Unfortunately he has a right to a share of the funds you saved while he was pissing away his, you need to shield your post nup assets then make your move
No… Best way to go IMO!
No if you sold your house and saved to pay cash that is your house if it was a loan that would be a different story bc you both would pay on it. However if you die first I don’t think hebshould be shoved out of the home especially if you guys are older that part to me is selfish you should still want him taken care of as should he want you taken care of.
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Prenup wouldn’t protect you if you buy the house while married. Whether it’s in your name or both your names. Sounds like you should divorce him. Then buy a house.
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I don’t find it selfish since he’s not doing his part.
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Not selfish at all. Divorce him
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It could still be split up in a divorce I believe. I would consult a lawyer, it still an asset obtained during marriage.
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Put ur own name on it… 
me n my bf been together about 12 years maybe longer everything is under my name I moved into his tho 
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So yall split everything like roommates? Why did you even marry him. My husband and I put all of our money in one account. We have a few different accounts for different things. But our money is combined. We buy what we want when we want. No need to ask or tell the other person.
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Unless your prenuptial agreement includes all assets post marriage then he is entitled to half the marital assets once you said I Do, which includes this new house, regardless of whose name is on it.
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I’d leave him and buy my own house. 
. Have fun living in your shithole you created dude.
I would consult a lawyer first to see how you can do it to make sure he doesn’t get half in a divorce.
Prenup only protects what you had BEFORE marriage so he could still get the house as he is your spouse. Kind of sounds like you don’t want to be with him so just divorce🤷🏼♀️
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Why are u even married? Marriage is about partnership. Sounds like there is none in your case.
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If you live in a community property state it doesn’t matter if he is on deed. He will still be entitled to 1/2.
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Just something to consider: who paid utilities and entertainment, gas and insurance? Because if he helped with any bills you wouldn’t have saved as much. Also I think it’s fair IF he didn’t contribute to any costs, such as utilities, entertainment, food, clothing etc. But if he did it isn’t fair. You lived in his home and rented yours for income and he helped with other costs while you received income and benefits from him on any financial level.
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Not even a little selfish, just plain smart, these days you gotta do what you gotta do to look out for yourself, especially when you have kids.
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Not selfish at all. He sounds like he is irresponsible with money.
Sounds like it’s time to use the pre-nip and get out of the marriage
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Nope, not selfish at all
Not selfish, per say, but sounds like you don’t need to be getting married to him. It’s selfish to devote your life to someone and not actually go all in. In marriage, you’re either all in or all out. 50/50 is a motto for failed marriages. It’s 100/100. If you don’t trust this guy and you don’t feel comfortable enough even sharing a home with him, I think you already know what needs to be done. This sounds like a breeding ground for dishonesty, mistrust, fights, and insecurity, to be honest.
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Man… You’re so confused about how this works.
It won’t matter whose name is on it. If it was bought during the marriage it belongs to y’all. Which means ask the stuff he bought belongs to both of you as well.
If you two were trying to achieve a joint goal then there should have been ongoing conversations the entire time. If you aren’t constantly having an ongoing dialogue with each other regarding your goals that house is only going to matter when it comes to hire to divide things during your inevitable divorce.
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Oh hell no if he made you sign a prenup his name wouldn’t be on my house
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Why would it be selfish of you if he isn’t helping you? Do what you gotta do!
He will be on your house anyway consult attorney
Should have kept the house you already owned since that was for sure covered in prenup and filed for divorce.
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Rich people problems are the worst…
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What’s the point of being married if you guys aren’t working as a team together…
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Hell no do not put his name on it!
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Any property attained after the marriage license was signed is community property in Texas.
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Not at all ! He sounds lazy and irresponsible.
IT is CALLED “SELF PRESERVATION” !!! MY QUESTION to YOURSELF IS —are you going to even let him MOVE INTO YOUR NEW HOME ???
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If there is a prenuptial agreement then no, you don’t need to put your husband’s name on the deed. As long as the prenup doesn’t say that in a divorce yall split everything, you should be fine.
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Nope!
You look out for you!!!
No!!! No no no no no!!! NNNOOOOOOOOO!!! No way!!! Not a chance! No! No! NOOO!!! DON’T DO IT!!! 
If I have learned anything, it is keep it in your own name.
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No, but why are you even with someone who is like this in the first place??
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How are you still with him?
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No, not selfish at all. You had an agreement and he didn’t do his part. I agree it should go to your child, should something happen to you
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No, I call it being smart…especially with him being so shotty with how he handles money. I just bought land and only my name is on it, as much as I love my fiance, sometimes things happen and a relationship doesn’t work out. I’m not about to lose my land that I bought, and I want it to go to my child when I die.
Why are you married if you don’t want to work as a team? Marriage is a partnership. It’s not selfish, but it sounds like you don’t want to be a team with him anyway. If you’re already worried about even putting him on there it sounds like y’all don’t need to be married.
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No and why worry if you’re selfish because you’re not!. Your husband sounds selfish! I think I’d look in to counseling and maybe you staying at YOUR NEW HOME!
Put this “SELFISH LOSER” in your rear view mirror…He IS NOT the man you fell in love with and married…make your get away ASAP 
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This doesn’t sound much like a marriage. 
I get what you’re saying. However, marriage is about team work. Just kinda crazy that people stay in relationships like thos
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Put it in a trust for your kids.
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Nope! Not selfish in those circumstances, let the attorney work it out legally and enjoy the fruits of your labor.
No , your house your money. Yes marriage is a two way street but it seems yours is one way in this aspect. If he won’t protect you, you need to protect yourself.
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Nope do you boo boo bc obviously he’s doing want he wants
Yes very selfish you went into your marriage as single because you said he save hid money and you say yours when you get married its not her or his its ours
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Not selfish at all. I purchased a house and didn’t put my SOs name on it. We weren’t married but had been together for 4 years and lived together/shared bills. But I paid for the house not him. In the end we had a nasty nasty break up after 8 years. He had to leave and I got to stay in the house with our son. Best decision I ever made
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You should have kept the place you had and continued to rent it out. Then you should have bought a house in both of your names together (so he feels equal). If things ever went south with you guys you could always sell that one together and back into your old place as a safety net!
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No but it may be difficult to finance. To.e for better communication or thoughts of value of your marriage
You sound like room mates not a married couple.
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I would have been long gone. Believe what you see. He’s an I-me-my person. You and want you want are of no concern to him.
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Hell no your name only! You earned it to be yours!
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No, why are you still with him? It is never too late to reclaim your life.
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Sounds like your partner is a dependent
I wouldn’t put his name on it either. Do it up
Girl I’m not trying to be mean but why are you married? Your just a second mama mansitter. Send this thing packing and get you A REAL MAN!
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Not selfish. Maybe see about how to protect your assets. Sounds to me like your husband has an addiction…possibly multiple addictions. Not sure if you are in a situation where you can maybe consider putting your kids’ names on there. I don’t know much about this stuff, but definitely seek legal counsel
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Not at All. Your name only!
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DO NOT PUT THAT MANS NAME ON YOUR HOUSE. IDC WHAT HE SAYS. No.
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Divorce then buy your own house, full stop
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What does the prenup say?
Cause he be might able to still go after the house. Sounds like you need to speak to an attorney prior to making your decision.
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It’s yours and yours only
I think it is smart, wish I had been that smart
Most definitely not. Your the brains in the relationship…it has to be 50-50 or nothing. Might wanna think about tradeing him in too.
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Not selfish. Smart. You obviously can’t trust him to where if something happened to you and the house were to go to your kids. He can’t be on the house. He wouldn’t follow through. That says alot right there about your marriage. Better off alone
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If you feel this way 4 yrs in & he won’t reevaluate his spending/saving habits maybe u need to also, reevaluate this union you hv joined n2🤷ijs!
Why even stay married if you don’t want things together. Same for him, he obviously didn’t value working towards a common goal with you. So buy a new house and live there together while you each do your own thing. Doesn’t sound fun.
I wouldn’t either given the same circumstances.
If you didn’t work on it together then he doesn’t deserve any parts of that house. It sounds like you need to move you and your children in the new house and let him stay in his. Sometimes it’s better to move on be happy. Marriage isn’t a one way street. You shouldn’t have to do this alone.
Would be considered marital property would it not?
Not selfish at all…if he didn’t put anything back and doesn’t take care of what he has then the relationship should end right then and there
I would. Not. And you can t depending him for any thing. Get. Rid of him. You are better off with out him he is a bum
I thoight anything you bought while married was community property and belonged to both of you?
I know many cases where the man is working and the wife stays at home. Even relationships will there’s no children involved… the woman is still entitled to have her name on the house she lives there… as for leaving it to your children as part of your estate that’s a different story… but if you pass away where does your husband go, homeless…
You might want to check out the laws where you live. Some states, if you move in together, he can claim half even if his name isn’t on it.
You have a man child, not a husband.
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Before reading your full story I would have said, yes that’s very selfish, you’re married and in marriage you share everything- losses, incomes, assets, etc. In your case… I agree- you’re just his babysitter. I’m a SAHM for our two kids. But, I care for our homestead, take care of the bills, do the shopping (and couponing), I often bake and sell items, I teach miscellaneous classes at the college, and make props and come up with all of the layout, etc for our haunted house. I cannot stand feeling like a dead weight and have to do whatever I can to help out. Cannot imagine being in your husband’s shoes. Tell him he can stay in “his” house until he can afford to pay 1/2 of everything.
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I think you already know where this is headed and you are just looking for confirmation.
So with love and respect:
Don’t put his name on it.
Let him know his behavior is a turn off and he’s not acting as a partner to you.
If he won’t wake up then I’d suggest couples counseling and then go from there.
This is a huge red flag that you can not ignore.
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Take care of you, sistah.
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How many razors has this man been buying?!
Also not sure about you but to me a marriage is a partnership…maybe y’all shouldn’t be married if you don’t feel the same way
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Get yourself a new house and a new man. If he isn’t taking care of this one , why would he take care of a different one.
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I dont blame you but it sounds like you aren’t planning to stay with him.
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Divorce him and get yourself a nice house. He sounds like a lover.
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Absolutely not selfish, you need to look out for yourself.
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I wouldn’t put his name on it he didn’t help pay for it
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Nope, not selfish at all. He’s the one who’s been selfish. Put it in your name. Marriage is supposed to be both people helping out and he’s just mooching. Leave it for your kids.
Absolutely not. Your money is paying for it not his.
Idk where u live but in my state if your married when u buy a house both of your names have to be put on it unless it was bought before marriage or after divorce.
Why are you even married? Shouldn’t everything be together?
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If you are married it’s half his anyway if things go south
Also depending on the specifics of your prenup ANY property (new houses included) no matter what money used could be deemed community property
I have the suspicion that you didn’t have complete trust in him from the beginning deep down. Why you went ahead with the marriage I don’t know. He has proven he has no desire to save for a house. He has been very obvious in his desires. It’s all laid out in front of you very clearly. There doesn’t seem to be a question to me. Cut your kisses and run as fast as you can. Use better judgement in the future. Listen to your instincts and discernment
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Take care of you & those babies. Leave him off!
Nope … no one looks out for you but you…
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Not at all. 
HOWEVER, you better check into the real estate laws in your state.
Is that ur name on all the toys he bought ?
Not a bit selfish. At the end of the day, you can’t depend on anyone. Not even the people who love you. I learned the hard way. But just to be on the safe side, before you buy a house check out the laws in your area and get in touch with a lawyer. They will best advise you on the do’s and don’t of how to proceed. It’ll cost you a little bit, but its better than losing a home you worked hard for.
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