I personally would want to be told - I was told by numerous friends that my husband was cheating on me but not until I had filed for a divorce - I told them if my friendship did not mean enough to them to tell me it was going that it meant nothing to me now -
If the roles were reversed, would you want your friend to tell you?
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keep your mouth shut she will find out soon enough
You’re dammed if you do and your dammed of you don’t. Either way she will be upset, just do the right thing and tell her.
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You go right up to him and say if you do not tell your wife your cheating on her I will she deserves better and if she decides to stay then that her road to travel.
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Tell the husband to fess up and do the right thing or you will , best she hear it from him if it’s possible most times you end up being the bady
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Chat with him first was he cheating? Or was it a friend etc then chat with your friend just get more info first x
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If the situation was reversed, what would you want from your friend? That’s your answer.
You absolutely tell her. My husband works out of state and is gone anywhere from 4 days to 3 weeks at a time. I stay home with our 3 kids and I would absolutely 
% would want to know.
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Stay out of it. When they work it out, you will be to blame and the unforgiven. Maybe confront him.
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I’d want more information before jumping to conclusions. I work away with my team in different locations all the time and I have male co workers that I’m friends with and will have coffee or we go out to tea while we are away. I am in no way cheating on my husband. But we both have friends of the opposite sex. Was he just out socialising….or what was it that you saw him doing? 
I would want to make sure he is cheating before telling her and upsetting her.
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Did you see him kiss the other woman, did you see him actually cheat? If yes then tell if no stay out of it
I told my friend…and she forgave him n stopped talking to me for a very long time.
N her dude hit on me…I told him some shit then I told her what he did n she thought I did or said something to him 4 him to come on to me
Keep out they will not thank you,
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Are you sure he was cheating? If so let her know but do it anonymously if you value your relationship. She should definitely know! I would hate to be in your situation tho!
I see a lot of responses saying to not say anything as your friend will ultimately not believe you. I say “fuck that”, I would do what I feel is right in my heart. Weather she believes you or not, you know you have done the right thing and told her what you have seen. How she deals with it, is on her.
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She may get mad at you. Are you sure it wasn’t work related?
I’d ask the husband and tell him to tell his wife or you will.
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You first make sure you have proof. Second you go right up to that asshole, and punch the shit out of him. Third, you tell your friend. Fourth you help her throw his shit out
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I would want my friend to tell me.
I say tell her, as long as you know it was romantic and not work related. If you have proof, I’d definitely tell her.
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Maybe it was a sister? Niece?? Cousin?? Old friend?? Mind your own business!!
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On an unbiased private and respectful way tell your friend exactly what you observed and leave it at that.
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I’d sing like a canary! if you’re close with her, even if it was a relative she wouldnt be upset at you for being mistaken. I’d appreciate your loyalty and honesty
You tell her you don’t tell her it’s the chance you take. Follow your own gut and intuition.
Hell no tell her if it was the other way around wouldnt u want her to tell u she saw your husband with someone else
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U should’ve taken pics and sent them. I do always I expect the same. Friends dudes hated me idc I got my friends backs it could be a boss or it could be a coworker booty call u never know
Tell her what exactly? That a man with a woman is automatically doing something wrong? Fuck me drunk ……this is 2021, men can have female friends
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Send an anonymous note
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it is not your place to say anything . it may have been work related…if he indeed is cheating he will slip up because cheaters aren’t that smart
It depends on your friendship to be honest if she is a close friend I’d just say - hey so I just wanted to chat about something I seen the other day I wasn’t sure if it was anything to mention but as a friend I just want to let you know when I was at ____ I seen your hubby ____ he was _____ with a lady it looked like they where just ______ that’s all I seen and know ( fill in the blanks with the info you have ) but wanted to mention it anyway 
then go from there with her response I no tho any of my friends would appreciate me telling them no matter whom the person might be but only with my closest and family to of course
If you are actually her friend that shouldn’t even be a question. YES you tell her.
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Everyone is quick to say tell her… Tell her what?
You just said you saw her husband with another woman.
If you you’re gonna come to me and have me question my marriage you better come with proper information, not just you saw him with another woman.
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Don’t tell her nothing. Let her figure it out. 1. You will lose your friend. 2. She will turn this on you. Seen it happen before. He will eventually slip up they all do.
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Best be careful: my stepdaughters
girlfriend saw me meeting with another man that her girlfriend didn’t recognize as her dad.
It was me meeting with my brother!
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I would have taken a photo. Followed them a bit, taking more photos. Sent it to her. Then walked up to him to say hi and introduce myself to the woman all while recording the conversation. My friend would have that conversation sent to her as well.
Might have been nothing but a coworker. Either way, I did my job as a friend and she can now be the 
with all the right evidence.
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You need to define “saw.” What did you actually see? Were they kissing? Holding hands? Walking arm and arm? Cuddling in a booth? Did you get a picture to back you up? It’s all well and good you want to protect your friend but you need to have irrefutable proof of cheating if you’re going to mess in someone’s marriage.
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ask her husband about it/ tell the husband for him to come clean to your friend if the case. could be a whole different situation as seeing him with another woman ( is not enough for us to confirm anything wrong going on. ) Could be work or something.
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I’d walk up and introduce myself as his wife’s girlfriend. I’d then say, “Let’s all get a picture together.” She’d then know he has a wife and he’d know that he’s been caught. I’d tell him, “I can’t wait to send this picture to your wife. She won’t believe we ran into each other.” You’ve then killed two birds with one stone!
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I’d walk up to him & say hello. Let him introduce you to the woman. Could be an innocent encounter after all. Unless he’s done something before I’d give him the benefit of the doubt.
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Treat your friend as you would expect to be treated.
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If she is your friend, then your loyalty is to her & you should absolutely tell her!
If the shoe was on the other foot, you’d expect the same.
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I would stay out of it in my opinion. Woman aren’t always thankful when someone calls their partner out for infidelity they can direct their anger at you. Also what if there is an understanding between them that it is okay but she just doesn’t blatantly come out and tell others
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Always!tell! Always ! If I had known I would not have wasted years of my life
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Could be a coworker but that’s for her to figure out, should have got pic proof jusy incase he denies it so she knows your not making it up
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Alot of detail left out was they holding hands, were they arm in arm? You dont know m.y.o.b.
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Unless u have cold hard evidence pictures videos voice recordings . Stay the hell out of it. Ignorance is bliss and you’ll be labeled a liar and people almost always shoot the messenger.
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I would say don’t assume things, could it have been a work associate? Be sure what it is before you say anything, things can get misinterpreted.
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I told a friend that her partner was having an affair, she turned on me and then threatened me with legal action for spreading lies.
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Maybe she knows he’s cheating but doesn’t want to admit it or even care. I wouldn’t bring it up. I’ve done that in the past and now I personally don’t care. If my friends don’t care why should I?!
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I think it best not to say anything. She’ll confront the husband drop your name and he’ll say you take the scene incorrectly or some lame excuse and she’ll want to believe him even thou she already suspects or deep down knows. So now there is a wedge of cold between the two of you. Blame you that you are the snake in their garden. and maybe she holds the relationship/marriage together for financial reasons of alternative of being on her own, If children involved more at stake. I’d be her friend and when she wises up all you can do is listen, the decision is hers to come to of what to do. Never tell her what approach she should heed and involve self in that situation.
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What would u want ur friend to do if she seen ur man w a woman?
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Do not tell her she will turn on you and be mad at you.
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It could be just a family member you haven’t seen before. If your concern than ask your friend’s husband.
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If it was my Bff I’m telling her because she my everything and she deserves the best. Then im gonna help her move on or work threw it because that’s what a true friend would do. No u don’t want to hurt her but u also should keep stuff so important from her.
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Your screwed either way, tell her mess up friendship dont tell her and she finds out that u know its gonna be bad, you need some really really good proof before u tell her or let her figure it out for herself We as women usually have a very good feeling on things like this and most people are sloppy when they cheat he will slip up and she will find out. Actually better yall could go together and do some detective work !
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Depends how good of a friend and if you’ve ever had that conversation with her in the past. My friend knows I would wanna know and not hold it against her.
I’d bring it up in front of him, like you are sure it was a co worker. And it probably was. But it will probably drive you crazy until you figure out how to approach her about it
I would say something, it could mean nothing and she is aware or she can ask. You can simply say, I saw your husband the other day, he was with a female I didn’t recognize at bla bla place and let her sort it out with him.
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I would tell the husband I know what he is doing, so tell his wife or I will. It should always come from the spouse, not someone else!
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Stay out of it. Mind my business. Half the time they get mad at the messenger. If it’s meant she will find out on her own.
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Depends on what you seen I mean if they were kissing hold hands then I would tell if not it may be just a co worker
Are you sure they are cheating?
Could it be a co-worker? Family member?
Before you breakup a marriage, you best be sure.
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I wouldn’t question it if I was in your shoes I’d be telling my friend straight away
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If she is your BFF let her mention to you she suspect something going on with her husband don’t be so quick to tell something you not sure of, be fair to your friend
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I would bring it up as a question .or hey who was he with we saw him .let her investigate if needed .
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I think it would depend on what they were actually doing.
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Tell her. It happened to me. It hurt but it’s better than being played for a fool.
Do you have actual evidence? Confirmed it was him? Was this man and woman doing anything more than sitting or walking and talking? Bc it could be a work related. Without actual evidence dont be stirring pots. If you have proof then yes. But you must have proof of something physical.
I dont know why that’s even a question. Of course you tell her! What if the shoes was on the other foot.
Yup tell her! You’d want someone to tell u if your husband were messing around.i know there’s alot of people on here saying mind ur own business but if she’s your friend then it is ur business.id also include though that you didn’t see them being physical just that you saw them together.
I would mention it. It could be completely innocent but if not the sooner she knows the sooner she can get rid of the cheater if hes cheating
If it is not right it will come out regardless if you tell her or not
Don’t tell her anything, she probably wouldn’t believe you and it will just stir up trouble,if he’s cheating it’ll come out eventually.
I would have approached HIM! Give him the option of telling her before you do.
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Do you want to know this about your Husband?
I bet you do …so tell her .
Take a picture if you can
Do you really want to ruin her marriage…cuz it will even if it is nothing to be concerned with…she will doubt the rest of her days…unless you are sure he is stepping out I would keep my mouth shut. We they kissing or out of line in any way?
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Keep it to yourself. She’ll never forget you told her. Just be there when she finds out
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Tell her , but I would have take a picture!!!
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Tell her definitely. She will thank you .
Hold your tongue if you want to stay friends.
Send her pictures then it’s up to them to work it out without you getting your own face ripped off
If you tell you will probably lose a friend.
Girl, shut your mouth because you will end up being the bad guy in the end…Mind your business
If you call yourself a good friend of hers you should tell her
Better make sure what you think you saw was cheating before you open your mouth!
How are people saying don’t tell her? Wth. TELL HER. you would want someone to tell you
If you get pictures for proof then tell her and send her pictures
Definitely tell her!
I would want to know. I don’t share and I don’t want to live a lie.
I would ask him who is she.
Approach the husband twll him you saw him and see what he says. If you don’t believe him then say he should tell his wife or you will. Then you aren’t going to unnecessarily hurt her her if it turns out to be innocent.
Well … is she your friend or not?
Could it be someone he works with
Guy told me about a guy that came over to see my mom. DA didn’t know it was my uncle. Let it go
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…what did you see tho.
What were they doing. Spouses are allowed to have friends of the opposite sex.
You saw them…but don’t specify what they were doing…were they hanging out. Were they cuddling. Walking hand in hand. Like so much missing information.
You need actual proof if you plan on interfering with a marriage.
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Be a good friend and tell her. How would you feel if she didn’t tell you that she seen your man with another woman…people saying it could be a co worker. Though that is a possibility, he still should have told her he was meeting up with a female co worker. Period.
What do most women say when they found out others knew and didn’t tell her ??? I wish you would of told me, thsts what they say
Would you like your friend to tell you or keep it to herself? If she’s your best friend you must know her well to know what to do. All I know if my best friend kept it from me I be pissed
1 question…would you want her to tell you? Your answer is your answer!
Would you want to be told? I would. Yes tell your friend. Better yet, take a picture and tell your friend.