Reading this, my heart hurts for you 
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Iād say you have cause for Concern .
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Trust your instincts!
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Follow your gut feeling.
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Heās hiding something from you. He probably is at least sexting with this tramp. It depends on how much you are willing to tolerate.
Trust what your gut is telling you
gut instinct, my friend
Talk to her the co worker
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He is 100% cheating on you!!!
Become her best fuckn friend.
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Introduce him to your homewrecker. Find one.
Cuss his ass out! Get his number changedā¦
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Trust your instincts.
What the fuck!! I am seeing red flags everywhereā¦ Your justified, he isnāt.
Na fuck that thatās shady. I donāt like it one bit!
Itās a no from me id be out!!
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If he did nothing wrong, there would be nothing to be defensive about.
Emily Willard thoughts?
Ya sheās his work wife rn. Leave him
Shoot i hate dudes a lot i would legit tell the woman if he is showing interest in her. She can FUCKING HAVE HIM. If he keeps acting trashy you dont wanna look like a possum defending a garbage can. Dont hold on to someone who wouldnt do the same for you. And when she gets bored of him he can sit and cry while you step up in life.
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Iād be hiding a body by now
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Heās clearly cheating and likely has been cheating the whole time. Get rid of him and move on.
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Unfortunately this is how it startsā¦
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Nope let the clowns be clownsā¦leave
She didnāt āimplodeā the co-workers marriage, the married co-worker did.
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Leave. You can find better!
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Get out now! Be there done that! LEAVE ASAP!
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Kick him to the curb.
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Plan for your escape, now.
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I call bullshit on him. Leave him.
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Sounds like he told you sheās a home wrecker so youād blame her and not him if you caught him cheating. Or so he could gaslight you about it when you did get paranoid so that you would second guess yourself. Seems like heās trying to cheat and keep his relationship at the same time. Either way itās not cool, seems abusive and you shouldnāt be putting up with that behaviour. Putting up with this kind crap teaches your child to let their future partner abuse them too. Itās better to lose a relationship than lose your self respect and thatās the kind of lesson your child will benefit from when theyāre older. Were taught as women if our marriage fails then we have failed but thats simply not true. Your happiness matters more and itās better your child go through a separation now instead of later.
The way i found out my husband cheated was 1. The way he acted and 2. I went threw his phone when he was asleep. He changed his code to his phone but im not stupid. Needless to say im a single mom whos struggling. If hes hiding things from you thats strike one. Him sending toddler pics is strike 2. Her txting nonstop strike3 her knowing where u live 4. See where im going. Hes cheating on you with the backhoe.
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Heās keeping her around for when YOUR marriage implodes.
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He sounds like a douche tell him her or you
Tell em both. Go off on both of them cuz clearly theyāre both in the wrong. The stupid hoe knows what sheās doing and so does he. Fuck em both.
First of all! You better go down to his job and find Susan! Let her know in front of everyone she better understand how things are gonna go from now on. ACTUALLY, WHERE SHE WORK?! I GOT YOU! Girl if you donāt lay down the hand of GOD!! On both dumb and dumber smh. He needs to have all the damn respect! You are his woman and mother of his child! Please ask him if Susan is worth his damn family! And say it with your chest!!!
Although I am a widow now, I was married for twenty years. First, I would never be with a man that I had to say to him, āI donāt want you to talk to / interact with, etcā ANYONE, male or female. My husband and I decided the day we got married, in short, lookāyou want to be with someone else, let me knowāI will help you pack. No need to make demands, sneak around. I am oversimplifying that conversationāit was not at all a glib or jocular one. It was a serious conversation, the point of which wasāI would never want to be with someone who did not want to be with me (and vise versa for him). So if that point ever came, we didnāt have to hide texts, calls, email. Either of us were free to say how we felt at any given time, as hard as it would be to hear from the other one, saying for whatever reason, they were no longer happy. I never gave him reason to mistrust me, nor did he, knowing there was not a need for deceit. Twenty years, and it worked until the day he died in a tragic accident. I would never be with anyone who 1. I had to TELL them who they could talk to and 2. was with me because I was forcing them to be. Itās not this womanās fault your man is disloyal. A man isnāt a thief (or cheater) because he steals. He STEALS because he IS A THIEF. In short, he is what he is āshe was just an opportunity to reveal it.
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I never understood the idea of a āhome wreckerā. If I am in a bank and the vault is opened and there are stacks of money sitting there, under ANY circumstances, am I going to steal it? I am not. Why? ONE reason. I am not a THIEF. Men or women who cheat do so because they are inherently disloyal. No man or woman wrecked your home----Just like you would never grab stacks of money from a bank because it is the wrong and immoral thing to do, fidelity and loyalty are about character. You could parade all the opened bank vaults in front of me and Iām not stealing the money. I am not a thief. Likewise, no one āwrecked your homeā. The problem is not with the OPPORTUNITY. The problem is with the character of the actors.
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Had same thing happen , women txting from work all hours , he said about work or other women txting and heād say sheās a friend from school , sheās on my fb but when I started asking questions heād get super mad and defensive , that told me all I needed to know ā¦
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Sounds to me like heās riding that bicycle too. Leave girl.
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Considering he told you how she knowingly is a home wrecker and the drive by honking and knowing where you live the bikini pick and the constant texting and not letting you see the texts yea I would flip myself. Tell him how you feel cause all this is a big red flag. If he didnāt stop I would honestly probably say itās me and your child or her. Heās letting her in knowing she likes takin men thatās a big red flag in its self. But remember itās not just her fault itās his to.
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Yeah that is a big NOPE. Plus if he is messing with the company whore, basically what hes saying, he must be just as disgusting as she is.
Never tolerate being in a relationship with another that devotes more time, energy, affection, etc. to someone else. Seems like heās really enjoying her attention, possibly, the ābike rideā already. He invited her into his life by carrying on with her at this level, and you deserve someone who always puts you first. Good luck.
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Nope Iād raise hell 
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Sheās single she can do whatever she wants. Your bf needs to say no.
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When I first started reading this I was like omg another jealous woman practically rolling my eyes. Then I got into the details of the story and youāre right, itās suspicious.
I always give everyone the benefit of the doubt and Iām saying this.
Esp the part about not being allowed to see the messages.
An innocent man would do anything to clear his name. So either theyāre already screwing around, theyāre planning it, or he talks shit on your marriage and he donāt want you to see it.
You got yourself a problem in my opinion
Heās hiding something 
sorry
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If he isnāt already cheating, heās emotionally cheating right now. Iād give him an ultimatum, itās either you & family or Susan & probably STDs. Js. Idc who my husband talks to and he can be friends with anyone he likes because I trust himā¦but I wonāt trust a female until I know them. With the way heās actingā¦I feel like heās cheating or is about to.
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You better cut the strings to that one real quick or your relationship is over. Sounds like heās ringing the bell to that bicycle.
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Your man riding the company bike
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Leave the douche. Thatās ridiculous. I had my run on with Susan and my ex husband. 3 years wasted when I chose not to leave for our kids.
Im sure you want your family together but trust me youāre going to be so miserable. Every time his phone goes off, every time he goes to work or does anything thatās all youāre going to think about. Iāve had something similar happen to me and it took me awhile to leave because I wanted to believe him so bad that nothing was going on. Always go with your gut! you are going to be fine without him. Itll hurt like hell at first but trust me the best thing to do is to leave that ass hole!
He probably lied to you about her history because he wants you to see her as the threat and not him. Sheās not responsible for his choices and might not know your relationship situation. But yeah I would be pissed at him.
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Someone canāt come in a door that isnāt left open.
You can sit and stew and be mad, or you can take what you know and choose to change your and your childās lives.
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My concern is how he dogged her originally but is so buddy buddy with her? Does he talk bad about you to her? He clearly has no respect for women.
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Thank you everyone. (This is my question btw lol) Iām glad to know Iām not overreacting. I have told him how I feel, he says he got defensive cuz he isnāt doing anything wrongā¦ bullā¦ but I donāt plan to stayā¦ once my ducks are in a row, bye bye.
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The men destroy the relationship by entertaining a female. Letās stop placing blame on the female.
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Red flags everywhereā¦ Iād leave.
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Iāve been in this situation beforeā¦hearing about the whores at work and the storyās of work friends just to find out he was talking about himselfā¦I can Google his name and pics come up of another weekend he had to work wink wink but rented a cottage for some young ones and himself 
I wonder why everyone had such a laught at me at his work for yearsā¦never again
Go to the company and be crazy!! Call her out. I mean its 2021. Dont let hoes destroy what you have built. Put your foot down. Be a woman and claim whatās yours. Men are men and most are driving by their little head. And I see lots blaming him, but if she knows about the girlfriend and baby. She needs to just back up. Someone needs to teach her, maybe that someone is you. Dont stand for it from either. Make a scene. This isnt just your boyfriend, this is also the father of your child and your life you have built. Dont stand for it. Go make out with him right in front of everyone claim your shit!!!
You are not wrong. Man, I feel so bad for all the women dealing with this. I remember what it felt like when I was younger and putting up with this garbage.
In a healthy relationship, your partner would consider what you feel is appropriate if you are being reasonable (and you are). Donāt let anyone tell you otherwise.
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Thatās what they normally do is talk shit about them when their turn hasnāt come up yet 
Iād reach out to her and give his disrespectful ass the 
HIV is in his future messing with a pass around 
Agree something is up 
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Iām sorry youāre going through that, I would do the same things in that situation and leave as well as soon as you can
Iād leave. Not worth the time and aggravation
Trust your gut feeling! Itās usually right!
Yeah youāre definitely not overreacting you need to leave him tbh
Iād have a conversation with lil miss home wrecker.
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I would pack his shit and put them in the front yard. Change the locks, he can move out. Heās emotionally cheating on you, disrespecting you and your daughter (sending pictures to someone you didnāt give him permission to send to), her telling you to get a job. Thatās just rude af and I would seriously put this girl in place. Is she young? Cause she really needs a wife that would just rip into her (verbal wise) not to mess with married men. She has no respect at all where as your bf has no respect for you. If he did he would avoid her. Ugh girls like this yes I saw girls they donāt get the lady label drive me nuts and Iād probably be the one going there and telling her off LoL.
He didnāt let you see the text because he is guilty, not because you made him feel defensive. An innocent person has nothing to hide. You should make an appointment with your gynecologist and get screened for stdās.
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Cheating 100%. If not physically yet then emotionally.
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Nahhhhā¦ heās straight outā¦ a LIAR and a CHEATER. He wanted a couple days to go through all the inappropriate messages they sent back and forth before he would let you look at them!!! I would kick his ass out and donāt come back!!!
A women canāt be a home wrecker unless a man invites her to be and opens that door.It takes 2 to destroy a relationship and or marriage.Iād tell him buh bye.
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Leave. Youāre not overreacting and if he he says you are, itās because heās doing something he shouldnāt be doing.
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I promise you this is from years experienceā¦HE IS ALREADY CHEATING. Please whatever you do if you donāt leave him donāt marry until he gets help this will not end here
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leave. hes cheating. shes a wh*re homewrecker. you deserve better. better yet, become really good friends w one of his coworkers or yours 
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Yup something is definitely going on I would say. Please leave him, or confront the woman and ask
HEāS the one you have to trust, not her. If you donāt, thereās your answer.
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Kick him to the curb!!!
im guessing they dont have HR lol cause no way sheād be allowed to stay on if they knewā¦its bad for business! hes definitely not handling the situation correctly but idk if hes done something yet to call it quits over. id tell him how he handles this from now on completely determines how this ends. and you wont give him too much more room for error! if he doesnt immediately whip into proper shape after that then you have your answer and you know what to do
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Leave. You dont deserve to be treated this way! Its all exciting and taboo until you get caught and then its you trying to pick up the pieces and heal but you wont ever trust him again!
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Dont just blame herā¦ if itās happening hes welcoming itā¦
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She should be fired- unprofessional, misconduct and whoring!!! Call the BOSS on her. Call Corporate!!!
If he wasnāt doing anything wrong, he wouldnāt lie about little things and hide stuff. If it were innocent he would have told you exactly who drove by beeping.
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He is 100 percent cheating!!!
You know this cuz your gut told you and your get is never wrong.
Leave, unless you like being hurt and cheated on!!
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Girl, Iāve been there ā¦ let Susan have him! You can, 100% do better.
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I would definitely leave asapā¦thatās soo unacceptable
You answered your own question. Run, you deserve someone who makes you feel like you are their entire world without anybody else taking part of their time.
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Let "haggie"Susan have him.!!!
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How to avoid emotional turmoil completely for dummies 101ā¦ Stay singleā¦
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Heās riding the Bicycle!
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Sheās not a homewrecker. Whichever taken man whoās messing around with her is the homewrecker. You canāt wreck a home that a man doesnāt want wrecked. Theres a reason she feels so comfortable with YOUR MAN. That reason is he is opening the door for her to get that close and comfortable. Thats on your man not on the other woman. Only a wh0re is going to accept the invitation from a man in a relationship, yes BUT no man that really loves, values, respects, and wants you would be even allowing another woman to come between himself and you. Hes the one thatās ALL WRONG HERE. His behavior is so inappropriate and I wouldnāt trust or believe that he didnāt delete a ton of messages and id think he was probably already fucking her. Trust me she would never tell you if they were more than just friends.
Takes 2 to tango. Donāt blame just the woman heās doing nothing to stop her attention
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If he had nothing to hide you wouldnāt be posting and you wouldāve seen his texts on day one(she shouldnāt even have his number at all). So yeahā¦ heās a lying snake in the grass thatās def cheating.
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Your not overreacting
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Heās already cheating with pics and texts. Time to leave. You deserve to be someoneās #1!
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Hes hiding something or heād let you look at the messages save yourself the heartache n just leave
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If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck then itās a duck. Iād be livid it wonāt change, itās time to put on the big girl pants and show him what an actual woman is like. Donāt tolerate this behavior do what is best for you and your children.
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I think itās funny that the only things you know about this woman are what heās told you, and now he has an attitude that youāre upset that heās been friends and tight with her this whole time. Girl you need to run not walk from this guy. He has been doing things behind your back.
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Your boyfriend is the problem.
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