Not selfish. Leave him at the old house
He sounds like a child. I’d get rid of him and his house.
Not selfish at all. It’s your hard work.
No, it’s not selfish, it’s smart.
You are being very sensible ,bravo to you.
Rent! That can be in just your name.
No not selfish at all
No not at all put it in a family trust under your kids name
Listen to your gut. Don’t second guess it.
He’ll no only right he didnt help he don’t get house
No be selfish. Be smart keep his peas off your investment
You just need a new partner
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Let me seenif I have this right. You moved into HIS house after you married & put yours up for rent? Then discovered he didn’t do upkeep.?
Did he benifit from your rental income? Did you ever go to or spend time in His house before you married?
The answer to me is clear. HE should divorce you quickly . You want somebody perfect not someone that loves you. He may not be responsable enough to upkeep a home but you married him knowing that. He should charge you for half of his mortgage for the time you lived in his house. You are the immature one & greedy because clearly marriage is ALL about you. Marriage is supposed to be a growing adventure not one way. You knew all of this in advance & you did it anyway. Beware the next husband because he will leave you in the dust when your greed & selfishness becomes apparent.
I agree with you. Do not put his name on the house.
No Just GOOD THINKING on your part!
Leave him at his own house
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Hell no and I’d dump his sorry ass too!!!
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You keep the house and let him keep toys.
Nope keep it in your name period
No yr money bought it yr name goes on it
HELL NO. This way you can take care of it for your later years & children. He will never own anything nice. I’d charge him rent
Just get what’s called a “QuitClaim” Deed. You can sign it over with no problem and they will have ownership. It’s too short a marriage to gift your children’s estate to a short time partner, IMO. My best to you
If you, helped him spend his money, rode in the razor, and went with him to the casino, yes you are selfish.
Why aren’t you divorced yet???
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No way. You ALONE should be on the mortgage. Better yet, leave him in his house and move into your new home!
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I say you don’t need to be with this man, he is willing to sit back and let you do all the work! He takes no ownership for anything! Please look up the meaning of a narcissist, as this is what your partner is! Dump him and you will soon meet another nice man who will tick most of the boxes!! Good luck and stop allowing this loser to hold onto your coat tails!!
Nope you’re not. If you are smart and to keep your kids or whoever from having to go thru probate just add their name along with yours to whatever you want them to have. It will save them a lot of money and no aggravation!
Ummm none of that makes sense. Sounds like someone burned her prior to the marriage and she’s the one who insisted on the prenup. If she loved him she would have looked at the bigger picture. She’s selfish …
No it’s not selfish. You must be aware at some level that your marriage is doomed because you tied yourself to someone who doesn’t share your values. Make the break quickly before the mistake costs you even more. He’ll suck you dry and walk away.
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I would have left his lazy ass stay in his broken down house and I would live in the new house without him. He is a lazy and selfish. Get an annulment and move on.
Not selfish at all! Your money; your house! You deserve the reward!
In Tx you can have his name taken off the house and your kids put on it. We did this. Check with an attorney.
Always and first protect yourself. Keep the house in your name. He’s already shown he’s irresponsible.
Absolutely not. You need to look out for yourself and your children. Men are fleeting
I’m sad to say is yes. Inwas married for 10yrs my ex husband didnt want us to have anything in each other names. Didnt have an bank account. No taxes done together. Not even have cars in our names. Shit, I didnt even k ow how much he mad. It did bother me. And make me angry. But after 4 yrs in he started to her in debt. And had his cars repoed. So then I was glad. Cus when we got divorced. Not that debt fell on me. So do what if financially best. He can still live in it. Lol
For better or worse. Divorce his sorry ass or put his name on the house. You married him. And yes your selfish.
I think you did absolutely the right thing by not having his name on ‘your’ new house.
Would check with an atty the way I understand it anything you had prior to marriage is yours and anything acquired after marriage is both of yours. That money from the sale could possibly be considered mutual property since it was acquired after marriage. I would call an atty and find out.
Not selfish at all. He did nothing to earn it. He can go live in his boat if he doesn’t like it
A prenuptial doesn’t help with items purchased AFTER the marriage. Even if it doesn’t have his name on it. Best to NOT buy it outright and put the house sale money in a separate account to preserve the prenup. Go speak an attorney bc it matters what state you reside in as well. Why did marry someone who doesn’t take care of their home? Sorry not trying to be rude but isn’t that type of thing supposed to make you go hmmmm.
If you put the house in your name make sure everything is legal. Like with Idaho both your names go on it not in less he signs saying it’s yours.
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Smart woman…wish i d done the same instead of getting cleaned out at my age
Not at all, I think it’s foolish to do otherwise!
Not at all! I am wondering why you’re still married. Does he really make your life better?
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Not selfish. You are however, irresponsible for marrying someone , with whom ,you clearly have nothing in common. Get a divorce.
Why are you even married? Hope you’ve been paying him rent though!
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Absolutely not! If he doesn’t help you financially, dump him
I would get out of that marriage…seams like it’s a one way street…you and your children would be better off
Wow dont any1 be a team and be fair rather than his and hers no real relationship crap atall jokes glad my misses is so self centred
No, you are completely in the right. Sole and separate property-
Not at all, dead beat dads and little boys don’t deserve it!
Yes. He did you a big favour, you could of been in a worse situation if it wasn’t for him. Besides, he’ll get half of what you have anyway if you get divorced and you’ll probably lose your house anyways. Doesn’t sound like you love him that much, I find your question offensive.
Nope you are right you can buy the house and have it put straight into a trust for the kids, that way he can never get it. I myself would get rid of him if he is that unreliable now it can only get worse.
Whatever you get while you are married,it belongs to both of you.Unless you get a Pre- Nup.So I would do it.
Sexual attraction and guilt are not reasons for marrying an extremely selfish person. Divorce and move on
If you put his name on the house and divorce then he can claim 50% of the house, meaning you eou have to sell it to give him his share, or pay him half the value. He could challenge it, because you purchased the house while married to him. Get legal advice, divorce him, but keep your money separate because he could be entitled to half of whatever you have. Put the money in a safety deposit box, but don’t let him know what you have.
Unless you are refinancing, leave everything as is… in your name!
Not at all selfish! I agree with you!
You may want to consider dumping the ‘money pit’ hubby. Doesn’t sound like he is going to get serious very soon…
Regardless if He is on the house or not? In my state if he divorces you he gets half.
living will go and get your wishes down on paper for your kids.
Sounds like you not only need to keep his name off of the house, you need a new husband. Seriously, sounds like a real one sided relationship, one in which you’ve invested four years of your life, and he’s walking all over you.
He’d sign that prenup or id set his happy ass on the curb…period.
Sounds perfectly reasonable to me. Especially if there is a pre nup.
Not sure why she stays with what sounds like a dumbass
Not selfish of you. Don’t put his name on it. What if something happens to your marriage? You’ll be fighting over YOUR house. Protect yourself in the long run
Then ur no team and have no need to be together either go as team or not atall let him have his youmay find you both better off the day you marryed him you were a team if still then put him on it as his money will go on bills shopping an house bits aswell simple stupid wo.an
NOPE!!
support this!! I did the same thing bought it only in my name
First I’d file for divorce. If I’m concerned about putting him on the deed to my house I obviously don’t trust you at all. 
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If he’s not on the loan, don’t put him on the title.
Get a divorce…apparently you’re with the wrong person.
And you married him? Well you now are in a longterm mess.
No. Just prudent. Indiscriminate spending is very scary.
Not selfish by any means, in fact it s very smart.
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If don’t want his name on new home no one is gonna stop you
Sounds like this Marriage will be over soon
Asking FB people for advise
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Nope. Not selfish of you at all.
Put in your name only.
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Not selfish at all. Stick to your guns.
You are doing the right thing by you. You are not selfish. Protect your asset for your children. Husband is useless.
Buy the house after you divorce this bum!
No, you put up the money. It’s your house.
I wouldn’t. No way !
Put it in the children’s names
But he is your hysnand idont think it matters get a lawyer
You need to find a new mate.
You start question with my house…
Your money, YOUR HOUSE.!!!
Who makes up these things?
I think you should kick him the fuck out of your life!
Oh Hell NO! Go with your gut Crone!
He should kick your ass out
I’m surprised you’re still with him. Don’t put his name on anything. He’s selfish.
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Absolutely a smart person
Not selfish…SMART!!
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Your money, your house
I think that is a very smart move
Get rid of him. No good
Time to say bye bye. Too selfish.
No you are just being a good mother and thinking of your kids.God bless you
I totally agree with you