In the state of Texas its community property whether his name is on it or not
Not selfish but why you in the marriage…sounds like you kinda don’t like him and are more of a momma then a wife…he blows his money on boy toys and you maintain everything else and aim for better things for the future why he lets his own just break down…when planning the future he should be apart of it…not holding you back…and not another thing for you to maintain or keep up…
Hell no you’re not being selfish you made the money you earned it he can kick rocks he seems like the type of husband that just thinks about himself he’s the selfish one
Not at all. It’s yours.
Not selfish at all. He’s the one that hasn’t met his part of your joint plans/agreement.
You already compromised by living in his house.
Glad you have a prenup and looking out for your interest and the kids.
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Divorce him and than buy your house. Solution solved.
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If it’s covered by a prenup then buy a safe place for you and e kids to live. Idk that you should even stay married. Financial issues/goals are huge thing and y’all aren’t even close to the same goal. Not to mention he’s putting his families safety at risk.
In the end it’s considered community property I can see the concern with spending and trying to possibly get money out of the equity of the house ect I would keep all papers locked up or put them in a safety deposit box ect … 
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Not at all. You are not selfish. You worked hard for it and sold YOUR house to pay for it. You should have all say in what you do with it and what happens to it in the future.
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Doing the right thing my dear!
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Are you kidding me. Why are you staying married to this jerk. He the selfish one. Get Out!!!
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I live in pa. When I was married I bought a house, I had the attorney I chose to help do closing write a document that my husband had no right to this property of him and I divorced and he signed it. We did get divorced and he no rights to that property.
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It would fall back to how good/ and what the pre nup. says his name on it or not wouldn’t change anything if it’s addressed in the pre nup. If not even without his name it’s a martial asset.
No. This isn’t the dark ages. I would hope he could understand why.
Not selfish you are right to look out for yourself/children especially since he made no effprt to help save as planned.
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Your house in your name. Clearly you are the only one that cares for the property in which you live so why should he benefit while not working for it?
Some states require if you’re married that both have to be on the deeds and any legal ownership.
As for a prenuptial agreement, that just keeps all your assets before marriage out of any divorce proceedings. But you’re buying a house while married, so that becomes marrital (communal) property as it was acquired during the marriage. I understand wanting it to go to your children’s trust, but unless he agrees to add it to the prenup adjustment, then its now fair game.
Only way to safely keep it solely in your name is to file for divorce.
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Only your name on home title. BUT, the state you’re in may give husband a portion of ownership. Check it out.
not at all…sounds like a bum
No and do not dog it he gets have if working if you do unless you bought tigether
You’re not. I am thinking about post nups agreement now. 
My advice, leave his ass period. If toys and vice’s preoccupied the care of his current home, lack of common sense on saving for the maintenance of his home, you will be busting your ass for a lifetime no matter where you two live.
Don’t get me wrong, toys and some vice’s, in moderation I indulge in but responsibility is priority. Sounds like he hasn’t grown up.
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as has been mentioned if purchased after marriage in most states it will be community property and will have to be split evenly. if you buy another house put it in one of your childrens name or someone you can trust. that way he cant touch it if you divorce
Really depends on where you live. Some states it doesn’t matter, if you bought it while you were married and you ended up divorcing he could still potentially be entitled to half of it
As someone going through a divorce now put the house in your name. Never again will I share accounts or anything like that with someone.
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What a marriage. But no don’t.
Why didn’t you invest in the home that’s falling apart AND then purchase a new one? Where to begin with the irresponsibility here… so as a married couple you now have JOINT property and income. Why are you two still separating everything as mine and yours? Therein lies one of the major problems.
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No you sold your house to buy you a new house. Tell him if he wants a house to sell his and but him a new one 
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Quit complaining or you’ll always be miserable, you’re not a victim to your circumstance. It’s like the old saying “cry me a river, build a bridge and get over it.” No one owes you anything, you want it? Get off your butt and go get it!
No I think you are thinking of your children’s future. Probably need to have a post nup too to protect your home in the future because it sounds like if he doesn’t grow up your heading in the wrong direction
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No. You’re being smart.
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Nope not at all, take care of you and your babies, if he spends his money on crap he doesn’t need to be gaining what you have worked hard for
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I wouldn’t be wih him. By the sound of it he’s immature and not capable of saving money. Money will always be a problem between you two. But if you decide to buy a house don’t put his name on it.
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Not selfish, however, depending on the state you live in, you may not have a choice. Research this with EXTREME caution as Real Estate rules, regs, and laws are tricky, complex, and can become a slippery slope!
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No, it’s not fair for u to sacrifice and him blow all his money
Yeah, I guess. Question: while you were saving YOUR money, did both of you pay living expenses (food, utilities, auto, insurance, property tax,etc)? You stated that you were living in a house that he owned prior to marriage. What happens to that, in the event that he precedes you? You get his house, but your kids get yours? So, you die first, he has to move out? I guess that the kids are from a different marriage?
Why don’t you just leave him now? Sounds like you don’t trust him and think that he is a slob.
If I was him and read this, you would not have to ask me to leave!
Just saying.
It sounds like you guys should each go your own way. If
I thought that whatever house , property , cars , etc ( if a divorce was to take place or death ) that even if his name isn’t on it or vise versa it was purchased during marriage which he is entitled to half
Nope. Not at all mommas. When I move, no one is getting put on the lease but me and the kiddos of course
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No, it is not selfish, it is right thing to do
Depends on your state but if you are married, automatically, both of you are in the deed even if you are the only one on the loan
No, but unfortunately you are married and unless you get him to sign something saying house is only yours, in most states it would be considered communal and what’s his is your and what’s yours is his.
But, you are not being selfish.
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Put it in a trust and he won’t be able to touch it
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no name on MY house, he’d be lucky to be able to move with me!
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I do not think it’s selfish at all.
He did not uphold his end of the deal for the purchase of a new house and as a result, you had to sell one of your assets to make up for his poor money management. I don’t blame you AT ALL. The question I would be asking myself wouldn’t be if I wanted his name on the deed, but whether or not I even wanted him living there with me- poor money management is a huge stressor on a marriage as well as not caring for the things you do have… I understand it takes time and money to make these repairs in homes, but the fact that he had the time and money to go buy boats and other toys while his home went into disrepair is a huge red flag for me.
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See this is why there are so many problems…when you marry its no longer suppose to be mine and yours…it belongs to both.also you can’t marry planning for divorce.if my husband and I only had a penny we share it…seems like you knew he wasn’t good at handling money when you married or there wouldn’t be a prenup…
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Nope. I think you’re thinking ahead. That’s very smart and you’ll be glad.
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Omg. First, hide all your money. Second, divorce his ass. Third, go buy a house.
You married a child. I don’t think you’re being selfish but you should’ve stayed alone.
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I think that’s a smart thing good for you
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In this case I would say no, your not selfish at all.
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Nope. As others said, put it in trust for your children. He’s not going to change his money spending style just because YOU worked your ass off and sold YOUR old house to have something nice. You already know the answer, stop doubting or feeling guilty. Do not put his name on YOUR house!
Check with an attorney regarding laws if you are legally married…don’t put his name on anything…he can stay in his house and you stay in yours!! Why let him mess up your home?? No way!!
You did it on your own so only your name and kudos to you on the terrific choice you have made GOOD LUCK 
You’re not selfish. If he didn’t contribute he shouldn’t reap the reward. I’d definitely double check the prenup with good legal advice though before making a move.
I think you shouldn’t have got married in the first place
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No ur not being selfish.
No you have every right not to put his name on it
Depending on if you use the boats and razors and went to the casino with him
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Definitely not. If he is not mature enough why should he have his name on it.
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Hes your husband. If thats your mindset you should probably not be married.
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I’d say your on 2 different paths tbf, i definitely wouldn’t say your selfish at all, but what’s a priority for you is not a priority for him or he would have matched your money with his own, working together towards an new place instead of chucking it up the wall and behaving like a young man with no responsibilities or future goals of a better home, I suppose the bigger question is not if your being selfish in anyway, but are you two destined to be together? He sounds like he’s not on the same page in anyway as you. Good luck
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I wouldn’t put his name on it and hopefully you got the prenup!
Not selfish …… but depending on where you live …. It’s half his legally 
. His name on it or not!
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Absolutely not. I think this is one of the smartest things I’ve ever heard in fact.
Not selfish at all, although you are married he will be living there anyway.
No
He needs to learn responsibility and earn it to be added (please don’t hold your breath as you wait)
If you are married will he not be entitled to half regardless if you split, unless there was some kind of prenup
Absolutely not selfish. You all had an agreement, you upheld your end and he didn’t. You’re basically replacing the house you sold.
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Depends on the state you live in, Community property law or not.
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Don’t put his name on it
I would NOT be comfortable being treated like that as a spouse. I mean I have parents and spouses are not parents. Call it smart but it does not sound smart to be on the guard like that and stay married. This isn’t a business.
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Do you use any of his toys he buys?
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If u live in N.D. when u marry it all is both of yours, even tho u dont put his name on it
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Do not put your husband name on your new house bc he did not stick to his agreement with you . Your house belongs to you and your children. If he was any kind of husband he would have done his part and made sure y’all lived in a decent home .
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Yeah it doesn’t matter if his name is on it or not. Unless you specifically mention the property in the prenuptial when you purchase during marriage he has rights to it
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Get out of that relationship now before you have nothing left.
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A prenuptial only covers what was yours before the marriage and what was his what is bought during the marriage is still joint property… you can leave the house to your kids but they can’t do anything with it until he dies as well… but it’s still his property until then
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Not selfish…put it in your name and make sure that your will indicates disposition.
Ask him if he is willing to sell his acquired stuff and put it towards the new house. You’ll have your answer then.
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No way jose. a loser user if it not already apparent. Walk away if you need to for yourself and yours.
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Nope.you are a very wise person.always protect your self .
Speaking from experience. Daughter and I were on the title of inherited house and mortgage. She wanted to refi and retitle. Offered her husband option to be on title too. He goofed around and never did any of the required paperwork or credit check. House and mortgage ended up solely in daughter’s name. Like you she put sweat equity and cash into refurbishing the house. Time rolls on and divorce ensues. Turns out by state law, he is entitled to a sum of money solely by living in the house for the duration of their marriage. She had to pay him a total of $12,000 to sever any claim he might have on the ownership of the house. Check your state laws carefully. Oh, by the way, he had spent the entire $12K in two weeks. She has refurbished the house and increased its value by $100k since the divorce. Protect yourself and your children.
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no, not selfish, smart
Nope he didn’t contribute a damn thing, he should not be on that house
In many states, it’s automatically half his if you’re married, whether his name is on the deed or not
Very, VERY smart. Stick to your plan.
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Not selfish at all. Sounds like you worked towards your goal but he has not. Buy your house and leave his name off of it.
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good idea stick to it, you deserve the house in your name only
I have a house in my name that I was able to save/keep on my own after my husband of 17 years left. In my current relationship, if the days comes we ever get married. I do not plan to put his name on it either. That way I am protecting my asset for me and my daughter. Sounds harsh, but I worked very hard and used alot of retirement money to refinance and put it into my name.
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Hell no! Your doing the right thing!
Don’t let him have part of your house.if he’s that irresponsible and something happened between y’all he would take half of the house you bought
Hell No! I sure wouldn’t
Kick him to the curb . You can do bad all by yourself. Start packing his shit .
nope not selfish at all.
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Put in your own name
No I dont its sounds really smart.
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I probably wouldn’t even want to be married to him anymore if he’s that lazy…
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If you don’t need him financially for it, no Ned for his name to be on it. Only downside is if prenup states you have share/divide things acquired during marriage. If that isn’t mentioned, look up laws for your state, in case of divorce. Only other way around it that I know is maybe put in a trust.
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Careful how you do that there might be a way he could screw you later if you were to separate later. Find a good lawyer.
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