Honestly, it’s up to you and what you feel comfortable doing.
I would personally let the father be there because once he misses the chance to see his child being born, he can’t get that back. It’s just as much his child as it is yours.
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He has no right…don’t tell him when you go to the hospital…if you do…then maybe you want him back…if you didn’t want him, what makes you think he would be a good dad…
…a GOOD PARTNER MAKES A GOOD DAD!!!
I had nobody in the room with me. You are well within your right
It’s very personal…you are “NAKED…””” spread eagle,” and emotionally…”spread eagle,” as well…and intellectually….you guys didn’t hit it off….so…ITS MOM TIME…for YOU & YOUR MOM!
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No he doesn’t have an automatic right
No one has a “right” to be present at your birth without your consent and no one has the right to pressure you into it either…
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Nobody has a right to be there for any medical procedure. You need to do what is best for you since it is your medical procedure. He can wait in the waiting room so that he can be there right afterwards. But your number one priority is getting the baby out safely. Do not worry about anything else.
If he wants to be there, YES
If you are not comfortable about him being there at all, make sure you tell the nurses when you are admitted that he is not allowed and they will prevent him from coming in… In alot of a cases, they will not even tell him you are there, for yours and your baby’s safety
He doesn’t have the right to be there your the one delivering its your choice and yours alone tell him no.
I see both sides -
I see that the dad doesn’t want to miss the birth of his child and he does have every right to be there.
But I also know when I delivered my oldest I wanted my mom there for my emotional support and I’m sure in the hell glad she was there because I don’t think i could have went through that alone without her.
Giving birth is a huge blessing but also terrifying for the mom. You need to do what’s best for you and if you feel like it’s your mom then baby daddy can wait outside the room or maybe explain your situation and the hospital will allow you to have both??
It’s ultimately up to you and what your comfortable with. If you need your mom there have her there. Your the one giving birth you need to decide who will be there to support you and will be there for you for what YOU as a mom need.
You need support and comfort when labouring. I just went though my labor in February with my youngest and I know I only wanted my hubby there as it was a moment I wanted to share with just him.
It’s up to you as a women and what you need to feel empowered and to help you get through one of the biggest blessings in your life.
No he does Not HAVE to be in the room.
The nurses only allow whomever you want into the room. When I went, however many people were allowed to be there before I pushed but when it came time I made it very clear that only my mother and the dad could be in the room. They cleared the room and then everyone saw us again in the recovery room
If he wants to be there I say you should let him. Or see if its possible for your mom to be there for all of the labor and he comes in when baby is crowing or something. I know its difficult but its his kid too. You’re going to have to make sacrifices for your child and do you want your child’s father missing his kid be born? If he was having the child think how you would feel if he wouldn’t allow you to see your child born. Doesnt mean he has to literally watch your child come out. You can tell him he can be there if he stays at your head, but its a big thing to be at your child’s birth.
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You will have enough stress during the delivery and you need someone who can be supportive and do what’s comfortable for you, then sometime after within a few hours arrange for a short visit.
You’re the one giving birth, it should be your choice who is in the room, I had my choice taken away from me and was forced to birth in front of someone I didn’t want in the room and I still resent my daughter’s father for making me do that, it completely ruined my birthing experience, do not let him do that to you, you will end up resenting him for it and when you look back it will sour your birth experience
He doesn’t have the right to be there if you don’t want him there.
Tell him to wait in the waiting room and he can see the baby after it’s born.
Back in the olden days (50 yrs ago) No one was allowed in the delivery room with the Mom. Dad’s waited in the waiting room. Most men preferred it that way. But I get it that times have changed. Just tell him that only one person can be in the room and you would be more comfortable with just your Mom. Explain the awkwardness of having him there if necessary. If he is a decent guy he should understand.
No he does not have a right
He has the right to be outside and to see his child the moment its possible
However childbirth is your experience
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Honestly it’s all up to you. But before you make the decision put yourself in his shoes. You’ll be the reason he didn’t get to see the birth of his child. You have to learn to make sacrifices and this would be a great start to co-parenting to allow him in there. He still needs to be supportive of you and help you through the delivery.
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Nope. I was still with my first child’s dad and chose to have my mom with me. 
it’s about you and your baby. Who will help you feel more comfortable during this experience? Just my opinion.*
Agreed. Your choice. He can see it right after.
Make him wait till after the birth. If he wanted to be that involved he would be with you now when you need him the most
No he does not get to do that. It’s only if you want him there. It’s you choice. Just tell them you do not want him in there.
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Your mom!! Childbirth is a very personal experience, go with your mom.
No if ur not together and on not so good terms
for our first baby, i had three people in the delivery room, her dad, my mom and her godmother, however my mom stayed with me in the hospital because we weren’t on good terms then.
He doesn’t have to be in the room. It’s up to you. Do what you feel is best for you.
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No, if you was still together. No
It’s your choice, of course, but you have to think about him, too.
If he’s not going to cause you stress and will be supportive, this would be a good first chance at co parenting.
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It’s your choice, if the hospital only allows 1 person and you want your mom there then that’s who you should have there. You could have your mom be on FaceTime with the babies father so that he could see his baby being born. Now if the hospital allows 2 people in the room consider allowing him there because it would be a great start to your co-parenting.
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Maybe him being at the hospital and so he can see baby once they are born but not in the room is a good comprise
Ultimately because it’s you who has to go through the trauma of birth you get to decide who is in the room to best suit your comfort… Granted when a real dad wants to step up and not miss a second you don’t want to take that away… can you find a middle ground like your mom walks out as soon as baby slides out so the dad can be there for the first hold and all that
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I would have who you want in the room it can be a stressful and scary situation and if your mother is the person you need that what I would do. He ca wait in the waiting room and come in after when your ready…
I’ll give the unpopular opinion… The baby is just as much his as it is yours. You have a lifetime of co parenting with this man since he wanting to be involved. How would you feel if someone took your chance to see your child being born away from you?
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I agree with Samantha Ridgway. It is your choice and fully understand why you would want your mom there. However, really take a few moments to consider his feelings as well. If he is saying he wants to be in the child’s life this is a good opportunity for you to open the door for a great co parenting situation. I would suggest having your mother come with you just in case you can have both or if he doesn’t show.
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Ask yourself this: is he going to be in the child’s life? Yes
Are you going to depend on him for support?
Yea
Has he seen and been intimate with you?
Yea
Did he help create this new life?
Yes
Then why should he not be present during the most beautiful, emotional, connecting moment ?
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You’re feelings are 100% valid and if you feel your mom is a better choice then there’s your answer hun
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I will say that I do feel you’re being petty bc this is his child as well an you’re taking away his ability to witness the birth of what I’m going to assume is his first child. Now with that being said if he hasn’t been there then he can be at the hospital for the birth but not in the room with you. Although I would definitely make sure you can only have one person with you just bc of my first statement. Ultimately though it’s your choice an it’s up to you for your comfort when delivering. Does he have legal rights to be in the delivery room no but he can wait outside for when you deliver an meet his child. Sign the birth certificate and what not. But I strongly feel like you need to look at it from his perspective and place yourself in his shoes before making a decision. With that said I note that the entire situation is not completely known so I’m only going off of the information that you have provided which is only one side of the situation at hand.
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This man wants to be in his child’s life. Why would you want to strip him of this humongous event in his life as well as yours? I imagine you would appreciate him being an active father, there for birthdays and such, so why not on one of the biggest events of his life? The birth of his child? Sounds petty to me. Its just as much his milestone as it is yours. You wouldn’t be giving birth to that baby at all if not for his participation. You chose that when you had sex with him, got pregnant and went through with the pregnancy. Being “together” now has nothing to do with the bond that will be established during this life changing event.
So since you’re the one giving birth and the support people are limited and you want your mom. I’d go with your mom. Labor is about you and no one else. Afterwards set a plan for him to come in. But while active labor I’d tell him you rly need your mom and that it’s limited people and you’d have to take her spot and you feel she would be best since she’s clearly been through it.
When I had my son we went from 3 down to 2. I had to choose between mom or sister. I of course chose mom. And if it came down to it I was gonna send my husband home with our daughter and have mom stay bc I needed my mom. I have 2 kids and my mom was there for both per my request. My mother in law was understanding about it all bc clearly dad wanted to be there and I was allowed a person for myself which was my mom. I did it that way bc he went with our kids where ever they went and my mom stayed with me. So ultimately you have to do what you feel is best.
At one point I threatened to kick everyone out so I could be alone lol 
that was bc I was hormonal lol
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Normally I would say that you should grant him the opportunity to see his child being born however since you’re only allowed to have one person and he is not your person in life then you should have whoever you’re comfortable with. 
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only you have the right to chose, if he’s comes or refused.
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Well, i would not tell him when you go to the hospital to deliver your baby. Dont tell him until the next day. Or that you want your mother with you. You can also tell the nurses or hospital you dont want him in the delivery room.
Congratulations to you and your new baby 
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Your birth. Your body. Your choice. Birth is a whole different ball game. You need emotional support it’s a rough old do. Don’t be guilt tripped.
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I mean you don’t HAVE to let him. But I feel like you should. It’s his child also.
I think you need to do what works for you. I don’t agree that his feelings need consideration about the birth. You said he hasn’t been involved in the rest of the pregnancy. You can let him come in after and sign the documents, etc, but child birth can be hell, and you need to have someone there that you know you feel a strong connection with. You’re not taking away him being dad, but you get to decide who sees you in that situation.
NO! why would you want him there…get your mum
You’re body, your baby, your choice. Who will be your best support/Not stress you? Petty or not petty, you do not need added stress.
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I would definitely choose who you want to support you through labor. 100%
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I’m going to have my mother with me. I don’t want the father in the room. I don’t need the stress and I don’t want to be exposed like that to him. He can see the baby after I’m done delivering and when I feel like it’s the right time! I’m the one growing it, I’m the one pushing it out… he can be dad AFTER she’s out.
It is who YOU want in the room. Child birth is stressful enough without having someone in there you don’t want there. Just because he is the father he isn’t entitled to be present for the birth. Make sure your nurses and birthing team know that you don’t want him in there. They will be the “bad guys” and tell him he can’t be in there.
No, he does not have the right to be there.You have been broke up with him. It is not a couple relationship any longer.Your mom deserves to be there.
One person is allowed and you want your mom there. I would just be honest.
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No offense but really your labor and birth is private and has nothing to do with him or the child. Yes the ending result is the child and then yes he can then see baby after but the actual process is none of his business 
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Nope. It is YOUR body, YOUR medical procedure, YOUR Healthcare.
YOU and you alone have the say in who is permitted to be present during your medical process. Period.
its your choice if u want him in the room, so dont feel like u hqve to just to please him x
Unless you’re having a c section, you should be allowed two people in the delivery room, you can always call L&D at your hospital for confirmation.
You want it to be a happy moment for you, if that can be supported why not have another person there for you…
he’s not even the father until they ask you for information for the birth certificate
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Exactly what I was gonna say Jesika Marie Lyons. If the mother doesn’t feel comfortable with the baby’s father being in there and she can only have one person it should be who she wants.
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He actually has no rights. The person in the delivery room is for you and the support you need.
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No he doesn’t have “the right” to be there. Nobody has the right, it’s strictly up to you as to who you want. That’s a very intimate time and only who you feel comfortable with should be there.
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I can’t believe how many people are telling you that your ex has the right to be there when you are completely exposed, and uncomfortable with the idea. He can bond with the baby after. Only people you feel comfortable and safe should be there with you. Giving birth is not a spectator sport. I even kicked out one of the nurses I wasn’t comfortable with during one of my births. Sorry, if we broke up you lost the right to see my vj under every circumstance.
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No he doesn’t have the right! These women who says he does are nuts! Your not together anymore. You have to do what’s best for you! Whatever makes you most comfortable. He’s not the one who has to push that baby out.
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Your choice, but give him a carrot. Say he will be the first to see the babe when born.
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No. He has no rights to you or the baby until he goes to court to get a paternity test and custody rights. Or until you put him on child support and get the paternity test. Not even putting him on the birth certificate gives him rights unless you give them to him. Personally, you shouldn’t put him on the birth certificate and give the child your last name. You can still take him to court for child support and if he wants to be added to the birth certificate he can pay and if he wants his last name added he can pay for that too.
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Even if you were still together, or married, it is still your choice if anyone will be in the delivery room, and who it will be. It is not an obligation to anyone! You get to choose based on how comfortable you are with them and how much support you feel you will get from them.
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No he does not have to be in the delivery room and for real that is not the time for any additional stress. If you don’t want him there all you have to do is let your doctor and or hospital staff know and they won’t let him in.
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I had my son 4 months ago and was able to have both my partner and my mum there with me. The choice is wholly up to you, however if he I’d wanting to be there for the birth of his child you should consider it because it’s such a magical thing seeing your child for the first time and seeing it happen. The fact he wants to be involved is amazing and should be atleast put under consideration
You’re definitely going to want your mom
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Nobody but you has the right to be there.
He is the father so he definitely has the right to experience the birth of his child…
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No way don’t let him
It’s ultimately your choice who you have there, whether you’re in a relationship with this guy or not. If you’re more comfortable with your mother then that’s who should be there.
If this is your first baby… you are gonna want ur mom. I couldnt have done birth the first time without my mom there. YOU get to decide who is in that room. Always know that.
Its your choice momma so what’s best for you. But i personally think momma would be best i couldnt have done it with out mine. Best of luck to you momma. And congratulations on your lil bundle of love
He doesn’t have the right to be there, no matter the relationship between the two of you. I know I threatened to kick my husband out if he kept irritating me.
If you don’t want him there he doesn’t need to be there, giving birth isn’t like walking in the park, the birth is about you and what makes YOU comfortable. If that isn’t him he can get over it.
It’s his child to not just yours. Put your feelings aside for the child!
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You’re feelings are feelings regardless of what’s going on and they are valid at all times of the day! No matter the situation! Keep your mom with you!! You do not want to be stressed out.
You need support in the delivery room. It is wonderfilthay he wants to be there for the baby, but you need peace during your labor. Maybe let him in at the very end? Or he can meet baby after the birth.
Its your choice. Your going to need to be ok with it. If him being there is going to stress you out too much then its probably best that he is not there. You want someone that is going to help you stay as calm as you can be during labor. That being said allowing him to be there to witness that special moment of his child being born is something special. In the end you need to do whats right for you.
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It is your choice. Go, have your baby, and then call him to come meet the baby.
I think he needs to be there,he was there when he put the baby in// needs to see what happens when it comes out! Might help to see what you have to go thru.
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I mean it really depends on the situation between the two of you. If having him there is going to stress you out and distract you from what’s meant to be the most momentous moment of your life and your mum is going to do the opposite then tell him that, but make sure you explain your reasons for that. I intended on having my son’s father at his birth even though I’d left him less than two months in, but it didn’t work out like that and I ended up only having the medical team there, if I could go back and make that decision again I would have had my friend that I call māmā there.
Ultimately it’s up to you & the laboring process is about you. Offer for him to wait outside the room & come in as a visitor to see the baby.
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That’s a moment you can never take back, while the child may not know who’s in the delivery room… that’s a moment that a man whims willing to be involved doesn’t deserve to miss. I think it’s worth a conversation with him, your mom, medical team. This may be one of the most importants in his life regardless of your relationship.
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Nope no way he can wait to after birth ! Tell the nurses you aren’t together and you already have a support person …
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When u go into labour don’t message him until baby is born. Problem solves
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Yes, he is the father, but you are the one delivering the baby. Going through birth is already an emotional time and very exposing, so if you dont feel comfortable with him in there while you are in active labor, then it is your choice not to have him in there. Maybe have him in the waiting room, so that when baby is delivered and you and baby are cleaned up and stable, he can come in and see the baby.
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I always chose to have my mom in the room for 2 of my babies. My hubby was always ok w it. When we moved far he was the one in the room w me for the other 3 kids💕
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In the old days when fathers waited outside the delivery room. As a result most fathers never really bonded with their kids. Witnessing birth of their child can be a life changing moment for fathers. Most become protective of both the child and mother. He needs to see what you go through to bring his child into the world to fully understand. If anything can change him into a better person, that can.
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I didn’t have the biological father to my child in the room. There is no legal or moral obligation for you to have him there. The birth involves you and your body. He will likely make it stressful and much harder to cope. Do what is right for you, because that is what is right for baby. His feelings don’t matter
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This is a decision for you to make for yourself. Think about it and go with what makes you feel better.
Any chance you can ask for two people. Your mom and him?
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It’s 100% up to you… and the nurse’s will back you up… you dont want him in he don’t go in…
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You do not have to allow him ! The hospital will back you up on your decision too. You are the one who is giving birth so you should have the support you need there.
I think you need to do exactly what makes u comfortable. You do not need to be stressed while in labor.
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It’s always up to the mama.
If you want your mom in the room then do that.
You moved out? Correct? Are you going to raise this child on your own or ask for child support?
Here’s my 2 cents since you asked for it.
That’s not just your child, it’s his child also. So he didn’t go to the boring Dr visits, my husband didn’t either. So what! Let the father be there, and stop this childish behavior. You 2 may not be good for each other, but he just might be the best father ever to that child. I had 3 with my husband, we didn’t get along much either while I was pregnant, my hormones were out of wack. We ended up divorced after the last one was 13 years old, but he was and still is the best father my children ( grown adults, 1 dead) has ever had.
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No, he doesn’t have the right, you have the right to choose whomever you want to be in the room…he has no legal right to be there and you have no ethical obligation to let him be there