My son is almost two y.o. And I am still breastfeeding, aka human pacifier. I’m so over it. He eats regular food and is just using me as a crutch. I can’t get him off of me. He uses me to go to sleep, and when he wakes, he also wakes up three times a night just so I can pacifier him back to sleep. He won’t take a pacifier or a bottle. He won’t drink ANY kind of milk, and we are having problems keeping his weight up. PLEASE PLEASE HELP. My husband thinks I’m neurotic constantly feeding him or cooking for him because of him falling behind on the growth curve. Plus I’m a SAHM. How can I get this kid off of me?
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Maybe ask your doctor for ideas?
I just stopped feeding mine and gave a bottle. In your case a sippie cup etc. If you refuse to give it he will come around to drinking other things. You still let him which in turn he will keep doing it. Just refuse. Also if he has an issue keeping weight try the pedisure type drinks.
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It will be an awful few days but the best way is just to deny him…he will adjust…not saying that to be mean or snotty…
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Gotta remember you are in control not him. If you don’t want him having it then don’t give it. Simple 
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I gave my son chocolate milk in a sippy cup to get him to stop nursing and slowly less and less chocolate till he would drink regular
Cut down one feed a day until he is weaned. Takes patience, you got it 
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It time to cut the cord. You’re enabling by allowing it so much. It’s gonna suck, but you gotta cut him off. He won’t die. He’ll eventually just drink and eat what’s given
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I had the same problem with my daughter, I cut her off cold Turkey, it was extremely difficult for both of us for the first few days but eventually she got over it, I took her to pick out a few sippy cups too. I had to do it for my sanity, it was worth it, just a really really bumpy first few days…you can do it
My sister put black bandaids on her nipples and was like sorry kid! They are broken. 
it worked.
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Had the same thing with mine at that age. I started to refuse feedings cus she’d suck for a minute and be off. So I knew she wasn’t actually getting anything. First cut off day feedings except for afternoon to nap and when she first woke up. But other than that, nothing during the day. Instead I would offer her a sippy of juice or water. Then over a couple months I’d reduce her night feedings. She’d wake, she’d cry. I’d hold and comfort her, but no breast. It sucked but it worked. She too was falling off her growth curve. I made her protein smoothies. I couldn’t afford the premade ensure, so bought the powder and made smoothies with whatever fruit I had with milk and a syrup, usually chocolate so it tasted just like chocolate milk. All that together seemed to work. Oh and finger foods. She lives ranch dressing and food to dip in it. Good luck mama
My son was the same. I put bandaids on and told him it was broken. He would often check for the bandaids but after a few days he forgot about the breast.
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your not alone I’m going through basically the same exact thing.
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Go on an adult only vacation. Reconnect with your husband and cut off the breastfeeding cold turkey. Out of sight, out of mind.
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Mine was similar, i just cut her off cold turkey. It was hard for 2 days but she was fine & she was about 15 months. So you might have a toddler with a bad tude for a couple days maybe a week but stay strong, he’ll get over it! I also had an easier time to cut her off bc she bit me in the middle of the night so i was pissed 
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I still breastfeed my 3 and 5 year old at night.
Wouldn’t change it until they do, you’ve done phenomenal!!
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I started by cutting out him being on the breast during the day. He got it at naptime and bed time. Then it was just bed time. Then none at all it was a rough week or so, but eventually he got over it. We pushed sippy cups with him and he started taking to it pretty quickly
I had the same problem with my now 5 year old. I was still breastfeeding him at 2 yrs old. I did cold turkey. No boob, there were definitely sleepless nights while he was adjusting lol but it was the best route within a week that was it no booby no crying he got use to the bottle. It’s just about consistency.
My son was 3 and doing the same thing! I finally just had to stop the first week was awful but then he quit asking but it still takes me 30-45 mins a night over a year later to get him to sleep 
You may need to see a speech therapist for some kind of feeding therapy if he isn’t eating well. My son has a gtube because he doesn’t eat or drink enough. He is in the one percentile but weight is slowing coming up with a high calorie diet in his tube.
Wow I could have written this post! Baby suckerbuster is what worked for me. Put it on your nips and your kid will be so grossed out by the taste he won’t want to nurse lol. Good luck mama! It’s a tough process and there will be crying but you’ll get there.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07VD433FR/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_Tv2pEb822SWF9
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Kids will eat and drink when they are hungry enough. Your in control start telling him big boys use big boy cups and eat big boy food and cut down on the feedings. It’s gonna be rough at first but it will get better.
First let’s address his weight, as a mom of 4 all kids are different, but if he doesn’t like milk start with 1% and mix with your breast milk so he has some of that flavor and decrease the amount of breast milk slowly. Replace some of the skim with 2% and work your way up to whole. Until he takes regular milk of some kind you can’t fully wean him or his weight will suffer. Maybe add some of the weight gaining kids shakes to his milk, only offer breast milk in a cup and know that if you don’t give in he truly at some point will drink from a cup. Just like your kids won’t starve if they deny a meal they won’t thurst to death. Just slowly start weaning him from the breast at nap and offer him a cup of breast milk with some pedisure I tihnk it is in his cup. But possibly he won’t wean until you dry up and in that case put them cabbage leaves right in the bra and dry up and he won’t smell it and maybe he’ll take something else. it’s not easy, but neither is breaking from the bottle. Honestly this is wayyy harder, but it still has it’s challenges.
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Don’t let him nurse. Walk away when he starts to throw a fit. Offer him something else to drink. Also if you have pumped milk start mixing it with regular milk. Do like an 1/8 cow’s milk and 7/8 breastmilk. And gradually up the cow’s milk and put in less breastmilk. My kids wouldn’t switch very easily off of formula. I breastfed but do to supply issues caused by an autoimmune disease and longest I made it was 8 months breastfeeding. It’ll suck but remember you make the rules not your toddler. Which is easier said then done.
Sounds like you need yourself a LONG weekend where you’re not available, yeah they’ll most likely be some tears she’d BUT, it will force said toddler to self soothe while you’re not home
Look up the sign of the moon to wean… that is what I was told by someone and it worked!! Basically take it away cold turkey when it says it’s a good time to wean!
Perhaps try making your breasts less attractive to his senses. For example: use a distasteful scent around the breasts (oregano oil) ; bandaids over nipples; or cooked cabbage leafs over breasts. Anything that will tell his own senses that this is no longer desirable or pleasant/pleasing.
Have ready for him a warmed milk bottle with nipple like topper. Cuddle just as always holding the bottle a bit further away from your breast each time. Hopefully you both will wean as gently and painlessly as possible. Let us know as you two grow through this. Much luck, mommy⚘🍀
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Katie Nicole maybe some good advice in here for you. 
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My son is now 2 years 4 months. I thought by now he’d be off breastfeeding. But he won’t give up. However, it is less times a day that he wants to nurse. Nights is a different story as he co sleeps. I bought a bed for him since he turned one but every time I put him down he wakes. It can be frustrating when you just want some alone time or space on the bed.
Don’t know if it’ll work, but my baby would NOT nurse if I drank any kombucha! It must’ve made it sour or something! Good luck!
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Just cut him off. U will get a shit ton of crying and tantrums. Just keep offering him drinks in a cup. He will eventually take it. Also u can use pediasure
I’m currently weaning my 2.5 year old… I started by cutting a feeding or request every 4-5 days. I usually redirect her attention… I’m down to a suckle session in the morning, and at bedtime… though I occasionally let her nurse when she asks… she is doing great! She usually wakes at midnight, 2, 4, and 6ish am. Last night she slept until 2:30 am and I just cuddled her asleep in 10 minutes. She then woke up at 6:39 am… I was both excited I got to sleep and kinda had a “sleep hangover “ lol fingers crossed she does the sane tonight. At first she cried and was really angry when I refused her, but now when I say no… she just accepts and goes about her business. Good luck!!
We slowly cut down to before naps and before bed. I offered other food, drink and connection other times he asked.
I used this for night weaning. https://betterrestmethod.org/sleep-methods-and-consultants/jay-gordon/
You have to cut him cold turkey! Don’t let him do it because it’s affecting him! He needs your breast to fall sleep and he is 2 years old and waking 3 times a day like he was a newborn baby! He doesn’t need a breast for comfort! Maybe try singing and don’t give in! Every time you give in you take 2 steps back and that makes him worse by clenching to you!
The way I weaned my 2 year old by was me applying an ointment since I had gotten an extremely bad itch around my nipples (long story) but she got grossed out looking at my nipple covered in ointment so she accepted herself that it was time! She moved on to table food and regular milk
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I cut my son off cold turkey and all he said was “momma can we still cuddle “ I said of course and he stopped tried couple times stay firm saying we will cuddle it worked for mine he was 2.5 now almost 3 good luck
I know it can be rough. My daughter is 28 months and breastfeeds and eats solid food. But remember the breast milk is so nutritious more so than any solid food they are eating. Most babies naturally wean between two and three years old. You’ve made it this far, you got this!
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I have thr same problem my 2 yr old I still breastfeed. He drinks cow milk but he won’t take it at night to sleep. He only wants breastmilk to sleep at night.
I would turn my child’s back to my chest and rub their arm/ scratch back etc to bring the attention away from nursing.
One child I had to have Dad put him to bed.
I have 4 kids. Nursed them all.
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Hot sauce on your Chi chis tell them they don’t work anymore
My little one is almost two and we recently started to not nurse.
At first I cut her off during the day. Then let her nurse at night only. Then I slowly cut the night feedings from 3 to 2 to one to none.
Iam a free woman once again.
I give it to all the breastfeeding mamas. It’s hard.
Simple STOP breast feeding him end of story
Put him to sleep in his own room. Go on vacation for a weekend.
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I cut to morning and night feeds (bedtime) only, then after a few weeks I cut to only the before bed feed. Stay strong mama. There will no doubt be tantrums I’m not sure about the weight issue.
We gently wean. Take away one nursing session a day and in about a week babes should be down to just a couple. Distraction is key!
Nursies when the sun shines
It’s a book that’s a great first step to night weaning. It helps them understand what’s going on. At night just repeat these bits of these book and offer other forms of comfort and read the book to them lots.
I did cold turkey. Give him a sippy cup, or a cup with a straw for liquids. Use whole milk. Naptime and bedtime give him a blanket and a kiss and walk out. Let him cry 3 minutes or so, look at a clock cause it will feel like an hour, go back in and hug him, whatever, but don’t give in to nursing. It’s going to be a rough couple of days, but it does work.
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Liz Lovelace for some ideas
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Slowly wean him love, cut down 1 feed per day until he’s down to no day feeds.
Once you’ve done that, cut down his night feeds, he may cry and he’s going to need your comfort more than ever, so snuggle him and sing or rock whatever he needs from you, it will eventually work it will just take time, be understanding that for 2 years this is all he has known, it’s everything to him.
Please don’t do it cold turkey, and please don’t lock him away or leave him to cry, they’re such cruel methods of all the things you could do, your baby deserves more, they DESERVE to be cared for and helped 
Goodluck love
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I am having the same exact issue! 
and definitely do no want to do it cold turkey. I have tried but I give in cause he starts crying and it just breaks my heart. My son will be 2 in 2 months .
You’re just gonna have to be ok with him crying for a couple of nights. Not by himself! Someone should be with him, but it’s a change of routine, and that’s always hard for a small child.
For me, it helped that my husband joined the routine of putting my daughter to sleep at night for a while. He was emotional support for me to be ok with her crying, and just holding her without giving in. Then I would just nurse in the middle of the night if she woke up. After a while he started putting her to sleep by himself. When I knew she could fall asleep without me and my breast, I spent a few nights in another bedroom, while my husband slept in our bedroom with the baby, offering water in a cup when she woke up. We also had a couple of smoothies to give her, just the first two nights, in case she was too hungry to fall back asleep. It was hard for 2-3 nights, but she was comforted and loved through it. After that I went back in, and slept in a tight shirt.
At this point I was still nursing during the day, and it still wasn’t a problem 
Others i know have started saying that the breast is sick or empty. I haven’t tried that, but for some it works.
He eats regular food and nurses during the night, but you are having problems keeping his weight up. This is concerning. Type one diabetics can eat and eat and still they lose weight. Usually, they will also drink a lot and pee a lot. Many have been diagnosed as babies, including my own. There are very simple tests you can do/have done. It’s life threatening if not treated.
I told my two year old, the birdies came and took it all away , it worked
You have allowed it for so long. Controlled crying is how I done it give them a teddy on something as their new comforter. Is hard but worth it. my two didn’t even have a bottle at 2 and both toilet trained. I’d make them a warm Milo or milk before bed brush their teeth read a story then lights out.
I went from demand feeding to stop due to stroke and medication required.
I used stop it (nail bitting liquid), let him help himself. He only tried a few times and never came back again.
Was happy for sippy cup, and started sleeping through the night within a few nights after increasing meal size (as no longer feeding from me).
Stop taking the growth curve so seriously. 2 yo will go through stages where they dont eat much at all. Chill out a bit. He will be ok. And hes not going to starve to death. Tell him no and deal with the tantrums. Dont cave. He will eventually stop.
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I’m in the same position, but my daughter turned 3 last month.
Yes she is older which made it easier to have a discussion with her that we dont have “bookie” until bedtime, so as soon as we leave the bed that means no more boob until bed time.
She constantly asks for it still but it’s a matter of distraction. Put plasters on your nipples and him you are ouchie and only take them off when you have managed to leave it double time between letting him have it and when he gets used to that, double it again.
I’ve no advice for the night feeds as mine still wakes every 2-3 hours for a feed during the night. Good luck! It’s hard to deal with when they go into meltdown mode but you have to remember to look after yourself too. It wont go on forever and if you have had enough small steps will help toward the end goal
At almost two years old he shouldn’t need a pacifier or bottle anyway. My recommendation is to pump And put it in a sippy cup… He can gain more weight by adding in more healthier foods that are higher in calories. And if you have not tried already PediaSure. That helped my daughter gain weight. Eventually use the breast milk and PediaSure together. Hopefully that will work to wean him off easier Then cutting him off cold turkey.
Try different bottles. And try bumping and giving through bottle.
My son is 100% the same way, only no issues with weight gain. He does use me as a human pacifier too. It may sound odd, but to kinda give myself relief, I started putting water(only 1-2oz) into a Gatorade bottle and would slowly squirt it into his mouth. After 2 months of this, he’s starting to hold the bottle and squirt it himself, with my supervision at all times and is starting to suck on it. Going from breastfeeding to bottles and sippy cups are difficult but doable
My last baby fed till he was 3 yrs, then stopped on his own accord, start drinking less water, this produces less milk.
Following. I have a 16 month old still nursing and I am so done
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Just stop breastfeeding. If he wants milk and gets thirsty enough he’ll drink it
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Following. 15M n still nursing.
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say no an stick to it. i stopped when i wanted too and my kids got over it 
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Following having the same issue
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You may have to go cold Turkey. Leave a couple days if possible.
I wrapped myself up with plastic wrap so my daughter couldnt get to the boob. She would search and for a few days but she eventually gave up. She was 2 and 1/2
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My nephew weaned himself off at I think 10 months.
Just stop. No is final, not a negotiable. He will cry and throw fits but he will get over it.
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I weaned my daughter at 15 months. One day woke up and put apple cider vinegar on a cotton ball on my breast. She tried to nurse, I told her it was yucky. That mamas milk is old now because she’s too big. She was mad the first day or two and then got over it.
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Cold turkey…my son was like that too. I just couldn’t do it when he lifted my shirt up in the mall nope…done.
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So a nurse I use to work with had a genius method to get her toddler to wean- put vinegar on your nipples. Let them dry (obviously) before he nurses. Then when he questions the taste, talk about how mom’s milk stops tasting good when he becomes a big boy and doesn’t need it anymore.
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Just stand up for the rest of your life so he cant reach ur boobies no but seriously get him some pediasure and give it to him in one of thoes “no spill” cups with the silicone feeling top…hell get over it…mainly because they come in chocolate,strawberry and vanilla…let him sleep with the cup who cares…its not like hes gonna be 30 sleeping with a sippy cup…and if he is oh well you did your best
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if it is Time to stop , stop
Baby will eat and drink milk once he she knows you are done
Our doctor suggested a Pediasure a day. My son was in the 2nd percentile and now gained 1 pound in a month.
I was breastfeeding until he was about 15 months old. One night I decided I was closing shop on one side. I fed on the other side for only a few other days until I said enough! It took him about three days to get with it!
I went through that with my 2.5 year old. She would scream unyil she puked or pooped. I bought that no bite nail polish… But a small dab on my nips and she went to suckle… And said booby nasty. And tried again a couple more times… But every time said nasty. After 2 more days she was weaned. Been over 2 months now.
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Wow 2 year olds still nurse. I never did that I had no idea it’s so hard.
I was breastfeeding my son for two years and just stopped, yeah the first couple of days will be difficult but he will drink other milk.
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Rub an onion on your tit? 
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I told my daughter I went the the doctor and they took out the milk so the babies could have it. She put up a fight for the first day or two but we went cold turkey. She was almost 2.
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I had the same problem!!! My son turned 2 at the end of last month and I couldn’t get him to stop nursing for anything bottle , sippy cups, pacifier. Nothing worked. So about 3 weeks ago it finally happened he started going to sleep on his own with nursing. So this is how I did it. I told him no the milk was gone he couldn’t have it. And made sure I kept my chest covered at all times for the 10 days. The 1st 3 night he more or less cried to sleep than the next 3 or 4 night he fell asleep on his own on the couch. The 1st few night he woke up in the middle of the night and I’d have to set w/ him in my lap or comfort him back to sleep . You just have to be firm and tell them like it is. Than be their for them as they make the transition to sleeping on their own
You have to just STOP…give him a bottle or sippy cup with water and a bit of apple juice mixed in…he’s gonna cry his eyes out about it but you CANNOT give it…It’s hard to ween them from either bottle or breast but you have to stick to it!!
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I can’t get my 4 year old to ween. Soooo I’m still breastfeeding lol. It’s for the baby not for you. Helps him grow. Gives him essential vitamins he needs to grow and stay healthy.
Example: toddler with fever I was freaking out as she never gets sick. I put her on the boob and an hour later no fever. No fever after that either or the next day.
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Same as my girl 2 1/2. 
i left her for 2 weeks thinking she will forget. Came back and still the same.
According to a few doctors I have spoken with about growth, children can catch up from growth delays without any problems up until their bodies are just about done with puberty. That being said, they still need vitamins and minerals or their bones and muscles will be weak. So the solution is to give them multivitamins in any way you can and then let them decide when and what they want to eat. If you want to stop breastfeeding, stop. Offer orange juice instead of milk, some brands include calcium, potatoes work better for bones than milk does anyway, butter, yogurt… the list is long. He doesn’t need milk at all. He’ll catch up later and be ok. The more whole foods you feed him the better. But always trust your instincts too!
I nursed my boy until he was 3 years and 2 months. We used a “big change” as a way to signal he was growing up.
So when we moved little sister into his room, we talked about how much of a big boy he was. The next day, I cut him off cold turkey. Said he was a big boy and didnt need milk.
I reassured to him he was welcome for snuggles, cuddles, hugs and kisses.
I gave him more responsibility but also lots of praise for being so grown up.
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I just weaned my 21 month old 3 weeks ago. He was a huge boobie baby, waking up 7-11x’s a night to just comfort nurse. We cut day time feeding and than focused on night time feeding 1.5 weeks later. The day time was super easy, night time was hard the first 3 days. You WILL lose a lot of sleep, your both going to be tired but TRUST ME it’s worth it. My son sleeps through the entire night since day 4!!!
This might be weird but totally works. I put band aids on my nipples and would be super dramatic that it was a “ouchie”, it help tremendously!
If your that serious, cold turkey it, don’t half ass it. It’s torture and makes things so much worse for you both. Be prepared though, I started friday and by monday, boobies never existed!
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Sounds like my daughter she is 18mths and I am so ready for my sanity.
You just have to stop. At this point he should be self soothing. You’re in for a rough couple of nights but it has to be done. I took the pacifier away cold turkey. Told her Santa took it to the baby reindeer. It worked. Good luck.
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I weaned my 1st 2 babies off with bottles filled with milk and honey or chocolate milk. They were both 2 + and I was desperate! Doesn’t appear to have caused any damage as they’re both over 5 now. My 3rd I stopped cold turkey as soon as she turned 1. She drinks from a bottle to fall asleep. I am all for “breast is best” but when you’ve reached your limit…good luck!
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I’ve heard of using pure aloe on your nipples. It’s all natural and but it tastes awful. Once your tot gets a taste of that, they’ll make the choice on their own that it’s ‘icky’ and won’t want to. A good friend of mine tried it and swears by it!
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I nursed my daughter until 4. We discussed that she was going to VPK & let her know it was her choice if she wanted to continue. She decided she was a big girl and stopped.
Im glad atleast some of yall know when enuff is enuff. Im sorry, I cant stand moms that are like " he will stop when hes ready" meanwhile kid like 4.
If they can eat on their own and drink from sippy cup, theres no more need for breast milk. They get all their nutrients from food!
I would say to just stop! Its just like a bottle or pacifer. No means no. It will be hard at first but they will get over it.
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Garlic mash on your Boob
Rub an edible vinegar on your entire nipple area before he goes to latch on. Rice vinegar is good. Or try dill pickle juice. He won’t want it anymore if he doesn’t like the taste. He’ll be hungry and start to eat and drink when his only go to is nasty to him.
We had to do it cold turkey. My son was almost 2 and we just stopped. I told him there was no more milk, it was all gone. After a couple of days he stayed asking for it. Sometimes he will still pull my shirt down and point at my boobs but I just remind him that there isnt any milk.
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Little was about 17 months and I was pregnant and really needed her off of me . Daytime was so much easier! I just kept offering water, alternative milks, etc. even though I knew she hated the alternates. She had a LOT of meltdowns… I just tried to keep her busy and distracted. I found that the less milk she had, the more food she would eat. bedtime though… uuuugggh. I made her last longer and longer without giving it to her when she would wake (she cried, I cried because men I was SO tired and wanted to just give in so I could sleep, it was a wreck)… but eventually I took away her first wake up feeding completely… rocked her and kept offering her lovie (a weird floppy baby doll shes obsessed with), and after a few nights like that she stopped waking completely. She does have a tiny sippy of water that now she will SOMETIMES sip off in the night but honestly that one week of hell was SO worth it.
Can you pack him up and send him to grammys house, or a auntie? Then when he comes back, use the vinegar on your nips. Oh no, it went bad.
Your gonna have tears but stand firm. Yes, he may not eat for a day or so, just to be stubborn, don’t sweat it, he will eat when he is hungry. No one died skipping a few meals. He won’t either.
I’m glad mine stopped without a problem.
He’s going to be upset but stand your ground. There is a book called Nursies when the sunshines that is about no more night nursing . I repeated that if she woke up ( well it was boobysnacks )*older sister was a big Scooby Doo fan and this is morphed from Scooby snacks.
Nope, Only when the sunshines.
After that the daytime decreased dramatically and quickly.
First night or two might be tedious , do NOT give in. He will adjust quickly.