Kick him out let the other one have him , gift wrap him for her ,if it gets away with what’s basically cheating after 12 months it will only get worse , he sounds like a kid in a candy store who can’t make his mind up remove yourself as an option and leave them both to it
Run as fast as you can from this potential two timing rat
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Get out of the relationship as soon as possible and tell him you are giving him the children
Listen if you have to ask what to do when he told you he wants to have you both, then just stay and deal with it. Because another woman who knows her worth, will let the other girl have him. Don’t set yourself up for a heartbreak. Heal yourself and love yourself.
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Tell him to go f**k him self.
Are you okay with him sleeping with another woman under the same roof while you’re in the other room? Are you comfortable with watching him kiss and love on another woman in front of you? If not, leave. Personally, there’s no way in hell I’d be okay with it! And I surely wouldn’t want my children seeing their father with another woman while also being with me. Sounds like he may have been cheating this entire time, and now he wants his cake and eat it too. 
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This can’t be a real question? If it is which Ik it is just leave how in the world would you be able to live w another girl in your house knowing your bf is smashing her in another room nonononooooo personally I don’t think I can do that
This is a joke right ? Surely no one has to ask this
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that’s a hard no from me dawg
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He wants to have two women love him!!! What a joke
Girl…use your head…you don’t need people on fb to tell you to leave.wtf…like common sense and thinking for yourself are completely out the window anymore🤦♀️
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Unless you’re interested in becoming a thruple with this other woman, I’d say let her have him and focus on you and the kid(s)
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What advice would you give your best friend in this exact situation? Self compassion is something that a lot of women don’t/can’t practice. They have so much compassion for others, but can’t extend themselves the same compassion. My answer to you is the following: you are worthy of being enough for any man you bring in your life 2) model healthy relationships to your children, don’t subject them to confusion and trauma bc you don’t want to be alone 3)have some self respect, love yourself and respect yourself enough to leave 4) if you’re not enough for him now, you’ll never be. This will continue and manifest into something really unhealthy, toxic and traumatic 5) know your worth, if you don’t no one will 6) people treat us the way we allow them to
7) you will be ok, you’ve gotten through a lot in your life, you’ll get through this as well, there will be lovely days and second guessing but you will have opened a space up for your real love to enter
8)YOU HAVEBT MET ALL THE PEOPLE WHO LOVE YOU YET!!! This man is a lesson, to prepare you to appreciate a real man!
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Amanda Coen it’s been a minute since we did this but I really need to hear your advice on this very complex and complicated situation they are in 
Leavr…are you seriously asking this?unless you are open to polygamy…why ask?
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Leave him and move on with your life. Don’t waste anymore time on him.
Sometimes a poly relationship works for people, but it should be discussed before, and the 3rd partner should be chosen together and NEVER a Ex
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Ok just say you entertain the idea- what you going to ask fb when they both come to you and say they want to take it to the next level and marry- eachother? You really don’t need people on fb …strangers at that- telling you what you should already know you need to do here. Leave his ass. Let her have him. Find someone that will love ONLY you. A man that you will be ENOUGH for.
Umm what did I even just read?? Might as well all 3 be together lmao
Yeah, that’s not for me, I’d be long gone 
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You should stop being a doormat.
just reread the question. Your answer is there
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For real ! He wouldn’t be able to talk his jaw would be wired up from me me breaking it with a damn board up side his head
leave if ur not going to be OK with sharing your man
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Lmao. What? Are you into Polygamy?
Just let him go…
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This can’t be for real……
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You’re kidding right? You even have to ask?! OMG, kick him to the curb!!
Leave his ass
If you weren’t his first choice then let go.
Wtf run and collect child support
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Kick him out, file for child support, take him to court for child custody and document everything.
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Focus should be on babies. He wants two women to love him? Nah he wants one (you) raising the babies while he loves on the other. Is she going to help raise the kids? Poly relationship?
Mostly. Do what you want! If this is not what you want let him go.
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Tell him his fantasy is just that. What does the girlfriend think of that? Is this how you want your kids to grow up ?
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Let the boy go. There’s to many men in this world to stay with one who thinks he can have his cake and eat it too.
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Oh hell no! Leave!!
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Omg! Leave him! Who does he think he is
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Oh wow I would never settle and be the other woman tbh
Kid with him or not does the other woman have a kid with him?
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I mean, if you’re ok with being in a relationship with him AND her, then go for it. No way I could ever do it, but some people can. Personally, I’d leave his ass with the other girl and move on.
Leave asap. Let her have him. He’s a pig 
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Kick his ass to the curb. He want his cake and eat it to.
He’s gross, leave girl.
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Don’t do something you’re not comfortable doing. You’ll end up resenting him and hating yourself. Don’t let the fact you have a child together cause you to be backed into a corner and agree to something you don’t want to do. Honestly, at this point it’s probably best to leave him.
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I would tell him cool go find two girls that are into that and I would get my child and I would leave.
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Make him choose…you or the other girl…let him go if he doesn’t choose you…please just let him go…your children don’t need that in their life.
Sometimes ya just gotta throw the whole dude away…
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Man ! If you need to ask strangers , you definitely need self reflection time ! He’s not yours and a DBAG !
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Yeah she’s always been there. Run girl
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Polyamorous, check it out
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If you’re not okay with adult consenting Polygamy, then you know you need to leave. Being a family with someone and being in in relationship with someone are two different things. You’re forever bonded because of the child, but you also don’t have to be miserable living a life you don’t want. A lot of people on this social app forget that there’s many, many types of families, relationships and households that are successful, happy and healthy. So you need to decide what you want in life and then make the necessary adjustments to your current situation. Whatever you choose, it’s Okay. Whatever you decide is the right choice. No one else’s ideals can dictate what makes you happy, so do what you think is best for you and your child. Best of luck
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Unless you are bisexual and want to explore a polygamous lifestyle then I would say it’s time for you to reevaluate what you want your life to look like and who is worthy to be a part of it.
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Run as fast as you can. You already know the answer.
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Christian Catchot wtf
Whatever you decide to do will be a lesson for your children what do you want to teach them about love?
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He’ll NO. TELL him to go. Be sure to get child support for your little one(s)
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YAH NO!!! He has no respect for you especially if he’s telling you he wants to move his ex in the house along with saying he loves both of you! your child shouldn’t be around that, very unhealthy.
Do you really need to ask? 
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So… he’s wanting to be with you and the other chick? Is that what you’re wanting? If not then you already know the answer. He’s saying he won’t just choose you.
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She never left. She seems to be a staple in his life, and you have kids, so it’s really however you feel about it. She clearly isn’t going anywhere, and will be in you’re and your kids lives. What do you want to happen?
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Kick his ass out!!! He wants his cake and eat it too!! Throw that cake in his face!!!
If you are not into the poly lifestyle than you need to exit the relationship
Look ppl are so different in what they want. If you’re into that kind of thing. The more power to ya. If not then just tell him. And make plans to find your own place.
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Well if you want to be part of his harem, stay.
Decide if poly is for you or not. If it’s not you leave. If it is more power to you.
He literally made a choice he wants the other girl. Unless your willing to be in that kind of relationship sharing him, find resources if you need to or family members and leave
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I’m all for people living how they want, however if you’re not comfortable with it then leave. I’m more comfortable with monogamous relationships myself. But some people do live happily in polyamorous relationships
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I would tell him it’s me or her. Then if he don’t choose then you leave him. That’s no way to live. And no way to bring up your children.
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Um mm, NO… Kick his a$$ to the curb…
Ask him if you can have 2 men love you 
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So he wants his cake and eat it too. You need to leave. She never left. He never got over her (obviously).
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How do you have two kids to him already. It’s only been a year and he hasn’t fully committed to you at all in that time?
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Tell him he has to choose. Make plans to get your own place in case he chooses her. You deserve better.
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GET ANOTHER MAN to be loved by two as well 
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Tell him he’s a fucking weirdo n take your baby’s I think he already showed you his loyalty don’t do it im trien to tell you
do you really have to ask? talk about cake and eat it tell him its you or no one then leave to tell him if he wants her then go to her
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Um, let him go. He didn’t really love you if he’s still in love with her and wants her too. Run.
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Know your worth. Let him have her. Take your babies and be happy
Excuse my language, but fuck that!
Leave him. Date yourself until you’re absolutely in love with yourself. Learn to value your time. Then go on dates with decent/ available men who are interested in you and only you. Don’t waste your time with men who don’t value your time.
Um, unless you guys are in a poly relationship, AND he agrees to let you have another boyfriend, I’d say start making plans for your own place to live and start the child support process ASAP! That is very selfish on his part to ask for time to get over her, lie about being over her and have a kid and possibly one on the way with you, then ask her to move in. Those are all red flags
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If you’re asking, you already know your answer.
Leave.
Leave run and never look back get custody of your kids and run !!!
Tell him to kiss your ass! And get rid of him!
As a non monogamous person I can tell ya that’s not how you pursue it ethically
Bye boy let her have him
Apparently he didn’t get over the girl 
he spent those “breaks” with her 
and now he just wants to make it official… if you don’t fell comfortable with the situation leave him. He’s not going to change 
Are you being serious !?!
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Cut your losses and get out of this situation now. Not only is he crazy but the other girl is nuts too. Don’t let them suck you up in a situation that they are into. You will never be happy in this kind of arrangement.
Questions are can you see him with another woman in your home, are you into women?
This does work for some people but as for me I’m way to jealous and I’m not into the kitty 
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Idk I think you should both explore ethical non-monogamy if that is something that would interest and benefit you as well. There is a clear boundary that he crossed and this is NOT how you go about pursing such a lifestyle RED FLAGS ! However if it’s something you’d like to explore with him then that’s a conversation you should all have together. If it isn’t then yes you should absolutely walk away and close that door. He clearly waited for her but is confused that’s a lot of mess to bring children into.
Oh hell no
How can you even ask yourself that.
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Girl move on unless you want to be sister wives. Sorry I don’t share men. Either it’s me and you or you and that girl NOT all 3 of us. Make him choose but know your worth!
Tell him no right off, he has to make the choice, he is taking liberties indeed
Nope kick him out to go live with her
Uh no… polygamous crap won’t work for either
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Ultimatum. And if he leaves kick the &&)(;;( out of his jewels
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Ask him if you can move a guy friend in to love you. See what he says on that .
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To each their own but nope.
Tell him that will never happen. He has to choose.
Is this serious??? If so, what in the hell is wrong with you that you would even have to ask if you are wrong??? Girl, kick him to the curb and tell him you made the choice for him. Please stand up for yourself and your dignity! What a POS he is for even suggesting that to you. Wow… ladies…. KNOW YOUR WORTH!!!
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Actually should have gotten the first clue when he had to take breaks. Now children are involved
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There is nothing wrong with poly relationships. IF it’s what every party involved wants. It sounds like a no for you, so tell him that.
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