I say nurture those who nurture you , a simple inexpensive gift will do just fine and it’s bloody cheeky sending you the link to a very expensive item bugger that daddy dearest can get it send the link to him .
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Absolutely not. You can still get her something nice. Maybe write her a letter to attach to it. But you should can ever go into debt over a Christmas gift and you should never give a gift out of “obligation”. That isn’t what this season is about.
She’s not a child she’s a teen. She’s old enough to know better and knows exactly what’s she is doing. Or she is assuming she will receive regardless of her poor relationship maintenance. I wouldn’t be purchasing gifts for people that I have a one sided relationship with.
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She is only 13, but you didn’t explain your relationship with her? Are you close? Or?
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I wouldn’t get her anything. She don’t wanna spend time or come over with the only mother that she knows but wants a gift? I think not
From the parent who has a incredibly manipulative teenager ( yes they are more then aware of what they are doing) don’t buy it… buy what you can afford…
Do not get it.
I would sit down and talk to her that you feel ignored and she wants nothing to do with u but is asking for something for going nothing.
Trust your instincts. Tell her that’s a great gift and u can help her ideas on how to save and make money.
Don’t buy anything besides some time together, other gifts may end up in the garbage, and you don’t need to loose your precious money hard worked. And to please her just because, I don’t feel is good or appropriate. Be kind to yourself .
I wouldn’t buy her something I couldn’t afford but don’t get your feelings hurt either. Girls this age are self centered. Don’t take it personal! It’s not you!
Don’t buy it she can get her dad to buy it if she wants it that bad kids are to spoiled these days send a present request back to her and see what she says about that
Nope. Save your funds. Redirect her request to her father. Give her what you can afford. Or give her a card…or give her nothing, because she not gonna use you
I won’t get her the gift unless she changes I have a niece who does this only view people as what can you give me then she is done with what you can give her then she treat you like garbage (my niece is 21). I think by not giving her a gift will teach her she can’t act that way.
Tell her as although you would like to buy that for her, but you can’t afford it, tell her dad what she wants and let him get it . Get her a little something and don’t feel guilty,
Well if you give in to her you are teaching her its ok to do that to people you can treat them anyway you want asnd still expect to get what you want or still be bold enough to ask for something shes sure is over the top for you .she must sense that you care a lot about her but she doesnt feel the same if you think you are hurt now if you buy that gift its not gonna change her so you will really be hurt more afterwards.13 is an age where they begin to manipulate the adults in their life and also when they test the adults its their first teenage year and they have been waiting on this the next one is they cant wait to be 18 at both ages they feel like they are in charge…dont give up the power …pray for strength to get through this and know your heart is in the right place its lesson time and you are the teacher obviously dad is doing a poor job of it
Eh shes old enough and need to learn she can’t use people to get what she wants wtf. If she cares enough, she would visit, not bc she wants a gift. Sounds like developing to be manipulative for gifts. Alot of comments arent wrong. Id probably at least explain to her why she cant behave that way and expects stuff. There can be a chance she will reflex on it and maybe change next year???
Ps: there is deff nothing wrong with at least get her a small something so she doesnt feel forgotten at least
No can do, after she gets what she wants she will just revert back to not talking etc
She’s 13 she’s very much aware of what she’s doing. Don’t acknowledge the message. Get what it is you want to get her if anything g at all.
She’s old enough to know what she’s doing and the choices she making . Don’t buy it .
At 13 she’s old enough to understand what she’s doing. I wouldn’t buy it, just something small and a good talk.
That doesn’t seem very fair. She seems uninterested in a relationship but wants a gift? No thanks.
Instead of giving her a gift give her an experience that the two of you can do together…ie…movie tickets…tickets to an adventure park or a zoo…or maybe even a little vacation to a water park
She is working you big time. Do not buy the expensive gift. Give her a nice gift that you pick out and can afford.
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Don’t do it. No way. She’s not that young to not know better than to act like that.
Get her a gift or a gift you can do together like a paint night…but maybe leave it at your place. She can get it next time she visits…
You are the only one that can stop the way you’re feeling tell her know if you can’t have anything to do with you all year long tell her no
Yeah. No I wouldn’t purchase it sorry if it’s too expensive. Pretty sad she’s 13 she KNOWS & is using this as a getting gifts only. 
Sounds like the only time she wants anything to do with you is if you have money/can give her expensive things. Don’t do it. Get het something else, or make a donation in her name to a charity.
She would receive what I could afford to get her. What is she going to do not have anything to do with you if you don’t. Self explanatory.
DO NOT BUY IT!!! She is using you and if you give in she will continue to do so!
Not at all break the habit … we have a 22 year old that seems to have this habit when mad , this year is our teaching lesson !
Child or not, shes old enough to know that’s not acceptable, I’d definitely get why you feel used.i wouldn’t get her nothing.
You are not too sensitive. She is a little gold digger and just wants an expensive gift. Send her a pretty card with a check for $5.
Its an absolute no brainer- ignore the request. Who does she think she is! A selection box from her brother would be appropriate, nothing as such from you.
Nope. Sounds to me like she’s using you. I wouldn’t buy it at all. You cannot, nor should you have to try, to buy someone’s love and attention. Child or Adult.
Why would you buy her an expensive present, she can’t be bothered with you, give her a 20 dollar gift card and say merry Christmas.
Wow I love what you choose. I am so sorry but the budget is xxx for gifts until I win the lottery. Do you have something in that range you might like or I can get you a gift card to go towards it. I really want to get you something you love as much as I love and miss you . Let me know if you have other suggestions
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Tell her you would love to take her to a nice lunch somewhere where you can spend time together.
Buy what you can afford, teenagers are hard work…did she send the same link to her father? If you really feel like you should get it, are you and her father able to go Half/half on the present? And she can come over for some quality time when she goes to get it?
Can you talk to her about how you feel? See if she wants to talk about what is going on with her that have prevented her from spending time with you?
No! Do not give it to her. Her father is shameless to let her do it! Doesn’t spend time with you but wants expensive gifts. Nope. Set a budget.
If you really cant afford it dont get it. I would buy a gift that could be used as time together eg spa day, theme park etc and tell her you have a gift under your tree for her. If you spend that time together tell her you miss and still care for her.
She may 'rather stay at home ’ because her dad might be bad mouthing you in front of her and she doesn’t know what to think.
Simple economic sanity: No gift for debt. It’s a horrible trade. Gifts from the heart need not be purchased… Creativity has no limit, nor does it require financial expense. Teach those you love through your examples… Don’t let advertising teach them what Christmas is about.
We dont buy gifts for people who dont make the time to be in our life. I say dont get her anything. Shes only asking because she wants something from you
Nah. My 13 year old has tried stuff like this in his relatives and knows exactly what he’s doing cause he told me lol. Don’t do it. She’ll get it and go back to not coming over.
Don’t buy it. If you can’t afford it, it isn’t worth it. No matter who is asking for it.
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I bought my daughter a pair of expensive shoes for her birthday 13 , she got grounded.
Been there, don’t let these kids walk all over you. Tell her you’d “rather stay home” than go buy a gift.
Nope don’t. Let her father buy it for her.
I would get it (if I could afford it). One day she will grow up and appreciate everything you did. 13 is a hard age, puberty, mood swings, and figuring out who you are.
Very rude of her, ignore the request and if she asks again just reply “who is this? The same person who rather not see me?”
I’d tell her to send it to her dad or just don’t respond and don’t get her anything
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Buy her a Plaque with a poem about how a “bonus” daughter is just as special as a natural daughter.
Buy her a lump of cole .she has no respect for you just want to use you no way.
Could you speak with her about the expense not being affordable…would she prefer cash she can put towards it, or a gift you could get. Or ask for a list of things she would like, in various price ranges. Or could the dad go in with you to buy it?
You would be a fool to buy her anything for Christmas.
Nope! She’s using you. Don’t buy the gift!
Don’t buy it! She’s 13 she knows better! She don’t want to see you when it’s not Christmas time so…
Nope. I wouldn’t buy it. I would let her earn the high dollar amount by doing work for you. Make her earn it. But no sounds like she is using you. Let her dad buy it don’t u feel bad about it one bit.
call her out on it and talk to her about it and let her know how it makes you feel and go from thier
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Its not childish to want to be loved BUT IT IS childish to cave and try to buy that love.
I wouldn’t do it
She is only using you.
Nope. Don’t do it. Don’t overcompensate for something you can’t afford.
Not biological yours and only speaks to you wanting something that’s out of your reach, save your money. Your time and effort should be enough.
Definitely don’t buy her anything big. Maybe a few outfits or a small gift card
No you are not!!
If you buy it, that will prove to her you can be used.
Let her buy you an expensive gift 
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Buy the gift for your self and asked if she wants to come play it … it’s probably a game or device I’m sure #payback
Tell her you can help her find ways to make the money to get it and you’ll pay half?
I’m sorry that this is happening to you. This has to be hurtful and disappointing for you. I would tell her exactly what you’ve told us. Every word. Tell her that you miss time with her, and how it made you feel. Even with Covid restrictions in place, she could call or Zoom or something. Maybe there are reasons for her staying away, maybe not. Open up the dialog and see what she says.
Good luck to you. Never, ever let yourself believe you’re “too sensitive” - you are trying to set a perfectly healthy boundary here and that’s okay. 
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Absolutely no!!! She knows exactly what she is doing.
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If you can’t afford it you can’t afford it. Wouldn’t even be an option unless it fell under a “need” category, like a new computer when uours is on its last legs kinda deal.
Don’t let her take advantage of you, if she isn’t prepared to spend time with you
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No way!! MANIPULATION is what she’s pulling. Do not feel bad. Protect your peace. 
Too wrong don’t make it right don’t get what she wants but pay eagle for all of their gifts .
Nope. She’s using you. Do not get it. If you must get her a gift, get her something else.
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Nope, she’s 13, she knows what she’s doing. Get her something small
Nope. I know this sounds mean but you’re just going to be used.
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You could pretend or forget you ever saw the link. If you aren’t worth a visit in a year she isn’t worth a present you can’t afford.
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You cant be a family for all of the time you dont get to enjoy the good times 
Nope dont buy it send her lil butt some prayers more priceless
Buy her what you want not what she asked for.Or give her a gift card.
No my dear. You would just be endorsing her bad behaviour.
Do not buy it. You dont treat people like trash and then ask them to buy you something. Rediculous
Maybe get her something small to let her know you still care
I would tell her ‘I’d rather not’ sorry not sorry
No don’t give her shit!! Let her mama give her the whatever it is.
Uhm no. Get her something you can afford, not too expensive since she can’t bother to visit you🤷🏻♀️
if all she wants from you is expensive presents, and not you , she is showing you she really does not care for you, don’t let her use you. it won’t be easy, I know.
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Nope, she is playing you
Tell them you don’t celebrate Christmas anymore
No chance don’t you fall for it
Nope. Buy what you can afford.
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Get her something else. U don’t reward bad behavior
Her ass not getting nothing she dont even like u she just knows u gonna get it so she’ll like u
Instead of buying her a gift give her vouchers to spend time with you. A girls day out. Coffee date. Something that she can do with you.
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Tough love. Get a gift but it does not have to be expensive. They need to learn respect first.
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No. A child that disrespectful gets a $20 gift. And its over budget. If it were me… good luck hun.
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Don’t give her the expensive present,
I wouldn’t buy it,no dam way the way she treats you no way don’t do it ,respect is earned,she has none for you.
Don’t. Get. It. Entitled brat right there lol