more my self as an adult I would not leave any child out of anything wether they were my family or not and i would ask their mother if i wasn’t sure of the boundaries or if i didn’t have enough funds for their child to be included And if the mother happen to not have the money for her child I would still make it happen somehow but that’s just me not everyone is built that way! Since they are not communicating with u at all about it, i think it’s only right that ur boyfriend brings it up and it doesn’t have to be when they are picking the kids up he should bring it up in general he should feel some type of way also especially since u are all living together because he is now also responsible for that child’s emotional and physical growth as well and if he thinks he didn’t sign up for that responsibility than u should re-evaluate ur living situation
I get that her daughter isn’t his families responsibility but it’s the decent human thing to do, why leave a child out. That’s just hurtful. And it’s not like she has a bunch of kids, it’s just one more to include! I have no advice love but I hope they find it in their hearts to include her!
I would take her alone on a outting.not everyone needs to go.just the two of you. It suck when people are like that.its the kids that suffer
I absolutely refuse to allow any of my children to feel like they’re not good enough or like they’re not included! I told my husband that from the get-go. I will cut them out of all my children’s lives before I allow them to make any of my children feel that way. We don’t play into the step/half stuff. Family is family. Period.
Luckily, I married into a wonderful family who treats my two children from a previous marriage as if they were their own.
The only thing I know to advise is… don’t feel guilty for wanting to have time with the daughter. If you can afford to take all the kids make it a mom/daughter day. Nothing wrong with that so your daughter can feel special too.
Seeing that it’s a 6 person family I’m assuming he’s got 3 kids. Do they have a vehicle big enough to take more then 3 kids? Have you asked them to take her with? Just cause it’s your boyfriends family doesn’t mean he has to be the one to ask them. You want her to be included in their family then that means you their family too and can talk to them like he does.
Y’all just moved in together. They probably don’t know what your comfortable with regarding your kid and trips like that. You can’t really be mad about them not taking her with if you haven’t talked to them about it. They probably figure when your comfortable with them being around her like that you will let them know.
You should definitely just approach them nicely and explain that it hurts your daughters feelings. Maybe they feel like it’s not their place and are trying misguidedly to respect you. You’ll never know what their thought process is if you don’t have a conversation about it.
You mentioned you seem to have a good relationship with them and that this is all pretty new as you just moved in together. Maybe they aren’t trying to be rude or exclude her deliberately. If you have a good relationship with them could it possibly be that they don’t take her out of respect? Taking his kids should be routine for them they have done it before and he doesn’t seem to mind so they continue to do it but they don’t know if you would mind them just taking your kid without talking to you and maybe they don’t want to bother you at work? Perhaps just mentioning that you wouldn’t mind for her to get out a little while your at work.
I honestly don’t know. I understand that she wants to go, but I don’t think I would even want them taking her if they don’t actually want to. That’s how kids end up getting treated bad.
I don’t jave advice. I’ve never been in a situation like that. I’d like to think I’d talk to them about it and if it continues well im sorry. No one is going to hurt my baby girl like this. Especially make her feel unwanted from family even if it is a step family. I’d honestly question if this is a relationship to even be in if no one seems to care.
Nah that’s not right. As soon as my bf and I moved in together both sides of the family took our kids. And tested then fairly. He needs to step up and talk to his family and including apologizing to your daughter about them.
Honestly if they dont bother on their own dont force it they’re missing out x
We really need more info on the relationship. How long have you been together? That’s the most important piece here, bc like a few people said, if it’s a new relationship and you moved in together within the first year then I don’t think it’s a problem. If it’s been longer than a year then your boyfriend needs to step up and address this. Leaving one child out every single time is so wrong. Especially at that age, they definitely notice! And what’s up w his family picking his kids up without asking or notifying him?? I would have a big problem w that and my kids are super close w my family and their dads family. Nobody would ever take my kids without asking me first.
That’s actually incredibly sad. Personally I would just flat out ask the family if she can get picked up to go on the outings with them whenever they go & that I’ll pay for her expense. Nothing more or less to be said to avoid drama.
It’s not their problem…pay for your daughter to go to a summer camp and stop relying on other people to fix your situation…
So from what I gather, everyone is nice and you all get along really well, for the most part. You don’t think are any bad feelings. So I put myself in their position, and all I can think of is maybe they don’t know if she wants to go with, and they also don’t know if it would be ok with you or how to ask you if she can go with. You know what I mean? It honestly sounds like they don’t want to force her because they aren’t sure what she likes, or they just don’t know how to ask you if she can go with like if you’d be ok with it. That’s what I honestly think is happening. I’m not saying this is what is happening - but are all his kids and your daughter on good terms? Like you’re sure none of his kids are saying something bad about your daughter so that their grandparents or whoever is picking then up doesn’t invite or bring her?
As a stepmom of 10 years my family would never leave out my stepdaughter. They welcome her with open arms and knew she was a packaged deal. My stepdaughter knows exactly how this feels when at her moms. Her stepfather family continues to exclude her and has become very resentful of not only her stepfather, but her mom for not speaking up against it. I’d personally speak up and if they can’t include her, they either need to do it when they’re not there at yalls house or y’all need to reconsider being together bc your child’s feelings come first.
That’s just wrong. My fiances mom is like that, only taking my daughter or sending videos of her saying hi to just her, I have 3 kids, 2 biologically hers, one not. The 1 and 3 year old are hers the 6 year old is not. Hes ignored sometimes too. Then when confronted im the bad guy and control freak.
My in laws always take my older son places and have never treated him different or excluded him. I would feel hurt too!
His family should be welcoming her and helping her to feel comfortable. Red flag for the in laws.
This is exactly the thing that my nana takes seriously.
His son lives half with his mom(she lives with her parents) so he has extended family time while my daughter has had no contact with her biological sponsor or his family (minus her aunt when we babysat her cousin) so my nana decided that for everything she does with my daughter, she brings something for the boy as well EVEN though he does have constant gparent and extra parent time.
You shouldn’t have to say anything. They’re adults they should know how rude this is and it’s your boyfriends job to point that out to his family. Poor kiddo
Just take her only on the weekends to do stuff. And if it gets asked about, simply say that since the other kids go during the week and she gets left alone, that she deserves to go out with you on the weekends alone. This is something that I would have had a conversation with the boyfriend about at the beginning of the relationship when it got serious. Also with his family before moving in together. I am the type that if you decide to live together, it is now 1 family and no children get left out of family stuff. All or none. I grew up with my step family being like that and it was awful.
Ugh this was always my fear for my eldest. Different dad. Honestly… it’s so hard because if my partner wasn’t stepping in and saying something … in not be okay with it.
Maybe send a message asking whoever is picking the kids up or what’s going on if you can send some $$ and if they can take your daughter too as she would really love it and enjoy the time with everyone and see how they respond.
To me, if my children date someone with a child, that child becomes my grandchild automatically. I’ll treat him or her just like my blood. So I cannot understand how in laws can do this. Maybe they dont know how you feel if bf hasn’t told them. I’d try to get one of the in laws that wont take it wrong and ask if they could maybe include her more. Explain she feels sad and left out. I hope it works out. I couldn’t imagine how bad that must make you both feel.
I would mention it not safe to leave her salone while others go out and that it hurts her
this situation frustrates me… while yes your just fresh in the moved in stage the conversation needs to be had, if the idea to to blend and be long term.
families are made every which way and a child born into a family is not more part of a family that an adopted, fostered, blended(step) or blood related child…
Awe my heart breaks for your daughter.
Just be honest with them
As adults they should have known better thats rude.
I would say First off it’s your boyfriend’s place to address his family with the issues. Second if she really wants to go then his family should be treating her as if she is one of the kids. She should never be left out… Because once you’re with somebody who has kids that are not yours they become yours. People need to know how to co-parent this is part of it to. family has to make the effort to try to make the child feel loved and welcomed to… I have taken so many classes and did so many studies on this to help my own kids…I’m not a expert but that’s why kids always feel hurt and depressed because they don’t understand. If he won’t step up and try to see what the reason is than I would ask them my self… just invite them for lunch of a coffee maybe they need a boost… it’s just sad…
If yall gonna be 1 big blended family, they need to accept her too. If not then put ur foot down and they can not pick others up as well. Also I’d make sure they planned ahead and not get them while I was at work. Like it or not they cnt run pick them up when they want. If the BF didn’t like it then bye bye Fred… he be gone too
You and your bf need to have a talk. You need to be a United front. His family may not even be aware of how this affects your daughter. Give them a chance to be made aware of the situation, and hopefully all can be cleared up and your daughter can be included in the fun.
I would talk to whichever person that you are closest to and tell them how she feels. My sister in law paid for my boyfriend, myself and my son to go to a zoo a few years ago, and while my daughter was 17 at the time, she didn’t invite her, thinking she wouldn’t want to go, so I paid and asked her to not say anything so my daughter would think she was included. She genuinely just didn’t think about it…
Could it be that they are assuming you wouldn’t be comfortable with it?
I suggest you plan an outing and involve their kids and be like “my daughter really wants your kids to go with us” so they know that your daughter is comfortable to be around them.
If that doesn’t work then they’re clueless. It seems by what you said that they’re not doing it to be malicious.
Talk to your man about it if it doesn’t work!
When i was kid my step dads family was like this!!! They were really nice to me during family outings but when it came to other things i was the odd one out !!! I’m sorry your going threw this it’s really hard and i wish i had an answer!!! Has she tried asking is she close with the other kids???
Few other things to explore.
How many gf’s has he had with kids? They may have gotten close to other children and they got ripped away when him and the woman/women break up.
I’m guessing his children live with him. How are his kids taking it? Are you the first female with kids that they have been in this situation with? Have their been other women or women with kids that their dad has played house with? How are the kids getting along with each other? Maybe his kids need a break from the new kid that moved in or they are not comfortable. They may also be manipulating the situation, “no, we asked her and she doesn’t want to go”. Maybe your daughter isn’t happy being around them and doesn’t want to go. Maybe your daughter treats his kids differently while you aren’t around and his family are saving them.
His family has helped him a lot and has a strong bond with the kids. They have a system and have had the system of picking up his kids whenever. They don’t have that relationship with you or your daughter.
This situation requires communication. Everyone on here may have a different perspective or opinion but there is not enough information to only come up with speculations. Are there summer camps that you can put your daughter in? Are there relatives she can visit? Friends that she can go and do things with?
It needs to be a priority that he goes and does things with his kids and you do the same with your daughter. Otherwise resentment will build up.
Communication! Communication! Communication!
Your daughter is at a delicate age and she needs protection. This can affect her emotionally for years to come. She has to come first. I would just flat out ask them but without the other children around.
Maybe it’s cause I’m Native American but we would never treat a child this way. My husband’s daughters have a little sister that was born when he got out of prison and he’s raised her since without ever throwing it up to her mother. I took all of them in without a second thought (even though their mother has since ruined our relationship).
My ex husband’s family took my daughter in immediately when we first got together in 2011 and since then they have never excluded her and have even got into arguments for other family leaving her out. When I had my son in 2012(their first bio grandson) nothing changed between them and my daughter.
Now that I am remarried with bonus kids and a new baby, they still never exclude any of them. They took my husband’s step daughter with them to THEIR daughter’s birthday party 200 miles away and didn’t ask for ONE PENNY. Every holiday, all my kids receive something from my ex in laws. Sure, my daughter and son get things that are a little more expensive but regardless they still get all 3 girls and my Rush something very nice and never expect anything in return…
I wonder if there’s a back story… I wonder if there’s another reason she’s not included. And it may have absolutely nothing to do with her, but more with her mother, the op?
We don’t know, because this is anonymous. So there’s another angle
So my daughter is 15 now, but even at 12 there were times when she just didn’t want to go with us and chose to stay home. Just Tuesday, I asked both my kids, 15 and 10, if they want to go to Cedar Point with me and my best friend. Both kids didn’t want to go. Bonus son wanted to hang out with his grandma. My daughter wanted to hang out at home, which the older she gets the more she is choosing to hang back and have so “her time”. If it’s an issue, explain to them about her situation, and how she would really appreciate being included. I would even offer to help pay her share. Good luck. I hope communication is key here.
As rude as it is, and it’s extremely damn rude, unfortunately they’re under no obligation to take her & clearly they’ve opted for the a**hole choice there. I personally would let it go & just take my child on outings when you can & not the others, what’s good for one is good for another in my opinion. Otherwise maybe approach one of them & just say nicely, hey next time you come get the kids would it be possible at all if you could include (my child) as she’s just feeling a little left out, I’d be happy to pay whatever costs for her, I’m not expecting anyone to pay for her at all & it doesn’t have to be every time you get the kids, just sometimes as she doesn’t have a lot of family & I think she’s missing that a little.
Who does this to a kid? It’s just one more kid. Talk to your boyfriend and have him talk to them about it.
Also, why don’t you start to do things just you and her and have special time
He should of addressed the issue the very first time it happened. They are adults and know damn well what their doing to your daughter.
How old are his kids? I would take my daughter on mom and daughter dates and go do whatever they did and tell them it’s her turn:woman_shrugging:t2: she must be feeling horrible 
Was wondering if there vehicle is only for five? Maybe that is why…I still would not do that and figure out how I could take all. Maybe take two one time and the other two the next time.
My oldest is not my husband’s son. But he is. Because my son has never met his sperm donor. When we first got together his family was very weird about my son and treated him a little differently. My husband told them that they needed to make a decision, accept my son or lose theirs. And that’s 100% what your bf needs to do. If he isn’t willing to out your kid first, you don’t need him. Period.
I would probably as my bf to talk to his family and ask if they would also take your daughter, and that you are happy to PayPal them money to include her (or make sure she has cash) so that isn’t an issue. If my bf wasn’t willing to have that conversation then I would be rethinking the relationship.
I would ask them if they don’t mind taking (fill in name) next time. Say, She has X amount in case you guys go on outings. Say she feels bad not be included with X,Y and Z. Thanks
If this happened to my child I’d be telling my partner that I’ll be planning a day for just me and my child to go do something fun together like have lunch, go to the movies, shopping etc.
I personally wouldn’t be staying there if mine/his family did this to my child that’s for sure.
This hurts my heart for your little girl. You can try to do things with her to make her feel special, but bottom line she is being left out. It’s not nice. You and your bf need to make it clear that family members are not to pick up any of the children without your permission. And, if they can’t take all the children, then don’t take any. Ask them how they would feel if this was them or their child. Just so mean and hurtful that they would do this. Do it together so family knows you are united on your decision. I wouldn’t let this happen again!
Oh wow this breaks my heart for her. Feeling left out is awful. Definitely an easier convo for your partner to have with them in general prior not try to at the time of the outing. And if you’re able to pay for her for the outing it might be helpful. You can also pick up their kids for an outing and nonchalantly say that your little girl really enjoys the outings all together and is feeling a bit lonely especially of late and if there’s any outings she would be allowed to go on with them that you would totally be on board and would contribute her share.
it’s all in the wording. I hope she gets included.
She’s not just missing out. They are forming a really bad taste in her mouth regarding how she will see herself. How she will see them… a lot of different ways they are currently negatively affecting her much less the long lust as she ages. Your bf needs to speak with his family. It’s all or none. And I’m a grandmother. If my son in-laws came with kids they’d be treated the same as my blood babies.
I would simply day, “hey, I was wandering if I gave you money when you take the other kids, would you mind taking my daughter. It would be really nice if she felt included and a part of the whole family?”
That’s a tough one…and I get it as a mom. As for the family, maybe they don’t want to impose…maybe they are unsure…maybe they don’t feel comfortable yet…maybe they don’t have the means to take mulitple kids…who knows. I would just simply call them and really nicely ask without expectations…even offer to pay for something. Communication is a beautiful thing.
"Hi…I saw there was (insert fun kid related event in town) and was wondering if I could treat you all to tickets and take my kiddo with you. I think it would be fun for her to get to spend time and get know you all. No expectations…but I am sure she would love to spend the day of you feel comfortable taking her. 
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"Hi (insert family name)…my kiddo has mentioned she would love to spend time with you all and the kids. I think she feels lonely at home some days, and I’d love for her to spend time with you all as well. Would you mind taking her on the next outting? I’d happily give you spending money to cover any extra costs.
PS…I don’t expect you to take her every time since I know you want to spend time with the kids. We just have no family around…and it would be lovely for her to get to know your beautiful family better. Let me know if this is ok. If it is too much to ask, I will understand. I don’t want to impose and totally appreciate your consideration. "
When in a relationship with someone who has kids … it’s a total package!! Adults know this. Shame on his family and shame on the BF for allowing this to happen. It’s not just the family at fault … the BF is at fault also!! He should tell his family they either take all or none.
Your bf needs to chat with them. If it happens after that then take just your daughter out. She needs an outlet too
Maybe organise a family outing with everyone a few times and see where it pans out from there or invite their kids on an outing with you and your daughter. As others have said they may not know the boundaries.
Thiz is the same concept i follow at home concerning the three neighbor children/friends of our kids that are at my house all the time. If we go to town they go with me, after a quick call to their parents. Or if im bringing takeout home i make sure that i get enough for them too, like extra happy meals made how they like them. Yes, i could just send them home during meal time or excursions. But i dont do that. I know how awful it feels to be excluded. Being excluded id so harmful and damaging to a child. I refuse to leave anyone out. If you are already doing something with the children then there is absolutely no reason that you cant include them all.
Ask them outright to include her, and if they make a big stink about it, then whenever you do stuff with your daughter don’t include him or the kids of they wanna play that game 
I honestly feel like it’s the same things as bring one of the kids friends with them what’s the difference but I personally would also ask if she could with
I’m so sorry sweetie!!! It could be a couple things here, (playing devils advocate) do they feel like they can’t just TAKE her without your permission or a notice of some kind so they havent?! Also you said it costs a lot to take all 6 of you out, well it will be at least 5 for each person to take then. So maybe money is the issue.
Find one you’re closest with and say hey my daughter (sorry you didn’t mention a name) she was wondering if she could hang out with you next week on whatever day works!! She saw you come grab the kiddos and was wondering if she could plan a day with you!?! I’ll give her some spending money for the day.
See how what they say.
Try taking it from that angle and see what happens best of luck mama!!! I wish I could hug her!!! No little kid should feel left out!
Always always always however you must INCLUDE all children.
I’ve been in this position & I walked away from the relationship quickly. There is no excuse for this and your boyfriend should be making sure your child is included.
Run before your child resents you for staying!
Also- see this as a HUGE red flag for future troubles with his family. If they don’t extend themselves to her now, they never will.
Good starting point and test to see how he manages this. Further, put your daughter first. Her feelings matter. It’s no reason she shouldn’t be invited.
Further you make time for your daughter in your off time. She shouldn’t be second fiddle Cinderella to your bf or his kids. It’s a blended family scenario, so everyone is equal.
As the momma, address the bf. If he won’t address it with his family, then sorry to say that’s a series of other issues you setting a precedent for.
That’s child abuse to exclude a child. It’s affecting her emotional well being and as her primary parent this is on you. Deal with it quick or your daughter’s emotions will manifest in other ways.
That’s like buying popsicles and it’s 6 kids so one gets left out cuz it’s a pak of 5. No mam, you either cutting them in Half so everyone gets equal or you buy two paks. It’s not the child’s fault she is in a living scenario like that, so make it positive every time.
This even boils down to Christmas. So everyone gets gifts but she doesn’t get one from the bfs momma or the bf for that matter. But the momma out here playing step momma with no ring but the daughter doesn’t benefit no way from the blended family. It’s not fair.
Ya right.
Your bf needs to have a talk with his family. That’s just common sense like putting yourself in her shoes.
Been there. I wish i wouldve left sooner. It had a profound effect on my oldest son.
Some type of convo needs to be had with bf to discuss this. Then yall go from there. Your daughter would like to be included. Wouldnt hurt to ask and provide for her part of going on trip.
both sides in comments are making valid points. I know some seem harsh but they not wrong. Its not fair i get but they not wrong.
Look…I have two kids outside my marriage ages 9&12 and one in marriage…my in laws don’t invite mine to birthday parties or outings, i don’t expect it…I tell my two…don’t ever expect anything, they have me…we are a family of 5 so I get that it gets expensive…but you can’t change someone…let alone a whole family…I’ve learned to just accept it…it is what it is…I know seems harsh…now me personally I wouldn’t, I couldn’t…it’s not right but that’s me
Depending on how long y’all have been together… Maybe talk and explain and offer to sign a temp/for the day medical release in case something happened… Offer to pay her way… Do all the children get along?? Have the other children rubbed it in to her?? Does your daughter like the kin ?? Have a sit down with them …your BF…and you… Just explain how her feelings are hurt… Maybe they don’t know this. If that doesn’t help I would plan a girls get away for you and your daughter Every two weeks. Take a full weekend and have fun!!
I would start tell the bf to tell him fam to step up and include all the kids or its not gonna be a long term relationship… if all the children are equal.
It’s up to him to put him family straight
Also I would purposely take your child out alone because exists get to do everything and I would do that til things are fair for all the children involved.
Maybe they feel like they don’t want to cross that boundary or something or am I not know how you would feel about it I would just say hey my daughter wants to know if she can go two and maybe offer to send some money
I feel like he should say something to them . I don’t understand how anyone could leave one kid out . My own mother in law will even include my sister’s child in things and they aren’t even related lol .
If ur boyfriend’s already living w u then theirs something seriously wrong if your daughters left out over n over, it most definitely is done on purpose, either they don’t like her or don’t think it’ll last
When I was 12-16 my dads family I moved in with would do this all the time. I was living with his wife and my dad worked out of town and the dynamics would only change when he was home (which was rarely). They went out to eat, I was stuck at home and had to eat leftovers. They went somewhere fun? I was at home. Other kids got picked up from school, I had to ride the bus (even tho we went to the same school) The last straw for my biomother was when my grandpa got into a wreck because he had a seizure and struck a fence, he had to be hospitalized. They legit left me at the house as the whole family went to visit him except me. My mom talking to them didn’t work in my case, the only thing that helped unfortunately was moving out when I was 16. It felt awful, tore at my self worth, and caused me to have mental health issues being left out like I wasn’t part of the family. My advice is definitely get the boyfriend to stand up for your kiddo. Regardless of who’s kid she is, you don’t exclude one from others. It’s harsh.
Take your daughter along with you but you pay for her. She is apart of you and should not feel or be left out.
Happening to me. Only its with my adoptive family…my adoptive sister and I have never got along. My daughter turns 10 on 13 of July. My adoptive sister invites her everywhere. Never talks to me. She sends her bday and Xmas gifts etc. Meets her in public etc. Goes on holiday. Not once has she asked my son to do anything. He’s 4 in October. He’s singled out for everything. Im stuck on what to do too
Id also like to add she is pregnant but regardless, she’s always singled my kids out. She would never allow her child near me yet expects to see only 1 of mine.
I’d be upset for her also. Guess all you can do is mention it to your man maybe? They might not have realized how they are coming across 
I 100% do not see why your bf and his kids have to tag along if you take your daughter out. When you already know this is a problem I would make it a clear point that on the weekend when you take her out, it’s her one on one time and an outing for just her. That is completely fair. And has nothing to do with her being yours and them being his, every child deserves one on one time.
Has there ever been clear communication that your dtr can and wants to join them? Its possible they’re unaware that she’s allowed to participate. Then again, they could just be assholes. Either way, I’d def have a conversation to hopefully reach a resolution that works for everyone. And no one feels left out.
I get trying to take her out on weekends and think that’s great but I also don’t think it requires for EVERYONE to go either!!! (Unless it’s planned that way.) Blended family or not you and your dtr should still have mommy and me time. Especially if she’s being left it of other “family” activities.
These people, bf included can’t pick and choose when “family” applies / doesn’t bc it’s convenient for them.
If not 1 person takes your dtr’s feelings into account… it’s time to reevaluate this blended family of yours.
To add… for your bf to not know where his kids are, speaks volumes all in it’s own. Idc who these people are, if my child is being taken anywhere… I am required to be the first to know!!! God forbid something happens… and then he doesn’t even know where his children are!!!
For fucks sake… smh
Your bold ,when they know you better ,maybe they’ll invite your kid .
That is sad and very inconsiderate they have to realize they are leaving her out your bf should say something … Like hey guys next time you grab my kids can you grab my gf daughter too … I can throw in some money it’s not a problem … otherwise she is her alone
I would ask them if I could cover the costs and send her with. See what they say.
Maybe they assume you wouldn’t like it? I’d have a convo and just ask why… sometimes it’s not ppl being malicious they just assume something.
Whoever is coming to pick the kids up should be asking the boyfriend and you if the kids can go in the first place and all kids should go not pick and choose who goes.
See I’m a mama bear/mega asshole when it comes to people leaving my babies out. I don’t hold my tongue in situations like that and even though my ex husband and I split, I take his 2 youngest swimming at my parents (my family loves his babies like their own) I get invited on family stuff on his side. I don’t EVER leave a child out and find it weird that anyone could exclude a child for any “reason/excuse” bc they’re just that, a reason or bullshit excuse. Just my honest opinion…
I hate families who pull this bs. If they can’t offer to take all the kids then don’t take any. I hate how kids are favored while others are left out when it comes to blended families.
It’s totally appropriate for you to take only your daughter out on the weekend. She’s your daughter and having bonding time together without everyone is healthy and really good for her. I’m not saying exclude them every time or even exclude at all. Your boyfriend can take them out as a bonding thing while you take your daughter out. That said I think (assuming you’ve been together for awhile and consider them family) that they should be taking her as well, I would def offer money. Wouldn’t make it a big deal I would just ask “since I’m working can my daughter come with sometimes to get her out of the house. I’ll give you money for whatever the activity is.” You don’t even need to bring g up “excluding her” especially if you haven’t ever even asked them if she can come with! Depending on your answer then maybe bring it up!
I’d probably just ask them about it. I noticed you…… and get their perspective.
Your boyfriend needs to address this and you need a mommy daughter date with your child at least once a month. Just the two of you.
Reserve a weekend or two every month for just you and your daughter to go out and leave BF’s kids home. We call that “special time” in our house.
Just mention it to the person who takes kids out aww would it be ok if my daughter tags along some time or get the other kids to ask can so and so come with us x
Just set them down and tell them how you feel. No beating around the bush.
Are they supposed to pay for your kid to do things??
If their picking up the kids they should probably pick up the kids
Like any issues in a relationship!! Talk about it ! This is a big one not to be pushed aside 
have the conversation! Before the resentment begins
You need to do things with just her then. Shame and him and you for allowing that. Maybe he’s not the one.
A one on one with the matriarch or patriarch…in one on one, face to face
How long have u and ur bf been together before moving in? Has his family known u and ur daughter a long time?
Make it clear stand up for your daughter what’s wrong with you . If she dont go neither does the others
Same with my child, he’s 10 which I had my son by my ex husband. My now husband has an 11 year old by his ex wife and we have 2 together now. My son gets left out of everything bc he is the step grand child and my MIL hates my ex husband so I feel she doesn’t like my son bc of who his dad is but he can’t help who his parents/ dad is and yes he is a complete jerk/asshole. But my family and my ex husband’s family is so large that my son has plenty of people who love him and care for him but that’s still not the point. My son is old enough and understands how he is treated differently. My now husbands parents are older and have a lot of health issues and they only have 1 child which is my husband so the whole blended family thing they don’t quite understand. And me and my MIL stay at it when it comes to my son and the way he’s treated differently bc he has ADHD so he’s hyper more than my step-son and they don’t have the patience for it. But my mother treats my husbands son like he’s her own grandchild and my son see’s that and wonders why his own grandmother treats his step-brother like he is her real grandson unlike the way my husbands mom treats my son and he says it’s not fair you have your own grandmother and my grandmother is mine. And I completely understand bc it would totally hurt my feelings as well, but I just have to tell my son that no matter what I love him more than anything and that he is perfect in my eyes and all he should care about is who loves him for him and not to worry about who doesn’t bc everyone has their day and one day will be hers (my MIL) and God will judge her when it’s her time… And Karma but I haven’t really got into the whole explaining Karma to him yet.
I mean ya cant make ppl do anything with ur kid its simple 
would this make me mad hell yes! I would talk to them first and if shit didn’t change I would just do more with her and ket her know its their problem. Cant make ppl do things and his kids shouldn’t be punished because of them either its wrong