My fiance had a women at his job do the exact same thing to me and I blew my top on her I put it out there I’m his fking fiance and when she became relevant then she can ask questions. Let’s just say she backed up once I told him what had happened because then he blew his top. But she was also the type of girl trying to sleep with half of his job lol. Stand your ground with him and let it be known you won’t tolerate any of that and if he rather side with another female than his wife then he isn’t a man
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If it looks like a snake and walks like a snake ! Guess what ? Its a 
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Sounds like he’s cheating on you, you have more patience then I do because I would of hit her in the mouth!
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I have lots of close men I work with and were like a work family. All off us girls and guys work so closely together you become a family. Doesn’t mean by any means my hubby is jealous etc he doesn’t care as he knows nothing is going to ever go on. I chose my hubby for a reason 
its the same with his work as well with guys and girls.
However the not introducing as wife thing I would have an issue with that as both our works know of hubby and I and our children.
I would have a much needed sit down and go over your feelings about it and go on from there.
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I dont think your overreacting about her behavior, but I think you might be about his…
For starters…
What exactly would you like your husband to do?
Quit his job?
And then what?
Struggle to find another so you could bitch hes lazy and be unhappy with him in that way?
Lie and get her fired?
Tell her off and possibly cause issues for himself at work?
He knew this cup would piss you off…but if it’s his job or something he does for extra $$$ then it would be worse to deny her if hes done them for other coworkers.
I’m not saying you’re for being upset, but you need to sit down. Put your feelings to the side for a minute -you already know what those are- and figure out what you feel is a logical and reasonable solution that doesnt hurt you but also doesn’t hurt your husband.
No you are not over reacting. I know how “work gf/bf” shit works. There is something going on weather it be emotional or physical. It’s something. And she obviously doesn’t know who you are so he isn’t telling her who you are or at the very least acknowledging that he is a married man. And he should be making it known to his coworkers especially to women that he is married out of respect for you. You deserve better girl.
Your gutt feeling is never wrong!!! Go with it!!!
Thats not even the problem. Regardless out of love and respect for you he should do whatever it is to make sure you know how much he loves you. If he cannot its time to find someone thay does
I’d check a bitch real quick. Like Hello I am Nicole the beautiful and faithful wife of xyz for 15 years… and these are the beautiful fruit of our loins, and you are??? (Then mutter irrelevant)
Maybe not cheating…yet
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Nope…your not overreacting…you already know…trust your gut…dont close your eyes…you can not be deceived unless you choose to be!!
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In my opinion, a man who does things that you’ve expressed is not okay with you is trash.
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The only problem I would have is that she had to ask who you were after working with your husband for so long. Does your husband not introduce you or talk about you?
Aside from that, I would not freak out…but I would pay attention and possibly start digging a little.
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Mind your own business bc if not its gonna get you into trouble… She had every right to ask who you were seeings how you were rude by just inviting yourself over to their table that u had no business to be at…
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If it feels wrong it probably is! It’s him not her that’s the problem
Always trust your gut. 99% of the time it’s right. I dealt with the same thing. But caught my ex already out with the girl while I was 9 months pregnant. Follow your gut and don’t put up with anything you’re not comfortable putting up with. Sorry you’re going through that. It’s so shitty!
Nope, I don’t play that shit. She would’ve gotten called out after that first hug. But I’m extra so I’d end up going to his job and telling her to back the fuck up
The coffee and and hug aren’t that big of deal those I do think you may be overreacting. The the not introducing you after she was like “who are you?” That I would be livid at. One thing for her to say another thing for him not to proudly introduce his wife. I do think that could have caused the reaction on the other things. I would talk to him and tell him your issues and concerns. I’d also follow the logic (because something tells me he either won’t see anything wrong or deny) keep your friends close and enemies closer. If they are such good friends she won’t have a problem getting to know you. That will be the test on what her motives are. Once presented with that if your husband still chooses to ignore or dismiss than the problem really isn’t her… it’s him. She can do whatever she wants but if he allows it or gives into it that’s on him.
That lady seemed to get a little defensive asking who you were. I would have shut it down than but I have a temper. Does your husband play into her game ? Like he hugs back . Or he waited for you to answer her or did he answer for you. My ass would have answered her before my husband could have turned his head. And I would have been nice about it. And as for making her freaking anything I would have put I am his freaking wife on the bottom of her cup! Just pay attention to your husband’s reaction to her. And I would bring it up to him.
Ugh nope. I don’t really have compromises when it comes to things like this. If I it makes me uncomfortable then we talk about it and come up with what would make me comfortable. Set up boundaries, etc. sometimes the boundary is stop all contact and communication and that’s that. Same goes for me.
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Nope!
Huge red flags!
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I feel like the girl should of known who u was already from the festival. The full body hug alot of festivals ppl actually do that as kindness. Shame on your husband for not properly introducing you as his wife first an foremost. However when he passed up the second chance to properly speak up and introduce you. I’d very blantly would have said Im his wife who are you, Im sorry i don’t think we met an nipped that shit in the butt real fast myself. Speak for yourself… Now if your truly worried about this girl at work invite yourself to have lunch with him at work. If he doesn’t take up your offer you have your answer that hes hiding something at work
He sounds like he’s doing something he shouldn’t be doing! Red flags to me.
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If the girl asked you rudely saying who are you, I say, say the same to her and to see what she says to make it uneasy when your husband approaches. If see she says I’m with him your husband.
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You may be but sometimes you gotta trust your gut. Something similar happened to me and sure as shit he was talking with her, inappropriately. I don’t believe he cheated with her, but only because I called him out on it. She was not the first, and certainly wasn’t the last. The last one he actually did cheat with and I finally left his loser ass after 16 years of marriage. I’m not saying he is, but it is worth a conversation…and some investigation if you catch my drift…
Your hubby is the problem here seems hes 0 respect
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If he’s not cheated yet he’s going to with her. If he loved you like he’s suppose to he needs to introduce you and no full body hugs.
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Trust your gut instinct!!!
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That sounds shady af.
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What’s a cup order like he bought her a mug or
Went through something similar. This woman wanted to carpool to and from work with my ex (he wasn’t my ex at the time we were in a 10 year long relationship) which was an hour n half commute twice day. Wanted to take him and his daughter to a water park without me or my daughter included. He was always doing favors like fixing her parent’s truck, etc… I hated it but kept my mouth shut other than saying no to him carpooling with her and the water park thing. 2 years later i find out he was having an affair with her the whole time. Even took my daughter to her house during our split. Don’t ignore it but that’s my opinion. He obviously didn’t tell her about you.
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There is a lot of things wrong with this, but if he were to express that it was for his coworker and which one and why, I wouldn’t have been bothered by it. I have bought things for my coworkers that I know they’d like when I see something. I’ve had my coworkers give me money for gas and food before, so I do what I can 
but he’s sketchy for sure
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Been there, questioned it and there now married 6months after my divorce was final. Would have been sooner if they didnt have waiting period.
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Joanna trust your instincts talaga hahaha
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Something similar happened to me. Except my now ex had me become acquaintances with the lady. We’d text back and forth, get together for play dates with the kids. I always felt uncomfortable by them together but just brushed it off as being insecure. Found out after we broke up he would fuck her after work most days before he came home.
Trust your gut.
Red flags trust your gut and get out
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Um not over reacting really but I think your gut feeling is telling you something very important pay attention to it as my mom use to say your gut feeling is never wrong
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There is an affair going on here wake up! Exactly what my Ex was doing. He finally admitted to it about a month later.
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Cheater Its hard to believe or accept I lived it… 
Don’t say a word!!! Take a month and account for all his movement. Time at work, time other places. Verify that he is where he says he is. Don’t let him know what you are doing. If a month passes and you find nothing, then I wouldn’t worry.
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I’ve been on the other side of the fence being pursued and trying to fend off someone’s husband at work the lengths he went to were shocking. Some men are just dogs. Trust me Your husband is up to no good
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Trust your instincts always. Something definitely going on. Already lying about small things
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She didnt even know who you were. I would’ve came unglued when she said that!! I would run!
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Not over reacting at all. He is your husband and he needs to be on your side about this!! That’s not ok for him to shrug his shoulders and pretend like it’s nothing. And she knows what she’s doing and it’s severely disrespectful. You don’t go up to someone else’s husband and wrap your arms around him! That’s just disgusting
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A friend told me “Your head will lie to you, your Heart will lie to you but your Gutt will always tell the truth”
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Sounds like she’s the one with the issues and jealousy. Maybe the husband is feeding into it maybe he isn’t. Just keep trying to find answers without hurting ur marriage
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Itd bother me too. & I would’ve said something at the hug lmao that wouldn’t fly w me
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I think he is behaving very inappropriately. Sounds like he has a thing for this woman. Confront him about your feelings. Trust your intuition
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The fact that she didn’t know you were his wife is the biggest red flag! She should know hes married and has children if she can come up to him and full on hug his ass like that.
She knows who you are. She’s just wanting to get under your skin. She knows exactly what she’s doing and if you’re husband doesn’t stop it and respect your feelings about it you need to get gone, girl.
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Sounds like you should have told her I am his Wife Who Are You?
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Had this happen to me trust your gut
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A women’s gut instinct is always right. Listen to it. I know this from experience. It’s obvious to me what is happening or going to happen. This is very suspect and you know it!
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Sounds like something was going on this entire time
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Communication is key. Tell him your feelings and why you feel the way you do. He possibly needs to also ensure his coworker understands their relationship and he is happily married.
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That sounds like he’s cheating and has been for a while. Start asking more questions. I don’t like his behavior at all that’s suspicious
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He didn’t say which coworker the cup order was for because he knew you would react the way you did. He did it to spare an argument. I wouldn’t assume anything 
but I also wouldn’t stay in a relationship I didnt feel secure in either
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No. You are not…ask for honesty OR you are done.
Genuine question… did you ever confront your husband on it? because honestly, without communication nothing will ever be solved.
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He got you a cup order? That’s it? A year ago she gave him a hug and then asked you who you were at the company Christmas party? If you’re that insecure over those things, I’d not tell you who the cup order was for either.
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I’ve been through something similar and now that things are ok and the chick is out of our lives I regret not leaving. Now our daughter is old enough to understand daddy isn’t around so it makes it harder to leave even though he isn’t doing it now. It the sheer disrespect that bothers me still.
Be honest with him on how you feel… I had to do this last year… MY hubby had emotional ties to this woman and he did end up admitting it. We are together and he left that job . IF he does it again he’s gone… I dont’ share. Even the emotional part of a relationship.
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Generally in my experience if you feel that something is off/wrong, it probably is. Trust your gut and confront him.
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Any woman gives my husband “a full body hug” she will have a full bruised and broken body.
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if he is not cheating he wants to
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- I would’ve punched her for being rude 2. I’d punch my husband for not speaking up
yep. Somethings going on, like everyone is saying… trust the gut
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Trust your gut, sounds like something in the milk isn’t clean. I would’ve checked her with the full body hug, like “A bit much for a greeting, dont you see each other everyday?”
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overreacting to what? I’m still to understand the problem?
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And she asked you who you were ? Wrong ! Here’s your sign
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She asked you who you were because she knew who you are. Playing innocent
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Shady asf for both of them. I wouldn’t trust neither as far as I could kick them
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That’s his work wife
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You should’ve speak up the first time, when you saw them hugging. Never leave things in the air. which you feel uncomfortable with. No matter how small, talk to your partner. Also, trust your gut. Maybe the flirting is completely one sided or not. But seriously communicate, communication is key.
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Talk to your husband. There is no such thing as just a friendship with flirting. She is out of line and your husband should have told her so.
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- I would have asked who tf she was hugging my husband?
- I would have said his f’in wife!
- I would destroy the cup because he was shady with it or I’d put a note inside it that says from his wife!
- I’d tell him to kick rocks
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How do u know the cup order is for her and not someone else?
Second off what’s the problem? I’ve had many women ask me who I am in front of my husband and have hugged him, I’ve put them in their place and straight up said who i am. They back off quickly…
Why not bring it up with your husband too
Pick up dog shit with the cup n rinse it with toilet water
That should make ya feel better when you find out the truth.
I would think something is going on based on the tone of her voice when she asked who you are. Because one that tells me he never mentioned you to her and 9 times out of ten a woman isn’t getting rude like that with another woman unless it’s their man.
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Id leave shady as fuk.
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The fact he didn’t say who you were when she asked says something. He doesn’t want her to know about you or that he has a wife. Definitely something going on. Should of left a long time ago smh.
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There’s something going on there for sure. She gives him a full body hug and he doesn’t put her in her place and then she says you who are you. She should know you are his wife. Check his phone and now and then show up to his work unexpectedly.
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I think the fact the hug made you feel uncomfortable that says a lot! I’m super surprised he didn’t introduce you if they are such good friends, to the point of hugging, does he talk about her at home? I hear about all my husbands work friends.
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Definitely not! I agree trust your intuition! It’s usually always right. I trusted mine years ago and I was right. If your husband doesn’t put her in her place then you should.
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No you aren’t over reacting. If I tell my husband I’m uncomfortable with the way so and so treats you or me guess what he is going to break all ties that his job doesn’t require him to have. And he is going to address anyone especially a female who is being rude to me. And it’s the same way with me. If so and so makes him uncomfortable I cut all ties. I’m nice and if I bump into them at the store or something ill say hi but thats it. We both set strong boundaries and among the first sentences we say to the opposite sex is more or less im married
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Your husband should of said something when the woman asked “who are you?” Other than that, yes you’re over reacting. It’s ok for men to have female friends. Platonic relationships are normal. Of course he knew you would overreact, you had an issue with a hug.
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Your husband needs to be the one to fix this. Some lines have been crossed obviously by him. If it bothers you there’s an issue. She doesn’t know who u are either. I would have said im his wife this is our son. If he didn’t I would. She might not know he’s married.
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That wouldn’t fly with me at all! You are not overreacting but you need to say something and next time your at these company things introduce yourself as his wife 
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It is not appropriate for a married man getting full body hugs from a coworker. Maybe a long term friend from like childhood. If you feel uncomfortable you’re husband should respect that. I’d put money on it that something is going on.
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Trust your instinct. We are way more perceptive than we often give ourselves credit for. When that little voice in your head is screaming that there’s something off, there probably is.
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I just read this to my husband to get a mans perspective and even he thinks that your husband is being a little sketchy. He said “that’s weird that he didn’t introduce his wife to a coworker and that he avoided her question. That’s not right”.
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Not overreacting. At all. I even just read this to my other half, and he just said you’re not overreacting about it. I’d be having a very long convo with the husband & if he didn’t put a stop to the inappropriateness, there’d be an end to the relationship.
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Sometimes we avoid difficult conversations by labeling our feelings something like over reacting. The fact is you need to have an open honest conversation with your husband. Don’t be ashamed of your feelings and don’t go into it with for-drawn conclusions.
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If he knows something is going to bother you and does it anyway, he doesn’t respect you. Nip it in the bud. Tell him to figure out his priorities and they should be family first. I don’t condone divorce but I demand respect. The next time she acts the way she does, (who are you) tell her who the hell you are so that she doesn’t forget it. If he can’t get it together, hire a great lawyer to get the best alimony to support you and your children and she won’t touch him anyway. Have enough respect for yourself hon.
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I’d poke microscopic holes in it so her drinks slowly leak out. And no, when she asked “who are you?” I would be PISSED. Let the shoe be on the other foot…but with stay at gome Moms, our husbands dont have to worry about coworkers. Care free for him, huh?
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Either he is into her or he is a pansy for allowing her to talk to you that way. OR both
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If it makes you uncomfortable their relationship already went to far
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Not overreacting in my opinion if she feels comfortable enough to give him a close hug in public there is more affection going on.
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Well I’m not sure. How many co-workers, of the opposite sex, have you ever embraced in a full body hug?? These are red flags. Big ones.
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Women are very intuitive when it comes to the man we love. We know in our heart when something isn’t right
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I dont go around hugging my coworkers!! Especially a full body hug. And if he’s not man enough to speak up when she made that RUDE comment to you something IS going on!!
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