Help her find good housemates to move in with
You’ll regret pushing her away in years to come
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She’s still a kid, just because she had her 18th birthday doesn’t mean she’s ready to live out of home.
Your job isn’t done just because she turned 18.
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I think I would start with laying down some house rules. Especially being respectful to everyone in your home. Then have her pay some amount for rent, groceries, utilities or phone if she has one that you pay for. Teach her responsibility. If she won’t agree to your terms you decide then inform her that she will need to start looking for a place of her own as she is now an adult and should be acting as such.
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Mom , do you realize how many 18 yr olds are being picked up and sold for sex trafficking ??? Set her up in some kind of school or training to give her an income that she can afford to live on her own . Not in the streets. Does she have grandparents she can live with while in school?.
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Damn. Maybe you should move out MOM 
I get it, I have six kids. A baby, a toddler a few young kids and a couple teens… But 18 isn’t always the best time to move out. Sounds like you need to lay the law down and make specific consequences should it be broken.
My parents made me pay rent. It matched the job I had at the time. I did go to college full time and I held a full time job. You just need to tell her she needs to go to school and help around the house whether it be financilly or chores (if she is going to school). My Mom took the rent money I was paying her and saved it for me for when I moved out ( I wasn’t aware of this at the time) and then she gave it back to me. It really helped with that first apartment! I think 18 is too young to move out, but not too young to help out.
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I begged my child to stay 
She just graduated and will be 19 in December. She doesn’t have a good job and moved an hour away. I wish she would of just stayed 
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Talking to her about everything would be first step. Lay down rules because regardless of her being an adult or child it’s still your house. How about help her find a better job or get her into school
I, personally, would never kick my child out of the house. However, I do like the idea of charging them a small rent that you and your child both agree upon and it going into a savings account for them. It teaches them early on to budget. I would also offer for her to do extra large chores (mowing the lawn, deep cleaning areas, etc.) For credit towards that. Her fighting with her younger siblings is unacceptable, but is it just a one sided thing or are they doing something to invade her privacy/being mean to her? Yes, she’s an adult, but they are all still your children and need to be respectful in your household. Regardless of her age, she is still under your roof and your rules still apply. If she can’t listen to you, maybe you need to treat her like the child she’s acting like if that’s the case. I’d sit down and talk with her, possibly with someone who is indifferent on either side and could give you an unbiased view. I’m not saying you’re a bad mom or even judging you, I have no idea to what extent she is making your life miserable
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If it’s too hard on you and your family maybe you should’ve kept an aspirin between your legs. Don’t have a kid and then say they are a burden. Even at 18 they are still your baby and you are responsible
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We either had to go to school or pay rent/contribute if we were going to live at home. Once we started paying we also had more freedom
To add to my point have you even asked her if she is okay? There has been so much BS this year , it’s not a normal year it’s a pandemic shit has hit the fan, have you checked to see IF SHE IS OKAY? Seems like your worried about everyone but her
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U can be a mother and tough it out. Maybe ask yourself where u failed in making her that way. Instead of seeing her as a burden maybe see her as a child that still needs your guidance, as u have lacked to give her enough this far in her life. Make goals not just for her but for yourself.
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How do people expect someone to grow up and stop being so dependent on there parents if there living at home till they are say 25 because they just “aren’t mature enough” maybe they aren’t mature enough because mummy and daddy still do everything for them…
If my kid was beating and bullying my other children and she was almost 19 I would be telling her to sort her suit out or get the f out of my house 
I wouldn’t allow to be treated like shit and have my other kids have to tip toe in there own house becauze I had a ungrateful kid I would help her as much as a could finding a place and helping financially if I could but I would not allow being walked all over and my household being uncomfortable because of it!!
Start charging her! She will want her own stuff!!
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I can see why she’s the way she is. It starts with you not being a good and supportive parent. Poor kid.
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Im really sorry for all the opinionated, hateful useless comments from a lot of these people. You have to decide how much abuse (mental and/ or physical) you will tolerate your adult child to inflict on your younger children. Sit down with the 18 year old and tell them " you are an adult now. Fighting , especially physically, with your younger siblings is not acceptable in this house". Sit down, make a list of rules that are non negotiable and explain, “if you can’t abide by these rules then you can’t live in this house. If your not going to college then you need to come up with a plan to support yourself on your own. Be it whether you get a better job or take on more hours or work two jobs. You have x amount of time to move or you can abide by the rules. If the rules are broken, you have one day to leave or I will have no choice but to call the police and have you removed for being physically abusive with your younger siblings.” I know that’s taking it to the extreme, but if the younger children say something to the right adult, the choice of which children remain in your home can be taken from you. Speaking from experience.
Oh gosh I’m not ready for my 18 year old to leave. I can’t help you get her out. You just need to set rules and boundaries for her if she is living in your home.
charge her rent !!! Or encourage her to look for an place maybe a 2 bedroom, so she can have a friend also share the rent, And she also could look for another job, There is no reason why if her job isn’t great, that she can also do another one, Working 2 jobs would be worth it
My rule is if you are going to school you can stay home. If you have a job after high school and you decide that college isn’t for you, we will work out a rent agreement.
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She’s 18. She still has yet to learn some things for you. Start off by laying ground rules about respect. If she can’t respect the people in the home she can leave. But even in the meantime, it’s time for her to either pay rent or contribute else wise to the home. A utility bill, or groceries… other “adult” responsibilities. The free ride is over.
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Get her to pay towards rent and start saving her money and then you can give her the money back and send her off with enough money to be stable in her own. This would be something to do without her knowing your saving it and obviously have a sit down talk with her mom. She could be going through something and not know how to talk about it. Your her mom and I am sure she’s hurt your feelings but at the end of the day you brought her into this world, the least you can do is try to get one on one and just listen to her. Don’t think about what you need for 5 minutes and just give her the floor. Then proceed from there. I don’t know if you’re a sensitive person or more of a tough love type person but I think it’s appropriate to be sensitive at a time like this. I wish you THE BEST of luck in handling this situation and I give this advice out of the respect I have for my mother dispite the disagreements, arguments, drama and whatnot- now that she’s gone I realize she was right about a lot more than I had the time to admit.
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All of u mom shamers are ridiculous. She didnt say she was kicking her out… First mom probably should’ve been teaching her for a coupe years now about responsibility and budgeting and saving… But at 18 they are technically grown…and kids especially these days are rude and disrespectful because they have no discipline in life cuz its very frowned upon 
Her daughter reminds me of my daughter who will be 18 soon… And im sure she’s heard it all just like me… I cant wait to grow up and be independent and have my own stuff and have no rules ect… We are very strict on my daughter. But she also has a job and pays for her car insurance and phone bill of she wants it. Nobody is right there looking to give a handout constantly… She needs to obviously learn the heard way through tough love… Let her move out and see how it’s NOT So easy. Them maybe she’ll wake up and realize… Good things come to those who work their asses off!!!
If I kicked my child out at 18 and they got killed or died, I would never be able to live with myself. I would also not want my child thinking that they didn’t have a home like I did when I was kicked out at 15. I do the exact opposite of what my parents did and my children are the best. I feel sorry for your kid. Tell her she can come live in my home in Las Vegas.
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Toxic is toxic. Anyone saying you should put up with it. Is also a toxic enabler which is why grown adults are still acting like 13 year olds.
Send her to a local college info session. At least you try to educate her the. If she messes up she messes up.
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Imagine kicking your child out 
because she doesn’t suit your way of living
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Tell her she either follow the rules or find her own place.
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And the parent of the year award gives to…!
This is fucking awful and I could only imagine how she feels! I would hate to be your child. I’m sorry but you disgust me
My son is 54, good luck!
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I like this always your kids
Sit her down and find out if there is something else going if so offer her help with whatever is going on in her life, and if there is nothing going on that u need to be worried about or need to help her through then tell her what the rules are and if she wants to live under your roof she has to follow your rules whether she is 18 or not it’s your home and she has to be respectful but defo try and see if there is anything else going on first maybe x
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My is 33 and still here
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I’m so grateful my parents were nothing like you . My parents never forced me to move out . I moved out of my parents house with my best friend at 18 and we became room mates. But that was my own choice. I couldn’t imagine being pressured by my parents so young to have to find somewhere to live.
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The fact that you think she may not be mature enough in the first place is a good reason not to kick her out but to try and work on the issues at home and fix them you don’t just have children and then kick them out because it doesn’t suit your life anymore she’s your responsibility no matter how old my children will be I will always be there for them to help and encourage good choices
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It was time for my daughter to move out at 18 !
She was over me her siblings and was ready to live her own life. We loved each other dearly but fought to much.
I did tell her it was time she left or stopped being a pain in the arse. But it was definitely time she left. She’s much happier, agreed it was time and we get along fabulously. She’s my gorgeous daughter and we have a wonderful grown up mother daughter relationship now
Have her save money up to move out. Don’t just throw her out. She needs you. You are her mother. Help her, instead of kicking her out. She’s only 18.
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Find a family with another 18-19 yr old and turn them into roommates! Talk with the other family about both of you helping them get out on their own.
well i mean you raised her, correct???
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Why not suggest going to post secondary and living in a dorm for her to gain some maturity and experience living somewhat in her own. This might make her work harder to maintain that independence or make her greatful for what she has.
Have a nice sit down with her and explain to her in a nice way that your at your wits end that she needs to get along with her siblings and help out around the house and also let her know if things don’t change that she will have to move out and give her a specific date say 4-6 months to save up and find a place
Look, when someone is toxic they just are. Whether it be an 18 year old or not. We don’t know everything that goes on in their lives, so we can’t judge.
Is it possible to start by her paying rent to you, and abiding by certain rules? Like she’s renting from you? If she can tolerate that well for a year or so, then maybe you can help her get a small apartment nearby. Slow steps here, I think, as it doesnt sound like she could handle a big leap.
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sit her down and find out why she’s acting out and fighting with her siblings all the time get to the root of it and find a solution before kicking her out That’s not going to help.
wow only because she is 18 you don’t ask her to move out that why she’s been fighting with her siblings she not in a good position to be on her own it’s hard when your parents ask you to move n you just not ready to live on your own $$$$ may be that the main issue is that you’re stressing her out
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I would start asking her like $200 bucks a month for “rent” save it for awhile and then help her get a place and get set up… I personally could never kick one of my kids out but that is just me
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Theres a lot of hate here so I just wanna say growing up i was told after 18 I needed a job or to go to college. Eventually as a teen I hated my parents rules so much I just moved out. Try showing her a little tough love, how the real world works and she’s bound to defy and move on her own, some people need a little push. Living with your children as adults really isn’t for everyone and thats ok, that’s not to say that of course in hard times you would be there for her when or if she needs. 
I have a 29 year old ,And a 19 year old ,I couldn’t give them the door,even at times it drives me crazy,I couldn’t live with myself if anything happened ,if I told them to fly their kite.
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If you don’t think she’s mature enough to live on he town and her job sucks what exactly do you thinking kicking her out will accomplish?
Maybe you can start planning now for your family Christmas visiting your daughter at the homeless shelter…
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I hope I never get to this point with my kids.
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never will I kick my kids out. EVER. wtf are they supposed to do? Just FIGURE IT OUT? THEYRE KIDS. more times than not, that leads to a path of self destruction. they don’t even have their parents to help them? who/what do you think they will turn to? news flash people life is fucking hard as it is and to not be able to turn to their parents? that blows my mind. and makes my heart so sad.
Try talking to her about apartments in a calm manner and legally she is an adult so she has no choice but to make adult choices once moved out honestly. But should approach the subject calmly and see where it goes first bc there r cheap low cost apartments out there
Say hey you have 30 days to find a place to live
She may be 18 but your role as a mother isn’t done. You said she “fights with her siblings” who gets along 24/7 with theirs anyway? Sets some rules down, or help her find an apartment. Maybe she’s not ready to leave from home family is everything! To me seems like you have your favorite in your kids.
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Shit u need to sit her down and tell her it’s time to grow up and do what adults do she’s no longer a child and its no longer ur responsibility to take care of her she’s well old nuff to do it herself she needs to get it together give her a time limit and she needs to b moved out by that time limit no exceptions
Rent and rules if she doesn’t like your rent tell her she has a few months to save up and find her own place
Persuade her to go to school. She’s obviously going thru something, how about counseling! You can’t just put her out with no where to go, she’ll end up back or worse. She needs help. Your job is not over because she turned 18.
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Reading some of these posts makes me appreciate my partner and my kids even more than i already do. I feel blessed to not have these bullshit problems. Cheers🤘
She is YOUR resonsiblity. I 100% guarentee if you try to kick her out you will fuck up her life hardcore. You made the decision to give her life. Now step up and make sure you raise her properly so she can have that.
Fighting is normal for siblings hell me and my sister are 26 and 24 and we still fight thats not a reason to kick her out maybe try talking to her and getting to the root of everything
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I would first ask if you letting her stay for free? Or she payn rent? And tell her she still lives under ypur roof and has to listen to your rules and have a talk to them
All. Maybe the younger ones digging in her stuff goin in her private area? But talk to them all and as a mother i do charge my oldest rent to stay n still has to listen to out rules and still needs to do chores in the house
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I would honestly sit down with your child and talk with her. Instead of kicking her out try and be supportive.
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Start charging her a small rent fee but do t her your saving it for her. Then help her get an apartment with the money you saved. Keep some stashed for her in case she falls behind in her bills. But her paying you rent even if it’s a small amount of money will get her in the practice of budgeting her money and saving and paying bills
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Also start gathering and saving general house hold items she will need when she moves out so she’s already got the basics on hand.
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I may get a ton of backlash for this but honestly I don’t care. When my kids are 19 they will either be in college or they will move out. If they choose to not go to college after high school I will give them 1 year to save money and they’ll have to get their own place. If they aren’t ready to move out by that time they will pay me rent and clean up after themselves and respect my rules or they will move out anyway. If let her stay until she is 19 and encourage her to save money between now and then and I’d offer to help pay her deposits to get her own place.
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Never charge your kids rent. They then think they own the place, boss you around. Then u end up the one to move out unless you’re a martyr. We owe our kids a pathway to education so they can take care of themselves after you’re dead & gone; not a lifetime of dependency
Ya know a few months ago I couldn’t fathom thinking this way about my kids but, now that my 17 year old went off the rails I completely understand this. I’m not so quick to judge anymore. Give her a time frame to get her stuff together and stick with it. My younger sister worked three jobs to make it and if your child doesn’t abide by the rules of the house she can do the same. Sometimes we have to love our kids from a distance and let life teach them what they don’t want to learn from us. No matter how we try yo teach them. We have to stay in the sidelines ready to catch them and let them fall. Tough love is a hard lesson to teach but sometimes we have to do just that. Good luck to you and your daughter.
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She needs to move out and find out what the real world is like or lay down the rules for her to go by it’s your place !
If you expected her to move out at 18 you should have told her ahead of time - and should have helped prepare her for it.
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She’s your daughter and there’s ways to stop her from arguing you don’t tell her to move out,it’s just not a thing to do.
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You get them all together and find out what the problems are and work them out. She is 19 years old and your on facebook looking for advice on how to put her out of her home. Your a disgrace. You better hope in the years to come and your less able to do things for yourself she doesn’t come online looking for the same advice!!!
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It’s very hard nowadays to start out on your own. First time uility hook up fees are expensive and rent is high every where. I would give her an ultimatum. Either she tries to do better and stop fighting with other house hold members or you give her a few months to get a better job and save up money to move out on her own. But please don’t just kick her out with no money or a safe place to go. She is still your child and you don’t want something bad to happen to her just because she is on her own trying to survive.
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Tough love , been there done that,
I’ve just crossed this bridge. I started with talking to her and sparking the conversation. The feedback I received was that she was scared for a few reasons.
1 affordability
2 being alone
3 the struggle
I asked her to save and reassured her that I will always be here for her and also that this would be a positive thing. It took a year of positive preparation in her mind to finally jump the hurdle. She moved into her own little house 3 weeks ago and our relationship is going great.
When it came down to it the hurdle was fear.
Honestly you should have started teaching her responsibility along time ago if you wanted her out at 18 so that’s on you. Maybe talk to her about college or finding a better job.
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I’m the complete opposite. I want my babies to stay. She needs boundaries and discipline…
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File an eviction notice
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Sit down with her talk with her tell her that she needs to start saving money to get her own spot give her a
Month or two don’t fight bout just talk
This is harsh! I wonder what they’re fighting about that couldn’t be resolved?
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Maybe help her out. Help her set up a budget plan to save money for rent, teach her how to grocery shop, care for a house, pay bills. Its a very scary time to be kicking your daughter out. Maybe help her find some roommates to move in with. Help her prepare to move out and not just kick her out.
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Wow be grateful she still home my oldest daughter moved out at 1 am the day after her graduation party 2 yrs ago she was no where ready to move out now she hates everyone she’s a very angry young lady. She’s rebelling against her family hard core over a boy she has called her father and I every name in the book and she will always have a home here we will never turn our backs on her or any of her 6 brothers and sisters. Maybe you should take her out and talk to her maybe she’s struggling with something maybe she needs help finding her independence and knowing you will be there for her. I would give anything to be able to help my kiddo with out it turning into a argument.
Tell her point blank. You’re an adult. Dummy the fuck up or get the fuck up.
Tell her if she doesn’t want to get along and contribute to the family she’s not welcome to stay. She should be paying rent to be at home if she’s graduated. There’s no reason for her to be freeloading off of you
Maybe try to get her help or seek family counseling for you all! And if you plan to kick her out please help her in advance save and learn how to be more independent and save more as one you say she is not making much and two that you dont think she is ready yourself. Sibling fighting is pretty normal. I was kicked out at 14 it was very damaging to me and i fell down the wrong paths. Thankfully I was strong enough to keep going. Please dont give up on your child like my mom gave up on me.
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Set rules follow them or get out stick to it
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Pay her frist months rent and utilities. Take her to resale shops and yard sales for home basis essentials, tell her she is on her own.
Is this deadset? Instead of kicking out your CHILD why not learn how to be a parent and Instil some discipline??
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Some of the responses on here are ridiculous. She asked for advice, not judgement. Ok I’m just gonna offer my two cents, take it or leave it. Why not sit down and talk to your daughter. Siblings are going to fight. This is a given. At 18 your daughter is technically an adult but mentally, let’s face it most 18 year olds are still kids. Hell she is still a teenager. But she also needs to take responsibility for herself to a point as well. Talk to her tell her how you feel and where you’re at with everything. Maybe she is going through something or is scared of taking that next step. Encourage her to do her best in life and if that means moving out and getting roommates, support her while she does. Emotionally I mean. If she is having anxiety or depression issues, encourage her to get help. Sometimes this can be an issue for teens and they don’t even realize it. Whatever you decide, make sure you keep the lines of communication open. Remind her that you love her unconditionally and will always be there for her. But part of being there sometimes involves a little push or tough love.
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Be strong firm with her tough love sometimes its what it takes
Geez. I’m so glad my mother is the complete opposite of you
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I don’t think just kicking her out or telling her it’s time to move out when it doesn’t sound like she is ready to be on her own nor can she make it on her own is the right answer
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Have her start paying you rent and help her to budget, then help her by saving the rent for her deposit, and other bills. Help her by setting aside her money for her, I mean endless you just want to throw her out, but I personally don’t think that would help you or her…
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I was not ready to move out until I was 24. I would hope you would let her go when she feels ready instead of making her feel unwanted by pushing her out.
Not being ready = debt.
She will want to start adulthood off on a good foot 
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Good grief calm down people… It’s not like she’s talking about kicking out a 15 yr old or something. The “child” is almost 19. You have no idea how she behaves or reacts to her parents are siblings. If you don’t have advice, hush. (I’ve got 18 yo old twins… We love them, and we gave them a time limit to live with us after graduation before they have to pay rent or move out on their own.)
**** if you’re set on her moving out, sit down and tell her what she needs to expect. Help her look for some places, maybe try to get her excited about it. It is a scary thing for them to move out and be on their own. Does she have friends she can rent with?
Good luck… And I agree with you. If she’s causing problems at home, something has to change. It’s not fair to the younger ones.
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send her to university
I would have a serious sit down with her and talk everything out before kicking her out. Yes, she’s legally an adult but 18 is NOT mature at all. I chose to move out at 18 and I was far from ready to do so. She just graduated high school, give her some time to get her act together. If she’s being an ass and so immature as to make everyone’s life miserable, then she’s definitely not ready to live on her own. Put your foot down and put your foot in her ass if you need to. Don’t make her leave before she’s ready. I would tell her if she can’t help out more and stop being so disrespectful and hateful, then she’s got to go. Make her pay rent. Make her pitch in on all the bills. That’ll give her a taste of adult life and might make her realize how good she has it at home. She’s clearly not adult enough to make it on her her own just yet.
I moved in and out of my mom’s house since I was 18years old ,but I however wouldn’t kick my child out I would try maybe setting some stricter rules for her and maybe have her start paying rent or part of the bills and teach her how to save and budget her money and then maybe try to have her and your other children go to a family counseling or sit down with your daughter and try to meditate the issues between her and your other children.
I have an almost 18 yr old son. I was so ready for him to move into the dorm to give us a break from him. He’s a good kid but also in that I’m 18 n grown stage. I know he’s not ready for his own place. I feel your pain and you are not the only parent to experience this.
Tell her to shape up r go n put ur foot down
Wow as a parent you are sad asf
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She is what she is , because of you. You are the mother, the example, you need to be strong and loving . I would die before I’ll tell my 18 year old child to move.
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Kick her out she’ll be fine. I moved out at 19 and I’m now 22 and still on my own and did fine. She’ll figure it out. Time for parents to let their kids grow up
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