Do your kids have rights at school?

Do your kids have rights in school? Our elementary school denys the kids to call parents for personal matters. For example my 8 year old daughter in formed her teacher she was having problems with her bra and she asked if she could call me due to personal issues(she is very private and doesn’t like to share information about herself) the teacher told her to go sit back down. Do our kids have to tell a teacher why they want to call home? Can the teachers deny our kids that right?

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It’s not right, but yes they have that right to not allow children to call their parents. Your child is their prisoner.

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My kids can’t call home except if they r sick

I would call the school and talk with the principal.
My kids school takes away their cell phone if they even see it in their pocket, but does allow them to go to main office to make a phone to parent if needed.
So yeah definitely speak with the school principal so if it is allowed they can communicate that to the teachers.

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I was able to, (I don’t like talking to stranger teachers either about my personal stuff) but I’m sure if it was frequent they’d say no. It’s not right and probably induces lying.

I couldn’t call home unless I went to the nurse and my kids were the same. I don’t blame her if she’s 8 and already wearing a bra to be private about it. Tell her next time to go to the nurse but she may have to tell the nurse what the problem is

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They have the right to sit down and do their work.

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Never heard of kids being able to call their parents for personal reasons and I know probably none of us were allowed to either when we were in school. If schools allowed children to call for personal reasons kids wouldn’t be learning honestly cause they would just make some excuse up on why to call their mom or dad.

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They would have to request to go to the nurse office and once there she can call you. I know my kid isn’t allowed to use his cellphone while in school but he has still called me from the nurse office when he needs to communicate with me.

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It’s school policy at most schools that kids can’t just call home. They are afraid it would be abused. I think if she told her teacher the reason then she should of found a solution or called a parent.

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My daughter has never had this issue, if she says she needs to call me for something they send her to the counselors office to call, she just use her cell phone if it’s during class time, which I get.

Mine are allowed to call me from their classroom phones as long as they aren’t testing. But they usually just email me from their iPads.

I’m honestly shocked by this. My kids are only 4 and 5 but if I found out the school was preventing them from getting ahold of me for any reason at all I would raise hell!

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We had pay phones in highschool so we could call anytime but that was 17 years ago lol. I think if it’s a personal hygiene or clothing malfunction it should be allowed

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I was never allowed, and if they just let it for whatever reason then kids would be calling their parents all the time just because. So no, not allowing them to call doesn’t strip them from their rights.

I think it just needs to be approached differently :heart: maybe suggest she asks to go to the nurse next time something like that happens, and she can call from there. They can’t deny her a nurse visit if she tells the teacher that it is a personal matter.

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Mine is 4 and gets special services at school. He was getting a virus at school and his stomach hurt and wanted to call me to come get him. She told him no. We all tested positive for Covid the next day. He told me about his stomach hurting and asking to call. Stomach pains were horrible with this strain that we got. It took me a month after to be able to drink a full cup of coffee again. Anyhow, I didn’t even question her about it. For one, I’m sure she had her reasons. For two, I forgot…

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No, its not legal… your child is a minor and has every right to call her momma… inform the school that is your wish and they need to honor that

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My kids are allowed to call home for any issue bog or small …there is a concern if your child school isnt allowing your child to call home. I’d deffinatly be investigating big red flags with that

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Schools seems to think they have power over our kids, if your worried provide your child with a mobile if old enough and mature enough n get them to call u during break or lunch other than that they not usually allowed to call u other than being sick at the office.

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Mine are allowed to contact me anytime (except during an exam, unless really not feeling well).

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We were never allowed to call home unless we were sick. And then sometimes they still wouldn’t let you call you just had to lay down in the nurses office to make sure you didn’t get to feeling better.

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My daughter calls me all the time from school. Usually from recess. She’s in 6th grade. She has panic/anxiety attacks at school so they give her time to go sit in the hallway, go to the counselor or call me. Calling me usually calms her down. The principal knows both of my girls and myself. It’s a small town so everyone knows everyone. Lots of freedoms here.

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Our school nurse would never call the parents either. One time my daughter was accidentally pushed against a broken trash can and the broken plastic scraped her all up her side and her leg and they didn’t call. The teachers most of the times won’t send kids to office if they say they don’t feel well. My oldest daughter is in 5th and I tell her to bring her phone to school, she knows she’s not allowed to play on it or bring it out only if it’s not an emergency. But I tell her to call or text me from the bathroom and she’s having a problem the teachers or nurse won’t help with.

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Never heard that before, except for real emergencies.

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You probably needed to tell your daughter to go see the nurse and have the nurse call home.

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Most of the teachers don’t care and they and the ppl in the office r that nosey they keep on at the child to say what’s wrong esp when they say personal reasons. Personal reasons should b enough for them to say yes. Does ur child take her phone to school could she message u and then u deal with the school to get her out? Thats what I’ve had to do and I know many others do the same other wise the child is left sitting in school all day suffering and its not right at all.

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& this is why all my kids have a cell phone!

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Cell phones in school are a distraction. No matter how responsible you have raised your children. Some will video or take pictures which goes against the privacy of others. Some schools require phones be checked into office upon arrival and picked up at end of day. If they must call they are allowed to do so. Others check theirs in at start of every class and get back at end of each class.

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If my kid wanted to call me for anything personal at all and a teacher told her no I’d be having a good word with her.

I don’t know what it’s like in other places but where I’m from it was always okay to call home for personal reasons.

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Speak to the principal , they shouldn’t have denied anything , you absolutely have rights , the problem is , parents don’t make big enough deals and the schools try to sweep things under the rug , I am constantly emailing and having meetings with my kids schools… so now when i call or they see my name on an email they are like shit what happened now :rofl: after me getting nasty with them a few times they are super accommodating with whatever I need…

I don’t think it’s so much their “right” to call home. I mean, I know if my daughter was allowed to call me whenever she wanted, that’s all she would be doing all day. Most, not all, elementary aged children are in the process of learning time management skills and already have trouble sitting still and focusing. I feel like if kids could call home whenever they want, the teachers wouldn’t get anything accomplished and then parents would be raising hell because the teachers weren’t “doing their job” and the kids aren’t learning anything.

My son texts me through out the day, but he has his own phone and is in middle school.

I would suggest that in the future, advise your daughter to ask to go to the nurse. At that point, the nurse can either help her or make contact with you.

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If they didn’t, every student would come up with an excuse to keep getting out of class.

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Tell her go to the bathroom n call home. Get her a cell phone

This has happened with my daughter and I raised hell at the school. Completely not okay. She was getting bullied and the teachers did not help her so she wanted to call me to help and they denied her and she came home crying. And all I was told by the teacher and principal she needs to toughen up. I took her out of school and switched to homeschooling. And still dealing with a lawsuit against the school.

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When your kids are at school,the teachers feel like they OWN them! I’m so glad mine have graduated.Stand up for your kids! No one else is going too!

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I guess it depends where you live. Did you talk to the principal?

My children are allowed to call me. They have a phone in the class

No they can’t stop them. My kids call when they need someone to talk to if they are having a rough day and our teacher and staff allow it. They’d rather them talk to us then have a bad day or have a freak out. Personal reasons like bra or anything if that sort they allow to call us too.

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I’d have a talk with teacher and staff and tell them that if your child needs or wants to call you that they are allowed…

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Illegal! Kids don’t need to tell them anything and have all the right to no questions asked. I would talk to the principal and make aware of the situation

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This is why my kids have their own phones. So they can text me anytime they need me. Sometimes the school allows a phone call and sometimes they don’t. So either way,
my babies can contact me.

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I would be pissed, if my child wanted to call home for a booger they better let her(as long as it’s not a constant thing)

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Go talk to her teacher and explain. My kids call me from school all the time. I don’t see why they wouldn’t let her call you.

This is probably gonna make a few of you mad but here goes…when my generation was in school we couldn’t call home for anything. Only the nurse would if you were sick. I’m only 43. We listened to the teacher and respected them we didn’t run to our parents to fix this problem. It’s ridiculous that the younger generations are demanding that kids get to have phones in school and call home whenever they want. Maybe this is see of the reason we have so many entitled kids these days that don’t want to do anything for themselves anymore. Just my opinion

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As a parent I understand your feelings but I can also step back enough to understand the schools stance too.

Imagine if kids were allowed to call home just because they wanted to without having or giving a good reason?
What if all 20 kids in the class wanted to call home multiple times a day? To complain. To chat. To get out of work. To ask if they could go to so and so’s house. To ask if so and so could come over.
Logistically that just doesn’t work.
It’s for those kinds of reasons that the teachers ask why and don’t take “it’s personal” or “it’s private” as an answer (particularly in elementary school).

My son has called me a few times, but it’s from the nurses office when he’s gone to take his daily med not from his classroom and he’s told the nurse why so she actually does the dialing and making sure it’s me.

There’s options here, but most of those options is going to require your child to honestly tell an adult why she needs to call you.

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I have to tell my kids go stop texting me from school. Mine are also in hs

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We were never allowed to do this…

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My daughter can and will call me. She knows that if she needs mommy walking out of class is an answer. My child’s teacher also doesn’t stop her. She is welcomed to call when necessary. Most of the time she ask to go to her kindergarten teacher. I can’t thank her enough. That teacher bends over backwards for her. If she can’t solve it than they call

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I always tell my kids to tell the teacher that they forgot their house key and will be locked out. It’s “emergency” enough to let them call without having to get crazy personal

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We had to when I was in school from 1963 to 1974.Most of the time a teacher would help with problems like that .

That’s BS. I’d file a complaint w the school board. That would NOT fly. They’re children, not prisoners

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I’d be buying my daughter a phone immediately

Devil’s advocate here - can you imagine being a teacher and being interrupted by students wanting to call their mom all day long? How would they get any work done?

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Why didn’t the teacher just help? Or send her to bathroom so that she could fix it?

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With the amount of unnecessary calls I get from my daughter I wish the teacher would stop her from calling. Normally they just go to the nurse and proceed to call me

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When I was in school all I had to do was go to the office and ask to call my parents. They allowed us to. My son went to the nurse with his throat hurting and eyes hurting and bc he didn’t have a fever they wouldn’t let him call me. He keeps his phone and goes to the bathroom and will text me if he needs to. They act like children aren’t human, I understand people take advantage but if it was a lot I could understand.

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Your child is technically government property when in the school buildings

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Kids have rights and responsibilities. All kids do, but which ones they have vary by school. Generally, a child should be able to call a parent for a personal matter without having to explain what it is as long as it isn’t a regular occurrence.

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Our school doesn’t. My son autistic with ptsd anxiety and sensory processing an he has learned to say he doesnt feel good so they call me for me to pick him up when its something as simple as sensory over load because when he used to tell them they would respond with get over it thsta how u get used to it…hes 8…he’s been told this since 4k

My son, his teacher, and secretary have called me for personal matters…once they all called me for the same thing.

To me there is a fine line here. If my child needs to call me for a legit reason, like the OPs daughter, other personal issues going on ect. then ill be damned if my child is denied. However if my child is calling to get out if class or for zero reason then thats wrong and my child will get in trouble for that.

We as parents have to teach our children the difference between needing a parent for a legit reason and just wanting out of class. We have to teach our children that we respect our teachers and we can’t disrupt class for anything less than an “emergency” situation. Such as the OPs daughters bra causing problems. To me for a you g girl having her bra malfunction is a legit reason to be calling home and id be in the principals office over this.

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Call the school have a meeting setup between counselor at school principal and any teacher she has and you tell them what you will and will not allow and you not allowing my child to call me when she needs me to call me is not something I will allow obviously don’t be a total horses ass but be firm and polite and let them know my daughter is a very private shy person when it comes to personal matters as to her body so from this point on if my daughter ask to please call home that is all that needs to be said and she should be allowed to call I had to do this for both my girls they are 10 and 11 and now both my girls can call at anytime they need to as long as you let it be known to your daughter that this is not a game and you only call if you truly need mommy and we don’t run and call mommy because the teacher made you mad lol as k7ds will do this hahaha but on a serious note iam that mom that iam almost positive they hate to hear Mr so and so mrs.Grubbs is on line 1 bahah because iam always polite bit I also stand my ground my children my decision not your you basically force me to send you my child 8 hours a day so in that 8 hours you are with them its your place to make sure that they are striving in their environment so if you can’t do that then you will not be getting my child that 8 hours a day period

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My son calls me all the time from school usually for dumb reasons like mom don’t forget to charge my iPad :joy:

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The gender of the teacher matters immensely during a personal “wardrobe malfunction”, if it was a male teacher that denied her that should be brought to the school board, if it was a woman teacher she could have been more sensitive

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My child can call and text me whenever he wants

A little compassion goes a long way…my kids should be able to contact me any time for any matter big or small!

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My kid can call me to tell me she misses me. If the school didn’t let her I’d probably freak. Kids are EQUALS! Just because they are younger and learning doesn’t make them any less so unless phone rights are being abused (prank calls or just using it to get out of class) then they should have access to it.

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My kids know that what I say goes over whatever the teacher says at the end of the day. If they need to call me they walk out if they have to and call me. I’ll deal with the consequences.

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My kids schools don’t allow calls home, if they get to see the nurse, the nurse will call but not let me speak to my child. I hate it!
My son has a doctors note from a urologist to be able to go to the bathroom whenever and his ela teacher refused him many times. Schools are jails

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I’m not sure what grade your child is in and if that has to do with them not letting her call you. I have a junior in high school and he carries his cell phone for this very reason. They do not let them out of class to go to the office to call home unless they are sick. Then they have to be escorted to the office. Now my first grader her teacher has what’s called ClassDojo and will message me if anything is wrong and she’ll let me know if my daughter you know is having a hard day and I need to come get her.

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My daughter used to call me all the time!

“Just saying hi…. Sooooo what are you doin?”:rofl::woman_facepalming:t2:

It’s odd to me they wouldn’t let her call, i guess maybe I’d understand waiting until a break but no in general seems off.

They can’t just make a call to a parent every time a child needs something small.

If it’s something important then they can privately inform the teacher and things can be arranged.

They don’t even allow students to call parents over here lol.

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I’m a teacher & most of the time I allow learners to call their parents off of my phone, or I send a text for them🤷🏻‍♀️
Sometimes they ask to go to reception to phone, but if it’s anything I can assist with I try and help out…

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teach her how to fix her bra… then she won’t have to call you for something like that

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The teacher or principal usually call for my kids, they’re still younger but I’ve gotten calls because my son got hit with a soccer ball at recess. They have called for a stomach ache as well, I’d be letting the school know your daughter can call you for anything she wants, should not matter the reason.

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My children can call me anytime, it’s in their IEP so the school has no choice.

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I mean, if they let kids call for every little issue, then kids would be calling all day

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My kid calls me from the nurses office atleast twice a week to say hi :joy::joy:…he’s 10! He’s been doing it since he was 4 lmao

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depending on state laws and school policy the answer is yes they can deny a student to use school resources, the phone is a school resource, to call home. Especially if the child has not disclosed the issue to the teacher. When my grand girlies started wearing bras I told them to ask to go see the nurse if they had an issue and that the nurse would be the best person in the school to discuss private matters with and it would stay confidential. If teachers allowed every student who wanted to call home to go to the office and have the secretary assist them in calling home without knowing why the child wants to call home, can you imagine the line of students waiting to use the phone and what some of those reasons could be?

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How did we ever get thru school without a phone!

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My daughters school isnt like that and if it was I would put her in a different one. Her teacher texts me if there is a problem.

An 8 year old with bra problems? We need to teach kids to be more resilient in life because that’s not an emergency.

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I never one time called my mom from school. I can’t believe kids can’t go an 8 hour day without contacting thier parents, unless of course there is a medical condition.

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As a school secretary, I always ask a student why they need to call home. Sometimes it’s to help reduce unneeded phone calls. I can understand also as a parent, feeling like your child should be able to call for any reason. A lot of elementary schools especially have over 500+ students at them, can you imagine. I also manage the attendance line and when families don’t give a reason why their student isn’t there, I have to make those phone calls home as well. Just know from a school administrator side, my first goal is to help every student that comes to my desk. Teachers also try to help curb certain behaviors in the classroom.

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Have any problem with her bra is not an emergency she could have a female teacher help her with that only allow children to call their parents if it is an emergency most of the time and that’s even back when I was in school.

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Honestly they dont. Unless its a real emergency. So like a mental breakdown than no.

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My kids have cell phones. They aren’t allowed to use in school. I told them to anyway

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This is why my children have cell phones! Not to mention how often things are happening in schools now and parents are being notified later and later of it all. If my children are ever in a situation where they don’t feel safe and they can text me back and forth (phone on silent of course) to keep them calm- you’re damn right that’s what’s going to happen!
Older folks saying “well in my day we didn’t do this that and the third” and “kids these days are so entitled”
Y’all didn’t go to school with school shootings and mass murders at schools and never did lockdowns and all of that, so sit down!
Get with the times!

When it comes to girls at this age, they’re likely very new to wearing bras, and we’ve been teaching them that NO ONE is to SEE OR TOUCH their private parts- THAT INCLUDES TEACHERS- (because wouldn’t ya know, there have been plenty of teachers over the years that have been arrested and convicted of disgusting crimes against their students) so of course she’d want her MOM to help!
AS SHE SHOULD!!!

My elementary school had a public payphone for the students to use by the security desk when you first came in. I remember calling my mom a few times. Any issues my kids had the nurse would call me tho. We went to the same elementary school me and my kids

Surley a first aid teacher could assist. Other than that I’d talk to the teacher . Maybe something more behind a new bra . And she needs some reassurance from mum ?

If the child can’t tell the teacher what is up as to why she needs to call, it isn’t an emergency. :woman_shrugging:t2: They are there to teach your child not call you for every little non emergency inconvenience.

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My kids teachers will text or message through class dojo (like a school FB for parents teachers and kids only) if my child needs something. I’m very forward with the teacher in the beginning of school about it tho. My oldest has ADHD along with a few other issues so open communication is a must for me. I have had his teacher changed over a lack of communication. I wasn’t rude about it. I fully explained the situation to the teacher and she understood and I respected her boundary. I would ask for a parent teacher conference and genuinely just chat about the situation and about how private your child is.

Yes they can if it’s not an emergency. If they did allow a personal call that is non emergent, they would have kids in the office all day. What I usually do when students need something is email or send a text through the class dojo app.

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It’s your child. It’s your call. You can inform the school your child has permission to call home whenever or send the child with a cell phone. My solution will be sending my kids with basic phones to call no matter what. That way the school don’t have to handle issue my child need me to resolve.

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If the school brought the kids to use the phone every time they want to call home they would need to hire an extra person just to bring kids back and forth to the phone. Could you imagine allowing the kids to get in the habit of calling home every time they have a small problem, how many kids would abuse that right? That would be complete chaos for the teachers.

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Told my 9 year old to take her phone into the bathroom and call me for whatever reason.

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They will hear from me , my children comes first no matter what situation or where they are or age ,

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Might be the unpopular opinion here but I don’t see this as an emergency. Is your bra annoying you, annoying? If course it is. But you’ll totally survive the day until you can go home and ask your mom for help/tips. Now what’s is an emergency is if you get your period and are bleeding through your clothes. I understand at that age bras are new and uncomfortable. But it’s still not an emergency :woman_shrugging:

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My high school had a pay phone, but I’m pretty sure if the when to the guidance office they’d let me call. Sometimes I’d have to call my mom for a ride if I wasn’t staying for study hall 8th period.

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