You got this! Fight for help from dcs though! Can they certify you as a foster parent? If you do that you’ll get monthly help
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Yes do it and get all the resources get the childcare the money everything food stamps and God bless you
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take them in . U can do it. Make use of all the services available to make it a little easier for your self
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I would in a heartbeat. You wouldn’t want them being separated for oone and for 2 the stuff that goes on in foster care is terrible. I’m sure there is plenty of support out there to assist you financially and respite to have a break here and there. Well done to you for doing it too, it’s hard but at the end of the day it’s your family and family is everything x
Yes take them both. It’s a lot but you will not regret it later on in life it’s a blessing
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I don’t think you would regret taking them but I wholeheartedly believe you would regret not taking them in.
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Its a very big thing but sounds like you already have it under control. It wont always be easy but awww how blessed are these wee boys to have you for a sister 
there will be help available too.
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It won’t be easy but it will be worth it
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It’s going to be tuff it’s not easy but they are your little brothers. Do they have anyone on their mother’s side that can take them maybe an aunt or maybe take one and you take the other
It is a lifelong commitment! But would you rather be able to see and enjoy them or send them to foster care and not know them or there whereabouts? I had to make this choice with my grand child and I decided to raise her. The best choice I ever made.
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My opinion is that if they were to stay with you, even if you struggled financially as a family, they would take that any day over a completely different family. The possibility of going from home to home. Potentially living out of trash bags. Seems as though you already have a lot of love in your heart, & deep down you know what it is you should do. God bless
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Take them… You can do this… They are your brothers and would most likely be safer with you than the foster syatem
Heck yes you are able. They need understanding and love. In time if you do not, you will regret it.
You can totally do it girl!
I have 4 kids myself and also care for my brothers 2 boys on and off for a few years now. So 6 kids total. It’s a lot having 4 kids but it’s not undoable… or people like myself wouldn’t have 4 kids lol. I do understand where your coming from and I do not think I could take on my nephews full time. You have to make this decision yourself. Only you know what you can and cannot handle.
I would like to encourage you. You obviously love your brothers & want what’s best for them. You also already have stepped up when they needed you previously. Love can find a way 
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Honey you are already handling it!! Plus they don’t have diaper issues or teething, sleepless night. They are at the fun age where they can be big helpers. It may come with hard days but you will never regret it.
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Do it. I guarantee you’ll regret it if you don’t. It will be hard but it will be worth jt
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Of course you can do it. Of course there will be challenges. You do it because they are your baby brothers who need you. You are all they have and know, at least that’s what it sounds like. This shouldn’t be optional, especially when the other option is foster care with strangers and possible separation. 
I’m sorry you are struggling with this decision.
Won’t be easy but you just need to be organised and have routines… you got this mama 
You can let us know what you need for them and I bet a lot of moms will help out
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I would take them. You have been doing it this long already. It’s clear you can handle it. Lol. But where is your dad?
I would take them, without a doubt. If you have that opportunity to make their lives better…DO IT!!! Family is family, no questions asked. I will be wanting updates/lives about your guys new life together:blush:
what a journey xx
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We went from 3 kids to 5 kids when we adopted our great niece and nephew. I’m not going to lie, it’s a lot of work but the pros totally outweigh the cons. Watching them grow up is just amazing! Babysitters and family/friends are a huge help as well.
But basically, you need to ask yourself is if YOU think you can do it. Would you be able to handle someone else adopting them and possibly never seeing them again? It’s a lot to consider, for sure.
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Its your blood… i would take them, do not let let suffer in the system. They need you more than you know. I would even suggest a gofundme to help with expenses.
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You got this keep it simple they will appreciate more in life .as mothers we think we need to give our children every material thing .moat important is food clothes and love .reach out to your community for material thing and keep it simple you got this dont be afraid or to proud to ask for help:pray:
you are very lucky to have them as they are you:blue_heart:
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You should do it for your brothers sake. They can grow up and have many problems with being in the system especially because there’s a good chance they will be separated and not have any real family , imagine how you would feel if you were in your brothers position.
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You can . Ask area community to help if you need .Don’t try to do the impossible by yourself. Always ask for help esp w a newborn in the house . Its such a shame you have all this on your shoulders but bless you for being there .
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As long as you keep a schedule and stick too it you will do amazing…
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U might be able to get a little help, say if u ask children services is there any programs u can get involved in even for some financial help it will help some and maybe get them into part time daycare or something to give u a break. It’s all about our peace of mind. If it’s lightly mentally draining or stressful it might not be worth your physical body. I’m just saying some ideas I am no way a professional obviously good luck but I do understand the love for them it’s gonna be hard either way.
I would take them in. Forster care can be awful for children. They can get terrible careers, abused, or be lucky. Or go from one to the other and have no stability in their life. But it’s not my shoulders and not my shoes.
You will out of every one else have their best interests at heart. They will teach you and bring you so much love and it will be rewarding beyond words - but it will also be hard. The choice is yours… and you are not wrong no matter which way you choose… 
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I have 2 boys,adopted a little girl and gave birth 8 months ago and fostering my nephew. It can be exhausting and a handful at times but couldn’t imagine life any different. I always only wanted 3 children.
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Of course you can. If there’s a will theres a way. Sounds like you got a good heart. It won’t be an easy task, but there’s also help that you can get for this. The alternative shouldn’t be an option of a broken fail system where they can get lost in. You know deep down you need to do the right thing. Plus in the long run your brothers will thank you and respect you more when they get older
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The first 5 years will be tough but you will benefit in the long run showing those boys they have a home and your heart.
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You sure could use daycare a couple days per week. This way you can clean, organize rest and maybe prepare food ahead of time. Keep a scheduled routine. Great that you are still young enough to do this.
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I think you would regret it for life if you didn’t, but your boyfriend should absolutely be supporting you with the whole family, not just “his kids”, it’s something you need to discuss with him and I think you both need to be 100% committed to all of those precious babies.
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The system will absolutely 
% destroy them, so you need to love them and keep them safe from those who say they care about their wellbeing (the system) they don’t your brothers are only paperwork in their eyes so make sure you do everything in your power to keep them out of the system don’t be fooled by what they tell you when they say we have a good home for them please please don’t give them over…
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You can definitely do it. Sometimes it may seem like it’s too much, but it’ll be worth it.
You got this!!! They need you now more than ever!!
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Believe in your self if they go to foster care you won’t see them again if they get adopted do it for them and what about your dad
I would adopt them no problem if I had the chance I raised my granddaughter who is 12 and 6yrand 3 yr grandsons who have autism and a 1 year old boy and raised are 4 children and been married 40 years.
They are little, they know you, they need you, be there for them, buck up, you are stronger than you think and you can handle this
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You got it! Do it! Never make a decision you may regret later or have doubts about.
Couldn’t there dad have them at times or you could go for guardianship which social services would be able to get restbite carers now and then for you, for the last 3 years we’ve had my sister in law living with us on and off I have a 4 year old for the last year she’s moved in permanently slightly different as she’s a teen and it isn’t easy especially when they’re taking you for granted but family is family I’d ask for a meeting to see what could be done to take the full pressure off you for example dad or other family have them weekends, restbite carers etc and it needs to be a joint decision with your partner too as it will effect him as much as you, good luck xxx
You have got this, yes it’s a lot of work but you will never forgive yourself if you don’t 
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You are a strong woman. You have already proven that. Take the leap and adopt. You will never regret it
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Don’t doubt yourself!
Clearly you have a big heart and love them very much. There will be lots of ups and downs but it’ll be totally worth it and rewarding.
You got this 
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Utilize the support offered by child protective service. Do you have friends and other family that can offer support. It takes a village to raise a child.
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You got this!!! In the long run you will be happy you did it
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I commend you, I had a cousin who had 2 children of her own her sister died the father was a deadbeat and she took in her niece and nephews it was 4 of them, total 6 kids! I pray you are getting help with them, find resources to help you.
They’re your family and it’s you or FOSTER CARE. Do not put those babies in that nightmare because you’re tired. This is what family means.
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I would go for it God doesn’t put more on us than we can handle. Reach out to CPS surely they have programs that will help you financially in raising them. If you believe in God and prayers just pray the lord will lead you in the right direction. You already been taking care of them . Foster care is a good idea I wouldn’t recommend it it all.
They need you you are their family and obviously love them unconditionally.
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You will not seen them in them system
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Don’t let them go to foster care. 
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You can handle whatever you want to , believe in yourself if you decide to keep them
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Take them in. You said it yourself you’re already taking care of them Only difference is they will be yours. They need you. Don’t let them go into foster care.
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Sounds like those kids have been through enough… so I put them through more stress pain and agony???
I mean literally how in the world could strangers over the internet know the answer to this??!!!
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Your either all in and l
Hats off to you for what you have done for your little brothers do what is right for you and your family don’t feel guilt tripped in to keeping them because their mother couldn’t give them what they needed your dad should be the one that takes his kids and takes care of them
One day at a time… you got this and it’s already normalcy. They will appreciate you and have them help out. I bet they don’t feel good about the situation, but happy to be with you.
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You can do this. The foster care system hos family members who foster relatives
Why would you even have to question if you should do it? Those are YOUR BROTHERS!!
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U CAN DO IT! DON’T ever give up!
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I have faith you can do it.
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How can you not take them?
Don’t let them go to foster care, you will regret it.
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Question…why can’t your dad take them?
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At least 70% of people in prison have been on the foster care system at one point in their lives… Its not gonna be easy for u and for those boys! But its gonna be worth it! U got this mama!
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Where is their/your dad in the picture? What say does he have in this?
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no way would i allow my brothers to go into foster care
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I understand but yiu can do it.Im 72 and adopted my 2 youngest granddaughters 4 years ago after my son their daddy passed due to a geart attack.I raised 4 boys.believe me boys are easy compared to these 2 girls.we all had to adjust and it was really hard but at least I know they are loved and safe with me.You wont rest knowing a stranger who doesnt really love them has them.it wont be easy at first.all of you will have to adjust but the rewards are great.I know you can do it.
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You can do it! Reach out to your school district or even local domestic relations office to see if there are any resources to help you.
I think it would be hard at first but you will figure out a way to fit them into your routine. I’d say take them because you never know where they will end up. And they could even be separated. I believe you can I know I don’t know you or anything but the love is there so you’ll figure it out in my thought. Try to stay in a positive mind set and the days your unable to because we are only human at the end of everyday, go into your room when they are all safe maybe during lunch time and take yourself a minute to beat the shit fuck outta anything lol.
You’ve already been taking care of them. They need you.
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Better to struggle a little now to keep your family safe and together than let them slip away into foster system where not every foster parent is caring.
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Raising kids under any circumstances can b overwhelming but ur doing it! It’s awesome that u took ur brothers in. Hugs n prayers 4 u guys!!
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It’ll be hard at first but once you get a routine going it’ll get better.
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They are your siblings… You’ve got this and you will be rewarded as they grow…
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Foster parent here. I’ve never had a kid that I didn’t let see/spend time with other family members. Now depending on who that family member was, I may supervise or they may go through the court system to get visitation that is supervised by a social worker. My adopted daughter (who is now 18) has always been allowed to see her younger brothers whenever we could work that out schedule wise. I’ve also allowed her to see her older brother, however since older brother lives with bio parents, she doesn’t go to his house or hang out with him unless it’s at my house or one of the other brothers adoptive homes. That’s just one example. I had another foster kid that aged out and her brothers foster family always let them hang out. As foster parents, most of us always try to include the family members of kiddos that don’t bring any sort of issues to the kids. You can also ask child services if there is anything they can do to provide aid to you for the boys. In most states, they can help you get assistance for some of the things the kids add to, like day care, food costs, clothing, those sorts of expenses.
I had 3 kids and took 2 nephews,it was hard but I have never regreted it.My Mil was wonderful and helped,their Moms family helped,we made it.I was hurt and so were they both by stupid comments from people and not accepting them,rude people bought gifts for part of the kids,people made birth control comments,or was I Catholic, I waseven ask several times how much money did I draw on them.My response,they are my kids
YOU CAN DO IT! YOU’VE GOT THIS! YOU ARE POWERFUL, WONDERFUL, INTELLIGENT, COMPASSIONATE AND BEAUTIFUL! YOU HAVE ALL THE TOOLS YOU NEED! (and yes, i meant to put it in all caps because I am aggressively supportive of you and this idea. You clearly want to do this, and that is enough to be able to handle it. Initially it will be a hard trial, but you will get through it and it will get easier. The reward will be worth it when you see how you raised wonderful human beings. Congratulations on your growing family, and best wishes and blessings for a completely fulfilling future)
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They need you. You will get a routine down and you can do it. I would never let family go into foster care. Prayers!
Bless your heart i believe its the best for you & them to stay together if at all possible. It will be tough ,& challenging but I am sure God wont give you more than you can handle . However, it is completely up to you - do what is best for you and your children too. Prayers sent for you
Take them in sissy you don’t want any regrets later on.
I think with family we do everything we can. Foster care can be a truly horrific place so they would be better off with you. Reach out to case workers etc and get all the help and resources you can. You’ve got this!
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You’ve got this and they were blessed for a reason to have you and you have them. Absolutely it will be a challenge and a struggle whether one kid or 4+ kids, parenting is what it is and there certainly is not a handbook to guide you. But you do have groups with caring momma’s that can help you every step of the way.
I suggest having a heart to heart with your boyfriend, taking some alone time one day and truly ask GOD what his plan is for you, scream, cry, vent…whatever you need to do to get it all out. Then take a very deep breath, cowboy up and do what you got to do.
I can guarantee the end will so be worth it and you’ll look back many years from now and be so happy blessed and thankful that you made this decision and overcame every fear. I promise motherhood is rewarding but just as with anything meaningful and important in life comes hard work and many sacrifices.
You got this!!
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You can do this. You know you can. We stand witth you.
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Pray for GOD to help you .
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You can do it, keep your family together You’ll be happy u did in the long run and so will they, not to mention they will be great helpers for your little one 
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You can do it…you already have and your brothers need you and some sense of family. If you turn them over, they risk being separated, lost in the system, neglected or abused, and will feel like they weren’t good enough or worthy of being loved. You are a great mom and a great big sister.
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Don’t be afraid to ask for help! Even if it’s for government assistance with daycare, food stamps, insurance, etc. at least you’ll be able to have your brothers in your life
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Tell your case worker that you need daycare so you can have a break
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where is your dad at??? why can’t they go live with him???
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They are your brothers but yes you are young and this is a lifelong commitment you need to discuss it with your boyfriend to see if he is willing to be apart as well and if not you then have to choose what is best for the boys but I will tell you foster care is not a good thing the system is terrible I know from experience. Maybe if things don’t work out you can find someone you trust that could take them but yet still let them be apart of your life because even under the circumstances they are your brothers and you would always wonder what happened to them I pray that God will help you in making the right decision even though it is hard
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Kids deserve to stay with family than the system that is broken and they can’t guarantee that the kids won’t be separated and moved around please be there safe haven you got this love your siblings will love what you do for them
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They are your brothers, think if roles reversed. You would want your brothers to take you in. Yes, it might be overwhelming at times, but in the end ur their only family and they love you, how would you think they would feel if they knew you gv them up bc it would be hard?
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I know it’s a lot but I could never let my siblings go
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Please accept them all and lean on the Lord.
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Family ties are strong, you will never forgive yourself if you let them go. They will not always be little. Just include them in everything your rewards will come later when you both have set a great example of the love they need
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Reach out for help. Fill your cup so you can pour. . You can do this… pm me if you need emotional support.
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