My bfs behavior has been up and down all week. One day he’s treating me good. The next day he’s super mean to me. Yesterday he said nothing but negative things to me. The whole time I was at work all he did was send me crappy texts. He wouldn’t even tell me he loved me yesterday and didn’t say it today when I dropped him off at work. I got a “see you later”.
He literally threw a fit yesterday Bc I missed his call. I called him back within a few min but he turned it into “what were you doing that you couldn’t answer your phone” ?
Then went on to say some more mean things to me and then told me I wasn’t nobody to “trip about “ then ignores me…
I have so much stress going on and he’s just adding to it by treating me like crap.
I’ve tried talking to him. It doesn’t work. He either takes things out of context and just ignores me for a couple days. We live together so that ignoring crap irritates me.
I feel like this is a form of abuse. Am I crazy ? I just need some advice.
There is NO excuse for disrespect. Everyone has rough days or life stress. It’s not an excuse at all and if it’s made one you’ll spend your life with someone who can’t handle their emotions and lashes out.
Seriously cannot stress this enough, it’ll never be worth it. Ever.
He is literally telling you how he feels yet you’re confused?
Like he is being absolutely awful and you deserve better and im so sad for you, but he is telling you how he feels about you, which isn’t that he loves you
The “what were you doing that you couldn’t answer your phone” sounds like someone is guilty of doing something they aren’t supposed to be doing and it ain’t you, it’s him
Remember that song no scrubs? He’s a scrub hunny.
He’s riding in your car, gaslighting you, stone walling you, and belittling you. You are in control of what you’re willing to tolerate, and he is intolerable. Own your power and ditch this deadweight.
LEAVE. Read what you wrote and think about what advice you would give someone in this situation. This is toxic AF and it’s only going to get worse. Please for your safety and mental well being GO. Don’t walk… RUN.
It is mental abuse. He’s manipulating you and controlling you. After he accomplishes that it will only get worse. Do not allow abuse of any kind. You already know what you need to do. If you keep forgiving this abusive behavior he will only use it against you and get worse. Good luck. Take care of your mental and physical health first ALWAYS.
My guy and me. He’s the same way. He’s gaslighting you and manipulating you. I would try to get out of that unless he gets some real help. It’s not going to happen overnight… especially if he has narcissistic behavior
I do wish you the best. Tell him to get help. For you… for you both
Has your relationship always been like this? If so I’d just leave. Otherwise if it’s new behavior I’d sit and talk with him and ask what’s going on and how you can help. Sometimes when men are dealing with things they don’t feel like they’re being “manly” and keep it to themselves. Does he have mental health issues? Maybe consider medication/counseling.
If he’s accusing you of something and you’ve not ever given him solid reason enough to think that, he’s probably projecting. He’s being extremely abusive regardless and you should go ahead and leave him.
I’ve been there and put up with it too long. I would jump to answer my phone because I knew there would be hell to pay if I missed the call. I’d be accused of something for sure. This is manipulation and control. It will only get worse, I promise.
Oh I get this. Honestly. Re add to this. Tell us about the good days. Is this just this week. If it’s not again Honestly… leave. You Do not need to feel less than anything. I REAL man will only build you up. Ignore you. How childish.
I’ve been there and thought that was the norm. That’s what I deserve. Then I found my Amazing perfect man. You can /will feel loved every day.
It’s gaslighting and love bombing. Get out of the relationship now for your mental health. It always starts that way the goes physical. Maybe he cheated or is cheating. Sounds like he’s a narcissist .
Yeah it’s abuse and he is reflecting his BS on you I garentee that he’s up to no good and putting it at your door step don’t wait for proof you’ll just put your self though hell if you can’t kick him to the curb then leave, you’ll be saving your self a lot of Hart ACH, believe me I know
That’s a lot of red flags.
His behavior does not make you the crazy one.
This is abuse.
He needs help and you need to pull yourself up and out if there. It’ll be hard because you live together. But you need to leave.
And even if it wasn’t abuse, why stay with someone that says you’re not worth it?
Because you. Are. Worth. It.
If you don’t take anything else from the list comment section, take that to heart. You deserve better.
Leave his ass! My ex did this to me the entire almost 4 years I worked and he sat his fat ass at home. The minute he got a job he ran into an ex and cheated on me and got her pregnant. People don’t just act like that to act that way unless they have mental health issues.
Please please please do your heart a favor and just leave. You don’t deserve this. And he won’t change. He sounds narcissistic… this is mental, emotional and verbal abuse.
If it’s your house. Tell hem to shape up. Or ship out. If it’s his house. You can leave. Therar must be some place you can go.
You don’t need two put up with abuse
Mental abuse. He’s narcissistic. He’s the crazy one. Please get out if it. Fir your mental health and your future children. You really Do Not want kids with him. It would be a living nightmare. RUN NOW. He’s letting you know where he wants you…under his feet.
No one deserves to be treated like that. Pray about this. But do it far away from him. Don’t tell him where you are going. He will follow. He will possibly even stalk you. I hope not. I hope it’s not that bad. May you walk with God. May he keep you in his protective hands. God bless.
Something fishy… His guilty of something… Men act that way when they are upto something, well some men and just by asking you what were you doing that you couldn’t answer your phone… Cos what does he expect you to be doing… Please do yourself a favour and leave… Have a serious and stern talk with him 1st and let him know how you feel, I know you said you have spoken to him about it but this time, tell him if he doesn’t change or tell you what’s going on, your leaving him but make sure your stern enough for him to take you serious…
99.9 % of the time that I have witnessed this happens = he is cheating on you… maybe likes you, but won’t give up cheating …
Seriously -
and I’m sorry.
Well he’s got some issues. A good rule is not texting each other while at work, unless it’s important. No reason anyone needs to control you every second of the day.
Classic cheater syndrome said that to my ex “ you thought I was dumb but I could read you like a book, anytime you done something wrong you treated me like shit.” So glad I got away from his abuse
If A man really is into you wants you and loves you he would NOT treat you in this way . He is doing something wrong , get rid of his toxic butt he is just kicking it until someone else fall for his shit …
He’s cheating! Hes looking to pick fights so he doesn’t feel as bad when you stick up for yourself, and then he tries to make you look crazy. He then ignores you for a couple days because he’s with the chick he’s cheating with.
I was already married for 3 years to who I thought was my BEST friend when one day he started doing the exact same things to me out of NOWHERE literally. I went from his queen to nothing a nobody in his world… and it only got worse I stayed for nine more years because I thought he’d magically go back to how he was in the beginning and lemme tell ya it got REALLY bad. He hit me a total of 4 times the verbal abuse was daily and he became a drug addict and a drunk Finally I got help cps got involved. My story isn’t your’s BUT you have some serious red flags blazingly red please don’t ignore them… maybe he’s just in a funk but that type of treatment is never ok good luck to you.
Run do not walk away from him. He is abusive and what is verbal and emotional can easily turn into physical. If you need resources contact your local domestic violence hotline.
This is when you leave. Before you make this man your husband. NOW is when you leave. None of these things will get better. He is showing you his narcissistic side and it will only become more prevalent. I’d almost bet he’s cheating as well, just based on the behavior I’ve dealt with. If it was bad enough for you to come here looking for advice, you already know the answer. Here we are validating it, leave.
Yeap hes abusing you mentally, which is worse than physical. From a victim of that abuse from childhood to adulthood. Walk away as fast as you can. Until he seeks help for his… yes thats right his… depression. He will abuse you and will make you very ill. I myself has been an abuser, i have been a nasty vile person when i lose my cool. Im almost psychotic so im single and have been for a long time cause im either a victim or an abuser. So please walk away even if it until he finds help for himself, but dont put up with that as you dont and shouldnt have too. And yes im a mum, and no my daughter isnt in any danger. She knows when mums lost it, and walks away and leaves me til i have calmed down or she will ring my suppport person to talk to me. Im a victim and an abuser. But id never harm my child, that i know.
Run, and keep running! Save you from A lifetime of of abuse. Even if he is not cheating or is… only you set your limits/ boundaries and he has shown you exactly who he is. Run…run run
I wouldn’t say he’s cheating, but he is very emotionally immature and narcissistic. You need to leave him because this behavior won’t stop. He’s insecure and taking those insecurities out on you instead of owning up and trying to better himself. This is very emotionally and mentally abusive so please, take some time to think about it and leave him. There’s definitely someone better out there.
Lady, get that piece of shit outta your life. You should be using that wasted energy to love YOU!!! What is it gonna take for you to get a clue? Stop the madness
This is absolutely abuse and you don’t deserve it!
get a new one 
out
Hes looking to pick fights so he doesn’t feel as bad when you stick up for yourself, and then he tries to make you look crazy. He then ignores you for a couple days because he’s with the chick he’s cheating with.
Finally I got help cps got involved. My story isn’t your’s BUT you have some serious red flags blazingly red please don’t ignore them… maybe he’s just in a funk but that type of treatment is never ok good luck to you.