What he is doing is abuse. And they wont take ur baby from u cause u young. U need to get out before this gets worse
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Lol, first of all.
He has to prove you’re an unfit mother before they will give full custody to him. Just because he calls CPS or threatens to call CPS does not make you a bad mother. From what I see here you’re the soul provider for your family. He’s the toxic one. Don’t let him scare you because you’re better than he is. Its a manipulation technique for him because he’s the low life. He’s the one who’s lazy and doesn’t have his life together. I’d make his butt leave and find another place to stay, if he doesn’t like that then call the police. Force him to leave. Your child doesn’t need to be around someone who’s making the environment toxic. Also record everything. Helped me a lot going through the court custody process.
Just leave. As soon as you can. And keep everything documented. Try to also get him drinking and smoking up and that he drives without your permission and without a license.
Get rid of his ass… Anyone that does not work to support their child and family is worthless… Children always come first
You don’t need to leave him…he can still change to good man, no body is perfect… Arristurtle.
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Ok so let him call…
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Omg----- you are in deep trouble in this relationship,he is worthless,abusive,verbal for beginners,you need to kick him out,get someone to back you up,you need to call one of those places that help young responsible Moms,like you are! He is a lazy,looser! He is scared of losing you sweetie! You must have vehicle,you working,you need while at work to start contacting the right people to help you get your baby and get far away from him! As soon as you can! His words don’t hold shit,he is trying to bluff you,get out while you young,you can do better for your baby and you without him! Make sure he can not be trusted with the child because of his drinking and drugs.you need to get out of this situation,and theres help!
Get out , he’s saying everything that he’s saying to try to scare you into staying with him. Get you and that baby out. It’s not fair to either of you.
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He sounds exactly like my dead ass, lazy, manipulative, narcissistic PoS ex. He did and said all those things, abused me, refused to work. He wont have a shit show in taking your kid from you. My ex threatened the same shit an had no leg to stand on in court. Everyone was disgusted in the things he had done.
Yes honey you sure are kick him to the curb
LET HIM CALL THE COPS! He’ll be the one in trouble for not letting you leave.
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I didnt even need to read more than 2 or 3 sentences to answer your question. Yes you are absolutely in a toxic relationship. Get you and your baby out now. 2 years is long enough.
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Make him leave! He can’t take your baby especially since you’re not married! He had to have a DNA test first! They have to find you unfit which seems like you’re doing it all on your own anyways so no judge with a right mind would find you unfit!
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Let him call the cops he’ll be sadly disappointed when he’s the one that’s going to get in trouble get out while you can it happened to me way too many times get out before it’s too late
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In that Situation they would never give custody to him. You are supporting everyone while he is a pos. Get out honey. You will find someone a lot better that adds to your life instead of taking from it. Even if you have to leave everything behind. Do it.
Sounds like a real jerk, dump his ass
LEAVE!! He is in every form of the word a controlling pig! You are taking care of everything and he is not helping at all. He is making you spend all your money on Bill’s and baby. You could get court ordered child support and be further ahead since he is not contributing. There is no way he would get the baby and he knows it. That’s why he is threatening you. You pay the Bill’s, you have the jobs and you could pay for the apartment. You have the transportation. HE HAS NOTHING!!! Age does not matter. I have seen 19 year olds get custody over 40 year old dads in similar situation. He threatens you because he is scared you will leave.
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Kick him the hell out! You & your baby come first & from the outside looking in, you are a great mother. You deserve better. I wish you nothing but the best.
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Leave who cares who he calls 
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Why would you want to ask for advice on Facebook of all places it seems that you already know the answer to your own question I’m also been in the situation and it’s hard to walk away from things that you love even when they’re not healthy you probably know deep in your heart what you have to do and what’s best for you…
Definately leave, you being happy is important, and your child deserves a loving and happy environment, why waste time on someone so lazy!!
If he calls, and you’re innocent they’ll just close the case after a welfare check, the police and CPS being called doesn’t mean you’ll have your child taken there is a process they must follow, they’ll start by doing a welfare check, ensuring your child has a safe environment including food, electricity, water and some where to sleep, unless you’re not taking care of their needs they won’t take your child
Definitely toxic relationship girl u deserve better … run nd get out of there. X
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If you have to ask, then the answer is probably yes.
Get rid of him now .
You know in your heart what to do. Trust your 
Kick that POS to the curb!!! Those r all empty threats u will not lose ur child…CPS is used to dealing w manipulating jerks. Get out now before it gets worse…cuz it WILL
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Don’t make the same mistake twice
If you need to ask “am I in a toxic relationship?”
You’re in a toxic relationship.
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Do y’all have a women’s domestic violence shelter or anything of that sort… Out here we have cada
. they offer classes to abused women who lack self of steem as well as the knowledge as to where to turn. They have housing and help with food/diapers.
There’s a life outside of that hell hole… I know it seems like he’s right and you’ll lose your kid… I know it seems like being so young you have to stay BUTTTTTTTTTT you can work and get there… To the top I mean. Start off slow but you’ll get there… I was in low in come housing for 5 years after we split but I kept all my kids
He attacked areas I was weak …(FUCKING PUSSY!!) But I took classes. I got a job… I made my life work… I worked when I had daycare…(DSHS PAID FOR IT, I only had a copay)
I made new friends… Mostly at church… Which became a staple. And WHEN HE FINALLY grew a pair of balls to take me to court… I was ready to fight!!! And i fought like hell!!! He broke my spirit… He stole my joy… He cost me tons… But damn it I won… EVERY DAY AS I RAISE THESE BABIES IM WINNING. He no longer owns me and im not longer a slave to fear…
I was in a similar situación, & I can tell you I know is hard, very hard to ask for help, your doing it by asking this…so be proud of your self… you need Understand the damage all this is causing you & your baby. Remember what children see children will learn & imitate… yes it will break your heart because you are in love with the father of your child, but your in love of the perpective that you wanted him to be, wich he is not , has not been in a long time, & sadly probably never will, that’s where you have to learn to love your self more, eventhough it will hurt, it will not be easy… i know… believe me, & its easy for other people to tell you, why do you even ask, you should just go, but i know that when you are going thru those things sometimes you are in a freeze mode, sometimes the pain nums you & your stuck, but when ever your ready to give your baby & your self a live that you deserve, with real & genuinely love, put yourself in the hands of God… & he will be with you in ever step of the way…it will not be easy, but you will overcome this one day.
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Trust yourself reach of for help… Find the right people… Ask ask and ask… Don’t stop… If he finds out ASK MOREEEEE!!! he thinks he’s in control bc your scared of his alligations and damn it…it gets scary but fuck him…fuck them all!! You got this mama… Lil man needs you to be strong!!! So lace up them combat boots and get ready for war…he thinks he’s strong…YOURE STRONGER!!! GO GET EM’!
Run sweetheart run!!
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He doesn’t have a leg to stand on. He doesn’t want to loose you supporting him. So he’s gonna tell you anything to scare you. He has no grounds to take the baby. Leave him…he talking empty words just to scare you
He is toxic, mentally abusive. First words mean shit, he has to actually prove u to be unfit , neglectful anything to have your son taken. He is trying to scare u for sure. Mark everything he does or says dates etc in a notepad or calendar and leave someplace he would never find it. U sound like u have it together. Young or not. I was a teen in foster care, I was pregnant. I was scared and asked if the state would take my baby bc I was a foster child. They said absolutely not, u have to be completely neglectful, not care for your child. They said they cannot take my kid unless I was proved to be an unfit mother even as a young mother. If u are doing everything best u can and doing everything right don’t worry yourself. If u separate go file for immediate custody bc even tho u aren’t married and he tries to take baby and keep from u there is nothing they can do bc even tho u are both parents u have to file custody Protect yourself and baby. He sounds like a shitty guy. Keep your head up. Don’t let him drag u down, u sound like a great mom and working hard to give your baby an amazing life
He’s a looser girl!
I would start recording him and keep track of his threats and and keep a record of his drinking and drug use…
You sound like you know what you want and he is not going nowhere!
If I was you I would leave him to fend for himself…
Run as far as you can and make him take care of himself
He sounds like a dumbass
L.E.A.V.E. And lol no. CPS will not take ur kid from u because ur younger. Hes trying to use scare tactics on you and manipulate you
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Sounds like a 13 year old man child.
Yes you are. Get in contact with the Haven if you are finding it hard to leave or call the sheriff’s dept & they will help you from there. Do it before he harms you or your child.
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I going to give it to you straight up, kick his blank out ASAP! You are to beautiful to be with a zero. There is nothing for him to change. He is a free loader and no good. You are doing it all get him out of your life. You will be happy 
. Please for you and your child to prosper 
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Very toxic … leave and don’t make the same mistake twice
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Book it on him. Call the cops. Have them supervise you leaving and stay with a family member until youve got it for your own place. File child support and a restraining order. Hes abusing you so you probably stand a good chance of getting one
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Sounds like a complete loser and a user ! It should be the other way around his ass should be out working and helping providing it’s a two person team. Kick his ass out and call the cops if he refuses to leave .
It’s a toxic relationship and he’s being an absolute narcissist. He will not get custody taken from you at all. Document everything. If you can record his mental abuse you may be able to use that to your advantage. If you want to kick him out properly, you’ll need to go to the courthouse and get the proper documents to do so because they need warnings and what not, but if he’s stupid like he sounds like I would find an opportunity to get his stuff out of the house. If you get any documentation of his mental abuse you may be able to get a restraining order. I got one on my ex husband, but it was mandatory because he punched me. Good luck and get out of that relationship by all means.
If you plan on leaving then leave. If your story is as true as you say then there shouldn’t be a second thought. You’re already achieving what 2 people struggle to do on your own and your supporting him. If you’re being open about what he is like, take any bit of proof with you, go to a lawyer, get him served for custody papers. As much as I personally hate to say it, most states favor the mother, even most of the more progressive “father states” so you losing custody of your child shouldn’t be a problem at all. Age is irrelevant. If he is theatening or violent (even verbally or through text) that can very easily be enough to get a restraining order. While it might not actually be necessary, it can give you the safety and comfort of getting everything together on your end without interference (or immediately he will be arrested on violating a court order + what ever new charge he might get hit with) … Above all else. Ignore your relationships. Focus on your child. That will be the greatest thing for you to do. You find your own happiness and show that to your little one, from there they learn from you. If you meet other people as you continue to mature and grow you’ll find ones that fit perfectly with you. You’ll meet plently that don’t. But focusing on your child will allow you to very easily determine which kind of person they are over time.
Take it from me. You need to leave now or you will be sitting around in 5 years still miserable and wonder where the time went. He sounds like he could become physically abusive to you or your children. Please leave now.
Go an take the baby far away
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Yes its toxic. Hes a dumbass and you deserve better. My ex played that same game of “I’d get the kids” but I divorced him, got full custody and later his rights were completely take so… dont believe that piece of shit
Toxic relationship is a understatement, you are in danger and don’t even realize it. Leave him you are putting both yourself and your child in danger arounf this guy.
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Men like that never change run away fast as you can if he has no job I don’t think the courts would give him custody
Leave the free-loading idiot. Since you are already paying ALL the bills you can handle living on your own. Although, if I were you, I’d take my child to a women’s shelter until he gets the message that you want out.
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Oh dear sounds like a control thing with him …next he will want to pimp you out . Yes it’s a toxic relationship you are in and if he takes your car again for heaven sake tell the police… people’s lives are in danger because of the likes of him he could kill a child maybe yours . Walk away he doesn’t love or respect you at all …do yourself a favour move to an area that he can’t get to be safe …don t tell him you are leaving just pack when he isn’t around and go.
Is that a real question. Sit back and read your post. What would your answer be if a friend asked you the question you are asking strangers
COME ON. GROW UP
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He is using you. Your age has nothing to do with who is best to care for your child. And him being in poverty (not having a job or car) doesnt make him less likely to have access to his child.
Time to make decision if your ok with all this (because it will slowly get worse) or if you want something better for your child n yourself.
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Hes a narcissist and you need to leave him. PERIOD. Dont stick around for him to start beating you too. You think it’s bad now, you have no idea. You have a baby to protect and you dont need your child growing up in that kind of environment. If you have any family or friends who will help you out until you can get you and your child set up in your own place, do it. Then go NO CONTACT with him. Father of your child or not, hes already an abusive selfish piece of shit and I highly doubt he is any kind of a father. You and your baby are so much better off without him. Hes dead weight, lose him ASAP!
A toxic relationship for sure!!! You are the mature one here!!! He needs to grow up and be a responsible person and a Daddy. Get out the first chance you get!!!
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Leave. You can slip out when he leaves. Have someone on standby to pick you up or use ypur car if he doesn’t take it. You or your child do not need this. Get an order of protection and if you can leave while he is out the cops can supervise you leaving. Just make sure you kid is at your families house before hand. File for custody. Do what you have to do for you and you child.
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Get out now before it gets worse
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Why are you even asking if it’s toxic of course it is and you don’t need validation from anybody else. Take your baby and leave even if you have to walk
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I’ve gone through the same thing, I’m so sorry 
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Think you already know the answer to your question!
Um yes! You are but you already knew that!! You’re the only that can pick up and leave so get your poop in a group and leave
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Yes far far away please
If you’ve done all that he can’t take your baby pack up and go and you can take care of yourself
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OMG - He’ s just a big baby/loser/user - cut him off (MAYBE not literally) and kick him to the curb!!
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Do not leave. THROW HIM OUT.
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Wow. Idk about toxic…it seems you’ve let it go on too long. You can absolutely leave, but you may have to share rights if he fights it. If he tries to call CPS all it will do is falsely accuse you and you will win. In most states as long as child is in no physical danger and in a safe home while w other parent both are equally righted to the child involved.
Leave him and never look back.
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Girl get away baby and you deserves better no man is worth the crying and hoplessness in wondering when is it going to get bettet he needs to better himself before anything gets better hope you make the rught decsion for your baby good luck…
Kick his sorry ass to the curb. He doesn’t give a shit about you your baby. Let that dead weight go
He’s manipulating you!! As long as your baby is on a safe, clean place and is healthy…let him call police and cps. It’s time to leave… For both your sakes! Good luck momma!!
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Kick him out. The worst he can do is take the baby and then you have to go for custody but blokes like this wouldn’t be able to handle a child for a hour or so. He’s all bluff I would call him on it
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That is extremely toxic. Leave. If he does call the police and cps, just cooperate. There’s no justifiable case against you. And no, the courts won’t give him custody. He’s not working and you are. You will basically automatically get custody because of that. And if he’s driving your car, he can get in major trouble with the law as he’s driving without a license and obviously not on your insurance. You can call the police on him.
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You are more likely to have CPS involved staying in a toxic relationship with your child than If you left. If you stay you’re putting your child at risk as well as yourself which will be deemed as putting yourself before your child. If you leave tell him to get them involved if you’ve nothing to hide all they will do is offer you support being a young single mum xxxxx
Who’s name is on the lease? If his name is not on it you can call the police. Tell them you want him to leave but he wont… if it’s in both your names then you need to save up money to get you and your child out. Find a studio apartment for you and your baby… and move stuff out little by little so he doesnt notice OR wait til he’s out of the house or asleep to leave him. Dont tell him where you went. Keep working and providing for your child. If he takes you to court tell the judge “For the safety of my child, I had to leave” you’ll get custody cuz you have a home for your child and you’re working. If he’s not working he cant provide for his kid. The judge will see how irresponsible he is
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He is controlling you which is a form of domestic violence if you dont feel safe get a friend to call the police without him knowing
If you are afraid of what he will do after you leave, or after he goes to jail…there are safe houses everywhere and you will be protected. I was in a similar situation with children. I just finally realized that my children are worth more than putting up with a man who wants to be childish and controlling. Talk to someone who can get you the help you need. Don’t be afraid of him. You are stronger than you know. Just go.
He appears to be a narcissist and a lazy son of a bitch with no back bone. The first thing you do is take your baby and get the hell out of there as fast as you can. A restraining order with a police escort always work. He is controlling and threatening you and that is what narcs do. This is a disaster ready to happen. Look after yourself and the baby and start running. Wish you all the best.
Restraining order asap
First Things first, Get The Child Away from the Scene, The fact you let this Carry on is beyond me. But you and your child deserve better . And you should immediately Get both of you away from the Situation. It’s Lost Situation unless you start taking Steps. He has No Excuse for to not being able to provide and help.
I’m a Father myself a STAY AT HOME father may I add, And I’ve been like that for a Year, my Son is 1 Years old, and There’s not a day I don’t give him what he needs, I buy Him What ever he needs, I take care of him almost most of the time. I may not have a " Job" At the time being, But I definitely do my Absolute Best To Support my Son and Help out his mom,
Take it from me, You have him beat in court if what your saying about his Family and him are True
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Get rid of him before things getting out of hand and he hurts you or the baby…he doesn’t allow you to go anywhere alone?! That’s a mild form of abusing…get out of there…first go to a solicitor or lawyer to see what are your options regarding the baby but get out of there! Its not a healthy environment for the baby or even for you!
Leave him. He is clearly a child
SERIOUSLY & you need confirmation.
Time to wakeup and leave with your baby and never go back, this is bad for u and the baby!
This is a joke right?
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kick him out. you pay rent, you pay bills, you pay for baby’s needs, you don’t need him around your baby. tell the landlord that you want him off the lease cause your kicking him out for abusing you. get a restraining order against him if he threatened to take your baby. call the cops if he shows up banging on your door. show them the restraining order and they’ll take him in. Change the locks to, just in case he made a spare without you knowing.
Not to be mean he is using you and has no reason to change. He has beat you down to keep you. You are amazing and can do alot better. Your baby deserves you to give both of you a better life.
Sometimes I think some of these posts are made by trolls. This can’t be a serious question.
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Toxic relationship and if he didnt change when becoming a father he most definately will not change sometime soon.
GIRL, he wont let you leave? YOU call the police. He doesnt have a damn thing on you, why are you worried? He sounds like a real piece of shit.
Yes, this is an abusive relationship! Resources are available & you do not have to live like that! You’re better off on your own, honey, and you will find someone who treats you better just be strong & never lose hope
Your boyfriend sounds like a nasty, self centred controlling freak. Get rid… sounds like you don’t need her… A man that puts himself first before his own child isn’t worth the fresh air he breathes in.
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Get away from him. Take your baby & go
Leave. And you would be the one to get your son. He doesn’t have the means to take care of him and you do.
How stupid are you???
Call 911 leave everything
Been there.nothi g will change unless you change it.dont let his threats scare you thats all they are is threats.i am a survivor of domestic abuse.2 young kids he used the exact same tactic.33years ago now hes dead from alcohol and i never heard from him after i finally left.
You are the responsible adult in the relationship…HE IS NOT. He ABSOLUTELY will NOT get the baby for ANY REASON. LET HIM GO! Beleive me hes not good for your mental being! Its gonna sting a bit at first but trust and beleive you will be better off. Dont use the excuse I LOVE HIM…its just weakenkng you! You will be much stronger and happier without that strrssw
Stress in your life. He is still the daddy but he doesnt gave to live with you sucking you dry!
Run lady run you are living with a lazy psycho.
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I didn’t even have to read any further than he spent money on alcohol and weed,when your baby needed diapers and formula. Get rid of him! He needs to grow up! Children always come first,and he should in some way be contributing to your family!!
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