My son story…I was same…visible rule. No laying watching…blah blah. He would go to the friends house…down the road for the overnight or weekend. The friends parents would take him to his girlfriends 20 min away and he would stay there…I was so mad. He to this day says he was grounded for having sex as he referred to it as. I continue to remind him no you were grounded for lying. He is 30 now…but thank god there were no pregnancies as a teen! We get one chance to raise our children…and we have our own thoughts and beliefs. There needs to be someone that is guiding him to make good choices…
I would trust my son as you do. You are right to question the girl. When my son is dating age I will do my best to be involved in his relationships ie.getting to know the friends he spends time with and girls he dates. Family dinners/outings and being present with them. I watch a ton of True Crime and don’t trust anyone. We have to be the parents and protect our children the best we can. If that means setting limits and rules, that’s our job.
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I would not let my son go there again. This woman just flat out lied to you. Morals? A 14 year old doesn’t need to be in such dangerous territory. Make SURE your son knows about the birds and bees. I grew up on a farm, so I knew very young . Sometimes it’s hard to do these things, but your son needs to know enough details to understand how serious it would be if he was involved and she got pregnant! Best wishes.
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You say you trust your son but nothing in your actions show this… I truly get your concern as I have 4 boys that are just now grown. I talked with my boys, had a very good open relationship, and when they made decisions to first have sex with long time girlfriends they talked to me, ask for me to get them condoms(which I did). I would have loved for them to have waited for marriage even but I’m a realist and know the only difference I could make was whether I forced them to sneak around & lie, or whether I could be there to attempt to give the best advice possible. I’m certain that they were a little bit older but I’m as sure had they wanted to sneak around that i wouldn’t have been able to stop them whenever. I was a full time stay home mom that made sure our home was the one everyone wanted to be, and they were watched. At the end of the day these are your choices and your business, but I can say that none of my boys caused any teenage accidental pregnancies. I can say they knew that protection was up to them in every situation and that every decision carried potential consequences since nothing was 100%… They were told from an early age that they should never engage in anything sexual with anyone they couldn’t at that moment say could be their forever. Of course that conversation was more pertinent as they got older. Again 14 we did have rules that were enforced but the dialogue was always in a tone as to tell me why any rules should be looked at and they were discussed. Sometimes the discussion will help you judge the maturity in their thinking. Young couples can spend time alone and not just be trying to have sex. You have to teach them the importance of what that step means, but you will not get anywhere with the iron fist
Uno reverse that shit. Don’t let him go over there anymore. She can come to your house where you keep your word and you know for a fact no shenanigans will occur.
Understandable ! I don’t allow any girls to come over or my son to go over at a girls house ! Too young , all that can wait
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I wouldn’t be thrilled with them being alone for hours either.….but you also sound like the type that will become a grandma soon because he’s going to learn to hide things from you and sneak around from the control. Some of this made my eyes roll.
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You have a right to be upset that the parents lied. But why not allow the girl to come over YOUR house? At least you know they will be supervised.
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Hes 14!! Hes girl crazy let me be i got 4 boys oldest 16 been with his gf for over a year seems ur gonna never let this kid have fun!! Throw a box of condoms at him thats all 
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wow its INSANE ppl are saying your overReacting when YOU are the only one thats responsible for whatever he does, good or bad & society 98% supports the BS even more & is steady teaching kids that WRONG/BAD stuff is “self expression” or not a big deal when it literally IS a big deal!! i 100% get what & why u are mad!! u made your boundaries CLEAR to her mom & she crossed them! SHE knows the possibilities she just CREATED space for & your right if the girl got pregnant (by whoever) or said your son did something u WOULDNT even be able to help him, even if he didnt cuz it is her word over his & HER parents will clearly just LIE again but against him this time! its soooooo hard to find a logical balance now that society is CONDONING all the fckery & confusing all the childrens minds so much! & im find with EVERYONE calling me a over protective mom cuz how shit is nowdays u have GOT to protect your kids more than EVER & always remember half these ppl commenting dont even have OR didnt even raise they own kids but will try to chop U down! good luck & i hope its all over with 
Your kid is going to end up sneaking around doing things behind your back. No matter how much you punish him. Kids are defiant at that age. You need to teach him how to be SAFE….
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Good job mama! I am all about chaperones! You are doing what you can to protect your son in this crazy world. First, People are lied on all the time. Second, why set your child up for adult situations that they aren’t yet ready to deal with. Third, how is any fun ruined by having an adult around? Just having someone there to keep things accountable is amazing! I am so glad to see this! I wouldn’t call the mom, simply because I tried to avoid confrontation lol but you have learned a lesson, she isn’t a good chaperone and doesn’t care. Make dates for them with you, or people you do trust.
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14 and can’t have dinner at his girlfriends house. You do realize that the more you try (and WILL fail) to keep them apart, the more they will be together, riiiight…
I truly hope that you’ve taught your son actual sex education, because that “if I never let them alone” attitude will make you a grandmother before he’s out of high-school.
Wow. That poor kid. My daughter is 14 and her boyfriend is 15. She goes to his house all the time and he is always here. They stay in the living room supervised and unsupervised because I can be on the couch the whole time he’s here. They are good kids and I trust them. Which is what you need to do. Trust your son. Stop being so dramatic
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Could’ve been avoided if you let them at your house.
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Sounds like you don’t trust your kid despite what you’re trying to say 
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At 14 things happen. I get that you’re concerned. What I’ve learned is kids are going to do what they’re going to do no matter where they are or who is watching them. I’d concentrate more on talking to your son about the importance of being a good person and doing the right thing. He’s going to make stupid decisions. We all did at 14! Talk to him!! Tell him your concerns about being 14 and growing up in this crazy world with all the pressures he’s going face. The more you “contain him” he will just rebel. Trust me! Been there done this with my kids!
Be the Chaperone. Invite her to your house. Allow them to see each other at your house. Going to parties at 14 is normal. Let him go!! Just make sure he understands the consequences of his actions. You’ve got a lot of years ahead of you and honestly is the best policy when dealing with teens. They’re smarter than we think they are. Best of luck.
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Why not try to get to know the girl and her parents before you judge or make defiant children. If you say no they are just going to find another way to do what they want. Trust your child , and I bet you they will show you that they can be trusted. Make sure he knows the birds and bees ,sit down and have a talk with both of them together.
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So why can’t she come to your house and you chaperone? You’re gonna make him hate you, he’s going to start sneaking around and lying and doing things behind your back. You think you’re mad now, just wait lol
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After reading untill the end i do understand that concern. However at 14, if u are that strict when it comes to girls he will do it behind your back. Talk to him and make sure hes smart and educated in every way and let them hang out
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Bottom point is the mother had rules for HER kid and if the other parent couldnt respect that enough and lie to her face then the girlfriend mother needs the reality check I would be pist too but even worse let’s say the 14 YO daughter ended up pregnant happens all the time guess who parents would be tripping the hardest ? The ones that gave them a spot to do it in
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I would have more trust in your son… he is clearly honest with you since he could have came home and lied and said they were in the living room the whole time but he didn’t he told you the truth. I would get to know the girl and her family more because the more you try to keep them apart the more they will find ways to see each other.
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I’m just going to put it out there that when you tell a child you don’t want them to do something it’s the first and only thing they focus on doing! If you know you have raised a good young man then there is no issue!
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I’d be furious. I wouldn’t say anything though, just reject him going over there any time she asked. You already see they type of people they are so there is nothing to battle, they answer is always no.
I think you should be a little more trusting of your son BUT! That mother did lie and should be confronted. Not cool
He would not be allowed back over there. They broke your rules. Back to public outings only and supervision at your house if you feel comfortable with that. I wouldn’t call the other parents next time the answer would ne just no. As far as making a sneaky kid having boundaries is necessary and kids lie regardless. I wouldn’t drop my expectations so the kid can be put in unsupervised situations just so I already know what they are doing.
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I think u need to trust Your son!! Have the talk with him … if you trust him and your open with him he’s going to be open with you!
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Being strict with this stuff only makes it worse. Speaking from my childhood experience. If you have a problem with your teenage son spending time with a female at someone’s house let her come to your house. Don’t be that mom.
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He will do it regardless. Give him condoms instead to keep in his wallet just in case. Talk to him about prevention. Educate him. Stop trying to keep him a a bubble.
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I’d let her come over there so you can monitor as u wish.
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Definitely let them have space at your house,so you know there is some supervision
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Way to strict. I have an open relationship with all of my teens two 18, 15, and 14. . . I openly discuss what can happen if they choose to have sex, and I encourage them to talk to me if that’s something they are considering. My two 18 year olds have done amazing, my 15 year old tells me everything and chooses not to be involved romantically and same with my 14 year old. Strict parents will create sneaky teens even if your teens tell you otherwise. Keep your relationship open, you are here to teach as a parent not be a control freak! They are still their own people who want and have the ability to choose right from wrong. Even parents shouldn’t try to control their teens.
Raising 2 boys I completely understand your reservations about alone time and accusations toward males that can ruin their entire life it’s so scary raising kids in this world. I would bring it up to be honest but I would also suggest to you that you try to find a way to give your son some freedoms… maybe start allowing his girlfriend to your house where you’re in control of the situation. My mom was strict in tons of ways and it made me want to branch out more… I was 17 when I got pregnant with my first. I’m now raising 5 great kids my oldest being 11 and she has a “boyfriend” It’s hard to swallow but both sets of parents are on the same page with expectations, rules and its just a glorified friendship.
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With this type of strictness he’ll just learn to lie and sneak. Give him a little trust jfc
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Wow. Keeping that tight of a “leash” on your 14 year old is going to backfire on you sooner than later. Are you punishing him for your behavior at that age?
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I think you have every right to be upset with the parents but your son should have stood for your rules and gone upstairs with the parents, they would have realized they bere wrong and he was raised better than her daughter is being raised. My son is now 26 but those young girls ran fast and loose when he was growing up and their mommas weren’t being good examples for their daughter’s either, half dressed and trying to find the next husband usually. Stand your ground your son won’t understand or appreciate it now but later he will, mine did. He raises his daughter now with similar standards
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My son is 13. He goes to his girlfriends house and she comes over to mine. Being too strict will make kids want to rebel. Also, the fact that if kids want to have sex, they will. They will find any place to do it in. I remember being a teenager 
anyways, she’s the parent and can set the rules but don’t be upset when the son hides everything from her.
Had a girlfriends parents who wouldn’t even ATTEMPT to get to know me back in high school. I was 17. So we ended up having to lie and sneak around together. Eventually she dumped me because her parents let her date this freak who used to cut her name in his arms. That feeling of utter rejection and betrayal (because that dude was a part of my friend circle) sent me into a spiral of deep depression and helped ruin several more relationships in almost equally traumatic ways! And it took over 10 years to get over because I had absolutely no help! Yay! All because her parents wouldn’t let us see each other, even chaperoned
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Grow up …because your son is and you can’t stop it !!!
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And she said there was no basement
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I understand your frustration however being so strict about this is going to push your son away and make things much much worse. Don’t punish your son because that woman lied to you. Talk to her about it.
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They are going to hang out. I would prefer they hang out at my house where I could keep watch.
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Okay. First of all, damn, I would have rebelled against you so hard. Second calm down. He’s 14! He’s gonna do what you told him not to do, because you told him not to do it. You should have more trust in your kid, you raised him, basically meaning you don’t trust in yourself that you raised a decent human being? Your son is going to get older and absolutely despise you, he won’t tell you anything. You’ve got a few more years before he’s an adult. Why not make memories? Instead of helicoptering the shit out of this kid?
I think you’re overreacting a little bit. Yes, the mother shouldn’t have lied to you but come on, he’s 14. Stop treating him like a baby. You need to have some trust in your son or else he’s going to start doing things behind your back. I feel like you’re one of those mothers that doesn’t want any female to be around her son at all. Start letting the gf come over to your house, have the talk with him, and stop being that kind of mom!
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Oh God, come on now. Ur BOY is 14! He’s a teenager. Give him some privacy and trust already lady. You saying he is never going there again makes me LOL bc I can 100000% assure you that he WILL, the only difference is you won’t know about it now- and he will have to lie hide and sneak to do it. I thought I was a strict parent but WOW you got me beat by a million miles! Stop holding him on a leash. Let him grow up! Its PERFECTLY NORMAL for a 14 yr old to have a Gf, and go to the movies, dinner, arcade etc. I think it’s more respectful that HE is going to her house compared to a girl going to the boys house. What are u so worried about? Him growing up? I don’t understand ur mentally at all. You don’t trust ur son? U can’t hold him in a bubble forever. Why don’t u MEET his girlfriend and show ur kid some respect. All ur doing is teaching him that he has to lie to u, hide stuff from you.
As for the other parents chill out. The other mother probably didn’t actually think you wanted eyes on ur son 24-7 every single second of the day. Lol they were left alone, parent were still in the house. U do realize he is 14 right?
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You gotta give your kid some room to breathe. You do this and youre pushing towards the things you’re afraid of. I think you’re a little too controlling and it’s suffocating. Maybe if you actually allowed him to have her over, you could supervise in an environment you’re comfortable with instead of banning him from being a normal kid. He’s growing up. You need to allow space for that.
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I think you are gonna chase your child away. You are being way too controlling
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If you don’t let him have SOME freedom he is going to resent you. Boundaries can be set here and if you’re not comfortable with him going somewhere then invite her over. You don’t know this girl, stop jumping to the worst conclusions. She is likely a very nice girl.
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For all of you acting like she is being way to strict it’s obvious that your child has never been accused of something. Yes it definitely can happen. Talk to you child and make sure you have an open line of communication. You can’t control the actions of others but you can help your child if he is ever falsely accused of something. Believe me I know 1st hand. Now about saying something to the mother just wait for her to call. Make sure she knows that your aware of her lies. And do whatever you decide to do accordingly. Don’t let anyone judge you for your decisions you told her mother what your rules were and she went against it! Have them come to your house for a while if possible.
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I agree with you 100 percent… It’s far to easy for boys to get accused of things and if she lied to you about the basement there’s no stopping her of causing trouble for your son… BUT I feel that you should confront the mother about her lying because that is setting a horrible example for her daughter
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Yeah no that’s just wrong. Who wants 14 yr old sex in their house cuz THAT’S what’s going to happen with them ALONE. Or they’ll get as FAR AS THEY CAN.
Hes your son.your home rules he needs to obey, so tell that girls mom your son is done befriending a family of liars, its not on
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You’re over reacting. And this level of strict will just ensure your child is never open with you and rebels every chance he gets. The girls parents have the most to worry about tbh. She’s the one stuck with any baby that might result if the kids hook up irresponsibly. Time to have the sex talk and how to protect himself from an unwanted pregnancy.
I’m sorry ,but I can’t imagine a mother would blatantly call you up and lie to you about what was going to happen. Is there the possibility that you misunderstand what the mother told you? I suggest you either start allowing the young lady to come to your house so you know what is going on all the time or you tell your son he can’t have a girlfriend. If you decide on the latter be prepared to have your son start sneaking off.
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Oh my lmao that boy is gonna RUN away as far as he can once he can. Keep that leash tight mom. Best way to loose your son.
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Yikes… you acting so controlling at his age is going to make him into a good liar and push away from you.
He’s a teenager. Cut the cord…. Not saying don’t have rules. But be real here …
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Sounds like you two are going through a grow up stage
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100% you need to say no to them being together unless under your supervision
And really too young for “gf/bf”
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Strict parents create sneaky children, I’d loosen up before you seriously regret being so uptight, I hung out with opposite genders and house swapped when I was 12 spent nights once I was 16, spent a whole weekend with my (now fiancé) unsupervised when I was 17, I was given the sex and trust and communication talk young and it stayed pressured on me, never felt the need to sneak out or lie to my parents because we built trust, I was given trust up until I broke it then I’d be home bound and they’d be strict (I never broke that trust) I’m not pregnant and didn’t pop out babies, I stayed out of trouble, good grades, the golden teen, but that’s because I didn’t feel the need to rebel with my parents.
Ummm, is this your 1st teenager?? Cause yikes.
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You sound like a complete control freak, all that you’re doing is pushing your son away from you and showing him you have absolutely no faith whatsoever in him. I can tell when he gets married you’re going to be the nightmare stories of a M-I-L!! You keep texting him this way and eventually you won’t see him or his future family, trust me my mom was this controlling and I left her house at 15 never looked back and I’m 34 now, I lived his life it’s pure hell to a teenager!!!
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You should be mad. They should have respected you and not lied to you about your child
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He’s 14. You’re overreacting totally. Like,100 percent. Give him space or when he can finally break away from your iron rule,he will go bananas.
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As a mom of 4 boys (3 teenagers) all I can say is being that strict is going to lead to more sneaky behavior, sneaking out, skipping school ect. It doesn’t sound like what happened was terrible in my opinion
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Open communication with your son is so important. He came home and told you the truth… Be glad and let him know your are glad he trusts you. Explain to him why you don’t want him unchaperoned… But with that being said, you said you trust him. Trust him to do the right thing if he’s put in a bad situation. Talk over scenarios that may happen and how to deal with them. Being so strict will eventually cause you some issues. Set up a code for him to text you if he’s in an uncomfortable situation and can count on you to intervene and pull him out… I’m mom to two teenage boys 15 and 18. Neither of my boys like to go out or hang out with others, but the few times they do ask, I allow them to go with these safeguards in place. (My 18 year old isn’t very mature and he knows it so that is why he still asks his dad and I for permission to do things he thinks might put him in a bad situation).
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I’m not sure she lied to you. You don’t have to have a finished basement to have a tv in. Putting the tv down there may be something they did without planning. They weren’t technically left alone since the parents were in the house. It could be that you & the girls mom just see things differently. They put the TV in the basement instead of letting them watch it in her room for a reason. Maybe they have cameras in the basement? I do, it’s my kids playroom. Or maybe it’s because it’s not as private as you think. I’d talk to mom. Voice your concerns. Your fear of her accusing your son of something is valid. Talk to your son about consent. Tell him to never be alone with a woman at 14, 24 etc without knowing 100% she wants to be intimate. Also talk to him about girls pressuring him. It does go both ways. Tell him he can call you anytime at any age if a girl is pressuring him & he needs help to get out of the situation.
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By being that strict he’s gonna rebel & go sleep with as many girls as possible. You’ve gotta loosen that rope around his neck bc you are suffocating him. You have to trust your kiddo will make the right choices that you taught him. He’s growing up and needs you close. Y’all don’t need to be pushing further & further away and today is the day to start allowing him little by little independence.
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This is the dumbest shit I’ve heard. his going to rebel because you can’t trust your son and put all these dumb rules in play. Let him be a kid.
If you think he is too young for a GF then why is he “dating”? If you let him have a GF then he is going to want to see her and hangout with her. You are not comfortable with this so I think you should have a conversation with your son and tell him you thunk he should be older and that right now there will be no more GF. My daughter has a rule that she cannot date until she is 16 because I think 13-14 is too young for those thoes of emotions.
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As the girl who grew up with those standards as well in a really Christian home I hated it growing up cuz I felt my dad didn’t trust me but now looking back I get it. Boys can be very good manipulators if left alone with a girl and so can the girl in some cases, but I wouldn’t want my 14 year old to be alone boy or girl alone with the opposite sex. Maybe when their older like 16 17 because they’re more mature (kinda) but 14 is still to young. To me losing your virginity is a prize you get for being responsible and knowing how your body works before giving it to the first person who puts their hand on your leg. I have half raised my sister whose 12 since she was a baby and I wouldn’t even think of allowing her to be alone with a boy. I was her age I know what her twisted mind thinks. I want her to be safe and that’s all you want for your son. Having sex at a young age can mess with your body and mind. And you have every right to be angry with that mother, you gave her your standards and she should have listened to them. Parents need to be on the same page and even if they are kids are still sneaky and think they know better but if they know better they do better. My dad would tell me whenever I asked why he set those standards was because he just wants me safe and my stepmom said the same but gave me books (mostly cuz when I read I comprehend more then listening) explaining why waiting is better.
Sounds like your son is honest with you and the fact that you can’t trust him says more about you than it does about him. He’s going to resent you if you don’t give him space…and he’ll start lying because you have his leash WAY too tight. They shouldn’t have lied…but honestly you’re ruining his entire social life and he’s not gonna have any friends because of you.
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The only thing you’re accomplishing here is showing your son that you don’t trust him. And if kids want to do something it doesn’t matter how well you think they’re being watched they will find a way.
Teach your son boundaries and how to respect women and consent, be open and honest with communication, and stop shaming him. You absolutely can’t protect him and hide him in an accountability bubble from everything forever but you can give him the skills, and self confidence to navigate life safely.
You’re entitled to your feelings, but driving a wedge here between them is a recipe for disaster.
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You’re right to an extent. The other mom shouldn’t have lied to you. However yikes that boy is gonna push you away you are way too controlling. Invite her over for supervised visits if the other mom won’t supervise the more you say no the more they will sneak around behind your back.
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You have got to trust the values you have instilled in him. He trusted you and told you the truth.
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On the bright side, he didn’t lie to you.
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Think you need better communication with all involved. Son, girlfriend, and her parents. Also let him invite her over with supervision. You might be surprised.
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So he can’t go to her place and she can’t come to yours??? There dating how do u want them to see each other …its his home too…u gotta give him some space if he likes her of course he would want to bring her home …and same with her parents they allowed him into there better then being sneaky
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YTA because you’re scared of your son being in a room with a girl.
Please get your son therapy before you damage him too much.
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I’d say give your son some trust. Trying to shelter him like this is only going to make him be sneaky and do the things you’re hoping he doesn’t do. Trust that he will make the right decision.
You’re just showing him that he cannot be open and honest and communicate with you because he was and look how you’re reacting. All you can do is prepare your son for the world teach him safe sex or abstinence and stress the importance but you cannot control him or another household . Trust that you taught him to do what was best
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You’re NOT overreacting. I’d roll her like dice.
Ur just asking for alot of lies…let him come home with her better then being out all nights of the hours doing or making bad choices at someone else’s house he is 14…he gonna be finding his new self… caring for someone else
Who’s, a bit dramatic momma? And apparently you don’t trust your son! Loosen those reins or risk a boat load of rebellion real soon.
You are in the right. My girl is almost 16 and she can’t have a boyfriend nor is she allowed to go stay at anyone’s house. I stay very cautious because I know how people are these days. You can never be to cautious. You need to shut that shit down
I’ll tell you what, I wish my parents cared more when I was young to set more boundaries and rules. They just didn’t give a crap. Luckily I didn’t turn out to be a teen sleeping around and doing drugs because I developed my own morals on my own. I think it’s good you are implementing this. It shows you care. I am an entirely different parent to my kids than mine were to me. That’s probably why my kids and I have way better communication.
With that being said you can’t overdo it either. I allowed my teen son to go to a female friends house because their whole group of friends were going there to hang. I met the mom and she was going to be there. I had to put trust into my son and give him the opportunity to act right in situations he is put or could be put in. He even sent me a picture of all of them in the living room eating pizza.
I do not agree with the two being left alone in a room together that’s not visible from other parts of the house. That was bad judgement on her parents part in my opinion. But I would not call her making a deal out of it. If she calls back and invites him over I would then calmly voice your concern of what happend. Maybe she won’t do it again after she hears how you feel. Maybe it’s best he doesn’t go over there. That’s up in the air to find out.
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As a kid who grew up with a parent like you, my advise is don’t be that a parent. It never ends well for your long term relationship with your child to be that micromanaging and controlling. Talk to your child. Show them they can trust you and don’t use their honestly against them otherwise they may lie just so you don’t over react or so they don’t lose privileges. And open and trustworthy conversation with your son is all you need and if you are so concerned, allow the girl to come to your home where you can make sure they are both safe.
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You’re lying to yourself if you believe being that strict is going to keep your son from doing certain things. He’s likely going to rebel and start hiding things if you don’t ease up on those reigns. It’s better for there to be mutual trust and open communication. One day you’re going to have to let him grow up and you will have to let him go out on his own. Establish a good relationship with him while you can.
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Get over it if you don’t they will sneak around
Someone needs to loosen up a bit. 
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Feeling the way you do,I’m surprised your son gets to do anything.
I mean I get how you feel. But your feelings are going to make him not want to talk to or be honest with you. He’s starting to grow up. Have you had the TALK?
Sounds like it’s time
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This is just too much. You need to take a deep breathe and loosen up. You are teaching your son to lie in order to do simple natural things. Open the line of communication and trust. Instill good values.
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This is why you let such activities at your house so you can monitor the behavior. Other people’s actions and behaviors can’t be controlled. And you do realize teens do the thi g your worried about in parks and such right? So not allowing them at least in your home your not stopping it. But yes they lied to you so I’d never allow him over there again. But I’d reconsider the letting them at your house. You have the control there.
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To all the people thinking just because they are “dating” they need to be laid up together at each other’s houses all the time at 14 years old, you have issues. My daughter is 15. When she goes out with her boyfriend it’s to the beach, bowling, out to eat, public places. Or his family invites her somewhere or vice versa. 14 year Olds do not need to be hanging out in a room alone all night to be able to spend time together. This coming from someone who got pregnant way too soon and it changed my whole life. It’s just not necessary.
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Holy helicopter parent. You should ease up by the time that kid is 18 you may never see him again.
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I had parents just like you. Had my son in the 10th grade. Your only causing more harm and sneakiness being this way 
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There’s protective which I understand and then there’s this…. You have to let him live!!
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Well I mean now he’s not going to tell you anything anymore since now he’s being punished by not getting to see his girlfriend anymore. He’s 14 not 5 he needs some independence and he’s plenty old enough to have a girlfriend, you can either respect his relationship or he’s going to sneak around and do it anyway. Yes be mad at her parents for lying but you need to cut the umbilical cord some you’re being over bearing which is going to ruin your relationship with your son.
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Two 14 year olds male and female should not be alone in the house.it’s not a matter of trust. it’s common sense.
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I wouldn’t be that stiexy my parents were like that I ended up having my youngest at a young age I understand boundaries but blowing up like that keeping them away from each other would not be helping like u think
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Helicopter parent much? Over dramatic much? Teach your son to be a respectful guy and what’s appropriate and inappropriate instead of acting like he’s a predator. Jeesh he’s 14.
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