Don’t want to sound patronising because that’s the worse but have you tried ignoring her behaviour and focusing on the one that she hurt?? My son is a little turd and the only way I can get through is to make him see that I will give attention to the one that needs it not the one that WANTS it. My boy will sometimes hurt my girl just to get the attention but fails. If he has a problem I tell him he needs to speak to me about it instead of taking it out on his little sister x
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Find her a child psychiatrist. Could be ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder) and if not intervened, it could grow into Conduct Disorder then later Antisocial Personality Disorder. She most likely didn’t bond well with her primary caregiver (is it mum?).
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Check out the Whole Brained Child by Dan Siegal. See if there’s a specialist in your area that works with kids nervous systems rather than an MD or psychiatrist. Look into toxin exposure, allergies, other pathogens as these are common root issues to kids behavioral problems and often missed when the focus is on symptoms.
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What she needs is some actual discipline and for you to actually go through with what you’re saying. The only thing she thinks is she can do whatever she wants. None of this psychiatrist nonsense; it’s nothing to do with mental health, she needs telling no once in a while and carry any punishment through. Only then will she learn to behave herself.
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I think you need to get professional help and have her tested to try find out what is going on she could have a medical condition god bless you sweetie keep us posted will be praying for you
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First of all I wanna say I think it is wonderful that you are reaching out to other parents for advice only advice I can give you would be to first get your child evaluated to rule out medical problems and I am all for age-appropriate discipline My best advice is fall through with what you say I am glad you are trying to resolve this while your child is young
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Find the core of these actions. No child acts out for no reason at all.
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Has the child been around any adults who are exhibiting this behavior, maybe they’ve seen it somewhere. Like maybe a babysitter or extended family. She may think it’s okay to do it too.
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Have her sit in front of a mirror for her time out. Every single time she throws any sort of fit… have her sit and watch herself. And do it will little words as possible.
I have a tough one myself. He is in a lot of special behavior programs and things and is doing a lot better now. It gets better momma. Hang in there. It will eventually get better. Read some books and talk to a specialist.
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Also, is your daughter on any medications? My daughter has asthma and has had serious roid rage on a few of meds. Both those meds had to go. She still has anger control issues partly from learned response from when she was little.
I tried all of the above. Nothing worked . He is twentyfive now still fighting for the answer . Prayers for you.
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I would seek out a therapist, maybe she also feels she not getting enough attention from you and your spouse sense she has siblings… she also might be at a awkward age where she doesn’t know how to express what she is feeling other than throwing these tantrums… I would seek professional help… good luck
Have you tried treating her more like a helper and mentor… Letting them make more choices for themselves… But definitely seek some actual help from a professional in case it’s something deeper…
There’s less than a year between your children. You didn’t say how long this has been going on , but I’ve got a feeling . Sounds like the oldest is demanding all the attention . Since you didn’t mention vocalization or eye contact problems, I doubt anything on the spectrum. What seems to set her off and what makes her happy ? You’ve got to get ahead of her abuse before she gets big enough to really hurt you.
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I would talk to her pediatrician and see if you can get a referral for some occupational therapy or a behavioral specialist to help her get some tools to control her emotions and to help you get some tools that can help her from your side! There are incredible options out there for children and parents, you just have to ask!
Try looking into play therapy, the preschool recommended it, that’s what i did for my youngest because his tantrums can get bad. It could be covered by your insurance. It’s helped so much in school and helping him express his feelings better!
How about taking her to get assessed and getting her the medication she needs. She might have a chemical imbalance and have no control of actions.
Try to give her choices… children that age want a bit of control… he’s an example… if she won’t pick up her toys for you… say to her… ok… you can pick them up now or you can pick them up after supper… giving her a bit of control but not anything crazy. Also try eliminating or at least limiting the word no…tell her what she can do instead…I learned that in college for ECE… worth a try and hope this helps!!
Have you taken her to the doctor? It could be something physically wrong that triggers the behavior. I had a student with that kind of behavior. It turned out that she had synesthesia. She could hear bright colors. She said they were screaming at her. I’m not suggesting that your daughter has that. But having her go to a behavior specialist and child psychiatrist could help find the answer.
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Same with my stepson he got kicked out of the daycare than the school system ( issues with the mom where she didn’t want him on meds) finally got him diagnosed with adhd on medication and therapy for a year now he’s 13 and on honor roll. From what he told me is he couldn’t stop moving the teacher would correct him multiple times than he get so angry about being corrected he’d lash out. Tough love will only help so much. Patience and understanding is the only thing that will help
My son used to scream, cry, hurt himself, and throw things. Turns out he is autistic but before his diagnosis, I didn’t understand. He couldn’t communicate and was over stimulated. Now that he received therapy, I’m able to avoid certain triggers, he’s learned to communicate, I understand his needs etc, his days are so much easier. Please get her evaluated. Not everything is autism of course but if there is something, it’s best to find out early on.
Please have her evaluated by a children’s counselor or psychiatrist. This is very serious oppositional behavior and she needs diagnosis and help sooner rather than later. She should also have thorough physical exam to rule out issues. Do not delay.
My son is 7. He’s on the spectrum and is adhd. He does a lot of these things. Usually because he’s nonverbal so unable to really express himself with words. 
I would get her in to her pediatrician and maybe seek out occupational therapy etc. there’s lots of options available. But it’s best to have her seen now before she really hurts someone.
Please have her seen by pediatrician & perhaps behavioral specialist. Sudden changes in behavior like this should be evaluated first for physical problems then for behavioral problems. Hope nothing is off but when my son became Type 1 Diabetic his personality really changed until we got his blood sugar regulated.
I have two boys all grown now. When they were younger I found a good tone of voice when I wanted something accomplished. They wanted to put the oldest one on pills when he was young,I refused. I have seen what it does to children. They look like zombies. I just dealt with it. Just need to be firm. I would have her checkout first. Today parents tell me my grown men are very respectful.
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You need to get her evaluated for a behavior disorder, but this did not happen overnight. Kids start asserting themselves soon after learning to walk abd talk, so that is (was) the time to be firm and establish a loving relationship. Being so close in age seems a difficult thing as well.
A lot of people might would think that you’ve let her have her way for far too long, but I agree with Sherry Bartlett Turner. Something is going on, the quicker that you find out what it is-the better she will feel.
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Sounds like to me she has some form of mental health problem , it is not her fault and if this is true take her and get her evaluated as soon as you can she is showing signs of something being wrong
Give her a good old fashion spanking like we got when we’re growing up.
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My son has been doing this for a couple years. I fought with getting answers until just recently. I changed pediatricians and finally have one that will listen to me. I told her what was happening with him. She diagnosed him with ADHD/odd. He was 6 when he started this and he is 9 now. We just now got our answer. With child being 4 I’m not sure how young it can be diagnosed but just a thought…
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Ask her how she would feel about each of those being done to her. The connection to empathy will start her on another path. And praise/celebrate new her victories. Also, by her seeing/learning by example.
I think play therapy starts at 3 or 4, maybe check into that to evaluate if it is just “acting out” or is she has a diagnosis of some sort. Sometimes it’s dietary too!!
I had this recently with my boy, take her out of that setting instantly! His behaviour was getting worse and worse, they were phoning me to pick him up after half hour of being there etc, I pulled him out and a few weeks later had a call from social services saying that they had concerns over how he was treated while at said nursery setting… Turns out the staff were the problem. He’s at a new setting very very happy and well behaved, even back to his normal self at home!!
It’s possible she’s acting for attention? If you don’t think that’s it sometimes food sensitivities can cause behavior or mood issues! If she’s drinking lots of cow milk or something a ton of, completely take her off of it and switch to an alternate for a few days. If that’s it you’ll see a drastic change very quick!
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I have mixed feelings about this… One being that we’re talking about a 4 year old and I’m like how can you let a 4 year old get away with this… It’s a 4 year old… I’ve dealt with 20+ year olds that have acted this way… But there’s no reason for a 4 year old to act this way and get away with it… And I’m sorry if I’m offending anyone, just my opinion, which I’m fucking entitled to!!!
My eldest was like this from a young age (not diagnosing or anything) but, I seeked help for myself and Cahms got involved and my son actually has HF Asperger’s syndrome. They were meltdowns of sensory needs.
You should have her tested she could be bipolar or some other chemical imbalance good luck
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Please get her evaluated. This doesn’t seem behavior based. Physical and psychological.
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She needs a psychiatric evaluation. She’s angry or has an undiagnosed condition & you all need to figure out how to fix it before she seriously hurts someone or herself.
If it’s a completely new behavior look into PANDAS - Pediatric Autoimmune Neuropsychiatric Disorders Associated with Streptococcal infections.
I would seek counseling from either your Pastor or a Christian Counselor, not a secular source. Once a child or anyone for that matter is diagnosed with mental illness, it will follow them throughout their life. I do agree with a doctor doing some bloodwork to see if the child may have some nourishment needs or is allergic to certain foods. There are other ways besides taking a child to a psychiatrist or putting them on psychotropic drugs. And always, always do extensive research on any drugs/medications you give your child, even if prescribed by a doctor.
She needs mental health evaluation. Not spankings.
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Sounds like ADHD and ODD. Get her evaluated by a psychiatrist.
My mother and also a good friend were emotionally handicap teachers. Time out and rewards for only good behavior are a good start.
I had destructive tantrums as a child and teenager. Physical discipline had literally zero affect on me, for any people here going straight to “spank them!”
Once I had my autism and adhd dxs, I got the support and therapy I needed and learned to control myself/my surroundings in ways that have severely limited my tantrums, which I now know to have been meltdowns.
Not saying this is the case with your kid, but it’s definitely worth investigating before going to removal or physical discipline.
I really think a lot of kids act like this when they don’t know how to express themselves. My son is 4 and definitely has adhd. Usually they won’t treat until 5, but since he was kicked out of 1 daycare already and on the verge of getting kicked out of another…they considered it a family crisis. He’s on a low dose med. He’s still himself, but the hyper aspect is calmer along with the impulses and he was very defiant. All around doing so much better. He can sit and listen and I also put him.in counseling. Which seems to help too.
Take her to the Pediatrician and then neurologist. You have to make sure she’s not been abused by someone.
And acting out her pain! If its came on suddenly?!
I’d be getting professional help at this point as this is not typical behaviour… good luck and strength
Is her hearing ok? My son was acting out at daycare and come to find out he couldn’t hear, needed tubes in ears.
Please seek a behavioral assessment by a neurodevelopmental pediatrician. This behavior is not normal and I would definitely seek medical advice from a developmental doctor.
It my sound crazy, but maybe she is allergic to red dye 40. Happened with my daughter and someone brought up that allergy and I thought it was crazy at first. Turned out to be exactly the problem.
Its time to beat that butt…this time out generation is for the birds …you do it now…or let a corrections officer do it later
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Bend her over knee and give her a good gentile whipping. If u don’t get control now u will loose control for good. I do not mean a away or two on her butT I mean with a switch. The bible says u spare the rod u spoil the child. It is in psalms several places.
I think therapy. She has some big emotions going on and doesn’t know how to express her frustration in a healthy way. Or it’s attention seeking.
Please have her evaluated it seems like she may be on the spectrum! There are places that will do it for free . The sooner you do this the faster she can get help before she starts kindergarten!
My cuz in rite, you allowed it way too long, now you have to correct it and it will be TUFF!!! you need to tough discipline this little monster! Up goes the good board where they can see but not touch!!, stars for everytime of the day they behaved. … DISCIPLINE when bad. Good luck, I had one of those , yeah, I fixed that shit fast!!!
My daughter used to be like that…she would went crazy and totally out of control for a period of time range from 30 mins to few hours…then back to normal… Then I saw cases of Red40…it’s the artificial coloring in her diet…its in almost 80% kids food even prescription drugs and toothpaste…search online “red 40”…try change diet before bring her to the doctor or pyschologist…Doctor diagnose ADHD based on behaviour …so kids that is sensitive to red40 or other artificial color is easily misdiagnosed as ADHD.
Please read this. PANDAS—Questions and Answers - National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH).
We went through very similar situations and my heart hurts for your family. At nine, my grandson is through it now. At 6 a child psychologist recommended locking him in the basement. That was a big no. We don’t do, tough love. PANDA is real. Please read.
You need to take her to a pediatrician to get her assessed as this is not a normal behaviors.
Maybe she cannot communicate that it is causing this aggressiveness
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Children are Biologically ENGINEERED to require our help, as adults with fully formed, integrated brains, to regulate.
Before one can attain SELF regulation, you need to experience CO-REGULATION.
Expecting a kid of 4 to even remotely comprehend what is going on by shaming and putting them in “time out” is lazy AF.
ACTUAL parenting and true discipline is about teaching.
And yes it takes a lot more time and effort on our part.
But it’s so very important we parenting with awareness and consciousness.
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My Mom let my brother throw one hissyfit. First time he hurt someone, she threw a cup of ice water on him. Walked away. He was a quick learner!
ADHD? Another one that could cause behavior issues ,I’m with everybody on checking with any and all causes to rule out plus working on a skill set for her emotional meltdowns plus good old fashion positive discipline from both ends meaning you and her ,this is just something that’s going to take time
Undiagnosed food allergies can cause all of this ~~ The ingredient “vanillin” is a fake form of vanilla extract and its in cereals and everything. Her central nervous system could be on overload. My kid went through the same thing at the same age.
We found out about The Feingold Diet after watching it on 60 minutes. Game changer, Sam was over sensitive to many ingredients in most foods.
Consider contacting a BCBA organization on your area. They have licensed therapists that deal with this. The best thing is they teach you and the teachers too on what to do
PANS? Allergies? There is a variety of things that it could be and that could help
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Do you sit and listen ? Look her in the eyes and see what she has to say?
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Get in touch with your health visitor these issues should have been picked up at her developmental checks or go to local baby clinic or go to your GP for referral to appropreate agency you cant do this on your own and you are not along in this struggle.This is urgent you need help this is not your fault never mind the comments about adhd or disorders let the experts help you with your wee ones issues …take care and be kind to yourself this is real hard work.I you need help with your getting to the health visitor take a pal or family member with you dont be scared this is a common issue.xxxxx
4 is a common age for behaviors such as adhd or odd. Go to her doc.
First off some kids are like this and what works for one kid may not work for the other. I agree something is causing it whether it’s inconsistency in discipline or possible mental issues such as ADHD which they usually don’t try to diagnose until 5 and up. Definitely get a mental evaluation if they are willing but also understand psychologically all kids are different she could be acting out or your consequences are not working and you need to get professional advice on what to try to help her stop. I had a son with ADHD but he never did that he was a little monster at times but at four he took a break to be a good kid the. Got into trouble at 5. It depends on the environments they are in believe it or not teachers or caregivers who suck without any patience or compassion play a huge role in why a little one may act out. Is there an absent parent, do parents fight too much in front of this kids? Too many factors without knowing the whole story. Too bad I don’t know you I could help you. I’ve turned unruly kids into good kids because I wasn’t their parent and I showed them I don’t let them get away with that behavior. Kids typically test strangers as they do their parents but strangers usually don’t cave like parents do. I get it it’s exhausting and totally understand what you are going through but you just have to keep trying what will work for you your child. When you discipline make sure to explain every time why they are being disciplined in a calm voice. Look them in the eyes when you do so you know they are listening. Good luck
I know someone who was like this as a child. It was never stopped or helped. And it continued into adulthood.
First take her to your Pediatrician for evaluation! Then ask for a referral to someone professional that can help all of you! Fast!
You should check her at the doctor. This could be a sign of Autism or a behavioral issue
Fund out why she is so angry. Mental health practitioner would be good.
Bitting, hitting, pushing… are all signs of a ‘frustrated’ child! Your statement doesn’t address WHAT you have done… but at the same time have inclusively stated ‘all’ has been done, which would indicate to me that you have a very full plate, and are very busy and pre-occupied when you come home and are with the kids. I would suggest:
1- LISTEN TO THE CHILD! The child is expressing frustration because the child’s needs are not being acknowledged and therefore not addressed.
2- ADDRESS EACH ISSUE SEPARATELY AS IF FRESH AND NEW…. Also INDIVIDUALLY: As a parent we watch our children and we can see when things get heated. A child will go to great extremes to be heard. But if we are watching we can observe the early tell-tell signs of pent-up anger or frustration. For example: child-1 is quietly playing with a baby doll, she has her back to the shopping cart she had filled earlier, and was directing all of her attention to the baby doll. Child 2 sees the shopping cart not being played with, comes up behind child -1 and begins to push the cart. Child 2 instantly reacts with biting, fists and pulling of hair. It would seem on the surface that there had been no foul play… in talking with child -1, we learn that Child-1 had carefully gathered all the toys she would play with through the day into the shopping cart… she considered them hers for the day. Child 2, felt child-1 wasn’t playing with the cart, and therefore took it. Now that we understand where each child is coming from, ( because we’ve talked with them and listened to them) we can now come up with a corrective action… this was just a mis understanding. Now we understand each child is coming from and can RE-DIRECT the children into respectful playing forms and habits.
3- SMALL INTIMATE CHILDCARE FACILITY: Big facilities go through the actions… they do alphabets, numbers, and stories, as well as showy art crafts to show parents how much they are learning…, staff has about 15 children each day they need to get processed. Children are often left to fend for themselves while staff is working the above classes. Many of the adults are on break during free time,or free play and minimum faculty is in the play yard (2 adults to 40 kids) no wonder your child’s needs are not getting addressed. Put your child in a home day care,( the smaller the better) where your child NEEDS are first and foremost. They will also give the child nurturing love and help them WORK THROUGH these frustrations, and teach them cognitive communication skills… among other things. ( I have seen where this one step makes all the difference in the world)
4-SEEK COUNSELING: or family therapy for yourself as well as the child… learning disabilities are mark-able and treated by the time the child is three… Parenting classes are readily available for parents… wonderful techniques and ideas are available for you to try and learn, and incorporate.
I have worked with lots of children… and I think all of these will be helpful. Good luck!
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Check out PANDAS she could have some unknown infection that causing her behavior.
Do not react to her negative habits tolerate it with ignoring it but only give her attention for positive things it’ll be hard and she’ll have what’s labeled as extinction bursts but it may work…Look up RBT training ect there’s a company called positive behavioral services…. Good luck❤️
I read through all the remedies and most have some value. The home situation should be evaluated. Are there two parents? Are they both working full time and coming home fatigued which is completely understandable. When did this behavior start? Did it start when the second child was born? Are the parents in a loving relationship or is there excessive hostility? Trying to search out the underlying conditions are as important as evaluating the child. Life is tough and sometimes we all suffer from the stress that accompanies it. The first thing I would do is separate the two girls in different preschools. I am guessing either this child may be very bright and bored due to lack of interest or is having difficulty keeping up due to a learning disability. Both may act out in the same manner. When the child acts out I would hold her close and very firmly until she stops. This is not punishment but a form of security for her. Do not let go until she stops. She wants you to be in control when she is not. Hopefully this will not cause you physical harm. It may take a long time for her to calm down. You won’t make any impact when she is out of control. Then talk. I would definitely tell her you love her but do not like or will not stand for her misbehavior and no one else will either. This will not be a one time fix. It has to be consistent and immediate when or wherever it occurs. Unfortunately it could take a very long time for her to calm down the first time. Hopefully the younger child can be removed from the scene. You are in an acute situation and extreme measures must be taken or you are going to loose that child in one way or another. If you are working, if financially possible, you need to take a leave of absence to make the time to correct this. Unfortunately meds often just cloud the issue. She is obviously very angry but why is the question. She is crying out for someone to be in charge so she can feel secure. I pray this helps as I am sure the whole family is suffering. Weigh your options carefully.
My grandson is 4 and takes tantrums. I suggested to my son don’t give in let him go
My son had multiple food allergies : milk would set him off as well as corn syrup.
My son was kicked out of six daycares and was put administrative leave in kindergarten.
He ended up going to an awesome (public) school that helped him a LOT. He’s 11 now and is 70% mainstreamed & easier to deal with.
Here’s an excerpt from the school’s web page so you can get a better idea of what kind of school it was…
“Sunrise is a short term, therapeutic
program designed to educate, serve
and support special education stu-
dents with diverse social, emotional,
and academic needs who have not
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students and their families by provid-
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environment. Sunrise school strives to
promote personal growth and aca-
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that can be generalized to the school
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My grandkids only bit others after drinking fizzy drinks they’d turn into agro little terrors
This could be a sign of a good allergy or a Cognitive Condition.
Also watch episodes of”Super Nanny “ that English lady is pretty spot on!
Unpopular opinion, but have you thought about swatting her butt and hands when she does this if scolding her and putting her in a corner doesn’t work.
Take her to a chiropractor to rule out any spine alignment issues that could cause a sensory overload from block neuro-pathways
its called the switch tree and it works may seem mean but my family had a reunion one years favorite memory was the switch tree
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Maybe my answer will be a little different then the rest of these comments, maybe not.
As a teacher, someone specialized in early child development and a mother the answer is love and boundaries.
This isn’t easy, its probably a sensitive subject for you, your poor four year old who probably feels terrible, and the rest of your family. Here’s what I would do if I was working with her.
Let her know (during a calm moment) that things have been rough lately, and you’ve asked for help and learned how to make them better! Show her how confident you are and give her confidence to believe she is capable. Repeat to her many times that she is a great kid, she just needed extra love and nobody around her was understanding. Let her know you know understand! Make it clear you know that she truly is a sweet and nice child because (insert good things you’ve seen her do)! Let her know although you will need to set boundaries, that won’t be fun, you will make sure every step of the way she feels heard and loved
(I realize as I’m typing this you may think I’m saying you don’t do this. I’m not saying that at all. I’m saying your child needs to hear you say this so she can begin to mend her relationships. Typically behaviours like these are just a child calling for attention, taking advantage of boundaries that weren’t reinforced or responding to adult behaviors, such as teachers automatically treating her poorly before she has even messed up on that day)
Once that’s done you will sit with her (only her, no siblings, no phone, no no one else, she needs your undivided attention) and write some rules together. You will take turns. She will write one. You will write one. You’re main goals with your rules are 1. We help keep eachother safe 2. If we’re feeling angry, we must either find a safe corner or ask for a strong hug 3. Every day at (insert chose time) , it’s child and caregiver time ! That means for 10 minutes a day , you are going to do whatever she wants to do without any distractions or any one else. (This should never be taken away as punishment, this should not be related to electronics, it needs to be an active bonding time. Play with her, go on a walk with her, commit yourself to ten full minutes and set a timer). Have her sign these rules. Have her decorate these rules. Hang them in your home.
That being said, boundaries are so important. Boundaries are to be maintained at all times. Even when we’re tired, even when we’re exhausted, even if we are dying, keep the boundaries. You slip on those boundaries once with a strong willed child, they will understand they are more in charge than you are.
Every time she even begins to become aggressive or escalated, remind her of the boundaries. Call her close. Ask her if she’d like a hug. Ask her if she needs a pillow, a bug stuffy, a punching bag, to get the angry out. Ask her if she wants a teether, to chew ice, a wet cold cloth, to bite down on. Give her resources. Make her a special corner of your house where she can run to locate these items. Remind her. Guide her. Remind her again. It’ll be really hard the first two weeks. Then it WILL get BETTER.
Compliment every. Single. Time. She does the right thing. Then make a post it note, make a card, write it on a white board, take a picture, make it count! And at the end of the day you show her the list. You make sure she knows that the good things she does, you see them! You see her! Read them to her, show them to her! Let her know you know she is good and that even if sometimes it gets hard, you are there to make sure she gets through the hard things because you love her!
As for childcare, it seems to me you have yourself some teachers who aren’t qualified to manage behavior, it’s a pity. Either you let them know this is what you’re doing at home and have them try it (adapt to school setting) or you find a child care with professionals who care enough to try!
Bita mustered on her tongue every time she bites, good warm bum and put to bed for a sleep, soon teach her who’s boss! And not to do it. Done us no harm growing up and my kids got the same treatment, kids nowadays ok alot have underlying issues, my eldest has autism at 6 years old, but most of what’s wrong is they are just so spoilt with love I understand that no matter what is said to tell them off, it doesn’t wrk. My wee girl is 1 yr old last month and boy oh does she’s have a temper, and wants everything, then sometimes nothings good enough, so il let her cry till she realizes she’s not getting the attention she wants by being cheeky! Simple.
My 3 year old sister is the same way 
I think it’s the age… they always say “terrible twos” but nahhh it’s the 3s and 4s you have to worry about…
As an Astrologer , I invite you to investigate the Astrology Hub inner child series.
We all have a blue 
print… obviously you care enough to investigate
Watch videos of nanny jo from england she dealt with kids in this country on her show and set them straight.
The way my parents stopped tantrums is now almost child abuse, so I cannot help, but I hope you find a solution.
Do it back to her. That’s how we phased the biting out of my niece. When she bites you, bite her back. When she pulls your hair, pull her hair. She’ll quickly stop doing it
Get your child evaluated ASAP. Talk to your child MD. Should be able to refer you.
Sounds to me like your child could be autistic I would have that checked out
Behavioral therapy is really great
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child consult is in order…she could get worse.
A high quality CBD will help calm her. And I’m not talking about the crap they sell it at gas stations. Real quality food and nutrition is in short supply these days in our food supply. The quality oils from the hemp plant provide nutrients and improve mental state.
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Sounds like you need to speak with your Dr and seek out a possible assessment