Absolutely not wrong for wanting a Mothers Day to yourself!!! You deserve it!!! If your husband cant be supportive of you then hes got a problem!!!
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My first Mother’s Day my husband did nothing for me. I was devastated. When I asked him why he forgot me he said “you’re not my mother.”
I cried.
I also told our Pastor, who laughed in his face and said “ Big rookie mistake !”
26 years later, and he’s never forgotten since.
I don’t understand why it is so hard for men to celebrate their wives just like they celebrate their own mothers on Mother’s Day. 
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Yep you did! Next year you celebrate on Saturday with your kids & husband and his mom gets Sunday. Your mother in law will not be around forever. Please don’t ask your husband to choose between you & his mom. Not fair to him, or your kids. That way no one will have any regrets when she’s gone. Then when your kids have kids they will know how do handle Mothers Day with no hurt feelings. I was married 43 years. So I really understand!
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What I don’t understand is that when you married and had children your parents are still precious but new life has top billing. Wife should be number one in his life. Husband should be number one in the wife’s life. Your loyalty and concerns are your priority.
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Well being the mom of adult children and not seeing them often…It meant a lot to me that they all visited me on Mother’s Day Weekend. But, I do remember a few get togethers that I felt like the babysitter to everyone there’s children…Just don’t do that…watch your own and let them watch theirs.
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We always went to my Mother-in-laws house for every holiday and special occasion. I just wish she was still here so we could still honor her. She was the best. I think one reason I was attracted to my late husband was his love and respect for his Mother. I never felt neglected at all. I wanted to teach my son to love his family so I wanted to set a good example. I’m sorry you feel that you are not getting the recognition that you definitely deserve as a Mother. Most likely you will outlive your husband’s Mother and will have many Mothers Days with your family without her. I hope your children will be happy to honor you always. Please don’t feel bad about your Mother-in-law getting attention. She deserves your love and respect. After all without her you wouldn’t have your husband.
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You aren’t wrong. This year, we saw my mother in law the day before Mother’s Day. Then went to my Nana’s on Mother’s Day. For me? It was just another day :-/ . Time to come up with an alternate plan to give you a day too!
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You were not wrong! It is important to take turns celebrating. There is nothing wrong with also planning mothers day at YOUR house one year. And if his excuse is how she doesnt see her kids everyday, boohoo. She can drive to your house to visit.
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absolutely not I stay home and enjoy my time while he goes to see his Mom I decided one day I was thru visiting with his family
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Absolutely not! You deserve to do what you want. Stay home and relax! Don’t feel guilty!
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Ohhhhhhh I would have flipped My wig on my husband and my in-laws I would tell her you don’t get mother’s day any more you get grandparents day sorry for your luck and asfor the husband he wants to be up mommy’s butt he can can stay there is rather be married to a man who respects his wife an mother of his children, they one who takes care of him his home and family on the daily
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Selfish. That’s his Mother. She’s older He only gets one Mother. You are mad because you asked for a pizza and decided to stay home. I don’t get it. When your kids are older, maybe you will understand the meaning of Mothers Day.
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How about on Father’s Day you drag him and the kids to YOUR fathers house and only dote on YOUR father and if he throws a fit🤷♀️leave him home alone for 6 hours and see how he likes it
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No you aren’t. If she was any kind if mother in law. She would understand that she isn’t the only mother in the family.
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What I don’t understand is why all the mothers can’t celebrate together. I always shared mother’s day with my mom and mother in law. It was like one big happy family. None of the mothers had top billing.
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I don’t want to take sides on who is right or wrong. As that’s not the question, you could probably dedicate a day before mother’s day for his mother and dedicate the mother’s day for your own family time. It would be best to just work out an alternative that works for everyone. You deserve your special day too so ask for it. Good luck
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Absolutely you are not wrong. Your husband seems a bit insensitive to the mother of his children. Next year … If he insists on taking care of his mother, then take a spa day or day out with other mothers. That’s what we did.
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Oh. My. God. I am so sorry. Maybe remind him the reason he knows how to treat his mother right on Mother’s day is because someone taught him. Just like it is now HIS responsibility to teach his (your) children about Mothers day and treating you right. What he is teaching your kids right now with his actions is that you don’t matter. Maybe ask him if you could split the day… Go to brunch with her and dinner for you? Or maybe breakfast for you and dinner with her? It would be a start. Or even split the wknd. Sat with his Mom Sunday for you?
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So many mixed responses. But what I think a lot of people are failing to see is that your children are watching how their own mother is treated. Yes, your mother in law is your husbands mom, and should be honored, but where does that leave you? You will always take a back burner to your kids and gma will always come first. Compromise, and give up the actual day, claim Saturday as your mother’s day, and in this situation, you’ll be spoiled on Saturday, and either have the day to yourself on Sunday, or get to enjoy being with family!
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The first Mother’s Day that was all about me was last year, after my mother-in-law passed away. It took 32 years of waiting. We saw hubby’s parents every Sunday from the time we got married, other than a brief time we lived too far away to do that. Never got to spend it with my mom as they lived 90 miles away. I will say that when we got home in the evening, hubby and kids have always done something for me for Mother’s Day, just had to wait a few hours.
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Although you are not wrong, I feel like the conversation about mother’s day could have been initiated a little better than its was 
Perhaps next year you can discuss it and make “Mothers day weekend” plans for you on one day and his mom on the other…or a mutually agreed upon same day.
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I’m so sorry that happened and it’s just wrong. My mother in law every year says we can do whatever we want and her door is open if we want to come but she would not be upset if we don’t. We go as it’s our choice and she lives down the street. If your husband can’t say no to her for at least one year, then he’s in the wrong. I understand that’s his mother but you are his wife and mother to his kids. If you all traded years ex: one year home one year with her, I would say ok.
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You now need to discuss this with him so that he makes next Mother’s Day about both of you. It sounds like he needed this year’s wake up call. 
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Try to plan a nice day with your Mother in-law so you both enjoy it. Or, ask your husband if you can spend the day with her on Saturday and have Sunday to yourselves. Truth is, she won’t always be here. Don’t make your husband have regrets.
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I had this problem for years. It was always “this could be her last Mother’s Day, this could be her last Christmas, this could be her last whatever. It’s a hard place to be. After years we just decided to do every other year and then do a weekend before or after to help her celebrate. Compromise so there’s no hard feelings. She needs to respect your a mom too.
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You’re THE mother to HIS kids. You should be prioritized. He made a family with you. He should act as such.
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If his Mother’s Birthday is 2 weeks before Mother’s Day On that day celebrate both! and you have your Mother’s day with your family
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Your feelings are valid. It doesn’t sound like you don’t want him to spend time with his Mom on Mother’s Day, but still make special time for you also. You can’t make people do anything or feel a certain way. It’s your day and do what makes you feel better special. Take some me time. I wouldn’t go either.
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Unfortunately you are both right!! Try having an alternate Mother’s Day. Maybe the weekend before. Then the next year you have your day on the real one and switch! I feel like every Mother’s Day actually ends up being more work for me! I just remind myself that it’s the thought that counts!
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With both my mother and my Husbands mother alive both our Dads have passed. So we do them on Mother’s Day and my husband and I and daughter do my Mother’s Day on Saturday.
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He may want to go see his mother. BUT your child or children should have spent the day with YOU. It’s “Mother’s Day, and you shouldn’t spend it alone JIST LIKE HIS MOTHER DIDN’T!!!
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It’s time for your husband to man up and let you have your day.
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You should be top priority for Mother’s Day. His mom can be celebrated the day before or weekend before. Sometimes families have a family dinner, celebrating all moms in the family. My sons are married and call me on Mother’s Day. Sometimes they send gifts, but a call of recognition is all I need.
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Nope not wrong. Next year you and your kids do something together and he can go visit his mom. Sad he thinks nothing about the mother of his kids. Very selfish.
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When he got married, he left his mother and father to become one with you. He can appreciate his mother, but his wife is most important. My mother in law gets a phone call and my husband celebrates me. Yes I say it’s about time he celebrates you.
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Just remember Mother’s Day is always before Fathers Day. If he can’t make your day about you be damn sure his day won’t be about him or what he wants. NOT A CARD!!
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Might have been good to talk about the day, before it happened. Tell him your feelings. Find out what he plans for YOUR Mothers day.
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no…your husband was very unfair to you. He should have tried to figure a way to honor you both. If his mom doesn’t like that idea …she wants it to be only her way, maybe you stay home one year and go to her house the next…rotate.
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I was married to someone whose mom was number 1 & I was about number 4, so, I understand your concerns. I’m now divorced and get to take care of me. My son is 23 & we have a great relationship, that’s what is important
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I think it’s horrible that his mother expects her kids to perform strenuous manual labor on Mother’s Day. Most mother’s days I’ve ever celebrated involved food, visiting, stories and laughter. Fun activities for the kids and cocktails for the adults. It’s about relaxing and enjoying each other’s company. That’s what I’d be livid about.
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The ONLY thing you did wrong was letting YOUR child go with him. You should have kept your child home to do Mother’s Day with you!!! He is the father, not the mother and his mother is the grandmother, NOT the mother. Next year plan something for just the two of you.
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When my mother in law was living we spent ever holiday including Mother’s Day with her. Oh, how I wish I could spend holidays with her still. I always made Mother’s Day special for her and never felt like I was left out even though I had two sons myself, her grandsons, that she loved.
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I have promised my children I will never make them choose. I’ve “shared” both of my adult children the past few holidays with their boyfriend’s/girlfriend’s families on numerous holidays. My husband worked shift work for almost 22 years. His crazy work schedule taught us to be flexible and to go with the flow. Being with my children is just as special two days after Mother’s Day, as is celebrating Mother’s Day on the actual holiday. We’ve celebrated Christmas two days late, Thanksgiving three days early, Father’s Day a week early, etc. Anytime I spend with my children is precious. I don’t need a holiday for that.
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I think I had my first (in 40 years) Mother’s Day mostly alone. My mom & mother in law are both passed. Since they’re gone I share the day with my daughter & 2 daughters in law. I don’t expect anyone to dote on me but I certainly enjoy celebrating all of us together.
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Maybe you can plan something that includes all the moms. She is his Mom but you are the mother of his children and you both deserve to be acknowledged. I don’t think it’s fair for either one of you to have the day to yourself.
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I feel the priority should go to those who are actively raising children
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We always traveled a distance to see my mother in law for many occasions. IAM GLAD WE DID SHE WAS A WONDERFUL LADY.
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I know a lot of people will think I’m wrong on this but to be honest I don’t believe a husband should put his wife first when it comes to his mother mom’s are only here for a short amount of time I love my soon-to-be mother-in-law and my fiance is amazing he made sure that both his mother and I were both taken care of even though I’m not his child’s mother. I spent the last two years with my mother-in-law and I did all the cooking and cleanup for the family there is at least nine of us there and I would not have changed it one bit. I understand your hurt feelings but please keep in mind his mom is only here for a short while longer you have the rest of your life with him plan a special day the weekend before the weekend after 4 just you and him or you him in your kids and let his mom have Mother’s Day. Because one day Mom won’t be there and then everyone will live with the regrets
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This year I put my foot down too. For the past 8 years I’ve spent mother’s running from house to house or restaurant to restaurant. This year I told my husband several weeks before Mother’s Day that it’s usually exhausting and I just wasn’t going to stretch myself thin as I’m already juggling so much with work, hybrid learning etc. I told him I was making plans to see my mom and grandma on Saturday and asked if he could do the same for his mom, so we could have a relaxing day. It took him a few days to come around, but he got more time with his mom on Saturday and we all had a relaxing Sunday. A new tradition!
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Sorry, you’re not your husband’s mother! His mom is just like mom is your mom. Shame on you if you didn’t spend Mother’s Day with your own mom. I do agree that if your children are small, he could of have given you something. You shouldn’t be jealous of the relationship that your husband has with his mother!
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My husband and his sisters take their mom out on the Saturday. That way they spend time with their moms and then they get their own mothers days and I get my day with my husband and family.
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This is why all this special holidays have become all about “me,me.me.” I am a mother, and a mother in law. My kids make my day special, but they also make their spouses day special. I get breakfast, they get brunch with their children as it should be. Then we all come together and have dinner as a family. I don’t need gifts, flowers etc. I get those during the year. What I do want for Mother’s Day is peace within the family, not drama. Even though your are not his mother, you are the reason he is a father. Sad when families can’t come together and celebrate such a beautiful day. I have to understand that my DIL is the mother of my grandchildren and for that I am blessed.
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I am always willing to do any holiday on any day❣️ I don’t want my kids torn apart with adults fighting🥰 Being a single mom for so long you learn to compromise🌸 It’s about being together not a certain day🙏🏻
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I have the reverse of this issue. I dont get to see my sons. Their wife chooses all visits, she has to see her mother, which live near her where I am 3 hours away. Not many holidays either. I dont understand why women who have sons, have loose touch just because they get married. I realize they have their own family but seems to me they could share. I cry every mothers day. Oh they call or send a card. I have learned to be happy to get that. I love my sons and dont want to cause problems, it is very hard sometimes.
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Remember this it’s Mother’s Day, not wife day! You only ever have one real Mother. If you have small children then it would be nice for him to maybe get a gift from them, to you. One day your children will get older and you will be appreciate on Mother’s Day as you should.
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We do mother’s day the Saturday before mother’s day with my mom, mother in law and sister in laws…we make it very special…the men cook or pick up…on Sunday is my day…we go to church and I come back and get into my pj’s and he picks up what I want to eat… then he goes to see’s his mom if he wants for 4 hrs to let me watch my hallmark movies or take a nap…he picks up dinner with the kids and we eat and watch a movie…before it was going to my mom, then his mom and there goes my mother day. I started to have resentment until I told him of the changes…he didn’t like it at the beginning but I claimed my day…
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I have three sons. One son and his wife came on Friday ,another son and his wife couldn’t make it, maybe he wanted to spend with his wife and that’s perfectly fine with me. He called me on Mothers day and said he would see me on Thursday, fine. My other son isn’t married and I saw him on Mother’s day after he and his son spent time with his son’s mother and family. Never had a mother’s day at home when they were young , always at my mothers and my mother in-laws. Now they come to mine and their in-laws. Show your children how to share their time and love. The outcome will be in your favor later.
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I would tell him you deserve to be honored too. Even if your special day has to be on Saturday (or whatever works best). His children need to learn to honor their own mother and not just their grandmother.
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You guys should go to his moms one year and the next year, stay home and have one for yourself because it’s not fair for you. Try to compromise a bit? I know it can be hard and I went through the same thing with my hubby and thanksgiving. One year we go to his family’s house, the next we have it at my parents house.
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His allegiance should be to his wife! Period! Send his mom flowers, visit her the day before…figure it out!
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I raised three boys , alone ,
I raised them with the saying a son is a son till he takes a wife… but a daughter is a daughter for all of her life…I have three very happy daughters in law…my boys ( all in their late 30s and 40s still call me and do nice things for me. But in my mind their wives are their number one priority…
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Im sorry that you are even having to deal with this issue.
In my opinion once you leave home and you marry and start a family your immediate family comes first. Meaning: You come before Mommie Dearest now first and foremost especially if you have children with this said husband.
I’ve been blessed with a dear husband. He has always put me first. I love his mother dearly, and we always send a card and call if we are not able go visit. But we’ve always lived far away.
I think you are right for standing your ground. I also think you should’ve gone and done something you enjoy. A movie, shopping a dinner. You deserve it.
I’ll also add I have a son and he has children and I expect him to give to her first.
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I would have kept your child home with you as he or she is not your MIL’s child. It’s Mother’s Day, let HER child go be with her if he wants but YOUR child should be with you. Then plan a fun day for you & your child.
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My husband once told me that I wasn’t his mother! I said, no but I’m the mother of your children!
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A good mother in law would would recognize you has a mother too and from the sound of it, it’s all about her. I was married to a man that was a mamas boy and nothing I did pleased her. It was very incentive of him to say that you got what you wanted. You are the mother to his children, your feelings matter to. God Bless you, pray it gets better for you.
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Ok here’s what I think…Iam not my husbands mother…and I don’t like sharing a special day like that … it should be with your children…when her kids get older surely they will see her on her day…and the husband is teaching his kids that yes you respect your mom on Mother’s Day…that’s why he’s at HIS MOTHERS…
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I know it might of been hard for you but take it from someone who has lost her mom, wish I could see my mom and call her and someday your child will want to be with you because your the mom.
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My husband always makes me feel special for Mother’s Day . And he always gets me something from him and something from the kids. I’ve never heard “you’re not my mother” thankfully. We usually celebrate me in the morning . Then split the day with his mom and mine.
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No honey, you are not wrong. Sounds like he needs to realize that you are important too. I wonder how he would feel if you made Father’s Day all about your dad and not him. Yes, his mom is important, but so are you. You brought his child/ her grandchild into the world. You need to have days where it is about you too, not just his mom. Also, spend time with your child without him or your mil. If your husband and mil always make everything about her and you’re stuck being a baby sitter, not even being recognized as a mother as well, they are selfish, not you. You don’t always have to go to your MIL’s. It is not required to go every time.
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I have been a Mom for 16 years. My Mother in law has been gone for 8 years and this was the first one without my Mother. What I wouldn’t do to have one more with either of those precious ladies. Maybe suggest a compromise. Go to her house you pick lunch and she picks dinner… next year do the opposite
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My mother in law passed a few years ago. No matter what day of the year it is celebrate the love you have for one another. Compromise with your husband. Maybe celebrate the day before for you and then celebrate with his mom the next or vise versa. Stop watching all the kids.
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I refuse to get worked up over a day on a calendar. My children are free. Free to do as they please. I know they love me. They show me that all year long. I loved my Mother in Law. I wish I had her back but I know she is happy in heaven. We celebrate when we can be together. When we can’t I am glad they are well and happy. Their wives have mothers too. They need time with their daughters. It doesn’t take anything from me. I choose to be happy. It is always our choice.
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No, you are right!! I would tell him if his Mom means more to him than honoring the mother of his children then he needs to go back and live with her.
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So come next Mother’s Day, (if you’re still together) and he pulls this, and insists that you are not his mother. Let him go to his mother’s, you take your children and do mother’s day. And if he wants to fuss because you are spending that time with your kids instead of him taking them to his mom’s, let him know that “You are their mother, She is not, tell him he can spend mother’s day with his mom, but you will spend it with your kids”. Some men can be such momma’s boys that they can’t even show love and support to their wives, demand it from him. You deserve to be respected, loved and supported. If you are good enough to cook his meals, clean his house, keep his bed warm at night and be a Mother to his children, you are dang sure good enough to be celebrated, shown respect and love and given support. If he continues to be be so cold, then give him back to his mother for mother’s day.
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I believe that Mother’s Day was meant to celebrate the mother’s that are currently in the trenches wiping noses, tying shoes and sitting up wide awake praying their new driver makes it home safe. I believe that years ago…grandmother’s would say to their sons, “Go celebrate with your wife!” That doesn’t mean grandmothers aren’t important. They truly are. But you are important too.
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You are definitely NOT in the wrong. Gawd I hate a mommy’s boy. You’re his #1 priority now and he needs to act accordingly.
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I’m sorry that happened to you. If it makes you feel better my husband doesn’t do anything for me either. Now granted our child is only two but it still hurts not being recognized. My hisband claims that it brings up too many memories of his own mother who passed away a few years ago. I know her memory is hard for him but sometimes it would be nice if he appreciated things I do for him and our child.
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I do not blame you being frustrated. It’s sad, imo, that your husband is so intent on his mother but less intent on the mother of his own children. Why can’t Mothers Day be about more than just his Mom? Why can’t it be about her AND all her children’s wives?
However, you knew what you were doing when you made your decision so you shouldn’t be surprised there was some fallout. If I were you I would be trying to communicate with your husband and without anger or frustration, try to come up with a solution that fulfills both his desire to recognize his mother as well as your desire for recognition.
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Both my children do everything they can to honor me for Mother’s Day. My oldest grandson sent me flowers and the dinner we had catered in to my daughter’s house was wonderful. I praise my daughter and daughter-in-law for being the wonderful mothers that they are by teaching my grandchildren to be good, kind and loving people.
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I fully understand since we did that for years. This last year she turned 100 & died in Nov. Although I loved her, it would have been nice to have a few times to celebrate me. I never complained. This year was delightful getting blessed by my family! Made it all worthwhile! My you could celebrate with her on the day before & with you on Mother’s Day. That way you’d both be blessed!
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This makes me so sad. Sad he doesn’t try to celebrate you, sad his mom doesn’t ask or take into consideration to share the day with you. We live super far away so his mom gets a phone call, but he always celebrates me since ours aren’t old enough to do things alone. I don’t think you’re in the wrong. I think he still needs to accommodate his mom though. But it’s a balance where he should try to plan something that involves both of you
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Personally I think you should talk to your mother in-law and explain how you feel. Make a plan for next year now so everyone can get on board. Or do your mother’s day the day before. There’s room to compromise. I understand how you feel but I think you went about it wrong. I don’t have my Mama around anymore and who knows how long your MIL will be around. Cherish all the moments you can as family should
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As a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law myself, we invited everyone to our house to celebrate the day. I chose to honor my DILas well as my MIL and both got a gift of appreciation. My DIL deserves respect and kindness since she not only puts up with my son, but also is the mother of my grandchildren. There needs to be respect all the way around. However I feel your situation could have been handled a little differently. You could have had a civil discussion a few weeks beforehand stating how he has made you feel, or reach out to your MIL and discuss different plans
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My husband always tells me "you’re not my mother"after two children, 3 grandchildren and 59 yrs of marriage. Years ago he didn’t give me so much as a card. So I sent myself a beautiful flower arrangement with a card that said “love you so very much!” No signature…when he came home I thanked him for the beautiful flowers! May be time to do it again!!
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Interesting back-and-forth discussion. Every family has to figure out how to celebrate all holidays with their extended families and then respect and appreciate the time together.
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His momma won’t be around forever she is the reason you are a mother she had your husband and you will have many more mother days, and remember your child will one day be a parent, how will you feel if your child decided not to spend time with you?
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Where is her mom ? Does she ever go to see her mom? When my kids were small we did a family outing that includes his mom and mine. When the kids got older mothers day was my day off. I could do whatever I wanted. No cooking or cleaning or anything else I didn’t want to do. Now they all are grown and have family of their own. I cherish the phone calls I get. Be careful what you wish for.
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You will someday have your Mother’s Day to yourself . You will be the Mother in law waiting for her kids to come visit for a day . I had the same thing . Now I tell my daughter to enjoy her Day how she wants.
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This year my husband cooked dinner for me and his mom and cleaned the kitchen afterwards. She picked the dinner and I didn’t have to clean up! Win win
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There could have been a good compromise such as the kids make you breakfast in bed and then he takes them over to see his mother in the afternoon. We live 10 min away from my MIL, and before that we lived across the street from my mother, so we usually just split the day. Frankly, I love the peace and quiet when my husband takes the kids over to his mom’s for an hour or two. I can go for a walk, take a nice hot shower, watch a show, or just nap.
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Not at all. The husband is insensitive to your feelings.
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Those who have young children are the active moms who need to have a day off and be with their husband and children to do whatever makes them happy. We retired folks have most days to do what we want. All I hope for is a card and telethon call.
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I’m sorry, but Mother’s day is a day for children to honor their mother. That’s what your husband does. There’s nothing wrong with that. Yes, you’re the mother of his child. My husband and I always spent Mother’s day with our mothers, and he did something special for me the day before. Neither of us have our mothers anymore. If you don’t want to be “stuck” at his mom’s for hours, drive separately, meet them at the restaurant and then go back home after. Or don’t go at all. But it’s wrong to expect him not to be with his mother on Mother’s day.
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As soon as my siblings and I became parents, my parents no longer expected us to celebrate holidays such as Mother’s Day or Father’s Day on the exact day. We celebrate with our own families and then we chose a different day for us as siblings to take our parent out and treat them to dinner. Maybe this is something your husband can start doing. You deserved to be celebrated and showered also.
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Mother’s Day doesn’t have to be celebrated just on Sunday! We spread it out so that everyone gets a bit of time to be celebrated during the Mother’s Day week/ weekend. Life is too short. No one has to be left out.
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We always celebrated at my mother in laws house every year. I felt she is older and I would probably out live her, then it would be my turn to enjoy Mother’s Day with my kids and husband. My mother passed away when I was 17 years old.
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You did the right thing. Stick to your guns !!! Your husband should be seeing it your way. And letting you stay home or go where you want to go. He is dead wrong to make it all about his mother. He isn’t helping at all.
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Mother’s Day to me is spending time with my children and husband. My Mama has passed, but if she were alive the day was hers and I didn’t mind taking a back seat! But I never felt that way. Having our family in the same city I coordinate dinner times and/or days. As another post stated, it’s all about compromise. If in the years to come my son’s and DIL want to host, that’s fine too! I can share the spotlight for a day! With busy work lives we don’t get to spend time with our families like generations past did. These traditional celebrations were wonderful. Treasure them now.
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Why can’t all the mothers be celebrated together? This year we had three generations of mothers celebrated at my house on Saturday, because that’s when we could all be together. My husband and two sons planned, executed, and cleaned up lunch for my daughter-in-law, me and my mother-in-law. It was a wonderful day. Maybe next year her husband can plan a nice meal for the mothers in the family and host at his house. It’s about being with the ones you love.
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I always had both my mother and mother in-law to our home for Mother’s Day, we all pitched in with the food and we celebrated together.
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