You gotta go hun. He obviously is interested in the bicycle. Let him go ride on it and go get your boots on for some walking.
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You have a problem and it is not the lady at work. Itâs your boyfriend. If he valued you and had respect for his relationship with you and his child he would not have started texting her in the first place.
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I draw the line at him having sent this person photos of your child.
If he didnât like the bikini photo of her he would not have kept it.
She has no reason to have his personal number as she is a coworker.
The worst of it for me is his bringing your child into things. Nope.
Iâve been through the same thing and found out when I was at work and another time visiting my Mom and Dad that my now ex, was fooling around with some chick at his work and had taken our baby around her.
You donât have to leave. You can tell him he needs to leave. This will not get better and your child and you deserve a firm foundation. Your childâs father isnât interested in providing an emotionally stable foundation for the Mother of his child and you tolerating the disrespect will teach your child to not respect you. At this point itâs on you to make the choices to provide stability for your child.
That guy needs to go.
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Heâs shitty, get your ducks in a row and move on with your life.
He invited the âbicycleâ in apparently he wanted a turn to see what everyone else was having. He crossed the line. Would he be ok if the situation was flipped? My theory is if you donât want your partner doing it to you donât do it to them.
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He is pedaling that bicycle
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Women donât wreck other womenâs homes. Unfaithful husbands who allow that shit and cheat on their wives do. Just saying. Your mad at her, when your husband (oh I mean boyfriend, who hasnât decided to marry you even though you have his child) knew that she had relations with a married man and he still continued to text her and carry on a relationship with her. Clearly a flirtatious one at that.
Why would she respect your relationship when your boyfriend doesnât.
Ehhhh doesnât sound good. Home wrecker Susan has made her way into your home.
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Your boyfriend donât care. He knows how she is and what sheâs done and he still talks to her and has pictures. Zero respect.
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Methodically plan your exit strategy. You deserve so much more. Fall in love with your self again.
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If he wonât let you see the texts, or doesnât leave his phone lie around, be weary. My hubby and I can pick up each otherâs phones anytime and see whatâs what. If you canât, then heâs hiding something.
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Youâll have to be really firm with him and call him out and tell him that this ship it is not going to happen in your relationship be super strong I wish you well
Start the same type of conversation with a man and see if he had a problem with it and then you will have your answer. Do the exact same thing she is doing she to your man. See how fast you are the go then.
If a guy says youâre overreacting you ainât overreacting lmao
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If heâs hiding it, thereâs a reason.
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Fuck that. He let her in its only time before he opens the whole door.
I think itâs really funny⊠this is a prime example of how men who cheat choose women who are easier to deal with.
Heâs gonna miss you when youâre gone 
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very inappropriate behavior.
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At the very least try relationship counseling. But he really doesnât sound like lifetime partner material.
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A third person is never up to no good in a relationship or marriage. Get out of it! You deserve better 
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Your bf is the issue. He is not respecting your relationship
She isnt either but he is allowing it.
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Relationships are built on trust and respect. Heâs not respecting you, therefore you need to find your way out. Iâd start packing his stuff and let him come home to it all by the door. Tell him you refuse to be a doormat and that he needs to leave.
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Iâd give him 1 warning. Knock it off with this girl and if I see that you havenât I am gone. And if it continues you have to follow through and go. Donât let him play you like that. Iâm praying for you God will give you strength.
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I had the same with my ex. Sitting next to me got a message and then turned phone off. When questioned said some shit about work mate having a affair and needed advice mmm anyway this so called neighbour off his who he was always slagging off was the one messaging him. I kicked him out and then found out there together. So no your not wrong follow gut instincts and kick him out. He will end up with nothing once she gets bored and moves on to next relationship to ruin x
Get him super drunk and after he passes out, superglue his pecker to his thigh. Then pay a visit to this skanky chick and go 1980âs ass kicking on her. Make sure have bail money ready, just incase that ass kicking wasnât good enough to send a direct message.
It wonât really solve your problem but at least they will learn what happens when they mess with you.
Nope. Heâs on some shit. Fuck that.
Why is he entertaining her? Why does he have to hide or probably delete texts before you see them. Heâs only making himself look bad.
I would talk to him and remind him of her history and remind him about the respect he should give you. I personally wouldnât be OK with them talking
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Time to bounce. Get everything together and get yourself set up however you need and leave.
Yea⊠I would have flipped out too. Youâre definitely not over reacting.
If youâre going to leave see a lawyer about establishing custody of your child and ensure thereâs a CO or parenting plan in writing. Make sure youâre setting up your finances so you can more easily pivot away from the relationship. Set your hard boundaries and stand by them. You will have to coparent with BF for many years. Try to keep communication clear about your child. Once things are settled you might consider emailing the company HR department with the details youâre aware of surrounding this female. (This may sound petty, but I donât think it is) The company could be looking at a potential sexual harassment law suit from this female or other coworkers affected by her. Good luck 
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When they start lying time to admit its over,sat down talk about it,he has moved on.Get your life together and move on
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Walk! Heâs no prize. Without trust there is nothing left. Sorry you are going through this.
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He told you himself she canât be trusted. Now he is acting like your over reacting when heâs having frequent contact with herâŠ
Itâs fishy.
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Hugs. That is not right.
Toss him in the trash can
âCompany bicycleâ wins the internet today
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Your not overreacting
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The fact hes texting her and lying to you is not respecting you at all. Women like her dont care and will continue till the man stops paying attention to her. Your husband is feeding her by texting and talking to her. My husband works with women, but they dont text past work hrs and dont know where we live ect, its respect, they are all very respectful women. I would tell him he stops or gets out. Itâs pretty simple, how would he feel if you did this to him?
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Woah Iâd be mad too. Even worse if she knows about you. Heâs lying to you about her and wonât let you read her texts? Red flag. Find out quick whatâs going on so you can decide to stay or leave.
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I feel ya sista!! The Susan in my life is my hubbyâs boss!!
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Ugh. Okay. So, hereâs the deal. 1. You have to talk to him. Tell him that this is something that upsets you and the fact that heâs not been forthcoming about it or omitting details or just outright lying is not something you are going to tolerate. And then DONâT TOLERATE IT. 2. Tell him that relationships are about respect and trust and that at this point you cannot trust that he isnât entertaining her in a way that is disrespectful to your relationship. 3. Explain to him that itâs not about jealousy but that for you to trust him with the knowledge of this personâs past he cannot continue to put himself in a situation where things could go sideways, even if the thought of entertaining her in any other way has literally never crossed his mind.
âflipping outâ doesnât help you and youâre not gonna get anywhere from a place of anger. Js.
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Find someone to marry not date. That is the first problem. You wonât progress until you want more.
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If he has to lie about it he knows heâs doing something wrongâŠ
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She knows where you and you child live? Come on⊠you spelled it out for yourself. Your last option is to call her from your phone and tell her to back off or youâll report her?
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NOT okay. Trust your gut and stay firm on what you feel comfortable with. No need for them to be texting. AT. ALL.
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This is your confirmation that he is not respecting you and that you should leave. Gaslighting and manipulation after you saw the message thread is a huge red flag. Get your ducks in a row and leave. Donât stay in a relationship where youâre not respected.
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First of all you are definitely not overreacting!! Heâs so so wrong and crossed so many boundaries and disrespected you! I would be livid, the bikini pic alone regardless of where it came from being stored on his phone is disgusting and disrespectful! The constant communication and huge text thread you werenât allowed to read would have been my next straw that broke the camels 
back! None of this is okay period and who knows how far they have actually gone. Also I wish someone would send a pic of my kid id light them up regardless of who it is!! If you want to try to fix the relationship get some counseling and try to work on it but unless heâs willing to put in the work and stop doing things he shouldnât idk if you can repair it. Or you can kick his ass to the curb and focus on yourself and your child and wait for the right one to come along. Regardless he has completely broken all trust and gone way over the line. Iâm sorry your going through this 
Shady AF!
Iâd be psychoâŠ. Iâd call the girl or confront her and tell her to back off, Iâd call/email the boss or HR and let them know this bike has now moved on to your home, harassing your family with drive-by and constant texts, Iâd put the man on blast and tell him he has one shot left and if he hides shit or lies then me and the baby are gone. Id let him see me making plans to be gone. Iâd also get the the device to download all of his texts, even deleted ones, to see what the slimball has really been up to.
Heâs cheating. Sorry babes.
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You and your bf have a 3yo son. Why hasnât he proposed why arenât yas married by now?
No your not overreacting your bf is playing games. Tell him to nutup or shut up w lies. Itâs very obvious whatâs going on there.
Call her and have a convo. Tell her exactly what he told you about it aaallllll⊠out his bitch ass I promise you after you piss her off sheâll most likely spill all
Heâs hiding convos between themâŠthey are already messing around. She isnât wrecking your home your boyfriend is by allowing her to insert herself. Yes she is partly to blame but if heâs opening that door then thatâs on him.
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Call her ass up to leave your man alone or your going to whoop her ass and tell your man to block her and call her up in front of you and tell her to back off if he donât do it go ahead and cheat and see how he likes it jsđ€·ââïž
Heâs being stupid and either looking for an excuse to cheat or heâs playing with fire on purpose because he likes her attention. F him. He knows sheâs a garden tool. Youâd be totally right to leave.
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It takes two to tangle,he should tell her to back off.
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Show up for lunch at his work to surprise him, call/text from his phone to see how to replies. He took days to let you read because he was deleting all non-work messages.
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I donât understand why he would want to associate with the âhome wreckerâ type in the first placeđ if she done ruined someoneâs MARRIAGE then he should just steer clear!!
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Mamas Uncut seem to be full of these hypothetical circumstances. Why not freeze them out and let real people have the floor?
He gave her your addressâŠso she has either been over there or will be over there one day while you are gone. Maybe test the theory for kicks. Say going to go out with friends one day and probably going to be gone all dayâŠDont wait up and all that jazzâŠMake him believe it. ThenâŠgo somewhere for about 30 minutes and come back. See if she is there. He is definitely cheatingâŠif not wanting to cheat.I would play with him a bit and catch him red handed though before just dump him. Have your own fun at his expense.
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They ABSOLUTELY have something going on!!!
He cheated! Leave him!
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Definitely leave when you can. Heâs being a total a$$
Sweetie trust is one of the four pillars in a relationship- once gone it can never be the same. You arenât married - and you have a baby. Get your ducks in a row and leave. Try to keep your friendship for the babyâs sake.
He apparently doesnât respect you because of his actions.
Personally- Iâd kick the b@*ÂŁch a$& - but I tended to get in trouble a lot too. But seriously your baby and you - ducks in a row -
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Youâre not wrong. Leave him. Thereâs something going on between them.
Hoverwatch. Com put a app on his phone letâs you see everything good luck Hun
RED FLAGS HONEY!!! Know all too well how this goes.
Regardless of wrong or right you feel the way you feel and he should respect that. Obviously sheâs known for being a hoe so wtf does he need to be her friend for 
plus you said you didnât want them talking and he should have respected that from the beginning.
And as far as the bikini pic⊠It wasnât her who sent it but ⊠Why didnât he delete it ⊠smh. Youâre not wrong for hoe you feel , I would feel the same. I would tell him straight up⊠Cut her off or your done. And then his actions will tell if heâs really loyal and loves youâŠ
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Iâm sry but I think heâs riding that bicycle!!!
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You know what to do⊠just the matter of
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Theyâve been fucking for a while. Dump his ass
Go with that gut feeling if youâre thinking of leaving you should
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If heâs not doing anything wrong then he would let you read their text messages. Been through similar situation. Kick his ass to the curb. You deserve better.
Throw away the whole man
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She should not even know where you 2 live⊠Why does she know that? She also should not have his phone number.
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Or you can skip all the insecure, snooping, and panic over another woman⊠And rock his world? Show him she ainât got shit on you, dress up in something sexy and send him pictures, make him want you⊠Or you can keep crying and share your dirt all over Facebook and get really horrible advice⊠But I think option 1 is wayy better just saying from a manâs point of view
Take it from me girl. LEAVE.
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She is obviously angling for him and its flattering his ego. Dunno that its gone further. He needs a wake up call though as to what he is gonna lose
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My thoughts if anyone cares. I believe married or not no spouse or significant other has the right to say âI do not want you talking to this person in any wayâ That stems to our own insecurity. Now that insecurity may be justified. I strongly believe if you are in a relationship with anyone (especially one with a child involved) then you do have the right to not see and/or find any suggestive picture(s) of any other woman on his phone or on his person. So I would say (womenâs instinct) you feel justified to feel as you do, especially if he is saying your over reacting. If he continues with this woman knowing her reputation, especially if he has proof itâs true then maybe he wants a piece of the action. Otherwise, why welcome drama such as her in your life. You can not give an ultimatum unless you are prepared for him to pick her. I believe men that are faithful to spouses and really love the other half would never let communication with the likes of her ever begin. You would also see every text from them with a few from him to her reminding her he is in a committed relationshipâŠGood Luck and prayers to you.
Matters of the heart are the most fulfilling AND the most devastating! I was taught to guard my heart as an adolescent but became a boiling frog when I fell in love and had 2 children with a manipulative hotty I met at 18âŠAfter 10 years i withstood so much damage during and after the relationship. âIf I only knew then what I know now!â
My advice to you is generic but 100% true:
1- so many fish in the sea! One day youâll catch a whale and youâll be beyond grateful you threw this minnow back into the shallows!!
2- the only thing worse than wasting 3 years growing a life and family with someone you donât trust, is wasting 3 years and a day! Try not to mind fuck yourself. Trust your gut! Your child will see how strong you are and understand the value of boundaries and self love.
Everytime Iâve had to walk away from someone I truly loved because they were devaluing me or the relationship, as painful as it was to end, I 100% of the time came out a stronger, wiser human and found someone 10x better in every Avenue (physical, emotional, financial, sexual, etc). Donât give up on yourself! You deserve to be happy and feel safe inside the most important relationship you have in the world!!
Good luck Girlfriend!! #GirlPower
You know the answer to this
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U should hve been goneâŠy ignore the red flags sis⊠
How is she still working in this company??? If you have lost trust then say BYE!!!
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Heâs definitely been riding the bicycle. Thereâs no way he hasnât. Heâs entertaining her too much. Fuck that guy & work on yourself. You have the greatest blessing ever to worry about not some pussy ass man. Know your self worth baby girl! I hope everything works out for you and your baby 
Your intuition is the most powerful tool you have, trust it.
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My ex did that within 2 weeks they were having sex. And bringing the kids in it is not
Okay at all. Iâd kick him out!!
I think I would tell him you need to choose me and our child or her that means no phone calls no text no nothing with her. You have twenty-four hours to decide. 1 screw up and weâre done. Choose Wisely!
They are fuckin, if you didnât already know, listen to your responses here. Your the only one confused about this. 
Iâm sorry you are dealing with this.
If she was riding all those bicycles, I wouldnât touch your man until he gets his checked at the repair shop. gross
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If he was anyway Loyal to you⊠she wouldnât even be a Thought let alone a phone contact⊠get rid.
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I always try to give people the benefit of doubt, but NEVER would I let some BOY make me feel insecure, jealous, or uneasy like this (not saying you feel any of those, but thatâs what I would feel in this situation). Cheating is what makes those feelings, whether itâs emotionally or physically with someone else.
Those emotions will wear you down. Find someone who doesnât make you feel those. 
my husband has stopped talking to ANYONE that gave me a weird vibe or made me feel overly protective, and I return the favor.
The fact that he wouldnât let you read the texts is a HUGE red flag 
He let you read them a few days later after he had a chance to delete everything he didnt want you too see, trust me Iâve been there, done that.
This woulda been me throwing his shit outside 
Nah for real though. So many red flags.
Classic signs of him and her having a more than friendly relationship. Been there too many times with my ex. It may end with her one day, but his actions will not stop with just her. It may be time to reevaluate what more you absolutely need in this relationship and how life can be grand if you leave as well. No excuses! I lived in Hawaii for 3 yrs. Left my husband. I had 3 kids, no job, no money, nothing. Flew from there to Alabama. If I can do it, anyone can. Life is better and I am much happier.
He is the one letting her get access to him. He could have put his foot down and put her in her place but he chose not to. The fact that he would not show you the texts means he has something to hide. Better to just take the trash out before you catch something.
If a girl my fiancĂ© worked with drove by our place and knew where we lived and honked and then I found out he was sending pics of our daughter Iâd flip my shit! One, donât send pics of my child to anyone I donât no especially a women who is a home wrecker and secondly, if heâs going a long with it heâs just as much at fault as her itâs not all her fault.
I stopped reading at the part where she destroyed the co workers relationship.
Isnât it up the husband to have loyalty and respect for his relationship? He let her cross those lines⊠she couldnât destroy anything he didnât allowâŠ
As it seems your husband is now letting her do from the comments. Itâs on YOUR partner. She owes you nothing or your relationship canât be mad or blame a women whose getting mixed messages and being shown there is no lane they are suppose to stay in. Thatâs all on your own partner
Shit give him a taste of his own medicine. Donât actually do anything but get a friend to text you like that and change their name in the phone. Then every time he gets close put the phone down quick like you got something to hide. Then when he finds out it was just your friend, you can explain thatâs how hurt you felt. Or if he doesnât give a shit then I guess you know itâs over.
Call her from your mans phone and tell her if she wants him stop playing games and take him or back the fuck up stay in her lane cause you ainât playing with her or him and to stop being a home wrecking whore and tell your man that if he wants to be with you heâs with you and if a female makes you uncomfortable itâs his job to fix it or get tf out cause you ainât coming in second to anyone BUT your child put your foot down you or her.
As a guy, I can confirm you have a right to flip your shit. Texting is fine, sure⊠but sending private photos is definitely not okay.
Youâre not overreacting. Iâd say youâre reacting justifiably.
By him telling u ur over reacting is always a sign they are doing something. Take it for what it is girl cause I think that hone wrecker finally got her hands on ur man
You leave, donât say you canât yet, you choose you deserve better and you make it happen ASAP. It really is that simple