If your daughter wears the clothes that aren’t on grandma days, just send grandma a pic of your daughter in the outfit🤷♀️
As a grandmother, I buy things for my grandchildren for them. I know they will use it and it doesn’t matter if I see them in it or not. I only care that I gave help when and where needed!
Let your daughter wear what she likes and is comfortable in… she is not a dress up doll!!
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While they are being ridiculous, you returning the dresses for what you see she needs more is is trashy on your behalf. First time mom, gift thought… Blah blah blah. You’re an adult and should know better. No gifts are not to be returned for whatever you want. Imagine every gift you purchased was returned, you’d see it different. I don’t see the big deal dress them in an outfit to see grandma. If they see your child a lot, obviously they will not always be in outfits from… But if they see her like once a yr or a handful of times, girl grow up. Now if y’all see each other every week, they’ll get over it… You also set the tone of how life will be, you “not knowing” you knew enough to dress her for visits, so the clueless act is… Grandmas with children especially the first… Are something else, I will give you that. But, I’d try my best, if that wasn’t enough, oh well… But I wouldn’t be exchanging gifts, your child needed pj’s, you go buy them. Or you talk with them, say I know you love picking… She really could use some, and maybe she’d be happy to by her some lovely pj’s instead of a dress you deem unfit for… Had grandmas, great grandmas buying clothes, when they rarely saw of course, no matter the extravagant dress, it was on for them to see. As the visit became more frequent, you’re going to see my kid in clothes, worked with him, to buy more everyday clothes, or what was actually needed more than party dresses, took time… But, we all want to be there, want them to be there… But bottomed line, short if me never being rude & returning their purchases (tacky!), If they wanted to be bishes… That would have been thier problem. Long as I knew I tried. Which you kind of fudged up… Work from now… And as far as her not sending clothes to you anymore, why would she if the more extravagant dresses you returned.
I buy “gifts” for Christmas and birthday, I don’t need to see the grandkids wear them. Same goes for school clothes. If I want to see them wear it I leave it at my house. I know my daughter is not always going to think of dressing them in what I buy.
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Oh my gosh that’s a lot of drama over nothing. I suggest moving to a deserted island with no cell service lol
You. Are. Not. Obligated. To. Do. Anything. You. Don’t. Want. To!!!
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Your child …Your rules.
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Alexandria Michelle Muñoz my gosh lady, tone it down! Its nice that GMa gives gifts, but when they are given with expectations, it really wasn’t a gift. The giver of the gift may want to gently enquire if there was a specific reason the grandchild didn’t wear the outfit so she might make a more practical gift at another time.
Good luck with your toxic manipulative grandma,that your husband cant see what you see because he was raised by her!I’ve been there and all i can i say is:you gotta fight!for your right!
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A gift is just that! Tell her I’m sorry, the dresses were too dressy and she needed pajamas. If in the future you might want to buy her not so fancy clothes she’s only five. Jokingly just say now come prom time you can take her to buy her dress that she wants. 
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If someone demanded to see my kid in clothes they bought id tell them to come dress them themselves 
I think she sounds abit bitter tbh , glad my kids nans arnt anything like this
She’s a toxic grandma. You dress your child how you see fit and what’s comfortable to her. Or let her wear those fancy dresses and go to the park in them and get all muddy. But I can be hateful. Lol. You do what’s best for your child and what’s best for you. Don’t listen to those other people on their high horses. I didn’t get along with any of my x husbands family and my x husband even stopped talking to them because he saw how toxic they were. I would have a serious conversation with your husband about it. But you do you girl! Be happy. Leave the grandma alone. If she wants to see the kid she can come to your house 
Maybe open up communication with the Grandmother, let her know her gifts are really appreciated, but maybe suggest what is actually needed rather than something super fancy that in reality only gets worn once or twice before growing out of. Just a thought 
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I’m a grandma of 6 and if I give clothes as a gift, I could give 2 shits if I see the clothes on the kids or not. I’m just happy to see them. What they are dressed in should be determined by THEIR parents.
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My mom used to buy my kids clothes as she thought I don’t dress them well enough. She liked to buy fancy dresses that were not practical for everyday use. Since she’s my mom, I suggested she buy dresses that my daughter could use everyday and it all worked out. If we did have an occasion and the fancy dress was needed, we went shopping together and she paid.
This will never change. Grandparents from the man side will always complain ( not to forget that the husband will not support the wife) and grandparents from the woman side will never . Infct they are more understanding and supportive
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Have grandma give you the money and you get what she needs it would save a lot of heartache!
My granny bought me clothes when we were little and we always wore them as mum wasn’t as picky with what we wore however she never bought fancy dresses unless it was for Christmas but mum was there that was they both had a say and both got there own way tell her that if she wants to see her wearing the clothes she has to consult with you on what she needs it’s the easiest way and your daughter sees both sides of the family
If my daughter is given a pretty dress I take a photo of her in it then send it to the person who gave it to her. The MIL sounds like she feels she has some kind of entitlement going on which she shouldn’t have, gifts shouldn’t be given with strings attached. However in saying that they were a gift, just to keep the peace I would have gone to the MIL and explained the situation and then gone from that
I buy from the kindness of my heart to help out not to see them in it if they wear it fine if they don’t fine
As far as returning them for pajamas I would have liked to be aware of that before doing so
It’s a hard one to advise on, i can see from both points of view. Grandparents are such an important part of our lives for, sometimes, so little time and it could come across as unappreciated, however u have made a point of dressing her in the clothes before hand so she is being a little dramatic. Maybe apologise for hurting her feelings? Explain you didn’t see the harm in exchanging for something that was needed since the pyjamas are still the gift from her, just something that she will get more use out of and just say that to avoid any future upset maybe if she wanted to continue to buy her clothes then consider speaking with you or your husband first to see if there is anything your daughter needs? Xxz
I didn’t even read this whole thing…because you are not obligated to do a fucking thing. People saying you’re ungrateful are dicks and probably spend most of their life pleasing other people. I think as a parent the only thing you are obligated to do is take care of that child and you did exactly that. So everyone else can fuck off. If it’s not going to matter in the life of your daughter in 5 years then don’t spend more than 5 minutes worrying about it. Also if grandma wants to see her in the stuff have grandma take her shopping and buy her shit that she likes and that fits properly.
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Yes when grand parents buy clothes for the child even if it doesn’t fit or you need pajamas like you said. Have your husband buy the pajamas. Put yourself in the grandma shoes. You should of kept those dresses not exchange it. Example well just little one not sure if its a comparison…but you buy something for your husband and he goes exchange it for ever reason you would of been hurt. We all may not agree to all grandparents but appreciate and cherish what life they still have on earth. And its okay to apologize and take accountability for your wrong doing and patch things up. You both are married and the pettiness isn’t worth it on both ends. You both need to make it work. I remember the shoes that my son’s grandma bought my son remind you my son is 20 years old now. I had him when I was 17 years old. So for me being so young and immature and thinking that I know it all. His grandma went out and bought him those white shoes that have the velcro on top of it in the hard shell underneath. And my son’s father said Put it on him it will help him walk. And I said hell no I’m not putting those on my son. We argued. I tell you one thing I told my son’s father I’m taking them back to the store. He said no you’re not lol. I said to him he still not putting them on. There goes me being selfish and ungrateful Young and naive. The day that I put those shoes on my son was the day that he was balanced well enough to take his first steps. And even though my son’s father is still not here his mom says I’m the daughter that she never had. The relationship her and I have it’s definitely Unbreakable. He passed away in 2019. We broke up in 2008 but since then we was best friends.
I don’t know maybe I’m Cut From a Different Cloth I take other people’s feelings into consideration and know that my child is in the family of love.
My niece takes pics of her daughter in outfits and shared them with the gifter. I think it’s outrageous the mil is this petty. I think hubby is outrageous as well
I’m a grandma of 10. 2 sweet little girls and 8 little rough and tumble boys. They aren’t our children and we do not have to do a thing for them. We do what we do out of love. We do it because we want to. It strikes me as rude on your behalf. Those were a gift for your child. Regardless if it’s the occasion for something like that or not, we love seeing our grandkids in what we buy them. Even if it’s just once. We miss ours being little. And we love to see grand daughters in cute little frilly dresses, tights, or frilly dress socks, and little patent leather shoes. Pajamas is a parents obligations. Not ours. If you don’t want those GIFTS FOR YOUR CHILD, maybe politely explain she could use more practical clothing. What harm will it cause to spend a couple hours with her grandmother with her dressed up for her. Take pictures. Then put it up. One day those gifts will stop. One day that grandma will be gone. Learn to appreciate her while she’s still here! Because you’ll be sad when she isn’t. Make an old lady happy ffs!
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Imo a gift is a gift and if it’s unusable, then it should be able to be returned…shame on your hubby for not defending you (even if he agreed with his mom).
See if your husband can bridge the gap with you and his mom…have him ask what would be an acceptable apology. I’m thinking maybe grandma and child matching pajamas and a sleepover? I don’t know. I feel like she’s being a petty b. If you want your grandkid to wear the clothes, consult the mom as to size and exactly when you want to see the clothes on.
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I am a grandmother of 45 grandkids and 16 great grandkids and I buy the grandkids what’s in style and if I can’t figure out what they like give the money to either the parents and let them buy it or if the kids are old enough give it to them that would solve the whole issue
So much triggered grandma with conditional gifting🙄. Yes it hurts when ppl don’t use/appreciate our gift, but to throw a fit when she doesn’t dress the kid with her clothes? Grandma is a thug that only wants it her way. No wonder the husband has no balls
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Grandma is using the clothing as an excuse to be a cow. Tell her those dresses didn’t fit,this is my child whom I will dress as I see fit and if you don’t like it too bad. Otherwise you can run it by me prior to even giving to my kid. I tend to make it very very clear who’s the boss in my world and had no problems with that. They know from day one don’t mess with me and my kids so they don’t. Dad needs to pull his head in and undo the apron strings, you are the parent now not her so you are in charge.
You can always buy your daughter pajamas if she needs it. There is no relation to returning a gift and buying palamas from that money. Your conscience is not validating your behavior and you are looking for support. You knew what was the right thing to do. There is nothing wrong in wearing a fancy dress at home, taking a picture and sending to grandma. Fancy clothes don’t need any occasion for a 5 year olds.
If you can’t talk simply write her a letter explain tines were tough to embarrassed ask for help so returned the dress for something kept her warm at night if she can’t accept that the hell w her
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Grandma of 2 here, and I ALWAYS ask my daughter in law what she would prefer me gifting the kids. Whether it be new shoes, pajamas, or a toy. If I do happen to buy something without asking, I always include the receipt. Just because we’re grandparents, doesn’t mean we’re the Almighty. Some of you have forgotten what it’s like to raise kids and put their needs in front of ours.
Returning the clothes was disrespectful. Pajamas is something you could’ve purchased so to grandma, you are spiteful. Folks can say a “gift is a gift, it’s your child” but in grandma’s eyes, it’s not JUST a gift. Those are items that she likes, bought for her granddaughter, would love to see her in them. Try sending grandma some pictures of Baby Girl in the outfits. An apology is not gonna suffice her right now. Gifts are from the heart. No win situation if it’s her first
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Your MIL gives gifts with strings attached! If she were a good MIL she would tell them if they want to exchange it for something else it would be fine!
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Ask Grandma to let you pick out the clothes or ask her for receipts. Say that your daughter is hard to fit or buy for. Ask her to donate to her college fund instead .
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Tell her to fuck off and if the husband does not like it tell him to go back home where is mum can wipe his arse
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I’ve never returned anything someone’s bought for my kids. I agree with her husband, fact is they were bought for the kid and if they needed other things she should have told the grandparents or bought them herself. It is disrespectful and a slap in the face to the grandparents. I’m a single mom to two kids, a ten year old and a 1 year old and I appreciate anything that’s been given to my kids. Even if it’s an outfit for one day that’s one day the grandparents can enjoy making that child happy.
Sounds like she needs to grow up.
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I’m a grandma many times over and you can put your child in whatever you want. Presents shouldn’t come with strings attached.
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This sounds like crazy mind games…. I would try to distance yourself and daughter from the “grandmother” … yikes!
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I’m a granny of 5 grand children, 4 girls 1 boy. I would never EXPECT the parents of my grandkids to put the clothes I buy as gifts on them just to parade them for me. I buy it so they can wear it whenever they want or need. If I see the kids in their new clothes, that’s great, if I don’t that’s also great. If items needs to be exchanged that’s also super. I dont know the need of the child everyday, and if something else is more needed then so be it. The child benefits from it either way. That granny is way too self obsessed. Take a step back and realise that the child is not a dress up doll to be put on display for the benefit of the granny. A gift is exactly that, a gift. So if this granny gifts a toy, is she expected to take it to granny’s house to play with it there also. It’s ridiculous, she must get over herself already. She’s inappropriate!!!
Grandma has narcissistic tendencies….
It’s not Pat Reid’s mother is it ? - if so be careful not to get a good hiding from him.
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We were grateful to gramma for new clothes at Christmas; sometimes only new item we got, evebn underwear, welcome when elsstic shot
Dress your child in clothing they are comfortable in.
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ignore the grandma. You do you. its your child! People need to stop expecting you to do what they want with your child. If exchanging the dresses for pj’s was what your daughter needed at the time so be it, grandma needs to stop acting spoilt. She had her own children to play dress up with.
I wouldn’t even try to fix it. I cba with people trying to take over my babies life. “just because - i have had lids before you know” - you could have 100 kids before, none of them are mine so butt out!
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Grandma sounds like a jealous control freak. I’d happily tell her to do one. How dare she make you feel like that. My mum would be happy that I exchanged it for something my child needed. I wouldn’t bother trying to ‘fix’ it. I’d be steering well clear
I buy clothes for my 6 year old grandson, plus pants and socks to help out. I wouldn’t dare to buy anything for my 15 year old granddaughter as I would be bound to get it seriously wrong, so I give her money instead.
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Am I obligated to dress my daughter in clothes given by grandma?
I can see both sides. Yes, grandma likes to see the child in the cute/pretty outfits she picked out. I would have kindly told her that PJs were needed. I always ask my kids what the grandkids need and sizes. I don’t expect to see them wearing them, but I do like it. Have a talk with Grandma, work things out. Be glad she spends money on your child. Her calling you nasty names is immature and petty. She should have handled it differently.
Send kids to grandmas in said clothing and dress her in whatever you want lol
And takes picture in said clothing then she will have memories of things she picked for them too
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I make a point, as you do, to dress my kiddo in whatever gmas gets her until it doesn’t fit or if my daughter says it’s uncomfortable then I won’t. Even if it’s just around the house or to gmas house. If it’s impractical I try and save it for a holiday so there’s “reason” for a overly impractical outfit… my kids also a disaster and a mess like I am so I always bring other clothes and make a point if I don’t like or think the outfit is appropriate to feed her after arriving. That way Gma sees the outfit but more likely the outfit will have to be changed due to mess. I lucked out and my Gma is practical in what she buys and will even call randomly to see what exactly my kiddo may need. Even if it’s winter clothes in a size up that she found on sale in August.
The way I see it, it’s not gonna matter in 5years,don’t spend too long upset or worried about it. I also try and remember that as grandparents they know their grandchild will outlive them. I do my best to help build memories with kiddo and her grandparents/great grand parents. Even if it’s just pictures in impractical outfits. One day your kiddos not gonna want to spend a bunch of time with grandma. Small battle.
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My daughter wore frilly, should be on a easter card type dresses to the damn store 
why? Because it made her grandma happy . When she hit 4 she refused to wear dresses anymore lol its a simple,stupid.thing. like if i buy a gift i expect to see it used.
I understand her wanting to see baby girl wear them but gezz that is stressful. I would have done the same thing though. Gifts also should not come with strings attached. She acts as if the child can only wear clothes she bought… which is ridiculous! And it’s also very very petty of her to only keep them at her house. Why even buy them?? That’s also not a gift. “Here is a pretty new dress/shirt now take it off and leave it here.” My daughter would be so upset if she had to leave her clothes and she’s 4 also.
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Grandma needs counseling. Does she have a daughter of her own ? Maybe that is what this is all about .
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Grandma needs to get over herself. They’re just clothes. Who cares if she’s wearing what grandma bought her. She’s 5 let her pick her own clothes and tell grandma to stop being so nosey. It’s not the end of the world if she goes to see grandma in clothes that grandma didn’t buy. She’s your child not your MILs child.
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If grandma is throwing a tantrum over the clothes she buys, maybe she should ask what is needed before she buys the clothes!
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you’re MIL is a gaslighting narcissist. There is no fixing it by design honey. Disengage. It’s truly the only way.
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I am the “Dram”(my grands name for me) of 3. IMO, your husband’s mom is being ridiculous. Grandchildren aren’t chess pieces that you use to play games with. Gifts shouldn’t have strings attached, especially gifts from gparents. If she loves her gdaughter and wants to offer gifts, she needs to let them be received as gifts…
otherwise, she should keep them.
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I can see both sides but I think grandma needs to stop buying as many dresses so little one can get some use out of it rather than only wearing it to go to grandmas, instead of grandma buying so many un needed clothing why doesn’t grandma ask mum if child needs anything in particular.
When grandma does buy something why doesn’t mum put it on child and take a pic and send it, with a caption of something like thanks fits perfectly or oops just a little too big,
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It all sounds extremely PETTY.
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This is so silly on all parts. Seriously there are more major things going on in this world that grandma’s choice of clothes. She is your daughter, it is your choice. Grandma sucks and of I were you I wouldn’t give it a second thought
My grandma (my daughters great grandma) buys my daughter clothes for gifts and if she’s at a store and see’s something on sale or something. I don’t always like the clothes, but I make an effort to at least have her wear them once so my grandma can see her. She’s just trying to help and who doesn’t love shopping for little girls. My mother told my grandmother that I might not like the clothes and that she shouldn’t buy them. She continues to buy them, but knows I might not have her wear them. I maybe would have asked her about returning the dresses for pajamas first or casually mention that your child has many beautiful dresses, but would really benefit from some pajamas instead the next time she decides to get her clothing. It is a harder situation with it being your mother-in-law. Can you have your husband try to explain to her? I know he seems to agree with her, but it makes sense to put needs over wants. Good luck 
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She’s controlling and your husband can’t think for himself. You are not obligated to make your child wear grandma’s clothes. Let grandma have her tantrum.
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As a Mimi I buy my grands clothes and love seeing them wear them but I do NOT expect them to wear the clothes when I am around or send me pictures. I do it for my fun and pleasure. She needs to get a life.
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Wow cut her off, she’s toxic. She sounds like she’s got some issues, if she’s that jealous or upset about whether or not clothes are being worn. You’re the child’s mother and responsible for clothing your own child. She definitely has control issues, and no wonder the husband sides with her, cause she probably controlled every aspect of his life. We always request no clothes as gifts, no exceptions. Even toys whew kids don’t need a house full of stuff. Just Pure, unconditional love
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Let her sleep in the dress next time…grandma gets to see the dress, and you have pajamas. Problem solved.
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when i buy my grandkids clothes , it is with no strings attached but their mothers usually make sure i see them on the kids .
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Tell her to suck your dick
Grandma is being just a tad bit petty. If I buy my niece or nephew something and their mom returns it for something they need, I’m fine with that. Grandma needs to ask what the kiddo needs and go from there.
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Petty on all parts. Both of ya’ll are acting like your daughters age. 
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How would she know that your daughter was wearing an outfit the other grandma got unless you said something? Lol this sounds so petty. When people get my daughter clothes I do try and take a picture for them in it. It’s always nice for them to see! But obviously it’s not required!
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I must be blessed because our Mimi, Nana and Mamaw usually always ask what he needs when they buy my son clothes. And if it’s something adorably cute I do send them pics in the outfit
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Sounds like how both my grandmas acted when I was growing up and now I’m 26 and not on speaking terms with either. That’s controlling behavior and it won’t stop with clothes.
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When my mom or MIL buys my daughter gifts most times they give me the receipt (without me asking) in case I don’t like it or it doesn’t fit… they’ve never expect to see her in what they bought…. But just like you I do try to make sure that they see her in what they purchase.
She shouldn’t be upset that your daughter is wearing something that someone else has bought her… your daughter has more than one set of grandparents that both love her….
I’m sorry that she’s being so ugly about it… and I’m sorry that your husband isn’t standing up for you either!
MIL is not treating you kindly. Husband could be more helpful. I can see both sides. As a mom, your child needed PJs. As a grandma, she spent her time and money choosing dresses. My MIL chooses very fancy dresses that generally are not practical for our lifestyle (where we go/what we do); however Grandma has told me she is okay if granddaughter wears the even outside to play. Daughter loves looking all fancy in her dresses. They grow so quickly, let her wear them first to see Grandma, then around the house, to the store, church, school, etc. Choose your battles. Life is too short. MIL may enjoy giving dresses to gd. I personally would talk with her and say sorry for returning the dresses. You felt that is what was most practical. Suggest she could ask if anything is needed or you could even in everyday conversation, hint that something is needed. Most situations, the parents provide and grandparents spoil. Talk with her, and stay calm. Maybe mention too how she has hurt you with the name calling instead of talking with you. It will all be fine.
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A good grandma always asks whats needed imo…personally I dont expect to see my grandaughters dressed in clothes ive bought…im just glad to see them
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I think you both sound ridiculous. How on Earth would she know if your daughter was wearing something from her maternal grandma unless you specifically said so during the visit to bait her?
If your daughter needed pajamas, I understand your decision to return the dresses. However, maybe a courtesy call to Grandma, informing her of why you were doing it and letting her know that you appreciated the original gift and liked it, but needed to make sure your daughter’s needs were met would have been the polite thing to do. That call might have even resulted in Grandma offering to go and pick up some pajamas. I know that my own mother would never allow her grandchildren to go without something they need.
I think both of you need to stop antagonizing the other. She was excited to shop for a little girl. She bought her impractical little dresses, the kind that makes my own mother stop and awww in the middle of the store. I am due with a little girl, my mom’s last grandchild and only girl, in 2 weeks. If she wants to buy her impractical little dresses, I will find reasons for her to wear those dresses and make sure my mom sees it. My mom won’t be around forever; this is the way she’ll leave my daughter with precious memories. Your MIL will not be around forever, either. Let your daughter enjoy her grandma’s spoiling while she can.
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IMO, grandma can suck a fart. At 5, my daughter was mostly picking out what she wanted to wear day to day. I couldn’t imagine keeping track of who gave what and need to wear it if….nah, too much effort.
When people buy my children clothing I make a point to take a picture of my children in the clothes they bought and send the picture to that person because we don’t see our relatives all that much because we’re busy or they are. I just make a point to show the kids wearing them even if they are ugly. Xx
You can’t fix a relationship with that toxic mental case. She sounds horrible.
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Your mil and your husband are both childish asshats. 
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As a grandma I would love to see the little one in the clothes we buy, but it’s not necessary nor is it expected. However, the kids got so many clothes at the baby shower and clothes are what most people gift. We prefer to buy things they need regularly - formula, baby food, diapers etc… things they actually use regularly. There will be plenty of time to buy clothes when they become teens and their own style appears.
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Old people are weird. It is just a respect thing. Put the damn dress on the baby and wear it for grandma. Keep the peace when possible and choose your battles. I personally, miss when grandma bought my kids clothes. I wish I had that. Count your blessing that you have family that cares.
Selfish and narcissistic tendencies from grandma. Very common among that generation. We, the grandchildren are the ones learning to actually be good Humans now.
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I think I would of asked for the receipt or even just told her I need to exchange them because the dresses are to fancy to just wear out when you don’t have any place to go. My daughter loved wearing all her dresses fancy or just plain outside or even to the store especially seeing she loved playing dress up. I would maybe also let the grandma know she has enough clothes and needs pajamas so maybe she’ll buy some instead especially seeing a lot of grandparents love shopping for their grandchildren.
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that’s bullsh! t u don’t need to dress ur child in the clothes she buys all the time and if there’s something ur babygurl needs u are allowed to exchange it who she to come up with such crap rules and ur husband needs to man up to his mother his a mommas boy going with all the shit she says do not allow her to creep into ur marriage and or ur beliefs of mothering she had a chance to be a mother she should get lost if she will not listen to you trying to fix anything don’t put up with it she will run ur lives forever if u do
Do what I do. Put her in them take a photo and then when the question it just say year she wore them … weeks ago I’m sure i took a photo I see if I can find it.
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This whole scenario is petty.
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Yes, get pictures taken, make sure gramma gets one, and move on. Stop being so petty, complaining isn’t a hobby.
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Next time she starts up, through it back at her that maybe she needs to buy practical clothing for your daughter then she can wear it more often
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At one point I had to tell my former in laws to quit buying my kids stuff because I was going keep hurting there feelings and if they wanted to keep being involved with my kids they had to back off they did and now days we have a great relationship even after me and there daughter got a divorce
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Bruh all you people calling grandma toxic are just being a people pleaser, 1st question is why couldn’t you buy her pjs outta your osn money?? Or husbands no wonder she buy clothes for her house id feel you’d just exchange them again as you please… And 2nd is whats the harm anyway? It dosent take much for grandma to see her in the clothes she buys if there fancy they must be costly so id wanna see too and thirdly be honest with yourself i know deep down your pissed she has clothes just for her house but that’s on you stop being petty and playing tic tac toe there nanas out here who don’t buy shit for there grandkids… So be GRATEFUL… And cut the shit 
I wouldn’t wear the “fancy dresses” and I would tell my grandma that and she would still buy them for me. My parents both told her it was my choice to not wear them and she would still get pissed when I wouldn’t wear them. Ask your daughter if she wants to wear them.
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I am a gramma. I could say yes, you wish to see that outfit on, but if you don’t, you don’t. Sounds like she is being selfish. And I agree with you, a gift is given from the heart. There should be no strings attached
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Sounds like being petty runs in their family. I would just ignore that it’s not worth your time or an argument with your husband. Just let it go.
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I’m siding with Grandma. You’ll have a change of heart after she’s dead and the gifts stop coming.
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