Get out ! Before your baby is old enough to realize things and won’t remember what a dead beat his father is and before yalls life are in danger but you got to want change don’t know you but you deserve better than being treated this way
Well if you want to know the truth here’s the truth. But don’t ask the question and continue what you are doing. You need to leave and take your child with you. He can’t take it away. If you live in Florida and need a good attorney I can tell you who to call. He’s trying to mentally keep you there. That’s abuse. So wake up. Get far far away and get on with your life with your child. Good luck.
How old is he? How old are you? He is manipulating you. Sounds like you have everything else going for you. He hit the jackpot, you will lose everything, if you stay with him. When you are at one of your jobs or school, find a lawyer. You need a way out. Good luck!
Bail, bail, bail. Get out of this relationship. It is going.to consume your personality, your independence, your confidence and self respect. Get out!
Yes it’s a toxic relationship, and an abusive relationship as well. Call the police and ask them for help with leaving.
I think you sheath m already know the answer to this, you just need validation, someone to tell you it’s ok to leave. What fo you think would happen if the police show up or CPS? Do you think they would leave your baby with someone irresponsible and high? He’s manipulating your mind. You are already taking care of everything. What does he bring to your life that you can’t kive without? Good luck.
Don’t give him the satisfaction of working your butt off to support him,a man would work together, Have a plan,housing,someone to help watch the baby and get out,run like hell,and sounds like you might need a restraining order to keep him from hurting you,and he will try to come back,because he had it so easy,Don’t let him.He will use you.It will be hard,but worth it.God bless you and baby.
Get away now! I was in a situation but I was married get out n he won’t get the child move far away so he can’t find you.
Leave that no good sob. You need to take care of you and your child. And if he’s checking your phone to see if your cheating. Then he’s the guilty one. Kick his ass to the curb.
Do you really want anyone else’s opinion on what to do about the mess you are in? Do not tell him you are leaving. Choose a time when he is away to get your baby and then run to the nearest shelter, BEFORE you get pregnant again.
You and your son deserves better…get out in that toxic relationship…CPS will not take away your son from you.
Planning is Everything !! You’ll have to leave cause he’s not going to go !! Just plan it out …where to stay that’s safe!!money - hide it cut off utilities on the day of .get your deposits if you can … get a new phone number… stash special things that he doesn’t notice with a friend that won’t tell When you go GO and don’t go back cause it will be worse if you do !! Also change up your routes be aware of your surroundings At All Times !!!
Go to court get temp custody then leave so he cant take him as long as you do it legally
Leave!! Please leave! It sounds like its only a matter of time before his behavior escalates in to physical abuse. Please, for you and your baby, get away from him
Take your baby and run!!! Find a safe place. But get out. Toxic doesn’t even come close to what he is doing. Run.
Do not put up with that shit, you deserve so mush better!!! Just pack what you need and leave WITH your son when he is sleeping and turn all locations off and go some where safe
Get out! He will never change and it will get worse. Find a women’s organization like House of Ruth where you can go and be safe. Don’t worry about losing your child or taking the furniture. They will protect your whereabouts and help you start over . Good luck. God bless.
Time to move on without him. He can’t take your child, what a crock. Get out while the gettin’s good.
You should have leave him long time ago. He just wanted to using you cuz he have nothing but very lazy guy. Why be hesitated all the time. Counselor can help you in anyway.
Honey, RUN don’t walk!!! Get out now!!! He can’t stop you as far as CPS he has nothing on you and you have plenty on him!!! Let him call them on you, it will backfire!!! RUN!!!
Do you REALLY have to ask? U already know the answer!
Leave him! No court would give him custody. Fight for sole legal sole physical.
Leave. Leave now. Don’t tell him. Just leave. Do not be afraid God is with you. His threats will be empty words. Call a crisis center if you need help getting out. Do Not put your child through this.
Kick that loser to the curb and don’t look back.
He doesn’t care a out his baby or you.
He can’t take your baby from you because you are to young.
There would be an investigation by social services to see who is best to parent the baby. Good luck God bless you. Be safe.
You wont lose your baby to him if hes doing all those things but you will lose your baby if you stay with him.You are in an abusive relationship.Call the domestic abuse hotline and they will put you in touch with someone in your area that will help you leave and give you a place for you and your baby to leave,help you get full custody of your baby and help get you a job and out on your home.They will hide you from him and keep you safe and get you an order of protection from him.
Leave him. 2 eat cheaper than 3 and he contributes nothing.
Leave now , I know its easier said than done , But pack you and that baby up and go
Toxic relationship? Hell, this isn’t a relationship at all. Run, honey, and take that baby with you. Don’t worry about what he’s saying. There is nothing but lies coming out of that mouth, designed to make you stay.
No, it’s not true& it is toxic. Get out NOW.
He needs to grow up and man up, or I would leave, not healthy at all
you better get out now before it is to late for you and your child ,PLEASE DON’T STAY JUST BECAUSE OF THE BABY , he will never change so LEAVE NOW , sorry been there done that
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Why would you move into a place with someone who doesn’t work? Sounds like a loser. Move out!! Sounds like you have a future and he doesn’t.
Get out now!! Yes its a toxic relationship and he more than likely will NOT change only get worse! I don’t care how young u r cps and the cops/courts will NOT take ur baby from u and give it to him!! U DONT need to worry about that!
leave… your baby will be better off without him… leave him already before its too late…
Yeah I would leave him. What does he actually contribute? And no the court will not give your baby to an unemployed alcohol and drug user over you. Call his bluff. File paperwork for custody then kick him out.
Leave. Its not good for you or the baby to stay in a situation like your in. As long as you allow him to do what hes doing he’ll continue doing them. No judge will give him custody, he threatens you with that so youll stay. He dont want the responsibility of a child ita just something he holds over your head
Honey leave, yes it is toxic big time, he can’t get the child your safe
most rulings go in favor of the mother. if he doesn’t have a job, or a stable environment to raise that child then his chances are slim to none if he can’t provide. at the same time they will consider your schedule and if you will have time for the child.
Do not let his threats about him getting your child scare you. They favor moms as long as your are not crazy or dangerous. He does not work or have any financial stability which you have. He has more to lose then you.
This is why he scares you with the threats he makes to scare you and make you feel insecure. He knows you are better off then him and that he has no chance. Please get out of there.
Negative!!! The courts will not take a child from it’s mother unless their is serious evidence of abuse or neglect or any type of child endangerment!!! He has no case. He has no job, no license, nothing to care for a child!!! My advice to you is if he doesn’t grow the fuck up and step up then maybe it is time for you to separate yourself. You have all that weight on you as it is. You don’t need to be carrying around a man child on top of it. I despise men like that!!! You have the upper hand and always will as long as you are doing what’s right for you and especially for your baby. No judge will give a baby to a man like that!!!
Your relationship is toxic and you need to get out as quickly as possible. He is using scare tactics to keep you under his control. Make the right choice for you and your baby. He hasn’t changed in 2 yrs and he won’t change.Close this chapter of your life and move on to better days.
Yes it’s toxic, no he can’t get the baby, next time he says he’s going to call the cops or CPS tell him go ahead call them, when they arrive stay calm no matter what lies he says and tell the truth and ask them to remove him from your home and get a restraining order against him. In time your heart will heal and things will get better.
Usually when you have to ask that question. You usually are one. I would get out while you can. Forget material things. Go to your parents and start over and take the baby with you.
Red flag everywhere leave while u can still walk and talk.
He is not worth your time honey. You need to find the courage to take your baby and leave.
LEAVE and don’t look back. He’s manipulative and it’s working!
Gurl…he just running game…and playing you…put him out…MOVE NOW…LIKE YESTERDAY. You dont need all that negative energy…trust me you got this.
Sweetheart you are in an emotionally abusive relationship, you need legal help and to leave, it will only go from there
Get a restraining order against him for you and the baby and then he will be forced to leave the property and cant come near you or the baby
Leave and document everything you wont lose your baby hes the one who will lose
You will get the baby. Unmarried couples…Mom gets the baby. Get out of there!!! Thats an abusive relationship you are in!!
You dont know if that relationship is toxic? I think u both need help!
Is this a real question?
Baby, you need to 
as far away from him as you possibly can BEFORE it’s too late. RUN
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Sounds like he threatens you because he’s able to use you and if you leave he has nothing! Be smart and know your rights, he manipulates you because you fall for his lazy ass threats, now how do you expect to believe his non working ass, not even educated to know his own rights. Grown enough to work and not have a women take care of him specially when both of you have a son. He does what he does because you allow it. Hit him the hard way and leave. Much guys like those don’t change. Yes you’ll probably learn the hard way too. But you don’t need that amount of stress and b.s Get you a man who will appreciate u and work as a team. Mean while leave and be happy with your baby. God bless ya!!
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Leave HIM NOW!!! Let yOUR family KNOW exactly what he is doing — Lean on them for some support - this might seem very Hard BUT it’s worth it …
Read your own post. Call the police and get a restraining order for you and your baby. Call your family and ask if you can come home. If they will not help you, call a woman’s shelter, not the most ideal solution, but there are people who can and will help you and your baby.
Bottom line, get away from this guy. Run, don’t look back. You and your baby deserve better. Your future, and your baby’s future is on the line.
Uh yes with a loser. A real man works and supports his family
Girl you know damn well that he is toxic and dangerous to you and your baby. Do not walk- Run like hell. You did not mention your parents BUT NO MATTER WHAT call them - make amends and ask them to come get you and your baby. Good Luck
Wow! Girl you need to get out of this relationship.
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I would say you already answered your own question if you have to ask him for money and other things get out while you still can don’t forget the baby
He’s definitely manipulating you! 
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If this isn’t a toxic relationship, I’d love to know what is…
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He is mentally abusing you. A judge will not take your baby unless you are proven unfit, and a judge deff won’t give your baby to him. 1. He has no job 2. He won’t have a place to live if you are smart and kick him out and 3. All he does is drink and smoke weed. He is trying to scare you into staying with him so he can continue to take advantage of you. For you and your sons sake get out of that relationship ASAP. Please tell me your apartment is in your name? If he won’t leave call the cops they will remove him.
Sadly, you already know the answer.
I would leave him, you and your baby deserve better!
Girl this is a whole new level of toxic. It’s straight up abusive.
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Take your baby and GET OUT
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Just tell him you’ll have the courts test him for weed and alcohol! You got this!
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Take your son and get the heck out of there as soon as possible. Good luck.
If you have to ask this question, you are in a toxic relationship.
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Let him call the police AND DSS and RUN!! That might be to your advantage if you are trying to leave!
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Bye! The house would be empty when he got home!
Don’t let your child grow up to think this is appropriate behavior.
I think you know the answer to this question.
If you’re asking this question I think you already know the answer.
Call a lawyer for advice.
Please leave it’s very abusive and one sided
Sounds like domestic violence to me. You could easily call cps on him. Get emergency full custody and request the court to ord ed r him anger management and parenting classes.
Leave!!! And court will give you custody. I promise.
Sounds like you have two kids your are taking care of.
Been there done that get out fast !
You know the answer.
Dump him!!! He’s a waste of space and your energy.
If you have to ask you already know the answer
Get out now and don’t look back.
Leave him. Its only going to get worse.
Run as fast as you can!
Very toxic…RUN, DO NOT WALK, GET OUT OF THERE. you don’t want to raise a child like this.
Get out girl do it for that baby boy
And you wonder if this is toxic!!!
You need a man not another not another child
Get out before it’s too late.
You already know the answer sweetheart
All you need is the courage to act on it
Get out sweetheart
Girl his sorry ass would be sitting on the curb with a Kroger bag full of his belongings.
Leave. Get out. Find a way. Document everything!
Get rid of him think about your child & yourself first
Yes! Toxic indeed! Get out now!
All i can say is Run and be done with him you know he is toxic .
That’s just a in house baby sitter
Get out while your still young!!
If he was a man he would get a job and help pay bills.