The kid is one thats a waste of money in my karen opinion but hey let him learn the hard way and let him know that shoot its summer I wouldn’t even be worrying about clothes bunch of onesies
Petty woman you are smh
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It sounds pretty normal. He’s made sure he has her needs covered when she’s with him and you’ve got it covered when she’s with you. Sounds like he’s stepping up and taking more responsibility during his parenting time instead of relying on just you.
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Hes not the one making it difficult, you are. He has every right to want to keep the things he bought in order for his daughter. I bet if he wasn’t buying her anything or putting in any effort at all you’d be on here complaining about that. This while post is just embarrassing 
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When I was a kid, my dad would change us into the clothes he had at his house & wash the clothes we came in. When he dropped us back off to my grandparents, he’d put us back in the clothes he picked us up in. No big deal
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I don’t see why that’s a problem. I share custody of my niece with her mom & that’s how we have always done it. It actually makes things easier.
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If you just let it be then there won’t be a problem. Eventually your kid will start making decisions on what she wants to wear by herself and then she’ll be dragging her favorite clothes and toys back and forth on her own.
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Sounds like he is separating himself from you and the things you use to share together. It may be ridiculous but it’s stuff he bought to do as he wishes.
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Um totally ridiculous…he does not HAVE to send the clothes he bought for his house to yours. Thats a normal thing to do!
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stop being petty n be glad he has his own stuff for his kid. geeze 
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Are you really complaining about something that has be suggested to others? You should be happy he is providing stuff for her on his time. You sound jealous he has another baby with someone on the way.
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That’s exactly the way I WISH my son’s dad acted. I’ve always bought my son’s clothes and it’s so annoying because I’ll send him to his dad’s in the newer clothes I bought and he’ll come back in the clothes are too small that I bought a year ago because he doesn’t buy our son clothes for his house and likes to keep the good outfits over there. 
It’s so good that he has the mentality that he provides his daughter with what she needs at HIS house and you provide what she needs at yours.
My sister does this with her ex husband 
I like it cause every time I send my daughter to her dads it takes months before I get her brand new clothes back 
Oh honey, good luck. Dealing with the same narcissistic behavior over here! I caught him stripping my son down outside of my house one day at drop off-I lost my mind! They’re the child’s clothes-NOT HIS.
A child should never have to be traumatized like that. Coparenting isn’t easy.
Let me add-my son is almost 5 and he has done literally nothing to financially support our child or his needs. Only things done are to “hurt” me, which backfires to the child.
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Pick your battles… and this shouldn’t be one. This could come off as bitter bc you know he has a baby coming.
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So what?! Atleast he’s providing for her. You’re luckier than a lot of us single moms. Quit your bitching.
When you co parent with a child or children. Each parent supplies there own stuff… sounds like something is bothering you and your using your child and her stuff to be able to complain.
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That’s how my husband and his ex wife do it. We buy her clothes for our home and her mom buys clothes for her at her house.
Yeah if I buy my kids clothes those ate for my house lol I don’t expect their father to pay for clothes and send them with me.
Meh. He’s not wrong. He’s allowed to buy stuff specifically for his house and it not have to go back to yours. Sounds like you’re the one being difficult. Just be grateful he sees her and provides for her… Even if all of it doesn’t reach your house. 
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If he bought them so what, I’ve been in his shoes only I would send my daughter to her dads with 3-4 new outfits! And never got them back! They were being given to other kids! So I stopped sending anything not even a diaper bag
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YTA he has all rights to keep what he bought for his daughter
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I wish my kids dad did the same thing lol I never get my clothes back haha
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sounds way better than them stocking up on everything you’ve bought… lol I’d have way preferred this!!
Honestly that’s how we do it with us and how multiple of my friends do it what’s it dad’s house is for her at Dad’s house and what’s that Mom is for her when she’s at Mom’s house that way there’s no fighting about all I didn’t get my favorite outfit for her back
Makes sense to me. This is how I do it with my kids dad.
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Honestly, that’s normal. Each parent is supposed to have things for the child/children. I never sent clothes with my daughter when she went to her dads, only 3 times, and she came back home in the clothes I sent her in.
We don’t share clothes and I usually ask for my stuff back if they come in something else - especially if the clothing doesn’t fit right. I try not to send new things. They have a cat there that has put holes in both their coats I bought that we shared - plus he tried to have different shoes and we do 50/50 lol
……and you think the dad is the problem….
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That’s the normal! You provide for her in your house. He does in his. Clothes you bought stay with you, clothes he bought stays with him! Only thing going back n forth is the child! Makes life easier for both parents.
I mean he is sending back the clothes you sent her in, what’s the issue, he is providing her with what she needs when she’s with him and you are doing the same, he wouldn’t expect you to bring him clothes or toys to keep
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You sound a little petty
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I don’t see why that’s a problem. We used to do the same for my bonus daughter. Mainly because her mom was controlling and would throw a fit if she got just a little dirty. He is providing for your daughter, what’s the issue?
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When my ex and I broke up I had to pack, unpack, wash then and put away absolutely everything for three children for a whole weekend every other week so they could go to their dads… It was a quite tiresome tbh and I’d of been happy to of had your “arrangement”
You sound petty
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At least he is bonding with her and ignoring her. He let enjoy being her dad when he has her.
There’s a reason he stopped sending her to you in clothes he’s bought. There are a lot of reasons it could be, but this is a boundary that doesn’t merit a lot of time and energy from you and doesn’t need an explanation from him. My advice would be to focus on other, more important things and adjust to this new normal.
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From my experience that’s how it was with my older son… when he would go visit his big sister and grandparents I had stuff for him at my place and whatever grandparents had provided there place his stuff stayed there… if the gma sent my son back with me in something that belonged at there house it was expected to be returned to there house… pick your battles be grateful your child has the other parent and is being provided for…
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I have my kids own clothes and shoes here, my ex has his own clothes and shoes. Kids wear his clothes here, I take them off wash them and put them in his clothes basket under the coffee table for the week and when it’s time to go back to his house all his clothes are put back on and mine are taken off washed and put away in their room for the next week when they come back. It’s easier that way. I don’t have to worry about where a certain outfit is for church or pool… I’m searching for his clothes either.
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Me and my daughters dad do this it is so much easier.
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Petty. Just leave it go because it’s not going to change
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Makes sense for him to wash and send her back in the same clothes 
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I would say thats super normal?
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There is not a single problem with this. He is providing for her on his parenting time.
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You’re lucky actually. I wish my kids dad did this. He expects me to provide their wardrobes for both his house and mine. If you already have plenty of clothing for her then what’s the big deal? Be glad he’s providing her with clothing period.
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That’s how my ex and I have always done it. It’s a bit more relaxed now that my son is older, but that’s a super normal arrangement
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Also I think you’re upset about his new baby…
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That’s how my ex and I did it… honestly I think it’s fairly common. Hell, even my Grandma had clothes at her house for my Girls that were for just at her house…
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If you have plenty of clothes and think “its ridiculous” than why be petty over what hes doing
Dont be so eager to disrupt his new life if his baby is fine, you had your chance hun
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I used to do that with my daughters father because the clothes would never come back, so I don’t understand?
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If this is your biggest problem, you need to move on and get over it. Do you realize there are fathers who provide nothing? He’s providing g what she needs while she is with him. What are you complaining about?? Would it make you happy if he was a deadbeat? Jesus christ, grow up!
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Confused: you don’t care because you have plenty but then try to make an issue of it. There are bigger things to worry about, move on from this pettiness.
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That’s what the guidelines suggest in my area.
Pretty standard for each parent to keep what the child needs at each home.
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Seems like you’re looking for a problem. My kids have their own clothes even at their grandparents houses, so it would make sense for her to have her own stuff at her dads house.
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Hit up that child support office
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Choose your battles. If clothes is the only thing that is causing issues then what happens when your kid starts school and things become so petty that you argue over the bigger things.
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Girl be thankful he’s providing for his child and that everything isn’t on you. Personally I think you need to learn to pick your battles…there are things worth your time and energy, and this ain’t it. If you don’t need clothes for her, then I can’t understand what the issue is here.
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So what’s the problem? Let him parent how he see’s fit. You’re getting your clothes back.
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. If he’s not paying child support go after him in court. I send my son to his dad’s and they send him back in the clothes he came in. The stuff he buys stays there the stuff I buy stays here.
I do not let anything go to her dad’s… we don’t see it ever. He complained once in mediation and A judge said that it was good and that nothing can be forgotten and cause conflict. She changes into whatever he sent her in … end of story
Idk i don’t agree with this personally. I have my own kids clothes and shoes. And their father has his own for them as well. What i send them over in i ask for them to be sent back to me in. It’s common sense to me. Not everything has to be shared but the child, imo.
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I’d be thankful he’s providing. My son always carried a suitcase and they technically have 2 homes so should be able to go to either without luggage.
Heres an idea, quit bitching about a father that not only shows up but provides for his child. 
Lmfao …. He is not wrong. Your acting crazy. What he buys for her stays there and what you buy stays with you
Yes, be glad he does. It could be the opposite, in which it usually is!
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Get a custody agreement and child support.
It sounds like the mom is jealous of new baby dad is having lol stop being bitter and he isn’t keeping her clothes you sent her in and giving you ‘play clothes’ back stop being petty and this co-parenting will go smoothly
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You’re getting your clothes back. What’s the problem? There’s no reason why he can’t keep his and you keep yours. We always did that with my nephew’s. If the clothes always left with them they’d have nothing to wear at our house
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Yoou keep saying it’s fine when it clearly bothers you. Honestly you’re thinking too much into it. If she’s taken care of there should be no issue. Don’t make something out of nothing. And yes things change. Ppl get tired of having to take a suitcase with a kid going back n fourth. I keep clothes and toys here specifically for the kiddos I watch so the mom doesn’t have to worry abt it.
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Go do some community service or something. You seem to be out of problems and in need of something to put your effort into…
worrying about him and the beautiful/mature boundaries he has set with you is not something you need to dissect and make yourself upset over! Go do something that matters. Save turtles, go pet animals at the shelter, make sure there is enough creamer at the Starbucks coffee station, go visit a nursing home, learn all the chemical components of the food we eat… feed the homeless, learn to speak Mandarin… if you need more ideas just message me… I got you! 
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Wait he has her 1 day a week how do you know what he has for clothes and shoes … maybe he only has a small amount
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I don’t send my kids with clothes to their dads, nor does he send clothes they have there, back to my house. Seems like an irrelevant thing to be upset over. He’s doing his part at least. Occasionally my kids will come back in random clothes, and what they went in, will be gone forever. So I send them in the “play” type clothes now.
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Maybe he likes to dress her in what he thinks is cute, when she is with him. Seems like you’re looking for something to be mad about.
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That’s exactly how my ex and I handle our daughters… I buy the clothes for them that I like, and I prefer those clothes stay at my home. He does the same for his home. I like it that way.
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Well truly co parenting is allowing your daughter to spend just as much time with him as you. Having separate items at both places is fine though.
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Um…you supply your home he supplies his. This just sounds a bit petty.
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Is he paying you support? If so technically you are supposed to provide ALL clothing.
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For one thing they outgrow them so fast the more wear they get fine—- but he also may be thinking if his new bundle is a girl then she can use them when she’s old enough— hard to figure, but if you ask him don’t do it in front of your daughter- there will be many issues through the years- be glad he sees her at all-some don’t
You can fix soooo many things; stupid is not one of them.
Yeah I think you’re being ridiculous. Like come on really. Your lucky he’s being a dad most men out here don’t even care to see their kids. Big whoop he bought her clothes that stay at his house. Be grateful.
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I just went through court well still in it I have them mostly and even them going on weekends the judge stated he is to have everything they need there they are not bringing bags with them so he keeps his stuff you keep yours my kids go in my clothes and they get there grandma washes them and they come home in them not a big deal
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I think you are making a big deal out of nothing… and you sound petty. There’s nothing wrong with how things are done currently.
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Seems to me you are digging really deep to find something to complain about. Be thankful that he is providing plenty for her.
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As a kid who dealt with parents like this growing up it is infuriating!! stop being petty and let the kids stuff go with the kid it’s not difficult I don’t care who bought it it is the child’s quit acting like it’s yours! It’s a damn shame adults can’t act like adults
It is so much easier for each home to make sure the child has what she needs than to hand stuff back and forth all the time.
His way is not ridiculous, it’s just not your way
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I had the same set up with my ex. He had clothes for the kids at his house and I had clothes at my house.
The child’s supposed to have whey thing she needs at both homes
Everything you’ve said follows… which is fine… so if it’s fine why are you complaining or telling us!!! He’s spending time with his child and providing for her so what is the issue!! Some men don’t take care of their child and you’re complaining bc he won’t give you clothes he’s purchased or share a dang on diaper bag… lady get over yourself!!!
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Mine never see their dad anymore but when they used to I would send them in good clothes and he would return them in ugly old clothes someone had given him. I always had to ask for them back because I bought them and I wanted the kids to use them more than 2x a month. He would get upset with me but eventually I would get them back and I always gave him his old clothes back. I don’t want what’s considered his, I only wanted what’s mine. So that I understand. The diaper bag thing is silly, I share a diaper bag backpack between 3 of my own. Why carry a bag for each child when it all fits in one, that makes no sense.
She should have clothes at both mom and dad’s house. I think the way he does it is brilliant
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Be grateful he is actually being a parent and providing for her,get over it and go about your life.
We have two BM and we do this with both. We have our own clothes and shoes. Now we don’t make them change, they come and go in whatever clothes they choose but we each supply our own house.
I think its a great idea that way you cant complain to him when she don’t have a certain out fit or shoes she should be able to have her own things at each parents house
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Girl, just let that man be stupid!!!
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Lmao girl you are lucky
Sounds logical to me. Not sure why it bothers you at all. The kiddo has 2 homes, 2 beds, 2 toothbrushes, 2 sets of clothing. He takes her places in his car, you take her places in your car. Etc…
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This is how me and my sons dad do things. We each have clothes at our houses and he always comes home in what I sent him in. I don’t see the big deal
My ex wife wouldn’t take care of the clothes I’d buy my daughters… she’d get em all stained a d wouldn’t wash em properly so I started doing this same thing…. I wanted my kids to look good while she’d be ok having them all dirty and with stained clothes… maybe he feels you’re the same or maybe you’re butt hurt cuz he’s having another kid and wanna complain about anything.
Sounds like the new spouse could have a control issue or a petty issue. I’ve been there unfortunately as the petty new spouse that didn’t know when my mind my own business. As a mother to my own kids now I would recommend you let this go and pick your battles. Keep your clothes nice too this way. It shouldn’t be like that but sadly a lot of co parents go about it this way. Let as much as possible slide. Like you said he only sees her 4 times a month so let him be petty. He will eventually get tired of it I guarantee it.
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just my opinion: you said he just recently found out he is having a baby I don’t know if they are together but it sounds like they are. Things changed because the new women is telling him (without telling him if you get what i’m saying) …if we are gonna be together this is how it will be you are not friends, you are not together, you are with me… so he makes changes as such for minimal talking between you two, like there is no need to ask any longer as an example “hey was this or that left at your house (or the other way around)cause I can’t find it… let me know thanks”… simple conversations like that are now non existent. So don’t say anything, it will make your life a lot easier. and she is 1… so yup…you have your own stuff and what not so don’t even waste your time. Act like nothing bothers you for the sake of your baby… because trust the new baby’s mother is in control of him now
…again just my opinion
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