but they’re still married , get over yourself his a married man still you white people a weird and sensitive bwahahaha 
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Why can’t he get a room of his own what’s up with that he must want to stay with her a d I’d it’s for money reason then he needs to see if he can split it with someone else I know you have to come together for your kids but really share a room I so t think so he wo hi ps no longer be a boyfriend if m isne even the thought of it wrong
Do you not see what’s wrong with this post? Lol read it again
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Separation doesn’t mean anything 
divorced means they are actually over and don’t want anything from each other
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LET HIM DO HIM. Then you know how much respect he has for you. He already knows you’re uncomfortable with the idea of them sharing a room
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I mean whats the difference if he shares a room with his wife to support their child… Do you not trust him:woman_shrugging:
That’s super inn appropriate! I don’t blame you. I wouldn’t be okay with this at all. There needs to be boundaries. It’s hard enough dating someone that has been married and shares a child with someone… he shouldn’t be making you feel uncomfortable.
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He should have more respect…just go get extra room …no big deal…if she gets mad then let her…I would no way in heck I would alow that
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Why doesn’t he, or don’t you both, get a separate hotel room??
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Why are you dating a married man?
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Read your Bible it will tell you the FACTS !!!
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Legally separated 4 years ? Why not divorced already?
I promise you, men are not oxygen, if more women walk away from the bs not only do they come back. You start to feel so good about yourself you only want the best and will NOT settle for breadcrumbs.
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If money is tight then I see why, I’m pretty sure it’s 2 beds. Also do you trust him or not?
This has to be a joke. 1 Why are you with a married man? 2 you’re getting played 3 they could easily get separate rooms
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Some of these comments are so ignorant! People hear married and automatically start saying “you need to leave that married man alone” etc… my parents were separated for nearly 10 years and they both saw other people during their separation. Although I will say in the end they never got divorced and they’ve been able to work things out and come back together… so there’s also that.
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Um…. Why is she still his wife?
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Yes it’s weird… Can he not just get another hotel room?
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Pro tip. Don’t date married men and you won’t have to worry about their wives getting in the way
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Why isn’t he divorced yet if they’ve been separated 4 years? She is his wife and you are the girlfriend so technically (even though they’re separated) you are the other woman. I wouldn’t be happy about him sharing a room with his wife but she is his wife and they have a child together. If you don’t decide to go with him and get a room for you and him or if he’s weird/mad about you going then he’s still hooking up with his wife and you should take a step away from the relationship. If they decide to get back together it’s better you know now. If he finally gets divorced then he’ll be available. Idk, I feel for you but this whole story sounds very fishy
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This. Is why you don’t date married men. Separated, or not. I could never put myself in a situation like that. Too stressful !!
I know myself , I would never be cool with them sharing a room. Two beds or not. It would drive me insane. Sorry you’re in this predicament.
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So separated for 4 years but havent divorced:thinking: 
#1
Sharing a hotelroom that’s a hard no for me #2
And not inviting you after being together for two years is the last for me. Ditch this dude clearly he’s stringing you along.
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Just don’t. My husband and I were separated 7 years. Both in other various serious relationships. Spent a weekend together for his birthday so our daughter could spend time with him….
We never left, never been happier and never looked back.
Let me tell you this fact;
PEOPLE WHO WANT TO BE DIVORCED, GET DIVORCED
GIRL, come up with the money and get his own room… it’s not that you don’t trust him but having children together and being married is a strong bond. Be careful
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They are still married. You both are committing adultery.
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The only thing “too weird” about this is why his wife isn’t making a “big deal “ about her husband having a girlfriend 
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I had a few men want to date me who were legally separated: my answer was nope, no and nada.
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I don’t think the issue is the room with the wife? Why are you dating a man who is still married? Legally separated for 4 yrs? My friend was dating a guy for 10 years who was still married but legally separated before she realized he wasn’t getting a divorce to marry her … just saying
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I’m sorry but him sharing a room with his WIFE is not what’s wrong with this. Separated or not they are still married. Have more respect for yourself and stop dating another woman’s husband!!
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I can’t with some of the posts I see on here…
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Even if he got anther room, if they wanna be together they will… if you don’t trust him then that’s the big issue… they are married, so…
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Of Course he’s going to be sleeping and having sex with his wife they both have no reason to feel guilty they’re married after all, it will be just if you’re willing to tolerate it.
Separated or not, they are still married. He’s been separated from her for 4 year and dating your for 2 years. If he wanted a divorce he would have gotten one by now.
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Seeing as they are still married… there is nothing wrong with it. Hopefully you decided to leave this guy since he apparently isn’t wanting to divorce his wife. You deserve better. Men don’t change.
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Definitely wouldn’t trust it. Idc idc idc! You better take me with you or u ain’t going. Idc idc idc. If I can’t go neither can you.
Get another room. WTH No I would be right there. If he went and slept in the same room somebody is up to something? Should be divorced already??
Uhm absolutely not…. Tell him he can get his own room and good to his daughters competition
Sorry… but did you say WIFE ??? Why are you even with this guy. He’s obviously not over her. Are you able to go to this competition?? Then go with him and you two share a room. Sheeesh
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Welll then. Good morning.
Girl, go get you a man that isn’t married.
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Pay for an extra room and go with him.
So they’ve been separated four years and not divorced yet. And it obviously wasn’t a very contentious “separation” if they’re willing to share a hotel room. Zero reason they shouldn’t be divorced by now if they wanted to be. I was in a high conflict divorce and it took two years.
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Pretty sure your insecurities are getting in the way of him being a Father. He was a father first and him and his wife share a daughter. That will never change so the only thing that can change is your insecurities and accepting that his daughter comes first.
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There’s a lot of reasons why people don’t get divorced. Whether that be insurance, alimony, feelings, etc…
My parents are married but separated. My mother needs his benefits because what is offered by her employer is garbage. He wants my mother to be the life insurance beneficiary. And they are both in other relationships. If they are ganna be together, they would. They have a child together and it may be cheaper for them to sleep in the same motel. You either trust the dude or you don’t. Period.
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I don’t even know where to start with this one. 
Leave him, let him room with his wife.
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I don’t see the big deal if you trust him you trust him.
Girl, that’s weird. I’d be pissed too.
You trust him or you dont. Theyre separated for a reason plus im assuming the child will be with them. They gonna do the dirty in front of their daughter?
My ex and I are friends. Its weird but its real. We could sleep in the same room for 1 night and nothing happen. We’re adults
If he loved you that much he wouldnt even consider thinking about sharing a room with his ex wife. He should be having a room to himself or even better you should be going along too.
It’s a NO from me xx
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You wither trust him or you don’t. It sounds like an an economic decision in sharing the room and I applaud him for being there for his daughter.
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Why didn’t he book his own room…
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Why would you want a married boyfriend? Dump him.
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Curious as to why he wouldn’t just get another room??? Why is he saying he won’t go vs saying ok we will rent a different room for me. Very odd behavior and sounds like he’s trying to make u feel bad for very just feelings. Also why is he not divorced. This guy is not in it for u.
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That’s weird u weren’t invited at first.
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Wait wait wait… your boyfriends wife!!!
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I’ve done that with my husband I’m separated with. If you trust him then it’s fine
Highly depends on a lot of factors! For instance I could definitely be in a room with any ex and be completely honest and not do anything to jeopardize my current relationship, however sometimes when you put an opportunity or there it might just get taken! I think it’s lovely that they can share a room and both be there for their daughter. If you’ve never been involved with her as a whole family then why would you be asked to go? But if you are involved with them like that then you should have assumed you were going! But it literally depends on your relationship with all of them!! Think about your child would you want all of the parental figures in your child life to be hateful and distant or would you want to gather the whole family for vacations and have everyone in her life get along well enough to share a hotel room? Side note: are y’all financially able to afford another hotel room or does it make sense that they would share for cost reduction??
Why didn’t he book separate rooms red flag right there
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Any reason you aren’t going?
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So you are dating a married man? Umm separated or not that’s a no no he is still MARRIED. If they have been “separated” for four years" and still not legally divorced then I think its probably cuz they don’t really want to get actually divorced. This whole thing is twisted why would anyone want to be in a relationship with a married man and on top of it he has a child/children with his wife. I think you need to step back. He is a dad he can’t just stop being a dad because it makes you uncomfortable.
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I would’ve waited until he was officially divorced before dating him. It’s too late now though. This post is giving me extra trust issues. I don’t trust your ‘boyfriend’ and neither should you.
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She didn’t asked for a divorce lawyer or advice on separation. But young lady use common sense. If you feel a certain way about it come with a resolution. Is he staying with her cause of money, if that’s the case and it’s important to you pay for his individual room. You don’t trust him than go with him and problem solve. If something is going to happen between them it will happen even if they have separate rooms.
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I think I would welcome it as proof is in the pudding. If something was to go on it won’t be long before it’s out in the open and if nothing is going on well you know he truly cares for you over his ex. So I’d be go for that. The truth will come out and you’ll know. You would not be with a cheater would ya? What better way to know.
Just do not play house with a married man!
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Just tell him to book his own room… wth. Thats definitely inappropriate
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Does his wife and daughter even KNOW about you?!
I wouldn’t invite someone else to my kid’s competition either. It’s a family thing.
And for dating a married man, whether ‘separated’ or not it’s just a big fat NO! You don’t mess around with married men, it’s called 'common decency ’
If he hasn’t divorced her for you yet, he ain’t gonna.
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To take the high road here you have to go so far out of comfort zone you might as well be on another planet, it would be totally understandable if you found that arrangement unacceptable even if it were in the childs best interest
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They’ve been separated for 4 years and still no divorce? And instead of saying okay I’ll get a separate room he says he just won’t go? What’s the big deal about having a separate room. Sounds a little suspicious.
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Wow. I am surprised at a lot of the comments. Stuff happen, divorced is expensive, there are also people who are in open relationships…. Get over that part.
Depending my relationship with the mom is how I would feel. Chances are he is one bed and they (mom/daughter) in another. I would just trust your gut with it. Lots of communication with him and possibly with the mom.
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I would either go or trust him. Personally I’d go cause that’s some fishy stuff going on. Like why can’t they have their own room next door. Same room is a bit much.
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Oh I go she can get her room why are they not divorced
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Giiirrrlll you should really be more upset about the fact that your man ain’t got a divorce after 4 years!
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Girl I’m not reading this mess! Be for real:skull:
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I’d be okay with my husband sharing a room with his baby mama 
there’s a reason they’re not together and he married me lol but we are all different and his ex and I get along well and I trust my husband
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Could you not suggest getting a room for you and him and going too? X
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If you’re not comfortable with it, offer to pay for him to have a room to himself. That should solve the issue.
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If they’re comfortable enough to share a room, hopefully still separate beds then that should mean they’ve got a pretty good relationship as friends and Co parents. I mean it’s only weird to you because you don’t trust him
Jessino one read the part where they’ve been separated for FOUR YEARS? no? okay! Blind ass ppl. I forsure wldnt be okay with my bf in a room with his EX WIFE
Wtf if mine even thought about that he’d be fired out the door.
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Legally separated……oh please! He’s still married! Four years?!? Like, why is divorcing taking so long? You’re technically dating a married man.
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I’m sure he has had plenty of other opportunities to bang his ex. If he hasn’t before, he probably won’t at a hotel. If he does, well, then you saved yourself some time!
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Hes mucking around THE END
I need you to be upset you are a girlfriend to a man who has a wife!
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girl no. There’s a lotta men in the world, don’t get stabbed over mine. He needs his own room
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Girl, your dating a married man! “Legally separated “ they didn’t finalize the divorce for a reason. Maybe this is so they can see if they can fix whatever was broken! Your fault for sleeping around with someone who is still married 
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Man, i would never ever share a bed / room with my ex , and we are on amazing terms , so there is something oddddddddd . Going on
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You are technically dating a married man and you are upset that they are sharing a room? Check the hotel availability and if they have a extra room then rent it and if he really doesn’t want to stay in the same room with her then bam problem solved
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Girl. She’s Still His Wife.
Regardless Of Whatever They Got Going On, You DO NOT Step Between Their Relationship As PARENTS. If He Decides To Go With His Move, He’ll Be Doing You A Favor. It’s Not Worth The Insecurity.
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He can hire another room an pay for it
For you all going on about why is he not divorced yet and blah blah blah , do you know how much it cost to divorce someone , obviously not or you wouldn’t be judging you can legally be separated and be in a relationship that’s why its called legally separated. so why judge her for dating a LEGALLY separated married man , life is short and you think people deserve to be unhappy for years down the road till they can afford a freaking signature on a piece of paper that states you are no longer married , you must be the life of every party 
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Pack your bag MOMMA y’all are going to go watch y’all’s daughter compete!!!
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I’m sorry what? you’re upset that a man is sharing a room with his wife? But you’re not upset that they are literally still married and you have been with him for 2 years? 
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Tell him you want to go & that you two will be staying in a room together & that he’ll be paying for it …
If he says no then run away run far far away & tell him to kick rocks …
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The real question here is why are you dating a man that is technically still married?
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if you trust him it’s not a big deal, but to ease your mind he should get his own room.
Go and share a room with him and his ex wife with a brave face! After all decide what is real🧐
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Girl don’t be his fool…come on now…while his gone invite your ex to spend the night and share a room…
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Why don’t you tell him you are going with him? Or why can’t he pay for his own room?
I don’t blame you for how you feel.
You know I’ve been through this. It’s a vicious circle. I’d probably still be with him if he hadn’t passed. After a bit I got some golden retrievers. Do yourself a favor. Put him out and let the dog in.
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Regardless of the fact that he’s married, you said you weren’t invited until you made a big deal over it - you already know what’s up now just accept it.
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I mean, it’s his wife. It’s weirder to me they’re not divorced after 4 years and you w been in a relationship for 2 years with a married man.
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You take first prize in stupidity. You deserve him. He’s prob’ly all you’ll get as most men appreciate a brain
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After 4 years of being separated from his WIFE and after 2 years of being in a relationship with YOU, he is living his best life, by him staying married, he doesn’t have to have an official commitment to you and keeping the wife on the sidelines incase you finally wake-up and realize that. And don’t tell me he can’t afford a divorce because he’s had 4 YEARS to save for it. Ohhhh, how confused are those kids…let me introduce you to my dad, my dad’s wife, and my dad’s girlfriend
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