he sounds very controlling too. Should I continue to listen to him to stop or I should just do what my heart pleases me to do.
Please HELP !!!
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Um… I need him to point to the scriptures that speak about wearing make up, wigs, and denim jeans please 
actually no I don’t… It doesn’t exist and he’s using religion as a shield to be abusive and controlling. Tell him to holy-roll his controlling ass out the door
You should feel free to be yourself. If you cannot then it is the wrong relationship
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Run… you aren’t compatible!
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Bet 100% he watches porn and checks out other women. Ask him what the Bible says about that and then tell him to gouge his eye out. 
Run. Any man who uses religion to control his wife/partner is an abuser. And that’s coming from someone who believes in the word and believes in God.
He’s controlling you. Don’t let him
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him. I laugh i my husbands face when he tried this shit n walked out the door in a crop top infront of him yesterday just to be an asshole. He didn’t know I had a hoodie in the car to cover up with tho. ( mines extra insecure lately)
Don’t ever let a man or anyone dictate what you can or can’t no for your own self n your confidence.
Always follow your heart. He wants to own you!
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Do what makes you feel beautiful 
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Run very fast! You need to be you! He is the one disrespecting you!! I’ve been in a situation like this, took me 13 years to escape! It will escalate to abuse! Leave now!
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You should be running not walking away
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“If I am too much for you seek less”
Break up with him hun
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Last time I checked your life your decisions. Kick him to the curb!
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That’s his excuse to be a controlling twat.
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Leave. He’s controlling. I’m sure you dressed like that when he met you. If he didn’t like it, he shouldn’t have made the choice to be with you only to try change you. That my friend is manipulation. Go off and be free and happy without that in your life!
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Respectfully… he can go to hell. Do you! Nothing you’re doing is wrong.
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You & him have different views. That’s ok. It’s not ok to push his views on you. He knew how you dressed when he met you. He chose to date you anyway. He doesn’t get to now try to change you. That’s disrespectful. Leave him.
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He’s a control freak. RUN!
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He is controlling. Run far and run fast.
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It might not even be that he is controlling maybe he really is into religion. However if you don’t agree with his religion or his view of life beat thing is to date someone more compatible with you.
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Did you wear makeup and jeans before you got together? If so he knew what it was when you got together. So no you are not disrespectful.
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Did you do that stuff when you guys got together? If yes then he is insecure and trying to control you
Run as fast as you can!! It will only get worse!!!
If having makeup on is against God wishes then every lady in my church are sinners lmao… leave his ass!
Girl some of those Bible talking men are the worse. Run run run. You can wear whatever u want he’s not in charge of u.
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Listen to your intuition seriously
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Sounds like a Bible thumper to me. Run like hell!
Wear what you want, wat makes u feel good
Please don’t continue to let a so called man control you with his ignorance . This is a sign to leave as fast as you can and NEVER 
back!!!
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What if he like your natural beauty
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So were you in pajamas and disheveled looking when you met? This is controlling behavior and it won’t stop.
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Its funny that the same women who say if a woman doesn’t like porn the man should respect her and stop are the same people saying run. Instead of doing what either of you want maybe tone down what you do a bit and compromise. Like maybe no wig but keep the make up or wear less makeup. Something that both of you can feel better about.
Guuuurl that man isn’t for you. That’s a 
. Absolutely no man has any right to control how you dress or wear make up. Let it break you up, then go find a man that will treat you right
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If your not allowed to grow, your not allowed to be you? It’s not disrespectful. It’s him controlling you. You won’t be happy if you stay! Nothing will change except him becoming more controlling & you’ll fight more or you will give into him & cowered down to him.
Do you tell him how to dress? It works both ways. He is over the top!
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Where in the Bible does it say that …
Run girl and don’t look back!!!
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You be you and if thats not enough for him, boo you find a man that worships the ground you walk on for being yourself!
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If he’s trying to change you, you are putting up with to much BS. It will only get worse.
Love me the way I am or you don’t love me at all.
if you don’t match on your thoughts about these things, especially if it comes to religion, be done with him. Two people with a different belief system are a recipe for disaster. Keep putting on your makeup and wigs and let him find a dowdy frump
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This is not faith. These are rules of religion. And religion is what people use manipulate other people. His behavior is a reflection of his own insecurities. He’s using religious rules, disguised as faith, to manipulate you. Get out, my dear.
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Bible freak! He literally has a psychological problem. You need to run now or risk being with a psycho who will end up hurting you if he can’t control you.
Pretty sure if he’s looking at it with a “Christian” standpoint, he’d know that God would want you to feel good and confident, dressing up encourages success and a healthy wellbeing. Sounds like he’s deflecting his own insecurities onto you…
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If those were his beliefs he should of never got with you in the first place knowing you like those things. You can’t form someone into something you want. You love them for who they are or not at all!
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You aren’t right for each other. It’s time to move on.
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Telling people what to do doesnt seem very biblical either. You’re grown young woman and he isnt your father. Do what makes YOU happy!
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Some Bible thumbers are psychologically damaged to the point where they get almost abusive Not telling you what to do but if I was you I would end this kind of relationship. It’s like he is a narcissist. His way or no way.
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Quit trying to please a man, are you that desperate? Just be who you are if you can’t do that you are with the wrong man.
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He sounds religious which is fine. Did you know this before hand and that he thought this way? The Bible does say these things. My advice is if you don’t agree walk away now. I don’t see it as controlling. I am religious but this is one I don’t abide by at all. My husband doesn’t mind. But if his faith does you will never work through it. He believes what he believes. Asking someone to change that is disrespectful to me. Also him not understanding your points is also disrespectful. I say therapy . Maybe you can work through it.
No one should tell you how you can and cannot dress. Period.
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If your beliefs are different and after 2 years, he can’t accept you, then I think it’s time to end it and find someone who loves you for you.
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Nope nope nope! Leave now!
leave now. It’ll only get worse.
Tell him to quit trying to change you that never works
He’s controlling and that will only get worse. You can do better
Leave now . You both obviously have different beliefs . You changing you for his beliefs will make you miserable.
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Jesus hung out with lower life peoples drunks prostitutes that is a fact God doesnt care what you wear
If you want advice from the women on this page all you have to do is repeat “run” “you deserve better” “leave” and “sounds like a red flag” 
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Why be with someone that’s hell bent on telling you everything you enjoy or everything about you is bad, sinful and just wrong…leave and be happy…and yourself…dude I don’t even see why this is a question to ask yourself let alone fb…be the best and happiest you can to you and I don’t think that means being with someone that literally is telling you everything about you is wrong…or everything you like or enjoy for yourself is wrong…nah go find someone that loves and respects you for the beautiful all dressed up makeup wearing self that you deserve that tell you how freaking amazing you are and beautiful you are and is proud of the way you look and feel about the way you look not someone that’s embarrassed or shameful for you trying to look and feel your best… you deserve better…you know that…good luck girl…his beliefs is something that can’t be changed or will change over time it’s his beliefs and his mindset and it won’t change or get better…it’s always going to be an issue and will always be him telling you that the way you carry yourself isn’t right…and controlling what you wear and that’s just not what a relationship should have to go through…doesn’t sound like happiness…or even settling on small things cuz the good out weigh the bad…this is beyond bad to feel like a relationship can work when you know it’s his way or knowing how he thinks of you as a human and person if you choose to dress or do things your way…knowing he is ashamed or feels your sinful or whatever by dressing your way or wearing make up is something I couldn’t live with if I felt someone was supposed to love me but thought these things about me…
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If this was an issue before dating him, why did he stick around? 2 years in and he wants you to change now?
If your religions don’t line up you can leave also he can believe in what he wants without projecting that onto others sounds like he needs to be with someone who is on the same page . Bible speaks against a lot of things I’m sure he does as well
Find someone who is okay with you being YOU! he also needs to find someone who has his mindset.
I’d get out now!
Nothing wrong with being religious but he needs to find someone that is a member of his church. He cant change you and shouldnt try to.
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The Bible says nothing about wigs and jeans! Jesus looks at your heart.
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No no no, run. This is controlling. You are a thing woman and expressing yourself is not anything bad at all
Leave. I’m sorry, but it only gets worse.
We all have different religions practices. If that’s how he chooses to follow and believe then he needs to find someone who doesn’t mind and agrees. It’s very Old Testament, but obviously not your idea of worship.
Sit down and discuss your ideas. Maybe you are meant to be maybe you are not.
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Lmao anyone who uses the bible to dictate what someone else should wear or act deserves to be dumped. Tell him to make friends with his hand, which is what he can control, and move it along.
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Omg do what makes u happy…it’s clear he’s being controlling u have make yourself happy before anyone esle can
He’s controlling- leave !!!
Girl one word: RUN. This guy is not the one.
If that’s his belief then you either need to not be with him because you don’t agree or learn to grow with it. Was he this way at the beginning or did it change over time?
The Bible also speaks against premarital sex. So is it safe to assume that y’all haven’t slept together yet?
IMO, you shouldn’t have to change who you are. There’s NOTHING wrong with you dolling yourself up. He sounds insecure and controlling. My advice is to move on and finds someone that’s happy with ALL of you. 
Honey the Bible doesn’t say that… if I were I’d leave him now …he is trying to control you
I’m curious as to what Bible verses specifically name wigs, jeans, and make up on women as sinful? Also, he doesn’t sound controlling, he IS controlling, and it will only get worse. They’re on their good behavior when you’re just dating.
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Dress how you want, you are a grown adult no man should tell you how to dress, act, talk, ect
Girl if you don’t break up with him lol fuck that shit. Bible don’t say shit about pants except don’t wear ACTUAL men’s clothes. Also the Bible says not to wear jewelry or even BRAID YOUR HAIR. Wtf is that shit? Don’t listen to him seriously. Nobody needs advice from his outdated sky daddy book that MEN wrote
It’s against the bible to talk down to your woman and make her feel less than, also.
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People love to get with a person male and female and then want to change them. Time to exit left and be who you are.
Put on your jeans and run.
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Run for the hills hunni
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He gives men, and people of religion, a bad name. It’s controlling and frankly, disgusting. Be who you want to be.
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Just leave now, trying to manipulate a woman using the Bible as an excuse is garbage.
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Run, it’s only gonna get worse.
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Ummm run… don’t walk away from him. Don’t ever let a man tell you what to do.
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First signs control, you do you girl!!
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You’re two years in a relationship and he is already acting like this? Imagine how he is going to react once you are deeper in the relationship. Girl run and don’t look back.
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Please, leave him. You do you. The Bible doesn’t say what he is claiming. He’s extremely controlling. It will only get much worse. Leave now
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BREAK UP NOW he’s trying to control you and it will only get worse. Dress how you like
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Exit this toxic relationship.
You do you !!! If he loves you he will accept that, there’s alot in the Bible that unfortunately we don’t live by anymore but this is not the 1950s.
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You guys obviously have different beliefs and values. Stay will only make you lose yourself and remain unhappy
My abusive ex husband was like that. He would use religion as a weapon to control me. Trust me, you will be way happier with out him.
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He has his beliefs, but he has absolutely no right to impose that on you. Dont ever change yourself for a guy who ends up judging or controlling you over his own religious beliefs, you deserve to be happy and respected.
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No man should tell you how to dress.
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Please leave!
He sounds and is incredibly religious in a abusive controlling way! The Bible doesn’t say anything like that.
U will deeply regret it by staying he can physically force u to do what he claims is holy and it’s cult like attitude. Same happened to my sister and she hardly escaped when it got really bad.
The Bible also says sex B4 marriage!!! So is HE doing that or are Y’all having SEX??? If You are then that answers your question…. It’s ok for him but U can’t because the Bible says!!! GTFOOH
Okay so obviously you have different views so if neither of you are willing to compromise it is time to wash your hands of the relationship.
And this is why so many people have been pushed away from religion because too many people especially men use it to control women!
You are grown and no one should tell you how to live.
Lol 
he may also he saying it because ur dressing un savory and ur a fucking mom and doesn’t wanna be rude so makes it about religion dress like a mom not a single mom problem solved show some respect for ur self and ur kids maybe the future Gen won’t be so willing to spread if u show them some fucken class