Wish you were close so I could take them 
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I would do It 
that’s ur family it’ll be hard but worth it in the end !
Don’t let those poor babies go in the system please keep them.
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Could your dad cut down a little on working to help with your siblings? Prayers
You’re strong than you think. The foster care system is so messed up. You’ll figure out a way. The universe and good karma wil help you through this journey. Your compensation wil be so rewarding. Thank you for considering it. Your an amazing person
Hands down no matter what, I would take them. Those boys are family. Your little brothers. No matter how hard it would be. I would take them.
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You will be so blessed by taking them in. It’ll be tough at times but you got this.
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The reward to see those babies grow up with their family will be so much more than the struggles you will face taking them in.
Take those babies and love them with all your heart 
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Have you tried getting licensed as foster parent or taking classes. They will reimburse you financially would help your family move forward. You won’t need to take other children to qualify.
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You MUST utilize this website!
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Do it. I took in my niece (1 and a half years old) a few years ago. I was like a year sober off hard drugs. Making 12.50 an hour working part time with a newborn. I didn’t know how I was going to do it but I did. The adoption was finalized a few years ago. Sometimes we just make stuff happen even when we don’t think we can 
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Get adoption subsidy and other assistance.
Taking and siblings as a lot of hard work but being that they would have to be adopted by you did they will get payments to help you get through hard times and they might get free college I know that my grandparents adopted my half-brother and that’s what happened with him
Hold on, where is your father in all this and why isn’t he stepping up?
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If you already do it a lot of the time then do it! Life is hard we learn to adapt!!! Where is dad at?
Would u like to be placed in a home with strangers that you have never seen? Cause I can promise you, I’ve been in the system. It’s corrupt af & just because it’s supposed to be a “safe home” doesn’t mran that it will be. I know it may seem overwhelming, but these are your brothers. Once you turn them over to the system, you might never see them again. Talk it over with your boyfriend & ask him to help more. They need leave & care, especially from someone they know
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I know it will be hard. Some days it will be very overwhelming. You will have days where you cry, question yourself, your choices and your strength & sanity. But you will also get sone much joy and satisfaction knowing they are with you and they are safe & loved. You will never question if their foster family is being good to them, if They are being starved or beaten. You will never regret your choices every birthday and holidays. Even when its hard and impossible, family sticks together and makes it work.
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Foster care is no way for any child to grow up. They learn no sense of family and unconstitutional love.
Unconditional, not unconstitutional
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Reach out to me in a private message
You will save their life taking them in. God will bless you along the way! It will be bumpy, years from now you will know deep down you saved them! blessings!
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Your stronger then u think…
I too have 2 children ( teens) … Last year I gained custody of my sisters 3 kids… baby to age 8 !!! Then surprise… another baby was coming … so I got the baby at birth… I went from 2 kids to 6 in a few months !! U manage. U make it work. I couldn’t imagine having them go through the system separated, abused ect… nope. They are all my babies and will be till the day I die. I fought to take them all in and adopting all 4. Not how I planned my life, not what was expected … but I wouldn’t change it for the world !
I am now a mom of 2 babies 2 middle and 2 teens … I’m in my 30s . Had to add 2 bedrooms and make my chaotic life work … BUT YOU WILL DO GREAT !!! PM ME iF NEEDED
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Take them in. You will make it work just as you have been doing but them boys will forever be grateful for you keeping them with family where things are familiar instead of resenting you for sending them to live with strangers & taking everything they know away from them. I have 2 younger cousins that was adopted by another cousin & it’s something that will forever mean the world to them & you won’t beat yourself up for knowing you sent them away years down the road. Not to mention the abuse that happens within the system & these foster homes… You got this! Good luck!
It’s a blessing full of long hours and much love . Just set a strong routine right off the bat and stick to it . Make sure to teach them to clean up and to have quite movie time so you can rest your mind .
You could always ask for help from their grandparents on their moms side or your own grandparents on your dads side to take them occasionally or help watch them and if you or your significant other have other older siblings maybe see if they could help you out with your kids also (since you just had a baby, I know that alone can be overwhelming enough) and maybe see if your father could actually take care of his kids as well. maybe getting them in daycare/preschool/kindergarten that way you wouldn’t have them all the time which I’m sure your dad could/should help out with getting that arranged. Best of luck! Sounds like a mentally and emotionally tough situation to be facing but I wouldn’t let your little siblings go into the foster care system
I recently met someone who did the same thing. Shes 26 and has had them since 19… I commended her.
They are family and they need your, you can do this.
Take them in. The system is horrible to alot of kids.
Why isn’t your siblings,dad taking on the role?
Keep your brothers. Apply for whatever help you can get. You’ll never forgive yourself if you don’t.
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You can do it. You’ve been doing it. It’s amazing what someone can do when they love someone so much. I believe you will regret it if they go into foster care (I know I would). They have groups for everything and anything, you can find a support group for when it’s hard. Parenting is hard no matter what.
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Hey girl, I am 22 as well. I have 2 kids, as well. When I was 16 I had just started living with my mom for a couple of months before she kicked me out. I had to figure it out from there. At 17 I had my own apartment. My mom had gotten really bad on drugs, and would leave my 4 younger siblings by themselves frequently. Or would leave them for weeks at a time with no food. So I was always having to just go get them and bring them back to my house. She sober up for like a week, come back and demand them back. Finally, after struggling for a bit. They went with my grandma, she didn’t think I should have to care for them myself. Well fast forward to now, and as I said I’m 22. During this time, one of my younger siblings passed away, and I’m working on adopting my 3 younger ones. Let me tell you, it is very tricky. And difficult, especially with us still being young. But if you love them, love will always find a way. We have never went without food or anything, I always just “figure it out”. Lol there will be some nights where you have no choice but to cry. But it will get easier, especially as they get older. The school runs is awful 
but I think you got this if it’s what you truly are thinking about. It sounds like you have already been doing it as is. Just don’t overthink it. It would be much harder to get them back from cps, vs them staying with you.
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I would. I know it will be extremely hard but you’re all they have left. If you really can’t handle it then I guess foster care but they may not want a relationship with you in the future as foster care can be pretty awful and I don’t want to even think about the things they could endure going through the system.
4 and 6 isn’t too bad. And they’ll be in school full time before you know it 
You can do this! You are stronger than you give yourself credit for. Keep those babies out of the system.
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You can do it girl. It will be hard for sure but if they were older and it were you that would be heading to foster care, wouldn’t you want them to step up for you.
Yes. Please don’t let them get in the system.
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If you don’t do it you will always wonder and worry.
Your boyfriend should also step up to the platel. Don’t know you but will be praying!!!
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U should ask if u can foster them so that economically u will get the help u need. Here in Los angeles in ur situation they would pay for the classes and everything u need to get certified.The system itself is over crowded . Doesnt hurt to ask. Let them know ur afraid u cant financially support them & if u can possibly foster them & from there adopt them. If u foster them first then adopt them in the future theyll continue to pay u until they turn 18.
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Sometimes it will seem overwhelming, but it would also be overwhelming to not know if your brothers were ok. Build the family you choose now. They’ll be a huge support for you. You’ve got this 
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Do it. You’ll never regret it.
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Do it, they are family and sounds as if you’re all they have. The ‘system’ is full of horrendous people and places, abuses you would not like to endure. Keep them safe, with you.
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Awe they are your brothers I’d be lost without my siblings. You are a wonderful person to be doing this already but honestly think you’ll regret it terribly if you let someone else take them in and you lose that bond. Either way its up to you I wish you luck in making this difficult decision.
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I started raising my littlest niece and nephew when I was around 18 and they were newborns, they are now 13&12 about to be turning 14&13(a year an three days difference in age) I don’t regret it at all, I’m now 32 years old. It’s doable, trust and believe it gets rough, but I could never see them in the system.
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You are an amazing person and are already doing it…so taking them in permanently is just a piece of paper for you to keep doing what you already are. Granted, I’m a lot older, but I have 7 kids (all bio). It’s all about schedules and planning your day/week, but being able to adjust when life throws a curveball. You can do it!
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Take them they need u. U will do fine. Just one day at a time
You will never regret giving your brothers a good life but you may regret letting them go.
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Hun i no its a lot but keep your brothers. They need you now more than ever and if they go into the system theres no gurantee they’ll be together. You are who they need right now. If i lived in your area I’d come help you. But you have got to stick it out a d be there for your brothers. Their too young to understand but your all they have. Your dad also needs to step up. Those r his kids too so why cant your dad help? Much luv and if you need someone to vent too just message me.
You can get paid partial from state to adopt your siblings look into it
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Please please do it ! Keep those babies safe with you it’ll be hard but so worth it knowing they were brought up with you happy. You never know what can happen in foster care
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I think you can do it try find some family support in yiur area , maybe like a big brother program for someone to help guide the kids and take a littoe stress off you? Maybe even get a family counlior for you all
You can do it momma
You will find a way to make it work. It is ally but sometimes we have to do what we have to do! Apply for any aid you can. They should be in school so that should help a bit also. I would certainly do it if I was in this position.
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You can do it! PROTECT THEM! You can do it!
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They are your brothers. They’re family. If you don’t do it and keep them, you may always wonder and worry about where they are and if they are okay. Also, you’ll know that they aren’t being separated.
Can their/ your dad help some?
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Those Babies have you for a reason…Lean on God and he will guide you and those babies…Prayers for you and your family 
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Omg you CAN DO IT
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Im in the exact same boat…i went to part time …lost lots of $ but thr foster $ will help…i have 3 niece nephews…i wish tbey would show me the family tbey would give them to first but since they cant unless i sign off…ill keep tbem @nd pray for the best…do what u can…
Bro what you need to du is sit down and go over anything and everything b4 you make any decision thats going to hurt your family. First and Foremost your kids have to come first and if taking in ur bro’s is only going to hurt you and more importantly your kids then it is what it is. Sure they ur brothers but they are not your responsibility, your kids are your responsibility, the family you started and tryin’ to provide for is your responsibility. The families we grow up in become secondary no matter fucking what once you venture out and start your own. Your family you have HAS to come first even if ya gotta let them go to foster care.
If you dont take boy’s, and they go to foster care they will most likely be separated into different homes. And most likely not see you or each other.
I know this is a big decision for you. But you can do this. They need you. Try to get your dad. To help you out with visitation, every other weekend and 2 weeks on holidays spring break and summer when school is out and child support. If you dad cares anything about them or you he will help out. Maybe take him to court if you can.
Best of luck
And God bless
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Poor babies!
I’d take in any of my siblings!
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Please do it. These boys must be so confused and scared. Love them! Be there and take care of them. They need you.
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You can absolutely do it babe. Just pray for guidance always…. If you believe (never like to assume)
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It might seem like it’ll be hard but God will bless u and you’ll get thru . I’m a firm believer in doing kids right and knowing that god will make a way out of no way . U got this .
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You have been doing it already, you will most likely regret not keeping them.
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Don’t let those babies go into foster care. You wouldn’t be able to live with yourself later. Please adopt those sweet babies
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Do it!! You don’t want them in the system and you’ll blame yourself daily if they do. They need you more than ever now that they dont have parents around…I know it seems like alot but itll get easier…I have 7 kids and it really wasn’t that hard…good luck
I’ve gone through this. And my thought process was “I’d never forgive myself if they ended up in an awful foster home, when they could be with someone who loves them.” Yes momma, it may be hard but it will be worth it one day.
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Please do not let them go into Foster homes . You won t know if the foster parents will treat them good. Protect them and love them .God will be with you always .
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You can do it! I never planned on having kids either but when I was 21 (27 now) my 2 year old niece went to foster care. I have from February 19th (date she was taken from my brother) till April 20 to prepare myself to be a mom. I got temporary custody on 4-20-2016 and I was granted full legal guardianship on 8-3-2016. She’s still with me and is almost 8 years old now. We are now mommy and daddy and I couldn’t imagine my life without her. I had my first biological son in 2020 they have the best brother and sister bond ever. I’m so glad I was able to get her. You’ll realize later on that your the lucky one to be able to raise them. good luck momma!
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As a child that was in foster care myself because no family members would take us in, please take in your little brothers. Don’t let them grow up in the system. Yes it will probably be a lot to handle for you. But could you really be okay with your little brothers going into foster care knowing that you could’ve helped? I personally wouldn’t be able to live with myself if I let that happen.
You can do this, you’re already stronger than you know, it’s going to be hard but it’ll be worth it
What about your fathers life long commitment when he decided to not use birth control? Where is he?
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Your amazing chick!!! It’s a lot to handle so young. So that say what a wonderful soul you have. You can do any thing momma!!! You already have been! Keep everyone together 
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God will never open that door if he thouht you couldnt handel it…Darling you can do this
Go for it, for sure they will be grateful to have you. Dont be afraid to ask for help, but for sure with you they will be in good care even for them selves at least it will not be traumatic. Goodluck dear
You’re so young and I get the issues money 4 kids but personally I couldn’t could not do but don’t make anybody make you feel bad if you can’t snd might have a better life somewhere else not love wise but kids are expensive just thing long snd hard it is a lifetime com but if you don’t you might regret it
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God bless you will get rewarded
That is a lot I agree with you
You can get financial help
That’s what family does You’re a brave & loving big sis & I wish you well. I hope your Dad gets a vasectomy though 
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Wow you’ve got a lot on your plate but that would be 4 kids at 22 right.it might be a struggle at first but maybe you can get some assistance I think you won’t regret it and would be better for the kids. Take 1 step at a time you’ll work through everything.
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Please for God’s sake take them you will reap the rewards later personally I wouldn’t give it a second thought keep them little ones
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I understand it is alot to take on. But if I was in your position I would definitely take them. I have 2 younger brothers. And I love them so much. I could never separate family. They could be split up. And some stories I heard of foster homes can be scary. If you keep them they will grow up with a bond with you and will eventually be forever grateful and know the sacrifice you made for them. Just think about it. You will be in my thoughts
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Why isn’t your father involved in taking them
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Just breathe.
Take it one day at a time. Find supportive friends. Cry when you need.
They’re your brothers and are children. They need you more than you’ll ever know. What you’re doing by taking them and caring for them is creating a life, a family- something that if they went into the system, they may never see.
It will be hard. It will be a lot. But one day when they’re grown, they’ll be there with and beside you, every step of the way.
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Never been in a situation like this or even know anyone that has, can’t make any sort of decision for you.
But I do know what I would do. I have 3children and I would take them, if in your shoes. Knowing shits about to get real. Money would be thin. Time would never be enough. I could possibly loose many people just because I would have no time for them. But my heart would be full, and my conscience clean. My pride for doing it all, would be intact while fighting to give them the world. . There might be difficult times with them but the love they will have for you, for being the one to keep them, would be something nobody can take away.
Would you wanna go to foster care? I’d take them in they would appreciate you so much for doing it and keeping them close to family. Them going to foster care could mean you would never see them again
U say you’ve been doing it for 2 years - so why worry if u can do it…u already r
Just continue the love
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You’ve got this girl:+1:
Foster care would destroy them and you would never forgive yourself, you’ve got this.
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As an older sister myself I would do it. There will be challenges but they will love you forever and have the best chance at success with you
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Can I just say you’re awesome for doing this? I’m in my 40s and I was a child of the state when I was a kid. It’s horrible. I know you’re struggling but those kids need you. Look for any resources you can. Get a caseworker who will help you.
This is such a life-changing situation for everyone involved. I think the years will be hard, but, the end result will be a family who knows and understands unconditional love. And bonds between the children will be there long after you are old and gray. Have you heard people say how fast the time went when they were raising children? As it will be with you…Follow your heart. Put your best foot forward and ask for help from all resources when you need it.
Where is their Dad??? Make him come to the plate. I understand they are your brothers, but you have to do what is best for YOUR kids and YOUR family. Don’t take away from your kids and your SO by over stretching yourself. You’ll end up losing it all. Perhaps one day if you feel up to it then you can request them from foster care. But you have to take care of YOUR family first.
You got this big sis they need you and I’m not sure about your Dad but hopefully he is or comes in and helps as well if not believe you can do this and you’ll love yourself for it along w the love and respect from them. 
They are your brothers - stop thinking like just only a mother, but as a sister. Are you able to stomach the thought of your brothers going into the Foster system and potentially them being separated from each other, and the possibility of you not being able to ever see them again? They are your baby brothers, 4 and 6 years old - how can you say that it is a “forever” thing about adopting them? They are FOREVER your brothers! You never mentioned anything about y’all’s father but I assume he is not in the picture - so you are the only person they have left. Please take them!
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Just live a minute at a time. Yes. Take them in.
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Let me start off by saying that you are one badass chic for doing everything that you’ve doing so far. If I were you, I would take your brothers in. Your brothers will appreciate it so much when they’re older. They’re are plenty of resources available for you to help with child care and so many other things for when you need help or a break. The family is already broken up and sometimes the foster care system will cause more harm than help. Yes. It is alot to take on, you’re never given more than you can handle. Best of luck. I’m a mother of six and I’m here if you ever need anything. One day at a time. Sending hugs, love, and good vibes.
Take them in, you wouldn’t know where they would end up or how…
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