Only your conscience will guide you.
It maybe she likes the snuggles, my kids all slept with me until they were old enough to want to sleep by themselves
Re-home her and get a dog.
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Sometimes you gotta let em cry itโll put them to sleep
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31 months oldโ:roll_eyes:
, sheโs 2 and a half.
SINCE IโM SEEING SO MUCH OF ITโฆ Forcing a child to feel uncomfortable and even possibly scared and detached from her mother is a good thing? Sounds like the start of abandonment trauma to me. Which I happen to have because I remember when my mother did that to me. I was so scared I couldnโt sleep for the longest. You may think children that young canโt remember it but im one that did. I had way too much fear.
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Should have never let her sleep with you to begin with. Smh. You are probably just gonna have to listen to her whine. She will eventually go to sleep. You have to be the parentโฆdont give in. She is learning to manipulate you already, to get her way. Give in and it will just continue. Sorry, being a Parent is tough.
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You need to let her cry it out. Put on some headphones and check her every once in a while. Sheโs old enough to cry it out now. Just suffer the crying. She will stop and fall asleep
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Should have fixed this about 31 months (2 years, 7 months) ago.
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Should have sleep trained by 6 months and then you wouldnโt be dealing with this. Good luck! Your gonna need it.
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Put her in her own bed and leave her there and let her cry. Sheโll get the idea.
Itโs starts at birthโฆ but as they get older you gotta be the parent. Do bedtime routine. Put her in bed. Explain to her big kids sleep in their own bed. Then leave on night light and soft music playing. (this drowns out noises in the house that will keep her awake). If she gets out of bed walk her back in. Let her cry. Scream. Etc. Donโt give inโฆ
Kids need their own space. All mine slept in their own beds in their own rooms since birth.
Take her shopping for her bedding and pillows. Add a atuffed animal, let her pick it all out.
Stay with her, read to her.
She will fall asleep.
Keep a routine.
Sheโs manipulating you. Put her in that bed make sure sheโs comfortable band let her scream. When she figures out your not falling for it it will be over.
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Let her cry and check on her so she knows youโre not far.
Never should have been sleeping with you in the first placeโฆ
Let her sleep with her sister.
Enjoy the time, life is short
Wait it out and good luck
Denise Carothers itโs not good parenting to just leave your child crying for hours. You shouldnโt have a degree in either one of those with that kind of attitude. I feel sorry for the children you helped โsleep train โ and anyone who ever used you needs a full refund . I hope your kids turn out nothing like you , your a piece of shit. And if you really have a degree in those two things why the hell do you have to use Google to try to explain shit . Lmao. Just because itโs on the internet DoEsNโt MeAn ItS tRuE !
Watch Supernanny she does this lots. Search โsupernanny sleep training.โ
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Just deal with the crying/whining itโs tough love but make sure no matter how many times she gets up put her back in her bed made try moving sisters bed closer to hers.
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Maybe let her pick some of her favorite stuffed animals to sleep with her? My son did that and he felt secure and thought it was neat that they were with him for bedtime and woke up in the same place together. 
Have you tried getting a bedtime routine going? We do the 3 bs bath, book, and bed. When my kids first started sleeping on their own I would sit next to them and pat them to sleep. Then after they got used to sleeping in their bed I would lay them down and sit outside their room so if they got up I was right outside the door and was able to lay them right back down. If they cry itโs Okay Just go back in thier room and tell them itโs their bedtime. And do that after theyโve been laid down for 5 min then 10 min then 15 min and so on. It helps them realize thatโs they havenโt been abandoned and your still there and love them. I usually say I am here I havenโt left you. You have been fed and changed. I played with you today and I will play with you tomorrow but right now is bedtime. I love you now go to sleep. And I just repeat that everytine I open the door. Until theyโve cried themselves to sleep after about a month of that. They just go to sleep on their own after I lay them down. It worked for all 3 of my older ones and will be doing the same thing when my baby is ready for her own bed. Good luck mama!
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I got my kids a night light that has stars to shine on the ceiling & it plays music, instead of saying nap or bed, we say โlets go see the stars!โ
My kids are between ages 6m - 3 yrs
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My kids pick a quiet toy to sleep with. Whining I let go on crying gets sorted out
My son is 26 months and the first few nights he did cry bc he had never slept w out me. I let him cry til he fell asleep but he didnt cry for long except the first 2 nights. I just tuck him in w his stuffef animals & put his lullabies and close the door so he knows its time for bed. I do check on him w out him knowing til he goes to bed and when hes asleep i open the door to be able to hear him incase of anything. Theyre little, theyre going to cry when they have to adjust to something theyre not used to.
Try not using those words nap or bed time and say letโs go read a book together and lay down for a while with her and make it exciting when she sleeps in her bad just for a nap reward her for the first couple times
Lay down with her till she falls asleep or let her cry it out
When I transitioned my older two to their own beds I had their toddler beds in my room. Once they were comfortable sleeping in their own beds in my room I bought them big kid beds with new bedding and a special โsnuggle buddyโ to help them fall asleep in their own room. I still had to sit in their room and we put on music and I stayed until they fell asleep. Once they were comfortable with that I started leaving before they were asleep. They coslept with me until they were 3 and 2. It takes time. Itโs frustrating but you canโt expect your child to sleep alone when all theyโve ever known is snuggling with mama. She will eventually feel safe enough and be used to it once you gradually move her out of your bed. Good luck!
Fancy night lights? Story-telling? Soothing music? Reassuance? You know thatโs not going to be an overnight process so you need to try different techniques and see what will work for her.
Both my kids co slept with me. My son, when he turned five, said to me โmom, I think itโs weird that I sleep in your bed. Iโm going to sleep in my roomโ. And he did from then on, lol. My daughter is now six, and I lay in her bed with her until she falls asleep, then go to mine. Sometimes she spends the whole night on her own in her own bed, sometimes I wake up to find her in mine. Sometimes in the middle of the night sheโll wake me, we go lay down in her bed, and I go back to mine after sheโs asleep again. Every kid is different. My son was clearly more independent, my daughter less so. As long as she gets good rest and is prepared for school in the morning, I really donโt care where she sleeps. They grow fast so I donโt mind a few extra cuddles lol. And I am, and always have been, a working mom (for lack of a better description - all moms work!) Some days that coffee is a lot more necessary, lol. But I really donโt mind at all.
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My son is 4 and only sleeps in his bed bc we can see each other across the hall from our beds. Plus his sister is 1 and sleeps with me, so I use that to convince him to go to his bed too.
start by being there with her until she is almost a sleep as she gets use to that start shortening the time. She has become dependent on you now you need to ween her from needing you. My son now does mom can I lay in your bed for 10 min and then goes to his bed. but rule is no one sleeps in momโs bed but mom.
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I always called it STORYTIME as I would lie beside each of my kids and read a story until they fell asleep ( often in 2 minutes) until they were about 7 or 8!!! No crying and it really improved their vocabulary.
Can you move her bed to a different position in her room, if so let her choose where it goes, let her choose a favourite toy she can have in her bed. And let her choose a book to have read or shown to her. Make bed time a happy time. She probably feels at the moment that her bed is a bit big and strange with just herself in it.
So you let your daughter cosleep with you until she was 2 and now itโs becoming โirritatingโ because she doesnโt want to sleep by herself? Well, because you didnโt start earlier on in her life, youโve created separation anxiety within your childโฆand your letting her lay there scared for up to an hour without youโฆ poor girl!
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I used excitement of getting my daughterโs room ready for a few months filled it with balloons occasionally, played with her a lot in it picked sheets she liked etc. And she got so excited she wanted to sleep there but j said for a while k donโt think you are ready and then bam when she had asked enough I knew she truly was ready I shifted her and she has slept through almost every night for the last 2 years but I didnโt shift her until 3. She coslept until then. 2 would have been too young for her. But he sleep improved dramatically when she went in to her own room interestingly.
Well itโs kind of a process first you put her to bed and lay down with her till she falls asleep and then get up and go to your own bed do that for a couple of days then you put her in bed and you sit next to her on the bed or in a chair until she falls asleep every time she gets up you put her back to bed eventually sheโll wear herself out and sheโll fall asleep you do that for a few days or up to a week and then you put her to bed and say good night and then you leave if she gets up you put her back to bed and you keep doing that until she falls asleep this may take a month but sheโll get the idea that sheโs supposed to sleep in her own bed. When you put her back to bed after she gets out of bed very little communication no cuddles just pick her up put her back to bed.
My son sleeps in his own bed since he was like 7 or 8 months. Heโs 2 now and still screams and cries sometimesโ:woman_facepalming:t4: A lot of the time I just let him cry it out bc he stops within the first 5 mins or less usually. I try not to put him to bed if he isnโt sleepy tho. On days that he does throw a fit, I try to ease it. He got a tablet for Christmas so I have been letting him keep it in bed in case he wakes up throughout the night or wants to fall asleep watching it. It helps a lot for him. He has been sleeping with me recently, which is something weโve never done with him, only bc his dad works nights. Iโve also got some bath salts, body wash and lotion that have melatonin for kids. I only use it close to bedtime for him and it has helped before. If your little likes to read, you can try sitting and reading before bed. I always ask my son if he needs anything before bed, like his binky or blanket or stuffed animals. Giving him that extra bit of attention before bed helps him SO muchโ:heart:
Itโs hard having a baby and toddler at the same time, but I feel like he deserves the extra attention too bc of how hectic the days are from the time we wake up until we go to bed.
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It can be hard on the little ones when trying to get them detached from our bed. I had this same issue with one of mine, he cried and just didnโt want to sleep alone. Offer treats, get a poster and make a little sticker/chart where she can chart her big girl status, get the older sister involved and this might help her. Donโt give up stay encouraged through it she will get there she just loves her mommy.
We rock my granddaughter to sleep and then put her in bed. She usually ends up staying there thru the night. Good luck.
Honestly donโt stress over thisโฆwhen sheโs ready she will know itโฆmy 4 boys were all different. Two of them slept with my husband and I for years and then boom they started to sleep in their roomโฆmy two youngest boys would cozy before bed time but would go into their beds from the start. Let them decide.
I had to have bed in my room for awhile until he got comfy staying in the bed. Then started on the bed in other room
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My daughter slept with me until from age 2-4. I was a single mom. I made her room so special and made it a huge deal that she was a big girl and now was going to sleep in her own big girl bed. I made it so exciting that she was actually excited. Best of luck. 
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My daughter slept me until she was 4 due to our living situation (wish I was able to have her sleep on her own sooner 
). At 4, I was able to get her own room. She hated it at first because she wasnโt used to it. I put her to bed at 8pm in her bed. She would wake up about 3-5 times between 11pm-3am every night and come to my room asking to sleep with me. I was consistent in telling her no and walking her back to her bed where she would scream and cry. I may have given in maybe 3 times but this went on for about 3 months. I swear it was like having an infant again. Consistency is KEY if you want her to sleep in her bed full time (be strong!). Yes, it was frustrating. No, I didnโt want to hear her cry but I figured if I sacrifice some sleep and frustration in the short run, Iโll have a kid free bed in the long run and I was RIGHT!!! Eventually she got used to her room and has slept in her room ever SINCE! She did occasionally ask to sleep with me until she was about 15 and that was fine. Good luck to you!!!
Yep my 6.5 year old use to sleep with me up until a few months ago. Something switched in her mind and she just started going to sleep on her own and in her own bed.
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All 5 of my kids still cosleep with me and prolly will for a while. My oldest is 5 and has a fairy unicorn princess room like she wanted and wont sleep in it to save her life so i just accept it.
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I let my son have a few small toys in bed, a few stuffed animals also if he wants. We have a cute night light/projector that puts stars all around his room and we also use a white noise machine. We stick to the same night routine. Bath, book, snuggles, then bed. Some days he still fusses, but consistency is key
Get her a big stuffed animal that she likes tell her itโs her sleep buddy
.got one for.my granddaughter when she was.young like. 2 she is 7 now and still sleep with it
Bedtime routine in her bed sing songs a book or 2. Stop yelling. Our favorite book was Just go to bed, Mercer Mayer.
Look up Supernanny, she has amazing techniques to help transition from cosleeping to a big girl/boy bed.
Night light, maybe those pillows on tv that light up, a star show on her ceiling,some sleepy music,maybe make a pillow case out of one of your old shirts so itโs hers,go buy or make a special bear or animal to get rid of the monsters if thatโs what is bothering her.
This too will pass. Hang in there mom!
Patience is what you got to have, itโs going to take a minute, but eventually she will love it, I learned this the hard way, put them in their own bed, crib, bassinet when they are younger not in your bed
This is why i dont co-sleep. Only my youngest ever slept in my room. And that is because she had medical conditions.
The reason i chose not to co-sleep is that i know several people that made that mistake. How they eventually got their kiddos in their own rooms was to wait until they were very tired to lay them down.
Not asleep but almost asleep. They would tuck them in and then walk out.
What I did for my daughter to get her into it
I let her go to the store with me and pick out the bed she wanted to sleep in , the sheets everything . Havenโt had a problem with it since
Rewards! Persistence!
Insistence!
Consistency!
Routine!
Give rewards, talk about being a big girl, read a book, donโt lay down with her, projection night lights help, a stuffed animal to cuddle and if it plays music even better!
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You have to take time and be consistent at these timesโฆ(bed/nap time). No matter how long she cries or how many times she gets up. You have to take her back and put her in her bed. No water, no food, no words/convo/or negotiations. This will let her know this is quiet and sleep time
She needs time. Sheโs cryung because sheโs scared and youโre supposed to be that safe space. If sheโs crying for up to an hour, youโre leaving her alone for too long. Give her 5-10 mins then go check on her. Read books, rub her hair, just sit next to her. This doesnโt last forever. You wonโt have a 16 yr old who wonโt sleep alone. Sheโs just not ready for what youโre asking for is all.
My 15 year old still wants to sleep with me 
There is no way around the screaming or crying. Unfortunately you will have to endure that until she knows there is no other option. Its a tough thing but it can be done and doesnโt NORMALLY take more than a week to adjust as long as you stick to your guns mama. You can do this! Donโt be surprised if you find her crashed out on the floor and donโt get discouraged. Its just a phase, it will pass.
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It was interesting reading this post. I have no idea what I ever did right but I never had one problem with my 4 kids sleeping in their room in their own bed from the time they were babies. I feel very lucky after reading this.
I was fortunate, I never had this issue with any of my four children but I never let them sleep with me . I agree with the other ladies, be patient and consistent.
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Consistency is key. Stay calm & have a bedtime routine. Stay consistent.
Why we never did the co sleeping thingโฆ And six kids made it ridiculous to contemplate. Rollover smothering also figured into it.
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Read books in bed- make bedtime something to look forward to- books & time with u!!!
Just let her sleep with you until she starts school. They are babies/toddlers for such a short time.
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My eldest used to do this, I was told to keep taking her back to her bed without saying a word, donโt converse with them in anyway. It does work its tiring to start with but you will get there x
Wear an old nighty for a few nights until it smells of you then either give it to her or put it over her pillow or mattress. Keep the putting her back to bed routine.
Sit next to her bed and read her a story.
Go on vacation. Leave the kids with grandma and have grandma put her to bed for a week 
. When you get home from vacation donโt mess it up by giving into to her demands. 
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The Supernanny practice of sitting near them but giving the behaviors no attention worked for both my kids. They new they were safe and I was there, but also that I meant business about bedtime.
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This isnโt a lesson for the children as much as it is a lesson for the parents. The discipline you MUST use will mostly be for yourself. Of course itโs very,very hard for a parent to listen to their child cry tramatically sometimes for hours. But itโs part of lifeโs lessons. Doing it when theyโre very small or even infants is MUCH easier then spoiling them with parental sharing of beds till theyโre one or two. But excuse the pun. You made the bed, now sleep in it. It will take an older child days and countless hours of crying to train them to sleep in their own bed. Pay it now or pay it later.
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Yโall love the idea of co-sleeping until this happens and it almost always doesโฆ Itโs ok for littles to learn space and boundaries as early as infancyโฆ Co-sleeping is for the parents anxiety not the childโs. Itโs actually quite selfish and then when they wonโt sleep in their beds you wonder why and struggleโฆ Hmmm? I wonder why they wonโt sleep in their own beds, I wonder why my kids havent learned boundariesโฆ Yes it starts as early as with co-sleeping!! Itโs not as healthy as you think it is at all!!
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Both of you go in her bed and try to read a story itโs Susie thatโs shooting for her you can tell her you love her and kiss her good night and Iโll see you in the morning should I cry for a few nights
Let her play on her bed during the day with toys and stuffed animals so that it becomes a familiar fun cozy place that comforts her.
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With my son i would sit beside the bed until he fell asleep, stay a short time after. Then each time I would shorten the time I stayed by like 30 seconds. It took time but worked. When I had my daughter I immediately started her sleeping in her own bed and never had an issue.
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I donโt know. I was about 2 1/2 and then then my Sister had to be born and I got kicked out of my Crib after a couple months. After that I slept with my Grandma until I was 10 yrs old. Lol! My Grandkids slept with me and sometimes there would be 3 of those little rascals. Loved every minute.
With my daughter I would let her fall asleep in mine then move her to hers and in the morning โcelebrateโ her sleeping in her bed like a big girl. Eventually we work our way to saying sheโs a big girl now and can sleep in there and she started laying down in it. Adding cute pictures/curtains or something around it to make her love the space even more helped too. Good luck and be patient, itโs a learning experience for both of you.
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Every child is different. Some need change slowly and not so abrupt. For two of my boys I started with their toddler bed right next to my own bed.
At first they would fall asleep with me like normal and I would slide them over into theirs after they were asleep. Then they would wake up in their bed and I would praise them and encourage that their bed is good/nice/comfy.
Next step was having them fall asleep in their bed which at this point was just an extension of my bed so not too big of a transition. I was right there next to them.
After they got used to this I would slowly move their bed further away from mine until it was across the room and eventually we could make the jump to their own room. Which they were excited for because we constantly bragged it up and talked positively about the whole time.
One little one needed me to lay on the floor next to their bed until they fell asleep the first couple of nights but the other one didnโt need me at all. Each one is different and the length of time for each step depends on them and how slow they need to go to make this big change. They need to feel safe and comfortable and doing things so abruptly can be scary.
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Put her in her bed, if she gets up, put her back. There will be screaming! And you may have to do this all night or for a few hours. Donโt say anything except a kiss on the forehead and I love you. It will take some time but it works. Most have to do this for a few nights before they go in without a fuss. This is one of the many reasons a child should never sleep with the parents. Dangers of sleeping with an infant are accidently rolling over on them and hurting them or suffocating, also a higher risk of SIDS. .
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I had to stand there until they went to sleep just the comfort of them seeing me was enough to go to sleep I had a crib and toddler bed in the same room
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I had a unplanned c section so both kids sleeped in a bassinet in the living room with me so much easier sleeping in a chair than when I was healed to wear every little movement didnโt hurt we changed to the crib my kids are now 3 and 8 and they do pretty good sleeping on there own if they have a bad dream they can come to our room but they must start in there roomโฆ for parents trying to break co parenting most kids use you as there safety blanket instead of a stuffed animal or blanket so know you need to lay in there bed maybe there favorite animal an awesome blanket of there choosing try to make them feel safe the first few nights sleep in there room all night than till they fall asleep its all about whoโs more stubborn no spanking or displen because than your teaching the child anytime he/she feels hurt insecure or any other feelings that they deserve to be hit
When moving my son to a bed from a crib, and he didnโt want to, I took him shopping and let him pick out his own sheets and quilt for the bed a special stuffy that he really wanted, for bed time only. If he didnโt sleep in his bed, he didnโt get the stuffy. The stuffy stayed in the bed even if he didnโt. It only took about 3 or 4 nights before he stayed in his bed. Worked out fine, after that he wouldnโt sleep anywhere else but his bed, cause he knew his stuffy couldnโt leave the bed.
Why bother, theyโre babies for such a short time, enjoy this time. Why be in such a hurry to make your pepe become a big girl.
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Try letting her fall asleep and you put her in bed so when she wakes she knows she is ok in her own bed and she will gradually be comfortable enough to fall a sleep in her big girl bed.
Donโt cave. Be consistent and ignore her crying, while you really are conscience of it. She will get the message soon enough. Sounds like you have fully explained why to her. This will set the precedent for future tirades. Consistancy rules with kids. Otherwise if you consistently cave she will consistently attempt to rule every decision you make that is not her wayโฆultimately creating a little tyrant. โฆ
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Try letting her pick out a stuffed toy a new one and tell her it can only be in her bed and stick with that rule she can only play with it in her bed that it is her sleepier time toy maybe that will work
One of us would lie down
next to our son in his bed and read then stay until he fell asleep. Worked really well.
Ohh my daughter did this no way but the screaming way Iโm afraid be firm usually only lasts about a week or less
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When she falls asleep w/ u or anyone, bring her to bed while sheโs asleep. Or when itโs nap time, lay her on her bed. If she doesnโt want to nap there, lay w/ her on her bed until she falls asleep. Ik itโs hard but donโt give up. If sheโs younger then 7, sheโll grow out of it and then starts sleeping on her own bed. My daughter gone threw it. She eventually started to sleep on her own bed. Shes 11now but she sometimes comes to lay w/ me which I donโt mind. 
Have bedtime ritual of layin g down beside her & reading stories. She may fall asleep being comforted with you near her. Or, you may fall asleep firstโฆha! Was not a great idea to have her sleep with you unless she was sick.
For me: (I hav 3 kids) Iโve bed shared( slept in my bed) up until 0- 2, then co slept(in the same room separate bed)from 2-3. And at 3 they got moved into their own room, itโs definitely a process. But maybe try moving her back into your room in her own bed. And when sheโs ready, youโll know. Age 3 is kinda a buffer zone
An hour lol 
my son would cry the whole night he continued to do this until about 4 years old until he finally started falling asleep best suggestion let them ride their bike or a good long walk before night time . My son also woke up all hours of the night if you even thought about sending him to bed early heโd buss in our room at 3a.m. Hollering eat eat or juice
Read her a good childrenโs book. She will slowly drift off and she will learn to love to read.