He’s not wrong, my mom was two states away for my first, my male cousin handled it like a boss. All these moms thinking they are the one and only who can help their child. 
watch him rock this shit.
Instead of picking her up, can you bring her what she needs? I’m sure it’s scary but if you have talked to her about this, it probably isn’t that scary.
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This is her first cycle. He should be supportive of her wanting Mom. Its not about him or Mom. Its about the child.
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Men are perfectly capable of handling periods. And more men should be given the opportunity so their daughters or sisters or any female feels comfortable coming to them. It’s a normal body function.
At 12 she should be very well aware of what is happening and prepared for it.
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Petty man. She needs her mom in this situation
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Well if he wants to handle it himself let him. I’m sure he’s capable of buying what she needs. And if doesn’t know how to handle it, let him learn.
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I feel like it should be up to the daughter. That is a private time she may not feel comfortable having dad deal with it. Borderline inappropriate if he forced her to do so. If it’s during his time, unfortunately there’s nothing you can do. However, maybe go to the school with a bag of things to help and to also make her feel better. Also, encourage her to speak up to dad about it if it’s something she doesn’t want him involved in.
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I would not wait for his permission I would just go
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It is his parenting time. He is capable of handling it. Don’t teach your daughter that her other parent is somehow unequal and you over ride him. If she asks for you then it’s a different story, but there’s really no reason for her to leave school over it. If she needs a change of clothes he can bring them. You as her mother should have already prepared her for this moment.
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My husband would Be fully capable of handling the situation and they started learning about their bodies and periods at 5, they handeled it themsleves easily at 11.
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My daughter got dropped off pretty quick think it scared her Dad more than he was willing to admit…
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It sound like he got it handled what’s the problem smh
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Are you upset he is not panicking? Lol…i wish my dad was supportive
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If it’s still his time with her then not much u can do as u would be violating the visitation order that’s in place.
When my period started yrs ago, my mother was in the hospital so I had to tell my Dad
You don’t have to leave with her. Just go see her and talk about it, fix her up, whatever she needs. She’ll remember you showing up and that what matters.
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Good for him for being a dad!
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OFGS. I had my first period practically the day after I turned 11. I was staying the weekend at a friends house. Her older sister gave me what I needed and I told my mom when I got home. Unless your daughter is having a problem or needs clean clothes, let dad handle it.
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Fuck that id go get my kid! Just told my husband this and we have 2 girls he couldnt believe this.
He is being selfish and not putting his daughter’s needs first. He is thinking only of himself. The mother should go anyway regardless of what the father says.
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He wants to prove he can handle even the sensitive situations! 
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My mum didn’t even know until months later I started mine. My dad has always been my go to! I think it’s brilliant of dad to want to be there for his daughter and not let you dive in and take her away - diving in teaches your daughter that one parent is more important which should never be the case. If your daughter asks for you it’s a different story and you can go see her but no need to take her away from dad.
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I’d be mad. It does suck. The only saving grace is that She will be okay for the meantime but I do empathize with ur feelings.
If your daughter wants you to go get her then the other parent should allow that. If she’s ok with Dad helping then that’s great to. To me it’s what the kiddo needs/wants that should be respected in private matters with her body.
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Seems like he would want you to take care of it.
I mean there’s nothing you can do, but it being her first time he should’ve just let you handled it since it was just the day before you got her back anyways
Would tell Dear old Dad to kiss my grits and pick that girl up anyway.
He better get his ass to her school and get her and comfort her or let you do it. Ass
You don’t have pick her up just go to the store and buy her whatever she needs and make her a little period pack with pads and little wipes maybe a set of new underwear maybe some midel and a chocolate bar or a snack for her and drop it off maybe even have a little talk with her about how to use pads then you can always talk to her again when she gets home
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Why can’t you two handle it together as adults sharing these things together proves to your child you are there together supporting her or his needs at all times
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Follow the court order or you can find yourself in contempt. You can always talk to your daughter and bring her anything that she needs. I hate to say it but that dad is right it’s his time.
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Let him deal with it, if he wasn’t prepared then the can get her a change if clothes & buy her a box of pads & begin the explanation process, good luck to him on that
If it is his time and he doesn’t want you to get her then that’s his decision. He is her father and should be able to handle it.
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He sounds like an idiot. I would go to the school and bring my daughter what she needed for the school day. She’s probably not prepared.
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Dad’s can help too! Let him be a father for crying out loud.
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Could you both pick her up together?
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Why Can’t you show up to School give her what she needs and some comfort and then have her go on about her day… 
Dad didn’t even require a call for that… And If its his time its his time… I mean it is what it is But you still took care of your child.
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I would hope it was discussed and prepared for already considering her age. Unless shes in distress let dad try before deciding he can’t handle it he may surprise you
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Go get her anyway heck with him!!
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The father is capable of bying the required supplies, so it is fine. It IS his parenting time, and first periods fall under that so… yeah, dad is well within his rights. Itd be different if he wouldn’t do anything to help the daughter
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Ignore it and go if you feel she needs you. Because well your mama. Be gentle upon showing be calm and say that you know she needs her mama.
My dad was the one who helped me with my first period, tell him your coming to stop by just to give her a mensuration box(pads, heating pad, tampons, ibuprofen, maybe some sweets.) give her a hug and tell her if she needs help using anything to have her dad show her on the packages, or have him demonstrate it on a pair of clean undies. Encourage that bond, I know it made me super close to my dad. It made him uncomfortable cause he’s obviously a man but it made me feel good to know what a real example of a man was. Give her a hug and kiss, tell her you love her and that it’s normal. Trust the process, if he’s a good dad, let her enjoy having a good dad mama. Promise it won’t effect your relationship with her. It is his time, try to keep that in mind. Nothing wrong with you dropping off some undies for periods and a period box. But let dad build that healthy bond with her as well. Remember, co-parenting is the best parenting, show your children you can put your differences aside to stand United for her while she’s going through a large milestone in her life. Xoxo❤️
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Why is dad wanting his daughter to wait until he gets off work for you to get your daughter after starting her period at school? She probably messed her clothes up which is why she asked mom to come because her dad was still at work.
This should literally be what makes your daughter comfortable. If she is more comfortable with you dealing with it than he needs to let you get her. Its not about what either of you want and he should ask her if she wants him to help her or you to help her. Whatever makes HER comfortable. All these comments saying “let the dad be a dad”. No. I wasn’t comfortable discussing periods with my dad. Your dad can’t help you figure out tampons. And if she started at school…he needs to pick her up immediately…mom is saying she is wanting to pick her up NOW. Not wait for him to get off work. The fact that he doesn’t even see a reason to immediately go and get her already says that he is insensitive to the situation. He should go and get her or let mom do it. He should stop being selfish and ask her if SHE is comfortable with him helping her.
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I would still go and get her. He would just have to pick her up at my house after he gets off work. I’m not leaving her at school like that
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Why does she need to be picked up from school because of her first period? I don’t understand that. Go take her supplies, hug and kiss her, send her about her merry little way, and let dad have the rest of his time 
win-win all around. Everyone is happy.
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My 9 year started having boob growth and she needed a training bra. Daddy was upset and disgusted. So some daddies will be a help and others are not
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She’s ur daughter go get her if u want!
I was with my father out on my 12th birthday when I got it. I stayed with him the rest of the weekend. It helped set a standard of how things would continue to happen. As I got older and started high school, I ended up only seeing him every 2/3 weeks, so I was almost ALWAYS on my period when I saw him. It was like an inside joke between us. It was never weird, even when it could have been. Unless she’s asking for you. Then I’d just let him handle it until tomorrow. You can drop off the period pack tonight if you must. Otherwise follow her lead!
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What’s in the best interest of the child? Is your daughter requesting you? If so, that can be communicated with her dad. Respect his time and add a benefit to your daughter. Btw. Period panties are amazing
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I’d go get her and tell him after you teach her and she gets cleaned up he can come grab her. Or if he’d like to do it he can but he needs to make a decision because either way she’s getting picked up
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I’m sure he can handle it just fine. Let him be a Dad. My daughter started hers while with me when she was young too. Talked to her n brought her to the store n let her pick out what was right for her n the needed odor n cleaning supplies she needed. Everything whent well. Not all dad’s are clueless n useless in such matters.
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I’m sorry but most* dads are clueless. My girls always wanted mama at times like that.
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Dad’s time is dad’s time
Can’t she get a pad or two from the nurse and continue her school day?
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Please tell me why there are so many m3n in this MOMS group!…Seriously we can’t have sh+t without a damn man trying to play hero🙄
If she is looking for her mother than that should be the only thing that matters. Maybe she isn’t comfortable with her dad regarding this.
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How absurd,poor girl! ( Seriously, up dad) Go anyway mom!
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If it’s her first time she’s probably bled through her pants and yes that’s embarrassing! Never would I have asked for my dad. I love my dad but he can’t relate. She should be able to choose who she wants at that time. Just my opinion. My daughter needed me and asked for me too. It’s just a girl thing and we relate 
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Umm of the child wants mom during this time of her life then she should have her wishes. Dad isn’t a female he can’t compare or console her like her mother can.
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That is amazing that he is the one who wants to deal with this. Not so cool if she is asking for her mum.
I wouldn’t listen at to the dad at all!!!
Just because it’s “dads time”
If she wanted her mother that’s all that should matter! I would go get her from school, get her cleaned up and teach her on what to do and how to use pads properly & then she can go back with the dad once she felt confident on what to do! Also she might be a bit embarrassed and upset !
If that happened to me I’d want my mom! Definitely would not be comfortable with my dad teaching me that stuff!!
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Dad’s can handle it too
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Then he needs to go take care of his child. I mean if he want to be the parent, then by all means get off your ass and do that. Sometimes we need to leave work to take care of our children. He needs to realize you’re both still a team and you need to work together for the health and care of your children. I’m not talking to mom I’m talking to dad. This is so wrong. How did the young lady feel a it walking around like that. Shameful! If he can’t do a better job maybe you need to talk to your lawyer about any instance in which MOM is needed to go take care of her. I know that sound ridiculous but, my goodness. He needs to GROW UP! THE CHILD COMES FIRST!!!
“Id already get her!”
Shows yall dont know what custody means. She has no rights to grt her (unless in danger) without dads permission. If a dad went and took his kid on moms time yall would still cry saying hes a bad dad 
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Why is everyone immediately thinking the worst. Unless she’s calling out for you I am sure he is capable of making sure she is ok. If she is calling for you just go to the school and give her a goody bag with what she may need. Give her some love and go back home.
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Go get your daughter from school! Dad can pick her up from you once he’s finished work if he wants.
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Hes selfish and doesn’t care about her needs. Time can always be worked out later she needs a woman right now. Her mom.
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Reading is fundamental comprehension is KEY
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Ok. So when women have boys do they not have a say because they are boys? 
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She probably wanted her mom instead. He so dense.
Shitty father!!! I won’t pick her up anyway
She is totally fine. Yes dads may not enjoy picking out stuff from the feminine isle but they do what needs to be done for their little girls. My dad brought me my first need of tampons and my parents were still married and still are to this day. Dads know what happens when girls grow up so u all need to stop justifying your bullshit drama
He is capable of being there for her. Break the gender norms. Let him have this one.
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Seriously… Do better people, if the CHILD wants her mother she should be able to tend to her, his time, her time, whatever time… Yes, I agree dads can handle it also, its a personal time for the child if she wants mom to help out it should be fine vice/ versa… Adult issues aside.
Dang… His time /her time, what about what the child wanted during HER time
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Go to the school and help her or go to her wherever she is and help her bring supplies!
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K? Tell him to buy some pads .
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He sounds like a real dick. Some men are just impossible and he seems to be one of them. That is NOT co-parenting based on anything I’ve learned during my custody battle which is very high conflict; so messy in fact that Judge ordered multiple classes on co parenting and how to work these types of situations out no matter what parents time it is…there’s always gonna be emergencies and things that happen in life that deserve some wiggle room. 
Besides, the one really suffering from him being like that is HER! How traumatizing!
His parenting time is until tomorrow. He can handle it. If you never let him, he will never know how.
Call and talk to her, go drop off supplies, etc
She will be okay. Its not the end of the world.
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The dad’s a jackass, I’d get her anyway
Tell him go to store and get her pads take clean clothes to school. I didn’t want my dad even told that. It was private and I wanted my mom.
He is capable of handling it. He can buy her pads, talk to her comfort her, get her a heat pad, and some chocolate if she likes.
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Way to be there when she needs ya. 
Why does mom have to pick her up from school, why can’t mom go to the school and help her out by bringing her everything she needs….don’t just leave her there in a bind without anything, but if he’s being an ass then you just don’t take her off school property
My thoughts are feeling very sad for you . I have walked in your shoes and it is not fun .
Somethings judges just aren’t going to worry about lol. Picking your child up from school because she’s bleeding everywhere is not a violation of custody. She is at school, and is coming home ‘sick’. Literally whoever can get her is who should pick her up. Idk why everyone has to be so petty, both of our kids had strep my son wanted me and my daughter wanted her dad. It was my time, and I just asked him to come her the girl so everyone was comfortable in their misery. Like cmon. Literally who cares who’s time it is, she wants her mother. I would’ve went and got her from school and he could’ve picked her up after, or I could’ve taken her there after he got home. Regardless, I don’t ask permission and he wouldn’t either if the kids called him from school… A simple “hey going to pick up xxxx as they’re sick at school” would be the only communication neccesary. People always gotta be in a power struggle. He would’ve been too late. I’d have already gotten mine
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I would go get my child
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I see compromise here. Mom can very easily bring supplies and change of clothes and some chocolate to school for the daughter. Have a small chat with her and have her go on back to class. That way Mom isn’t taking the child during Dads time and Daughters needs are still being met by mom.
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I don’t see why she would need to be picked up. Hopefully dad is capable of handling his daughter getting his period. If not, it’s going to put a crack in their relationship.
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Talk to her and see what she wants. However- I’d be on my way to the school. He can pick her up from home 
this is a personal time and mamas should be there to educate and comfort- especially if it happened at school for the first time.
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Either let him handle it or offer him a different day. Just say it’ll make you feel better and probably her too, so just let you have this moment between a mother/daughter and he can have an extra day
You can take her clean pants if she needs them and some pads, but he is capable of talking to her about it and helping her out at home. You don’t need to go get her
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Soooo dad doesn’t matter a parent when a girl has her period ? Lol like is ridiculous. How does everyone know she is wanting her mom ??? Maybe she is incredibly close to her dad and doesn’t get to see him much snd wants to still be with him. He is still just as much the parent so, let him parent!
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It’s his time. Dads are just as capable and as important as mothers. Get over yourself go home and enjoy your time till tomorrow. I’m sure he will do just fine in this situation.
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I would not off asked I would off went and got her and told him he can come and get her from my home and that’s if my daughter wanted to go this week if not then she could off went next weekend xxxx at end off day the only person that matters is Ur daughter xxxxx
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All of yall low key high key suck. The child started her first menstrual cycle and while it’s been upwards of 30 years since you had your first, try to remember how uncomfortable you felt and how much you just wanted your mother in that time. Now this little girl is going through it and wants to be in comfort of her mother and should be allowed to chose to be with her during this time.
Get, her freaking a-hole of a dad. That’s an important milestone in a girls life.
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He’s taking care of her. Also setting an example of how she should be treated from a mans perspective.
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I would go to school with a change of clothes and some products. Give her some love, unless she’s really upset then leave after she changes. If she is then see if you can stay in the nurse’s office with her until dad gets there.
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Tell him to go get her then if you feel she needs to leave
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My daughter was visiting her aunt and uncle when she got hers. I didn’t even find out until many months later. She should have been prepared between health classes at school, scouts, and you and her dad talking to her before this.
See if you can contact her at school to see what she needs (including comfort) then bring it to her. Take her out of the school to give her any meds as she could be accused of having drugs on her person. Do not ask leading questions but ask her what she wants to have happen. Maybe she has no pain & the school has supplies & clothes on hand for just this.
If she hurts badly and wants you to pick her up, call dad, see if he’ll get her, if not tell him you’ll get her and drop her off when he gets home from work. See if he’ll let you stay with her at his house. Tell him it’s like if he got kicked in the nuts really hard at this age. On the other hand, if he’s got it, leave him be. You both need to ask your daughter what SHE wants to have happen. Maybe she’d prefer a friend who already started to be with her, and that should be an option too.
Ask dad if he has waterproof mattress covers and white sheets on the bed (so they can be bleached), and if he has supplies at his house for her. If not, get them for his house but he should reimburse you for the cost.
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