You can’t teach that hitting is wrong by hitting her!! At 4 years old, there’s something else going on besides just being naughty. Definantly a doctors visit to have her evaluated.
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My son is the same way, we are in therapy every week 
Sounds like autism to me, you say she’s never exposed to violence but you hit her?! Stop hitting your child as ’ punishment’ even if you aren’t hurting them it’s phycological abuse and completely illegal here in the UK!
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Please stop whooping your child , she’s 4 she’s not doing any of this on purpose.
Get her tested asap for adhd , shouting and hitting definitely won’t help her it will make her worse as she sees that’s how you cope with anger or frustration
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Whoopins are hitting in my opinion. Shes being hit sometimes. So she hits people. Shes only doing what whoopins have taught her to do. They arent good for everychild. Spanking made me miserable as a kid. I didnt want to listen if they were gonna hit me
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So we hit our children to teach them not to hit and then wonder why they hit people they care about.
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Maybe the fact that she’s feeling some feelings and your hitting her is having no effect ? I’m not judging I’m just saying children have emotions they may not be reasonable but in a small child’s world they are , so allowing her to have these feelings and maybe even asking your child why she is angry or upset and then saying you understand her feelings (but not to hit ) is better than making her think any feelings are not ok . Eventually she will learn to recognise what she’s feeling. Adults have trouble with their own emotions too so I don’t know why anyone would expect a small child to know how to handle theirs. Like “you can’t hit your aunty” and then smacking her for it makes zero sense to a child … your teaching her that when your annoyed you hit ? Do you see what your doing there ?
My son had a full blown meltdown once because the dog ate his biscuit in the grand scheme of things it wasn’t a huge deal but in his eyes it was really upsetting . He was kicking off screaming and I asked him are you upset would you like a cuddle and he came over to me and gave me a hug and I said " it is upsetting that the dog took your biscuit because you wanted that biscuit, shall we go and get another one" and within 2 mins tantrum over, feelings are valid . But teach your child feelings are exactly that … feelings not an action.
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You say that she’s never been exposed to hitting or violence and also saying you’re “whooping” her. You’re teaching your 4 year old that the way to get your point across is to hit.
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She’s not been exposed to hitting or violence but you whoop her?
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I am going through the same issues with my 5 yr old. She has been like this since she was 2 in a half. I asked her doctors about her issues and they said she might have ADHD but they can’t do anything until she is 5. Well she is the same and is now 5. I have been on a waiting list for almost 6 months now for a behavioral therapist for her. She is also in a 45 day program at her school where they evaluate her for everything. Nothing has changed in her behavior. My husband and I had enough of her behavior and not listening. My daughter will scream for over an hour when u tell her no. She does not take no for an answer. She will scream bloody murder until we give in but we don’t give in. Our neighbors called the cops on us one time because she was screaming for so long they thought something was wrong. So I had her go and tell the cop why she wouldn’t stop screaming and yelling. We have about 2 weeks left of this program and something better come out of this. We are also deciding if we will medicate her or not. She is so young but nothing is working that we do so medication is our last option. We are trying to do everything else possible before we go down that road.
Whooped her? … Sounds like she’s taking after you mom …
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I whipped both of my kids and neither of them are violent or hit people! My oldest pushed me once when he was 10, he is 18 now, ask him if he would EVER try it again! A whipping is not abuse, excessive whipping is!
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She has been exposed to hitting. You can’t tell her don’t hit then spank her. Kids don’t understand why you can do it and they can’t. You wouldn’t spank an adult when they do something wrong. Try to talk with her and show her love and do it consistently. Maybe she does have behavioral issues that need addressed with a professional but maybe she’s going through a phase she’s needs consistent reinforcement.
With that being said, I know how hard it is and that you are probably at your witz end and trying your best. It’s tough and I totally feel for you. Hopefully you guys can figure it out and things get easier. Sorry you’re going through this. No judgement just suggestions for things that have been proven to help. My son is 3 and still hits and has temper tantrums on occasion. What I’ve found helps is just hugging him until he relaxes then finding out why he’s hitting and teaching him what else he can do if he’s frustrated. He’s improved so much
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Get her tested for ADHD. Love & hugs
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You don’t stop hitting with hitting, that’s number one. Your daughter sounds like she might have impulse control issues like ADHD. She might physically or mentally be able to control those impulses. Have her evaluated before you decided it is simply bad behavior as frustrating as it might be. These kids brains operate differently, I know I am one and have raised three nonneurotypical kids to adulthood. Traditional disapline doesn’t work. The need tangible things that they can see like behavior charts and then rewarded with whatever their currency is like screen time, a prize, or a special event to work towards. Keep tasks in short intervals for instance “if we go outside and you stay away from the road when we go back in you get a star. If you get 3 stars you get to watch TV today” She will require reminders. “If you don’t hit you get a star” and be consistent. At first it will be super hard if she doesn’t earn a star she will have a meltdown. You ignore them and put her in her room- for as many times as needed- one minute per year of age- so when she completes four minutes without fits she gets to come rejoin the family or activities. Kids like this need to be able to predict her day. I bet changes make her behavior worse. Scheduling charts work very well- “we wake up at 7am, we get dressed and eat at 7:30, we leave for school at 8- that way they know the expectation and what they are required to do next. This takes patience and understanding!
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I could only bear to read a few sentences…
She’s hitting because you
“Whoop” and your not being consistent…
Love her whole heartedly and don’t “whoop” her and see if things change
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Sounds like ODD to me and maybe even ADHD. She definitely needs therapy. She needs help with communication and you can’t help her when you’re frustrated and rightly so. Yes 4 year olds can do therapy; my son did and it worked wonders. She needs help. Help you can’t give her obviously. I don’t mean that offensively at all. The saying it takes a village to raise a child is true more often than not.
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My son does this very exact same thing and he has Autism. Not saying this is the case with your daughter but it is for us. Maybe talk to her pediatrician and see what they say.
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If all else fails 
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She needs to b tested or see a psychiatrist or both!
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My girl is 3 ,and all of a sudden she became a wild child ,the Dr said that ptsd has happend at some point in her little life and it sits with them ,the older they get the worse it gets,please get her checked out for your sake and hers,my child is a foster child,I’ve got her at one and her 2 older sisters ,God hope.that something dident happen to her that your not aware of ,good luck
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Stop judging her for whooping her child. She was brave enough to get on here and ask for advise so instead of being rude and ugly to her how about being considerate & putting urself in her shoes. Just because she spanks her child doesn’t make her a bad parent by no means. Stop being so quick to criticize others just because u don’t agree with them. There’s no handbook for raising children. We do the best we can with what we have at that time & pray that its the right choice.
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May I suggest an exorcism. Or just start throwing holy water and screaming the power of Christ compels you?
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What do you do with her for one on one time? It could be that she’s attention seeking because she feels she doesn’t get enough of your time one one in the day. If you are giving one on one time throughout the day then in order to change the undesirable behaviors you need to sit her down when she’s calm and discuss the ‘basic’ ground rules. Don’t try to change all the behaviors at one time you will make it worse. Pick one or two to begin with like the hitting (although you MUST STOP hitting her too) and let her know that hitting people is not acceptable and give her a warning ‘if you hit again, you will go to time out’ then if she does, you absolutely must follow through and put her in time out (1min for every year, so 4 minutes) and she must apologize before she comes out. Be consistent it will be tough to begin with because you will get a lot of resistance to the changes, especially if she does have an underlying problem like ASD but it is still possible to change the behavior. Make sure you are also praising good behavior a lot more than you are punishing bad behavior. This part is easier said than done but you need for her to get more of the good attention to change her mindset. Finally display the rules (make them positive, for example: We use kind hands and feet) and use them as a visual reminder when she ‘forgets them’ say ‘Oops, I think you forgot we only have kind hands in this house, next time will be a time out’ and BE CONSISTENT even when you feel like giving up.
When I was teaching there was a saying ‘Forming, Storming, and Morning’ and these are the 3 stages of setting rules. Forming is obvious, it’s when the rules are being formed which for some kids is just about learning the new routine and is fairly easy, for others new rules are hard and they jump really quickly into the storming stage which is when the try everything they can to cause issues with the changes and this is the most critical time to be consistent because if you are not then kids are smart and know if they got away with something once then maybe next time they can push a bit further and you will quickly go backwards. The norming stage is when things calm down and the expectations and consequences are known and significantly less undesirable behavior is presented.
You are likely in for a tough ride for a few weeks but if you and those around you can be consistent with it, you will come out the other side.
YOU GOT THIS!
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You “whooped” her and she’s “never been exposed to violence?”
Lead by example.
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Sounds a lot like autistic spectrum/adhd to me. I helped raise a girl with serious impulse control. Severe adhd and low on the autistic spectrum. Ignore all of these people saying spanking is abuse. There is such a huge difference to a quick swat on the butt to freaking abuse people. I can count on my fingers the amount of times something were extreme enough to warrant a swat for my daughter. And she is the best. Excellent grades. Awesome personality. Genuine caring human. And she is almost 14. If you dont know the difference between abuse and a spanking you obviously never were abused. Take a seat.
The best advice, try to record her behavior & then talk to her doctor. Everybody disciplines their child differently so what works for one child, may not work for another.
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My family and I just started getting regular chiropractic work done and I was surprised to learn misalignment can cause a lot of behavior issues! Most insurances will cover a lot of visits, so it might be a simple fix that is at least worth trying!
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Banging her head in the floor is a classic sign of autism. If she is on the spectrum the rest of her behavior would make perfect sense. I would get her evaluated asap. The sooner she is diagnosed, the sooner she can get the help she needs.
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I would talk to a natural path Dr or a Bach’s remedy practitioner.
This sounds like a mental thing(don’t take that the wrong way)
My daughter had very bad anger issues when she was just into her teens. She had to be put on a natural mood enhancer. She would stand her ground to me and growl at me. Even her old sitter who she still visited asked me to give her some of the meds she took because she had noticed the issue as well.
If the anonymous author of this wants to message me about the natural side of life please feel free
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Autism at it’s finest. She needs an assessment from someone who specializes in this area. All of these behaviors are so painfully familiar with autistic children I have nannied.
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- Have you ever considered she could have a neurological disorder like autism or ADHD?
- The talking through her feelings needs more than just one time and it’s a fix. You have to do it always. For every single occasion.
- “Whooping” is hitting. So yes. She has been exposed to hitting and violence.
For my autistic kids it has to be a natural consequence. A forced consequence will only make the situation worse.
For example if they break one of their toys, the natural consequence is that toy is now broken and has to go in the bin.
A forced consequence would be adding in a smack for good measure.
It doesn’t work.
And certainly won’t teach her how to process and react to her emotions.
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I read a lot of people judging on the hitting and not really offering advise on how to deal with, what is a stressful , situation .It is true that children pick up on the mood of their caretakers, so it’s important that you ( try) to remain in control of your emotions yourself. Remember ,she’s just 4 years old, she takes her clues from you.Also try Bach flower essence (Holly) or read about it. If nothing works, go see a child psychologist and take some advice there…
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She hasn’t been exposed to hitting? YOU hit her! Lol.
Get her evaluated. This behavior is not okay and it is not normal
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I’m assuming she isn’t in a preschool or any school programs? Usually they’d pick up on that quick and recommend an evaluation
Stop hitting her so she knows that’s wrong behavior smh 
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My daughter was having a period like this of random hitting. I discovered that she was angry with the person not giving her attention. I took her on a mommy-daughter trip and spent lots of quality time with her. Made her feel special. I also kept bringing up the negative behaviors and actions that I wanted her to change while sharing an ice cream etc. She listened. I haven’t had a problem with her hitting since. With each new challenge, I find spending some one on one time and calmly explaining what needs to change is more affective for us.
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She not only needs prayer but you need to talk to her doctor as soon as possible.
It scare me how people automatically jump to the child is autistic, with very little information. Kids don’t act out like that for no reason.
It could very well be a behavioral disorder, but it could also be simply that she’s begging for attention from her parents.
Think like a three yr old…if the only attention she thinks she’s going to get is negative she settles for that because she getting attention.
Parents think they can have kids and that they’ll be these perfect little people, but she’s crying out for help for a reason… don’t stop till you figure it. If her pediatrician doesn’t take you seriously, get a 2nd opinion. You are your child’s biggest advocate.
I don’t think any other parent has a right to tell you that you’re wrong in how you choose to discipline your child…but I will say that if you want her to stop her aggressive behaviors, giving her a spanking or hitting her in anyway is going to make it worse. In her eyes you’re telling her what she is doing is wrong, and in the next you’re doing exactly what she was just taught was wrong. It sends mixed signals. It’s confusing for them.
I have nothing against a child getting a spanking, but I do think 3 is too young for that, she doesn’t understand it, except that she doesn’t like it. Spanking is a double edged sword when not used properly and it can set you back on the things you’re trying to work with her on.
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This definitely sounds like autism. Talk to her doctor about it.
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I can believe your pediatrician hasn’t suggested for her to see a psychologist to be assessed to help get some answers.
Well clearly she’s been exposed to hitting because you mention “whooping” her a few times. Now she thinks that’s how people handle problems 
What a ridiculous post.
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Isn’t whooping her exposure to hitting?
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Have you tried play therapy?
I would stop whooping her since that’s learned behavior and why she’s hitting
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You need professional help.
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She’s never been exposed to hitting yet you just said you hit her.
Sounds like she needs to see a doctor.
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Have you looked into diet changes? Eliminating anything with red dye 40?
Perhaps she feels overstimulated and at age 4 she isn’t quite sure how to process that. One of my children struggled with this. Try making sensory bins (can be anything, moon sand with toys inside, rice with things inside, play doh) , take breaks during the day where she plays with a sensory bin to calm herself, then spend a few minutes visiting after. It may sound silly, but it really helped my daughter. Sticker charts for good behavior helped my children, never taking away what they earned on their chart when misbehaving.
At that age they are testing every and all all boundaries, and any attention is better than no attention (which is not at all implying she isn’t showered with attention, but sometimes all of our attention doesn’t feel like enough to a young child).
I am not a believer that spanking is a useful tool for behavior, it doesn’t fix what’s causing the behavior, it just may scare them into not doing something when you’re around. It’s so hard, but when it’s a tough moment remember she has only been here 4 short years. Good luck!
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Take her to doctor immediately.
You have exposed her to hitting. That’s not going to help at all. Get her tested for autism and stop spanking her!
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Sounds like a medical issue - ADHD or Autism, get a full medical evaluation done immediately !
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You gave her a whooping but she’s never been exposed to violence?
Are you for real?
“Were so mad at our daughter for hitting…let’s teach her not to hit by hitting her”
Far out 
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Try a low sugar diet. Low carb. Dr Georgia Ede treated anxiety with low carb
You hit her. She sounds scared of you. Buy a wrist strap so she doesn’t run in the road. Your relationship illustrates why hitting kids doesn’t work. She also sounds angry but mostly scared. She is trying to cope with all the scary and negative emotions. Plan some time together doing something nice, and where she can feel safe with you. Work with a small safe place…maybe build a den or get a tent. If she hits or screams, keep her safe but no disciplining. Let her calm down, hold her hands if you can.
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try rewarding with good behavior
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Have you had her evaluated for autism? She could be sensory seeking.
Also when you say you’ve tried sitting down and talking with her I’d say she doesn’t have the skills yet for boundaries and consequences. She’s not going to be able to grasp that yet. With that being said she still needs to know when something she’s doing is hurting others. Not in the middle of a hard time. My suggestion would be if she hits, remove her. Have another space where she can be comfortable. A room where she can stimulate herself. Tv, little indoor trampoline, sensory toys etc and when she hits remove her from where everyone is and go with her into the area of comfort and let her decompress. After she’s done being upset or has gotten out her frustrations on jumping, playing, watching tv etc. you then have a conversation about how we don’t hurt others bodies and she won’t be able to hang out with others when they come over if she continues to hit and hurt others. And repeat. Don’t leave her In the room by herself. Sit with her. It’s a work in progress and isn’t a quick fix. But it’s better than hitting her, time outs or any of the others you listed. And it will more than likely actually work. Good luck.
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Girl don’t feel bad for whooping her!! Children need whooping In there lives. That’s what wrong with these kids now no discipline!! My 4 year old nephew is doing the same things. My sister’s doctor said it’s ok he’ll grow out of it. But something is wrong. Get her tested for ADHD and Autism. If her doctor doesn’t do it you call the places. The light house n Login center. I had my nephew at the doctor’s w me n my doctor said to have him tested for these conditions. Whooping are necessary!!
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She may have undiagnosed behavioral problems maybe it’s something to talk to her pediatrician about or the family doctor, But it could also just be something to do with her age, Trying to establish a pecking order, Or perhaps she’s just trying to find a way to communicate with you because she hasn’t quite established how, There’s so many questions but it’s best maybe to speak to your doctor about it, Possibly get a referral to behavior specialists who can then help guide you in a better way to communicate all the way around this situation
She could have autism. Maybe take her to a specialist.
Yall say whooping is bad…I got whooped and I am ok…it’s called discipline…These kids need it these days…
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You’re spanking her, and then saying she’s not exposed to violence. All the psychologists and childcare experts say spanking is the ong way to teach a child, maybe look into an alternative method. Also try getting her evaluated, as others have said, and speak to her pediatrician. Good luck
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Are you like mentally incapable of accepting the fact that you do indeed hit your child???
You just said I don’t hit my child but in the beginning you said that you try to punish her by whooping her please make that make sense you’ll both need professional help. … Jesus fcking hell
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Sorry but violence teaches violence in my opinion,not all kids are the same,if a adult hit me as a kid i hit back,age was not a concern,if you showing her its okay for you to hit her why shouldnt she think its okay for her to hit others.i dont know the solution but i defo dont think hitting her is gonna be it from the sounds,you just poking the dragon and infuriating the poor kid,she need some proper help,maybe shes gone or going through something your not aware of
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She needs a medical and pysch eval. Please don’t wait. This will happen when she attends school anyway. If she is not in preK ask to talk to someone at school who deals with children who will enter. Talk to spec ed folks. They will get you going in the right direction. Does she do this when she’s not with you. Please stop spanking her, you could be doing more harm than good. Good luck
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Whooping a child is NOT okay. It just makes the child angry at you. You can hold her in timeout, hold her hands. Whooping is a last resort, not a means of daily punishment. Have the child tested. Go to a behavioral specialist.
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You should take her to a neuro dr. Sounds like behavioral issues she can’t control
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Ummm “never been exposed to violence” & “whooped her” in the same sentence?? That’s concerning.
She might need medical evaluation and/or a psych evaluation, this isn’t bad at all! Just keep a list of possible things she could have like (odd, Autism, etc) and speak to your doctor
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“She hits and is mean” proceeds to hit her when she does something you don’t like
You crazy…Crazy girl.
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It’s illegal to “whoop” your child. Get it together and act like a normal person your daughter would want to respect and then come back and ask us again.
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You are responding to the bad behaviors when instead of punishing, we should be encouraging and rewarding the good behavior… a whole different mental flip with parenting… hitting never works. Only encourages more physical encounters. And yes it’s assault.
She is trying to get your attention, good or bad. Try being her place of strength when her emotions are out of regulation. Allow her to feel and encourage her to work through her frustration and behavioral reactions with words and guidance from you. You are showing her how to respond… by being aggressive and violent.
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get her to a specialist
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You’re an abusive asshole …
Put her on a leash!!!
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Oh people calm down with the whooping - I doubt she meant she beats her child up
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The full out Tantrums are because she CANT decipher her feelings between one another. And this happens and is normal whether you’ve talked Till your blue in the face or not. Because she has no differential take. My suggestion would be to bring it up with a PASSION to that doctor. If we don’t advocate for our littles, situations could get much worse. My suggestion would be to take all the things out of her room and make it as solitary as possible. And let her throw her fits so she won’t hurt herself too badly. No spankings, just let her throw her fits, show you are uninterested in speaking until that’s over. Then when she can talk to you with respect like the little lady you know she can be, then you will have a conversation. It’s attention seeking, so ultimately until PCP or psychologist can dig deeper, do not divulge. She wants a reaction and she’s getting one. Don’t play in mama!
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She’s never been exposed to hitting or violence … umm YOU are hitting her!!! Hitting is not a solution I would seek professional help as soon as possible. Talk with her pediatrician.
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Parent: “I whooped her”
Also parent: “she’s never been exposed to hitting, I don’t know where she gets it from.”
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I would get her tested for autism and then think about a pediatric therapist. If she has autism or any other behavior disorder “whopping” them will not change anything.
I would also seek family counseling if you get a diagnosis because they can help you work together to find a discipline that might work better without the need to “whoop”
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Please have her evaluated as others have said, and maybe try comforting her, showing her love, hugging her. She needs to be shown how to calm down, and to know that you are going to help her.
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You hit her for hitting but expect her not to hit people?
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You are ‘whooping’ your child so you can’t say she’s never been exposed to hitting or violence…
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Whoever wrote thus question probably shouldn’t have children if she doesn’t have common sense
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Isn’t “whooping” hitting your child? I’m pretty sure it is, so then that means she is exposed to hitting.
You can’t hit, whoop, beat, etc a child and not expect that same type of behavior back. They believe it is ok because it is being done to them.
Plus, she is 4! At 4 they’re still trying to figure out their emotions and how to handle them!
If it’s too much for you to handle, then seek out help from her pediatrician to send you to the right specialist…
Because “whooping her” isn’t going to help.
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So you hit your child and tell her not to hit people!? She’s FOUR!! She’s behaving like a four year old!! She’s never been exposed to hitting or violence? I’m half convinced this post isn’t real. Just someone trying to get a reaction. Because no one can be this blind to what they are doing…
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So… just to be clear. yesterday as punishment for hitting, you hit her, but stated she’s not exposed to hitting or violence?
YOU are trying to solve your problems by hitting a child, so in turn she will use the same methods she’s shown.
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Pretty sure half of yall have spanked your kids, how about giving her advice instead of making her feel bad for what a lot of people do
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She has been exposed to violence. You are the one exposing her to it every time you hit her. You are showing her when someone does something you don’t like you hit them.
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She may need an evaluation
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There are amazing therapists out there, Speech, PT/OT, and pediac psych and neuro that can help. It does seem as if there are sensory/stimulation factors at play, and those can easily be addressed with the right “toolkit”, if can put together a good team, sit down, listen and learn with them. This isn’t something that can be corrected over the internet with a simple fix.
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Hi! I am hear to say that this is something that each toddler goes thru. Have patience. Kiddo will learn no now. Watch some gentle patenting videos… I found myself so frustrated with my twins and this behavior. Be persistent, tell them hitting hurts, they will understand soon
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It could be a desperate cry for attention. Are you interacting or playing with her a lot? Children will definitely get upset by a parent on their phone all the time for example. What interests her? Are you sitting her down quietly and talking to her initially to find out why she’s acting out? Like really comforting her and trying to understand? Punishment needs to fit the crime. Sending her to room to reflect on her choices is probably better than a smack and sorry for all the people who may have over-emphasised that. I’m sure you’re not beating your child and posting that on FB. If you’ve done all of that then she might be suffering a disorder or on the spectrum. I’d do a process of elimination before jumping to extreme conclusions without professional advice.
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Remember all behavior is communication for children! You need to be the calm in the storm for her.
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Okay, I didn’t get past ‘we had a guest over and she hit them, so I hit her’. Well, there’s your problem.
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You need to find a different dr. Maybe therapy?
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My 5 year has had similar issues to the point that I’m worried about ODD. I’m taking her to talk to someone who is more professionally trained to help. She talks about the buttons in her brain not working so im getting her help before it gets beyond help. Take her somewhere. There’s nothing wrong with asking for help from someone who can actually help
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Anybody who comments I was whooped and I turned out fine…guess what? You didn’t turn out fine. If you think it’s OK to assault children you are not fine.
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You need to see a different doctor.
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She may need an evaluation, sounds as though you need some good help choosing the right path for you all
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Calming corner. 4 min timer in a comfortable spot w/ stress balls or fidet spinners or a pop it.
My third child was like this. Having 2 before I knew this was not normal behavior. After a lot of pediatric opinions and research I found out that she did not have autism or hyperactive disorder.
HER BODY COULD NOT HANDLE ANYTHING with PRESERVATIVES in them ESPECIALLY BHA AND ARTIFICIAL COLORS ANY ADDITIVES AND APPLE JUICE.
ONCE REMOVED FROM HER DIET she was a changed child. WE ONLY ACCENTUATED HER POSITIVE BEHAVIOR. pure foods only. No chocolate cake( red dye) I created her own cupboard so she could get what she wanted. Peanut butter, cookies from Pepperidge Farm cookies, potatoes chips, no additives crackers, homemade popcorn, raw sugar packages, etc… It takes some thinking BUT IT SAVED HER. NO DRUGS!!
She is in her 40’s today. College graduate extremely successful very organized and has 2 kids of her own. Only one child showed her same symptoms and she jumped on it and feed both clean foods. That kiddo is a straight A student very athletic just like her MOM.
IF YOU NEED MORE INFO ON WHAT ADDITIVES DOES TO YOUR KIDDOS TRY AND FIND A VERY OLD BOOK WRITTEN BY
DR LYNDON SMITH-pediatrician. I FOUND IT ON AMAZON.
HE HAS GONE TO GOD but HE WAS ONE OF THE DOCTORS I MET WITH
A LIFE SAVER FOR MY CHILD.
ONCE I GOT ALL THIS INFORMATION I CRIED BECAUSE I WAS RESPONSIBLE FOR HER BEHAVIOR. All the crap I fed her ,
LIKE spaghetti ‘os, hot dogs, all the frozen crap was causing her and our entire family harm. I would make her-home made lemonade only use raw sugar in brown box- never white.
She loved dumping those little packages in her mouth with no harm or outbursts. HOPEFULLY YOU READ THIS BEFORE MORE HARM IS DONE TO HER. NEVER SPANK THEM ONLY WRAP YOUR ARMS AROUND THEM UNTIL SHE SETTLES. ALL THIS BEING SAID. There will be times when she attend parties and would eat say a piece of chocolate cake and tell me age 6 that “MOM I HAVE A CASE OF THE CRAZY “. It would take days for the poor child to get it out of her system. Take what she can have to eat to her classroom when treats are provided. PROVES HOW EACH CHILD IS DIFFERENT. GOOD LUCK AND MAY GOD BLESS HER AND YOUR FAMILY.
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You have to model the behavior you want from her. Maybe the one who needs help is you since she’s learning that behavior from you. You need to be calm and control yourself before you can tell her to be calm.
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