Unforunatley this is what happens when a family splits. This might make you uncomforable but you are not in charge of what dad allows. You CAN express your feelings/concerns to dad. Im assuming your not friends on social media since you dont know her. Why are you digging? For hurt feelings?
Just breathe & trust dad can make good decisions.
Take it to court and have it in your custody agreement or get supervised visits so she canāt be around . Sheās clearly there for attention, no one should be posting your kids unless family and never without permission.
Absolutely not. She has NO say or right to post anything about your children or the need to be around the children until you meet her and know itās safe and okay. She has NO rights to your children. However if dad still has his parental rights and sheās with him then unfortunately unless you go to court and give them reason to believe she shouldnāt be around kids thereās not too much you can do. If there is worry then donāt send them and pursue as you need to. I think he should wait and get to know her himself before bringing the kids into the mix and there shouldnāt be an issue with her meeting you especially if the kids are there. Itās just the respectful and adult thing to do.
Unless your parenting plan says otherwise you have no say in who is around your kids. Sorry sweetie.
Why does her posting photos bother you?
if they are in a serious relationship she is going to be in your kids life. Unfortunately you might now like it but itās better to have a good relationship with her for your childās sake. Although you might not see it that way, your kid will pick up on certain things and itās better not to have hostility 
have a chat with her youāll feel better
Iām shocked at how many people are saying this is ok! 3 weeksā¦I would want to meet any women that was going to be around my kids. The fact she is totally being disrespectful when it comes your kids tells me sheās immature. Good luck.
We may not have control who our exes date, but when it come to kids there must be boundaries.
She sounds like a nut.
Fuck noš donāt listen to these other women trying to make you feel crazy for how you feel. Fuck that!
She sounds a bit rudeš I mean they are your children. Bare it and grin and keep goingā¦
She should be more respectful, but not much you can do about it if your ex is ok with it
Honestly, I wouldnāt like some random chick posting pictures of my kids after 3 weeks either. Who knows who she has on her fb. You donāt even know her, let alone the kinds of people she associates with or how she feels about accepting strange fb friend requests. I wouldnāt be okay with that at all. And the way she responded was not okay either. She needs to be more respectful, sheās been around for a whopping 3 weeks and is already starting shit. I wouldnāt really want her around my kids either. In my opinion if she is willing to be disrespectful over internet safety, what else is she going to do just to be spiteful and disrespectful? Sorry but yes you should have approached things differently (thru your ex) but the way she handled it/responded is 100% NOT okay either.
Just dont get why he has even introduced his kids to sombody he has only been with for 3 weeksā¦
Sheās rude and needs a reality check and your ex should give it to her
My granddaughters gather is living with a girl and has a child with him also. Said girl is constantly posting terrible negative things about me and my daughter. She had even posted videoscoaching my granddaughter into saying things. This girl went so far as to call cps and said I was abusing my granddaughter. My granddaughter fell at preschool and broke her arm and this was documented and the stupid girl said I did it. CPS dropped all allegations once they came to where my granddaughter lives and saw she is well taken care of. My daughter started my granddaughter in therapy because of the way she would throw fits about going to her dadās for his court ordered visitation and even the therapist said something is not right at her fatherās house. If all the girlfriend is posting is positive stuff I wouldnāt worry about it because I wish my granddaughters fathers girlfriend would only post positive things
If she treats you this rude I doubt she would treat the kids any better 
she sounds wayy too immature and irresponsible
The police tell you ā¦thatās how kids are taken! Pictures should never be posted on fbā¦ Go to court and get that stopped!
Wow!!! After a few weeks! She sounds horrid. I would be furious at her reaction more than the original issue. She has no say in anything. I would have told my ex tho, not her.
Not your parenting time. If he allows it he is also their parent. So many women still so stuck on their exs dating lives.
Unfortunately unless a custody agreement says so u wonāt have a say who dad allows around them, if u go get custody arrangements most times they will say no one above 18 can be with them after 10pm and that will go for you as well unless married etc etc. 3 weeks seems early but not much u can do about it if he has visitation rights.
Ur allowed to take it to court. U donāt want it children on social media. Make it supervised visitation
No youāre not wrong at all. Thereās predators out there. Who knows who sees these pictures & what their mindset is. Iād be filling a parenting time restriction restricting all of from posting pictures of the children online & requiring you to meet anyone who is in contact with the children.
Oh hell no Iād be at her front door step too fastā¦ you will see who ever you want, ok then see me bitch. ā¦ #dontmesswithmamabear
Kids should not be introduced "friends " until they get further into a relationshipā¦the exes should be able to communicate about the kids.
What the hell kind of parent brings their child around a partner of 3 weeks???
Besides being okay with someone in this kids life or notā¦ Posting pictures and personal details is just asking for predators of some sortā¦regardless of who posts it. I never post pics of my kid(s) and details. "First day of grade āwhateverā at āwhatever schoolā and a pictureā¦now weirdos know what your kids looks like and where they are every dayā¦more to the point, my ex mother in laws account was hacked and now a total stranger has all her pictures, family, children, everything. And because she was friends with my kid on kids messenger when she was hacked, this creep was now my kids friend for a couple weeks before we realized.
Not wanting pictures of your kids all over the internet is very reasonable in my opinion.
I would try to talk to my ex about it.
What does the custody agreement say? I think she is way out of line and should have no business being around the kids if she has no respect for your wishes. But if there is a custody agreement , where dad is allowed to have them, then it is kind of out of your hands. If there is no custody agreement, keep the kids and go file for one. Make it known to the judge that he has strange women around whom are taking pictures of your kids and you do not feel it is safe for them to be with him without you. Bring the text messages to the judgeās attention too.
It may be uncomfortable for you and it seems abit too soon but at this stage and time she is apart of your kids life. Must be hard however she maybe a constant in his life so something you might have to suck up.
Just asking, how did you notice, how did you see? For you to inbox her shows her that you stalking her.
Unfortunately, This is what men do and we brake our own hearts by stalking and searching
Its just photos you have full custody of your kids, dont allow little things from your ex to make you unhappy.
This is mostly done to get attention, and it surely got yours.
It shall pass too because what doesnāt brake us makes us stronger
You need to talk to your ex unfortunately heās gonna think youāre the drama one since he probably told her itās ok to put pictures of the kids, because theyāre his kids too. She sounds like a big drama queen so good luck.
No, fuck her. You donāt know who sheās friends with on social media, she could be one of those people with 1K friends and hasnāt met 600 of them ever. Itās a safety issue, not a petty issue.
For one NO and two HELL no
If she is being this disrespectful
Shes being given permission by him (even if not words yea u can disrespect her) its by how heās disrespectful to you. You dont go and act like you can do want like ur new mom of kids you claim to care about
cuz ur trying to impress ur new boyfriend. " Look at me Iām so great with ur kids"
But f their mom
A decent person would have handled it differently
And the way she did shows how f up she is
I wouldnāt want that around my kids trying to be new mommy
And Iāll be damned if shes going to disrespect me
Talk to your ex about this. Does he post pictures of them?
This would be a fight period ā¦
File a restraining order posting kids photos is dangerous.
I mean to each their own but if itās on their dads time, you canāt really dictate it. You should approach your ex about it rather than talking to her about it. That might be why she responded the way that she did (not saying itās right or okay but anyone who has their boyfriends ābaby mamaā come at them like that I am sure would be defensive). He probably gave her permission since they are his children too.
Sheās not the kind of woman who looks out for other women; she likes to undermine them. Steer clear and go thru the courts asking for your kids not to be posted on any social media.
Narcissists jump in to relationships fast and do things like this on purpose to get a reaction from you.
Iām sorry 
Well, I think her responses have given you a clear picture of her character!
I would check with an attorney regarding posting pictures of minor children who are not yoursā¦
Every time she posts a pic of kids report it to fb Instagram etc and tell them you didnāt give her permission and you donāt know herā¦ She will go to fb jail and will be locked out for so long she should get the message then. 3 weeks is too earlyā¦ It was like 6 months in for me to introduce my kids to my SO.
What does it matter!!?..who is it bothering? Sounds like you are jealousā¦leave those kids alone when they are with their dad, and let them enjoy their time with him, and his girlfriend!! What they do at their daddys house is not your business as long as the kids are not in any danger!! It takes a village to raise kids, and the more people that love them the better! You picked the man you wanted to be the father of your childrenā¦trust him to make good choices about who he brings the children around! Donāt shoot yourself in the footā¦getting along with the girlfriend will make life a tad easier on you!
Yes you are wrong actually. You have no right over who your ex dates
Yes you are wrong and sounds more like you donāt want your ex dating anyone
His time, his rules. As long as she isnāt a danger and dad gives her permission there is nothing much you can do. I know itās frustrating but at this point she is there and the only thing you can do is act civil. Who cares about her as long as child is safe then pick your battles. A judge would think itās childish to fight over the fact that kids father gave permission for her to post pictures. He is the father and has as much rights as you. Remember if yāall start out salty and bitter it will not end well and that could be more upsetting for the child.
She sounds trashy tbh 
3 weeks is way to soon to post pictures of kids you barely know. Her reaction says it all. Much to early to even meet your kids.
Honestly yes she should have asked you first before posting your kids but itās really not even worth the drama! UNFORTUNATELY this is how life is your donāt stay with your childās father than guess what you have to deal with the new āfriendsā until the find the right one. You can go to court and get it stated no information or pictures of your children should be on social media yet that would apply to you as well cause if him and his partner canāt either can you and yours ect it goes on and on just not worth it.
You can report the pictures on facebook.
Its not just as simple as reporting anything you udually do. You gotta contact tem & tell them shes posting your kids without consent.
Kinda creepy shes doing that. I feel weird posting pics of my nieces without their moms permissions.
I donāt even want my own mother posting pics of my kids on her fb!! Absolutely not her place to do so especially when he barely knows her yetā¦ noooope from me.
Report it to Facebook. She canāt post your kids pictures without your consent. She is not only posting your kids but getting that defensive about it after only 3 weeks or dating? Thatās pretty creepy in my opinion.
Tell her say that to your face 
greasy a** b****
But most importantly never speak to new & desperate females it will always come off wrong & end up offending each other. Grill your baby daddy & stay to yourself for a while until he make better decisions 
Idk this sounds like a BabyMama not ready to accept Daddy has moved onš¤·š»āāļø How does she even knw theyāve only been dating for three weeks? Maybe dad just didnāt tell her (for these reasons)
I know a lot of parents who keep their kids off social media- their pictures, their names, all of it. So I understand if youāve worked hard to keep your kids off and then she just throws them on there. Thereās a lot of creepy people in the world and who knows this woman may be one of them, you donāt because youāve never met her. I understand where you are coming from.
She sounds toxic. You should be dealing with your ex, not with her.
I post pictures of my boyfriends kids, but not until we had been together for over a year and he was ok with it. We do alot of family things together like ball games, swimming, bowling, etc, so it would be hard to not include his kids in pictures with mine. In the event that his ex asked me not to post pictures, I would first check with him before any changes
Some of these comments disgust me.
No youāre not in the wrong. She definitely had an attitude problem. Posting photos on social media may be something you can being up in court. However, if u and your ex post photos then they likely wonāt do anything about it. Anyone on either of your friend lists, can screen shot it and post it on their own page.
If she isnāt a safety concern for your children, you wonāt be able to keep her out of your kids lives tho. Again, itās possible but they would have the same rule applied to you as well. Remember anything you request can be turned around, so be careful what you ask for.
yāall just canāt be grateful someone loves your child that literally doesnāt HAVE to. you sound bitter that he moved on.
No offence, but you went about that the worst way possible, and have now caused issues, if the father says itās ok, then she has every right to post pics of the kids, threats of keeping the kids away from her, because you havenāt gotten your own way is childish and you shouldnāt have said that, if kids see the dad, and sheās there, that is out of your control. Ideally she should have respected your decision, but if you step back and look at it, its actually a positive thing, sheās proud to be around your kids and wants to share it with everyone, much better then a gf who hates your kids and pretend they donāt exist. Just my personal opinion.
You have to love your kids more than you hate her. (Or your Ex) He might have actually may have given her permissionā¦
Maybe dad gave her permission to put them up, but I still think it was rude of her to post pictures with you saying not to.
Thatās a nope for me. I donāt allow others to post my kids on social media and if she had any respect for you or your children, she would want to meet you. 3 weeks is too soon to even meet my kids.
If the dad said it was okay then she has the right to. You arenāt the only parent to those kids. Yes it sucks and you can state your opinion but in the end he can allow it as well. She should be respectful of you though and she does sound like she wonāt last long if itās only been 3 weeks. I would talk to him about it and tell him how you feel about her posting pictures.
People saying she is wrong must not know respect because out of RESPECT no girlfriend of 3 weeks should be posting kids. Those are her children and it is disgusting how people think it is okay for kids to meet dads/even moms new partner after only weeks smh. In the kids best interest they should not be posted by strangers and she should have respected moms request to not post and dad should also respect. She sounds like trash honestly.
Regardless of this entire situation, why you are stalking your exās new girlfriends social media?
Oh hell fuckin no that lady is out of her mind thinking that she has any rights to your kids!
Itās not your choice honestly, and you shouldāve talked to him.
Why are you stalking her social media, too?
You may not like it, which I personally understand, but you cannot control what they do. Its hard but you have to learn to accept it.
WOW, just WOW what a loser she is! I cannot believe she would say those things. However, you should have gone to their dad first and not even said anything to her because obviously she is quite immature and acts like a 13 year old. You need to let their dad know she is NOT to be doing that and if she continues his visits will start to go away until he remedies the problem. Some people just donāt know how to grow up and act like adults. good luck!
This post is about her KIDS not who he dates 
donāt think any of you lot would want a random woman posting pics on her Facebook of YOUR kids after after THREE WEEKS when she could have anyone on their, dont get were shes jealous or not ready for him to move on etc her response just shows the type of person she is & by sounds of things they suited with each other
You are in the wrong no judge can tell you who to date if you know her name look her up my ex dated a child felon so I made a statement but other than that your petty and Iām also a stepmom
I had my two girls ripped off me by their father and a woman I still donāt know - nearly four years later, forcing my children to call her āmumā. I had them handed back because the truth about them came out. Eventually. It still hurts. Somehow you have to get byā¦ I know the feeling though, especially when sheās shooting remarks back at you like sheās the parent and entitled to your children. Hang in there. X
You have no control while their in their fatherās care & yes youāre being petty & if you wasnāt checking so hard you wouldnāt have found it. Live your own Life or Get Back With Your Ex but You Canāt have It Both Ways if you were together this wouldnāt be an issue get therapy & work on your issues or at least work on how to co parents as adults
You not in the wrong. I was in the same situation and no matter how much I say something to my ex husband or her they do whatever they want. There nothing you can true do about but report on fb and hopefully they take it down (it not always work). Iām sorry you having go though this. I know how stressful out you must be over that bs
Nah fuck her. It is odd that you are FB stalking her though.
Itās weird of this woman to be posting these kids 3 weeks into dating their dad. I wouldnāt be thrilled about it either.
You can report the photos to Facebook and they will take them off they did for me when i had same issue. Id be concerned aswell you dont know who can see her facebook and where those photos will end up
A couple things you need to realize hereā¦
The first and biggest is that No matter what happened between you and your exā¦ if things ended badly you are the villain in his story.
Meaning that whenever he describes what happened, he tells it in a way that puts the blame on you. If sheās with him then she more than likely believes it. You messaging her like you did just āprovesā his description of you. Youāre gonna get absolutely no where with her messaging herā¦and are honestly just creating more drama for yourself.
Moving forwardā¦
Talk. To. Him
Do not message her anymore for any reason. Period.
If she posts something on Facebookā¦report the picture to Facebook.
Then message him.
Keep. Your. Emotions. In. Check
When you talk to him? Do not talk from an emotional headspace. Talk from a logical and reasonable headspace.
If you have primary custody, go to the cops. Itās a privacy issue. She sounds like a child and three weeks is too soon.
Honestly there is so many predators out there I would be uncomfortable with the whole situation who knows who is seeing the pictures
She shouldnāt even be around the kids after only 3 weeks, so Iām on your side. She sounds crazy. Thereās no way I would trust her around my kids.
You shouldnt have messaged her. If she is so tacky to post photos of kids of a guy she has been dating a few weeks, she isnāt worth your effort. Just report the photos to Facebook. Then, take it up with your ex in a nice and polite way.
Yea meet all my ex girlfriends I wait until they date longer the few weeks but the gf sounds like a bitch and need to respect u and try to be nice for kids ur their mom and they love their she should respect that understand how u feel and respect ur wish I do ask all my ex girlfriend not to post pics of kids on Facebook and all of them has not but I definitely ask to meet her try understand y she being so rude
I ask my sister before I even post photos of my nieceā¦ I find it extremely inappropriate to post photos of kids that arenāt your own. sheās in the wrongā¦ but this is a conversation you should have had with their dad, not the girlfriend.
My ex has a new girlfriend she hasnāt met me but he has told her all kinds of lies about me she has messaged me he has threatened me with her cuz he wonāt hit a female my daughter has not seen her dad since Easter morning she refuses to even talk to him so what does he do blocks me on here ignore messages does not call and hasnāt sent support but According to his new one im keeping our daughter from him I told him visits are to be supervised and if his girlfriend shows up itās done because of his actions and how he ended things with me I no longer have any trust in him with anything so I see where this mama is coming from this other female should have respect for her as the kids mother she went to her like a grown ass women to ask her to not post photos of her children her and the childās father have not been together long enough for her to be acting like the childrenās mommy
Itās the digital age. Your kids pictures are getting on fb whether you see it or not. They are either the subject or in the background! I think you should have maybe brought this up to the kids dad instead of going to the gf, of course sheās going to be salty towards you. But she should also have some respect for your wishes and not over post pictures either. Maybe if they do something special share the moment but not be overzealous.
Not just Facebook but all the other social media too 
I would be pissed, I donāt post pictures of my daughter for safety, so no one else should be doing it either, now if I were the girlfriend and the mother is clearly uncomfortable I would not have started a fight, I would simply say āyour kids, your rulesā, simply to avoid problems, but she is clearly insenstive, she probably has no kids, because if she was a mother she would be more considerate of you, also I would not have said anything directly to her, I wouldāve talked to father and made him fix the issue, I have quite a temper when it comes to my daughter, but he knows that I love her and does whatās best for her, so If I tell him something that bothers me, we usually argue about it, but he comes to his senses and fixes the issue, or we come to an agreement, also I donāt know how you found out that she posted them, I blocked them both for mental health on social media, my clear state of mind comes first before stalking him or his partner
If your here in California, nothing you can do. Whoever the father seeās fit ti be around his child, is his choice. Unless she is physical or mental harming your child, the law is not going to meddle in
I would be mad too! You donāt know if she has nasty people on her Facebook !! But if anything take it in with your ex
No you are not wrong keep her as far away as possible
Ok so heās been dating this chick for three weeks and she feels as though she has every right to post your kids picturesā¦ something aināt right hereā¦ especially since she seems to have no desire to be an adult and atleast meet you or address your concernsā¦ you are their mother and you have every right to be concerned about who is posting public photos of minors (your children) on their facebookā¦
Report the photos, talk to your ex about why it isnāt okay, coming from a child safety stand point.
I donāt think youāre overreacting at all, and I would have done the same.
How old are your kids? If they are young then it is more confusing to them since they only want their parents to be together & donāt really understand why they are apartā¦ 3 weeks is not enough time to know eachother to introduce the girlfriend to the kidsā¦ even if they are thinking they are serious right now. Kids have enough they have to worry about with school & donāt even get their full frontal lobe until they are 25ā¦this is my opinion. Others may disagree but I think that the kids have enough on their plate right now with the parents being separated even if they donāt show it coming from a person like me who went through this as a child with my parents divorcing & my Mother moving on & marrying someone else which caused me to go into a depression at that young ageā¦ if you ask children in foster care what they want they will say a "family " all children want is their parents to love & respect eachother & most importantly to feel loved. I think he should waited before bringing her around the children out of respect for them & for himself & to also set a good exampleā¦ too soon
Oh hell no not ok at all 
Iād be pissedā¦I donāt even like posting many photos of my child on FB as isā¦let alone a stranger you donāt know from a hole in the wallā¦
Hell no you are NOT wrong.
I donāt even let my mom post pictures of my kids because she adds alot of random people on Facebook, so you are definitely not in the wrong. You need to take this up with your ex if not your can file a report with the cops or CPS because it could be a privacy and safety issue. 3 weeks is way to early for her to have any say over your kids. What has your ex said?
Absolutely not!!!
Report her posts for not having permission to post pictures of ur kidsā¦ that women would have zero contact with my kidsā¦ such a nasty bitchy personā¦ keep ur kids away from such a vile cretin
The children are in dadās care, custody, and control. The End.