Nope you are definitely not wrong!!! You stand your ground with that!
He needs to get off momas tit
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Sounds like you need a new husband
Next year see your MIL on the Saturday
You are right, it is your day also !!
Make the following weekend your weekend.
Nothing wrong with asking for the day or at least part of the day for yourself. While its sweet he is honoring his mother, taking you for granted for your daily sacrifice and understanding is wrong. The least he could do is spend a meal and a treat on your special day.
Ie. if dinner is at your MIL then Breakfast and/or lunch should be your celebration. If thats not possible then the day before or after should be your day, but to completely dismiss or minimize it is just plain wrong. How would he feel if fathers day was non existent?
Kudos for speaking up for yourself, stay strong and amazing Mama you are the best example for your children <3
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It doesn’t seem that he had any respect for you if he can take your child away from you on mother’s day … By his logic, your child is not her child, only he is. 
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You go girl next year schedule six hours at the spa
My goodness! Your man is very insensitive and cold 
towards you! It’s your day! Good you told him you aren’t going anywhere. Next time, hence he doesn’t want to give you the mother’s day, you will take it by yourself. Travel away, and come back next day, when he goes with your kids to his mom. Horrible marriage!
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I’m totally in your corner.
I completely understand you, it’s a difficult situation especially because he doesn’t see any wrong in this… I can’t even go on because it just triggers me and my sugars go up:zipper_mouth_face:
I just wish you luck, and hopefully he gets some sense knocked in to him…
Next year plan a vacation, even if it’s by yourself.
Oh you poor thing!!! You are a Mother too so you should be treated just as special as your Mother-in-law…there is no way I would stand for being treated as you are…Cmon there now Mum !!! stand your ground …where is your voice…??? Speak up…
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Your husband is a d*ck.
This sounds familiar😢
No you’re not wrong.
Not on the wrong at all. Maybe sit down with him and have a calm conversation about how just this once, can we please just focus on our little family, let’s celebrate our children. We can send your mother a great gift and make it up to her with dinner the next night or weekend. He needs to cut the apron strings and start paying attention to the wonderful woman who blessed him with children and her apron strings.
Jealous of your mother in law
I don’t get the competition.
If your a daddies girl start doing this on fathers day. He might not care though men suck that way. But maybe it will show him how your feeling. Do a bunch of ish for your dad and give him what you get which I’m assuming is nothing by your rant. And by all that is holy DO NOT WATCH OTHER PEOPLES KIDS. I would be seeing red if my mothers day was spent watching other peoples kids. And I love kids to death but that’s seems like a dig towards you a bit. Everyone gets to relax but you? Nope everybody needs to watch their own I find that more ridiculious than having you play follow the leader with mil.
Get over yourself. It’s his mother. She won’t be around forever. You will get your day from your kids. His mom should be honored by him. You sound selfish.
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I’ll say it and more than likely piss you primadonnas off. She won’t be around forever and it’s wonderful he respects and loves his Mother. You have many other days to be with him. What’s so wrong is YOU. Stop thinking Ur such a princess. P S what do you do for your Mom??? Forget it do NOT answer.
Is your husband stupid or just a bit slow or has he had a bang on the head!! He needs to cut the apron strings from his mother …you are the mother of his child …you should be his priority now and he should focus on what you want to do with him and your child only on mothers day …next time he wants to go his mothers tell him to go alone and you stay home and spend the day with your child doing things together that you love…you deserve a mothers day too … he on the other hand needs a reality check … stupid stupid man pack his backs and tell him to f**k off and think about what hes done and how hes made you feel .
In South Africa a professor in industrial psychology said:
I dont LIKE the places my wife goes to…but because I LIKE my wife…I go with her.
This my dear…is your answer.
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Yeah he should of got her some flowers and a card and always make the day about you… your the wife the mother of his kids… that’s your day just like Father’s Day is his…
Ur husband should celebrate this with u n his mom and ur mom…then its called mothers day…and all his married female siblings
Ohhh Lord stop whinning. Dont be jealous! What about your birthday?, … wedding anniversary? Im sure those two days are dedicated to you, and you only, and his mom will not fuss. A caring man will know though, that it’s in order to extend gestures of love, acknowledgement, and appreciation to his wife. But the day is for HIS mother. A nice daughter -in -law would help him to wish her happy nother’s day. You should be happy for him that he still has his mother. Six years are not a long time to be, or fussing about mother’s day. When your kid is grown, you’re gonna be cherished the same way your husband is cherishing his mom. Then you’ll sing a different tune. You live with him every day, 24/7. In my opinion its more endearing to see everyone treating their own, (or whoever else they’ve considered as) mother. Plan a vacation, or a romantic anniversary, as you would’ve already know Mother’s day is booked for his mother. And rightly so.
The fact that he even went to his mother’s and left you all along says enough to me. 
him and father’s day.
He’s a jerk. He should have made mother’s day special for you that first mother’s day you were pregnant and a mum and then every year. He sounds like a mummy’s boy. You lit tend to go over the top for what you call holidays over there. A card, a small gift like a bunch of flowers, breakfast in bed for the one you live with, maybe a lunch out but it’s not a huge big thing. I send my mum a card and a little gift for under a tenner. I phone her for a chat but that’s it.
Have you spoken to your MIL about your concerns? Maybe next year you can have her plan something halfway between the two homes and do a half day or dinner in the evening with the in-laws.
I’d get a divorce. Not even kidding.
Last comment. It’s actually all a load of bollocks to sell cards anyway. We should cherish our mums every day. I hate mother’s day. It’s the day I dread most and wish it didn’t exist. It’s not a celebration for everyone.
Your husband worships his mother but treats you as a convenience. I doubt he will change his style.
Sounds like she got what she wanted. What’s the problem? Does she feel bad now!? Well, don’t.
What about your mum? Why is it his mum that always gets the fuss? Surely all the men should be spoiling all the women on mother’s day, not just the old ones.
Plan ur mothers day the weekend before or after.
You’re not wrong next year ditch the pizza ask for a gift card to the spa mall movies whatever you like to do Let your husband take the kids off your hands and MIL can spend time with her grandkids while he does chores for her
Why can’t there be something special for you the day before?
Where is your mother?
Treat him the same way on Father’s Day
You are not wrong. Start planning your Mother’s Day for next year just like Lisa Turner - Goodell said.
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Your partner sounds like a prick…
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You are not in the wrong.
You aren’t his mother .
Mommas boy… Time for divorce
U r selfish lady his mom won’t be around forever without his mom u won’t have him think about it…wat if ur sister in law treated ur mom this way how u feel then …
It’s his mother for crying out loud the person that brought him into this earth one day ur son will also leave u to spend mother’s day with his wife nd kids nd then u will understand the pain of not being with ur kids or seeing them on that special day…just saying tho
He’s teaching your kids to disrespect you. Do you have to wait for her to die to get appreciated?
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Yes you need your day. However, don’t you think all 'these days that are celebrated ’ are actually senseless and have been started to ‘sell emotions’. Mothers and fathers should be respected and appreciated everyday in small way like 'thank you, we’ll done, let’s do this together '. This adds more value to a marriage and kids. Let him celebrate Mother’s day with him mum as she’s had this celebration longer than you (she’s older) and you don’t need it. By making fuss, she wins everytime. Play along for a day, then your relationship with your husband and his family will be better… my thoughts and feelings on this DAY STUFF which doesn’t mean anything. Good luck dear. .
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No you’re definitely not wrong. You should be celebrated and not just used as a babysitter for everyone else on Mother’s Day. I’ve had a similar issue with my birthday and Mother’s Day (never getting celebrated) too. They’re within the same week of each other. Last year I got pissed and kind of ignored everyone for a few days, this year my husband and kids actually did something for my birthday and Mother’s Day. It was nice to finally feel some sort of appreciation and celebration. Honestly, you should stick to your guns. Tell your husband that you’ve been a mom for 6 years and haven’t been celebrated or felt appreciated on Mother’s Day not even once, and that his mom had her years of raising kids and being celebrated, she can still be celebrated every year for Mother’s Day but his main focus should be you, the mother of his children, now.
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I get to do whatever I want for mothers day. I usually go to a garden center & buy my annuals and vegetables. I used to go to the cemetery with my mom to her moms grave and plant flowers.
It’s been 3 mothers days without my mom and I can’t seem to go to the cemetery.
My MIL (who I love dearly♥️) lives in Puerto Rico and if she happens to be here for mothers day, she spends it with her 2 daughters.
Pick your battles wisely. Maybe do breakfast/ brunch with your hubby and kids. Dinner with MIL? I never go out to eat on mothers day. Too crowded. We do the friday before. 
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Your fault for letting it go on for 6 years.
Don’t back off!
Ask for what you want and stick to it.
Decide now that next year you will visit her on Saturday, so you can have your child with you in your special day!
Does your MIL have a spare room? Maybe time for sonny boy, to move back home!
And quite honestly SHAME on your husband!! You are the MOTHER of HIS children. He could totally be a role model for your kids while getting you gifts, making you a special breakfast etc, essentially SHOWING them how express love and gratitude for all you do for your family. He could then show them how he shows love for his own mother when everyone goes visit her. He and his brothers could do all the cooking and/or pick up food for EVERYONE to eat while visiting and relaxing. The mommy-wants projects could be done on a different day.
Wow…just wow. That’s messed up and it should be about you too, not always about her.
I get him wanting to do something for his mom every year but you are his family now and you’re the mother of his children…
Nope. Youre a mum too and you deserve a bit of you time. Spend time with your own family first then go see mother in law later in the day. Its no biggie. Your mum matters just as much as his. Plan it before hand with hubby and the kids. Make it fun while planning it cos its a day of happiness and celebration for mums who gave all their love to all ther kids.
He’s the asshole. Once you’re married with kids, Mother’s Day is about the mother of HIS children NOT his mom.
My Grandma was the matriarch of our family. We celebrated my Mom and gave flowers, cards, gifts in the morning and then headed to Mass. After Mass we went over to my Grandma’s house to celebrate my Grandma, my aunts and my Mom (essentially all the Moms). My Grandma didn’t make it about her the way this MIL has selfishly done. The MIL has completely turned a blind eye to the fact that she is no longer the only mother in the family. Shame on her.
I have an idea 
! Why don’t ALL of the Moms in the family choose a place centrally located to meet for the day? The guys take care of the kids and foot the bill. It is NOT only about his mother and that nonsense should have ended 6 years ago.
Then make it your dad’s day on father’s day! 
No, his Mom not yours…where is your Mom in this equation
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You seem to be entitled, self-centered, you would do your hubby a favor, set him free.
You are not wrong, next year let them know well in advance they are on their own that day YOU will be taking a day to yourself.
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I love that your kids have that kind of example!
His mother must be something special lol he’ll no!! im glad you stayed home hopefully you relaxed n did wat you wanted to…you don’t owe her shit!!
If you’re a mom, the you deserve to get spoiled to, especially by the person who made you a mother.
You deserve a mother’s day too! Go get pampered, you deserve it. Go get a massage, get ur mani pedi and wine 
You aren’t in the wrong at all. He needs to get over his mother.
I think you need a day just for you too though
Mad at your husband for doing for HIS mother on MOTHERS Day??? Smh
You are NOT his mother. You are the mother of his child.
You are wrong
You are absolutely right.
Fark!! Kotahi te kupu!! Compromise!!!
I’d leave his sorry ass
Your husband is a jerk. He MIGHT be a good son, but he sucks as a husband.
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Your right. Good for you, Mom!!!
No you’re not wrong. Your mother’s to his kids and he should be honoring you because this is a day set aside specifically for you and not necessarily his mother. He should be giving you flowers and maybe a nice little gift. It’s not about his mother anymore oh, well he should honor his mother and maybe send her some flowers yeah, but he needs to recognize that you are also a mother and that you need to have a little bit of recognition for that fact. I think you’re right. My father’s days, just ignore him and go see his father see how he likes it. Tell him what he’s a father all year long what’s his problem. Is your father 24 hours a day get to see his kids every day so why should you honor him? We get to go see your father and honor him on his day. See how he likes it
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Putting yourself in one side and his mom on the other is a lost battle. Remember your 6 year old is watching and learning. One day your husband will appreciate what you did, or remember thkse fights. Choose your battles wisely
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I always made sure that my Mother and my Mother in law were honored mother’s day. The day has come when they are no longer with us and I miss them very much.
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I so understand. I spent every holiday with my in laws except two. I did tell my husband after awhile that we need to compromise. I chose Saturday and did his Mom on Sunday.
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I think your husband should have taken you and your children out to eat at a place you choose. Than afterward drop by to visit his Mom with some flowers.
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You are right you should have a Mother’s Day with your child he’s afraid if his mother
Mother’s Day is a commercial construct. Pick another day to celebrate you. I could care less about my being celebrated on Mother’s Day. It’s how I’m treated the rest of the year that matters most.
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Your husband and should teach your children to honor you.
We teach our kids by example … As a mother , I see that whatever my kids see me do is internalized much more deeply… Also , I feel my kids’ genuine appreciation now that they are teens, which is what I really want… Yes, we all need to feel appreciated , but also love is a daily practice and is not confined to a single day … all that being said , there’s nothing against establishing a tradition in which you are celebrated first at home , however you see fit, before you visit with your in-laws. I believe that the time kids are all grown ups is when we really need to feel loved and celebrated , so pay it forward. 
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Don’t you have a mother to honor? It will be your turn when your children honor you. Meanwhile do something that both you and she will enjoy together.
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No you’re not wrong my first mother-in-law insisted pit we come over every Sunday for lunch rest of the holidays. We had to go over to her house for at least 2 hours on Thanksgiving 2 hours on Christmas 2 hours on Easter and it got to where I hated the any holiday because she always wanted us to come over for lunch you can’t do this we Squat and stop at lunch and go for your mother-in-law you need time to your mom get your own family tradition started now are you baby is still a baby because when your mother-in-law passes it’s going to be a really hard time to come up with the traditions for your family and not your mother-in-law’s maybe you could work it out where every other holiday you can celebrate with her and then and next year have your own holiday if your husband has other brothers and sisters maybe they can rotate in good luck after a while I really resented my sons are in law hope it doesn’t happen to you
Her day on Saturday and yours on Sunday
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To be honest next Mother’s Day treat yourself to a day off… spend the 6 or so hours getting your hair done… or nails if that’s your thing… buy something new to wear and go out for lunch, do a hobby… but treat yourself.
Let him babysit and enjoy!
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I know how you feel, I finally spoke up this year too! I got Saturday with my husband and daughter, then visited his Mom Sunday. Every other year it was pick her up in the morning and drop her off in the evening…i never got my own time… and this was the year to change that. And yeah, my husband also got annoyed with me which also resulted in a tiff…but he later understood what I was saying and agreed that I deserved my own time.
Doing my own day and her own day was so much nicer!
It’s not that I don’t get along with my MIL… I see her weekly, always have. I just finally decided that I was rightfully ready to change the yearly routine. Your not wrong for feeling the way you do. Your husband needs to consider you as much as he does his mother.
My daughter is 23 and this is my first one to spend it with just my her and my husband doing what we wanted to do. I wish I would’ve spoke up a long time ago.
Good luck and hope you get a Mother’s Day you deserve, next year.
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She’s a smother mother
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Compromise, it’s not that hard!
Good on you you have a say in your own life 
All throughout my married life…it was all about my MIL. I didnt mind. She did all the cooking n entertaining. Then, my little family goes home with the bag of leftover goodies. My hubby was an only child and my son is the only grandchild. It is a win-win for me. In fact I NEVER COOKED in any holiday during my entire marriage. But, I volunteer to put the dishes in the washer. As long as I get a “happy mother’s day” greeting with gift n card…that was enough for me…let my MIL be the queen .
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Nope you do mothers day however you want… that being said he should also be able to do mothers day without guilt… have mothers day for 2 days in a row…one for her and 1 for you
Hell no, whst kind of a husband doesnt shower the MOTHER OF HIS CHILDREN WITH LOVE ON “MOTHERS DAY”… thats one self absorbed man your married to ! 72…
Time to cut the apron strings . And plan a great mom day for you . Spa day, nice lunch, a trip somewhere. Have fun!
Switch off. Next year, spend Saturday with her and Sunday with your kids. Then next year, spent Saturday w your kids and Sunday w her. I always make it a Mothers Day weekend, not just day. Inlaws and step parents involved, it just seems fair. Weve done that for Christmas Eve/Day,Thanksgiving etc. It works
You deserve to be treated well but his mom does too. I wouldn’t want a man that didn’t treat his mom well. You take Saturday or Friday let her have Sunday. She’s older. Stop being oppositional and be honored you have a man that loves and respects his mom
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This literally is the most manipulating thing and it needs to stop. It isn’t healthy and it could eventually make you get a divorce because of all the built up hurt it causes… His mother should want you to be celebrated as a mom too , and the fact that your husband doesn’t even correctly acknowledge that You are the mother of His Child and appreciate you is baffling… ugh … Stand up for yourself and stop taking that crap!
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I would look at it this way. She may not have many more Mother’s Days to have with her son. You on the other hand, will have many more to celebrate after she’s gone. If you don’t want to go that’s fine, but it won’t look very good. But if you’re ok, with that, then fine. We spent every Mother’s Day with my mom. It wasn’t about me, it was about her. Later, when her kids are older, it will be about her.
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Do you celebrate Father’s Day for him? If so remind him of that and if he still wants to be that way then cancel it for him as well and go celebrate your father. Just saying he should remember what’s good for the goose is good for the gander.
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