We the same thing and honestly it just keeps the peace. Let it be
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My ex in-laws do this. I honestly do not mind it. She has clothes for when she is with them and she has clothes for when she is here.
Sh*t…mine would send the kids with 2 changes of clothes and I had to buy new wardrobes twice a year. Summer and winter.
I don’t see the issue???
I would send a bag with my son with an extra outfit to wear back home and he’d bring what he wore over there, back in his bag…. That way I wasn’t stressing over his clothes not coming back because there for a while, all of his clothes were staying over there. It just makes sense to keep them separate especially with how pricey clothes are. I don’t understand the issue?
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Lol you sound so ridiculous. Stop nitpicking everything
In the words of Elsa “let it goooooo”
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You’re in the wrong.
Maybe they are saving those towards their new child. I would prefer it be that way because then you don’t have to pack up things and what not.
Your ex is really immature 
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I dont get why this is an issue? Me and my ex do this with our child. It makes sure we both have clothes at each house. I dont expect him to give me clothes he bought for her for when she’s there. Some of y’all are wild.
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I think this is something simple you’re getting worked up about. It doesn’t matter at the end of the day that he sends no clothes. You have 2 seperate households and provide for those alone. Let him do as he pleases and stop stressing over a diaper bag and clothing. Dress your daughter let her enjoy her time with her dad who is providing his own items for her and enjoy your time for yourself.
He’s being Coached by his new gf”
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I assume you get support. If he was keeping your clothes then maybe you could complain. He is obligated to you only to pay support. He’s her daddy and he’s seeing her, so he can buy things as he pleases.
It’s a lot easier to do it that way honestly, this way you don’t ever wonder where something specific is and think oh shit it’s at her dad’s or something. I mean usually I’m seeing the issue of one keeping everything being sent so I think I’d rather have your problem lol
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I don’t see an issue
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I see your point because being 4 times a month she doesn’t really get to wear them… BUT it’s really not interrupting your every day living, leave him alone and let him be.
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Seems like you’re being petty. My SO and I buy clothes for his daughter and she has an entire wardrobe here. Down to shoes,swim suits, undies, socks, literally anything she needs we provide for her. The child support that my SO pays weekly to his daughters mother provides her with the clothes she needs at her house… outfits she comes to our house in are washed and returned. Outfits she goes home in are washed and returned. I don’t get it, just let the guy be a dad. Why do females do this. Make anything into a problem.
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Sounds to me you’re just pressed because he’s having a baby with someone else now. Move on with your life
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This isn’t something to be upset over honestly. He could be plenty more ridiculous if he wanted be happy this is all
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You are being very immature
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Literally how it should be.
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Omg I would love that, my sons clothes that I buy all of keep staying at his dads and I can’t get them back and have to turn around and buy more, wish my ex would get his own stuff for his place
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You’re literally making an issue out of nothing!
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My ex and I have our own clothes for the kids at our houses for our kids. We think it’s easier 
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At the end of the day do you think about how this affects your daughter. He loves her enough to know that she has needs and so do you so you should be thankful enough that he puts her needs before your wants. I bet if you couldn’t buy her something that she needs I bet he would be the first person to help you. Be glad he wants a relationship with her because alot of kids don’t have 2 parents who care. Don’t make this about you guys but about her
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All of my divorced friends have stuff for the kids that stays at their house and the ex has stuff that stays at his. The child shouldn’t have to pack and unpack a bag every time they go to the other parent.
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Sounds like Dad grew up.
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I’d be upset if the clothes I sent WEREN’T coming back.
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Is it only the clothes? the clothes, that’s not an issue, is he only providing for the child the 4 days per mnth that he has her?
Maybe they found out they were having a girl n want to keep ‘em
Soooo your looking for something to complain about.
you sound ridiculous 
grow up
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You’re actually supposed to have your own clothes and items etc at each household for the kid.
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I’m literally not seeing the issue…??? He’s simply proving he is fit to take care of her on his own time without any help or resources from you. This should make you proud not to mention makes the situation much easier as now as opposed to packing her diaper bag you only got to strap her in her carseat & drop her off
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I get it. It sounds eye-roll annoying but at the end of the day it affects him not you. He’s the one that has to keep changing her clothes and is buying stuff for her she won’t ever wear out because she doesn’t wear it enough. Let him do him. Just smile and nod and keep on going because as annoyingly petty as it is, it really doesn’t hurt anything.
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That’s how we do also he puts her back in the clothes I sent her in so I’m not losing my clothes and he has clothes for his house works out perfect you will get use to it change is hard but don’t think to much about it
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Let it be… what’s his is his on parenting time & what’s your is yours! You can not control what he leaves for y’all kid. He’s moved on clearly! You should try to. If you have not yet… you sound bitter by bitching about the small things & that he’s got another baby and is doing it the way he feels is fit . Let it be. At least he is doing for y’all kid by providing what he needs to on his time! You’ll find bigger fish to fry in this world… let the baby daddy be. 
goodluck
Petty. Let it go at least he has bothered to buy clothes for her. My ex would never.
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It is better this way. This causes less problems and less money out of your pocket.
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Honestly, what does it matter? At least he buys things for her! My ex has our boys every other weekend (well he’s supposed to) and I have to send every bit of clothes they need with them when they go because he doesn’t have any at his house. I pack all of their clothes, socks, shoes, underwear, any meds they may need, sunscreen etc. So just be happy he has stuff for her and stop worrying about the petty stuff.
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He’s sending her back in clothes he received her in? Me and my ex do that. Hell, sometimes that doesn’t happen, and we’ll give each other clothes back later on. Stop griping. No wonder he left. Sounds like you complain over stupid stuff and he got tired of it.
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That’s pretty normal. Your child has her own stuff at her house; and in this case she has two houses to call home.
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Wtf? Sounds like you’re making up a reason to argue maybe you are jealous. He’s doing nothing wrong smh
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I get yall both having yalls own clothes for her but not letting her wear them to your house is CRAZY 
He’s being a shit head for that sounds pretty insane…
I see nothing wrong with that.
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“Won’t let me have any”
If you have plenty why do you care? What he does with her, what he buys her, all of his time is none of your business. You’re the one being ridiculous. Dad grew up. Now it’s your turn.
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Repeat after me:
If it’s not harming the child or doesn’t bother the child it shouldn’t bother me.
You’re spending too much time getting upset over clothes that she doesn’t care about.
Sounds like he’s trying to make a home for his child instead of just a place to stay.
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Pick your battles. This doesn’t seem like that big of a deal to me.
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I mean if he’s bought his Child clothes he probably wants to see her wearing what he had personally bought and like choose for himself how he wants her dressed, not in clothes you’ve chose, you’ve sent etc. We personally make my partners children change out of clothes from their mums the day they come and change back into exactly the same clothes to go back. I mean it’s annoying to spend hundreds clothes and never ever see them again, for them to slowly be replaced with clothes too small for said child or damaged and then to have to spend hundreds again replacing her too small wardrobe she’s sent them in, while we have them half the time doing 200+miles a month travel collecting thm and taking them back, shes moaning for more maintenance etc. Since we stopped sending our nice new clothes she’s even told everyone we dont buy them clothes and leave them in what she sends them in for our half the week we don’t they have at least 10 outfits each (spending 7 days here at most that gives them 1 for every day and 3 spare and since I do washing most days they really don’t need any extras nor do we have space for extras) but she’s irritated we aren’t filling her wardrobes with new clothes anymore 
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You have 17 years left to go and if you’re fighting over this crap now - I feel sorry for your daughter for the next 17 years. Pick your battles and put your child first - always. What I just read is not putting your child first. It’s not a competition between the two of you. Let it go.
My daughter is 11 now and we have done it this way since she was 3, we also did it this way with his daughter when i was her stepmother, it honestly sounds like you want to control both households clothes which is ridiculous, honestly it removes the risk for either party to fight over lost or damaged clothes, its also nice to know what clothes you have for special occasions regardless of how often you have your child, this sounds petty on your behalf 
Maybe loosen up and be glad he is providing his own items for his and your daughter yes we understand no one else can use the stuff and its okay that he wants to do it this was as you stated he had another child on the way he may want to store outgrown clothes to use with the next child which is very common in multiple child homes. Honestly as long as you both are providing for said daughter, there is nothing to fight about here except maybe you are deflecting feelings of jealousy that your daughter will need to share her fathers attention. Transition can be difficult but it beeds to happen amicably. Best of luck
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Not to mention she should feel just as at home with her father as she feels when she is with you. Part of that is not having to pack a bag and feel like she’s going on a trip just to see her father. My Step daughter has all her own things at our home just as she does at her moms. Bed. Drawers with everything she needs. Toothbrush. Shoes. Bikes. Literally everything. If the children who we share have it. My step daughter has it. I would never expect her to have to pack up and leave. How uncomfortable that would be for a child.
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I don’t see the issue here. No matter how many days a week he has her, he is providing for her when she is in his care. He should provide for her when she is in his care and you should provide for her when she is in your care. I’m sure, with him only having visitation once a week, he pays child support as well.
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It’s better this way trust me. Now things won’t be forgotten, and that becomes an issue to argue over.
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Let it go . Nothing wrong with this .
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just say you’re upset he doesn’t need or depend on you anymore and grow up
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Sounds to me like you are being a petty baby mama bc he’s having another baby with someone else. He’s present in your daughters life and that’s what matters. If he bought the clothes then so be it. I’d be upset too if clothes I bought my child weren’t coming back home to me bc it’s not cheap.
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That sounds like a jealous girl friend or wife behind it.
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My ex and I did that which is fine you have plenty so you don’t need any stop being greedy
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This is just ridiculous. There is nothing wrong with him having his own clothes for her at his house, regardless of how often he has her. Even when my ex had our older kids on weekends, he had his own things for them at his place.
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I wish my ex would do that koz I never get back half of what I send my boys with lol I don’t see an issue
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My mom used to do that with me I had clothes I wore at her house and clothes I wore at my dad’s. If he wants to spend the money doing that then let him
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The way he’s doing it just keeps from things getting all mixed up (the clothes you have and the clothes he has), and it prevents things from being left at the other parents house. But if it’s fine “because I have plenty of clothes for her” then why are you mad about it? It’s not ridiculous of him at all
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I don’t see it been a big deal. If anything I’m wondering why he only sees her one day a week and if it’s only one day why he needs to supply his own cloths?
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First, even though it’s his duty, be glad he picks her up and buys her things…there’s a lot of dead beats out there. Secondly, I don’t see your point. She has a wardrobe there and one at your house…what’s wrong with that? And if he changes her, so what, maybe he doesn’t like the way you dress her. You’re being petty here. He wants a separate life from you so leave it be…besides, as she grows out of the clothes he buys her maybe he wants to keep them for his new baby…nothing wrong with that 
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You sound petty, he’s willing to buy stuff for her to stay at his house and you think he should send it to yours? Why? He’s providing everything she needs. Let it go. Sounds like he’s being a good dad
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it’s makes a ton of sense what he’s doing it’s call he has is own stuff that he can use for both his kids especially if they both girls so he doesn’t have to keep replacing it! Probably started because u wasn’t ever giving anything he bought back smh.
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My ex does the same thing. If it were up to him, our son would come back naked from his place. It is petty and ridiculous.
My daughter stays with her grandparents often and they always send her back home in the clothes they buy for her and keep that stuff at their house. There’s no reason you can’t buy things for her and he can’t buy his own things for her.
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My ex does the same thing. If it were up to him, our son would come back naked from his place. It is petty and ridiculous.
It’s his new woman that’s all. Don’t even entertain his BS. Don’t even let it bother hell when he comes have her naked!!! Let him provide everything since he wants to be a Clown let him ride on all the rides!
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Sounds like he set up some boundaries 
he doesn’t owe you anything
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She needs to spend more time with her dad, Mom. Give her that time with her dad. Quit crying over stupid shit.
This Dad is doing it right and honestly if he were to go back to court to request more time with his child he has the grounds to prove he can provide equally for your shared daughter with what she needs so that it feels like home for her too. He is showing your daughter she’s loved in both homes. If your goal is co-parenting then let him and his business be just that. Mind your life. Let him be a father to his child whether you agree with the logistics or not he’s being an active parent. You have to actually know what size your kid wears to get the clothes etc for that day with him. He’s probably learning what she does and doesn’t like too plus is able to get it. Why on earth are you complaining rather than appreciating he wants to provide a home for your daughter when not with you that she feels cared for and loved in? Why does it even matter if he’s having another kid with someone else either? Like that detail is no one’s business barely even yours as it’s your daughter’s sibling which is why you were informed of it. Sounds like he is willing to step up and be a father. You as a good mother should be celebrating and embracing that he loves his daughter enough to do it even if only for 4 days a month at this point. Your daughter seems to be getting what she needs and is being cared for so let it be from both of her parents. Go with it as it should be about what is best for your daughter not your hurt feelings over the logistics of the situation. Co-Parenting is literally just that focusing on giving your daughter the best of yourselves in both homes and not worrying about the other parent’s business as long as there’s no abuse it’s his time, space, and things for your child in HER other home. You may want to look into some coparenting classes or therapy to aid in adjusting your mind set to just that. Focusing on the fact your daughter is being taken care of in both homes.
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This is very petty. Let it go! So many worse things in life.
Yikes! Honestly, find something else to complain about. I’m willing to bet you’d be complaining if he didn’t provide clothes for her. Also you said you have plenty of clothes for her already so really, I don’t see the issue 
Actually according to most court guidelines he’s right on the ball. 
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I mean if you have her then it’s your responsibility to clothe, care for, and feed her. It also keeps things simple to do it that way. As long as the child is cared for while in his care then why make it a huge deal? He’s apparently moved on with someone else and is still doing for his child.
I would actually like this to be honest then I get to keep all my clothes and they wouldn’t vanish or your daughter returning in clothes that are to small while he keeps the ones that fit… Mmhmm I wouldn’t mind one bit
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Let it go, you will have bigger thanks to debate
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It’s amazing that he’s providing for her not at your expenses during his time….sounds like your jelly he’s having another child
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My ex did the same thing.
Honestly, why does it matter? If you have clothes for her and she has what she needs with you — why does it matter what he has for her at his house?
I agree it’s ridiculous but if that’s what he wants to do then whatever I guess. He’s doing all the extra work for nothing considering the clothes are hers but maybe he plans to give them to the new baby or something. Lol
That’s how it should be each house has their own stuff
I think it should be this way
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I’m a mom and a step mom and we do the same thing with my step daughter. I always wash and send her back in what she was sent in and keep our clothes. It made it easier for us. I honestly don’t see the problem. If u have ur own clothes than it really shouldn’t bother u. It’s money he spent and if he gives u ur clothes back there’s no issue 
I have been on both sides of this kind of situation and honestly if that’s ur only issue consider urself lucky lol
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Lmao. He bought them for her at his place. He doesn’t have to send anything. If he only has her once a week, he should he sending support to help buy the things she needs at your house. He does not need to be sending support along with clothes, shoes, diapers etc.
Sounds like you’re bitter. Time to grow up.
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I feel like when you’re hurt by someone, everything they do seems ridiculous. To an outsider, it’s not such a big deal but I totally understand why it upsets you, it would bother me too! Hang in there momma, try not to let him get under your skin.
coming from a child who had to ‘pack their bag’ to go to my moms …it was annoying, frustrating, and pressure to pack right stuff for whatever i may be doing and the weather without knowing what id be doing… my children have their dads house worth of stuff and my house worth of stuff… they do not have to pack anything unless they are going on a trip or something and need something from my house— i view their stuff as THEIRS not mine not his, so if they want to take stuff to their dads and leave it there thats what they want so who cares … their father doesnt view it the same, what is from his house has to stay at his house until recently , my kids are now teens so … however both house holds need to provide stuff for their children while they are at their house
This is what my dad and stepMom did. Right down to my glasses. When I was prescribed glasses, they made me take them off. My bio mom had to take me to get new glasses. It was very petty and frustrating. If he bought her clothes and he wants to keep them there, I see no issue with that, though.
Ha ha be glad he doesn’t just keep all the clothes no matter who paid
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I don’t see an issue here… you don’t need everything he has for her, maybe he’s planning on using the clothes for the new baby too. If you have plenty of clothing and stuff for her at your house then why throw a fit over him having his own separate stuff? Like I don’t see an actual problem. At least he’s involved and trying to be a good dad be happy about that! My kid has never met their father no matter how hard I try to get him involved he has no interest in our child. I wouldn’t be upset over something as simple as clothing. He has a point he bought them with his money so they technically do belong to him.
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Don’t worry about it the new woman is having a say live and let live hun
You CO-PARENT not control parent …my goodness. At least he sends her back with the clothes you sent her in. He is not obligated to clothe at both your houses. Yo be honest, you are being kind of petty.
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Leave it alone! He is doing it right. Trust me you will want it to be like this especially when she is older. You are being ridiculous bc this way there’s no way either of you can say the other isn’t caring for her right. He provides for her especially when she is with him an you do the same that’s how it’s supposed to be.
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I wonder what the story is from his side?
We started to get clothes and keep them because;
She kept the nice ones and sent the children in old ot too small clothes.
They were never weather or activity appropriate
They had slogans on like “don’t mess with my mummy”
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Should be happy you have a father that helps support her tbh
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My 6 year olds father and I don’t pack anything… he comes home in what I sent him in and wears the wardrobe his dad has for him while he’s there and where’s his wardrobe I have for him at home. A few outfits get exchanged here and there for obvious reasons ( he’s 6 and messy) but I prefer it this way. Choose your battles !
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I don’t get why you have an issue. It’s like you have a problem because you want the new clothes he buys sent to you, he can buy what he likes and keep then at his home if that’s the way he wants to do it. Be the same the other way round if you brought her something brand new you wanted it kept at home, and he demanded you send her to him with that item
He probably likes the clothes he buys for her and not the ones you pick out? No biggie, everyone has different tastes…
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I wished my kids dad did that! He would send them back in some dirty clothes that he had for them at his place and keep what I sent them in. So I was constantly buying them new clothes! So I finally just started to send them back in the mix match shit he sent them back home in
Hungry cunt I wouldent even give satisfaction anymore to mention it leave him keep he’s clothes pig of a man