If you have to ask, that is the #1 indicator that most likely it is.
Women’s shelter. They deal with this all the time. Call your local one.
Kick him to the curb 
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sounds like you hooked up with a loser, dump his ass and get an eduction for a good job , keep your legs closed …
When he drives your car call the cops! Pack your stuff and the baby’s stuff and go to a family members house.
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He’s a worthless deadbeat dad. Leave and find someone who cares not just using you.
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Get the hell out, now!
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Lol you answered your own question mate. Leave and don’t look back
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Dear Heart,
You suffer with low self-esteem, when you feel better about your self you can do better. Pray ask GOD for deliverance, if your BOYFRIEND needs something to use buy more toilet paper. You appears to be alone any way, break free before baby #2 comes alone, secure a person to help you with your child and take care of the two of you.
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If u have another place to stay go … Let him call the cops or cps cuz if u have a roof over baby’s head and u said u work 2 jobs then u financially got it together…CSP or the cops won’t do anything
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This one is very simple honey if you have to ask that question you already know the answer what do you really want for the rest of your life because you’re looking at it right in the face you’re not going to change him I realize you’re young and you want to be happy please but the one thing you’re missing is a good man who’s willing to work for that with you yes he’s with you but he’s not working with you
Leave him ASAP that’s not love and you deserve so much better your doing everything on your own anyway so you can do it without him do it for you and your baby he can’t take the baby from you he has no job no license won’t pass a drug test please move on from this toxic relationship you have your whole life ahead of you and you don’t need him dragging you down your stronger than you think you got this!!!
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Girl you literally do not need this man. Just leave.
Yes you are in a toxic relationship. Leave him and take your son. Go through the court for his parenting time. It is about who is stable and able to care for the child. Don’t let him scare you into staying with him. If he’s abusive verbally or physically to you, he will end up getting supervised visitation. Keep all communication. I was in your exact situation and I left with my daughter. If he doesn’t leave on his own accord, most likely he won’t. Because he’s leeching off of you. You may have to break your lease with your apartment and set up payment arrangements with them and meanwhile move back home if you can or get a one bedroom apartment just for you and your son.
Yes, he’s abusing you and he’d be a dumbass to call CPS on you because if he lives with you and he claims you are abusive or negligent they’re going to want to know WHY he allowed this to go on? Failure to protect is also reason enough to remove a child. With that being said make him aware of that and then say you are taking your child and leaving and if he has any accusations he’d better be ready for a few of his own. Spoiler alert girl he’s a user and those are empty threats once you are gone he’s just going to move on to the next woman who he will impregnate and berate and use. It only gets worse. It’s likely he’s already got one or two on the back burner.
Make a plan then leave. Make sure you put as much money as you can away
Yes you are… Apparently your boyfriend has issues within himself… When the timing is right and your mind is made up you will have to move and move very far away from him and his nonsense…You will have to move to another State… Relationships is about loving, caring, communication, trustworthy, it’s not about controlling, and threats…When you know better you do better…
Women’s shelter get a protective order. Trust me this is how my 5 years of hell started it only gets worst. Run now for you and your baby no judge will give a abusive alcoholic pot head with out a job a child. And let him call cps because when they show up and you tell them what he is doing they might make you choose him or your baby. Trust me they can do that.also next time he takes off with your car pack you and baby up really quick report car stolen and leave while he is gone.
Yes this is an abusive relationship. He is unsafe and his actions sound like they could be criminal. His actions are not only irresponsible and selfish, they are endangering to you and your baby. Please consider calling your local DV shelter for practical advice on your immediate options.
I’m scrolling through and reading these comments yes it’s true if you have to ask them you know the answer already. What’s best for you and your little one is what your need is. It just has to be done. Your asking because your scared and you need to hear encouragement. Here it is from all these posts and it’s in your heart. You are a mommy now your child is your motivation. You know what you need to do to protect your child. Praying for you, we know you by a post…GOD KNOWS YOU BY NAME. Be safe 
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LEAVE. That is not healthy for you or your baby. Have been there and it took forever to leave but when I did…it was the best decision I made. Do it for your mental health, safety and sanity but most important, for your baby. You are doing well for yourself and your child. You are strong. YOU GOT THIS!
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I wouldnt normally say just leave but this is awful and only going to get worse honey… Do you really want your little one to think this is a healthy way to have love? That is not love! That’s controlling and most of the time it gets worse from there trust me honey. Get out while you can… And btw cps would side with the parent with financial stability… Cops May have your side too… Hope it gets better for you… True love is out there:kissing_heart:
keep your chin up girl
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Most cities have a “care home” where mothers and their children can get away from a bad situation. They will also have a counselor to help with a plan of what to do next. I hope your town has one.
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Never be afraid, that gives him power. I worked with CPS for 15 years and adopted 6 of there children. Not once did I ever hear that they took a baby from the mother because she works and goes to school. Young mothers are all over nowadays and no one is taking there children. Go to the courthouse and file a restraining order, ask a peace officer to be there when it’s served at the same moment the officer will ask him to gather his things and leave. Don’t wait someone might get hurt and you can’t fix that:pensive: good luck and god is always with you
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I think deep down you know you’re in a toxic/abusive relationship. Find someone you can trust to help you pack and leave! This mental, verbal and emotional abuse usually brings physical abuse as well. This is not love and your and your baby need to be somewhere safer.
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Run! If you don’t have family that can help, go to a shelter. They will help get you on your feet. You and your baby don’t need his drama. The courts or CPS wouldn’t just give him your child. Don’t let him scare you. He’s a big talking little boy. You’re already proving to be more mature by recognizing that there are problems. Do NOT stay with him. Yes, it is ABSOLUTELY a toxic relationship. It will only get worse.
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When you want something to work so badly, when you already have a child with the guy and you feel the need to stay together and try to give your child the father and family life he or she deserves, when you’ve seen this same behavior modeled in your own family, when you’ve grown up having one or both parents never give you any positive attention, when all your life you were made to feel like a burden…I could go on and on. Yes, the answer is obvious to me at this point in my life, but I can fully understand why this woman is confused. She needs extensive therapy and help.
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I’m very sorry. Yes this is a very toxic relationship. You and your little one need to leave or get help to get him out. Your paying and taking care of everything. He needs to go. This is an abusive situation. Please leave it. There are places than can help if you don’t have family.
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Does he try to keep you from your friends and family? Very often, toxic people and abusers will do just that so the victim is forced to stay because they have nowhere else to go… And courts are very pro-mother’s rights in most states, esp if your family demonstrates a willingness to help out…so don’t worry on that count…they’d never leave a kid with an unemployed useless lump of a boyfriend that you have…esp if he’s a drug or alcohol addict…
You need to get out NOW! And don’t worry about making it on your own. You are a hard worker and will be just fine. The court won’t take children away from the mother unless she’s unfit. You need to file a motion for child support and supervised visitation only for him, along with drug and alcohol testing.
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You deserve better. The courts would give you the child as you have the income,home, vehicle, and are stable. He is a mooch
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You would win rights to your son solely based on the fact he is jobless and you have two. He’s threatening to scare you so you don’t leave but he has no rights. You’d win in a heartbeat especially if he is buying weed and alcohol over diapers and formula. That’s neglect on his end.
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Yes for your sake and your child’s get as far away as you can and don’t look back. Does he really try think the Court’s award custody to someone who doesn’t even have a job to support a child I don’t think so. You have nothing to worry about.
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If you haven’t read what you’ve written then you should now. READ IT!!! If you were reading this from someone else what would you answer? You’d say “are you crazy?, run for your life!” Now next time you are at work and the baby is at daycare you call a domestic abuse hotline for some help. You don’t need anything, just you and your child. Get out before you or that child dies
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Get family or friends to come and help you move out NOW! Take whatever you can but it’s most important to get out and to be somewhere safe. He would likely not get your child in a custody agreement(if he can even do that with no money) you working and taking care of your child means you are the one that should have custody. But you have to have money to go to court and it sounds like he wouldn’t have access to that kind of money. If you have to call the police. They will come and keep the peace or get your bf out so that you can move out without problems. Don’t risk your safety. The police would rather stand there while you move out than be called to a highly emotional situation. He will not change and your safety for your child’s sake is most important. I’m sorry you are in this place and I hope that you are able to get out and be safe so you can better take care of your child.
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Toxic! He’s insecure. He knows if you leave he won’t have anybody to financially support him so he makes you feel like you’re a failure when surely you’re not. How can he go to court and ask for custody if he does not even have a drivers license or a job and that can be proven. He is mentally abusing you. Please leave or better yet, kick him out and get a restraining order. You don’t need a drug user around your baby.
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Get out. PERIOD. Don’t listen to his lies or let him intimidate you. He’ll try that for as long as he can make you fall for it. Life is too short to live miserably… this won’t change. Too much history in this life style. Have the police with you if you’re afraid.
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You need to get a back up plan asap and get away from him. Age is not a huge determination factor for CPS. This is a controlled and manipulated relationship. Very toxic and you need to walk away
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You know the answer to that question. Next time he takes the car without permission, report it stolen and then get a trespass on him while he’s in jail. Tell police everything, that way they will check for drugs during the arrest. You have options for getting him out of your life. Also, offer him a way to avoid child support by telling him to sign over all rights to the baby. I did that with my loser ex husband and he jumped on it. Then, once you get free from him, DON’T GO BACK.
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Run run run run. Call the cops or family and pack your stuff and go. Or call the cops and have him removed since you pay for everything, get a protection order and file for child support. That will make his ass get a job. Tell him to find someone else to mooch off of. You will be better off just having one “baby” to take care of
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Girl GET OUT NOW!!! And no that’s not true that the court would take your baby just because of your age! Sounds like you have your stuff together and he doesn’t! Just the fact that you have a job and he doesn’t shows the court you can take care of the baby and he can’t! Leave that guy because he’s toxic and get custody papers drawn up asap!
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When I left my baby dad it was hard, he got soooo mad over it he destroyed our apartment … but I was tired of the mental, verbal, emotional and physical abuse. I was tired of the same things u just mentioned. N he crossed the line one time when he decided to get blacked out drunk , put his hands on me while I was holding our 6 month old baby at the time… he blamed me for the bruises that were left on my arms… he is now 6 years old, I’m married now to an amazing man (2 plus years) who my son calls “dad”, n my son doesn’t even remember his biological faTher but we are happy as can be. And the struggle was unreal ! I went from being homeless with a baby, worked my ass off to provide for my son and ended up where I’m at today. The bad things do go away, u just have to take the first step. For urself and the baby.
It’ll all work out in the end.
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Kick him to the curb, he is just using you to bv have a place to stay. Your choice but your baby shouldn’t be around him period. Prayers🙏🏻
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No, age has no determination on placement for a child. Sounds like a classic case of mental and verbal abuse. Go on girl, he needs y, u dont need him, and u cant “will” or “want” them to change, it doesnt work. He thinks hes fine so therefore hes not gonna change.
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Girl you gotta find someone to help you leave that person…I know I was in a toxic relationship . I know it may not be easy but it will be worth it in the end…prayers for you and your precious son.
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Girl leave. Been there, lived that, wasted almost 20 years of my life. Kick him out. You’ll be so much better off. Good luck
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Im just curious… If he was like this before you had a baby, why would you choose to have a baby with someone like this and stay in this sort of relationship?? Thats insane! Looking past all the “red flags” just to see the good in someone will always cost you.
Praying that you will do the right thing for yourself but most importantly for your child.
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Take pictures, any receipts for alcohol and write daily journals to get proof, hide journal book. If you are letting him watch the baby when you know he isn’t taking proper car. of him, it won’t look like you are making good choices. He’s no father when he doesn’t spend any money to help with the baby and uses it for weed and alcohol. I’m praying for you to find a safe place for you and the baby.Toxic yes!
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I went through a somewhat similar situation many years ago I got out I seen what it was doing to my kids
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I went through a similar situation. Leave you’ll see how much better you and your baby are.
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If you have to read it to confirm it in your own mind then YES!! He is going to threaten you with everything he can because he doesn’t want to lose his meal ticket… can you go back to your family?? You need to get out of there quickly!!
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You have to ask if it’s toxic? Really?
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Get your baby and leave today. DSS will not take your child for leaving that is a lie he is telling you so you will stay. You are his free ride. He DOESN’T LOVE YOU OR THAT CHILD!!! If he did he would get his self together and provide for you. Go Now!!! What are you waiting for Get!!!
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Leave he’s only gonna get worse, and he’s smoking crack if he thinks the court is gonna give him the baby. Sounds very toxic and maybe dangerous for you and your baby. GET OUT WHILE YOU STILL CAN:face_with_symbols_over_mouth:
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It seems like you could make it on your own. This is very toxic and probably wont ever change.
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If you have to ask that question to a group on Facebook you already know the answer. Get out now before it gets worse and he kills you or your son. Just get out please.
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Kick him to the curb he is on losing battle he knows it he’s just trying to convince you that you will lose he’s lying because he knows he’s got everything to loose I wouldn’t put up with him your paying the bills he don’t have a leg to stand on he ain’t no man sorry but true
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I was in a relationship like that ended up with a broken nose several concussions and stabbed get out NOW before its too late they just get worse as time goes on
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This is an abusive relationship. I went through this before and it wasnt anything great that came out of it.
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I would call the county yourself and tell them the situation and they will try to help you get somewhere for you and your little one I know that for a fact because if hes like that is not worth being with add get out of there and take your little 1 with you
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My question. Why are you with him? Not good for you or the baby. Leave
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Re read what you wrote. Would you want your friend sister or if you had a daughter or anyone you cared about to be in this type of a relationship. You need to move on. He is not going to get any better and you would have to be really doing many many terrible things for the courts to take you away. You will not lose that baby Please leave you deserve so
Much more. Good luck. Get a good plan in place and go
Leave! And that is not true! He is a bum and tge court will never give him your son. You’re the one taking care of him!
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You can do bad ALL by yourself. And there isn’t that much love in the world to stay in a controlling and emotionally abusive relationship. Get away now before it gets physical.
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He is just trying to scare you. My ex did the same thing when I told him I was leaving. It is manipulative and very toxic!! Leave!!
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RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN. Very toxic relationship. You and your baby are in a very bad environment.
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You already answered your own question. If you have to ask then yes it is, a toxic relationship and he’s abusive
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Is this even a question? You should be out of there.
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I’m sorry but do you really need to ask? You know the answer - boot him out now for the sake of your child…
Get out he’s using you, or tell him to get out since you pay for everything! And call the cops !
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Where are your parents in all of this? Have you asked for their help? If you’re having to ask these questions, then you already know the answer hun. Get help and get out.
Get out now! You have everything going for you and your child, and he has nothing. You have the power, and he knows it. He is trying to scare you into staying, but don’t. Get help, and I’m sure you can find it. You and your child’s safety are number 1, so put that first, above all. I will be thinking of you and praying for you and your child. Be safe, and take care!
I just left this kind of relationship idk where you live but we have a center that we can go to that will help get you out with your kid. And they won’t take your child from you to give to him you have proof that your paying the bills that your providing everything for him and your the one supporting him the court will not give him to your boyfriend with no job and no way to pay for him or support him
That’s toxic and since you pay for everything put his ass out. Call CPS all he wants you are stable and trying to make it on your own. They will not take your baby away from you unless he is being harmed by you which he is not.
Get a restraining order for yourself and your son. Then call the police to escort you put of the house. Hire a moving service to remove your personal belongs and store them in a safe place until you are safe yourself.
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You and your baby better run as fast and as dark as you can. My sweet sister tried to get away from her abuser but she waited too late. The outcome was a double homicide 
Is this a real post? Would love to hear the out come.
Leave! Text book toxicity right there. Get out before he’s got you totally brainwashed and controlled cause that’s where this is heading.
. Ask yourself would you want your daughter being treated like that or your son treating someone like that. Your not the only one watching regardless of the kids age. Even babies know tension. Bad environment for your and your child. He’s a bum.
Run far, run fast. He’s full of balony, no one’s going to take your child, & you’ll be fine. Good luck & Godspeed.
Girl, how many more red flags do you need? Leave the loser before you get pregnant again. He is not good dad or husband material!!
You really had to ask this question?
This is toxic. Not just that, it’s abusive. I’m about to get to the harsh reality here. Are you daft? This is how you end up dead. It eventually will turn into physical abuse and then you and your child will be in danger.
Leave.
You’re smarter than this.
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Get out of that relationship!! As gsoon as he gors whete ever. Get the baby pack your belongings if he’s got uour var csll a friend but get out. I know what your going through believe me nect he’ll be beating on you. Please for your sake and the baby.
He is cheating on you. And you know what you need to do. You’re just scared. Leave him. This is a very toxic relationship. If you have to wait till he’s out with his friends to go then start getting your things ready and go. Sometimes it’s best to leave safely, like if he’s out with friends. He won’t get custody because you have proof he’s not working etc. You can do this especially to keep your child safe.
Call the cops get him out of your house tell them is threatening you then go slap a restraining order on him no judge is going to take the baby away from you you are the one who works and holds down the fort
He needs to go. Talk to a lawer. You need to get out of there before he hurts you/and or the baby. Go to a women’s shelder. They will be able to help you too and they know the laws. You can ask the police or church where there is one. Just get out of there!!
Girl , did you read what you posted? Take the baby & get the hell out!! But get pict if the drugs & him using, get copies/pictures of the bills & if your paying by check get pict. Make sure checks are in your name alone, pict of the apartment being messy, you can explain you work 2 jobs & school, show a pay stub from each job, something to show your in school, just in case this lazy schmuck does try to go to court, he doesn’t have a leg to stand on! Next time find someone who isn’t looking for a free ride & be a good father figure for your baby !!
U need to leave,he is manipulating u,he is not gonna do shit,u have 2 jobs and going to school,he don’t work,he gets high and drunk,he can’t hold u there and if he calls the police they will say the same thing,get out!!!
You need to leave, things will not change bit only get worse. Please take your child and get away.
You need to go now. Make a game plan though. Reach out to family or a friend and make your escape. He’s going to get physically abusive next, if he’s not already. Get away now
Been there left that. Look on you tube. Find red flags of a narcisisst videos. Watch them. Go to thrive after abuse on Facebook and join. That will answer your question.
You have to ask? Both you and baby need to leave. That is definitely abusive.
Very toxic and unhealthy. You should use whatever help/resources you have and get out.
Run with your little one. Get away from him before he hurts you and the baby
He’s gaslighting you, and manipulating you. So yes, you’re in a toxic relationship. He’s using fear and reducing your value so he can control you. That’s what narcissistic people do. They continue to exhibit and defend their poor behavior and immediately turn it around on to you when you confront them on it and ask them to be better human beings. This is not something that can be worked through. it would take him wanting to be a decent version of himself and he clearly does not want to do that because he feels he has more to gain by continuing along the path he does. You definitely are better off walking away.
Ask the Holy spirit! Your child should be numero uno it’s not about you anymore.
How stupid can you be to be with someone like that?? You should of left him a long time ago cuz obviously you can do it with out him and the bby does not to deserve to be surrounded by that shit or with a father like that that is not the example you want him to have when he grows up and I say it cuz of experience but that’s just me …
Get out now. He will always do this and try to keep you down. If you work someone has to watch baby. Get baby and be gone ASAP!