Put that man in the bin, find yourself a new one. Maybe secretly report his 
fest to his place of work just to be a massive cnut 
6 Likes
Sounds like you already have your answer.
2 Likes
Heās cheating but because of the locking of the phone and deleting. I donāt know how you knew about the stuff in his underwear, I donāt look.
Put an apple airtag in one of his pockets and Check the location where he s going after work
6 Likes
Um, RED flags all over the place
1 Like
In all honesty if he was physically cheating would he have c*m in his pants?! 
Maybe heās watching cam girls and canāt control himselfā¦ He may have an addiction hes completely embarrassed aboutā¦
4 Likes
Honestly Iām concerned with not only this question but so many other posts of women putting down and belittling other women instead of showing empathy and concern for other women. I donāt know why itās so important to some women to put other women down? To feel superior? To this lady Iām sorry this is occurring. Itās all concerning. I would suggest marriage counseling and try to see if heās willing to have open honest conversation with you.
3 Likes
Yeah you have like 50 different giant ass red flags in that one paragraph about your husband. You know dang well itās time to get rid of that SOB.
Some men do leak. My husband deletes everything from his phone too, doesnāt mean heās cheating.
9 Likes
I think you already know the answers to your own questions. āHe leaksā YEA BULLSHIT FROM HIS MOUTH.
Tell his company! That he could be using work phone for other pourposes
Sounds suspicious to me. Anyone who feels the need to lock their phone is up to something
2 Likes
Sounds like he has a s*x addiction. Maybe try coming onto him and see what he does.
Well clearly if heās dipping some place youāre gonna know, if heās to lazy to clean that much of himself he is gonna be to lazy to get the smell of himself as well. And if all heās doing is watching porn and doing himself, why get mad thatās what itās for as for his work phone umā¦ Yeah key word āhisā so on that note Iām not trying to take sides because there are 2 sides to every story, but Iām just saying if I was a man I donāt think I could even try to be in the mood if Iām coming home to the 50 questions and let me see them drawersš¤·š¾āā. Good luck
My husband leaks, but only when heās been aroused either by me talking talking him while at work or pics I send him at work. If nothing like that has gone on that day, heās not leaky.
He locked his work phone bc heās hiding the person sending him msgs that has his work number.
Tell him if he isnāt doing anything, he needs to make an appointment bc being " leaky " without a reason, isnāt normal.
It definitely sounds like heās cheating, follow your gut! You probably already know but donāt want to admit it to yourself which Is totally normal, you deserve sooo much more then this! You need to ask yourself if you want to be with someone who makes you have these kinds of questions
3 Likes
why are you checking his underwear? isnt he a grown man? it would worry me more that you show very controlling habits. if you think hes cheating, leave,
11 Likes
You already know whats going on lets be real how could you not at this pointā¦
4 Likes
Maybe he is. Maybe he isnāt. But what are you doing sniffing your manās boxers for every single day? You donāt see anything wrong with that?
7 Likes
Itās 5:30am and Iām officially done with the internet today. Iām not caffeinated enough for this.
18 Likes
Bit odd us females get the moisturiser in our pants males can leak too and itās a bit evasive full checking his underwear I know my partner has a stag and pulls it weather itās over me or a bit of stick doesnāt mean heās cheating and Iām usually a guesser and I ask him if heās been up to no good lol he doesnāt hide it or lie husband sounds like heās embarrassed and both my partner and I have passwords on our phones doesnāt mean weāre hiding things we know our passwords plus we have a 3 year old who likes to get into our phones maybe try and approach him a bit differently
8 Likes
Heās cheatingā¦. Walk away
1 Like
Howā¦ how do you know this? O.o
Iām not going to tell you heās cheating but I can 100 percent tell you heās hiding something, just from the fact that he deletes everything and locked his work phone. Iād break into his personal phone and look through deleted files. Maybe heās not smart enough to have emptied the trash. See if he has cleared his Googled history. Check phone usage through your carrier. Dig deep. Itās better to snoop and know then drive yourself crazy wondering and possibly waste your time with someone whoās not being faithful, or at least not being honest
If your noticing stuff in his undies itās more than likely discharge. Aka infection. He needs to see a Dr. Everything else is poor communication. You have today down like mature adults and have a discussion. No yelling. Yelling never gets you anywhere. The only way to have a mature discussion is to start having respect for each other. I understand thatās hard to do when he locks you out. Thatās why yāall need therapy.
1 Like
Somethings up there.
trust you gut!
1 Like
1St of all stop checking his drawers what kind of crazy is that?
10 Likes
Letās be honest you already know whatās going on just threaten a divorce thatās expensive plus child support and alimony heāll be left broke so no oneās gonna want him after that
2 Likes
Iām assuming you arenāt a weirdo and just do his laundry. But 
Iād saying infection or cheating.
4 Likes
What if it was the other way round and he was checking your underwear??
2 Likes
You check his underwear ?
If he says heās leaking sperm id tell him Iām making him a Drs appointment
Other than thatā¦hes not a child. Whatever heās doing he should be cleaning himself up
The fact that heās got no personal hygiene would be enough for me to leave
Infection or cheating 100%
1 Like
Girl you already know heās cheating. Now create a plan. Pack his shit and send him on his way. Or pack your shit and go. My man is all over me every chance he has. There is no leakage from him in his underwear. Nor does he lock his phone from me. Lots of red flags girl.
Girl. He is obviously cheating. Go get yourself checked, and ask yourself if you can forgive and move forward. If not, take him AND his dirty drawers to the trash.
I could just imagine how much backlash he would get if he was checking your underwear everyday and people were telling him these comments to do to you.
2 Likes
Letās put aside what He may or may not be doing and examine You for a moment.
How do you know whatās in his shorts? Why would you examine them That closely? Did ya sniff itā¦taste itā¦?
Women have secretions on our chonies all the timeā¦its not a stretch to me that men would to.
Idkā¦Iāve never felt the need to check.
13 Likes
Fucking LEAVE before it gets worse.
What to say or not to say on Facebook, lolā¦That is the Questionā¦
3 Likes
If you feel heās unfaithful then leave without trust you donāt have a relationship. This could be innocent. Men do discharge just like women do, Men who arenāt circumcised discharge more. As others mentioned he could also have a infection so if you bring it up without jumping him mention having it checked out. Also I just dump my mans boxers in the wash. If I had to examine them I wouldnāt be with him. I donāt even examine my own drawers lol.
1 Like
Itās creepy that he would even think itās okay to do that while at work. Also the only reason you keep your partner from being able to access something is because you have something to hide. Tell him to unlock the phone in front of you and let you look at it or leave. He canāt be trusted.
2 Likes
Who says sheās checking underwear? Maybe he goes straight for a shower and she picks up his underwear
and clothes for washing?
Also hun go, his cheating. All the signs are there
5 Likes
Hes hiding somethung go with your gut
I donāt think itās infection. If it was , he would be high tailing it to the doctor.
Babe, I say this with nothing but love, if it quacks like a duck 
11 Likes
If you feel the need to go through his phone the relationship is already over
7 Likes
Definitely sounds like he has a std infection and most definitely cheating leave because you deserve someone who isnāt going to cheat on. You and you deserve so much better.
1 Like
Sounds like a medical problem to me do you really think he would be cheating everyday and cut in his pants everyday knowing you look at them
Ummmā¦ the fact that heās cheating is gross enough. The fact that he is arrogant enough to clearly not hide it is even more gross. How many red flags do ya need? 
8 Likes
This your man? If so, story checks out.
How do you know itās cum?
I think you know the answer
2 Likes
Dude if youāre checking his underwear and work phone you obviously already know. You donāt trust him worth a shit, and it doesnāt sound like he cares.
Definitely cheating wat a scam bag
I think if u have to look u should leave and if itās just that noticable you should leave
What lead you to feel compelled to inspect his underwear to begin with? That seems most likely to be where the āissueā originatedā¦.
6 Likes
Sounds like heās doing something to get off. Maybe online, dating apps, any other social media
3 Likes
Ummm. I donāt understand why youāre checking or looking in his underwear to start. I would say the relationship was over that 1st Convo.
4 Likes
Youāre checking his underwear? WOW! Married people should have no problem sharing their phones with their partner.
You already know the answer if heās hiding stuff and getting defensive
7 Likes
Heās obviously cheating on you. Just leave him and donāt put up with it. You deserve better
3 Likes
I think you know the answer. Iām sorry you are going through this
2 Likes
Lying, getting angry, locking his phone, erasing everything from his personal phone. All leads down the road of cheating
8 Likes
I think itās nuts everyone wanting to know why youāre checking his underwear. My husband wears dark colored boxer briefs. I do all the laundryāalways have. My hubby takes off his underwear and throws them along with the rest of his work clothes in the laundry room. I pick up items to place in washer. She may have reached down and grabbed hard, crusty underwear. So, she looked at them. They could have been inside out and hopefully she doesnāt close her eyes to put a load of laundry in.
19 Likes
Crazy who checks a adults personal phone 
crazy
1 Like
I hope he can check your phone without getting defensive
Get off your phone
1 Like
Why you checking his underwear? This whole situation sounds toxic.
7 Likes
Why are you checking his underwear ??
2 Likes
Just answered your own question. Sorry
3 Likes
Seems like a great person
1 Like
You can live that way for the rest of your live or you can choose to leave
He has shown you who he really is ā¦
Believe him
7 Likes
Personal phone look in his archives where he deleted stuff it should still be in there
A good indication of how somebodyās behaviour will continue, is how its been.
1 Like
Question why would he not clean him self up? Instead of leaving it there!!! Nasty 
7 Likes
Girl you already know. Let him go. Your self worth and piece of mind matter the most 
6 Likes
Please respond to this and tell me if he is in the car business??
2 Likes
Leave him before he leaves you
1 Like
Heās definitely cheating
I suspect infidelity. I would find out some things - who he works with, maybe check his Facebook, see if heās added anyone new? For solid proof create an account and message him - see how he responds. Proof is better than assuming. If he has a medical condition he should see a physician although him saying he takes care of himself at work is very oddā¦ Itās one or the other, not both. Good luck. As always, I think you deserve better 
4 Likes
this is the weirdest thing ive ever read lol
13 Likes
Damn, you check his underwear? Idk but Iāve never checked my dudes underwear and if I ever felt the need to, I think that would be a red flag and pretty sure the deal breaker. The fact that you check his underwear after work is enough to want out of that relationship. 
You already know. The details donāt matter. The ONLY way the matter is if it will also be a custody battle. Any of the above isnāt ok and he knows as much. The deleting everything and locked phone tells you that and that he knows he shouldnāt.
Sound like lap dance pants
5 Likes
What everyone else said
1 Like
Just leave, heās cheating
2 Likes
You should leave Stinky Cum Pants! Cheating would be a better explanation to this than cuming in your pants and walking around all day in it. Who cums in their pants in the first place? How old is he? You deserve better.
As a cleaner in office buildings I can confirm that guys do indeed wack off at work. But with the other things Iād be sus, I think itās more likely heās probably watching porn and doesnāt want you to know. Not sure how his jizz would just be in his underwear if heās having sex with someone elseā¦even if he leaves his pants on, in that case it wouldnāt just be in his underwear it would be on his pants as wellā¦
Put a private eye on him.
2 Likes
Trust your gut. And you deserve better even if heās not cheating. You deserve a man who sees you and makes you feel good.
7 Likes
If you do not trust him you should not be with him, trust is what holds your marriage together.
1 Like
his fcking someone else clearly something is definitely wrong, this doesnāt just happen
2 Likes
Time to file for divorce.
You already know. The day I have to babysit a grown man is the day Iām out.
4 Likes
Iām sorry youāre dealing with this. There is obviously something going on, wether or not heās cheating, taking care of it at work, a leakage issue , thereās something wrong. Heās got an issue that you arenāt responsible for. If he is getting angry and very defensive, cheating is probably most likely.
2 Likes
If it quacks like a duck, itās a duck lol
4 Likes
Do you really check his underwear
3 Likes
I mean I have been dating my man for 13 years I can honestly say I have never checked his underwearš¤
I do his laundry and still donāt feel a need to look. The other stuff sounds off and maybe he is up to no good but seriously why did you start to check his underwear thats literally never been a thing for meš¤£
5 Likes
Tbh why do you actually go that far to look through hes undies. Do you actually go through them as. soon as he takes them off .if you have doubts ask him to be honest with you.if he gets upset because you are asking him a guestion hes definitely cheating on you besides you should pick up all weird signs he normally doesnāt do .well hes pretty stupid to come back with evidence in hes pants .wow
What do you mean you donāt know what to do?
Yes you do.
Thatās not a struggle you should be having.
2 Likes
For the women saying she is checking his underwear, she is doing his damn laundry! You see what you see in those situations.
Im sorry momma, I would be done and out ASAP!