Selling things is a temporary solution, that often doesnt solve the problem. You typically get less than what you paid for it.
He should get a second job, or you guys can look into doordash/uber, or remote work opportunities that are abundant right now.
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Heās got go and you need to put your money towards your own car. Good luck.
Girl find you a new boyfriend. Thatās ridiculous how hes acting. He is no longer a child he is having one. He needs to grow up. I would understand if yāall were married and fell on hard times(we all have). You shouldnāt have to sacrifice any of your stuff if he isnāt going to hold a job.
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Time to get a new boyfriend
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Do you have a car?.. You said you paid it last week because you needed it. Youāre going to need a car to get to all of your appointments, and babyās appointments, so I would definitely keep that over a game. You also said you play the switch more than the xboxā¦ so you could at least sell the Xbox then right? And wait does that say you have a 7 month old plus a baby on the way?..
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go get yourself a new job and a new boyfriend
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$103 paycheck??? What kind of job is that to support a family?! You need to leave him and make a better life for your babies
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Tell him bye. He has a baby in the way, so do you. Thatās priority that should behave been figured bout by now
Do you not have your own car? If you use the car just as much, if not more than the responsible thing would be to help with payments or get your own car
Quit playing house both of you !!! Get off your butte get a real job they are out there offering good money! Find a man not a boy for your relationship! Poor kids today but kids for their parents . Time to stop games and get real
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Pick better men. I have no real advice other than that. Good luck. Youāre bringing a child into this world itās time to do better.
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Good for you girl!!!
Idk. One one hand it can sound like he could be taking advantage of you. But is he deliberately being a flake with jobs or is he struggling and needs the support?
On the other hand if ye both live together and are a family unit then I donāt get this division of stuff such as expenses. Ye both use the car so is it not both of yours to pay for? And while you donāt want to sell the switch is it possible you may need to do this to keep the car because you need it for the kids? Could you sell the Xbox which you say you use less? Sounds like ye need to sit down and have a chat. Decide on whether ye are tackling the financial load as a unit or not, then divide out all costs and stick to that. With a baby on the way he obviously needs a job, maybe he can get one in the meantime and agree to continue to work while he looks for the next one so ye arenāt hit financially each time he changes jobs. My partner and I donāt have children but we both put aside an agreed amount from our wages each month for all of the costs we share living together, including the car, the rest we keep and spend how we like. Weāve both been out of jobs or job hopping or in college at different times in our relationship and did choose to support each other through that. But we were both genuinely working hard to get jobs that stuck and our careers off the ground. When one works longer hours the other picks up the cooking and cleaning. We work as a team.
I think the question here should not be about whether to sell the stuff or not. Do what you need to do to keep yourselves afloat (even if that means selling stuff) and look after your babies and try and work out a way that ye can make that work together. If heās just plain unwilling to pull his weight then you donāt need that.
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Time to kick his ass to the curbā¦
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Not at all. If he canāt afford his car he can give it up
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So after going back and reading, she has a 7 month already! Ok so you already have one child with this loser and bringing in another. Itās time to grow up both of you. Again like my first comment, itās time to do better. As a parent you have to make sacrifices. Getting rid of games if thatās what you have to do to pay a bill then do it. If youāre going to have children you need a vehicle. And your boyfriend needs to get a better paying job and actually keep it. And finally STOP having kids with this boy. Heās a child himself! 
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Definitely not selfish especially if he himself isnāt necessarily trying to better himself to help the situation. Shouldnāt be expected to get rid of all of your stuff. For infant clothes possibly try a thrift store in your area. Some churches will help with necessity bills(even if youāre not a part of church).
Sounds like yāall donāt need to be having kids if youāre more worried about video games than keeping transportation for appts and work so you can provide for that kid
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Pay for the car for a couple weeks, do Doordash, and get a different car.
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No it is not selfish. You both need the car bit you contributed and now its his time. Unless this car is both if your then no. Being pregnant and going broke for him isnāt worth it.
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I think he needs to grow up and learn how to be financially responsible
Why do ppl go to fb for advice? The fb scholars far out weigh Joe Public.
Yāall bout to grow up. Sell the stupid switch. Get priorities straight real damn quick. If he continues to drag you down, long term you may need to get out of the relationship, but right now ya got to be in it together.
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You are not being selfish at all hun. Just because you are together, doesnāt mean you have to pay for everything that the other has. Example: My ex left me with 30K in debt, I ended up having to file bankruptcy but never asked my husband to help out because it was my issues to deal with
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- I donāt understand why they wonāt accept the money? Any kind of payment is payment and the fact that heās trying regardless of how much heās making is atleast good faith that heās paying something! 2. Heās an adult and needs 2 get a stable job. I donāt quit understand If ur paying for past medical bills or ur ur currently pregnant, but either way he has a kid or kids he needs 2 be thinking about providing a stable income for. 3. Ur not married and if he canāt provide some stability 4 u and the family then leave. I know if ur currently pregnant there is times u canāt work but are u really going 2 continue 2 worry whether or not he is going 2 even make enough 2 support himself let alone u? If u need the vehicle I suggest getting a loan and getting ur own. Donāt sell ur things if ur not having to just 2 pay his bills.
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Time to leave. Because this wonāt stop once you get married.
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He canāt handle responsibilities itās like u would be taking care of 2 children instead of one
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You have a baby on the way. Grow up.
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But you said you use the car and āneed itā? Are your games necessary? You have a 7 month and are pregnant now. It sounds like you and your boyfriend need to grow up and get your stuff together.
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Cut him loose
Some people expect others to be their financially for them but never see the need to help others
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tell him to fuck off
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Dump his dumb ass or youāll always be bailing him out
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Ugh make him sell his own shit or get a jobā¦ you should not have to suffer or take responsibility for his mistakes
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Have him sell his xbox. Seems fair.
I think he needs to get a job and stop acting like a child. If he couldnāt afford payments on that car he shouldnāt have gotten it. Itās not your responsibility to pay for his laziness. I would understand if he lost is job because of something he couldnāt control but it sounds like heās a lazy person and doesnāt want to grow up. You should get your own car and let him worry about his own car.
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As someone who works as an acct rep for a large bhph company I literally see this type of situation daily. Priorities peopleā¦priorities!
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Time to grow up for both of you! A car is more important than games! Sell the Xbox if you donāt play it. Sell something of his. You need the car so pay it somehow!
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He sounds like a damn loser. Idc idc if he cant keep a job ditch him its just such a red flag. It doesnt matter if you work at McDonaldās but not having a job is ridiculous. He needs to save up a couple thousand and buy a used car. An expensive car with a payment is a luxury for ppl with jobs.
You deserve nice things and in no way should you let that bum sell your hobby things.
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If you all have to pawn off or sell things to pay for things something isnāt right here! If you are both abled body to work then work! Thereās a child involved! He or she comes before you!
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No no no. I traded in my paid off nice car to get him a truck (and myself a shitty car) do not. It is not your responsibility that he canāt keep a job or manage his money
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No donāt sell your stuff, he sounds like a leach and very selfish. He needs to pay for his own clothes, he can sell his own things. He is using you. Leave find someone responsible and deserving of you. Donāt let him use you.
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Leave and donāt look back!
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Hell no tell him find a job and stick with it sounds like he is trying to suck the life out of u id tell him next and move on
I think you need a new boyfriend
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Tell his ass to get a job and stick with it. Donāt sell your stuff so he can get by doing the bare minimum. Honestly I would leave his ass and his car. Let him figure it out.
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Is this really a post about playing video games? Let the car get repoādā¦ yāall can just walk everywhere!! Get but tickets
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Do not sell your stuff
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I think you both need to grow up!
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I think both of you need to get your priorities figured out. This is the big picture, if he as a bf, will not keep a job, then he as a father will not either. And you are about to be a mom. You will not have time for a game. Get a car in your name. Line up future baby sitters. Get a job. And get independence. And be a mom.
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If i understand this you have a 7 month old and your currently pregnant this is how i feel instead of buying your child clothes you paid his car payment sounds like you both need to get it together NOTHING COMES BEFORE YOUR CHILD
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Think itās hard now? Wait till you have that baby. The price of diapers alone will have you eating ramen and taking the bus.
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Time to throw the whole dude out and try again. If he canāt hold a job and take care of himself, he aināt ever going to take care of you AND yāallās future/current kids.
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Hell no. Pack up your stuff and get your own car honey. He sounds like a loser.
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Please be very smart and wise and leave this man. He is a man-child and canāt take accountability for his own actions. He needs a reality check to what a real adult is like. Pack your belongings and leave. No man is worth that and no man disrespects a woman and controls her the way he does with you.
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And this is a good sense of how he really is in life because if he canāt pay for his own car that is his and he canāt keep a job, then all heās going to do is be a mooch and take advantage of people. And you donāt want to be involved with somebody like that. Trust me.
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Hell no. Move out and let him take care of himself
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If he canāt keep a job ditch him. He will just bring you down with him and you left being the one to support him. Yoi want to find someone you can build your life with, not someone who keeps you down and struggling.
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I think you both have to grow up you have a child coming geezz!!!
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I think if youāre using the car too and you need it too then why canāt you help?
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Leave, you donāt need to raise 2 children. It doesnāt get better or work out when their lazy.
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Go get you another job and leave him.He is not worth it.Next time put a ring on it before moving in and making Billās together
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You both are immature and need to grow up. You have no business bringing children into this dysfunctional relationship.
You both need professional counseling!
Both of you need to get your priorities straight.
Once you guys grow up a little, you wonāt feel the need to ask FB how to get out of a financial struggle.
Tip of the day: Do not finance a car unless youāre financially stable. Not only do you end up paying a small fortune for the car itself but the insurance payment is waaayyyy more. Save your money, buy a cheaper car to go to and fro while you save for a better one.
Oh and yes I believe youāre being selfish if this is the man you plan on being with forever and if you are living as a family unit.
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No your not selfish. He needs to get a job and pay his own bills!
To be honest, the fact that your more concerned with him wanting to sell your switch then the simple fact that he canāt support himself or your child is beyond me. You should be concerned for the fact that he job hops and canāt support himself let alone you or a child.
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If you are seeing a maternity doctor you have more important things to think about than playing a switch!Your #1 priority is this childā¦you should probably think about that!
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Sell his games. I believe you both need to worry about supporting the family and less about gaming. Donāt sell your stuff to support him. I have a feeling that you will be doing that later to support yourself. There are so many jobs out there, if he dont have a job he is just plain lazy.
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Heās def using you, he sounds like a master manipulator to get you to feel bad. Iāve personally seen this happen w a friend. Once he gets what he wants of course heās going to make you feel how youāre so loved & beautiful etc etc. Itās not your responsibility to pay HIS car. It starts small then next thing you know heās mooching off of you completely. Run for the hills girl
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He needs to grow up and take responsibility for himself. Iād say absolutely not to sell your stuff to cover him, but Iād really be reassessing my relationship. It wonāt likely change and do you want to deal with this all your life. Take this as a warning 
flag and get out now
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Do NOT sell your stuff. He is a grown adult and needs to take responsibility. Donāt suffer for his sake.
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Do not do it. He will guilt trip you and make you feel bad and he will ALWAYS be this way. Just run now! I know itās hard but trust me as someone who has been through something similar, it only gets harder, I wish I would have left sooner instead of putting myself through unnecessary BS
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No your boyfriend should be a more responsible adult be a man get a better job and stay there a start paying for his things on time. But if he is like this now I do not ever see it changing. Unless you want two kids to take care of you need to decide if his lack of responsibilities is worth it.
Iām gonna say something a little differentā¦I have been with my boyfriend 11 years first off though and we have 3 girls, youngest is 2 months. Van is in my name, he works 6-7 days a week and sometimes its only 4-5 hours because of covid and some days he gets a full 8 hours. I am a stay at home mom right now, and lucky enough I donāt have payments on my van because I bought something used and I bought it outright for the fact I didnāt want to chance not being able to make a payment and not having transportation with three children. But I have pawned things to help him and he has pawned things to help me. It depends on trust. We have both pawned things to make sure that there was food on the table and bills were paid, and guess what was pawnedā¦our game systems, our tvs, computersā¦ and sometimes we didnāt get them back and had to save up and buy them all over again when we could afford it financially. If you have a little one and one on the way, hunny pawn that xbox you donāt play and get your self a bus pass for work if you donāt want to pay for his car, or buy your child the clothes that he needs and walk to work and kick your man out and focus on you and those babiesā¦ or tell your bf to man up and get a steady job and ask him how you can help him be better? If this is normal and you know he wonāt change then its up to you if you want to help or not. But sometimes men need help changing too, not just women
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No not at all thatās his car in his name and itās his responsibility, from what you say he doesnāt look to help out financially so why you you sell anything off yours to pay for his car relationships are about give, take and compromise seems your doing all the taking and compromising and heās doing all the taking.
Why was his check only $100?!? Sounds like he needs a better job so he can pay for his own things. Definitely not a good sign of things to come
If he canāt support a car payment how is going to support his baby? Make better choices hun.
You need to leave him. Heās using you. Heāll drain you until you canāt give anymore. Take care of yourself and love yourself enough to find better
this payment sceme sound dodgey anyway,surely you thought the 462 brought it up to date,obviously not as they would,nt accept the next week 80 only payment, hes behind more than hes telling i think,this is a black hole only he should be throwing money down.
You will not get enough money to pay a car by selling game boxes. There is a rule of thumb for people in life. What to pay. 1. Shelter 2. Utilities 3.Transportation to work. Unless there is a train or bus to his or your job follow the order. Your family needs more income, not a budget.
I did that for my EX husband and lost everything I had worked for and he still wanted more until I finally just walked away.
Iād hide the switch. You may home from work one day and itās gone, him having sold it whilst you were gone
No absolutely not Time to lose the car and get one he can afford and no your not selfish
You both need to grow up!! Get jobs, you are responsible for youāre children. Games can wait!! Get REAL!!
He needs to grow up and man up. Get a second jobā¦ Or go stand on a cornerā¦ Needs to do more
No dont do it. Pack your bags and leave now, nothing but heartach ahead.
I think he needs to step up to the plate and sell his stuff or put your name on the title if your going to help pay for it
I would kick his butt to the curb unless you want to raise 2 babies by yourself
The only thing wrong is that you are hanging on to a loser. You and your children would be better off alone.
Stop the madness now and take care of yourself. This will never end if you continue to enable him.
I think you need a new boyfriend.
His issue. get rid of him, heās a user and not going to give you anything but issues, heāll leave you high and dry when you donāt give him what he wants.
He needs to step up and be a real man and get a job and keep it and take care of you period
Have him transfer the car into YOUR name, then at least you have something to show for the money youāre spending.
I think youāre both too immature to have a child
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Run and donāt look back. He is a user and you donāt need to deprive your child because he is a lazy creature
Iād be more particular who I make a baby with next time.
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He needs to man up and get HIS priorities straight!
He sounds like a loser!
Sell his crap and quit buying him anymore.
How old are you and your boyfriend