Your house your rules. Her behavior s not okay. Any “child” that’s out of high school and still living at home should be working full time and paying rent or in college or trade school full time. Parents don’t do their kids any favors when they allow them to stay home and not pull their weight and cause trouble.
Maybe you need to sit down and talk about her behavior and set out some ground rules and punishments for breaking them. She 18 and groundable until she moves out. If she wants to live by her rules then she can move out
If she has enough time to fight with her siblings, then she needs more hours at work- time to grow up
You need to set rules and boundaries and have her sign a contract. Perhaps you need to seek counseling!
Not one person here mentioning trade schools between the ages of 16 and l believe 25 . They can choose a trade in a safe environment away from parents my child started with an CNA , came home went back to school to become a EMT and now her job is paying her and school fees for paramedic she just turned 21 and I couldn’t be prouder
Speaking as a parent of older children… There are 2 types of family members, household and non-household. For household family members each member has a responsibilities as a family member. Sit down with her as adults and lay out her duties. Treating other members with respect, paying her way ( whatever u determine she can afford), household chores, etc. Then explain to her that if she has to choose if she wants to be a household family member or a non-household family member. Let her know that if she doesn’t fill the duties as a household member she is choosing to move out and must do so.
My son is older than that and still lives with us. This is his home and always will be
Charge low rent and assign chores. When she complains, tell her she can choose to move to her own place. Just keep tabs on her to make sure she has food, etc. If she moves out.
You give her a time limit and stick to it. You have done your job in raising her, it’s time for her to fly.
No don’t kick her out.hve a talk with her alone…she’s ur daughter.i would never kick out my kid…cause when they leave…the pain is worse…my son left for 10 years and it was worse than the divorce from his dad…
Let her pay a bill…but don’t lose ur baby girl…
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I can’t give advice. I let them stay thru college…until married…never wanted an empty nest…
It’s your responsibility as a parent to look out for your children no matter how old they are. YOU need to help her figure out what being an adult is about. You can’t just send her into the world because you can’t handle her. Learn how to do your job as a parent and consider your kids life once they move out. If her job right now isn’t paying her well enough to live on her own, then don’t even consider the possibility of kicking her out until she is financially stable. Plain and simple.
Dont make that mistake.
My 16 yr old just left with her boyfriends family,she was figthing alot with me and her siblings,she is pregnant,i woild give everything to have her back…be patience
Maybe your daughter isnt the problem and its the others…shes only 18 soon 19 shes young i dont see why parents are so ready for their kids to move out…you as parents could be her problem also…
Sure kick her out xD let her resort to either A do it on her own with no cash, find some drugs and let her life spiral downhill during covid time 
great question
Start charging her rent, food, utilities. She’ll decide she can live some where else a lot cheaper.
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Back in the day most kids couldn’t wait to move out even if we didn’t do everything right the first time we kept trying and had roommates went to the food shelf or soup kitchen if we were hungry those were some of the best days of my life I’m going on 53 now
Try giving a responsibility she’ll leave on her own if she can’t take it
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I have a almost 31 year old and 24 and neither one of them are in my home i open the door and said go by my rules or go and you still have chores to do they didnt wont that they wonted to keep there money that they said they worked for that it was mine so out the door you go
She will leave when she is ready don’t push her, I wish my girls could come home
Hey Lexi,
Your generation is NOT the only ones who were 18/19. Some of us had no choice to move on and weren’t entitled to do what we wanted when we wanted.
Maybe have a talk with her on her own and find out what’s really going on. Try be the one who listens, instead of giving advice. Always say I hear what your saying… Also the hardest part is admitting you are wrong in some cases. Even try the quid pro quo technique ie I’ll do something for you if you do the same. Give her space, see her as an adult and not the older child. Always ask is there anything I can support you with. Let the other children know to try not bother their sister too much. Once you build a good relationship, then start talking about her getting her own place and reassure her you will do your best to help her out.
Siblings fight thats what they do… but my daughter is 17 will be 18 this month qorks goes to school and fights with her sisrer
This girl is still young have a talk with her sounds like she got things Bothering her
Siblings always fights she just needs to find herself. Throwing her out wont solve the problem that’s the easy way out
I loved with my mom most of the time until I was 21. Moved out with baby daddy a couple times but didn’t actually move into my own place until I was 21
I feel sorry for young people nowadays. When I was growing up in the 1940-1950s 18 year old kids could get an entry level job and actually live on it. Rents were cheaper There were YMCAs and YWCAs everywhere and you could live in them and there were boarding houses and rooming houses. Those things don’t exist anymore. People lived in them till they saved enough for an apartment. AND a months rent cost a weeks salary. Not like today wher rent takes up more than half of income. Why have kids if you’re gonna kick them out just because they turned 18. As for not being responsible for them after age 18 remember you’re over 18 and when you’re older and in need of help they may not feel responsible for you
18 is too young to expect your daughter to move out and pay ALL expenses for herself. She is not ready.
Kick her out. She has to learn to stand on her own two feet. Or have her pay rent. Make it 20% of her average monthly paycheck. And if she doesn’t pay. Take away privileges like food or electricity.
So you’re going to put your 18 year old out to probably fail, instead of teach to be independent and help succeed… talk about certification programs to get her a decent job and give a time frame?
Why do parents always wanna kick out their kids at 18? Do you have like no love for your children? Maybe she needs therapy or your love and guidance. Being a young adult is hard. Maybe she’s fighting with her siblings for you attention 
We had our young adult kids pay a modest rent until they moved out. We used that money to help them pay for college. We reimbursed them tuition and books for A’s and B’s. Most of them moved out rather then pay us rent. The one boy who took us up on our offer is doing very well. Owns home, setting money aside for retirement has a really wonderful wife.
18 is not the same 18 in 1970s. You have to force kids to grow up. But telling them to move out I think is a little to harsh.
I wouldn’t reach out to social media for advice about my daughter.
My culture we never kick out our kids…we leave at marriage…or if we choose to leave but then family try to stop u from leaving.
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Charge her rent and purchase her own food car ins etc she will either work more or get a roommate
Make her a chores list that she has to do to help around the house if she wants to stay there, otherwise she has to pay you or her siblings to do them for her. Charge rent and a amount for groceries or she can buy her own, just let her know she can’t have yours. Let her know she can always move out with friends and share an apartment if she doesn’t want to comply with this. And last but not least inform her the drama must stop, if she wants to be treated as an adult then she needs to act like one. You are not obligated to let her live there, it sounds harsh , but if it is disruptive to the rest of the family then let her know, change her ways or go.
If your not going to school and this includes college you have to contribute or move out.
Have her pay rent put it aside without her knowing it and when you have enough for her to get a place tell her find a place I got the money for it you’re on your own
You should always have that talk about respect with each child. Ask what her issues are and get a clear understanding where she is. Most 17 y/o are still trying to figure things out. Make a contract with her and have her sign it, if she fails advise her if the consequences ahead of time. Give her the chance to change and choose. If she fails find her a cheap apartment to start out in and pay the rent ahead 2 months, and after that she’s on her own but always give them the chance to choose.
Give her 2 choices…
1)…straighten up while living under your roof or…
2)… join the military.
Give her 1 month to figure it out
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Tell her either she stops arguing with her siblings and starts helping out, or she needs to get out.
She doesn’t sound ready to move out.
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Sit her down and explain to her, your house your rules, she either stops upsetting the rest of the house or… Give her the rules in plain English, just so there are no misunderstandings. Here is how it is going to be…When all is said and done, ask her if she understands and can she live with things under your rules. Explain to her she will pay rent now that she is an adult and she will do XYZ as far as chores go to help out. When everything is out in the open and she agrees then that is when you start taking notes, when she does not keep up her end then, she gets warning one, warning two and that is when you prepare her for the next warning is she is out on her ear, so straighten up or start looking for a place to live, as you cannot live by our rules, go live by your own rules and see how that works for you and do not come crying to me when you do not have any money to do anything, that is part of being an adult. Good luck, put it on her.
In this pandemic, she shouldn’t move out. You dont know if she can find a clean, disinfected place to go…tough it out till its over.
And you had the nerve to hashtag family?? Clearly you have a screwed up definition of family!!!
I never wanted my children to leave home… I wanted the three of them to get married,live together at home and raise their children at home with all of us together…
Your house your rules either she live i. Your house by your rules or she will have to go the choice is hers as its your choice to b head of your own household o ce she moves outyouwill have one more worrythats you say she not mature enough look like u both have some growing to do
Rules and boundaries. Make her pay a bill. Buy some groceries. She will move.
Consider that she may be frustrated and wants to move out but doesn’t think she can afford it or isn’t sure how to go about it. Talk to her, set your ground rules and make her responsible for something. Whether it be a nominal fee for room and board, possibly her own groceries and laundry or something else. Mostly ask her what her goals are and if she has a plan.
It takes at least 2 to fight maybe it’s not all her fault
She has to live by your rules or get out on her own…dont be scared to push them out of the nest…THATS HOW THEY LEARN TO FLY
Is it all her fault,might try keeping an eye & ears on the other Children might be surprised.
That’s just my opinion 🤷
How about some therapy to find out what is really going on
Charge her rent $$$ she’ll move out on her own!
Find her a room to rent that she can afford. See how long it takes for her to beg to come home and then she’ll straighten up
Pack her bags and put it outside the door and say “go”. The longer they stay home, the more dependent and complacent they become. The sooner she learns to pay her own way in life, the better. I left home at age 18 by choice to work and its the best choice i ever made.
They should be out when they are out of school and have a job. 18yrs to get them ready!
its always been hard difference is we su ked it up and made do because we knew mommy and daddy and the govt wouldnt help . your an adult a t like it
Yell her she has to obey your rules as long as she lives under your roof. If not then she can move elsewhere.
Some of you mom’s are something else
If you just want to kick them to the curb at 18 then why did you have kids
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Keep your kids as long as u can u will be sorry to make them move out…
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18 might be a adult in the eyes of the law. Emotionally (brain development) they are far from it.
You could move while she’s at work and done leave forwarding address
Just sit down rules. If she wants to stay there then there are rules. Stop fighting with your siblings.
Anything after 18 is a gift…time to make her stand on her own
“Require” her to act as an adult while at home. Share all your chores and charge her rent. She will probably move out soon after that. Save her rent money. Return it to her upon leaving. (a nest egg) Don’t tell her what you are doing with the money. Stay loving!
Give her a deadline or an ultimatum about how she needs to act under your roof. Make her pay rent n maybe she will take it more seriously.
Give her a date to move out by like 3 to 6 months. She can look for someone wanting a room mate to split expenses with rent, electric and phone bill. . We had 3 families living with us. Tension runs high and all 3 females was fighting. Gave them dates to move out by one family moved out for 3 years now second one moved out for 8 months now. Just me & hubby 3 cats in the house now. Sons said it was the best for them they was ready to move out just being picky , date to move by just gave them the extra push. I was the only one cleaning up after 12 people. I was constantly tired.
No words, smh and I think the problem might be you, she probably read this post and you have just made made things worse between you and your daughter😢
There’s this thing called the 18 30 rule. Once you turn 18 you have 30 days to figure out where your gonna live and how your gonna afford it. She won’t do with out she’ll figure it out it’s part of growing up.
Give her a set time frame then it’s time to fly from the nest.
Prepare them for what’s ahead in their early teens. I got lucky
Too young to move out, keep her home. Give everyone chores and maybe that will keep them busy &. It fighting
Get her to join the army she can learn different things get pay have 3 meal a day a place to stay and pay vacation
Maybe moving out and having to be responsible will make her grow up.
Why would I charge my child ??? Omg I guess I would expect them to their cleaning and other stuff but that’s it.
If they come back take to homeless shelter so they can really know and get 2. 3 jobs and then they will never be homeless again
Sit and talk. Like let her tell all her issues and all. No interruptions from you or even the younger siblings. JUST LISTEN. LISTEN TO HER FIRST. Maybe you can start from there.
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Provide consequences or find family to take her…she will not like it…hard to start good parenting at that age.
make her start paying something for rent and put that rent money away so she can have a down payment at some point for first month’s rent and deposit when she can get her own place
Be careful what you wish for. Sometimes it works out and sometimes it comes back to bite you in the booty .
Tell her to knock it off or she has to be out in say 3 months. Then stick to it pack her thing up put them on the porch or curb a say we are done.
Charge her rent, and a portion of the utilities. Or give her a firm deadline to get her own place.
I don’t know how anyone that age would be able to afford rent, utilities, insurance, car, & food.
Can she go to College or a Vo-Tech school? Maybe cosmetology.
18 is still very young. Many are not mature enough to make it on their on at only 18. I had 2 out of 3 of my daughters living at home until they finished their bachelor degree. The oldest one was mature and she went to the American university in Egypt. But we supported her until she finished college. It’s hard out there and still mistakes to be made that your daughter may require some parenting still.
Wow if she’s not mature enough to move out why would you want her to shame on you. You raised her so it’s your fault
What’s the rush. Your support and love could mean the world.
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If other suggestions don’t work you would have to evict her
You don’t throw out your child when they are down and out no money , no food , try to reason with them you don’t want them on the streets .
Be honest with her. Tell her if you continue to act nasty with your siblings you will need to move out on your own.
Rules set forth for my children are and will always be. This is your home. While you are in school or furthering your education i will pay room and board. At 18 do not ask me for money for wants, period. If older than eighteen and not going to school. You will pay rent, period. After 20 rent and a bill. After 22 rent and 2 bills. The part I wont tell them is half the money they pay goes into a savings so when they do get out, they have fall back money. I also encourage my children to stay home and further their education, either college or trade or apprenticeship. I dont care which, just something. Also over 18 you are responsible for feeding the family one meal a week. (I have a big family one meal a week shows them they can feed themselves for a week.) It teaches them to save their money. Now if a college student come home and starts working they start at 18 rates and it increases every two years as if they were 18, 20 ,22 and so on. This was something that has been taught to my children since they were young. I moved out at 17, i struggled only went home a couple times, for a couple months just between rental agreements. I also started paying bills at home when I was 16 and started working. Teach responsibility, it helps.
Through her out cause she 18 and argues with siblings your crazy lady
Wow! So you signed up for 18 years and now your job is done?
18 is still a kid to me
Change the WIFI password and don’t tell her what it is.
I thank God for the mom I have if it was up to her she would still want me living with her & Im 38 lol 
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If she can’t take care of herself, don’t move her out–Straighten her out! If you force her out she may wind up on the street or snatched up by a prostitution ring. I would never want that for my daughter.
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I have 4 sons. They were told very early hand over a diploma if not get a job. You can not live free after 18. So you either continue on to college and you can live here free. If no college get a job and pay rent. If you don’t like this options move out. I was raising men and they needed to responsible. They chose no college but all have jobs 3 have families live in there own homes and one is single and lives on his own.
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