Dump his ass and get a good woman.
Not selfish…common sense
Ithink you are smart
I think you married a selfish turd
When will you wake up and smell the coffee !!!
You have been suckered in .
You HAD to have had a CLUE… !!
Who initiated the PRE-NUP ?
This guy is going to use you up , he will lean on you for money until you collapse !
Two things that you must do…
Get AWAY from this self obsessed DELINQUENT ;
and as quickly as possible , ensure that he has no credit cards with your
NAME , and cannot sign ANYTHING FOR YOU .
Wake up you dumb bitch , YOU ARE BEING HUSTLED !!!
I know you don’t want to admit it , but try this … if you think things are bad now ; imagine what it would be like for the rest of your life !!
I paid dearly to learn this lesson !
Smart. Don’t do it.
Nope. He is irresponsible.
AMEN … best to you …
No and Tammy Williams sounds about right
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I would just divorce him.
Leave the selfish bastard
Not selfish!!! Smart!
Smart girl take care of yourself
Your money your house
Just go make him a sandwich
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Call an attorney NOW
Talk to an attorney!
Definitely not selfish!
hell no you are doing the right thing
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No…smart, not selfish!
Thats a No from from me if he couldnt be bothered to save thats his problem
Wow. Sounds like way more problems for you two than can be solved on Facebook.
Not selfish, very very smart
No you don’t have to
You are not selfish.Smart lady.
Don’t do it he is a loser
Smart! Good for you!
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No I think you were wise
No help, no name on deed
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Nope you r doing it right
Your money, Your house
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No do it like u want
No. I would just leave him.
Nope your name only !!!
Sounds complicated. Bless you
Nope…you are being very wise
You are being smart 
No it is not selfish. It is smart. I did the same.
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Kick that sombitch to the curb.
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Not selfish. Very smart lady.
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Why are you married to him?
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You alone is good enough but make sure you leave a testament as to who gets yr house
No, kick him to the curb!
Sounds like you just want to be single
I’m confused as to why you even married somebody like that in the first place?
No! You take care of yourself and your family.
No, my husband was the same way . I worked two jobs , he worked no jobs .,put your children name on the house . Best wishes
It’ll save you in the long run when you divorce because this sounds like a fabulous marriage 
Not selfish at all.
He didn’t put in.
You did.
Save your money for your children.
Absolutely no way would I include my husband in those circumstances.
Protect your self.
As well in case of a divorce.
No. Not at all. Protect yourself and your kids.
No, you are definitely not selfish! I have moved in with men in the past, and, even though I pay to live there, they’ve been able to kick me out as they please. In my last relationship, I finally got accepted for disability, and got a check for over $18,000, and spent about 90% of it on his house and lot. He kicked me out as soon as the money was gone. I am planning on buying a home in about 5 years, and, no matter who they are or what they say, their name will not be on the deed to the house. I will never again worry about having a roof over my head.
No, generational wealth is important. So will it to your children in trust. What is yours before marriage is yours as long as you put it in your will for the kids.
Nope. Are you sure you want to stay married to this guy? Sounds like you have many more problems than the house. Sometimes you need a man like a fish needs a bicycle.
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This doesn’t sound like a happy marriage or that you are in love. Seems to me that what you need help deciding is if you need to stay in the marriage at all. I agree that there are 2 sides to every story. However, if you truly loved this man and were truly happy with him, this would not be a conversation you would be having with anyone. Especially strangers on the internet. Stop wasting this man’s time and move on. Both of you need to find your happily ever after with someone else.
You’d be better off putting that money in a trust for your kids… Hate to say it… but it feels like divorce is on the horizon and you need to start hiding money NOW… Even with your prenup which probably only states that you keep what you had BEFORE the marriage, and I think once you liquidated that asset the proceeds became marital property.
When you get married, you need to be able to say, what’s mine is yours, with nothing held back. If you can’t do this, it may be time to reevaluate your relationship.
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I would definitely not put his name on this house!
No, it’s not a one way Street if both contribute then that’s different. I would do the same as you.
It actually would depend in the state you live in. Even if his name isn’t on the paperwork it is still his because you are married. My husband had his house before we got married as well so my name isn’t on the paperwork. But now that we are married, even though my name isn’t on the paperwork it is still mine and would automatically deed over to me if anything should happen to him.
I don’t think it’s selfish @ all - but I wonder at the relationship?
When a spouse dies everything goes to the other spouse prenup or not.
Depending on the state you live in dower rights may be waived if there is a prenuptial but the other spouse must agree to waive those rights I believe.
Absolutely not. Do the prenup.
Protect yourself…a leopard NEVER changes his spots…NEVER
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Nope and sounds like you should get a divorce………
No. I think you are taking care of yourself. Are you sure you want to stay in this marriage? Your goals seem to be quite different than your husband’s.
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No not selfish at all
I think you should read what you wrote, while sitting in your attorney’s office.
I hope there is a really, really, REALLY good reason you’re still with this schmuck.
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Nope no selfish at all
no. not selfish at all…DO NOT put his name on x
It doesn’t seem purchasing a home while married to him falls into the PRE-nuptial agreement. I would speak to an attorney about this. Generally, property obtained during the marriage is to be split up equally at the end of the marriage regardless of the reason. I’m trying to process why you would want to stay married to someone who doesn’t care about your future.
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I would talk to an attorney first even with having a pre-nup and see what your options are given the laws in your state. If you aren’t happy in this relationship the easiest route would be to seek a divorce first,hash out the proceeds from the sale of the house you’re living in now and then buy your own house that way he has no marital claims to it and you don’t have to worry about it. Either way speak to a knowledgeable attorney. Good luck!
Hell no, you’re not hooked to the hip you are still an individual, and if he wasn’t willing to pitch in he doesn’t deserve to have his name put on it. Especially if you have spoke about and he didn’t hold up his part. No way!!
Not selfish it’s smart.
No, not at all. It’s heartbreaking, (sorry!) but second marriages are tricky, financially. Have u discussed it with him?
NO!! If he is not responsible someone has to be.
Nope… considering the reasons you gave
Not at all selfish. You’re actually doing the right thing.
Not selfish at all! Get a will written up by a good lawyer & file for a divorce hopefully using same good lawyer or one in same firm. Who had the prenuptial agreement made? Him or you? Legally you are bound to that agreement as well as he is. If that agreement included the arrangement for both financing a new house, then he’s breached his part of it. Talk to lawyers is your best bet. Fyi: never give up & sell any house you have in the future for another person. That would have been your best option to get out of this one.
Not selfish you got the right ideas!!!
ABSOLUTELY NOT , YOU worked hard for YOUR new home . He obviously didnt want part in . Hes SELFISH.
Your name only
FOR SURE
Remind me , why are you married again ?
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Have him sign a quit claim deed!
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U don’t need to put his name because the house is still half his if u divorced. Use ur actual head here lmao:laughing:
after so many years, ur old house and his old home belongs to both in a divorce. Ck ur state lady
No I do not. Men are the selfish ones that’s why he spent his money on other stuff
Not only no, but he’ll no… He has been taking advantage of you by your working and saving for new house…would divorce him.
By seeing all the above answers I am convinced I will never marry again,NEVER
No I’d leave him in his house and move on!
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THE ONLY WAY TO KEEP HIM FROM INHERITING IT. Is to get him to sign a quit-claim; the day you sign the papers for the new house. Ask your attorney. Personally, I would get a Divorce, and go buy Yourself a new home.
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red flag. Do not sell your house.
You are being smart to do this!
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No not selfish but sensible. Well done you 
Need more women who think like this! Don’t take no shit! He didn’t do dick for it so why should he benefit! But honestly he sounds like a shitty spouse… I would leave him too.
Nop, lucky he is that is coming into your house with you. Your name only 
Smart af not selfish at all
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Nope girl you keep what you earn.
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The real question is why are you still with him?
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Why are you married ? Sounds like you don’t like him and yall don’t get along or meet eye to eye ?
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Sounds like you’re a smart lady
No! He’s the selfish one.