Time outs. And you need to enforce them. Over and over and over and over until u think u might go mad. Consistency is key. Unless you’re a spanking parent, then do that.
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Maybe on the spectrum… Go to your doctor n get referred to a specialist paediatrician,
That specialises in behavioural problem they will definitely help you
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If you are “whooping” her… AKA HITTING HER… she has definitely been exposed to hitting and violence. 
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Definitely get her into a therapist and also ask for in home therapy. Do a psych evaluation as well.
My daughter has severe outbursts and mood swings get very mean and nasty with us. Shes in therapy and in home therapy. Working on trying to do a psych evaluation as well… she is 7 and it hasn’t gotten any easier.
And getting her diagnosed as well will help tremendously. Its a work in progress hang in there.
So your saying the little 4 year old girl hit someone and you took her into a room and hit her? Yeah that’s a great way to teach her not to hit. All 4 year Olds will act out. They are learning how to be human… I wish I could report you…
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PCIT! Parent child interaction therapy. My daughter was the exact same way and then it got really bad with online schooling for her age. The extra 1 and 1/2 a week was so worth it for our family! 2 years later, we have stopped the sessions because we graduated together 
and I’m so proud of my still sassy but way better behaved and communication between us is very open. I’m not sure what state you are in but you can get the therapy for free with medical in California
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Whatever method you choose to use, to discipline your children, I would say that consistency is key.
They will test you, they will push the boundaries. They are kids and that’s what they do.
Stay consistent.
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She is exposed to hitting, because you hit her to discipline her.
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Look into play therapy. My son was the same and had ODD and during play therapy the dr would help my son work through emotions and then guided me what to do. He is turning 9 this year and from age 4 to now we have seen a major change.
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“She’s never been exposed to violence or hitting”?! You literally admit you “whoop” her! Everyone has their own opinion but I personally think hitting a child is vile. Your only teaching her that hitting is acceptable when your angry, there’s no wonder she’s acting out.
You need to sit down and talk to her on her level, compromise and work together. Figure out what she’s feeling and help her understand that too. Teach her better ways to express her emotions.
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“I took her out of the room and whooped her”
“She’s never been exposed to hitting or violence”
Yes she has, you admitted that you WHOOPED her. That’s HITTING!!! She’s definitely been exposed to hitting & violence.
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Sounds like she is on the autism spectrum. Look into the symptoms of Asperger’s and she if more of the known Asperger’s behaviors are behaviors your daughter exhibits. My son was doing many of the things you listed especially banging his head while violently rocking back and forth and he is on the spectrum. Also, my son would “shut down” when he was upset sometimes. The best was to describe it is like he was an active robot then got upset started rocking or banging his head I would make him stop or sit between what he was banging against, and he’d become more frustrated and shut down like someone unplugged him, complete with an empty non blinking stare. Also, do not let your Dr. Gaslight you by saying that’s how she takes out her frustration. No banging her head can cause serious injury if she does it hard enough. If the Dr refuses to refer you to someone take her on your own to a specialist that deals in spectrum disorders.
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So she ran over and hit someone, which you thought was the wrong thing to do, so you took her away and hit her because you thought that was the right thing to do? Hmm, you might want to have a think about that
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Time out will work eventually 
I think she needs Time out and space have you thought she could be on the caustic spectrum with the banging her head
Maybe a psychologist eval to test for autism. The self injurious behaviors raises a red flag to me.
“My child hits so I hit her as punishment for hitting” ???
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Psychologist and therapy for the family to better understand your interactions with her
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You can’t bounce around with punishments. You have to stay consistent with what you do. And I can feel your irritation with it, but you shouldn’t hit her as a punishment IF she is hitting someone else. You’re just overpowering her with your force but still letting her know it’s okay. I save the spankings for SERIOUS no no’s. I talk it out, and then sit my kids in timeouts. 9/10 times it takes 2-3 times for it to click in their heads that what they’re doing isn’t okay. Patience is a virtue.
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“She has never been exposed to hitting”
But you said multiple times you “woop” her ? 
Sounds like you’re inconsistent.
You can’t teach a child hitting is wrong by hitting him to the point of tears. If you can’t discipline a child without laying a hand on them then you’re the issue not the kid.
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talk to her MD NOW.
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Wow. You do have a problem. My first father-in-law used to say, “If you don’t have them collared by age 4, then wait till they’re 14! Then you really have a mess!” He wasn’t kidding. So I think you have to do a few things. I is trying to get her into counseling. Two is trying. A discipline that really works. You’re going to have to put your foot down. Each episode has a consequences. She’s exhausted you to the point where, if she’s quiet, you no longer go check to see what she’s doing. You take it that she’s not destroying the house, so you let it ride. Whew she’s quiet, check on her. Better go check on her. That means probably into something she shouldn’t be. I would try making her stand in the corner. Stand behind to make her stay there if you have to to be sure she stays there for the time you say. Then move away and let her out, usually when she stops crying and fighting. Then explain to her what she did wrong and why it was wrong. She’s only four so she may not remember well so keep the explanations short and sweet. You can also take TV privileges away for bad behavior. Unplug it if you have to. TV has to be earned. It isn’t automatic. When she’s good, give praise. Put stickers on the calendar. Don’t throw the calendar away. The one with most good days for the most months gets to claim first movie choice for a Saturday afternoon. Or if she’s good for a straight week, you’ll call up Gramma and tell her. Maybe let her FaceTime with Gramma. And the hitting, hair pulling and such should be addressed. They act like that… no TV for the rest of the day. Or help with this or that chore. Tough love. If they miss a show, sorry, they should have thought about that before they acted up. I know it’s hard to get so snippy with your baby. But if you don’t, you’ll have a holy terror later. Good luck to you.
Sorry about the unicorn. Hit the wrong button.
The style of punishment and the consistency are your problems. You have to continue to stick with one form of punishment, and since she’s “never been exposed to violence” and “whooping her” doesn’t help, I doubt spanking will be beneficial to either of you. My daughter went through a phase of being a little difficult, and positive reinforcement is what’s helped with her. Now she and her sister still fight like crazy, but she doesn’t hit people randomly like that. She is even calm to where if kids are being overly crazy and might get hurt, she’s nowhere near them. Just stay consistent and don’t do the “do and I say not at I do” because at that age, you hit to say “no don’t do that” guess what they are going to do when other kids do something they don’t approve of?
She needs to be tested for ADHD, ADD or other emotional disorders.
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Find a pediatric counselor.
Pay her some attention!
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Maybe autism or add please get her evaluated and try counseling too mommying can be frustrating. Hugs that way you can parent healthy and effectively and if she has other issues she can get the help she needs too. Hugs.
i see red flags in this post my daughter sounds the same have you thought along lines of autism , my girl can’t regulate her emotions and lots of angry outbursts , the word no means yes , very defiant. runs in roads etc has zero fear of anything that could be dangerous, no empathy towards ppl 
lots of other things too , but i have learnt hitting and punishments don’t work i have too stay calm calm never change my tone of voice , never hit as too me this is teaching them it’s ok too hit , time out don’t work either , stick with it try the calm calm approach see if it helps
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Seek expert help every child is different and you reaching out is parenting .Ignore the Karen’s and sparky judgemental peoples opinions I’m guessing they mean well? God Bless and have that little one assessed by professionals. Lean on God and pray for your children…thats the best parenting advice anyone can get.
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From experience with my own Granddaughter it could possibly be she has Aspergus she did all the things you mention, ? However, she has had NO vaccines at all but that that’s not to say she has not inherited Miasms, she has been diagnosed, she is very clever and at 12-13 years old tested and has the IQ of a 25 yr old does not like the word NO and would go into fits of Alien rage and destruction also suffering with Oppositional Defiance Disorder (ODD) not easy my daughter has been on many courses to help her to manage her daughter and life has been pretty shoite for them now she is fourteen cannot cope with school it’s difficult, so I understand the stress of it all…
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Consistency
I would just keep being VERY VERY strict and consistent
How about synthetic colors ? How’s her diet ?
Try to clean up her diet
And be very consistent
I know it’s easier said than done but try that first
I knew you would have a tonnnn of backlash on this post and parent shaming for your choice of discipline …
Remember where living in a world of feelings right now …. Nothing that’s ever been done since time began is acceptable any longer , you now will be ridiculed for it.
You do YOU
And what works in your household works in your household bc every child is different and it’s trulyyyyy not a one size fits all
Just stay consistent and very strict …. Start a strict schedule and heavily stay with it
Watch her diet and start there
Hugs mama❤️
We’re all just trying to do our best ……
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“Never exposed to violence” but you’re ‘whooping’ her for everything??? Look a little closer to home for the problem…
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You cannot figure this out by yourself get professional help. God bless
You may need to seek professional help outside of the mom group…your child may be autistic.
If not, be consistent with the discipline.
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That’s how my daughter was before she was diagnosed with ADHD and ODD. The head banging was awful she would even smash her head into our faces and we would have bloody noses bloody lips she was an extremely rough child. I had her in therapy for a year (before the ADHD and ODD diagnosis came at 7) because the negative behaviors were a constant thing it didn’t matter what the discipline was or the punishment was she would repeat the same thing over and over and over she’s 13 and to this day she still struggles with that
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Take her an autism assessment
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You whooped her as punishment! Hmm I wonder why she hits
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Get a family therapist and stop hitting her, by hitting her you’re telling her that it’s okay.
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I think the first and most important thing you should do is to get a psychiatrist/ psychology/ neurologist evaluation, it’s very important to know if she has any mental illness/ condition like autism, ADD , ADHD for example.
In the mind time, you need to be very consistent with how you discipline her
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Whooping any child under 4yrs old is abuse. What can a toddler possibly do so badly that would automatically get a whoopin? Honestly that’s awful and it does cause behavior problems. Whooping will do more damage than good. This post has so many red flags 
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Your whopping her for everything…your teaching her to hit…she may see it as well your hitting me so it’s okay to hit back you can’t tell her not to hit if that’s all your doing to her. A young child of that age is still learning right from wrong she’s only 4.
Kids do have a way of making us sound like we’re on repeat lol. They test the boundaries a lot around this age too Routine and consistency are key I find. And always reman firm on what you won’t allow.
but I will say it would be worth seeing a professional as there may be more to her behaviour that’s worth getting checked out. Being a mum is hard and can be very frustrating sometimes but you have to show them calmness when dealing with certain situations they learn how to deal with things through what they see…
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Sounds exactly 100% like Autism I know it’s signs and symptoms all so well. Also stop the whooping you are only teaching her that it’s okay to hit! Get her evaluated ASAP i really believe that’s where you will find your answers!
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I have a friend who said her daughter started pulling out her own hair and hurting herself. They had her evaluated by a psychiatrist. They were able to get her some medication and treatment and she is doing just fine now.
I’m just gonna not touch on the whooped statement especially for a four year old. But as an autism mom, that sounds like you should be consoling her, getting her checked, and getting her resources and guidance. All you’re doing is increasing the behavior and creating a lack of trust and safety and comfort.
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Where I live you would lose your children for smacking your child and likely be charged for it. Alot of children do these things because they want and need attention but I think u need to see another doctor in case theirs a medical reason for it.
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Connect with her special time with her. What does she like to do? Can you spend 15mins of your day doing that with her solo?
Sounds like you should consider a more peaceful parenting approach. Get on her eye level (kneel down & connect, dont stand above and scold), validate (I notice you screaming, hitting, pulling your hair. You’re feeling angry, frustrated. Sad. It’s okay to feel xyz. I’ve felt that way too. We cannot hit. We can stomp the ground, shout how frustrated we feel. Kick a ball, hit a pillow. Give hi fives.”
Re: safety.
Hold her hand when you get outside. Every time. Until you make it to your car, or to safety. Explain it to her… “I’m holding your hand to keep you safe bc it’s my job to keep you safe. I know you wish you could run but we will run together when we make it to the park”.
She will start to reach for your hand and remind you, soon 
Play with her… changed my world.
Help her co regulate. Join some peaceful or conscious parenting groups on fb. Literally search those words.
Model the behavior you want to see.
Think of what you might have needed in moments of frustration when you were a child and give that to her. Is it a smile, a hug, affirmations, someone to tell you they love you no matter the behavior? Affirm her more than anything else. Spend time with her. Transform the negative energy through play.
Kids don’t have the intellect & ability to communicate like adults & they communicate with their behavior. She needs guidance. You can give her some words and model to share how she feels. “I feel, I’m feeling… sad angry happy frustrated confused…bc you won’t let me run/jump on sofa”
I see people saying check for autism, idk. I guess. But even if Autistic, you may still have to model healthy communication styles. This will help you both.
Does she have younger siblings? Other kids can bring out more misbehavior due to attention, jealousy & just wanting time with you.
Best of luck. Remember it’s a relationship and she has some unmet needs……
Hungry? Tired? Lonely? Emotional?
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My brother in law has aspergers, adhd and autism. Before he was diagnosed, he chased his sister with a knife. This was when he was just a child. Now that he is on medication, and also an adult, he told his mom that if his sister had her baby on his bday that he would kill himself. Because the baby was due around his day. The mom is the same sister he chased around with a knife. I’d say get her checked out with an herbalist. That way she won’t be a zombie. That’s exactly how I feel that my brother in law turned into with meds.
Well u hitting her is exposing her to violence.
Have u had her assessed for any medical conditions? Banging her head and doing some of the things u explained could be signs of autism. Stop hitting her and seek help for her
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Honest advice/opinion, don’t get her tested for ADHD, autism etc, I don’t believe this to be simply a problem with her it is a parenting style you have adopted and having her tested for something whist your not being consistent is not going to bring about clear results, everyone is quick to point out signs and symptoms, but, well for instance, you have taken her from the situation, (punished her) then hit her (punished her) that situation you have punished her twice, not that hitting should be a punishment at all, you have in her short life taken toys, time outs, whooped her, she has not being able to form a understanding of actions and consequences as this has not been consistent, may I suggest going to some parenting classes, look up online, read, and getting some professional help for yourself and partner so you can learn how to combat the issues your facing now, she has pushed boundaries, and needs a consistent punishment for those, of course time out doesn’t work at the start, but, it will over time, Everytime she does wrong put her in time out Everytime without stopping, or upping the anti from time out to toys, you must keep it simple and she will take it next level and you must keep it simple, she obviously doesn’t have the understanding of hitting as a punishment because she is now repeating it so that’s done it doesn’t work, she knows she will get the toys back again that’s done, time out Everytime means she is stuck with nothing untill she rights her behavior.
Also praise her massively when she isn’t being naughty any chance you get, she cuddles make a big deal oh that’s lovely cuddles for instance, and no overly dramatic scenes or emotion when she is bad just you have to go to time out for xyz, when she pulls her own hair or head butts walls don’t make a big deal if it, but, ask her what is the matter and gently remind her that you can not fix it if she doesn’t use words, lastly none of this is actually just symptoms of a nuro problem, it is litterly how some four year olds actually express themselves. Very best of luck on this I hope that helped all spoken with no judgement at all here I understand you must be quite frustrated and trying to find a better way though. Oh and this is coming from a mum of an aspergers child just for clarification.
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She’s whoopin you cos you’re whoopin her:woman_shrugging:
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I have 2 children with asd & adhd diagnosed at 2 . Sounds very familiar
My 3rd is 16months old and may have asd too .
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You hit her because she was hitting and then told her not to hit… she is probably confused and you’re not giving her any tools on how to deal with her emotions. instead of hitting her redirect and show her how to deal with what she’s going thru
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You hit her for hitting? That’s exactly where she learned to hit.
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She hasn’t been exposed to hitting? You said in your piece you were whooping her? Hitting her. How is hitting her not exposure to hitting?
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I also agree, you need to seek medical advice as soon as you can. Also I’d see a dr that specializes in pedi behavior. Sounds like your normal dr dismisses your concerns
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Bear hugs with a low soft voice will bring her down quite quickly. I learnt this trick dealing with my grandson. He goes off when hungry I also have to watch his sugar levels in foods. Ice cream and normal jelly are a trigger plus Lolli pops we avoid them.
Sounds like she may be on the Autism spectrum. You need to have her evaluated.
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You say she has never been exposed to hitting or violence but she has with you your exposing her to it every time you hit her she must be confused to why your aloud to hit her but she’s not aloud to hit she’s ptob frusted at all adults cause there aloud.to.hit without punishment but as soon as she does.it she’s gets punished
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Our children model our behavior so when you hit her she is learning that to get what she wants or needs that it is necessary to yell and smack. How do you deal with big emotions with your kids? With your spouse? Is she learning this from what she is seeing? Start with yourself. Second, have firm and consistent discipline in the home and long term rewards for when she gets it right. So the second she yells, put her in time out. Firmly and quietly, no yelling at her. The clock resets when she moves. Tell her “you are going to time out and have 4 minutes.” When 4 minutes are up, you can talk to her about why she’s in time out and how to properly deal with her emotions next time. You can also have a day like Friday to say if you do well this week, we can go for ice cream this Friday (or Saturday, or the zoo or watch a movie- whatever).
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I have gone through similar behavior with my children. I’d recommend you speaking with a child psychiatrist. I also have them in therapy weekly. My pediatrician listened about the kids behavior but when it came to treating it, that was from the help of a psychiatrist.
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Sounds like my kids with adhd. They brains are firing so quickly they can’t stop themselves to think how it would me the other person feel they just react first. Talk to your doctor and have her evaluated. And in the mean time get the book or video on 1, 2, 3 magic for disapline. You have to be consistent, it’s going to take work but she will catch on fast. It works. We used it with all three of our kids did not have problems with temper tantrums, yelling, etc.
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All that behaviour is normal age appropriate behaviour - you hitting your child only reinforces that that is what you do when you are upset. Think about how you are acting and model the behaviors you want to see. Where I live your children would be taken off you and you would be arrested for child abuse.
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You’re hitting her to teach her that hitting is bad? Problem number one.
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maybe it’s time to talk to professional and come up with a way. She’s ruling the roost!
The hitting out is cause you smack her. But as for the concerns you had but told it was out of frustration I’d seek medical advice. As a mum that was in the same position as you I never smacked my children but my son is now 14 and only getting the medical help he needs with being assessed for autism
For one she might be autistic or adhd. Girls don’t get diagnosed with this easily so you might have to actually ask the doctor for a referral for a real assessment. Secondly, consistency is key. A child will not respond to any type of discipline if consequence are not being followed through on your part and if the discipline is changing every time. I’m firmly against hitting because it teaches them that hitting is okay. I once took a parenting class that said to list rules for your household that are easy to remember, if no hitting was in the rules then everyone including the parents need go adhere by the rules. Whether your daughter is diagnosed or not then starting behavioral therapy is best. For you, I would look up classes on consequence driven discipline. This means treating children with “real life” consequences.
She’s learning from the whoopings idk what else to tell you
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Change doctors. I would research and find a doctor that is more experienced. She has a medical/mental condition if you have tried everything you have and it continues without and improvement. Usually I’m the first one to say discipline, but she may need medicine.
You’re hitting her for hitting. of course she’s going to resort to that same behavior that you’re teaching her!! Sounds like she may be autistic. They mimic behaviors. She struggles to communicate her feelings, and then gets hit and more pain/confusion/frustration. Also, many kids with autism are runners. Many missing kids that have wandered away from home have had a prior autism diagnosis. She needs kindness and therapy stat. And please dear God stop hitting this child.
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Definitely get her tested for Autism.From a 2x Autism mama.
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Play therapy is brilliant for kids it’s expensive bit worth it in the long run xx sending you a hung as it can be hard going when trying to find the answers xx
Use more positive reinforcement. Acknowledging and appreciating her with words of reinforcement can go a long way. Children mostly want attention, even if it’s negative. So instead of constantly focusing on her bad behavior make sure to make it a really big deal when she’s doing things you want her to do and listening to you. When she is misbehaving you can try ignoring her (unless her or someone else could get hurt) to show that bad behavior doesn’t get rewarded with your attention. We also used a sticker chart for our toddlers. When they went from wake up to lunch without breaking rules they got a sticker, and again from lunch to dinner. When they got to 5 stickers they were allowed to go to the dollar store and pick out any toy they wanted. Then the number of stickers and reward got bigger each time. Behavior changed drastically and pretty quickly. It helped them associate positive behavior with rewards they actually wanted
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Saying she’s never been exposed to that but you literally saying you “whoop” her as punishment is a bit ironic. Don’t use that as a punishment, it doesn’t work. Try time outs, 4 minutes. You need to be consistent. Every time she does it, time out. If she does it again, time out again. If you’re consistent she will realize you’re not giving in. Tell her what is expected of her and what the consequence is if she doesn’t follow that.
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it sounds like you need to get her tested for autism. . .
Not a bad thing at all but that sounds rough and it will eventually help
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Do what Andy Griffith would have done. He would probably tell her a story of a little girl who acted like her and she would realize on her own why she is acting that way.
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2 words…
Hug her!
When she “acts up” hug her, if she then pulls hair etc, hug her tighter and for a bit longer.
Tell her you love her, hug her when she does something you are proud of her, hug her in the morning & at night.
When you hug, breathe with her, feel her heart beat, allow the regulation to occur for you both.
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Often children with autism act out because they become overwhelmed with too much going on
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“She’s never been exposed to hitting” proceeds to tell us you hit her
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Stop hitting the child a whooping as u say is child abuse keep explaining to her the problem. Is she like this when she stays at her grandparents home
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take her to the docs see if there’s a underlining reason this is happening
Your girl sounds like my 3 yrs old, smacking will only make it worse and that isn’t going to control her behavior but only will make her petrified of you. When my daughter does that I just hug her tightly and she normally settles after 5 or 7 mins but it does take lots of patience and sanity cos she constantly hits us even whilst we are hugging her. Her behaviour is getting under control but she still gets unsettled when surrounded by new people.
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As a momma with a now 11 year old son with autism this sounds all to familiar. My son was pretty much the same way when he was in his toddler years. It was rough! He would cuss, bang his head, do all sorts of things that were just not “normal”. With a child with autism learning boundaries, therapy, therapy to learn to play properly, and working with doctors and therapists on correct ways to punish an autistic child so much. Not saying she has autism but it really felt in my momma heart to please have her evaluated. There could be language delays, developmental delays, or a mental illness even that could answer your so many why is she this way. Best of luck to you. It’s not easy and definitely every child is different. If you feel as though whooping her is a good corrective measure then do so. It’s not abuse even according to CPS and the police. This new generation of “gentle parenting” is more than ridiculous.
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My daughter is like this, she is our wild child. Born to lead and has no fear. She has to be in control of every detail of every day and she breaks down and lashes out when she feels she has lost control. I’ve found that giving options to EVERYTHING helps. If i just demand she does something she will refuse. Whereas, if i ask her “do you want to walk to bed with me, or do you want to walk up to bed alone?” She then decides she will run up with me. “Do you want to wear these shoes or walk on stones and get sore feet?” Even though sometimes I’m tricking her into something not being optional, she believes its a choice and she is in control lol. It helps alot. Also lots of affection. Highlighting inappropriate behaviour and comparing it to other people “do you see anyone else here on the ground screaming or hitting people? No, because the police would come”. That helps her realise and bring her back to earth and see how she is being. Sometimes she gets tunnel vision in a blind rage and doesn’t realise how extreme her behaviour is until i copy what she did and she sits in disbelief and laughs at herself and says “I’m so crazy and silly”. I remind her to use her words when her brain has a thought or her heart when it has a feeling. Also do deep breathing exercises to calm down, take 5 minutes to sit and hold her hands and have eye contact, breathe 
and hum like monks. Good luck, you’re gonna need it with a wild child. Try not to break her spirit, she needs more guidance than the average kid. Hang in there:laughing:
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Sounds like you need to check your parenting more than your child later behaviour. You jump straight to punishment instead of understanding, she’s 4 and you’re a grown ass adult.
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You say you “whoop her” then say she has never been exposed to hitting or violence??? Big tip - if u don’t want her to hit then show her how you deal with this conflict without hitting her. Violence towards children is rarely productive. It just teaches them that adults resolve conflict with violence. Talk to her even in story form. Right now her emotions are too big for her to verbalise properly. Help her find the words to describe how she’s feeling.
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You can’t hit your kid then say she’s not exposed to hitting or violence . The problem is you .
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You whoop her then wonder why she hits and state she’s never been exposed to hitting. Is this real life? 
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I am the aunt that my whole family sent their little bad asses to when they were at wits end. To this day you can ask any of my nieces and nephews if they need a trip to aunt Debbie camp and they will straighten themselves up really quickly. And they are all grown. 
. If a child is acting completely crazy you can do a few different things. Example, I would tell my kids to get their rooms cleaned up. Gave them a day or so then second warning. The third one was waking their little happy asses up early on Saturday morning and I mean every inch of that room got cleaned because we were all doing it. From taking curtains, sheets, blankets, mini blinds, cleaning windows, base boards, every drawer, closet under beds, cleaning carpet, ceiling fans I mean Every Inch. Believe me when I say they learned quickly that it was so much easier for them to do it than for me to make them do it. Make them understand there are consequences for their actions and stick to it.
Maybe you need to spank her bum, I don’t mean to beat her, but a controlled non violent spanking, if you have never done this it might work it worked on me when young,
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Using your hand only, pop her bare behind!
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Glad I never had a girl… but how do you react to saying no to her ? Are you firm with your no? Or you like most parents where you say no, It has a melt down and you give in… parenting right doesn’t give you little pricks. 
She needs to be tested for autism, ADHD. My grandson was like that and was tested. He was placed on medication. He went to therapists weekly. At 16 and finally on the right meds, he is so much better. If one doctor or therapist doesn’t work, find another one. We went through some not so good ones. Good luck and best wishes.
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“Never been exposed to hitting or violence” “I whooped her”………???
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Wait I’m assuming whooping means smacking her bum or her hand so your telling me you hit her when she hits to make sure she doesn’t hit people?
Alllllll righty then.
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She may be struggling to cope with adhd or autism or similar,its not always down to being naughty/nasty.Maybe worth getting her assessed by someone?
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What do you mean by “whooping” then if she’s never been exposed to hitting or violence?
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Can hardly blame to child for hitting people when you’re hitting and assaulting her
Go to parenting classes and therapy before you damage your child any more
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So in your world whooping and hitting are different??? She could be bored and frustrated and you hitting her and getting all wound up won’t help. She needs consistency and calmer responses
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I suggest taking her to a paediatrician sounds like my boy