To me it makes sense. When she’s with him she has things at his place and when she’s with you she has her things there.
I believe it makes life simpler. 
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You are being petty and it doesn’t matter if it is one day, he bought them. Maybe he wants to save them for his other kid. You want those threads buy your own. I can’t even imagine why you would think your entitled to that?
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I think it’s great he does that! I would choose the same!
My ex and I co parent and we get what we need for our daughter. He has what he needs for her at his house and I have what I need for her at my house. Letting something that small bother you is asking for unwanted problems. Thankfully IF I needed him to get her something I cant he will and vice versa.
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It sounds logical to me. You keep yours and he keeps his…win, win!!
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I think your of the old school mentality like me where this is ridiculous but the new school mentality does this … so whatever works. It’s a waste of money this way in my opinion cause either that clothes gets overworn or under worn but whatever,
Agree with dad 110%!!!
Also I don’t think this is even an issue about the clothes, he’s moved on and having a child with someone else and you don’t like it. Grow up and get over it. It’s about what’s best for the child you share, and getting upset over the fact he’s stepping up is not it
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There are people who’s baby daddies expect them to send clothes from home for their kids and you’re complaining about him having clothes for y’all’s kid at his house?! C’mon seriously?
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At least your getting your clothes back . Lol Not a big deal and her clothes won’t get ruined.
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I agree, they are hers!!
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That’s the way it should be. It’s fine to share, but don’t be mad if he doesn’t want to send her in his clothes. As long as he has clothes for her, that’s all you should care about. And since you brought up the new baby, it sounds like your jealous or feel excluded.
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Disclaimer: I’m not co-parenting.
However That’s a pretty standard practice from what I understand.
Edit: Please create me if I’m wrong.
Why dose he need clothes if she don’t stay the night what is the point of changing a child how many times I a day growing up that is what my mom and father did I have clothes at home and clothes at his house
It’s all petty ever way u put it but u can be q bigger person and say u want to buy cloths and see her where it once every so often for a while that’s ur choose let it go so what he having a new baby and know feels like he gotta do this to his daughter for what ever reason let him it’s more important that he see here there guys out there that get another kid and just forget about one he already got so count it looks and if u feel u would like him to buy some think for here if u can’t or just so she got it so she can say my dad bought me that them talk about child maintance to him but qt moment she sounds really young so don’t make a diffrance wright know so just let it go xx
Let him have his and keep yours. When she gets older she’ll wear what she wants and will bring and take as she pleases.
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Uhmm
No.
Hes perfectly within his right and he SHOULD have his own stuff for her.
I keep my oldests clothes here and send her back in what she wore here too…cuz i want her to have the clothes i bought…here.
You’re the one being ridiculous.
Get stuff for your child for your house.
Least he sends your clothes back to you instead of keeping them.
Sheesh
Pick your battles. Cuz this is a ridiculous hill to die on lol
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Leave him be. He’s actually there for the kid.
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If u have plenty of clothes for her why does it even matter…let him do what he wants…
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I have to send a full suitcase of clothes with my daughter When she visits. Be thankful he has his own. He’s not wrong.
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I never heard of this for a child you have for 1 day . He sounds a little extra 
. So you drop her off he changes her into his outfit then you pick her up and he puts her back into your outfit
Ignore him let him keep doing outfit changes . All that trouble for one day
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The fact that you’re NOT happy and OFFENDED he is providing things for her at his house is gross. You sound petty and greedy.
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Good job for that Daddy 
. Don’t worry, your daughter IS wearing the clothes, just not at your house. He’s created a HEALTHY Boundary and there is absolutely nothing wrong with his decision. Your child is NOT missing out unless you didn’t have enough provide for her, which you say you do, so what’s the problem?! 
. Good for that daddy to do what he’s doing! Sounds a little more like YOU want control over the stand he’s made it neutral. Move on and coparent in the healthiest way possible for your daughter.
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Its HERS for when shes WITH HIM
NOT YOU
buy your own stuff for your child.
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I think if I were you I would just be glad that he cares enough there’s enough single out there struggling as it is some of them have twins
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I don’t think it’s a big issue. He seems to be sticking to the agreement of Co parenting. Once she has clean clothes isent that all that matters
When she’s older and mobile and losing clothes you’ll be thankful that he provides them himself. I have 50/50 with my kids dad they leave in whatever they came in
I think he is being correct. And ur being a bit ridiculous, how does all of that not make since??
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So he keeps items he purchased for her at his house, and you keep items you purchased for her at your house.
He returns items you purchased when she comes back.
Sounds more than fair to me. At least he takes responsibility for her and returns items to you.
Wanting to micromanage what he has is a form of control and it sounds like you’re angry you have lost that “power”. Get over yourself and be thankful that he cares enough to purchase things and take care of them.
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I think this is more about the fact he is having another baby with someone else than it is that he is buying and providing his for his daughter clothing and essentials for when she is in his care.
As you said, “It’s fine. I have plenty of clothes for her”.
Pick your battles.
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Let him keep spending money on clothes she’ll never wear. And you need to stop worrying about it. As long as she’s provided for at your house and his you keep your things and let him keep his. Good grief could you find something more petty to complain about?
He should my hubby never used a pamper I packed he had his own
I get your point. I don’t thinks it’s too big a deal, it’s nice to hear the father has bought his own things. He’s trying! But it is a little ridiculous! They are the kids clothes/items and what if she wanted to take them with, but he doesn’t want her to?
I mean can we talk about how since the mom has the child more often than father she has always sent her belongings with the child. Now all of a sudden he’s not sending his stuff. It’s kind of childish.
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What a real dad does
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No maybe he hates your style or wants to sell them when he is done be happy he cares enough and he will prolly do same with toys
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This is exactly how my parenting plan is set up with my ex. We are each responsible for providing necessities for our daughter during our parenting time. His family picks her up for his parenting time and then puts her back in the same clothes when I pick her up. The only time it really bothered me was when she was little and would have food/dirt all over her when I picked her up. It would have been nice for him to wash the clothes since they were dirty. I just got used to bringing extra clothes with me if we needed to go somewhere after I picked her up. Now that she is older it isn’t as big of a deal. For us he picks her up Friday evening and then I pick her up Sunday evening. She is usually changing into pajamas when we get home, so it’s not like she is wearing the same clothes for two whole days, it’s just an extra hour or so.
Petty ! But if he’s buying them then whatever. U can do it without him so be happy for that & let him stay petty 
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Maybe he plans to have her more often once baby comes along.? I don’t think its a bad idea I know I used to do it years ago, and it was mainly due to the fact she’d send her over smelling of cat 
mess /fags etc so used to change her into something while here wash the outfits she’d come over in and sort her out so she was all nice an clean for when she would go back etc it also helped as it kept her in a routine when she would come over etc and always helped comfort wise to have the same stuff
His new woman made those rules
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Yeah, I definitely think this is a non-issue. He bought the clothes, he gets to keep them at his house. There is no reason for clothes that he bought to go over to your home, you didn’t purchase them and while they maybe hers, that doesn’t entitled you to them. If he’s helping taking care of her and paying child support, I don’t see why he needs to buy extra clothing for you to keep at your house or anything for that matter. He seems like he’s a good dad and I don’t know what him having a new baby has to do with anything
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We do the same system when my step son goes to his mom’s. She has her own clothes, toys for him. We have the same
Unless he wants to bring something from one house to the other most stay home. He’s 8. It’s easier than toting backpacks everywhere and maybe losing something special.
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He’s doing it right. You’re not. And the fact that you pointed out the new baby just proves you’re jealous your child won’t get all his attention.
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Less laundry for you to do. Unlike some fathers who expect everything to be sent with the child your childs father is being responsible and having his own stuff for when the child is there. Nothing to be offended about. I think your just being petty. 4 days a month is not alot of time but what happenes if he wants her longer sometimes. Pull your head out of your ass and be grateful he is taking responsibility for his child and providing for her
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I think your just looking for something to have an issue with.
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Sounds totally legit to me, I know a lot of people who do exactly this !
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Don’t let him change things for someone new make him go by what you want not what he wants because chances are it’s the new gf so make him do what you say
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I don’t think it’s unreasonable… My kids dad has everything for them just as I do. He sends them home in what they came in… I personally like it this way 
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You say you have plenty of clothes so what’s the problem?
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Not worth a fight let it go
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If you have so many clothes for her why do you need the clothes he keeps for her at his house? You’re being really petty.
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let it go - life is too short for silliness
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I agree with him. That’s how things work with my ex
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It’s fine this way clothes don’t get lost in transaction you keep yours he keeps his, also if there was ever and emergency you always have back ups at the other place …he’s still co-parenting it’s really not a big deal🤷🏻♀️
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So your problem is you don’t have a problem. You just want to bitch. Grow up
You sound petty. What difference does it make? Maybe he wants to experience dressing his own child and getting her ready for THEIR plans. It’s not unreasonable or ridiculous at all. Now what’s annoying is sending your daughter in cute clothes, but being returned in busted play clothes and never receiving the nice clothes back, I went through this for years and finally we adapted to this exact policy. His clothes for her stayed at HIS house and vice versa
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He is not in the wrong some people have this set up in place. Anything you send her with he needs to return and same for the other way around. I wish mine was. I have to send it all for everyday they are gone. He’s supposed to wash it and return it all back clean but doesn’t happen which is whatever. And if he’s having another child he probably wants to save her clothes to pass them down to save money. However do know that when guys get with somebody else they change their behavior sometimes for the worst and same goes for the females. Let it go.
I agree that it’s kinda ridiculous. When my ex takes the kids he takes them in what they’re wearing and will send them home in something from his house (unless I specifically ask for the clothes back). It just makes it easier than sending clothes back and forth, but that’s just me.
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Mine does the same but I’m glad
This is very resonable… he’s providing for his daughter just as you are… I don’t see the issue… 
be glad he’s not begging you for things for her.
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Welcome to co-parenting I’m in the same boat 
I send my daughter to her dad’s with brand new clothes and she comes back with raggedy ass out of the shed from 10yrs ago stuff and never get her shit back 
I learned though
I agree with him. Sorry but they’re just clothes and you’re keeping things separate, nothing wrong with that, he keeps his stuff for her and you keep yours (hers also).
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Seems like he made a change that worked better for his new situation but you don’t like it because it’s not within your ability to control, so now you’re all mad about it.
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My son is 7 and we each have our own things for him. I made him buy all his own stuff for when he has him even a car seat and things like that. We however don’t switch his clothes. If it’s a special piece of clothing or shoes we give it back.
I agree with the dad on this one
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I agree with the dad. It doesn’t matter how many days he has her, he bought the clothes and has every right to keep them at his house. In my opinion, you’re making a big deal out of nothing.
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This is a pretty common arrangement with co-parents. It’s just easier in a lot of ways. Instead of packing bags to go back and forth and things getting left and a weekends (or however long) worth of dirty laundry coming back you just have to exchange the child and maybe a couple small items. It’s a lot less to keep track of for everyone.
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Not a big deal… definitely not worth arguing about
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You’re being ridiculous… SMH grow up
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I agree with him. He should have his own stuff at his house and you should have your own.
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Why is this even an issue 
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Don’t sweat the small stuff.
 Why does it matter? As long as she has something to wear and isn’t dirty, it shouldn’t matter if it’s something You bought or he bought. Clean and weather appropriate is all that should be important to you 
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Honestly it’s better that way when people are petty. At least he has stuff for her and is providing for her when she’s with him. If you sent stuff with her all the time and it never came back would that be better?
It’s normal to me I guess bcuz my Ex never bought clothes, shoes, or anything else!!! In fact, he hardly ever would return the nice clothes that were always new. This was a problem. It sounds like the sharing is over!! Atleast he sees her consistenly.
Thats being on to it not many men are like that they put that responsibility on the ex… good thing about it you don’t have to pack a bag everytime he picks her up so my advice to you is STFU 
It helps you and him to keep things organized. This way there’s no confusion. Some parents will keep all the clothes and refuse to send any but keep what is sent their way. It can be a mess. It can also be less stressful and less argument. He’s right. Just be mature about it and keep what you buy at your home. It also teaches her organization and to respect his home and yours in that they are 2 different homes. Speaking from experience.
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Dad is right, and following what the courts would advise him to do to prevent any issues down the road over clothing. You’re each supposed to have and provide for the child’s needs at each of your homes only. Be thankful he does this instead of having to fight and beg him to send her clothes back every time he gets her and never returning them until they’re much too small if he bothers to return them at all.
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Be thankful he’s not sending her back in raggedy clothes and at least uses the ones you put her in.
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Just be glad that he has stuff for her.
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Who cares, he can have whatever he wants at his house. This is how it works each house has what they need and whoever is to pay support pays it and everyone have time with their child.
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If he pays child support and also his own gear for her then there shouldn’t be a problem .
If you guys got along prior to this new girl and new baby thing , maybe it’s not even him . Maybe it has a lot to do with his new girl .
My ex and me got a long very very well until he got with another chick . Then I noticed him change and fast . My kids didn’t like her , very mean . Then I stopped all visitation at his house . He could take the kids to a mutual location without __ . He noticed soon after that she had tried to control his visits and started to alienate him from the kids .
Now my kids don’t have a single thing to do with him because of the girls he brings to their lives .
I used to do the same thing as what he does
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This is not about your child and clothes. It’s the fact that he is having another child with Someone else that bothers you. You can go have a kid if u want. Honestly it’s his time his rules
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I’m trying to see the issue here? You get the clothes back that you sent her in and you say you don’t need the extra clothes so why worry about it? By all means if you are stuggling it if she needs something reach out and ask him to get her something and if he refuses I could see the issue. I’m just confused as to why you’re concerned that he has a lot more clothes for her then he needs. I’d rather too much then not enough.
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We used to “share” but found all the nice stuff we bought the kids ended up at her house and she would send them over in crap tatty stuff meaning we then had to spend even more (as well as paying maintenance) to make sure they had decent stuff to wear with us, in the end we said our stuff stays at ours and they change into the stuff they came in before they go home. I suspect he’s paying you maintenance to assist with providing for her so why shouldn’t he have his own stuff kept at his for her? It makes sense to have stuff at both houses rather than keep ferrying it about….Without being disrespectful it sounds a little entitled to expect him to give what he buys to you. Did you ask him if he wanted some of your clothes to keep at his so she can be charged if needed?! I suspect not…
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You should be glad he cares enough to have everything she needs at his house! Usually people have the opposite complaint! I think you’re projecting because he is having another child and has moved on.
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My kids go back to dad’s in the clothes they came home in. That way I can keep their nice clothes, nice & don’t have to worry about them getting kept at dad’s, or stained up and ruined.
But… what does that have to do with him having a new baby…?
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I’m really confused of how this is a issue? You get your clothes back and he’s supporting your child at his house by providing basic needs… This is how I co parent it makes it heaps easier some parents don’t return clothes they are sent in be thankful
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Quit complaining at least he does better than other DAd’s
That’s how it always worked with my mom and dad. I had clothes at both houses but I was never allowed to being clothes back and forth because all my clothes would end up at one house. It keeps things organized and way easier for the parents especially when they don’t get along. The less conversations that will turn into arguments, the better.
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Nah bro. My baby’s dad and I parallel parent. We both buy for our homes separately.
We used to send a bag back and forth with “his” clothes for our daughter and “my” cloths. It’s too hard. They’re her clothes. If they’re a something special you want to make sure you don’t lose, don’t send her in that item.
Seems selfish on their father’s part……….
I’m with dad on this one each should keep what she needs at thier own homes. So many moms dream of having this. The clothes they buy end up lost.
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I think she’s annoyed because he’s changed ever since he’s having another baby…
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Let him be. Who cares. If you have more than enough why does it matter?
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My dad did this to my mom and never understood why. He ripped off my new shoes before dropping me off and I couldn’t go to school the next day because I didn’t have any shoes.
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Grow up he’s doing his part as a dad by seeing and providing for his daughter the problem is you 
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Since when do men make sense? He’s probably decided he doesn’t like your clothing choices for her and bought his own. My daughter’s ex-husband has clothes for her boys. In the winter he makes them wear their old coats to her house because she smokes on her front porch and he swears they come home smelling like smoke even though she doesn’t smoke in her house. Her home owners insurance is cheaper that way. Anyway, when they go home from her house, they have to immediately dump the clothes they are wearing in the washer and take a shower. The front porch is the only place besides outside she smokes, but he swears he can smell it. I guess he does. You probably don’t smoke. It may be a style thing.
The stuff he buys for his home is his and the stuff you buy is for your home. I know if he wasn’t buying her clothes and expected you to provide all clothing for both homes you’d probably be pissed about that too as long as he sends back the clothes you bought I don’t even see why this is an issue. Sounds like you just wanna be mad.
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