My son just moved out at 21. Before he did I enforced a curfew, kept him responsible for his liabilities except rent and food. He knew I watched his every move by onstar and find a phone. He moved out “because mom I’m an adult “. I can take care of myself. Well, he’s been out a month and I’m still teaching him to be on his own but he’s doing a great job. It was time. I miss him terribly but I’m officially an empty nester and kid free since 1978!! Once they have obligations and are held accountable, they cannot wait to leave.
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Charge her some rent and put it away so when she does move out you can give it back to her and yes give her some chores and some space but don’t kick her out she needs all the love and support from her family and be lucky my 2 kids don’t even talk to each other anymore so when I have family dinners I can’t have my family together.
Talk to her, something is bothering her. Sit down with her and asked what is happening , be her friend, she needs one. I am my daughter’s best friend, she talked to me about everything and anything that happens to her. Be her best friend she needs you.
Give her a time limit with goals. Three months to find a better job, with benefits. Some place to live with or without roommates. Let her do all of the searching, do not help out. Stick to the plan. She will never be independent if you help out. It’s tough love. it’s super hard, but it does work.
Make a contract with her. Staying what you expect of her now that she is an adult. This includes rent, staying out late because if she comes in at all hours she maybe waking up siblings. You can include a family clause to Include her in family events. Just because she is an adult does not mean she is free. I lived with my mom’s friend and she included all this because she needed it that way.
Hear is a thought have you every asked why she is doing this. I have a daughter myself she acts out. Right now she is acting out due to the pandemic she has a job and pays rent I think everyone is doing that even me. I was her age raising a baby myself be happy that she is working and fighting with her siblings. But remember talk to her find out what is happening in her world things have changed be patient. If you think her job right now can afford her to pay on rent, gas, maintenance on car, bills and food. Begin able to do this she will feel independent remember we all have been that age in between teenager and adulthood it sucked.
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I moved out with my boyfriend at 19 and my Mom didn’t ask me to leave. I just wanted to be on my way. We had mashed potatoes for dinner many nights and I had no money for much but we didn’t ask our parents for anything. It made me grow up and take on adult responsibilities. She needs to get along with everyone or show her the door. Good luck!
Good Lord give her time. It’s not easy especially as young as she is to get her own place. Not many people CAN get their own place at that age.
If she wants to act like an adult, treat her like an adult. Charge rent and she follows your rules.
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Have her pay you a certain amount of money to help out with rent utilities & groceries. Save that money so when she is ready to move out she has that support to help her start off. Maybe setup some ground rules about the fighting with her siblings ask her to act respectfully towards you and & her siblings but ask the others and you as well to be respectful to her as well if she does follow those rules
My son got a job at 16 moved out when he was 18. Start making her pay you a small amount. Take that put it in the bank when she had enough saved for deposit and utilities tell her it’s time to be on her own. They have to grow up sometimes. Momma cant keep them for ever
Where do u want her to go. Most places wont rent to someone that young but make her do her own cooking, cleaning extra so she will know how when its time
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Nineteen is young. Unless she has a steady job and a mature roommate, she will be back anyways, with prob more attitude since she tasted "freedom ". I would parent, have a sit down with them all and TELL them what is expected while they live there. Nineteen yr olds can still be grounded while under your roof.
I can’t imagine some of the parents here. No wonder, if there is no love in one house between the family, what do you expect? Love between other countries? Peace in the world? U can’t even keep the peace at home.
What are the younger kids doing to make her fight with them? I live with my parents and my little sister is constantly starting fights with me. Barrowing my shoes and jackets and purses and makeup without asking. Constantly leaving the bath room a mess and I got blamed. My mom eventually sat my sister and I down and basically had to have a conversation with my little sister about not using my stuff. Don’t just blame the older child. My mom makes me pay rent. It took her 15 years to see I was never the problem. It was my little sister
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I can’t even imagine wanting to get your child to move out. If the siblings can’t get along maybe some family counseling is in order. 18 today isn’t the same as 18 was 20 years ago. Be patient and listen she maybe trying to tell you something. Teens won’t ask but if you ask she may surprise you with her feelings
If she has to pay room and board eventually she will decide if she has to pay she may as well have her own place. Let her know you are always backing her. Pay her own phone insurance etc. better get a better job to stay afloat
Love her and be patient as she is struggling to be facing new challenges. Be her good friend and parents must bring her to the Lord in prayer daily. Confessing all the correct words for her in prayer.
Set a time limit for her to get a job. If she doesn’t comply, then and only then give her the choice to move out into this big bad world we all live in! Sometimes a kick in the butt is what is needed. Once they move out, unfortunately it’s never the same dynamic. So keep her close but set rules and boundaries!
She needs responsibility. My oldest son and our youngest son still live at home. They left and came back lol but they pay their way, no free rides, but it’s still cheaper at my house than going somewhere else. I don’t mind them being back at home at all.
I’m sorry but 18 is still young. Siblings are going to fuss no matter what their age. If she works let her help with bills or food. Teach her some responsibility before you send her out into this cruel world.
Make her staying in the home contingent on a mental health evaluation and possible medication. My oldest now 20. Chose to leave rather than staying medicated for her bipolar disorder. It made our living situation incredibly difficult. I also had 3 minor children that were put in pretty bad situations due to her impulsivity and attention seeking ways. She moved in with a family friend and than with an abusive bf. However 6 months ago she left the bf and now has her own place and a car. She is doing great in my opinion. I can reward her good choices. 
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If she can’t afford to move out on her own you have options. If u can afford it help pay her rent. Or she can get a room mate. Is there a basement or garage you can give to her as her own living space away from the family? But treat it like it’s own apt. Set up rules for when she can visit and for how long etc.
18 is young
Give her an ultimative and make her understand how hard it would be to live on her own…her own money. You don’t want to do anything to prematurely.
Give her examples, make her get a job and spend her own money and see how quickly goes.
If she has time to fight with her siblings then she has time to get 2 jobs. I wouldn’t charge her rent but make sure she saves her money so she has enough Money to move out. Just have her busy out of the house. My daughter had 4 jobs at one time. She was never home.
My thoughts as soon as they get a job they start to pay their way I was 15 when I first started working My parents maybe pay $15 a week and buy my own thing’s. When I left high school and got a good job they made me pay 200 a month. I thought it was to much to pay so I moved out found a place with a friend for 300 a month. I soon found out I had to pay electric and gas my own groceries do my own wash needless to say after two months I went back home and was glad to pay my parents 200 a month. As far as the behavior issue I was brought up in the house were if you didn’t behave you’re never too old to get a crack on the ass.
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I couldn’t wait to get out on my own tell her about the pros of living on her own. Like her own space and her own rules those two got me to move out of my parents house very quickly lol. Cause no one likes living under someone else’s rules good luck.
I’m not kicking my child out just because they are 18. I hope they will stay close when they are older. Maybe help her start saving up for her own place. Make sure she is working on her credit. Have her write down her goals with you. Help her stick to it.
I would charge her rent give her some chores. Encourage her to get some job training or go to school. Teacher her that. You expect her to be an adult around the children. Encourage her to fond a friend to get an apartment with
I like the idea of having her pay rent and save. That’ll get her ready to move out. I’d also have a talk with her and explain you expect her to act more adult than the younger kids, she is 18 after all. If she doesn’t, give her consequences. She’s still dependent on you so there is something you can take away. Maybe make her go to room if she can’t get along.
Good luck… My daughter is 21 and she’s still at home… She feels since I gave birth to her she’s got that right…
Talk to her about her goals on life and set up expectations while she lives there. She probably needs some kind of training or school to get a good job. Set up a time line of what she wants to happen. She’s probably feeling lost and confused. I can’t imagine just throwing one of my kids out without some kind is skills and support from us.
Your house, your rules. And one of those rules should be no fighting. If rules are broken there are consequences. As an adult that may be a hard lesson for her to learn but she needs to learn it.
Life is ‘hard’ nowadays. It’s hard to buy a house, high rent…cost of living is up. That’s why you see kids living at home with their family. People making more rooms in their house so they can rent it out.
She’s still your flesh & blood…whatever happens out there…her problem will always be yours (parents). Family should talk it out/work it out, support each other…that’s what LOVE/GOD is all about.
I hear your frustration … what I am doing is I have my daughter in my finished basement. We turned it into rooms . She has it set up really cute. She pays rent plus she is responsible to buy what she needs for food or whatever . She is able to join us for dinner if she would like. She does have to help with cleanup if she is upstairs and eating with us then she helps us clean up. Otherwise she isn’t responsible to help with cleanup. So far working pretty well. Stopped a lot of the fighting and my house is much more peaceful and yet we still have her close to us so if she needs us just upstairs . Good luck!
It is a known fact that they go through terrible twos again between 19-25. Its worse today with this entitlement attitude. You either set the guidelines, write them out and do not waver or help her find a place and help her keep it. She should be paying something, if even little to live in your home. Its a tuff decision and tuff time for everyone.
This is probably one of tthe toughest things a mom goes through! Daughter # 1 the epitome of “ the perfect child “. ( not really but close) ! Daughter #2 from birth the wild child! I lost my husband when she was a freshman and she was very close to her dad hence probably the start. Anyway we did counseling thing… oh just normal teenage behavior! Ok well not working in my book. So she did not want to go to college at first she needed to find herself 
. Had a good job but refused to live by house rules… let me know where you are, pick up after yourself etc. nope and out the door she went. She BEGGED me to please come home . Nope when you figure it out and stop this running around then you can come back. Don’t think I did not shed many tears and even my friends thought I was mean! Guess what she is a special ed teacher married and made me a nana! Guess they call it tough love but actually it is pure hell. But all in the past. Best of luck to you.
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She is not mature enough sit down and tell her what you are expecting of her and be firm, and No do not kick her out , she needs to learn so much from you , if you do kick her out , someday you will regret it ,let’s say she does move out and she gets with the wrong crowd, get pregnant, then what ?? do not push and become another missing child .
We never told our kids that at 18 there were , I did make them do more things for them selfs and pay , help with house work do yard work if you went to school and work save , no school work and help pay , its just a hard time time right now , can’t see kids in the street 
I was charged rent and utilities the month after I turned 18. I had to make sure my job would support me and paid for all my own other bills, phone, car, insurance, etc. My parents tried to get me to be an adult and it worked. I did fall once or twice and my parents would give a little bit of help weather it was telling me how to fix what happened or even a meal once every few days if needed. It made me realize what being an adult was and how to survive on my own.
She may be depressed or have experienced some form of abuse. Talking to her may help but a medical evaluation could reveal your answer.
I’m 19 and trust me I’ve thought of moving out multiple times but right now is not the perfect time to be moving out. We’re still in a pandemic. Who knows maybe one day she’ll lose her job- god forbid that’ll ever happen though. If her job isn’t great at the moment just simply ask her to pay some bills or to start a savings so once things get better overtime she’ll be able to be financially ready to move out. Don’t be harsh and kick her out to the curb. That’s not the way to go at all. Good luck though
I agree with those saying that she should be charged rent and utilities. Now whether that’s what you use it for is your decision. You could save back that money and when she finds a place you can give it back to her as help for first months rent and deposits. At her age she is an adult and needs to start being treated as one.
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Is she enrolled in school? Is she attempting to increase her chances of getting better employment by taking classes that will give her skills to work at a better job? If so, then have a family meeting to discuss with her and the siblings what their issues are. She may not be ready to go on her own, is a roommate an option? I don’t think it is okay to believe that when you turn 18 or 19, you are automatically able to become self sufficient. If she is not helping you financially, then she should be and you could squirrel that money away to help her move out when she is ready.
I had the same thing going on with my oldest who is now 36. When she was 18-19 she had a job but still lived at home. My home felt like Motel 1. I finally have her a time frame of 2 months. I was her reference for an apartment and her utilities but she knew it wasn’t an option. It made her grow up and take responsibility.
Rules at my house we’re as long as they were being educated I would foot the bills. Else they pay rent. Pay it to me or to someone else. Be mindful, if they pay rent then they should also be allowed additional privileges as anyone who pays their own way
Start charging rent. If she is paying and realizes her money she makes is not just for blowing she will respect her surroundings more.
Oh I see …you believed your responsibility ends when they are 18. What have you done to ensure her success before you got fed up. Young people don’t automatically become capable, responsible and able to live on their own on their 18th birthday without a significant amount of preplanning and support?
I suspect her lack of maturity has an awful lot to do with you and how you supported her at 10, 11, 12, 13 14, 15, 16, and 17. Did you do any of the following …
Teach her the value of money and hard it is to make a buck?
Teach her how to save part of her allowance/ paycheck for things she wants?
Help her to understand that the work she put in to classes in high school have a direct correlation to her ability to be hired at a life sustaining wage?
My guess is the answer is no to all these questions. You have a long way to go before she is ready to move out. Pushing her out now will likely set her up to move in with someone she thinks will take care of her. Hint they won’t.
Don’t kick her out. Support her
Please talk with her. Listen to what she needs to talk about. Then decide together how to move forward. She should contribute money to help cover expenses. Age should not be the only factor…
Then talk about how to heal life between her and her siblings…
I wish you and your family well.
You can’t ask her to move out .you all need to sit down and talk about what has been going on with everyone .l did this with my lot a family meeting once a month and every one had there say
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Talk with her, about her behavior. Let her know that she causing a lot of disharmony in the house. And if she can’t get it together, she has to move. It’s as simple as that. There is no other way, than to be straight up 
An 18 year old not mature enough to live on their own. Fighting with her siblings proves that. Buy a storage building put it in your backyard and put her in there. Hell if she bothering you that damn much you move out.
After I graduated college and wasn’t going to school anymore I had to pay rent. Teaches responsibility and how to budget for the real world. College taught me some of that bc I was on my own for a bit too, but anyway. I was able to know how much I could afford in rent etc when I moved out
First, better jobs are sought not given. HR in a field she wants to work in of a business that doesn’t advertise may be a good start.
I wanted to be a bartender.
Instead of going to help wanted, went to hotels and got hired on my first interview. Base pay was better.
Second, start looking at apartments together. Talk to people who live on their own. Ideas sometimes whispered are better than commands that are yelled.
Do not do that please for the love of god my mother moved out on me when I was 14 was left to pay rent at 16 to my grandparents half my money from every paycheck went to them even though I was in school and barely home DO NOT DO THAT kids fight it happens she’s growing they need space to figure it out themselves but do not push your kid out. Don’t have kids if you’re not ready to help them until they are comfortable moving out
Talk to her about her helping out now with some bills. Come up with a number… $200/ month??
Tell get she’s 19 and needs to start paying her way. Let her know that she can stay living there but it’s only until she has enough money saved to move out. Give her a timeline…like 6 months??.. maybe if you can…tell her if she saves enough for first and last months rent, you’ll buy her some furniture…or give her yours and buy new for yourself.
Provide rules, take away privileges that you pay for, and if she is getting physical call police ! Tough love hurts us, but it helps them !
You do not realize how lucky you are! I would do anything to have my kids with me! I am now 73 and have no family to visit me! Very much alone,!
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Have an old fashioned family meeting. Sit everybody down and have a discussion about behavior, attitude, solutions, food, chores, and money. Put it all on the table. Everyone air their grievances. As a family come to a solution.
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Well my first ? Do u make her pay rent … second u have to have rules … its called stuff love and it sucks but it reaches them the real world sounds like she needs to find a better playing job walmart actually pays good but u have to work good luck dont through her out make her be an adult
19 is still young, financially, it is way harder to make ends meet than it was 20 years ago. It takes 2 incomes or a very well paying job.
Start making her pay her share of the bills. If there are 3 adults in the house, she pays 1/3 of all bills. Or, charge a flat amount that includes some for rent, power, etc. Make her responsible for certain things that are usually reserved for the adults. Give her an ultimatum. She can chill out or move out. You are the parent, it is your house, and if you have other younger children to think about, you have to put your foot down. Tell her of she wants to make her own rules, she can do it in her own place. I know it sounds harsh, but she isnt going easy on anyone else, so she needs to learn what its like in the grown up world.
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That happens with siblings but as each of mine left to make a life of their own i felt heartbroken, I’m so glad they are all living around me, it’s not easy when their teenagers but you get thought it.
Lol she is only 19!!! She’s so young most people cannot afford it by that point. My mom would have had me me stay as Iong i needed. I moved at 24. Give her some damn time
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Talk to her and tell her what you expect from her now that she’s 18. Tell her she has to contribute to the house by helping pay a bill or two each month or charge her a flat rate and save it for her for when she does move out. I wouldn’t kick her out.
Transition to independence. Set up a plan for her to move out in 6 months. Start with having her research places and how much they cost. Then have her pay rent to you. It doesn’t have to be alot but the key is that instead of you keeping the money you save it for her for when she moves out. Just make it clear that in 6 months she is to be able to live on her own. Maybe she needs motivation to seek a better job. Does she want to go to college or learn a trade maybe offer to help her if she is doing one of those.
Charge rent, have a curfew, etc. could be the best thing for her
My mom told me if im under her roof i had things i had to pay for like half the morage and i didnt know but she was saving it for when i was ready to move out i could make it on my own! But while i still lived with her i had to obey her rules and if i didn’t i knew that, that meant i was out on my own
I’m sorry but enjoy the time you have with her because some don’t have that opportunity and it’s rough out there without a good job and she might not be ready just yet.
Never ever force a child outs of your home once they reach an age help him find something if you have a garage make a little garage apartment for her to live in and help her to understand what to work make money pay bills the money that she pays you for reading that little spot in return you can take that money and buy her a piece of property that she gave you money to rent for it then she’ll understand the product if you push her out when you want to enforce her out you lost her you will never ever see her again unless the police come knocking on your door is that your daughter was found dead then what
She’s still very young she probably is going true something use don’t know about maybe talk to her first and see why she is always angry usually when a person is angry it comes from hurt somewhere along the line, she’s still very young to be out on her own I know at that age I wouldn’t of dreamt of moving out anyways
18 is too young to be own their.rent is too high, you r setting her up to fail, Don’t do it, you will be sorry!Just saying.They cannot make responsible decisions.
Ill be giving our house to my son he needs a head start not thrown out…especially the way this world is now…u raise a child in a home tell them this is there home then take it away and kick em out…wtf…
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Honestly, I’d rather have my parents just talk to me and have an adult conversation with me about any problems like this. That is believe it or not what most of us young adults want. Set boundaries and fair rules and have discussions about things that need to be talked about.
Help her by trying to figure out what’s making her lash out) is she unhappy w herself? Does she feel like a failure? Could she use some support in finding a career she would like? Does she want to go to college? … most are stuck between trying to figure out their life and next step and feeling like a failure and like they have no way “out” … then they find that way “out” of feeling like that and it’s not always a good “out” so help redirect them to help them find their purpose that is fulfilling and positive … they’re not always lashing out because they’re jerks, the age is tough, on everyone! … help them this way for 6 months be patient … and then they’ll be confident and have the tools to move out on their own and be happy … they don’t want to be home either trust me!
I wouldn’t ever “push” for my daughter to leave at age 18. I wasn’t with her father, but they are close. Him & I co-parented and acted like adults to prepare her but I wouldn’t “push” her out. She is now 24, working FT, just bought her first home with her fiancé, and gave me 2 adorable grandchildren. Her father & I would absolutely welcome her into our homes with open arms. She now tells me that I can come live with her…we joke about that. But, in all reality, every family is a different dynamic and what works for one, won’t work for another. I also agree with someone’s comment about asking the OP to check in with daughter to see if there is something going on with her. (Sorry, this is a long comment! 
) Best wishes to all!
Why do people think the number 18 makes a child a adult…if you have been having issues with her and your other CHILDREN… I sure it’s been a on going issue… you needed to handle it back a few years… YES she is now 18 and needs to be more responsible. Like many have advised talk …talk …talk to her and other kids… suggestions of rent. … responsible s …is there a way she could have a place in the house …garage. and pay … Question does she share a bedroom… God bless u and don’t give up on her…
Can you build a room on your property for her. She then will have her own space yet close enough for you to keep her protected until yes is an adult.
She must pay a monthly contribution.
Help her through whatever she is struggling with so she can work through this while she is home with u.
My first thought is is she in college ? If shes not in college then its time for her to get a better job/ more hours whatever and find a place. My oldest is 18 graduated high school in June. Has as part time job and going to college full time to become a lawyer. She never asks for gas money or any money in general. She buys what she needs. But knows if she ever needed anything wed be there to back her. So theres no way i would give her the boot. But if she didn’t follow house rules and thought she could work part time and spend the rest of her time on her butt starting issues with her sibblings then she’d have two choices find an apartment or pay rent and straighten her butt out.
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Set rules. If she’s living under your roof she has to follow your rules. Plus charge her rent and give her responsibility
How about converting your garage into a small apartment? That way she is on her home, but you’re there if she needs you. Charge a small amount of rent and provide dinner each night.
Your house ,your rules, did she not have rules before? set them and stick to them, instead of charging rent, my friends mom charged my friend for every chore she didnt do,and extra for every argument she gave about doing them,
Siblings fight. Sit her down and talk to her. I wouldn’t kick her out. My children are 21, 18, 14, 10 &2. My oldest moved out about six months ago and I miss her not being here. Yes her and my 18 year old got into it all the time. I sat them down and lay down rules for living here when she was18. It worked and once she was good enough to be on her own she moved out without me telling her to. I was on my own at 16 and it’s harder than you think. My door is always open to my children.
Sounds like normal teenage life to me. Theres a reason shes acting the way she is so communication is key. Charge her rent, not $500 a month but a little bit. Save it to help her with the deposit on her own place when she gets to that point. Have her help with groceries and pay her own gas/phone/insurance… or atleast half of it. Just because shes 18 doesn’t mean its time to make her leave. I left but moved back home within a year because I was killing myself overworking to pay my bills, worked 3rd shift at nursing homes and almost crashed multiple times coming home. Moved out again but was back home about a year later because I was pregnant and having issues. Moved out and back home one more time, been out for good ever since. Its hard, especially right now. But you are her parents and shouldn’t just kick her out. This is part of having kids…
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It’s beyond time to sit and talk. It’s time to lay down the law. It’s still your house and you still make the rules. First off, you flat out tell her that her constant fighting with her siblings will NOT be tolerated. You start charging her rent and part of the utilities. If need be, she can either find a better paying job or a second job. She wants to be an adult, start treating her like one.
Make her pay some rent. You know her pay so make it doable. (You could put this towards your bills or put it aside to help her save. (She doesn’ t needtoknow if you put it aside). Make her contribute to household chores. Have her pay for her own wants, but be fair. Give her a schedule on when she needs to be out. Help her find a reasonable place to live. A roommate could bean option. Have it all written down and have her sign it. Good luck to both of you.
I was 34 when I moved out of my parents house an bought my own house an even though I lived at home i worked all the time an bought an payed for my own car an I payed the electric bill an internet an phone bill my own car insurance etc but I respected my parents an their rules an 2 this day I have a fantastic relationship with them and my older brothers 1 of whom shares a house with me an I know if something happen an I had nowhere 2 go I could go home. I would try giving her some responsibility such as making her pay bills an maybe try an talk 2 her an see if she will tell what’s bothering her an try an resolve it it may not happen overnight but maybe with time she will
You get her set up to move out if its that big of n issue shes young n things are really hard on your own im 19 my mom wants me to be independent n on my own n i am but i wouldnt be without her help!! shes gonna be desperate for money at times you dont want her to do something she shouldn’t to getit, i have
My friend Russell Dalrymple had the same issue. He decided to give the younger kids up to foster care and after that happened, peace was restored.
Give her 3 months to save up for an apt. Then she has to move out. She is old enough to be on her own
Your the parent, set the rules! Make her pay board(even if you save it for her until shes ready to move out) and do chores! Board increases by $5 every time she fights with her siblings!
Really? Is your job as a mom over once they turn 18 I don’t get this way of thinking? You may suggest that she try and find a job we’re the pay is better and she could save some money to get her own place but even that would take some time!
Nearest recruiting office will assist her. 
Best choice I ever made at 18 and joined the Air Force Especially, for someone who didn’t know what he was going to do after school but wanted to be on their own. My mom was in a different but simular situation at 18. Her mom was going to kick her out at 18 after she graduated. She really didn’t know what she was going to do so she joined the Air Force. Only thing she regretted was not fighting to stay in when she was pregnant with me. My mom was in right when they changed the rules early 70s.
My parents honestly let me, my ex and kids stay too long. My mom had to kick us out because my ex was stressing her out. But I learned quick to budget and pay the bills
Get a better job or go to college!! Aren’t you parent? No way a kid of mine would rule my house!! Kick her butt out!!
In these uncertain crazy times perhaps you can negotiate & make peace. Give her a time frame to save enough money & plan.
She’s frustrated because she’s still living at home and feels like she has no future, tell her she has to work two jobs and get an apt with a friend to share rent and leave home in one month, or she has to get a student loan (she can save for college and go at the same time with a loan), and go to college, full time, choose a career, and still keep her job, ( part time), don’t charge rent, just tell her that she can stay as long as she’s in school, until she graduates. She’ll be gone a lot and too busy to fight. She’ll feel better about herself too. There are certificates she can earn where she could get a decent job so she doesn’t have to go 4 years unless she wants to. Give us an update on how this turned out!
I started working at 15. From then on I had to buy all my own personal items. Bought my first car at 18. Paid for my own senior class trip and spending money my father matched what I had saved and I gave it all back when I returned. I tried to get a place at age 18. Nobody would rent to me. I moved out at 23. I had to work 2 jobs to do it. 1 day off a month. I have struggled through life until the last few years, in my fifties. I would give her an ultimatum. Work on being nice and help out around the house or figure out how to support yourself. Maybe suggest therapy as she sounds like she’s harboring some anger towards others in the home.
I agree Lexi,never asked my kids to move out at that age try your best not to argue with other family members tho.