I don’t see a issues unless it is effecting ur sexual life with him.
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Normal for men to look at porn. No different than women reading romance novels. Let him be. Watch with him if want! No big deal.
It’s just porn… Watch it with him…
Ur lucky he’s watching it an not going out to gt it… Gzzz lady settle down.
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Sounds like the TWO of you are lacking are lacking an openess to express how you need and want to be pleased sexually. Find out( genuinely and calmly or it’s pointless) what he’s getting out of watching porn and then switch your mindset a bit while also creating boundaries so that he can come to YOU for those needs that YOU can enjoy with him. Masterbation is healthy if it’s done in healthy ways. Porn addiction is real.
I always love seeing these posts and how many laugh at peoples insecurities/boundaries. 
just cause y’all are ok with it doesn’t mean everyone else HAS to deal with it and settle or be ok with it.
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For a man to get sexual pleasure over anything other than his wife is adultery yes, even in his mind.
Would he agree to your letting him put a PG block on his phone?
His reaction when you propose that will tell you how important it is to him to value your marriage.
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I completely understand I just broke up with my ex because of it cuz every time he had his horn issues he was cheating so one leg to the other and I’m done understand how it breaks your heart cuz you want to be more important to him than that I get it God be with you
Im sorry he doesn’t understand your feelings. I hope you can work it out.
I feel this!! We have battled this issues for 14 years. Unfortunately everyone says it’s just porn it’s not anything to worry about. But that’s a lie it destroys some people. I have finally had enough when he decided to not even give therapy a try.
Everyone please take a breather. I would first ask, why it makes you uncomfortable. Be honest with yourself, then bring those feelings to the table and ask him to be honest as well. Don’t judge eachother but, try to understand eachother. Most times, it’s one thinking of what could happen, and the other holding back for fear. Be open and honest… first with yourself, then with eachother. Good luck Hun.
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Yes in my opinion your overreacting. Watch it with him or maybe u watch it too lol idk 
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Lmao he isn’t a child
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Yea, I wouldn’t apologize either.
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It’s just porn! He could be cheating instead 
watch it with him!
Maybe make your own videos for him to watch
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No but if I saw my man looking at porn I’d be very hurt. Why does he feel the need to look at other women in this manner? It would make me feel that I am not enough for him. What am I doing wrong? Is he not satisfied? My ex used to watch porn and look up women that were the complete opposite of me. Can’t you see how this could make someone feel that their partner doesn’t like how the look?
24 years? He isn’t gonna change sweetie. You have 2 choices. Accept it for what it is and have fun with it. Watch porn with him. Do different things. Enjoy yourself. Or leave. Well actually there is a 3rd. Stay and continue to be miserable cuz, girl, he ain’t gonna change.
Well if he’s not going to change at least tell him to go incognito so you don’t see it, or leave him.
Honestly…I blocked his phone from being able to. So, if he approached me about it, I knew right there that it was a SEVERE problem. No complaints so far, hasn’t said anything.
I find it disgusting. If his boundaries are expected to be respected, so should yours. If he can’t respect them, that’s disgusting.
It’s uncomfortable for women but me are different they like looking it’s a man thing if it’s excessive or really bad stuff he needs help
I don’t think your overreacting. Some men are pigs.
You’re not overreacting! If he can’t give you that respect …… he’s not worthy of you love xx
It’s just porn…! I don’t get the big deal personally, he’s not actually doing anything wrong are you not projecting your insecurities onto him a bit? If you don’t want to see it then maybe he can do it in private. I think you’re definitely overreacting on this one, you can’t control everything someone does and sometimes we have to learn to just get over it and move on.
You’re not overreacting. You have set a boundary, again and again it is being disrespected.
Once a boundary is set, and that person chooses to stick with you, they need to honor that boundary. Simple. No two ways around it. What’s okay for others, is not for some and you shouldn’t have to rearrange something that’s showing respect to you to comfort someone else, ESPECIALLY if you’ve married them.
This isn’t the kind of family you want involved in your life honestly. Keep the boundaries up on the younger kids.
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Not at all… and if your bf can’t see the problem with this there’s a serious problem.
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Why stay???..nuff said…
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Leave. There is family out there.
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Sorry to hear this. He should be supporting you. I agree that he should be speaking with them. No, you are not overreacting.
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If your boyfriend sees no wrong in the exclusion of the 2 younger children (which is hurtful and damaging) then he’s the problem.
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You are NOT overracting!
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You are definitely not overreacting! If your bf can’t include his whole family and stick up for you, he doesn’t deserve to be part of yours! Take your kids and move on…
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You are absolutely right been then done that my bf/ husband stepped up and basically told them it’s earthed all of them or don’t come over do call ect and we will not visit at first it was oh … ok will play nice now we never see or hear from anyone unless they need money or help basically 
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Hell no ,you are NOT overreacting . That’s BS!!
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Take your kids, just leave and go out to eat by yourselves without saying anything to him, his reaction when you get back will tell you what to do.
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He shouldn’t have went to Thanksgiving over there. He doesn’t see anything wrong with it just leave. You deserve better.
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I am in the same boat
I’m sorry. I was here with my ex husband. Protect your kids. Leave. Find a family that goes beyond the definition of blood.
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That’s really sad that adults treat innocent kids like that. What you need to do is look at your whole relationship. There’s a possibility that if you and him were to break up he probably wouldn’t be in your kids life.
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Your boyfriend allows the issue, he is the problem
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He should be ashamed of himself and stand up to his family and if not he has no business going over there without all of them.
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You shut them out because because a comment of the 9 yr old. They are probably respecting you and your boundaries towards your kids and keeping distant for it. At the end you said you wouldn’t let them stay overnight or by theirs elves so maybe they are hurt by it? Instead of talking it out you keep quiet, maybe they are afraid of doing something wrong with your kids. Yall should go in there together, put your foot down with your bf to be in in with you, and tell them why you feel they can’t watch your kids. Try to resolve the issue like adults if you want the relationship to get somewhere. If yall cant communicate and resolve it, then find a different person to share your life with because too much separation going on and not enough together.
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He’s right about one thing-your the problem. Not because your bad but because you have chosen to put up with it. Leave and co-parent. Work a second job if you have to during the time he has the kids. This is unacceptable.
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He isn’t your boyfriend, he is a sperm donor. He goes to family parties with his eldest because they know about her. Odds are they dont know about you and your kiddos being his kids. Go tell them… ask why they didnt want them for Thanksgiving. See what they say. I bet they think their son is with someone else or single. By the way, you deserve more and yes he isn’t treating you or your kids right. At all.
I guess I’m the odd person out but it sounds like there is more to the story. If he is telling you that you are the problem maybe you should consider that if you truly want resolution. We are not always right. Your boundaries are fair but maybe it’s how you come across and it could be that the grandparents are not interested in the drama of it all.
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I didn’t let my own mother keep my daughter overnight until she was 5. Your boyfriend should support you, and he isn’t and it’s a problem.
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Clearly there’s a parental bond with her grandparents. Was your man a teenage father What’s? What’s the girl’s relationship with her mom like? Did grandma have to step up and be a mother figure to this girl. You have also denied them the bonding experience that your stepdaughter has had with grandparents. And so what if they said they spanked her, that was your missed opportunity to discuss how you discipline your kids. Also, how does your family treat all 3 kids?
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Honey, my boyfriend of a year and a half and my two children from a previous marriage are as thick as thieves. He wouldn’t go anywhere they or I were not welcome and I the same for him. If my children were not welcome with his family, even though they are step to him, I wouldn’t be with him. Period.
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Tell him stay at his momma’s house forever
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That’s really awful of them as well as your boyfriend for not stepping up for his own children. Not over reacting at all.
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I was kind of in the same boat. I share an almost 11 year old daughter with my ex (who she hasn’t seen in 3 years). My ex has three other kids with his second ex wife. His family only ever wanted to see my daughter. It was always about her. Never his other kids. Luckily for me though. My daughter hasn’t seen any of his family in over three years. And she doesn’t ask. They are very toxic people
Your boyfriend is the problem. And this will not change. So you have a choice…stay and be miserable…or leave …hurt for a minute…and be happy in the long wrong. 2nd choice probably better for your kids.
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Your not over reaching he’s being an ass to all of his kids. By allowing this he’s going to cause a rift between all of the kids. He’s also allowing his parents to complexly disrespect his younger kids and in turn also disrespect you.
You show equal love to all kids or you don’t get to see any of the kids.
Why do you want a relationship with these people who you know will put their hands on your children? Why are you with a man for 5 years who leaves you alone on holidays to be with his family & his child from a woman he no longer has a relationship with? Or does he? It may be time for you to move on.
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Boyfriend of 5 years, there’s your red flag. 2 kids and no name change later. If he ain’t married you by now, he ain’t serious about you.
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I was with a guy for about three years and my daughter and I were never invited to any holiday events, either. I found out once we split up it was because they never saw us as a serious relationship or as (eventually) being a part of the family. We were never welcomed because they never thought we would last.
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They ain’t missing what they don’t know, move on.
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Your boyfriend needs to grow a pair and stick up for his children! Does the family have something against you? How shameful of them that they pass it on to the children, especially when your boyfriend is the father of those two.
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No!!
Ur partner is a total arse hat for being so spineless and his parents are nasty toxic control freaks… that if they can’t get their own way, then it’s nothing at all…
I know u want ur kids to have their grandparents and ur kids to be loved… but not by toxic people like that… I would tell them and him… to their faces why they will never have anything to do with ur children… ur partner stinks with the way he behaves and doesn’t support u…
Sounds like you need a new boyfriend. I can’t believe he would leave you and his other 2 on Thanksgiving to appease his parents, that says it all right there.
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So his parents are missing out on a blessing and his letting them
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Your boyfriend is the problem. This is a hill to die on.
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Nope. That’s fucked up
You’re not overreacting at all. You’re absolutely right! When you’re in a relationship with someone, that person and YOUR family, meaning your spouse and children, are the priority. Not that it’s ever excusable to exclude any children, but it MIGHT be a different story if the two youngest were yours and not his, but even that is cruddy. With all 3 kids being your boyfriends kids, he should want them all treated the same too. The fact that he allows that to go on with his kids, is extremely questionable. It’s also obvious that he really doesn’t care, because if you have addressed it with him and he continues to not address it with his family, it says a lot about him. My ex husband was a real POS and my family did not like him at all. At that time, I was oblivious to who he really was and I stood my ground. If my whole family isn’t invited, then none of us are coming. After that, he was included, even though my family didn’t really want to include him, but they did it so they didn’t miss out on time with me and my kids. Everyone just played nice.
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Your boyfriend is a pussy and your in laws are toxic
I’ve kinda got the same problem! My oh mum always has his brothers children takes them shopping, holiday abroad loves spending time with them but my girls get to see her if she invites us all over for tea! They barely ever get to see her yet, alway ask why the others sleep over an why she doesn’t ask her! I refuse to beg anyone to be in their life as it’s her loss, but when you see it gets to the children it’s heartbreaking! Some people just don’t think how this effects the children! Anyway they will be told they don’t need anyone but the people that make time an effort to see them!
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5 years and he still hasn’t done anything about it? Give him a choice. He either steps up and says something or you’ll find a man that will step up like a man. Your kids are being left out and they will later or already do feel it. Remember that. Kids over men all day everyday.
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Girl it’s time to pack your bags and leave. Do you want this for the rest of your life? I wouldn’t! He’s not putting your feelings in play nor is he man enough to stand up to his family. It’s time to get out!
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Sounds like they did except your kids. You are the one one drew the line so not your bfs fault see if from another side.
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You’re not overreacting at all! I would be furious if my husband did that and went there with those circumstances! He needs to grow up and start protecting and backing his girlfriend (YOU) and all of his kids! That’s absolutely terrible! I would sit him down and talk to him about it. If he continues to do it, I would leave his ass! Best of luck to you! Hope things work out! 
You’re not over reacting at all, he should definitely speak up to his parents. He is the problem. He’s the one allowing them to be like this. I’d be reconsidering being with him if he can’t even stand up for his children??
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Need more back story, bc know a very a similar situation and it went WAY beyond her not letting the grandmother or aunts keep the brothers children @ all wout her hovering. And well, ALL great ppl. And all see the son from the previous relationship, bc all have always been allowed. No kids ever harmed in any of the care. Some mothers are really that controlling and manipulative.
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Say bye to the bf. Anyone who won’t support you or your children isn’t someone you need in your life. My children don’t stay overnight until they can talk. It’s a preference and one that should be respected.
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My husband and I have 9 kids between us, none together. We call these kids, Our kids. They are all grown and we have 19 grandchildren and 3 great grandchildren. All our family accepts All these kids, it’s really hard to tell whose kids are whose because we all love the kids. If anyone doesn’t accept any of our kids, my husband tells them about it! You need to find a boyfriend with a heart and a spine. He’s worthless.!
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The fact that he is letting his family do that to you is so wrong. You and your significant other are suppose to be a team. If he can’t grow a pair and stand up for you and your kids to his family, you shouldn’t be wasting your time with somebody like that.
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Definitely sounds like there’s more to this story.
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Wow. My mom still sees my brothers ex girlfriends son and hes not even blood related. And she still calls my exs children her grandchildren and again not even blood. I have never seen anyone disown a grandchild. I would leave him. And now. Life is too short to live with someone who treats you so unfairly
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No. People who brag about hitting kids drives me crazy. They use it as some type of badge of honor.
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Talk to them. All of them if needed let them know your feelings and listen to there feelings. Time is short and if they don’t want to take your feelings into consideration then don’t worry about it. I know its probably not what you want to hear but before ties get cut make sure there is communication between everyone then you can decide what you want to do.
You are not over reacting at all.your boyfriend needs to step up and be a man.he should talk to his parents. If you and your child aren’t invited,he shouldn’t go either.
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I would be packing his belongings!!
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I told my boyfriend from the very beginning if he or his family didn’t welcome my children like their own and treat them as such then I’d walk away. Thankfully his family and himself are amazing!
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Do you really want to deal with them? Shoot I would be thankful if mine were out of my life. I absolutely understand this is not fair to your kiddos. So make it fair …on the days that the oldest daughter goes out…have a kiddo party. Do something very special for your kids. Or have your kids spend more time with your family. Or just leave. You have so many options
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Unfortunately you can’t control their involvement in his oldest daughters life. She isn’t your kid. You can say whether or not they can be in your 3&2 year old lives.
Edit to add, seems like it’s a good thing you don’t have to deal with them.
Well I guess they figured since you didn’t want your child around without you present then not to deal with you at all. I don’t see the problem here.
Yes it’s weird they don’t interact with their own grandkids without being given permission to “beat” them.
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I mean they don’t sound like good people what so ever. I think you are absolutely better off and so are your kids! Take it as a blessing.
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You are not over reacting,idk how he as the father takes no issue with his children being excluded… they can dislike you all day who care you’re an adult but to do it to children take a special amount of ignorance personally i wouldn’t continue being in that relationship with him
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Not over reacting. Your boyfriend needs to step up to his parents and tell them to stop playing favorites and that they need to include your kids as well!
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You’re not overreacting at all, they all deserved to be loved. I struggle with that from my family not accepting my two step kids. Adults suck, children can’t choose who their family is. They deserve to be loved!
Not overreacting but he should always stand by your side. If he’s not willing to do that and stand up to his family then it’s Time to leave or at least see a couples counselor to figure out a resolution.
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Your bf showed you where you and your kids stand period. Leave and find a man.
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You’re not overreacting but I’d be more concerned about your bf leaving his spouse & TWO OF HIS CHILDREN home on Thanksgiving because “you weren’t invited”. That’s a bigger issue than his family not being involved with you & your 2. And you’ve clearly talked to him about it so, damn, just leave him & find what you deserve.
If he is willing to go to a Thanksgiving 2 of his children and his significant other aren’t invited to, then I would say he isn’t really part of your family with those 2 kids.
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He’s the problem, NOT his parents…
Free milk…take care of yourself, it is very hurtful and uncalled for…let no one hurt you from now on…you be in charge.
Your problem is clearly with your so called man. If he can’t stand up for your children then he clearly shouldn’t be around you or them. Sounds like relationship needs to be reevaluated
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