Do what makes you happy!
Do what makes you happy
Life’s short- B happy 
If you’re happy then who cares what anyone thinks? They love you, you love them, that’s all that matters🤷♀️
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Do what makes you happy my love xxxx
Just a number dear dont swet it
Do what makes you happy!!
If your happy and he treats your kids like his own then that’s all that matters. Age is just a number. Love doesn’t see a number.
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When you have children, you must be extremely careful. What is the rush.
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From what I’m reading it seems like your bothered by the age difference. I was with someone 16 years older than me and us being raised in different times things were difficult and in the end he ended up treating me.like one of his kids and things were really bad. But every relationship is different
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Just get used to them asking if he’s grandpa…
(Only common issue with relationships with such gaps and children)
And even though you were married at 16, do you know yourself? Not saying that rudely but you are only 22… only something to consider…
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I wonder if you’re rebounding with some you you think can look after you and the kids. You have never matured as an individual as you got with your partner so young. Its a bit of a red flag that he’s in such a hurry and helping you with your divorce. Ehats the rush?
if everyone is happy age doesn’t matter. I have been with my bf for 9 yrs and he is 6 yrs older. if kids happy and your happy go for it.
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As long as you are both consenting adults, it’s not wrong to be with an older or younger man. If you both are happy then age is just a number.
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Age ain’t nothing but a number. If ur happy then it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. My daughter’s dad was 21 years older then me
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Age is just a number. If you love him and you love him that’s all that should matter. There is an 11 year old gap for my boyfriend and I but I love him and he loves my kids
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Wow! So young.
Your kids should be main focus. Have you took the time to enjoy life before getting into a new relationship? Because you were soo young in your first marriage.
Age should not matter, but you are questioning his age, so maybe you should slow down. What’s the rush?
Enjoy your self. Love your kids. Love your self. Have some fun being single
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Age doesn’t matter between adults that love each other. But it sounds like you’ve got some things to take care of first. If its meant to be it will, but I think for all your sakes do not rush it. Youve only been apart from your last partner some months. Build a great foundation with this man before you go all out ya know. Yall got time to build a life, take it slow, make sure you’ve healed.
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Age doesn’t matter. I’m 32 and have dated a 21 year old and currently talking to a 26 year old. Not a large age gap but sometimes there is a stigma attached with the woman being older but this doesn’t bother me.
My concern for you is that you’re having doubts. Why? If you’re having doubts something doesn’t sit right with you in the relationship. If you feel something isn’t right, then it isn’t. I feel this is more than the age gap that is bothering you.
Age is just a number, if he treats you right go for it!
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You wouldnt be asking this question,if you really are in love with this man and his son…period
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That’s a choice you have to make no one else can people can tell you what they think but in the end the choice is yours no one knows your life and the man like you.
My husband is 20 yrs older then me and we have been together for almost 24yrs, age is just a number. I think it’s more about maturity then anything.
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My concern is your age and how mature you possibly are. If u were 32 and him 56 then it would be a different story but I’m just worried that you need to grow a little. But then again I don’t know you and you should know yourself best. If your only issue is the age gap and what people will say, then yiu will need to develop a thick skin, people will always talk.
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Age does not matter as long as your going into it knowing at some point you most likely will be in different stage of life with health issues understand when he is 65 and retiring you will be 41. You will still want to work to build your social security and retirement because all likeness you will out live him and your going to have to have income.
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give it time, for you both and the kids. you all need to get comfortable with each other. never happens overnight, and it’s good for the kids to see you two building a strong foundation.
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No you aren’t wrong but don’t date him unless you are ready that man is grown with kids he needs something real
My Gramma went to school w my grandpa’s kids as a child and met him later in life. They got married when she was in her 30’s and him in his 60’s. They were together until he died at almost 100. She had 5 kids he took responsibility for and he had 9. She is close to all his kids to this day
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If yall are happy and ur kids get along well with each other as well as the adults its all good, but also he has to accept ur kids as u accept his first them kids gives have sense for rite and wrong
I’ve dated older men in the past and the only issue I have with it is those certain men treated me like a child. It wasn’t a partnership. If he treats u like his equal then why not go for it.
I’m 23 and my husband is 44 he had two kids and I had a baby when we met when I was 20. Ultimately if the love you share is worth it, it’s worth it and you’ll overcome others opinions.
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My fiance of 5 years is 12 years older than me. We connect perfectly on every level. All that matters is that you guys are compatible and you treat each other and each other’s kids right.
24 years is a big gap. couldn’t imagine dating someone that much younger myself. nothing in common , think it’s easy for some because dude has lived more life & smooth like that, but outside looking in lil creepy
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If you love him or really like him and see a future with him, it shouldn’t matter what anyone else thinks 
To much of an age gap in my opinion…more like a dad than a partner
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You do you! If he makes you happy be with him! Age shouldn’t matter.
No. Date him. And others. Your 22 and your childhood was stolen. Go get it back! You date one for dinners, one fire your cell bill, one boy toy and one in the friend zone! Go live a little!!!
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It’s your life you do what you think is best. I’m 36 and my boyfriend is 53! We have been together 3 years and we both have kids .
Personally in my thought get a divorce first than worry about a bf…just a thought
There will always be challenges and people telling you you’re wrong. Thats where love steps in and if its real itll last through whatever comes your way. If you’re happy dont worry about nothing else. Do take your time though. Get your divorce live your life have fun and don’t rush a second marriage. Enjoy each other
Nope. My bf and I have a 14.5 year age difference
Ok well the clear consensus is that you should do what you want. But I want to dig a bit deeper.
You were married at 16? You were literally a child. This actually hurts my heart.
Now you are looking for an older man.
I wonder if you have any trauma from your childhood, for lack of better words, “daddy issues”.
To be honest I actually think some therapy could do you some good. Being married at such a young age could have given you some trauma that you aren’t even aware of.
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Married at 16? Age is just a number? This tew much
Age is just a number follow your heart good men are sooooo hard to find nowadays
If he makes u happy and treats ur kids right then I see no problem 
Cool it until you’re divorced. If it’s real, he’ll wait…
That saying age isn’t nothing but a number … is truly false ! Especially when comes time for him to retire and your forty and in your prime ! I just lived through that! Will never date with that difference again! Limitations happen when they are that age. You can’t get around it . But if at forty you are ready to shuffle around and what not then hey do your thing
Failing to see the issue. Glad you’re all happy. Thats all that matters.
Ahhhhhhh! Don’t! It’s a trap!!! You don’t want a white knight, especially with that big an age difference. You WILL regret it
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No ma’am, be happy & live your best life
I don’t anything wrong with it. Go for the relationship!
Do what makes you happy,im 27 my partner is 10 years older then me . We have a beauitful baby boy together and he treats me and my oldest (not his) like queens . Its your life and no one elses bussiness
Do what makes you happy! Life is short Live it!!
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Do what makes you happy. You’re both consenting adults
I have an aunt that has been happily married to her husband who is about thirteen years older than her for about twenty or so years now.
I knew a lady growing up who married someone 35 years older than her and loved him clear to the day he died of Alzheimer’s. I was at his funeral and she was beyond broken by his death, despite it being expected.
My best friend is dating someone I want to say close to a decade older than her and he treats her, her two children with someone who is diagnosed as being a narcistic sociopath and tries to make their lives miserable whenever he can and the two that they have together really well. Also, her two older ones fromt hat previous relationship with the psycho both have Autism and he adores them and her.
He does not call them his gf’s kids or his stepkids, he calls them his older son and his older daughter and his two biological children with her his younger son and his younger daughter.
In all of them, none of them did or have allowed generational differences to get in the way.
It can work.
It requires communication and compromise and trying to understand the other party and hownand when and even where they were raised, but it can work out.
Honestly, it sometimes reminds me of intercultural relationships where one was raised extremely traditional and the other one was raised far more progressive.
Usually, even if the more traditional one is fairly traditional, they are the most progressive in their family and the one that was raised more progressive may be a bit more progressive than the other one, but they are usually the most traditional in their family.
Just keep the lines of communication open and if things start being taken for granted, seek out some couples counselling to smooth over rough edges before the rough becomes sharp.
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Hell, I’m 42 I was, key word was, dating a 24 year old.
My oldest left the house to be with a 37 yr old, she was only 19. Barely knew him. Things didnt work out and shes no where to be found. She left him. And her mindset if of a 15 yr old. She hated rules and hated having to do chores around the house. Luckily she doesnt have any kids at this time. She was a slob and didnt want to cook, clean, get a job. She stayed with him for only 4 months. I knew it wouldnt last long. She would stay awake all night and sleep all day. Now ask yourself this, if it was your daughter or son, would u want them doing that? He started controlling her, hated that she was talking to me. Hated she had a fb. He had all the money, she had nowhere else to go cuz she did not want to come home. So now I dont know where she is. Also just cuz he is good to ur kids, never trust a man completely around ur kids. U hardly know him but 1 yr. It sounds like u dont have your priorities really straightened out. I learned the hard way myself with trusting a man around my kids. And since then, Im single and will not get back into another relationship especially since I have all girls. It sounds like u have some issues and thoughts in ur head if u are asking us. Do u love this man? Just cuz hes nice doesnt mean u are truly in love with him, we dont know the whole situation. Good luck
I dont think he should be “helping” you get the divorce if you mean “financially”. You should try to be independent and take care of your own loose ends, because if it doesnt work out, you dont want to feel like “you owe him” and you dont want to be a charity case either. You need to know what you bring to the table too. And like another lady said, your mind and thought process changes A LOT from 20’s to 30’s!!! I can 100% vouch for that!! Give yourself time to completely heal from the marriage! Psychologist say that healing will take about half the amount of time the relationship lasted. So if yall were together 5 years(just using a number) you need to take 2.5 years to fully heal. If not then you carry old hurts and distrust into a new relationship. Nobody likes to be alone. But we all need to be content with our own company❤ As far as the age…if it were me, which its not, …it would bother me to be with someone who was 24 years older. I would wonder if I was his “mid life crisis” girlfriend. He is definitely seasoned so it would need lots of time to grow! But to each its own for sure. Just make sure your not looking for security in a man. Have your own home,car, money etc…nothing worse than feeling trapped in a relationship.
Nope if he make u happy
Not if you are all happy
You do whatever makes you happy Hope you have a wonderful relationship and last God bless you and your family 
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Do what makes you happy!!
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You all speak for your self i marrie d a 47 yr old msn when i was 18 .we have4 beautiful girls and we stay married until the day diedwhen. He was 86
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By the way i never get married again
Your happiness should depend on any one else’s opinion do you as they do them,this should be about you just be happy my dear as on sure you deserve to be
Nothing wrong with the age gap , but personally you have jumped from serious one relationship to another within months and got your kids involved with the new man while not even divorced yet
Maybe slow down a little - your kids need you and some stability while their family is breaking up not a new daddy…
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Love is Love no matter what age
Stay with it let others judge …
If you’re happy then stay with him. It shouldn’t matter to anyone but the 2 of you. It’s your relationship not anybody else’s.
No! I’m 31 and my fiancee is 53 were 22 years apart. I’m not ashamed to admit that and i don’t care what other people think about it! If he’s good to you and your kids then who cares. You do you girl.
Take things slowly, no need to rush. I think the divorce sounds like it’s needed if there’s no hope of reconciliation. A philosopher once said that you shouldn’t marry to find yourself, you need to know who you are first (think Runaway Bride). Take time to find out who you are and what you want. If the 46 y/o is that, great. Think about kids. Would you want more with a new partner? How would be feel having kids in his fifties? Do you have similar attitudes on the role of women?
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You are 22, totally fine to marry whoever. Go for it.
Definitely not. Im 25 and my husband is almost 36
If your new man is kind and considerate.
Grab him with both hands.Love is what matters not age.
It is not disgusting it is wonderful.
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Just make sure you aren’t jumping from the frying pan into the fire! Sometimes older ones are controlling. That could be a worse situation.
Age isn’t just a number. You two are at different stages in life. He’s old enough to be your dad. If you are questioning it, it’s because you have doubts too.
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You should be with whoever makes you and your kids happy!
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If he’s good to you and your kids, wants to be part of your lives, etc… to hell with what other people think! 
Worst case scenario, you guys end up realizing that you are at two different stages in your life. Best case scenario, he is your soulmate and you spend the rest of your lives together You won’t know which scenario is meant for you if you just automatically throw in the towel because of his age without giving him a chance.
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There is 11 year age difference between me and my ex husband. I met him at 22 also. I am now in my 40s. Im not saying our marriage was horrible but over time, as I matured it seemed that he stopped growing…or we stopped growing together. At 22 I dismissed a lot of red flags, that now, only through time I can look back and identify. I’m not saying you can’t be happy with thus guy, but I’d personally recommend to any woman to remain single and independent until you are sure that you want a new relationship.
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My mom was 18 and my dad was 42. He’s the only man she’s been with her whole life. He died in 2014 at age 72. I was born when she was 19 and she had my 2 brothers and sister with him. He wasn’t faithful until they married when she was 28 but every man isn’t the same. It worked for them. I’m with a 27 year old man and we’re getting married next year. I’m 36. We’ve been together a year and half. It depends on each individual situation.
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I am 38 hubby is 53 we gave bee together 13 years have a 4.5 yr old am 2 months preggo n just bought our 1st house n this babe is due on his 54th b-day! my opinion if yr ova 20 its nothing but a number. live yr life b4 hubby I only went with guys at most 4/5 years older n he wouldn’t even tell me his age (icm older than a few of his nieces/nephews) n he felt more eeird bout it! love yr life age is age who cares
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You are an adult that is when age becomes just a number. I am with someone 16 years older than me.
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Why do you think you should stop seeing him?
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It’s not the age that’s the issue here, it’s the fact you’ve not given yourself chance to remember who you are on your own before rebounding.
You’re questioning it for a reason, because you’re unsure, there’s your answer. Have some single time, by all means stay friends with this guy, but make sure the boundaries are clear there if you do. Your kids need the time to heal and they need that time with you, not with you and some bloke who essentially just replaced their dad the second he was gone.
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Who cares…its fine.
I met my now fiancee who is 10 years older than me when i went through a recent spilt with my ex husband. He was there for everything! The divorce, the custody battle, battles within myself. Been together 3 years now
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Age is just a number. Follow your gut. If your not feeling any doubts. Then go for it.
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I’m 17 yrs younger then my husband he 53 im 36
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Just don’t rush it alot comes with dating someone alot older then you take time my husband and I were together for 2 years before we moved in together and introduced my son to him we definitely wanted to make sure it was a long term thing he’s 24 years older I’m 23 and he’s 47 we have a great relationship now we have a beautiful 1 1/2 beautiful little girl together I couldn’t be happier but again we made sure we took our time before rushing into it we really became friends first really got to know each other that’s all I would give for advice don’t rush
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The age difference doesn’t mean anything. You’re fine.
If you are happy why spoil it just be thankful for what you’ve got and enjoy yourself . Good luck
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A 24 year age difference is huge, however, doesn’t have to be a deal breaker. But if your asking here, there is a reason… a gut feeling maybe, something.
You need to allow yourself time and space to be you, to establish your foundation, develop your goals and dreams. You have been in a relationship since you were a child, allow you to be you.
Protect those children. It is unfortunate that there are individuals you prey on young women with children, seeing them as easy targets. Do not allow yourself or kiddos to become victims. Do not allow someone to swoop you off your feet and cloud your better judgement. Do your research, run the background checks, ask all the hard questions. You owe it to yourself and children. And I know that all older men are not sexual predators, but some are, and that’s enough.
Give yourself time, do not rush into a new relationship, develop yourself, take off the Rosie glasses, ask the questions, don’t move to fast and protect yourself and those babies. 
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Get divorced first. Age is just a number…but if you have to question it then something is up. You lost your childhood and jumping from one relationship to another doesnt necessarily give you time to find YOU…but again…if it feels right it feels right…but think about why you are questioning your decision or wanting other peoples approval.
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I was with a man 16 years older than me for 7 years . We had a child together . Seemed great at first but as time went on and after I started getting older (and my body started getting older) it wasn’t the same. Also, he had alot of toys, (4 wheelers, snow mobiles, a boat) and he never wanted to go play. He had already been there done that. He wanted to stay at home on the weekends and never wanted to go do anything. Not all are the same, but I won’t do it again
No if you love them amd they love you and your kids go for it
It might be good to just find yourself. Or give it some time
Don’t go by other people’s opinion. If the two of you are happy that’s all that matters.
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If you are happy go for it
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I don’t know if legally you’re going about it the right way I mean you guys have them separated but I also don’t know what state you live in I honestly think that age is just a numberit’s how the person treats you and how you feel.
I don’t think that age is necessarily an issue. My ex husband is with a woman the same age as his second child but their personalities are exactly the same. It’s both good & bad for them. I don’t think that I could do it, but I have a lot of health issues so I would never feel fully comfortable with the amount of care they would have to give me as I get older. And having just cared for my grandmother, I know that you can be a willing caregiver, but it is still a tremendous burden. You fell quickly, and that happens, is it true love? is it being rescued from a terrible relationship? Is it safety after chaos? You are the only one that knows what your true motivation is & if it will work. I always trust the voice in my head that says do it, or don’t. or sometimes, do it, just know that it is not forever. Trust yourself.
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