Tell him to grow up. He is a father not Hefner.
If you don’t pick up your crown and run honey…
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Say bro you aint Hugh Heffner 
(i think i spelt his name wrong but you get it)
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What do you want to do? Can you be in a relationship sharing this guy? Can you live with the other gal? Will you be able to let them be intimate and have a loving relationship in front of you? If you can then go for it. But if you can’t then it’s time to leave.
You leave. And let him really see if he wants ypu or her. This is what i did with my partner when she wanted to move her ex into our home. I left and waited. She moved her out a month later because life wasnt what she thought it was going to be with her ex. It took a lot of healing and a lot of open communication, but we have managed to grow as a couple and learned from this happening.
Honestly if you are open to an open relationship go for it but if not then kick him out
Get rid of him the faster the better
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Cut your losses and pack his stuff and change the locks. You have a child to look out for. And possibly another one. I’d be getting a lawyer for child support. I m sorry but I don’t believe that he can love you both the same. He needs to make up his mind and until he does, he’s on his own.
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Leave his ass you are not a second choice and he can have the first hoe to himself he wants the best of both worlds fuck that he does not deserve shit
Always be second in line??
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See him in court…you deserve better for yourself
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My ex told me the same. I told him to count me out and that if he couldn’t choose I would choose for him. I would not go the route because I don’t believe there is a future in it nor do I want to confuse my impressionable kids.
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Guy sounds awful. I’d ditch. He got with you then got you pregnant, while being in love with someone else, and I’m guessing as soon as you got together considering you’ve been together a year and have a child together. Then he does this when you might be pregnant again. Sounds like he doesn’t really care for anyone but himself.
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Hell no honey! If he is not with you and that child drop him! That’s not a positive figure for either of you!
Leave and tell him that is not what u want .
Although it may hurt u choose not to be that women an he should leave or u leave because If this was the case where be loved you this wouldnt even be a thought in his mind because he would be thinking about u and your children.
He is disrespectful for even asking such thing even tho hes being honest . Tell him to figure himself out and leave u and the kids out of it until he does so
Leave with ur kids he’s selfish only out for him self
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Pack your s—- and get out!
Is this a real question?
Drop him like a hot potato!!!
Tell him where to go and how to get there… he needs to get over himself…
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Sometimes i put things into perspective…would u want a man to treat your daughter as such 
…I hope not as he semis to not care or respect you one bit …Do u feel hurt by him loving another women equally and that he would jeopardize his family with you ….it will never work …that’s just insane what if u wanted another partner to move in ??..…does not sound like a equal anything I’m sorry but u deserve to be loved and cared for not hurt and disrespected
U are not his number 1 and his stand in chick untill his love came back into his life.
That wont ever change u either need to walk away or accept that he will always love this woman and try a poly relationship.
Its a strong no for me.
I could never be someones part time fill in chick.
Its easier to break ur own heart then have him do it down the track
I think this comes down to personal choice, I could never do that and I’d deffo leave, but you’re not me so I suppose it depends on what you are and aren’t willing to put up with in a relationship 
good luck 
Is this a joke, like seriously WTF
Do what you think is best for you and your child.
Hit the door Jack !!
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It is prob his way of breaking up without being the bad guy as unless it is part of your religion or lifestyle he has to know it won’t fly.
Tell him as long as you can have another man to love and move in as well. See how he would like it. Totally kidding, but that’s what I would do just to see his reaction lol. I’d be making him kick rocks either way🤷🏼♀️ but some people are able to make stuff like that work, I guess it’s just personal preference. I could never share a man
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Why is this even a question lol
Nope I’m out. That’s my own personal thing though. I do not share end of story.
Tell him you want to have your other dude move in also with him
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Honestly, from his actions looks like he never got over his ex. Now kids are Involved, he wants her but maybe doesn’t want to pay child support. So he now wants two, or he is twisted and thinks he wants 2 spouses. I would personally leave, you definitely deserve to be #1 nothing less.
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Up to you but me i’d laugh, say something like nice try and I’d leave or ask him too.
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Run…as fast as you can and as far as you can!
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You end it and move on. You deserve a man that only loves and wants to be with you.
No, it’s you and the kids or your out. It be his loss, for a girl who already left him before. You do not need that disrespect
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Very simple, tell him to choose his future now. You and the kids or the other woman. He isn’t superior.
Let him go…it will be her until it’s someone else.
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Light his ass on fire when he sleeping 
and only agree if u can have a side piece toooo but me I’m catching a charge
Umm that would be a big hell to the no.
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So the year you’ve been together you’ve been pregnant and he’s needed “breaks” because he’s still been in love with his ex?
Those breaks were him seeing and sleeping with his other girlfriend, they aren’t exes. He’s just now being honest with you that he wants you all to live together and accept each other. You’re just the last person to know. You’ve been sharing him all along. Now that you know, you need to decide if it’s something you want out of choice. 
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it’s up to you. sounds like he wants a poly relationship. if you aren’t up for that it needs to be known.
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You leave his silly a**
If you are interested in being in a poly relationship, go for it. If not, leave.
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Uhm you run and you run fast!
Does he though? Does he love both? Will you be left watching him and her be in love while you clean the house and watch the kids? Does he just want to have his kids and still have sex with the other woman? He’s probably been sleeping with her all along. Id be soooo insecure! But then if he’s genuine and your ok with him and yourself having someone else in the house. Knowing that they’re sleeping together. Maybe if she helped out financially and helped alot with allllll the housework. Personally I couldn’t do it. But in the pit of repetitive monotonous housework and loneliness, I can see the appeal of getting some help.
If you’re not up for a poly relationship then leave. Simple as that.
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Is this really a question 
The obvious answer is to leave unless you want to share him with someone.
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Um no!!! Please tell him he can only have one
HOW IS THIS EVEN A QUESTION???!! What is WRONG WITH young women today? Have y’all been BRAINWASHED that much that you can’t even make a decent DECISION about your own life much less your CHILDS life!
PULL UP YOUR MOMMA BRITCHES and KICK HIS ASS OUT! Let her have his trifling, cheeting ass! 
Shame on them both. Walk away.
Leave, he can’t have his cake and eat it too.
What do you mean what do you do? Honestly! Put your self worth and respect first ffs 
you leave, period.
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Bruh.
But I mean if that’s what you’re into, go for it:rofl: I could never
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First question: are you poly? If answer is no then why are you even asking what to do cus you know the damn answer. 2nd question: if you are poly has he been honest about ask his communication with her? Contrary to popular belief there can still be cheating within a poly relationship and absolute honesty and consent to the situation is required for a successful poly relationship. This doesn’t sound like you’re poly, or even if you are that is the start to a healthy relationship anyways cus it sounds like he’s been continually talking to this other girl behind your back and that’s cheating in any relationship dynamic unless you’ve specifically agreed to be fully open but by your history of “taking breaks” that doesn’t seem to be the case either so… tell him to go be happy with her and to expect the court summons to go over custody and child support
I just love how all of these mom groups now just talk about how bad the boyfriend and the husband is and should I leave it seems like each story gets more far fetched. Like is this really even happening or you just trying to top somebody else’s story.
Kick rocks barefoot…move on , do not let him think this is ok …
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I divorced him over this. It works for some ppl, and doesn’t for others. Chances are, this other woman may have another on the side too. So keep that in mind.
And when you are busy with baby feeding/changing/ teething/ sleepless night, will he be loving up his other woman, and when she corrects your children or tells you how you should care for them how will you feel. Which one if you will be the concubine…her because you are the mother of his children or you because he loves her longer and more???
Go to when he had to take brakes in your relationship as he was still not over the ex, and you were pregnant with his child…did he move out…where did he go…send him there again, bag and baggage…one way ticket…have self respect and self worth. You and your children would more than likely get very hurt in such a relationship. He was disrespectful enough to ask such of you because you alliwed him to disrespect you all through that pregnant year by “taking brakes” How dare he get you pregnant with while not 100% committed to you and his child. I would be outraged with both of them 
. Good luck 
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Don’t be shy get amongst it girl
Leave quickly. Get him for child support.
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Run and leave quickly. If he can’t choose you and only you then obviously he ain’t for you.
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Ummm he is a scumbag
Simple
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Hell naw don’t you let another woman come into your home like that!! It will be nothing but problems!! I promise you I’ve been there and tried that but he can’t love you equally!! And if you have a child and maybe one on the way, he should have more love for you than her¡ You are carrying on his blood line
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Are you serious, you have to ask if you should kick him to the curb smh
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If you’re not enough for him, why would you want to stay? I’m not knocking polyamory but if it’s not for you, it will only end in your heartache. I sure as hell hope he’s cool with you having a side piece too
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Well he is being upfront and if that’s what you want to do then that’s your decision, maybe you like girls too and it will be fun 
Maaaaan you better make your exit. Damn immature ppl smh
Let her have him… cut your losses and move on… if he can’t choose then that’s the same as choosing her !
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Set a boundary. Your worth it. Her or you
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I’d tell him don’t let the door hit you where the good lord split you. He would be out the same minute he told me that.
Sorry but he’d have to go
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Dream on buddy…what he is really saying is you and him are over dear…no woman in their right mind would share their man or bed with another woman…start packing…
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Unacceptable. He needs to choose. You deserve someone who loves you and commits fully if that is what you want. Do not settle.
If he loved you …you wouldn’t be an option.
Run like the Devil is chasing you, because he is.
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We are not in the Stone Age! You deserve respect!
Unless you want to share your man, leave. Tf you mean what do you do, guurl?
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These men are getting so confident fuck that . Fuck him off , find someone for you and only you!
File for child sipport and kick him to the curb. He will have fun trying to afford the two kiddos he made with you and making it work with her. He’ll learn he made a mistake.
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Get another bf that youll love equally, move him in with the 3 of yall. Start a big family & tv show. Hell why not
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Seriously?? Only you can answer this! Do you want to be in a relationship with more than you and him? If not than leave. That’s not even a question 
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What in the Mormon cult, sister wife having, Utah backwoods, white people bullshit is this?
This is easy….
If you are up for sharing him, go for it.
If you dont, then leave. He will never get over her
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Kick him out. Make arrangements with the court concerning your life. Boundaries boundaries boundaries. Live a peaceful co parent life. Allow someone to love you who can make you number one. Sometime who doesn’t string you along and take advantage of your kindness in allowing them to heal and then in healing hurt you.
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You don’t have to choose. This is unacceptable. Plan on being a single mom. Let him go.
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Kick his ass to the curve
Know your own worth. Don’t settle for being second choice. Leave the creep
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Kick him to the curb
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What do you wanna do?
I mean if you want to be in a pologymy relationship go for it. But that means you all 3 have to communicate
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Your actually asking what should you do If you do this you will feel so bad about yourself you won’t respect yourself There is probably a third girl check his phone he’s laughing with his buddies at how stupid
Who the hell does he think he is, Gods gift to women, you deserve better than that,
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If this is what you want. You will always be THE OTHER WOMAN. Do you want a 3 way relationship?? This is the question.
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if the poly life isnt for you - leave
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No way in hell I would share my man. Let him go and collect child support.
Watch sister wives and than you will know what to do.
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Get out of that relationship
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You choose yourself and your children and you kick him out and let him go to this little fling thing
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Yea no if that goes forward itl no b long before u get excluded n he’ll b aw aboot her ad get rid of him