If it’s only been since you have been pregnant… some men feel strange about it with the baby especially if your pretty far along… Don’t over think something that may not even be…men an woman are very different creatures…
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Do not let it bother you. You have enough to worry about being pregnant. It will work itself out
I get where ur coming from. And its maybe not that he isn’t turned on by u. Have u asked him why there s reduced sex between u…? Sometimes jt can be hard/backward/uncomfortable for them with u beibg pregnant… My ex BIL his wife was pregnant 4x and as she got further a long their activity decreased…he was co cerned about hurting her an the baby the first few tines around then it also dawned on him he said that (his words not mine l ok) that where he sticks it in is by the babies face an he flipped out. My ex husband as I got further along was worried it would induce labor an I had specialists as I was high risk so Drs were 3hrs away. Watch the porn with him. I didnt care my part we watched it but one day I eas mad avout something else so I suggested his favorite porn and sat the whole time picking on it. Fake noises the size the mans junk and lol ruined it for him.
I get so sad seeing questions like this bc nobody else should be defining what’s “okay” in your relationship. If it bothers you, it bothers you! You don’t need validation or justification from others to see if it’s “normal” that something bothers you. What one person considers cheating isn’t always going to be what someone else considers cheating but if it’s bothering you and your husband doesn’t care, then maybe it’s time to definitely have a real sit down and get to the root of the problem.
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I feel it very unfair for 1 partner to try and negate the feelings of the other partner. I don’t blame you at all for how you feel… it’s terrible when 1 partner is so disrespectful…
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If he isn’t up for sex with you right now that’s his choice, maybe he’s using the porn to try and get into the mood? If you have needs meet them yourself, forcing him into sleeping with you via guilt trip is fucked up.
Some men just feel weird about having sex during pregnancy. If he is a good husband let it go pleasure yourself. He isn’t cheating he isn’t hiding it .
No. Your not overreacting.
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I agree, watching porn occasionally is one thing while saving the videos (especially excessively) is an issue. I’m also 6 months pregnant and my sex life has decreased to about once a week as well (although that’s more my idea because it’s just uncomfortable) but my husband has went out of his way to make sure if I want physical attention, I get it. That’s the way it should be when your wife is pregnant… honestly, actively lusting after other women while leaving you unsatisfied is close enough to cheating. Not to mention simply disrespectful!
Porn is a problem when he chooses it over his real wife!
It would bother me too
So no you’re not overreacting!!!
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It’s a fine line with that stuff. And it creates unrealistic expectations of what sex should be like. If he not sleeping with you, but he’s watching that stuff, it’s becoming a problem.
porn doesn’t bother me at all 
and honestly some men are just uncomfortable having sex with their pregnant wife, lol I know mine was all for me until I was really big and honestly at that point I didn’t even care because my tummy just got in the fricken way or baby girl would kick and ruin the mood 
I suggest watching it with him or honestly go to marriage counseling idk
everyone has their own opinion on porn and on my end I see no issue whatsoever, cause trust me your man wouldn’t stand a chance with a pornstar
Dankie tog jou man was daar…swak van die ouer…maar nou ja…
Get yourself a bomb toy and download some porn of your own .
Honestly it’s kinda normal for most men to not be into having sex with a pregnant woman after a certain period . But if your needs arnt being met get a dildo wait for him to get home and show him what he’s missing… it sounds like you are being a bit controlling. Have you watched porn at all. Maybe ask if you guys can watch it together.
It’s pregnancy hormones, he isn’t out cheating! A lot of men don’t like having sex once you are so long in pregnancy it’s hard for them to focus instead of wondering if they are hurting you or the baby. Try watching porn and letting him walk into you pleasing yourself he should forget everything atm and come join you. But y’all do have sex still so he is trying but it’s harder on a man he’s probably just worried and your pregnancy hormones are making you feel a lot worse about it all sweetie
No you are not overreacting at all!
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No pregnant or not you’re allowed to have feelings especially if you’re uncomfortable with it, sex is very intimate & people take it more personal than others, as a husband he should make sacrifices to keep you happy & vice versa. Maybe watch it together to spice things up but definitely not save them.
Maybe his uncomfortable having sex while your pregnant I no some men get funny about it…
Talk to him again about your sexual needs. If nothing changes, start to masturbate in front of him. Maybe that’ll turn him on🤷🏽♀️
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Some men are just funny about sex while pregnant, they think it might hurt the baby or are just plain uncomfortable about it.
I can’t stand being touched while pregnant, let alone having sex. But that doesn’t mean I would see them any less attractive, it’s just the way I feel and that’s okay. 
I would be heartbroken
People saying let it go and it’s no big deal 
If it matters to you than its important.Womens sexual needs are just as important as men’s and its bull for him to ignore you while he downloads porn.If you were refusing to be intimate with him but watching porn and flicking your bean im sure he would feel hurt and wondering whats wrong with him that you don’t want to be intimate.If he is worried about hurting the baby or you tell him not to flatter himself.
That’s the thing with relationships. What I may think is cheating, you may not think it is. Vise versa. He should respect your feelings enough to fix the issue. Not make YOU feel in the wrong. All of our dynamics are different. But respect and understanding is FIRST.
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If porn doesn’t bother you, watch it with him. That may help your sex life.
Porn is as addictive as Heroin and an addiction that is very very hard to kick.
I would be concerned if I were you.
Maybe think about why it bothers you so much and discuss that with him. Also ask him what he is getting from watching it/why he feels the need to watch it. Communication is key here.
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Masturbating is normal. It has nothing to do with you. Touching yourself feels good and porn helps with that. I use it myself because I can’t seem to stay focused during my private time. I love my husband. It has nothing to do with him.
I personally think there’s nothing wrong with watching porn.
But if you have issues with it you need to express that with your partner
You have made him aware that this is a boundary for you many times and he continues to cross it while telling you that you are wrong for setting boundaries. Leave. At this point his lack of respect is clear.
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The fact that he knows it hurts you and does it anyway throughout the years, regardless of what it is, shows you how he feels about you. There’s a lack of respect on his end. If you feel this is something that can be fixed through communication or even therapy, suggest it. Otherwise, you need to make a decision whether to continue to put up with the disrespect or leave and heal.
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If he knows how you feel about it and does it anyway he doesn’t respect you.
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Some people are okay with it, some aren’t. I know that with my first husband I wasn’t okay with it because he was a cheater and I was young and insecure.
Now that I’m older, my now husband and I don’t have a need for it, but if we did I probably wouldn’t feel like I did back then.
If that is a problem within your marriage, there needs to be a serious talk between you two.
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It’s an addiction like a lot of things are. Live with it or leave. I’ve dealt with it before, and they’ll never change. They don’t even feel bad. Sorry to be blunt, but honestly they need help to stop.
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Y’all need marriage counseling ASAP . Find one who can deal
With his specific addiction . I believe it can help !
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It’s an addiction for some, has he had counseling? Get him a phone without internet access.
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It’s porn… Ffs. Get over it. He’s married to you not them. Who cares if he looks at it. Insecure much?
Seriously it’s porn. Why does it hurt you? Why make him feel bad for it. There is nothing wrong with it.
Porn can be a big problem in most relationships.
Have you thought of seeking help? There is a thing called “porn addiction” it sounds like he has it.
If you love him and he loves you than use can look at this type of help, together.
You’ve tried talking and setting boundaries and that isn’t working, you obviously don’t want to leave because you love him. The only option now is to seek some professional help and he can get help with it.
There is a lot of online counsellors who would help with this. It’s an addiction and anyone who has had addiction will know how hard it can be to stop.
It’s all about will power and telling the mind, NO.
If this is the only problem use have in this marriage than fight for it and not just end it. If you have gotten help and he still continues than he doesn’t want to be helped and maybe it’s time to than walk away.
Good luck! I hope it goes well for you and you get the outcome you are so desperately seeking from him 
You’ve been married 24 years and are worried about him getting visual stimulation from other naked women… that he will never see or touch in person… sounds like a you problem tbh . Sounds like a major insecurity problem of yours … and again 24 years 24 and this this is your big issue??? Consider yourself blessed
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This is probably the unpopular opinion but, Yes. I can’t imagine telling any adult they can’t watch something. Imagine men telling women they can’t read romance novels or watch shows like Bridgerton. Everybody looooooves that crap. To most guys its basically the same thing. That’s probably why he’s blowing you off about it.
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You’ve been together for 24 years. You’ve known about his addiction and argued repeatedly over the years to no avail. Either accept that he’s not going to change and learn to live with it, or leave. You have to decide what’s more important to you- winning the argument or being with him. Obviously, he has no intention of changing.
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Not gonna stop because he has no repercussions.
That’s an actual addiction and sexual addictions are typically an every day thing. How ever, did you talk about what was cheating before you were married? Cause honestly that is a valid reason to leave some one. But if they wanna change there are programs you can use with out going to outside help.
But also there’s Jesus 
he delivers.
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It’s a generational curse
Addiction to porn
He has to be willing to change and pray putting ur marriage and respect for you first.
Until then he will continue with this habit. Until there is serious consequences he will continue and it’s up to you weather you can deal with it. Follow pastor mike Signorelli on fb with guidance on how to break generational curses
He clearly has needs he cant express (and thats on him to do that) but I wouldn’t “scold” him or take it personally but Instead explore with him reassure him and let him know hes safe with you to evolve
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Where does one draw a line? Is seeing a beautiful woman in the shops and staring at her or having a dirty thought not similar to watching porn? I personally don’t see the issue with it. I watch porn myself, as does my partner, and sometimes we’ll even watch it together. And we are both guilty of sending each other dirty pics 🤷our sex life is better for it.
Wow let him watch porn or would you rather he bangs Wendy the young waitress?!
He’s not touching another woman, watch with him and bring sparks back, be adventurous try something new 24 years is a long time meet him half way… Better then him cheating…
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Man you women just can’t stand to see a man happy. Press charges against his ass and put that dog in jail
Ether you accept that he will watch it and get over it, or leave. Those are your two options. Imo that’s micromanaging your so. I can’t imagine telling mine she can’t watch what she wants to. I read books with adult scenes in them, what’s the difference?
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Porn is a man thing…
Remember, men are very visual…
What you need to do is determine whether he’s an addict, a sexual deviant or a pervert.
If it’s the occasional porn, I guess it’s acceptable to a certain degree.
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Would you rather him cheat on you or look at pictures … pick your battles
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Honestly after 24 years on the same behavior. . . Why are you still surprised or upset? This is obviously going to be a forever action of his. And you will obviously always put up with it. You might as well buy him the movies yourself…
I’m not trying to be mean . I understand you have a problem with it and it’s a very valid reason. But you’ve aloud him to behave as such … for so long . He’s not going to change now. Your options are deal or leave. Sucks but it’s true.
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And I have a question what about it bothers you so much??
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It’s become a society of let boys be boys. So we allow it. And pretend we’re ok with it and just look the other way. #DontComeForMeUnlessISendForYou
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"He didnt feel the need to apologise " Wow, poor man.
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It’s just porn lol it’s normal. How come he needs to apologise because he is wanking off, So your saying in 24 years you haven’t masturbated to porn yourself? Come onnnnn ridiculous
It’s just porn who cares 
If god didn’t want him to play with it , he would have put it on the middle of his back ! Simple as that ! 
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Look at it together you never know it might heighten your sex life 
Over the top addictive style use of porn…his other behaviors interacting with people are likely problematic. I trust her better direct knowledge of him than these comments encompass.
No, you’re not overreacting. ( That’s absolutely sickning and DISGUSTING) I’d feel the same way, but after 24 years, he’s not going to stop… Honestly, I would NEVER tolerate that and would have left him 20 years ago. Unfortunately, he won’t stop. The ball is in your court. Leave or live a miserable life with him
Sorry:disappointed:
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He probably doesn’t even have an addiction smh… Get in on watching with him be open to trying new things and stop being so uptight… that’s probably the reason he watches… too much nagging and not enough gagging
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Random idea, surprise him with it. Put on your best “do me” clothes, turn on an adult movie and watch the sparks fly. He’s not watching porn to see other women, he’s doing it because men like the excitement of something new once in a while, again, not because there is anything wrong with your sex life, but it is fun. So join in on it with him once in a while. I bet you’ll see a real great difference in your sex life and his attitude towards it. 
Good luck girl.
Why do women freak out about guys watching porn. Stop being so insecure and let the man watch porn and better yet watch it with him or will spice up the bedroom. Grow up
I was the same. My anxiety would get the best of me
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Try watching it yourself, you might change your opinion on it
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This would bother me too just makes a women feel not good enough
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I have an issue with porn alone. Buttt I’ve given him the ok. I Know it sounds messed up… but I’m 
willing to do whatever he needs even if it’s just touching him to help as he watches porn. I’ll watch it with him. But I’d prefer he try with me before turning to porn .
It’s a problem he had years ago and respectfully respected me enough to realize it was hurting my ego (self confidence issues) and agreed we’d watch as a team.
He enjoys it and so i would never exclude something he enjoys. S3× is very enjoyable when all parties get to explore and enjoy fantasies or desires. Relationships are 50/50, so ask to join him …
It’s just a movie. Watch it yourself. You’ll like it, also who doesn’t watch porn these days, what year you living in, 1870?
My husband used to watch it behind my back years ago. I wasn’t so much bothered by him I just wasn’t going to allow him to watch it than come sleep with me right after. Eventually he stopped and don’t do it anymore and I’ve been with him 13 years.
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I think it’s sad and tells a lot that people think it’s funny. Don’t let people talk you out of your feelings. You deserve him to turn away from lustful ways
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Let him watch his porn
Maybe watch it with him too
Porn addiction ruined my marriage. My ex husband has ruined his life with it. He talks to none of his children. It is sad. It is all consuming. More addictive than heroin. It is sad.
Everyone has their own personal boundaries and he should be respectful of yours. Some people in this comment section lack basic empathy. Her feelings are completely valid and just because he isn’t physically cheating some would still see it as crossing a line. Maybe discuss what it is about porn that makes him feel the need to use it every day, is it a specific kind of porn and is there anyway you could enjoy it together? I feel for you completely and if its upsetting you and causing him to neglect your needs then it’s clearly an issue you need to face as a couple xx
This is what I’ve learned from folks in this group when it comes to these posts
It’s either
- You’re an uptight prude bc you’d rather your man only look at you
- You’re ridiculous for feeling the way you do bc others are ok with porn
- You need to suck it up bc “it’s what men do” “if it bothers you join him”
Literally every time a question like this comes here the answers are just straight up degrading to the one who posted it.
Some women just aren’t ok with their partners getting off to other females, it makes them feel like they’re not enough and if you can’t comprehend that so be it. But jeez for once can’t a group of women be kind and supportive of another female. exactly why I’ll never send a question in here.
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Watch it with him 
spice up the bedroom a little
Hope your ok too hate when people don’t listening to you about your feelings 
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Imagine asking for a simple request, for 24 years. Whewww. At this point you’ll have to accept the lack of respect via his behavior or leave.
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I’m sorry some of the women in here are making fun of your feelings and your beliefs. How sad and pathetic.
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Have you ever tried watching it with him? My husband and I watch it together. It can make for amazing sex.
He’s gas lighting you.
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24 years is a long time, but the truth is, is what you allow, is what will continue…
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Over porn. Like its porn. Im so confused I didn’t realize this was such an issue for so many. I guess Im the oddball out here because to make such a big deal over something so trivial is crazy to me. All screams insecurity.
It’s just porn… I mean he probably doesn’t want to have sex with you of you feel like he needs to apologize for watching porn. SMH.
Ok some aren’t gonna like this idea, but in 24 years have you ever made a video with him? Have you offered? Have you asked if that’s something he’d be interested in? If you had your own videos maybe he would be watching those rather than porn🤷♀️if this is an option for you then maybe you should consider talking to him. You may see his face light up with joy at the mere thought lol
Every man ive ever been with likes porn. I def understand your feelings tho. You will just have to do what you are ok with. I bet he wont ever stop this tho
If it was an all day every day thing I could understand the issue. But why are you worried about him having a look here and there
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My husband and I are seniors and he on occasion will watch porn and I could care less because he is home with me. I don’t care for it but I have 100% trust in him that he would not cheat. I am not saying you aren’t entitled to your feelings but about 80% of men watch some porn. From what I have heard they aren’t comparing the porn actresses to their wife. For some men it is just an escape from reality and if that should relax them why make it a rule no porn in my house. I don’t let my husband watch it on my computer so if he watches it well it has to be on his tv or his own computer and I promise you because he can he really doesn’t watch it that often. Believe me I understand your feelings because I once felt the same way but I got to reading articles on why men watch porn and that helped me to understand.
People laughing at this and being rude, some people don’t like porn and what may be okay and good in one marriage isn’t for the other. I find it rude that this woman heather chandler keeps laughing. Grow up.
according to the Bible, he needs to pluck out his eyes and cut off his hands
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rather have porn then them cheating on you
Watch it with him! Have some fun, spice things up.
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Not sure what the big deal is? Sorry it hurts you but why is that exactly? I personally don’t understand people’s issues with “porn”. What am I missing?
I don’t think you are overreacting. It’s a clear boundary you have set. He’s not respecting you and you have every right to be upset. Don’t let these other women tell you that porn is normal just because it’s been normalized. “At least he’s not cheating!” So thats the boundary? You are okay with your men getting off to naked women because you are afraid they are going to cheat?
We are humans. Not animals. There is such thing as self control and if you don’t have enough control to respect your significant other’s boundaries than YOU DON’T DESERVE THEM. Period.
If my man is getting turned on by watching other women get fucked, well hell, let me just go find a man and he can watch someone do it to me fuck that.