Sounds like kicking her out would do her a favor to get away from your stupidity. Shame on you.
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How can you GET her to move out? TELL her it’s time to go. 
Yeah ok kick her out on the streets because she’s been difficult, don’t be surprised she cuts you out of her life she obviously needs you to be a mother and maybe all she wants is U to talk to her theirs something bothering her so sit down and listen you’d be surprised
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Wow this just breaks my heart. I cannot even imagine considering kicking my kids out of my house. You raised her…if she’s a brat that’s a reflection on your parenting.
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I was married at 19 had 2 kids by 21. I hadn’t lived with my parents since I was 16. If she isn’t ready for the real world it’s because you haven’t prepared her for it. But making your kid feel like she isn’t wanted because you didn’t do your job is seriously f’ed up.
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Why do some parents think that just cuz kids hit that magic number of 18, they are completely grown adults and can do everything on their own. That makes me sick! All kids mature at their own level and pace, I would never throw my child out just cuz they turned 18, that’s immature of a parent to do that cuz ya’ll know that life is hard so why put your own child or young adult in harm’s way without them knowing the reality of life out there. You want them to get on their own then maybe you should of been a better parent, taught them life skills, budgeting, the value of money, grocery shopping, Bills, self defense and everything that comes with living on your own especially for a young female. Regardless of age, they are your child if you choose to have more later and think it’s not working out then you should of thought about that before you go having more kids if you couldn’t even raise your first one right. Plain sad, sounds like you need parenting skills!
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I have a 21 year old married nurse who lit out of here at 18. I have a 17 year old with epilepsy why can’t drive yet and is maturing during a pandemic. I don’t expect her tk be leaving in a year, and both of my children know they have a home here. Always.
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I could never kick my kids out 18 or 38 but then agian i know that even though 18 is legal theyre still very much a child if i had been kicked out at 18 id have never talked to my parents agian because they wouldve proved they dont care about my well-being where do you expect her to go when you yourself said her job isnt the best. Thank god i love my kids more than this
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I have been outta my parents house permanently since I was 18… And guess what i now have a house and a successful career. Cuz i had to stand on my own 2 feet .Those of u that are willing to let your grown kids stay till they are in their 20s aren’t doing them any favors. Your Job is to prepare them for the next stage of life. Not baby them forever.
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Imagine setting your CHILD up to fail like this. Yikes extremely glad you arent my mother id hate you.
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Have her start paying “rent” to you and save it to help her get out on her own. Don’t tell her, and still give her a time limit to get a better job and find her own place. It takes time, you can’t just kick her out.
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You all are vicious. She was just asking for advice not your judgement.
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Just tell her it’s time for her to move on and start her life, she will be fine I moved out at 16 I was fine
Why isnt she in college @least? @18 u should be helping her further her education sp she can get a better job. I said already she cant afford to move out with the job she has, she needs assistance in order to get proper financial independence. Send her to college or university…
,Charge her rent , 1 fourth of her check every payday .also in force a quite time crefew
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Shape up or ship out!
I don’t think she is to old to still be loving at home, HOWEVER; she is to old to be picking fights with her siblings. Make it known to her that she has an ultimatum, she lives by your rules, which include helping at home, not fighting and whatever else you choose, within reason. She is to old for a curfew, but she is old enough to respect you. My daughter moved out at 21 because I told her, my house my rules. She decided she was to old to have to live by moms rules. She chose to get her own apartment and I helped by cosigning for her. She is now 45, has been happily married to her high school sweetheart for 21 years has 2 boys and helps run 3 businesses. She is a very successful and respectful person.
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Make her pay rent. Or work it off
Oh my. I know it’s hard with kids but what is wrong with parents just kicking kids out. Granted shes an adult. But still its not right .
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You don’t you do your job as a mom and not trying to make you feel bad but it’s your your truth help her talk to her if you need any further help pm me with any personal information to understand this better and maybe I can help with always love and trust me I’ve had my fair ahare
something is clearly causing the conflict in the family. It may be time to sit down and just talk it through. She is now an adult and with that being said she still needs to live under the rules of your house. If she doesn’t want to comply at all you can give her 30 days notice to vacate your property.
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My 16 year old just ran away, your daughter isn’t much older and by the sounds of it doesn’t seem to be mature enough for her mother to just kick her to the curb. People like you should have to deal with what I’m dealing with right now, not mothers like myself. Y’all need a change of heart. That’s your fucking child your baby!!! Speaking of your daughter in such away, no wonder she does what she does!
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Tell her she has 2 choice stop fighting with her sibling and act her age. Or pack her bags and move out.
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Tell her to either straighten up her behavior or get out. Give her a 90day notice
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Bring her some moving boxes , put them by her door let her know either she packs them or you will pack them, and stand your ground .
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Just tell her to get out or act her age
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What causes the conflict?
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Just think how old you were when your parents stopped giving you a free ride. I had to do that with my children. It was hard but WOW are they all doing amazing!
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I would keep her home and safe! Enjoy them! Believe me it’s no fun when they move out! My children are always welcome to come back home! I don’t care how old they get ! And 18 is still very very young!!!
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She’s barley 19! Reach out maybe she has things bothering her and might need her parent ! I’ll never force my daughter out! Once she graduates as long as she’s going to college and working part time she can save her money and bank it for her own place !
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I’ve had the conversation with my kids their whole lives. Im responsible for them till 18. After that they can contribute as adults if they are not in school, so it was no surprise when the time came.
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I was 23 when I moved out & got my own apartment don’t try to kick her out , talk to her about things ask why she’s fighting with her siblings , maybe try to get her to go to school or get a higher paying job so that she can save money let her move when she’s got enough money saved & when she’s ready & financially ready
I was going to school only reason why my mom let me stay then I graduated & got a job I struggled a little bit but I stayed Ontop of my bills support her don’t try getting her to move out then she’ll feel like you don’t like her
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Give choice,either become a kinder responsible participant in the family or to move out. Tell her this is affecting as of NOW.
Also tell her that you will help her find a safe place and will help her get started. You don’t want to cut ties,that’s a high price to pay for the rest of your life.
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She is a teenager. Take her out to lunch. Just the two of you. Talk to her about her life. She needs you and she needs your love. There is a reason she is being mean. The worst thing you can do at this point is throw her out. Just because our children turn a certain age, there isn’t a switch that says we don’t need to help them and stop loving them.
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Theres always a choice in any situation, I had to do it to my girl when she was 35. She had 3months to get it together and get her own place. Never lived on her on or alone. She is 45 now and so responsible. Very proud of her
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It is time you start treating her more as an adult and making her responsible for her cost of living. You can’t just push her out that would be cruel, besides I don’t believe a judge would honor any eviction of your own child who wasn’t clearly financially prepared to do so. In saying that make her responsible for her own toiletries, her own laundry needs, figure out an amount of rent for her to pay and when she doesn’t pay it cut the cable to her part of the house, then the lights. Stop paying for her dinners when you go out to eat. She will get an understanding of what life on her own is going to take. The new rules may even make her leave on her own
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She is 19. Not everyone’s ready to move at 19. Ask her to pay rent and save that money so she has a foundation to move out. I know plenty of friends who had their parents do that so they didn’t move out with absolutely nothing. Don’t do what these clowns are saying by “locking her out” or taking legal action. If you’d like to tarnish your relationship with your child for life take that route. But otherwise good luck.
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Talk to her
Ask her if anything is bothering her
If nothing is wrong and she has a bad attitude tell her if her attitude doesn’t change she will be asked to move out. Also tell her that her attitude towards family needs to stop, we love our kids but stop and think “who’s in charge me or her”? Stand your ground
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Sit down with her and go over her finances with her. Once you’ve done that, then you will know how much she can afford to give you for rent. If she doesn’t like your plans then tell her she can move out and try making it on her own. Just make sure you’re there when she falls on her face!
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Charge a fair rent and maybe add some chores like getting groceries to help her get into the adult rhythm and hold onto the rent money so when she’s ready to leave you can give her that so she has money to start her life! Give some responsibility but kicking your child out at 18/19 doesn’t seem to be a good answer.
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Start charging her a small amount for rent and save it up for her so that when she can move out she has money to back her up. Give her specific responsibilities that she HAS to take care of. Try to give her a bit more privacy if possible. And let her know under no circumstances is she to start anything with her siblings, but let her know that if they start something you will back her up.
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Going out into a world like ours today is terrifying for a young person. Just because she has graduated from school and has a job doesn’t mean she’s prepared to go. Does she have money saved up to put down on a place and all her utilities? What about furniture is she getting help with that? Are you helping her gather what she needs to move out. Sit down with her and discuss what needs to happen in order for her to move out and give her a time frame in which to do it. Set rules with her interactions with her siblings. If she doesn’t comply fine her or take something away. When my children got their first jobs we charged them a small amount for rent to get them used to paying a bill. We took that rent money and helped in getting them move out.
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I just read that 52%of 18 to 29 year olds are living with their parents the economy is so bad and rents are so high Charge her something and save it for when she can move out make rules about behavior good luck god bless
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My kids said they couldn’t wait to be 18 and move out . I told them I couldn’t let them move out if they are not ready. If they couldn’t be a contributor to society they weren’t going anywhere . Three of my four joined the army to get away from me. The other one I’m still working on .
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Give her options she can follow the rules and pay rent or she can go. Write up a contract. Make her responsible for one meal a week and providing her own personal toiletries. Force responsibility
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Charge her 25 percent of her pay for rent. Save it for her and tell her she needs to start looking for a place by the end of the year. You have to set boundaries and have rules. She can’t live with you forever, and this could be a good experience, she will definitely appreciate you more after paying her own bills. And she can always come back, with rules.
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So the way I would approach this situation is to sit her down and talk to her explain - X you are 18 yrs old and now legally an adult I dont want you to leave but your fighting all the time with your sibilings needs to stop. They are children, you while still my child are now an adult and need to start acting like one. You need to start respecting this house and its rules (set rules and expectations for her) and start to contribute economically to the house hold if she is going to school while working then she can pick up 1 full utility bill monthly if she is is not working then she needs to pay a small portion of rent and bills monthly. If she cannot do as asked then she need to start to find another place within the next 30 days. Explain everything in detail set it out on paper in writing And stick to it if she does stay you also need to set a day for her to do the cleaning a bathroom and kitchen! Set your expectations and STICK TO THEM!
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Talk to her and see if something is bothering her. Have her pay rent if she isnt doing so already. You can either take her rent money and save it so when she is ready to move out you can use it as security deposit and such or use it towards your bills/groceries. She needs to learn responsibility.
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Barely out of high school I couldn’t kick mine out. They’re still children. But…I would charge rent and give a warning the attitude better change or you’re out.
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I don’t think I could ever kick my child out before they were prepared. My son is 18, 19 in October. As long as he respects the rules of our home, continues school and works to save his money, he is welcome to stay. The goal is for him to save so he starts his future out on the right foot. Go to school so he can have a career. Then he wants to buy a house and prepare for a family. Siblings fight. I have four. It’s usually not a one sided fight. I wouldn’t allow sibling rivalry to set my child up for failure.
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I cry every day for my daughter who went to study abroad. Wish she is here. I would give everything to be near by. And she would do the same. I’ve raised her very well, so we don’t have a problems. She’s 20 and we are still so close. I can’t wait to have some grand babies from her and steal them and look after them. Will never understand parents wanting their children away. Oh god, i would give everything on this world to be nearby. My husband is even more close to her.
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Print up a rental agreement and outline what’s expected of her, charge her rent and food costs, and stop paying her other bills for her. She can either follow the rules outlined in the agreement or leave
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You don’t just throw your child out because everything gets tough it sounds like she’s not even ready you should’ve prepared her for life! And you need to get with the program because sounds like you have other children coming up behind her.
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There could be a reason why she’s so angry and acting out all the time. I’m 19. 20 in December. I live with my parents in their basement apartment and pay rent. I couldn’t do it on my own while doing full time school too. Being a 18-19 year old is hard these days. People don’t get that. Talk to her.
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I am sad by the #Family when the 18 year old is Family . Why is the solution to kick her out ?
Sounds like a family issue and not just an 18 year old issue to me .
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This is what worked for our family. We sat our 19 year old son down and had a conversation. He had a decent job, but not one that would support himself or a family for life. He was going to college, but only half heartedly and with no major in mind. In otherwords, he had no vision. We told him that he had 6 months to figure out what he wanted to be when he grew up or the lock to the back door would change and he would not have the key. We assured him we loved him unconditionally, but that we were not going to support him as an adult. It was time for him to get motivated.
Within 6 weeks he’d gotten enrolled in school in Arizona, gotten financing (with our help), and found a place to live. 3 mo later we moved him to Arizona and he graduated from school with a degree in IT management and today makes more money than his dad and I put together. He also graduated with honors and that was way better than high school!
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I could never kick my child out. No matter their age. Is this how homeless people get to be homeless?
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Why would you want your daughter to move out siblings fight all the time. I would love to have my boys 18 again and living at home
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Why?? Get her out ? I would want my child to be with me the longer the better, as a mother I would never do that period!!!
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What kinda mess is this?
Thank God my parents didn’t kick me out at 18.
And I didn’t kick my kids out at 18.
Wow!
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I refuse to be held hostage in my own house by someone that has an attitude if you don’t like my house other people in my house you need to be on your own
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Make her pay rent and utilities at your house or start taking classes, either college or trade school so she can get out on her own. Told my kids as long as they were moving towards an independent future, they could stay at home with rules. They are both college grads and very successful. No free rides after 18.
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I had and still gave an amazing relationship with my parents but the day I turned 18 I signed my lease on an apartment been on my own ever since I couldn’t imagine living with my parents again I like my freedom too much
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Charge rent, prepare for reality
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We have a rule, you either have a full time job or a full time student to live w mom and dad. Either way you pitch in, chores, grocery shopping, cleaning, whatever. They are still responsible for their own bills, ie: car, insurance, gas, cell phone, etc. If they are adults, then they have to act like adults, no one is going to baby them. I feel like any other way seems to teach them to be dependent, not healthy.
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Make her help with bills that way she can start to prepare for the real world make her do her laundry her cooking and when u feel she’s ready or if she feels she’s ready make her leave give her so long to be out
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Have her start paying room rent and buying her own groceries if she wants to stay with you. Baby steps first. If you kick her out of the house, you may ruin your relationship with her.
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This is something for the last 18 years you should have been teaching and preparing her for. Can she afford to move out? Can she manage to live on her own does she have the skills these things matter more, otherwise you set her up for failure.
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My parents had 7 children and when we were teenagers the rules were. 1. Birth control- they were not raising grandchildren ever on a full time basis. 2. At whatever age you graduated from high school or quit school you could only live at home if you had a job or were still in school i.e. college with summers off or both working and school. 3. We all had chores each and every day as my parents both worked full time. My mother did no vacuuming, dusting, cleaning of bathrooms, laundry, we all took sack lunches that we got ready when cleaning up after dinner each evening. My brother did the mowing and we all shoveled snow all winter Everyone pitched in.
When I left for college my mother hugged me and said that if it didn’t work out I could come home. That simple statement gave me the incentive to do well and have to come home.
We were all well loved and yes we squabbled but we were not rude or physical with each other. We respected our parents work ethic helped the whole family thrive.
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Mine stay till he was 25 had 2 kids and a gf I finally had enough of the boy he was living off me FREE I told him after he broke my door to get the F out now happy to say he has 3 children a great job and just got the keys to his very first owned home hes 28 now
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Still a baby imo still needs time to mature and learn real life don’t rush it… Maybe you need to look at the family as a whole … It’s NOT JUST HER. family counseling
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Maybe find out why she’s so difficult and get her help instead of just tossing her out!
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Never say never. It sounds like this 19 year old just needs a attitude adjustment, but some can be dangerous to those living in the home to the point of causing physical harm. So what do you do then? Especially when you have younger children at home to think about.
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Open the front door, shake her hand and wish her well. Options, military, college, or get an apartment and job to support herself. I did it , my kids did it. And that is the difference between independent and dependent. It’s called grow up time . Life is real we all learn.
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Kick her out because she argues w her siblings!! ? What kind of shat is this?! Is this why people have children? so they can dispose them as soon as they turn 18?! SMH! No wonder why there’s so many broken children! They are still babies at 18! Give her a chance, she’s still your child! As much as the other lil gremlins
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You can forcibly move her out (legally and will take a little time). I would make life harder on her, rather than actually kicking her out…lock up everything that is not a necessity, lile laundry soap, snacks, and televisions. Change the WiFi password that she doesn’t have wifi. Take away everything that she doesn’t need, but can start trying to afford on her own…maybe she’ll act right?!
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It sounds like she is accustomed to running your household with her behaviors. Set some rules and stand your ground. Let her know that she can’t continue disrupt your household. The other part is this is not all her fault. She may just be the target because you aren’t taking your responsibility for how she got to be a problem. You may want to try therapy because 18 is young to go out on her own but it’s doable because my mom sent me packing at 17. Actually I left because I didn’t want to follow the rules.
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All my children knew, when they turn 18, graduate high school, or drop out “give me” dies. House hold bills are then divided between number of house hold members and they become responsible for their portion.
If you cant pay rent or abide by your landlords rules what happens? It’s a lesson in adulting 101. Every adult at some point in time has to learn.
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You all need a good family counselor!! This is why the young generation is messed up. It is because of parents who have no empathy and patience to work with the children you brought into this world. God bless these children and guide them through this life.
I would get to the bottom of what’s really causing her attitude. My door is always open to my kids they know that. I would discuss the stress she’s putting on the whole family and you expect it to stop! Both of mine respect me even at an early age. They both have a family on their own but needs mom sometimes. They know I will always step up to help in any way I can. I think the problem has to do with respect. Respect is earned not given there’s a problem that runs deep with her. When you have a good talk get her to open up with her feelings you will find out why she’s behaving like she is. I would never throw mine out but they also knew I wouldn’t tolerate causing trouble within the family. I would just tell her either respect the others in the home or she can find her a place to live but I would also help her to make the change!!!
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It’s such bad timing with covid I would wait, be safe not sorry!
I could never do that, especially that she’s not able to take care of herself! It will lead to heartache!
What about college? She needs to get a profession so she can take care of herself. Give her a warning about her behavior maybe she’ll change it. Maybe she’s having an issue. Did you sit down and try to discuss what’s going on in her life? Our children are our most precious gift in life.
We need to hold them close , it’s not a good world out there, lots of danger and turmoil. Please be careful a d think hard on this!
Seek out better assistants instead of face book! Not the best place to get opions!
BE CAREFUL!
Maggie RN
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Going through this right now myself. I had told my 18 yo if she didn’t want to be respectful and follow the house rules she would need to go! That was almost a month ago. And She did leave ,with a Guy. That I do not know and now lives almost 2 hours from home. I regret EVER , speaking those words to my child. Adult or not! We could of worked together and found a better alternative. Heartbroken! And Worried! Best of luck to you.
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Its hard to say what’s right these days. I’m older so, with the changes I’ve seen in this world I’d want to keep them as close as i could. Teach responsibility & respect but its a scary world out there. Especially for a girl.
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Geez…some of you are all too eager to get rid of your kids. Im glad my parents let me stay with them until i was 22. My rule is thst my children can live for free as long as they are in school. After school, they need to work and they need to pay a small amount of rent.
Charge her rent put half of it back for her first apartment until you have enough to help her get started
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Figure out how to live in peace. I have a young adult living at home. He’s going to college locally. He can be difficult but he is not ready to be out on his own, so there is no way I would put him out of house.
Have you tried family counseling? It’s sounds like a family issue. Remember, “hurt people, hurt people.” Just a thought. I obviously don’t know the full story. Best of luck to you. Parenting is not easy.
Start by charging her rent (so she gets used to it) and make sure she knows how to feed herself and do her laundry, you know get her ready to be out on her own. So many parents neglect to teach the basic adulting to their grown children. And once she’s ready use the rent money as a deposit
Too young to be totally on her own in this society. She should be attending college and preparing for her future not working full-time.
18 isn’t very old. Back in the day when world was normal kids were developed an ready by 18. When family worked, played, learned as family yes kids were ready at 18 but now… Both parents are gone working. school is open sometimes no one home to teach life skills kids have to fend for self. Back in the day things were so different. Its just not the case anymore. Sucks parents are so tired from trying to provide in the new world kids can’t watch an learn they are home waiting for parents to return. Then boom 18 magic number hits an hope your ready kid🤔 but what are the options? World is not the same place
You give her 30 -60 days to find a place. Having her stay at home is keeping her from growing up.
Remind her she can always come home for Sunday dinner.
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If she can not move out because she can not afford to it is time to sit her down and have a talk to her that she is going to have to leave if she does not change things and help more. You have got to at sometime in her life is put her out if she does not change and use the tuff love method. That’s what is wrong with kids today they want it all given to them. TUFF LOVE
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I would let her know the doors are always open to her, however she cannot cause confusion in the home with the other siblings. She will have to find a better way to communicate, if not she will have a room in the basement, she will not disrupt the house. I would never put her out that’s a very young age. She barely got out of high school. Maybe counseling as well, she is transitioning to an adult soon. Work with her to help her figure it out. Never give up on her.
Two of my daughters lived at home until they got married. My third daughter moved out at 18 and I missed her terribly!! In this day when it is so unsafe for young women, I would welcome her in to your home until she is more mature. I know it can be hard sometimes but you will miss her when she is no longer there.
You need to let her know, its adult world now. Set the boundaries. Let her know it’s not about her anymore, it’s time to focus on the younger children. You got her through school. But also listen to what she has to say. Are the younger kids invading her privacy, etc…she should be paying something to live there, and doing things around the house. Lay your adult rules down for her, it is still your house. She needs to respect that
I have a grandson that didnt want to follow rules at home, didnt care about his mom’s health,told his dad he’d rather spend time with his friend and walked out of the house. He is 17. Just found out he quit school. Living with some friends and plans on moving to Nebraska with his girlfriend and her parents.
Tossing her out during a pandemic is just not safe. If she has just graduated, the Class of 2020 was pretty much traumatized by not having closure. Teaching her adulting is a great idea. Treat her like an adult and she may surprise you.
18 is still a child I could never tell one of my kids to leave .
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Personally my mom never mentioned making me move out when I did at 24 it was because I was ready and able to care of myself and I don’t plan to make my son move out when he reaches a certain age, she’s still really young maybe make her chip in for bills but why try and force her out