I wish people wouldn’t lump all men together as being selfish. I know men who are very generous and thoughtful! My husband always asks if we we’d like something from where ever he feels like eating or even if he’s just stopping to get a snack. We have also taught our children that it’s very rude to eat in front of others without offering to share your meal, so always make enough or buy enough. Your children are learning by watching him, so make sure he’s “teaching” them good manners and kindness.
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Why does he get fast food instead of eating what you made… that’s my first question. I don’t find it rude he’s probably just tired and doesn’t want to cook for himself.
You have a right to be upset about that, I would be too. That’s extremely rude and selfish. Have you ever brought it up to him? I’m curious what he’d say about it. One day while hes home, go out and get you and your son takeout and sit and eat in front of him and see how he reacts.
I think he’s being a dick weed for not at least calling and seeing if you and your son want food sorry babe don’t mean to hurt your feelings not saying he’s not a good Guy I’m just saying he’s a dick weed and needs to step up his game and if this is an indication I’m sorry for you
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It is rough being pregnant and with another child. However, you should not be hesitant to communicate your feelings to your husband. Next time you two are alone speak with him about that. Hopefully that will shed some light on him.
My husband did this until I told him. He always asks now… some guys needs someone to teach them that’s all.
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I was married to a man and I had dinner on the table every night at 5 and he’d come in with a fast food bag every night and eat in front of the TV while the girls and I would dine.He didn’t know how to be a family. We had a lot of other problems too and our marriage didn’t survive. Teach that man how to be a family member.
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What an a$$… he should still take you and your child(ren) something, if you don’t eat it right then and there it’ll be eaten throughout the day. He’s so inconsiderate!
I’m thinking in most cases it would be definitely considered rude, sometimes it may be a case of regularity. A situation that has been left too long within a relationship that should have been counteracted earlier. This can be a situation, of the way, either party has been raised and not addressed or many other underlying issues. Its very important in a relationship to be open and help one another through. If it has become a battle then communication is very poor and situations like this in a relationship, don’t last.
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He sounds self centered to me. He knows he has a wife and child at home. He needs to be more thoughtful.
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Have you said anything to him to let him know that it would be nice if he brought you something
Or do you just assume that he can read your mind, and feel he’s inconsiderate because he doesn’t care what you think
Of course remember he has worked all night, and he might just be too tired to think about you wanting something to eat. Maybe you’re jealous because he has stopped and bought himself some food, and did not include you. Maybe if you got up and fixed him breakfast for when he came home. Then he wouldn’t have to buy his own and not want to share
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I would lock him out lol no but really being so far along with your pregnancy you want to eat sometimes even more so in the later evening 
ugh that would upset me. Eating out every night and just doing him isn’t being considerate whatever is his schedule you guys need to eat too. Ask him to bring something home just say I’m really craving xyz don’t wait for him to ask you. Don’t overthink it seriously if this was me I’d be upset if this was a routine thing for him. Do what you want how you want it. Cuz your about to have a baby and will have to get up feed the baby change the baby and put baby back to sleep so he can sleep like a baby. Congratulations baby blessings 
No it’s rude n very unthoughtful, you don’t eat in front of someone without offering them food. Your own child n pregnant wife. No. No
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It is rather thoughtless. Have you ever mentioned (in a nice way) that you would really like to have a quick meal, too? Maybe he thinks you have already eaten. Maybe he doesn’t have enough money. This needs a calm discussion before it becomes crime of the century. Cause it would really make me very very upset. It seems extremely selfish.
Did you know he was that selfish?
A man who has the welfare of his family doesn’t do that. How about you cook and feed you and your child some healthy food. Let him eat the fast food!
Ooooooor you could just ask him to bring you something too? My husband teases me playfully whenever I get food but dont so much as bring him a drink. Now we know to bring each other food if we go out or at the very least call/text to ask. Closed mouths dont get fed.
Rude, insensitive and inconsiderate! Not your hormones,your husband should know better and if he doesn’t teach him…And you’re pregnant!
Maybe I’m wrong for saying this my husband better not never come with just him some food or he won’t eat it amen.
It might be your emotions opening your eyes. His rudeness and thoughtless toward you have nothing to do with your emotions. Question…Is this something he’s just starting or this has been him all alone. Because if this has been him all alone sound like there should have been somethings addressed before you married. That’s hard to change in the middle of the road.
Did he just start doing this since pregnancy or have he always done this? Either way, you shouldn’t have let it go this far. Communicate. If he still doesn’t get it demonstrate to him so he will know how you feel. Sometimes the learner needs to be shown how this work.
Wow this is shocking, my husband always thinks of me, even now he’d buy me my chocolate and not buy himself anything, I don’t think I could be happy being with someone who didn’t think of me or our kids x
It’s the not asking that is the problem. TELL HIM… to please call and ask if you need anything before he comes home! BTW, if he brings home his own food, does that mean nothing is prepared at home? Are two things unbalanced? Talk it out amongst yourselves.
Probably a lot of the hormonal surges involved, BUT he should at least ask if you and your son would like him to pick up something also. Men just don’t think all the time! Clue him in.
Tell him that it bothers you and that you don’t mind him going out, but he needs to check in with you to see if you have plans. He may have asked you in the past and you said “no thanks” and he took that to mean “no thanks forever”.
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Sounds like you need to have a talk with your husband about being more considerate towards you and your son. He should order for you all.
Yes my husband sometimes even when we were separated would ask me if I wanted anything if he brought food home for our kids needless to say he came back home
My husband knows I would eat half of his, so he would ask! Lol!
Please tell him, he probably doesn’t even know he is being rude.
I will help you with this confusion - HE IS RUDE! that should never be done that way. The least he could do is call you on his cell phone and check and see if you would like to have anything when he picks up some thing for himself or check with you before he leaves that day. Bringing it home and eating it in front of you is just simply poor manners.
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I always bring my boyfriend a sandwich when I stop for fast food. It is rude not to
Rude. He knows he has a family right? He should well know by now to make sure your needs are met too.
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Why don’t you have food for him when he gets home after work like a good wife should.God bless you and your family.
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It’s an in the moment thing. Husband needs to be asked or reminded if he’s going to get himself food, to ask if family wants anything too. He’s probably assuming that you already ate dinner if he’s working nights. Have a conversation to sort this out. I don’t think he’s being intentional. Just absentminded.
Yes that is rude he should be doing everything he can to make you happy I’m so sorry try telling him how he makes you feel maybe his just anxious about another child go easy on him wish you the Best
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No that definitely rude. That would upset me pregnant or not. Especially your son. How does he not think of him when he is ordering. I always put my kids first. I cold never sit and eat in front of them and expect them to find something in the house while i enjoyed my take out. Sorry you deal with this. Its not you being over emotional
Have you said anything? I know it seems obvious to so many people, but if you haven’t said anything he really just may not know it bothers you. It is incredibly inconsiderate, but truly sometimes people just don’t see that. Try saying, “would you please start sonny if we want anything?”
Why don’t you ask him if you can all have breakfast together. You would all benefit. You could all pitch in. Good teaching opportunity with your son.
My daughter did that and she worked at McDonald’s she would come home and eat right in front of us and wouldn’t bring us anything and I had to tell her many many times to stop doing it or to eat in her car before she got home and it was just flat out rude and then I had to order food without her and she got the hint
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You’re not being extra. My man always brings me and the kids something when he goes out. And he always buys extra so there can be lunch the next day. He’s not thinking about anyone but himself, and that’s sad 
I agree it’s very inconsiderate.
But, as others have stated , maybe he is thinking you already ate , because of your son needing to eat.
I would ask him to start asking you if you guys want something.
Explain that it’s poor optics .
I would be super ticked off if he did that to me. Esp because your child is learning how to not consider other people in day to day life by watching this behavior.
My husband would never do that he would ask me if I would like something while his is picking up some food he even asked me if I wanted anything while I was in the hospital that’s the kind of person that he is
My husband did this one time never again. I didn’t say a word went out to get something for lunch came back and he looked at me and I said you just did this to me earlier then went on a 20 minute lecture also I had his food hidden in the car lol he never did it again if i say I don’t want something still bring something small
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I think he never learned it at home. Never learned what means to share, to think about the other. Some families are like this. But, we also teach our husband’s how to be better, not just seat and feel miserable Speak up, tell him you are family. You share things.
Its selfish and it says a lot about him especially if he feels nothing doing it in front of his child. Have u verbalized ur feelings because that makes a difference too. If u have and he continues, then he just doesnt care. Just my opinion
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It’s rude I don’t have a husband but my niece does that stop get food for her I live with her and her four kids
Just tell your greedy hubby better to eat outside and eat his ordered food there, rather than take it to your house and eat it by himself. Its not only hurting and painful to you but also to your kid… you both don’t know what will grow inside him…
Nah fam thats rude. My boyfriend knows i like to eat… and drink diet coke… if he comes over with a diet coke for himself and one without me i used to tell him something. Now we both are trying to lay off the dc lol.
That’s just totally rude & thoughtless! When you cook do you only cook enough for yourself? I doubt it. He is insensitive & selfish!
Why don’t you just take your son and go get yourselves food see this is why I learnt to drive and have money in my pocket but this would never happen to me because there would have been some serious butt kicking, I don’t care how much I Loved a Man there never be one treat my Son like this and For Real how could he Forget a child and a Pregnant Wife somebody’s light bulb is blown out and it’s sure not my cause there would be torment to Play
A perfect example of a person that just thinks of his self I think it’s very rude he could’ve called and asked if you wanted anything
I would simply take the food, divide into 3’s and trust he will get the point.
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That’soooo rude and selfish.I take it he is home after second shift and your son is old enough to be up. He is doing u a favor let him gain the weight. Worst time to eat.I get what u r saying I think he is sooo wrong. A real a—
It’s not the hormones or just you, I get the we went to DQ or McDonald’s, all the time when my husband and kid come home, or Dad bought me… Drives me nuts!!
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Speak up. Tell him to bring food for all and that it is rude to eat in front of others without offering them any.
Truly some men don’t get it. Thick heads. Give him an order on piece of paper what you and your son would like to eat. This behavior is fairly common in men. Sad but true
It is awful and I know the feeling now when I go out and stop and get something to eat I don’t bring him anything payback’s a b****
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when i was pregnant with youngest hubby used to order food before he set of from work donner kabab at midnight yummy never left me out so ya hes been selfish we have cravings and they need sorting
We took a bath once a week, but we’re taught how to give ourselves sponge baths. 8 children and 2 adults with only 1 bathroom.
You have to sacrifice him for the baby. Build a Brazen Bull.Put him inside. Roast til his meat falls off his bones. Don’t forget to add seasoning. Have all of your favorite condiments and sides. No one will know.
RUDE isn’t the word! How about stingy and thoughtless! Next time you cook a meal, you and the kids sit down and eat! I wouldn’t even put a plate on the table for him!
Rude and a piece of shit to do that in front of his child
If your lucky he will choke
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Then tell him… the next time you pick up food will you get some for us also. That would be a nice treat
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I mean why don’t you just ask him that when he is planning on stopping to please shoot you a message first to see if yall want something. But also why don’t you shoot him a message sometimes letting him know you’ve made dinner and have him a plate waiting. Its not just his place to do this. He’s working outside the home and you are working in the home. And yes your job is harder and more demanding and never stops but to be together and stay together it has to be a effort on both sides.
If he is working 3-11 he probably assumes you would have fed yourself and your child at a normal supper hour. If he is grabbing fast food on his way home every day the bigger issue is health and finances. It does sound rude but working nights changes eating and sleeping schedules so he isnt on the same schedule as wife and children. Nothing wrong with the occasional late night pizza but he is most likely thinking the family ate supper. Make him sandwiches for work… Or tell him to make his own damn sandwiches.
I’m am assuming your husband isn’t a mind reader , text him if want food .
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I’d be upset also. It seems inconsiderate. Have you said anything? Like mayby " Oh that looks good. Is there any for us? " Or when you cook or make enough to serve yourself and your son. Or while he’s eating leave and go get takeout from the same place he did. Do something to let him know. I’d start with a direct conversation first as some men just don’t think and he may be oblivious. Wake him up.
That’s very very rude how do you think he’s going to act when that baby is born didn’t you see signs before you got pregnant with another child especially eating right in front of his Son bet he never offers you all a bite
How rude of him! He should think of his family first! Especially you being pregnant! Selfish!
How rude… He probably thinks you have eaten already if he is on nights… But he could at least ask you… If you challenge him on it… Oh I never thought… No you never do… Duuuh… 
No no no. This is not right.
He is being unbelievably selfish !!! I can’t believe he eats in front of you!!!
Ohhhhh hellllll naw!!! I’m not pregnant but he would go right back and get me and my kids something to!!!
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It’s rude as AF !! I don’t know where he grew up ? Only child etc …
the least he could do is text or call !
" hey I’m stopping at " ?"
Want anything ?
Late , early etc , where ever I ate ! my family ate , or was with someone feeding them I can not think of a time I didn’t make sure of it ?
Tell him it’s rude and hurts your feelings.
I’m totally assuming you do Cook for him ?
DONT see how he likes it
Or better yet take your son out to dinner on his dime !!
I’ve been working nights for a while myself and get food on my way home for myself all the time without taking food home for hubby and kids. I do this because there is food there at home for them to eat, and I don’t usually feel like fixing anything to eat when I get home and I know no one is going to fix anything unless I do…and my kids are 16 and 18 so if their hungry they can eat…lol
My significant other would occasionally go out and get take out and not get any for the family and say I decided to treat myself .
So I decided the best way to handle that was to take the children out and we would all eat and then come home . When he asked what’s for supper I said I treated me and the kids to dinner out .
This is f$%#&%$ rude! Do you cook for him? Or are you strangers living in the same house.
If so, mive on!!
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Make you and your son dinner and him nothing. If he says anything just say I thought you would pick something up for yourself on your way to work like you do on your way home .
It is not only rude it is self centered & inconsiderate. The fact that you’re pregnant has nothing to do with it. You are his wife weather you’re pregnant or not.
You have a right to be upset. He is very unthoughtful. He should be more concern than he is about you and his son, especially since you’re Pregnant. I feel sorry for you. Show him this post. if a man’s wife is Pg. he is usually very considerate of her. You should not be hungry.
This is not behavior that began yesterday.
In other words know your audience and own your choices.
Can’t even nor do I want to imagine spending time with a person of this caliber.
I suggest having a much needed and long overdue conversation.
That’s ridiculous, my husband would never stop and get something to eat without calling me first to see if I wanted something. Very inconsiderate.
Why can’t you just ask him to get some for you also. Isn’t that pretty simple instead of making a drama about it.
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If he stops n get food he should get u2 some 2 hes just thinking for his self rude
One thing I learned early on is that men are lousy at mind reading. If you need something you have to hit them over the head (to get their attention) and then clearly and loudly if necessary explain your needs. This may require several applications.
Umm you are not being extra… If he is buying himself something and he knows his child and you are at home he needs to be at least calling to see if y’all have already eaten. And if not then for sure bring y’all something to eat too.
To me that is rude for your husband to eat in front of you and the children.
Do it back. Get you and your son a take out and leave him out. Or just tell him he’s inconsiderate and stop doing it. I think it’s rude not to ask if you both want something. It sounds like he’s missing a sensitivity chip. Beware.
Did i hear right or am i dreaming:thinking:? He is so unconsiderate? I suspect he is under stress. Arent you in a position to cook for the family? Why does he bring food from outside? Am confused 
Sit him down and discuss that issue. He probably is sending you a RedFlag . Seek for HELP!
Night folk may assume that everyone else has eaten, and snacked even, long ago while they were at work and couldn’t eat, and generally assume correctly. Let him know. It’s no problem for him to order it as long as it isn’t too complicated an order for someone who’s brain has been on the treadmill for the full eight hours and skate.
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He should definitely be bringing you and your son food!
I don’t know… I mean, when my husband worked nights, I’d cook dinner, feed me and the kids, and make him a plate for him to heat up when he came home. He didn’t have to worry about what he was going to eat after working.That didn’t change even when I was pregnant. So maybe your husband figures that you are at least capable of feeding yourself and the kid, even if you don’t think of him in the process. I’d bet that he’d rather have some real food waiting in the fridge for him, than waste money on unhealthy fast food every night.
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Yes, he is thoughtless. But why aren,t you cooking for him?
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I would walk up with a plate and take it away and start eating it. He would not do that to me more than 1 time. You need to say something. If he’s doing this, his treatment of you won’t get better if you let him do this!
Extremely rude. He should always check to see if you want something to eat. That’s just good manners.
Totally wrong he should bring you something for all the family. Selfish and you should find someone who is not all himself. What will he be like in years to come
Especially being pregnant, he should be offering to get you whatever you need. I would tell him that it bothers you though. Some guys just don’t think to do things that are common sense to us. I’d like to think he isn’t doing it to be rude, he likely just doesn’t realize you want food too.
It’s not only rude it’s very selfish you have every right to feel the way you do he could bring it home and let you decide whether you want it or not
Can you contact him at work? How about you call him before he leaves , ask him if and where he is picking up food, then ask him to get you something. Working nights I assume he gets home sometime between midnight and 8am? Maybe assumes you have already eaten.
Rude asshat for real…Sorry just speaking my mind…I was taught if you bring home food make sure there’s enough for everyone or eat it b4 going home…( and don’t brag bout it)…
I’d be mad if I was hungry too but I would not have waited untill he did it multiple times to say something. We know better in our home than to bring home evidence if we don’t have enough to share.
Tell him how you feel. Some men are oblivious to what others want, no matter how close, they need it spelled out for them. I am sure he won’t get mad if you tell him- “hey! Next time bring us food too!”