Your not his fefe. Stop giving him anything. You’re not being selfish. You’re not there for him to masterbate on. If he cared even a little bit he’d make sure you were satisfied first.
2 Likes
Have you ever discussed this with him?
1 Like
That’s not real love I would call that selfishness and lusting. If a man does not desire to please you he doesn’t care about your needs.
He is just using you for his own sexual needs. You will never be happy with him if this is how he is making you feel after 2 years, dont cheat but make your feelings known and if he still isnt on board just move on
3 Likes
What a selfish git sorry but I would leave him no time for selfish people
1 Like
U still there after two years? Not me, two episodes of how I feel, no changes, I be gone.
4 Likes
Stop doing ANYTHING for him. He is using you. He doesn’t care about you at all.
4 Likes
What’s good for the goose is good for the gander. Equal time and effort
3 Likes
Tell him your not doing blow jobs anymore just regular sex and if he doesn’t like it tell him he can leave.
Yeah my ex was exactly like this. In the end I lost all attraction for him and my skin would crawl him just lying next to me. I told him. We broke up. And I found someone who’s more atentive to my needs as well as hers. Good luck x
9 Likes
Cut him off. Tell him it’s not your thing. His attitude will change really quick.
6 Likes
My husband isn’t into going down on me, he did once to give me the experience, since every other ex I was with said they didn’t like to give, our relationships didn’t last long they weren’t even willing to please me in other ways, and they preferred porn to me anyway. Husband’s ex’s always and only wanted him to go down on them but not please him while they were together. He always makes sure I’m completely satisfied first even though we do things to each other at the same time, he would rather have me stop and enjoy it then get him completely satisfied. We talked about sex and intimacy and what we wanted/didn’t want, that was 12 years ago been married 11 on 1/29. He actually waited because I asked him too becauseI wanted both of us to get tested so we were completely transparent and knew if either had anything, I had gotten my birth control shot about a month and a half prior to meeting him and I told him instead of us making two trips so a month and a half later we got all that done. I feel like that helped us learn and grow together instead of just jumping in the sack right away and focusing on just sex over everything else.
Very selfish. A true narcissist.
1 Like
been in the same boat 20 yrs. leave u deserve tobe happy
2 Likes
It’s probably about time you found yourself someone that’s interested in pleasing you…… nothing exciting about a selfish partner won’t be long before you do stray might as well be decent enough to leave before you do hey!
2 Likes
Because he IS being selfish
You give what you get. And trust me….when he starts seeing himself in you, he ain’t gonna like it AT ALL.
6 Likes
Tell him you don’t like to do it and it’s not your thing…just like he told you
10 Likes
He is the selfish one tell him straight up you want things to change or he goes without
2 Likes
I see tons of female comments…but where are the comments from the guys. Listen to them.
3 Likes
First off if you don’t want sex or to perform oral then you don’t have to! If he wants a climax he can’t help himself. You are not wrong for wanting a partner who actually wants to enjoy sex with you, who will make sure you’re needs are getting met, etc. I bet if you look outside of the sex situation that you’ll see this is a pattern that is all over your relationship with him.
You are technically cheating already by thinking of other people
7 Likes
Stop doing it and leave, it is selfish.
Tell him you don’t like going down on him plain and simple and just stop
Not everyone likes oral…but if hes expecting it he should be doing it. Maybe he doesn’t know how so buy him a book or watch a video together . Some guys just don’t listen of course … if hes not satisfying you and not prepared to learn how then id be finding a new bf
Hmmm. Sounds like he needs a dose of his own medicine. By all means, if everything else in the relationship is going well and this is the only thing that needs work, then try to work with him on it. But if he’s being stubborn about it, you may want to start a protest and refuse to “go down” on him. I’m not saying to stop having sex with him, but give him what he gives you. Match his energy and his words. Let him know that in order for you to “finish him off right” he has to do some things for you FIRST. He may come around and he may not. If he doesn’t, then the decision is yours to stay or leave. Good luck.
Girl, stop! Get some toys then that’s half your worries gone… you’ll be amazed with what’s out there now literally could just do ya’self and he could do himself 
4 Likes
If a person isn’t willing to do the same for you, don’t do it for them. He’s being selfish and your pleasure is just as important as his. This can cause a lot if resentment and frustration (believe me, I’ve been there). You should be with someone who not only takes your pleasure into consideration but is happy to meet all your needs.
2 Likes
Stop doing it. Use his same words when it comes up. He’ll either change his tune or his true colors will show you that the door is your best option.
7 Likes
Yeeeeeeeah that sucks.
I could not be with someone who shows no interest in pleasing me. It would be one thing if he tried and you just didnt climax but for him to not even care if you gets yours… That isnt ok. At least if he wanted to and couldn’t there are options… Does he know how you feel?
Stop sucking. Fuck him. That is selfish. You are not. It’s crazy. My man does everything in the bedroom as do I.
U need to be gone he doesn’t care for you of he did he would want to do the same for u as he wants you to do for him
1 Like
He’s gay doesn’t like taste of pu…
3 Likes
You deserve to be pleasured every time
- Ask him to use a toy on you. 2) if the answer is no- stop pleasing him.
Be very vocal on what you like in case the situation is him not knowing how to do a good job.
1 Like
That’s a boy. Not a man
Bye 
boy
1 Like
Oh Look It’s a Bunch of Red Flags Sewn into the Shape of a Person.
Run sis.
6 Likes
Figure it out if he’s not comfortable he’s not comfortable. If it were vice versa would you rather he figure it out with you. I’m the opposite I’m more of a giver than a getter. It took some time cause he wanted to do that but it’s not my thing. We’d have a similar issue if he didn’t like getting before hand but we’d figure it out.
3 Likes
Then stop pleasing him and leave his selfish a**
Have a sit down talk with him about what your needs are and how you feel. I know it’s hard but after you lay out your needs and feelings then you lay down boundaries- such as “if you won’t then I won’t either”. Be prepared though for it to be a battle you have 2 years of “giving in” and consider it practice for your son when he hits toddler. No matter your relationship or the length of it you are always allowed to say no. (I know from my own experience it is always easier to say then do but if you don’t address this it will work into the rest of the relationship and taint it.)
4 Likes
Get a new man that will do what
Ever you want
Yeah nope. You should have known that he doesn’t eat 
from the get go for one. Which I guess is fine BUT he needs to get you off other ways. I’ve been with roughly 19 guys in my 36 yrs. Only 2 have achieved getting me off. 2. I put a ring on the best one! Lol. I couldn’t be with a dude that can’t take care of his lady. With or without help. So go luck on that
Buy a really nice shower head, 
you dont want head from someone you have to ask for it.
3 Likes
Tell him you give it to him because he wants it, but it isn’t your thing either… Tell him you guess you should stop too
5 Likes
Leave him, that’s selfish af
2 Likes
I would tell him that suddenly it isn’t you’re thing either and stop pleasing him. He has 2 hands. He leaves you high and dry. Do it to him. Most people only learn one way. Actions… You deserve someone who thinks about you and your pleasure as much as his own.
8 Likes
Honestly, that means he’s still a little boy. Find a man.
10 Likes
Sorry but I wouldn’t be dealing with all that lol
4 Likes
It should be mutual, he should pleasure you too.
I deal with something similar… I’m 44, and he’s 48 with little sex drive. He’ll gladly accept me giving him pleasure but he’s never in mood for putting in some work with me. When he use to use and abuse adderall he always wanted me … now we’re both clean and he just isn’t sexual. Makes you feel unwanted I know that feeling. 
Have you spoken to him
1 Like
Not ok should be a 2 way street
Tell him you’re either going to marriage and/or sex counseling or you’re inviting another man into the relationship who can please you. Is he this selfish in other aspects of your life together or just this one area?
Maybe look at books or videos together, get some sex toys and games and try out what looks interesting. Heck, the Kama Sutra has been around for nearly 2500 years! He can do better.
Ah no, if he wants me to eat his sausage, then he can eat my chicken.
3 Likes
My friend said to me the other day when we talked about a similar experience “hes your man, your his women, he should WANT to make you cum. He should be proud to make you cum. He should be willing to make you cum” you deserve pleasure too babes. My partner went through some hard times and his sexual drive died, i bought myself a vibrator to take pressure off him. Self pleasure is so unspoken but dahm! It helps with self confidence and feeling good in your body. You dont need a man to make you feel pleasure. I told my partner once “if you want something just ti fuck, ill get you a flashlight fanny sex toy thing” i deserve to have pleasure and if you cant give that to me then dont bother asking me for the same:joy:
Buy a silver bullit it a sex toy for your clit
You need to tell him if you want it to change.
1 Like
Talk to him too him flat out I need to be satisfied sexually too if you want me to remain interested in you. If he doesn’t then it’s up to you if you want this life forever or not but I’d bounce. You can find someone else 
2 Likes
Can we normalize not dating someone If they aren’t compatible sexually? Like, why do we have serious relationships and children with men who are terrible lovers? Ladies, life is too short. Nip that in the bud early and move on so we don’t have these issues!! Your pleasure is important and sex is a dealbreaker in relationships, so don’t date a man for his potential, date him (or not!!!) for how he is RIGHT NOW. So leave that man. Chances are if he’s selfish in the bedroom, he’s probably a shitty partner in general too.
That’s rude and selfish on his part. You should tell him exactly how you feel, and if he doesn’t cooperate and make some sacrifices then bye bye to him. Because it’ll come down to you finding someone else to do that job that he can’t do, and by the sounds of it, he acts like a child. Therefore he’d blow up over the fact that you could find someone else. Good luck momma. 
time for a new man who would give u the same if u give him head js
He’s using you & will leave you high & dry 
when he finds the next best thing.
9 Likes
Don’t do something for someone that they wouldn’t do for you
3 Likes
Maybe he is thinking of other men while your going down on him… just a thought!
1 Like
Get yourself some toys girl
1 Like
Its time to hurt his feelings. Tell him he does nothing for you sexually and tell him it changes or you leave.
9 Likes
He’s a being selfish and only thinking about his own needs!! I’d let him go and find someone you feel happier with xx
3 Likes
Oh this was totally written by me while I was with my ex not gonna change hunny. Either get used to continually doing it yourself or dump that ass.
Nope that definitely doesn’t work 
1 Like
Sorry not my job to please someone that hasn’t yet stepped up the the man plate. A real man and relationship comes with both getting pleased. I go first because I can have multiple… he waits on me. Even if its oral…I get mine first
Really you have to put this stuff on Facebook?
6 Likes
I’m hearing and seeing all this leave him , leave him. Leaving him doesn’t always fix the problem so your man is going to leave some of you women because of some of the things y’all don’t do in the bedroom. Guys ask for advice too… communication is the key! No communication, there’s no trying to fix anything or for either one to know how their relationship/sex life is impacted… me and my partner had been on and off for almost 9 year’s, I never liked my stuff down there messed with when we got together he was mind set that he could and would get me to like it , absolutely disagree with him . He proved me wrong, he also knew from the get go I didn’t and still don’t like giving head. He told me that’s fine , he’s not big on receiving head anyways… he insists to go down on me , and 3very once in a blue moon I will on him to repay it back… cancer took one of his nut 12 year’s ago , sometimes he doesn’t stay hard to finish and that’s not on him that’s how it has been since he lost his nut and if that happens he makes sure I still get mine. If I get mine we wait a couple hours after and try again for him to get his… communication is the key ,maybe try and do different things in the bedroom. Maybe get you a toy for when y’all are fooling around and use it on the clitoris. There is also times where he wants to mess with me down there , and I just don’t want it that time or night.
This should be sorted in the beginning of the relationship, I would have left him along time ago. He seems to be a narc…
3 Likes
He’s Being super selfish my husband always makes sure I get off before he does and maybe buy yourself some toys or add toys into the fun experiment a little bit it’s not bad if he doesn’t want to go down on you he’s not going to my husband’s never been in big fan either but he knows there’s other ways to please me and tries you need to sit down and tell him that he’s not pleasing you tell him hey I need a release as well either by me toys or try different things with me I’m not going to go so far to say make him go down on you but there’s other ways that you guys could experiment get a little kinky find other things you like yeah sometimes I want my husband to go down on me I’ll mention it and here and there he might but I’m not going to force him to
1 Like
Thats when you get on him backwards while giving him head with yours in his face and don’t start pleasing him until he starts pleasing you…and if he refuses get off and tell him he ain’t getting no more until he gives the pleasure back or go find you someone that pleases all your needs like you please his
1 Like
Get some toys! I recommend the rose 
1 Like
No. He’s the one selfish. He’s all about himself. That’s not love.
3 Likes
Babe, ditch the boy, get yourself some toys until you find a man that loves to please YOU.
6 Likes
Don’t do it if you don’t want to.
Either y’all work it out or split up.
I would stop having sex with him all together. I would buy a vibrator and please myself !
I’d stop his satisfaction if he’s not giving it to you. Then tell him that’s how it’s gonna be. Either he improves or it’s not happening.
5 Likes
You get what you give and if he isn’t giving then he doesn’t need to be receiving shit.
If you need to get toys to be satisfied you definitely don’t need him
1 Like
He sounds selfish, and maybe he has someone on the side. I’d leave him!
6 Likes
Girl I got q husband I been with for five years a year ago I stopped and told him u want ne to go down u have to and every time u do I will guess what we still guck but he don’t ask for I I go down on him anymore he wants he know what he has to do
1 Like
Yall aren’t sexually compatible. Find someone who fits you. You got this girl
4 Likes
Sounds like you need to move on. He will never change.
2 Likes
Selfish sounds like to me as someone with a high sex drive he’d be dumped and left high and dry and no it’s not all about sex but it certainly is an important factor in most relationships unless you’re Asexual or demisexual but this is something that you should know before getting into it
ByeBye
It’s Not gonna get better•
Be honest with him tell him how you feel !
If he doesn’t change leave
He has someone else . Move on .
This is a conversation to have with him. Not on facebook.
9 Likes
So pull a him on him ! Tell him he will no longer get services till your needs are met 
if you need to go to the adult toy store (you don’t always need a man to have pleasure) get you some toys and enjoy yourself! He isn’t thinking about you and your needs being met so youre not the selfish one he is ! If he doesn’t care about you being taken care why should you keep giving him pleasure ?! It can work both ways !
3 Likes
I bet he’s a narcissist and has a germaphobia. I know this type of selfish person. He won’t change even if you threaten to get it elsewhere.
1 Like
Would you like to be forced to do something you don’t like to do? Get a toy & have him get you off with that. There’s more than one way to climax. Explore & have fun with each other. Remember love is “supposed to be” unconditional 
3 Likes
First: Cheating is never the answer. But leaving is! I always say it’s less hurtful and damaging to leave instead of cheating. You’d leave with integrity because at least you didn’t cheat. Second: I’m definitely not saying this is grounds to leave…try talking to him. Explain it as if the roles were reversed how would he feel if he always did XYZ for you and you wouldn’t for him. After persistent respectful communication, try therapy. I cannot stress the respect factor enough…and don’t attack and accuse when you talk about it. Explain how important this is for you and the relationship. Explain relationships are give and take…sometimes you have to give things you’re not a fan of. Maybe there are fair compromises that could be as enjoyable for you. Sometimes you do it his way and sometimes he can give to you and do it your way. Or a combo of the two.
1 Like
Stop, don’t like it, not my thing…
Ex was like this. Use yo tell him to leave the room n finish myself off
You gotta give to get. If he won’t do it for you don’t do it for him
12 Likes