I made my daughter donate 1 of her presents to Toys for Tots, it really helped shape behavior and instill ways to help others
No. Our kids only get one gift from Santa. If they act up we will take away a gift from us. I don’t want to ruin their magic!
Yep. Told my son if his grades werent passing he wasent getting xmas from me(santa) or grandparents. All grades are now passing except 1!!
I tell my kids Santa is coming if they are good. And that the grinch will come steal their presents if they are bad.
I got coal one year. Killed me… that said, it didnt change my behavior and gave me a I dont give a F attitude.
Dont take Santa away. That’s not going to help.
No, but last year I literally flipped out and ripped the huge real Christmas tree down will all the lights still attached (took balls and Garland off) and threw it out the front door, drug it down to the fire pit and later burned it and said Christmas was canceled. My kids were constantly fighting and not listening. I was going to return their toys and stuff too, but decided not to and we got another real tree a few days before Christmas. They’re better behaved this year… 
they’re 6 and 9 this year.
My brother in law did it one year. My niece woke up to no gifts and her sister cried because there were gifts for her and not her sister, lol
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Here comes the hate…but I did this one year with my oldest. He was acting up and as we were there to see santa, he just would not quit so his siblings got to take a picture but he didnt. It hasn’t scarred him for life, he doesnt even remember it, but I feel as though it did help. Seeing santa is a priviledge and something that can be denied at any time🤷♀️
Kids get excited this time of yr. With that comes some occasional bad behavior…
Taking Santa away is pretty harsh & often its what kids look forward to most every yr and especially this yr.
We also never know how much time we have left on earth.
What if this were your childs last Christmas? Or yours?
What memory do you want them to remember? Or yourself.
By all means give consequence and flow thru…
But dont take Christmas… you will regret it.
Kill a fly with a bomb! The punishment should fit the crime! Not takeaway a fantasy because it will prove a point to you! It’s a mean thing to do. You must have led a nasty childhood. To even think that would be the right thing to do!
I told my kids that Santa brings underwear and pajamas to kids that are disrespectful and bad. It worked.
So much missing from this. Age? Level of “bad” behavior? What had been done to to correct “bad” behavior?
There is always a reason for a child’s behaviour. What are the experiences and feelings behind the behaviour? Support and help him - don’t label him as bad and punish him with no Santa.
Nope. To me that’s just cruel. That will instill he/she is a “bad” kid versus making bad choices.
What kind of bad behavior are we talking about? Not picking up, making messes, back talking? Committing crimes? Will the punishment fit the crime?
There’s no such thing as a bad child. Period. They are not born bad. Look deeper. Stare in the mirror.
Told my young granddaughter the other day she would get coal in her stocking and she asked what coal was!!!
Wrap an empty box and when he goes off tap take the box outside n burn it to ash.should only need the one to get the message across. Worked on mine a few years back
I wouldn’t take Santa away from my kids for acting out. Santa is something that kids look forward to all year around and it makes Christmas magical and special to them. I’m sure this behavior isn’t new behavior and if so it should be handled year around, not just as Christmas. This year has been hard for everyone including adults who know how to manage and express feelings and emotions. Kids do not know how to control those things and with the way this year has gone I think every kid is out of whack in general. Punish your kid, take away privileges like electronics or things your child enjoys but don’t take away Santa from a child.
I did it a few years ago with my son. I left his gifts in the garage for a few months! I think it was when he was 5
I’d love to for the kid I’m watching 
. One year due to bad behavior we only got one small toy for ours and wrote a note from Santa saying " dear____, I am disappointed not being able to bring more from your Christmas wish list. We need to remember that we have to be good girls and boys to be able to receive presents from me. That means listening and behaving the correct way. Since I know you can do it I did bring you a little something. Remember this for the years to come."
No never. However I did notice all 5 would seem to push a little harder as christmas approaches.
That message would make your child respect Santa and not you. What would you do if it were July?
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No such thing as a bad kid first of all
I wouldn’t… the pandemic is hard in everyone.
I’m glad my kids are out of the Santa stage. They are 9 and 11. Now they know mom gets all the control of what they get or don’t get.
This is not the year to do that to your kid!
It’s hard year for kids
Don’t put up with bad behavior, but also try to find out why he acting out
This year has been hell on everyone. Ask a friend to write a letter from Santa and mail it to your child. I did this for a friend years ago. Was not threatening, just statements like, I would really like you to take a bath without a meltdown. Or I get very sad when you don’t listen to your parents. The parent was thrilled with the letter and the child’s behavior improved. They read the letter more than once when refresher courses were needed. Also if you are stressed so is your child. Good luck and hang in there.
Nope! My kids no longer believe, but it was great when they did.
Some have and it sent a hard message…Santa only brings one bigger want and two trinket wants.We do the rest… so no Santa presents this year isnt the end of the world and teaches kids to be accountable for their behaviors.Stocking usually has one tiny want a piece of candy as a good gesture and note staring to try and behave better next time and be the wonderful boy/girl they can be.Its like saying no candy if your bad…then they are bad and get candy anyway.Teaches nothing but you will get what you want regardless and you have no consequences in the long run.Or santa can bring it but with a nite that says its up to mom and dad when you open it.You must be respectful,kind follow rules or whatever you intend for the next few weeks.Then if bad behavior comes back get rid of said item.we need to parent not be friends.I understand sometimes kids act out due to something wrong.However many times its because they doubt any real consequence will occur.If you have assesed the situation and its not a problem going on…go for what you feel is needed
I my twins that when they don’t listen the elves stop working on their toys for 6 hours (since they are 6). So if they don’t get a lot from Santa it’s because they didn’t have time to get made.
I raised my kids to not believe in Santa. We tell them don’t lie or you get punished but what are you doing when you claim there’s a Santa? 
Happy holidays all
My parents got me coal for one Christmas, I behaved after that
Perfectly said. This year has been a nightmare for all of us.
I did that one year and my son really did not get a gift from Santa, only one from me and what ever the family got him… he was pissed off but it paid off
I have a painting of Santa in a sleigh that my grandfather painted. I used to tell all the kids santa is watching. Dont take Santa from kids. Thats just mean
Get gifts, but gifts like clothes, books, things to help learn and grow.
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So. There’s a lot of mixed advice through the comments I have seen.
I have 3 boys and all 3 were grounded for the entire month of November. No video games and I took their toys away. We are stuck at home 24/7 and I am tired of living in a pig stye so I removed distractions and set boundaries for chores/school work because it wasnt getting done and I was tired of saying the same thing over and over, every single day. They adapted and found things to do like coloring and board games but did start doing what I needed them to do. So I think that taking physical things away may be beneficial when trying to teach a new habit.
I have threatened that Santa will not come if they do not do what is asked but…in my house they only get 1 gift from Santa anyways and would still get gifts from family.
Another thing to consider is skill vs. will. Are they acting out because they don’t know how to cope with their feelings/reactions and so on or are they doing it on purpose to get a response out of you?
Well that might work for this month. But come post Christmas there’s still gonna be behavior issues.
I’ve threatened them with no toys from Santa, but I would never take it away from them.
SMH… has the child been dealing with the adults behavior that’s led to theirs? Could it be learned behavior or stressors at home? Are you stressed this year? Ever think the kids are also? That’s just pure laziness and Ignorance to take a child’s Christmas completely over their bad days. Have you stuck to schudles and had structure for your child during this crazy year? Family game nights? Or does the electronics watch your child for you?
Why don’t you write them a letter from santa and tell them there on the naughty list and they have three weeks to turn it around! Or tell them they have lost a gift that they really wanted and have to work to get it bk on the list? I would never take Christmas away from my kids but if they have been really naughty use what you have got to make them listen like screen ban! Goodluck
Wrap up some empty boxes and throw one in the bin when they misbehave. A family member did this and they only had to use one box.
Fake them out for a few hours, or till the next day depending how bad they were
One year my eldest (6 at the time) had been an absolute turd so I gave him only half of his presents on Christmas Day and a note from Santa saying that he would only deliver the rest (all the fun stuff) if he saw an improvement in behaviour. He got them 3 weeks later
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I used to pretend to call Santa and tell Santa that they were not being good. You should see the looks on their faces. It really helped a lot. Everyone goes through hard times with their kids. Hang in there! Good luck!
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Yup one year Santa didnt come because my son had a bad year
My adoptive parents did this more then once on Christmas and birthday. I never got over watching everyone else open presents while I sat there. Don’t do it.
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Nope. This year has been very stressful and they are allowed to act up just like adults. They can’t drown their problems with alcohol. So why get mad. They can feel the stress from adults and that feeds their emotions.
Never! My daughter is now 10 and she stopped believing when she was 8 and my son is now 5 and she’s been warned to not ruin it for her brother. I believe kids are brats to get attention and it’s also how they are raised by the parents
Some people don’t do a Santa… To each their own. You decide!
I wrapped empty boxes s:snowman:nd when my kids acted up I would throw them out in the trash my kids would be devastated…it helped with behavior that’s for sure:joy:
My children got coal and a nag of switches one year
I had a cousin get coal 4 yrs straight. He didn’t care
Wouldn’t today’s equivalent of a lump of coal be a £5 gas token lol
2020 really hard especially for kids… just keep that in mind
I have told my daughter that she’s getting coal for Christmas for not behaving.
But I have heard of people doing that. They dindnt get Christmas gifts on count of it it’s still mean
I think the kids suffered enough this year, no? The one thing that kids look forward to most you are going to take away, this year of all years?
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Take away some not all and tell them Santa made the list short due to behavior lol
My dad put a rotten potato in my brothers stocking once cuz my brother had been super naughty he still got other presents but it was like instead of 1 present
My 10 year old daughter is a mess this year. Emotional, talking back, being lazy, etc. it’s her hormones. I remember that age. The world felt so hard. You had to act right at home and school was a whole new worry. “I have to wear nice things. I have to fit in. I miss my momma but I’m too old and too cool to admit that. I’ve got to be good.” There’s literally no time to act out or get your emotions out. As parents, we are their safe space. There have been times my child came in my room crying and yelling and simply wanting to be heard. I try to be her soft place to land. I understand my baby girl is going through tough times and especially with how the world is today. I talk to her and explain how she should react and do things. I ground her if she needs it. I still whip her with our paddle if she needs it. But please remember that our children look to us for emotional support. Most of the time, her anger or whatever emotion is not directed at me at all. She just needs to be heard. I wrap her in my arms and remind her that I’m always there. Starting next week, she’s going to therapy as well. Please help your children. They don’t act out for no reason. Sometimes they just need to be able to break down, even if it seems rude at the time. Kids are people. Be patient. Never be too high and mighty to seek help for them. We’re all in this together y’all. And by the way: Santa will ALWAYS come for my kids, no matter what❤️
I didn’t take away Santa, but did take away Easter bunny one year
What does taking away Santa even mean?? he isnt real so thats a weird threat.
If they are that bad? Take Santa away.
Do what santa does… leave a note and coal…
No, but santa will only bring socks and underwear. Stick to it. 0 regrets.
This is emotional abuse. How many times do you have something taken away from you when having a bad day?
Not even if they burned the house down on Christmas Eve.
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Put wrapped empty gifts under the tree. When he misbehaves throw one in the trash.
I have! 
not completly. But only a small amount of gifts and they were from mon and dad thats it. Like socks undies. Clothes
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Anybody do that to you don’t expect so much from a child
I phone santa on a daily basis today he was super busy so it was mr elf judt to change it up a bit lol. Works everytime with mine. Tell them he said theyre still on the nice list for now but anymore being naughty or not listening and they will go on naughty list xx
It’s 2020 give those kids a break it’s been hard for all of us Especially the kids
This is why I never post on these groups🤣 You always have those Karen’s lurking!
How old are the children?
Theres an 800 number for santa where you can leave him a message. I tell my youngest i am going to call and leave a message about his behavior and if he gets to many calls then he will be put on the naughty list. Once i tell him that and i put the call on speaker phone and he hears “santas voice” he tells me not to and says sorry and stops. If you need the number i can give you it just let me know.
Santa doesn’t exist in our household. But discipline does.
I don’t think that’s going to make him/her behave better, probably worse
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Never reward bad behavior!
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This is ridiculous the craziest thing I have every read! You need professional help !
Yes. I did it last year. I got extremely sick to the point that I needed to be hospitalized. I couldnt because I’m a single mom who just moved. I was bedridden for a month and my kids were the worst they’d ever been. They got nothing from Santa but a note. A few years ago I was living with my friend and her kids and she did the same. Her kids were older and as big as me. They were violent. Broke things, stole my stuff, tried to watch us undress, etc. They didnt get anything from santa. She even did a note early saying that they were being watched and if they didnt behave then they wouldnt get anything. It didnt work for them but it worked for my kids.
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After this year and what they have gone through I couldn’t do it. Also…I would feel like a hypocrite I too have not been at my best 
Oh dear god. My children can be Ferrell at times but I wouldn’t dream off doing this…
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Maybe you should try consistent parenting.
No I wouldnt that’s mean kids are going to have bad behavior
No they will never forget it.
I threaten but can never follow through…
There’s no way that I would ever do that. ESPECIALLY not after a year like this. This entire year has already been traumatizing enough for kids. I was a teenager when I didn’t get any gifts for Christmas and it was traumatizing. I can only imagine how a small child would feel. I just couldn’t do that kind of heartbreak to my kids
No, that’s mean as hell.
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I have returned presents they have found by snooping, but I have never taken away Santa.
Depends on their age.
I kinda stick to Positive reinforcement
Nope… Santa gives coal to naughty girls and boys!
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Just remember… if you threaten it, follow through! Whatever it is… be consistent in your punishment. If you say Santa is bringing coal… reiterate that then make it happen.
I have when my kids were younger. It didn’t faze them much really. Do what YOU think is best and don’t let these other comments get the best of you.
Never have… My daughters 12 knows theres no santa
I could never do that to my daughter.
Christmas is like Halloween in my house. We aren’t religious and don’t follow Christianity at all. So we do it for the gifts and giving and spending time with ones we love. So yeah we take it away if they’re especially bad
I think it will only be a temporary
Just tell them that You! Are Santa! The Truth!