You’re not overreacting. He continues to do the thing that hurts you regardless of the fact that it hurts you. I don’t have any advice because I’m a crazy person and about the third time I had to tell this man about I’m not okay with that I’d probably have a ball bat and come in swinging. 3 strikes, you’re out! 
badabing badaboom, problem solved!
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Do u prefer he go out to other women? Like I don’t see a problem unless he isn’t satisfying your needs sexually. Calm down or walk away!
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I dont see the problem…when i was pregnant and didnt want sex i literally fought for him just to watch some and get off my back about it. My MIL is the same way as you i just dont see the problem. I watch it doesnt mean im gonna run out there as cheat. And clearly its been an on going thing have you ever asked why he wants to watch it?
It’s porn bro calm down lol
It’s something he does in private. I don’t think you should be able to tell him he can and can not do it. I would however just ask him to be more mindful of when and where he’s doing it. That way you don’t walk in and get upset. It’s his body.
Awww sweets it’s not you…it’s a guy thing. It’s a quickie release where no performance is necessary.
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I walked in on my hub wanking his meat with his phone in his hand once. I felt an immediate stabbing in my heart as he tried to hide the phone screen. I finally managed to beg him to let me see what he was looking at… And it was keyboards 
he builds computers as a hobby.
Tell your husband he needs a hobby.
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And for people to say “go watch it with him” “maybe you’ll learn something” LMAO what could you possibly learn from porn that you can’t learn from kama sutra? She clearly doesn’t like it, As it diminishes her mental health. My husband doesn’t watch porn. And for the women who comment on this and say yeah he probably is behind your back… LOL not every single man or woman wants to watch it!! thats completely NORMAL!!
If you expressed to him porn isn’t ok and he continues to do it, he is disrespecting you. Either he makes a change or you walk away. People assume just because they don’t find it to be a big deal, it isn’t. When the reality is, each person has their own feelings about different things. That goes for your husband too, just because he doesn’t think it is a big deal doesn’t mean it isn’t to you or your feelings are invalid. You have a right to feel anyway you do, and he can either respect it or go on his merry way.
Personally, porn isn’t a huge deal to me However, private conversations with other women is, regardless of how innocent they may be. Affairs don’t start in the bedroom they start with conversations. So I do not find it acceptable for my husband to have any type of private conversations with females. 
Everyone is allowed to have feelings about topics and noone’s feelings are more valid than the other. We either can respect our significant other’s feelings or we need to move on.
I’d say it becomes an issue when he’s no longer wanting to be intimate with you. Maybe there’s outside factors when he’s there watching it so he might not think your up for a quickie. Maybe that’s all he’s needing is a quick release. You’ll really never know the actual reason without talking to him about it. But it doesn’t sound like he’s doing it all day, everyday, maybe just try and find out what the reason is, without getting emotional over it. Best of luck.
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Terrible platform to discuss this awful, horrible, grotesque issue. Lust for any other woman than to whom you’re lawfully wedded to is absolutely WRONG!!! What happened to respect for womens bodies??? Just wrong!!!
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Pray for him and quit calling him out on it. That just aggravates the problem. Pray for him, put it in God’s hands and watch what happens. It might take a while but God don’t work on our time but his. He could be wanting You to get closer to him to make Your husband change. Prayer is a strong force and You can find peace through it. Will be praying for You.
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He’s watching when he’s not getting caught too 
You need to respect his free will. Corn is harmful and pointless, but people have the right to behave in self-defeating ways. And you have the right to choose what type of man you want for a husband, but not to mold your current husband into him 
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Maybe try watching it together, compromise a little? There are different kinds and lvls of porn, maybe can find something you like that can share with him.
Kml…watch it with him. You may learn what he actually likes & can take his attention from it. You may even see something YOU like. Don’t be closed minded to something that can clearly make or break you when it doesn’t have to be all bad. Atp, (20+ yrs) he’s probably chasing the spontaneity in the porn…
Why would he need to apologize? He isn’t cheating . Let him be.
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HE HAS A ADDICTION.
Which you should be concerned about.
Research. Educate yourself, try counseling if you need to get help for yourself as chances are he will not.
It can be good for a relationship or it can destroy it.
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He’s just looking… don’t understand why it’s upsetting
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Why do women take this so personally? It’s women he will never meet or see in person. If he just watches porn and doesn’t cheat what’s the problem? Could be way worse if u divorce him for that.boyfriends that lie,cheat,message others and on and on. Pick your battles
Join him with watching it and then have play time
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Not need to apologize for just watching what he wants on his free time when your not around. You can be ok with that after 24 years or walk away. He has shown that it’s something he rarely does that he enjoys it and not gonna stop. Maybe turn it in and watch it with him to spice things up for you too.
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It’s. . . Porn. . ?
He’s an adult. . ? His own person. . ?
Tbh corn literally rewires the brain amd depending on what kind he’s watching it can rewire his brain to require that level of stuff to get off. If he needs videos to get off, then maybe try recording your own.
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What is the big deal! Why are you so uptight about him watching porn. Watch it with him sometimes might be something you do together.
Cant control what He does, all your can control is your reaction to Him. You have to decide where to draw the line and what you will put up with. He seems to care very little about your feelings sadly.
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People who get mad at their significant other are really just insecure about themselves. I love porn and it’s absolutely normal to watch. Me and my man watch it together. Everyone saying he has an addiction is a bitter housewife no offence
This would be a make or break for me. It sounds like he gets off on the idea of hiding it from you. When he should want you involved if he’s jacking off to porn. Get rid of him sis. Or deal with him sneaking around.
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Is it wrecking your sex life? Like does he not perform in bed because of it? Why does it affect you so badly? Your reaction to it is the only thing you can control so my thoughts and just my two cents since it’s clear you love him cause you’ve been together 24 years how can you change your reaction to it so that your message about how it harms you affects him in a way that might make him stop or the two of you find a compromise
Start looking at porn to see what and how he feels. Younger men
Get over yourself it’s not a crime just because you think it’s cheating or it hurts that little feeling you have. Don’t like it leave period Don’t make his suffer because you ar jealous of a screen. I hope all women like this experience the single life fir real. You want perfect get a vibrator because that’s what you need
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After 24yrs if you don’t know that that’s what he does, you not gonna get it. GET OVER IT! Looking at porn is a hobby of his. Let him be great.
Your feelings are absolutely valid. You have to decide if that’s a deal breaker or not. If you’re willing to accept he does it or not.
If it bothers you, put your foot down and give him an ultimatum. You do not have to live with feeling disrespected
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It’s not okay in my relationship and I’d leave my bf if he watched porn. If he wants to see a naked woman he should come to me and me only. Not porn.
If he’s doing it in private in your own home It’s better than he be out lurking for other women to fulfill his needs, men and women do this women masturbate just like men do. I’d rather have my man be home getting off to his videos of a woman he’ll never have than to be out cheating. Js that’s my opinion as everyone has their own.
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Let the man jerk off good lord it’s his body and you have no business telling him he can’t. Either be his pornstar or let him play with himself. It’s selfish to deny someone release.
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I watch with my partners! Maybe try it with him? 
Also you get ideas from them that make bedroom time fun - just my opinion!
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If he’s that hung on porn… give him your best porn , go live instead of fiction !
You will both be happier !
Watch it with him lol or not, I get it might bother you but it’s no big deal either or make fun of it. Say something clever but don’t turn it into a constant fight. You’ve been married for 24 years as you’ve said that is amazing.
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Atleast he is not trying to hire an escort or looking at local women
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Sounds like addiction if its bad enough for you to make a post about it. 
I actually just left my husband for this among a bunch of other issues. People can say it’s not cheating but if he’s choosing that over intimacy with you I think it is. Get in therapy whether it’s both of you seperate or together he needs help and you will probably have some trauma from it. Good luck. 
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Some of us are raised (or groomed) to believe that the highest quality man who says he l love you will no longer lust for other women. Those raised in such a way are those who are hurt the deepest when their man does not fit that expectation. By pressing that you are disappointed in his behavior. You may be pushing him to do it more, feeling controlled. He does not see this as an addiction, but trying to make him stop makes him want it more, and pushes him away from you more. You know what he’s doing, but you really only have a few choices you control: enjoy the beauty of images of the well sculpted male on your own phone and be at the same level of relationship-distancing, fill that empty time with other meaningful things you enjoy, over-love on him so pornography may not a thing he feels fills a void, or walk away. You have the same level of free choice as he has. Look within yourself to decide how you will control you but “regroom” your mind to accept you cannot change or control him and his interests.
Personally watching it was never my issue. Him hiding that he was watching it and lying was the issue. Once he realized that and stopped that part we were fine. I don’t get why some ladies are so insulted by this. Men are essentially 18 year old teenage boys when it comes to a naked woman. That doesn’t change for most of them. If he’s keeping it at home who cares if he’s watching port. He might learn somethings lol.
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Yes it’s not that serious at least not to me - now if he was in person cheating or actually knew these ppl different story but otherwise it’s common
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Porn addiction is rampant and it is betrayal of your trust and more than likely affecting the intimacy in your marriage. There are psychologists who specialize in this area. I’ve had two friends who discovered their husbands were addicted to porn - there’s a range - and it’s affect was catastrophic once they were in couples therapy.
Sounds like a you problem more than a him problem. Sounds like you’re insecure. Instead of being mad at him for looking figure out why you’re so bent about it. He’s not going out and cheating and unless he’s staying on it all day every day and its interfering with his job and every day life then it’s not an addiction.
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If he doesn’t respect your boundaries, he doesn’t respect you. Period.
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Watch it with him? Some of us have a higher sex drive than our partners can keep up with.
Better PORN than him CHEATING on you…
You’re overreacting.
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I have more porn in my phone than any guy 
I’m sorry it bothers you so much though
It’s healthy to watch porn
Are you giving him the amount of attention he craves? There should be zero need if you are fulfilling each other’s desires. If it’s to much for you to take care of his every whim (some men are just very sexual) then make your own porn! I man will pick watching his penis over another dudes any day of the Week! Then you both are taken care of
Anything that violates the boundaries put in place in your relationship is cheating. Period.
I love how people dismiss porn but at the same time will tear a man apart for literally anything else that goes against the partner’s expressed boundaries.
The double standard is super gross.
Op has expressed to her husband she doesn’t like him looking at porn. Regardless of others opinions on the matter, that is HER boundary in HER marriage.
As with anything else, this requires communication because there has to be a reason he’s essentially choosing porn over his wife.
He’s either addicted or he literally doesn’t care or respect his wife.
In this day and age it’s generally accepted but that doesn’t mean you need to fall in line if you’re not comfortable with it. So many keep saying who cares, but obviously you do which is the point of your post.
Your boundaries are your own and if he loves you he will respect them. But on the other side of the coin what are you prepared to do if he’s not willing to stop? If you don’t think leaving is the answer then you need to be willing to compromise.
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To the OP - you are right to be upset. To all the poor women on here, saying there is nothing wrong with it:
Imagine if the world only had porn as a reference for what women are really like. It’d be an even more messed-up place, right? Considering the abused, exploited, degraded, humiliated, and inaccurate portrayals of women in porn, don’t you think you and the world deserve better?
Ok. Some people here in the comment section would pass as a “casually mentions they’re better than you.” Comment.
For the CMTBTY people: People have different tiggers. What might set you off might not set someone else off. So if por n isn’t a big deal for you, it might be a huge deal for someone else. Respect.
For the OP: You are not overreacting. I’m just assuming, but it seems like in your 24 years of marriage, you and your husband already agreed on him not watching por n. He should keep his promise. It’s one thing that he disagreed with you and the both of you compromised, it’s another thing that he agreed with you completely and then just chose to continue watching, but this time whilst hiding it from you (since you mentioned you caught him)
Bottom line is, you aren’t overreacting.
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Are you having sex on a regular basis? If the answer is no, then you can’t really blame him, he has to get pleasure from somewhere, he’s not cheating on you with another woman.
Porn doesn’t bother me in my marriage. But to each their own. I can’t say ur overreacting because that’s not my business to say. Seek counseling to understand why he does what he does. To me, porn is a fantasy. That’s what they love about it.
My dad had a monthly subscription to Playboy back in the day…Never bugged my mom. Would not bug me either. I see some of the porn crap my boyfriend and his friends send each other. Not sure why everyone has to be so touchy feely these days lol
I think you’re overreacting. It’s not real. Don’t let it bother you.
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I personally feel like it’s a non-issue and I would offer to watch it with him 
could spice up your life
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If it’s a boundary you have that he is aware of, and if he willfully chooses to do something that hurts you (regardless of what), then it is an issue. If he didn’t want to hurt you, he could choose not to. It doesn’t matter what other people believe, the boundaries in a relationship are exclusive to that relationship. Some are polyarmous and having multiple partners is okay, some aren’t comfortable with porn. Outside of your relationship, it doesn’t matter if the opinions of others differ. Circumstances aside, your husband is choosing his selfish desire over your mental needs. That is a problem
Your definitely over reacting chill out and join in
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You allow him this behavior. You’ve allowed it for years. He’s gaslighting you on the subject. Time to think more on the awake side. Put your foot down, or tackle the subject. Guilt is not working.
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Idk why so many people are laugh reacting this but whatever. Who cares about your opinion on porn. It’s been said by the original poster, that it hurts her feelings. All I have to say is he needs to respect you and your boundaries. Just bc someone tells you they couldn’t care less, doesn’t make the fact that it hurts your feelings invalid. Idk what advice to give you other than he needs to respect you and your feelings & boundaries
Porn is healthy and natural… I used to feel this way when I was a teenager but I grew up and realized we all need it. We keep each other pretty happy but every now and then we like to pleasure ourselves and that’s ok. We also watch it together, it helps spice things up in the bedroom. I’ve been with my husband for 12 years, things get stale after a while so sometimes you have to try new things to keep things spicy! You should try watching it by yourself and then watch it together. Hope that helps
A lot of men do it but the same men are not okay with their women looking at men in the same context 
really, leave some sexy ass naked men pics on your phone and see how instantly insecure he gets when he finds them.
He doesn’t care about how you feel.
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Your feelings are valid
no one can tell you how to feel
and we all are different
that being said did he know about this being a hard NO for you for you early in your relationship???
did you know early in the relationship he had this desire??maybe you both should have been more honest with yourselves in the beginning
because this is obviously a thing for him and not for you 20 something years is a long time
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The only advice I have is to seek counseling for yourself so you can talk to someone that can help you with your Insecurities. You’ve been married 24 years and knew about this for a long time and stayed. That was your choice.
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YOU’RE INSANE he isn’t cheating or anything so stfu maybe watch with him lmfao
I really suggest therapy for you, I take social work and seen studies that suggest. It’s insecurities from your side. No hate, I just really suggest you look into it.
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All men watch porn. Doesn’t bother me anyway. As long he is faithful I don’t mind. To each their own.
Yall all saying shes over reacting are stupid. If this is somthing she has never been comfortable with and her husband has known this from day one thats a boundarie she sat up that she told him not to cross. Hes choosing to disrespect her everytime. Rather it be porn or something else this is something she doesnt want in her relationship and its not for anyone on the internet to say shes over reacting when its clearly a hard pass for her.
Y’all are wild. There’s nothing wrong with not wanting your partner to not look at and get off by looking at other naked women gtfo with your “you’re just insecure” comments! Porn is way to normalized these days and it’s just wrong. If you’re ok with it then fine but not everybody has to be. If he knows you don’t like it and continues to do it then he doesn’t respect you and your boundaries. Plain and simple. Not EVERYONE is ok with their partners watching porn and that’s ok
Quit making it a battle and just let him watch. Not like he’s going out and cheating on you.
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My ex had a porn addiction unfortunately. I got to the point id try to watch it with him & do things the did but didnt help much he’d be right back in the bathroom with the door locked for a while at a time.
Pour yourself a glass of wine and watch with him. Come on now🙄
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A man is a man. It’s not your thing but it’s his.
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You can’t control other people, ever…
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It’s porn 
it’s not like he’s going to the neighbour and asking for a video, or paying for only fans for private shows. Lord have mercy I can see why he chose the porn. “Over the years we’ve battled his desire to watch it” sounds more like you’ve kicked up a fuss and he’s bent the knee to make you happy. Counselling does wonders
I pray GOD helps you.
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Get a hobby that YOU enjoy and quit spending so much time with him. He might begin to wonder what you are up to and become interested. Don’t bug him about the porn - just ignore it and HIM - - -
Because your bark has no bite. You get upset and you get over it. He knows that already. Because regardless how you feel he will still do what he wants. So here is the deal. If you are not going to do anything about it then you are better off not trying to check if he is watching it. That way you are not hurting yourself constantly.
I would also examine my own emotional state as why is it so upsetting that he is watching it? Is it your religion? Jealousy that those women look better than you? Your own insecurities? Your need for control? Do you also ban him from having female friends? Do you check his phone to see who he is texting? Does he has to share his location with you? If so then he may also feel trapped and porn is his way to rebel. I would definitely sit down and have a talk about what is going on within you.
Is this serious?! Porn exists men know women aren’t always in the mood when they are so…. Why does it matter would you rather him go find a real woman to do it with?!
He has no reason to apologize it’s natural. Please seek mental health help.
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I’m amazed at these women telling you you need help… it’s become common to allow certain shit because “men are men” which is such garbage. Ignore these women telling you that you need therapy for having boundaries and expecting your man to be just that . YOUR man. Your allowed to hate/tolerate what ever you want. The real advice is this … you know this is how he is because he is making it known. 24 years is a long time … however you have to make a decision here. Is it something you can’t move past because he obviously has no intentions of stopping it or can you maybe come around to the idea ? Either way , that’s a normal human response and it doesn’t make you insecure that you don’t want YOUR OWN HUSBAND looking at all these other naked women . Men deserve everything we do , however the ideology that we have to put up with their trash behavior is false. I mean this part to the woman attacking her for this but these days women will break their damn back to keep a man even if it means completely humiliating themselves and allowing their man to have his hands ( or in this case eyes) in several different cookie jars just because they aren’t strong enough to realize they’re worth more. I said what I said and Im not sorry .
So let him go fuck another bitch then
Porn addiction ruins relationships. I’ve been there before.
24 years you must not care that much lol
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Find out why he watches it, is it lack of sexual favors? Does he have an unfulfilled fantasy? Sometimes it’s none of those but there’s gotta be more behind it and it may not even be because he desires something different and it may not even be about you I think you’re feelings are valid but I feel there’s probably more to it, for me as a man I only view that content when my needs have gone unfulfilled and I’m not about to go find a fling or a side piece or cheat because that’s just wrong but to watch it and take care of business and move along doesn’t mean I have any less desire for the person I care about just that I needed to take care of things or have it taken care of and that wasn’t being met just something to ponder
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What you plp r crazy that shit isn’t normal and she shouldn’t be glad he doing it only on his phone if it’s uncomfortable for her then it is everyone not into that kinky crap or horniness pls pray an ask God what should you do because these answers will hv you all screwed frfr
All these so called “women” bashing her for something she is clearly uncomfortable about…Some people are ok with only fans and 3somes. Does that mean the ones that arnt are insecure?? No. Fuck off with your shaming. Girl the point is, you made known your boundries and whats not ok with you and he doesnt care. THAT is the problem. Not you… Tell him HE needs therapy or counseling to find out why he is disrespecting you and doesnt care.
Watch it with him. Find out what he enjoys . Maybe he’s bored with the routine of what you guys do . Or maybe there something he’s to shy to tell you he wants to do… Honestly I think your overreacting. It’s not cheating he’s not sticking it in some other woman. I’m not sure why it would hurt your feelings unless it’s a insurcuirty on your part In that case you should seek counseling for yourself.
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I guess I just will never understand why porn is just a big issue! I would rather him watch porn then actually cheat idk I guess that’s just me… but me and my husband also have great communication today
Let the poor man watch his porn
Your feelings are valid. But I also don’t believe anyone has the right to tell the other partner what they can and can’t do with their body. Which includes jerking it while watching porn. Get the F over it
If you don’t like porn, find a man that also doesn’t like porn…
Yea… Honey if that’s the worst thing he does who cares. Unless of course you are being neglected sexually then maybe there’s a problem.
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I think after 24 years you should already know he’s committed to you and porn is awesome so you should learn to enjoy it with him. I hate when people act like they don’t have sex or enjoy having sex. You obviously love him and he loves you and you hopefully enjoy your intimate time together so why not spice it up? Throw some on in the background next time your giving him a job 