The love that you have for him will only destroy you if you can’t find peace in your heart. Love yourself first.
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If he has done it once he will do it again how can anybody have someone back like that its not fair on you
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See how you are blaming yourself? Please leave it doesn’t get better it gets worser and worse and he didn’t even have the balls to tell you. Let alone respect you to tell you. You deserve better.
I’m so sorry to hear about your pregnancy losses. It’s a tough thing to experience. This does not give your husband the right to cheat on you. Unfortunately he did, and now that you know, you have to make a decision. Now, you say you are a Christian, so I suggest you pray about it. Get into God’s word. Many couples have overcome infidelity and have come out stronger. I’m not making any excuses for him. People should not step out of their marriages. Ever! But it is your choice and yours alone to make. If you do decide to forgive him and work it out, you can’t throw it in his face every time you get mad at him. You have to truly forgive and move on, or else you will never truly be happy together. You guys can seek marriage counseling. Some churches even offer it. I, too, am a Christian. That’s why I believe in the power of prayer. Trust in God. Seek Him. Ask Him for wisdom and guidance. I will be praying for you as well. Take care and God Bless! 
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Maybe try counseling? If you’re going to stay you have to be willing to accept what happened and move on, even if that’s with the help of counseling, but if you can’t then you need to move on.
My ex cheated on me we had been together 10 years and I was pregnant when I found out. I chose to try to forgive hi and I stayed another 3 years. It got bad after that. He cheated on me constantly and accused me of cheating after he got cought because he always thought I wanted to get back at him. It not only changed how I looked at him but turned out whole relationship toxic. They get this mintality that you will never leave and so they can treat you however you want
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If you are married it’s worth working thru IF only if its what you both want n it doesn’t seem like he wants the marriage anymore. especially when he didnt even tell you. The other woman did. And hed have to be showing an outpouring amount of shame, remorse and will to change. Other wise move on and start over. Yes its scary, never thought I could do it myself but it is so rewarding starting over on your own.
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It even says in the Bible you have all the right to divorce him for infidelity. Obviously forgiveness is important but you don’t need to stay with him. I know its easier said then done. If you do decide to stay, I would definitely get some type or marriage counseling to help you both get through this. Praying for you and your situation 
If he is sorry and doesn’t want to leave then you could try going to marriage councilling. You should at least try to fix your marriage first and then if you end up divorcing, at least you know you did what you could to save it. I would also try to formally adopt your son if thats at all possible, so that if in the future you do break up, you will retain rights to see your child.
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Sometimes it’s not about forgiveness. With my ex the more I forgive the more he did it and the less he cared when I found out. It was awful. I forgave him every time. It just made him more brazen.
If you choose to forgive tell him it’ll be the only time unless your prepared to carry on with with this cycle
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I forgave first time… I forgave 2nd time by third time I knew it was never changing after I left I found out there was a forth too. Im not saying people can’t change but this has been my experience it really killed me and made me question myself. Wasted 6 years of my life believing the good in someone . I’m so sorry this has happened to you its the hardest thing ever to go thru 
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I made the mistake for forgiving them and he cheated again
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I forgave once, took him back, had a second child with him only for him to leave all three of us right after my son was born for another woman. Maybe I’m salty, but I think cheaters will always cheat. And the fact that he didn’t tell you speaks VOLUMES.
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won’t you be afraid he will do it again? Or even want to? To me that’s the same idk
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DEPENDING on how he handles this with you…I was once the cheater and it’s taken a long while. But only if he’s willing to work on shit and ready to “man” up
Leave. Never gets better and your ultimately just wasting time now. I know it’s hard but you can do it!
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Once a cheater always a cheater. Open the relationship and find your trust or leave
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This is something that you both have to want with every fiber of tour being! I have been with my partner for 20 years. It was rocky, I was not happy. She cheated at 13 years. It took a lot of work on both sides because we decided that we wanted it to work. It took a lot of communication on both sides, counseling and a lot of personal changes to Both of us. But I have to say, after all that work our relationship has changed so much for the better! It’s a totally different dynamic! It took a while but the trust has returned, and for the first time our relationship is healthy!
It is possible, but both of toy need to see how you need to change personally for yourself so that you will be happy.
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You sound like you aren’t ready to leave him, you have to have a one on one with him and confront your issues, have an honest talk with him. Let him know that you know, see if he is willing to go to counseling if he’s not willing to work it out, there’s your answer. My heart breaks for you but it takes 2 to make a relationship work.
Leave. As someone who always forgave and gave everything in me to try and get my sons dad to give af about family and be emotionally open and available… now I get to be a single mom of 2. Now I get to go through another childbirth with a man who I don’t think ever gave a shit about me there in the room bc I’m not one of those that will prevent the father from being there for the birth of his child. It only gets harder from here so I understand it will hurt bc of the child already in the picture but please leave before there are any others. You think you’re hurting now, you can only imagine how bad the hurt and betrayal can go if you stick around.
A piece of advice that was given to me when my husband cheated was. If you can learn to forgive him then stick it out but in your heart if you know that it may happen again and or you can’t forgive , then leave. Would not be fair to either of you.
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You have every right not stay. He betrayed you and your family. He should have thought of how this could affect your family. If you want to work it out, I strongly suggest counseling. It will give a safe space to work it out. Good luck in whichever direction you chose. Please make sure your happiness comes first.
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For me I would not tolerate cheating. It is the worst thing in the world. He should be supportive during your hard times and it’s disgusting he slept with someone else while you were going through alot. For me once trust is broken it can never be fully restored. Usually the easy choice is the wrong choice the hard one is the right one. But I’m not going through what you are so honestly i can say what id do but no one knows for sure if it isnt happening to them. Its easier to give advice to others.
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He has to want forgiveness. If he really wants forgiveness he will be 100 percent transparent with you. He will have to deal with the ramnifi cation of his actions. He will be honest with you about all of your questions and have to deal with your uncertainty until he regains your trust. If he doesn’t have patience and understanding that trust lost takes time to regain, it won’t work. Also, he needs to stay away from the person he cheated with. Marriage counseling is the best way to get it out on the table. It takes a long time to begin to trust again and if he really wants to work on it, he will give you that time. I’m sorry for your hurt.
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And bless you for loving your son the way you do:heartpulse:
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I was in your position at one point. My depression drove a wedge between my husband and myself… one day he decided he wanted to go to a bar and just drink a few. I was ok with it because we was around each other 24/7. He needed some space. I get it. Told him to go… what bothered me was he told me a girl was hitting on him and he basically spilled his guts to a complete stranger. She knew he was married and she just kept buying him drinks. Well apparently at one point he went to the bathroom leaving his drink unattended… needless to say he blacked out and woke up at a lake 20 miles away. He told me everything he could remember. So when I found out everything I was crushed. It was really rough being with him and the day I told myself I was ready to move on he begged me not to. He didn’t want this to be over. So we worked through it. Its still in the back of my mind and eats at me some days, it’s going to but also to this day he refuses to go to a bar alone. If I don’t go he won’t go. Moral of the story, if they wanna change and make the marriage work it can be done. The once a cheater always a cheater isn’t true for everyone.
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As a Christian the Bible says if you choose to forgive him you have to move on and never bring it back you can’t throw it in hisbface everytime you want. You cannot heal if you do that. Marriage is a beautiful thing. You guys made a commitment and sometimes infidelity happens. Is it a deal breaker or is it not. Your allowed to choose without regret. Marriage isnt easy. Is it also worth fighting for? Don’t let him disrespect your boundaries. Confront him let him know you know. See where I goes from there. Men can be stupid and make super poor decisions especially when free easy pussy is waving irself around. It when they love the other person that things will get tricky. Definitely talk about counseling sometimes having an outsider looking in will confront your own actions that may have led him astray and also check his action for giving into temptation and alsonfinding a solution
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You can love him and forgive him all you want. But that will not make him respect you and that’s what this is about. He doesn’t respect you as his wife. He doesn’t respect you as the mother of his children. He doesn’t respect you enough as a person to talk through your marital issues together.
And there’s nothing you can do to change that.
I firmly believe that someone cheats because they are looking for an out but are too cowardly to do the leaving themselves. He wants you to make this decision. And I think that if you stay, things are not going to get better. You might forgive him but you will always be wondering…is he cheating on me again? And that’s no way to have a relationship.
Also - forgiveness does not mean you stay with him. You can forgive him so your own heart can heal, but have enough respect for yourself to know your own worth and demand to be treated in a manner becoming of your worth. Forgiveness - is not easy. Staying in the marriage - now that’s the easy way out. Not wanting to rock the boat - the easy way out. Demanding you be treated what your worth - the hard part. Knowing it’s probably better for you to leave - the hard part. But forgiveness does not mean you have to stay. I’d bet that if you stayed you would have a harder time forgiving him than if you left.
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It’s one thing to forgive someone, but its another to stay in a relationship or situation that you know in your hole body that you just can’t handle.
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Sincerely Praying for you my dear girl. You are God’s precious daughter.
I’m so sorry you are going through this. Please watch the movie Fireproof with your husband. Watch it as many times as you need. Look up The Love Dare. And actively do the challenge.
YouTube “Matt Chandler A Beautiful Design” sermon series on marriage.
God will bless your heart, your marriage. God can restore your marriage and make it better. I have seen this transformation.
For what God has joined together no man shall separate.
Reach out to your church pray with others. If you need look up Church of Christ. It’s nation/ world wide. They will pray with you.
Our God is healer.
Thy will be done- Hilary Scott
Praise you in this storm-Casting Crowns
While I’m waiting- John Waller
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I’ve forgiven my husband twice.Maybe try counseling and see if that will help you both.Cheating is never okay but,if you both are willing to give it another try,do it.However,are you willing to be at peace and never think about it again or bring it up?This is the hardest part about forgiveness.
It would be easier for me to forgive if HE had said something about it. He didn’t so now no one can say he ever would have. The next woman might not have a conscience about it. He wasn’t remorseful about cheating, he was remorseful about getting caught. If you have a baby with this man, prepare for it to happen again and you have to share your child with him and the person/people he cheated on you with. Is it worth it?
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That’s a choice you have to make on your own. Some people can get over that and I do believe that people can make mistakes and change. I don’t know if I would be able to but you do what you need to. Also, what you were going through is no excuse. You were in a bad place and you remained faithful. Don’t let him use that as an excuse. He made a conscious choice to betray your trust. Talk it out and see how you feel about it.
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We all have it in us to get through things. Believe me when I found out about my ex it broke me. I couldn’t breath, I cried everyday. Some forgive their partner mistake but people don’t change over night. See if you can get joint custody of your son. For your mental health and your self worth, leave that piece of A** and work on yourself. One day at a time, and someday if you are lucky enough you will find someone worth your love and respect
I understand your pain, confusion, and humiliation and I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this. If your husband is remorseful, ready to leave everything affaire related behind, and you are both willing to put in the work to address the underlying issues and rebuild a better relationship yes, of course it can be done. You must take responsibility for your healing and forgiveness (it sounds like you’re capable of this, not everyone is. It’s a challenge) and he must be willing to swallow his pride and support you in your healing and make sacrifices to rebuild trust.
Go on YouTube and search Affaire Recovery. They have dozens of videos about what comes after the affair, understanding why it happened, and how to have empathy for each other’s experience (empathy is essential for forgiveness). You sound like an incredibly loving and generous woman. I’m sending you love and support on this journey. Hold your head high. You’re a Goddess 
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I personally couldn’t forgive. I went through this with my 1st husband and will never to it again. We have been married almost 31 years and l trust him 
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Cheating is for the cheater. I am not gonna wear that on my heart. If my partner cheats on me and I don’t find out that’s up to them to live with. If I find out it’s up to me. I will be no one’s second choice and I definitely won’t spend my days wondering if my man is thinking about some random side piece. Life is too damn short.
Time goes on it gets easier but you never forget. The disbelief of the betrayal and lack of trust remains.
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I went through this about two years ago I have three kids with my kids father and one of them is special-needs he cheated on me three times that I knew of that’s not counting of the other ones that I didn’t know it was the same story every time I’m sorry it won’t happen again and I always took him back for the sake of the kids and because we were together for so long and how could I break up my family but the truth is it’s a choice it’s disrespectful anytime someone cheats. It was not easy for me but I did leave him because I knew that I couldn’t live in a relationship where there was no trust respect and I was always wondering and I didn’t want that I wanted peace of mind and I did forgive him for what he did still to this day he tries to get back with me and says he loves me but I could never go back to that once the trust is broken more than once it’s really hard to fix that I am at peace now and it was an easy hang in there I know exactly What you are feeling and going through and I know it’s the worst feeling ever. I pray that you have strength to get through this difficult time and that you make the choice that is best for you. A lot of times men know that we will forgive them and they know that we are forgiving and you cannot let them take it advantage of that. Praying for you!
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To me cheating is not forgivable. “For better or for worse, through sickness or in health” (or however it goes )- he should support you through your depression not find someone else. Don’t blame yourself for his choices 
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You are going through two miscarriages and depression and he cheats on you! Doesn’t tell you. I couldn’t forgive him.
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Sometimes, being away from your significant other after something like this helps put things in perspective. The distance gives you some kind of peace to be able to think and not have to do it while seeing him everyday and basically wanting to kick him every time he walks by you. Give yourself some time to heal. Feel what you have to feel and take it from there. Best of luck.
Why would you even consider being with someone who doesn’t respect you? “Because I love him”. Love sometimes isn’t enough. Respect yourself and move on.
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Omg this is horrible.
I’ve been cheated on in every relationship I’ve ever been in. I’ve always left them because of the betrayal I felt.
Until i tried forgiving my ex for cheating. I really did try. I tried to understand why I was cheated on. Maybe it was something I did. He told me himself and begged me that he wanted to be with me and not her. We continued on as usual even though I was completely torn. Turns out, he was just looking for a way out of the relationship without having to dump me himself. He cheated again…told me AGAIN. And that was it. I was done.
I’ve come to realize over the years that there is NO EXCUSE for cheating especially when you are in such a vulnerable state. How dare he! Yes he’s allowed to grieve, but that does not give him a “get out of jail” free card to go sleep with another woman. Instead of comforting each other as a husband and wife should, he betrays you.
There is only one thing you should do. LEAVE! Ask your step sons mother if you can still see him. It will be hard, but at least you can heal and find someone who truly won’t betray you.
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Leave leave,he will do it again,people like that who cheats never stops ,its in their blood,sex always there for them.
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So you lost 2 beautiful humans in YOUR body, and he decides to cheat ?! No way in h I’d stay! That’s totally messed up. And the fact that he’s not even the one who told you. Big nope in my eyes
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Is he begging your forgiveness and apologetic? Does he feel horrible for cheating and lying to you?
Total disrespect for you and the things you have been going through. He deserves a kick out the door not forgiveness
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You deserve better…you can forgive if you choose but you will never forget!!! People have different options but in my mind once a cheater always a cheater with the right temptation…let Karma do its job
I would suggest a Christian counselor.
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You can forgive, but I promise you, you will NEVER forget. It will be an almost daily reminder.
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I ended up divorcing my first husband because he didn’t seem repentant and I felt too hurt to stay.
I’m Christian too. I believe in being with your life partner but if they cheat they usually continue. I’ve been divorced twice. I recently married again. Finally I found the man for me. He dont believe in cheating. You have to work that out for yourself but I’d move on.
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My sincerest condolences for your pregnancy losses and the hurt you’re going through because he cheated. You having depression and going through a rough time is completely expected given what you went through. That is a traumatic experience. His cheating based on your mental health struggles is absolutely 100% not justifiable. A partner should be there for you during those times and helping you heal not betraying you. As a counselor, I would most definitely recommend counseling to weigh options. I know you’re in a tough place especially being that you guys share a child. But please consider counseling and I wish you the best in your healing and in this difficult decision you have to make.
Going through the same thing. I found out my husband was cheating on me in November with his co worker. They had been having a relationship for 3 months. We were going through a hard time. I was having bad post partum (I have a 1 & 2yr old born back to back) it was rough. I’m still having a hard time getting over it but I can say we’ve been working on our relationship & communication. I feel like we get along better. Butt there are other days I ask myself if I’m doing the right thing and will I ever be able to get over it.
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I hate forgive and forget. I prefer remember and recover. Remember that it happened, because it’s important, but you also have to recover… in whatever way that looks like for you. If you won’t be able to remember and recover then I think you should leave.
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The Beetles got it wrong, you need more then just love. You can’t be his whole world if he is dicking else where. He is telling you how he feels with his actions, don’t get blinded by love or soft words. End of the day he slept with someone else, he broke that trust, gambled with his family, and flat out slapped you with disrespect.
Stay if you want but you’d be a fool.
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I have no advice other than to check out “Forgiving what you can’t forget.” The woman who wrote it went through this exact thing and was able to repair her marriage, but ultimately find herself through the pain.
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Find a therapist that works with couples! Find a Therapist, Psychologist, Counselor - Psychology Today can help find someone in your area. You can also contact your church, often they can help or have a partnership with someone. Also there are many great books that are from a Christian prospective. If you need someone to vent to PM me.
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Trying to stay and trying forgive him is NOT the EASY way out take it from me… You will never forget it… Only time can help you move past it… No one can really help you with the decision to stay or go… At the end of the day it’s your choice… Don’t let anybody make you feel some type of way for whatever decision you make…
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Prayers sweetie, he’ll never change. You and your babies deserve better
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Leave. I am in the spot you were in. I should have left. He swears no actual meeting or physical stuff happened caught him on multiple dating sites nit even a month after having our third child. I should have left. Now I have no trust and him and I have no romantic feeling towards him. I am pregnant again and just plain unhappy. He was the only one I have ever trusted. I was passed a long to family members as a child, mother just left. He knew and still did it. Tried to say we were fighting all the time. The only thing we ever fought about was him not wanting to have sex or spending time with his family. He been trying harder. I just caught him again on another dating site. He actually charged the talk/message tokens to our joint account. Don’t stay. You deserve better. And remember you didn’t cause him to cheat. He did it for himself.
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If you really want to work on things because you really feel like you love him then you can. Maybe talking to something together will help. But also don’t forget the pain you’d feel if he does it again because he sees that you’re going to try to move on and he’s “getting away with it”. Don’t forget the constant suspicion you may feel and wondering if he’s actually doing what he says he’s doing or if he’s with someone else. It’s a hard situation for sure!
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Yep just to be cheated on AGAIN it hurts to move on hut it’s for the better he will keep doing it because you will always take him back girl you deserve so much better life is to short always worrying what he is do is he cheating a again .
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Well regardless if you choose to stay or leave. Only way to heal is to forgive. Doesn’t mean you’ll forget. But, if you both decide on counseling or something then give it a shot. Takes a long time to get the trust back but it can be done.
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I think it’s possible but it takes A LOT of work from both people. My ex husband did everything I asked, changed his number, email, I had full access to his phone, but it was something that I couldn’t forget. I couldn’t unsee the emails/texts/pictures that I found from a couple women. I stayed for 3 years and tried to make it work, we did marriage counseling, individual counseling but it turned into such anger and resentment and it took a huge toll on me mentally and our relationship was just not good anymore.
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I cant give advise on this through experience as I’ve never had it happen but I’ve always felt if it did happen I couldnt possibly carry on with the person as i would have it on my mind constantly and that would be torture , i wouldnt be able to look at him the same and i could never trust again so wouldnt be a happy existence at all n I’d feel i needed revenge aswell .
You deserve better. You are going through things you just lost 2 babies. Your man should be there for you. Not out sticking it in someone else. Sorry but what a pig.
Just keep in mind, whatever you deside that forgiveness is definitely not the easy way out. Best wishes to you!
You can’t. Just move on and save everyone the grief of “trying”
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God doesn’t call us to forgive and forget. In fact, he says forgive, don’t forget. My prayers friend. I would be gone. My hubby knows this too.
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Once a cheater always a cheater. He will do it again. Never trust a bloke. Where’s their is fanny, a man will be.
No one can decide for you. You have two options try again with the possibility he will do it again or leave him. It is possible for him to not do it again but he needs to prove how he’s working on it. If he continues to act the same or not show true remorse for his actions then LEAVE! This happened to me very recently and I decided to try again but if at any point he shows he doesn’t value me or our relationship then it’s over. And it’s always going to be a possibility he’ll do it again and I know that and accept it. But I chose to try again because that’s what I wanted to do.
I’d kick his butt to the curb. I don’t care how rough it got marriage is sacred
Think of it this way… if she wouldnt have told you…
he would still be doing it
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I have a story along the same lines. I knew her. We were all close. All all part of the same Christian circle.
Honestly, Christians tend to hide behind this religion and justify cheating-their heart (and maybe bad counsel?) will give them all sorts of excuses as to why it’s ok. I tried for 4 yrs to make things work but his heart was already gone.
I wouldn’t waste another few years trying to make it work if I were you. Infidelity is a heart issue and it’s really rare that the person is open to that kind of change, whether conscious or subconscious. Don’t put you or your kids through that, you deserve better.
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You can get passed it, but it takes hard work and lots of communication. At 20 years of marriage, my husband cheated. He has spent the last 37 years making up for it every single day. I trust him completely. Our 57th anniversary is coming up this month.
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Sounds to me like you have a LOT of work to do on yourself without the trouble or distraction of trying to keep a failing relationship afloat. You need to get right with you, before you will ever have a healthy relationship with anyone else -including that boy- who may grow up really needing you to be healthy, and independent, and available to continue a strong relationship with him…
Honestly… can you stick around long enough to adopt him legally before you peace out? Just so you don’t have to worry about losing out on visitation/custody? Might be messed up to adopt him and leave his father, but… it sounds like he’s the most important part of this, second only to your own health and well-being. 
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I forgave once. Then he did it again. After 15 yrs of marriage and 18 years together I gained the courage to walk away.
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Personal Experience here: I have been cheated on in different relationships. I did choose to forgive and stay with my current partner and I do not regret my choice. We go to therapy (couples and individually) and we love each other. My advice is as follows:
- whichever choice you make - BE FIRM not wishy washy
- if you choose forgiveness make sure you have the capacity to let go of the bitterness, otherwise I would just choose to leave - it’s not “fair” if you choose forgiveness to then use that as a weapon later on in the relationship
Forgiveness and relationships are HARD and HARD WORK. I hope you find peace in whatever you decide I am just here to say sometimes relationships are worth repairing instead of just throwing them away.
I also want to add that its just as easy to say “screw you” as it is to say “I forgive you”.
Yes you can forgive and move on but he has to be willing to put the work into it as much as you are he will have to regain your trust and I would seek marriage counseling sometime it only takes 1 mistake like this for them to realize what they have done and some will never do it again if they truly love you I know my husband had a one time thing and I chose to stay and work through it im so glad I did we are stronger than ever we had a 4.5 month old and I found out I was 15 weeks pregnant 2days after I found out about the 1 time and that was almost 11 years ago and we couldn’t be in a better place follow your heart that’s why marriages doesn’t last anymore people are to eager to throw it away we are humans we make mistakes but I will say that if it ever happened again he would be out the door before he could think about it
Instead of praying for the ability to forgive and accept it, try praying for strength, courage and wisdom.
God will hear you. He doesn’t want you to suffer.
The Lord will provide.
Leaving is really scary and that fear tends to keep us in relationships that no longer serve us or our families.
Your son us yours. You are both his parents and entitled to shared custody/access regardless of blood.
Be strong sis.
Take the leap of faith.
You need more than love to justify staying. You need respect, trust, effort and responsibility.
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Love. Doesn’t. Stray. Love doesn’t even consider straying. There are ZERO excuses for cheating, it’s a conscious act and a HUGE betrayal. I’ve told my husband point blank, one time and his shits on the lawn. I refuse to have my trust be violated like that.
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I made it very clear when we were still dating that I don’t give second chances for cheating or abuse of any kind!! That still Stands 20 years in now!!
I could never trust again, that’s one of the pillers that holds up our relationship.
If you want to try then do it but you will need help, couples councling and both have to be all in and do the work. Only you can decide what you put up with.
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So I’m gonna be the devil’s advocate here. The saying once a cheater always a cheater is not true. I’m the one that cheated and my husband forgave me. We were going thru some deep shit, and I fucked up and cheated. He forgave me and we are way better than ever. I haven’t even thought about it doing it again.
If you can’t get past the hurt, then leave and move on. If you want to make it work, then you will have to try as well.
It’s hard coming back from betrayal but for some it can be done. I’m not saying forget about it, but if you do decide to work it out, it needs to stay in the past.
i think it will probably eat you alive regardless of if you are together or not, so i think the real question is can you continue to love him and have no resentment towards him? do you think that with time you can look at him the same? and do you trust he won’t do it again or will there be a reoccurrence? you both are gonna have to work hard to make it work and get past these feelings that you have at the moment. do what’s best for you though. try not to let your religion be the sole purpose of your decision, whatever that decision may be.
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Walked away with your son. He doesn’t love you. He doesn’t respect you.It’s going to hurt you for the rest of your life if you forgive him. I wish you happiness.
You stay with him and go day-by-day, because you don’t want to make a hasty mistake. Sometimes it gets easier as the days go on and if it does you’ll be able to forgive him eventually but if you let him go you probably will never forgive him and things will never be the same.
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Just because ur marriage isnt going good doesnt give someone a free pass to go out and cheat. Kick his butt to the curb. He will do it again.
My ex was a serial cheater. I stil don’t know all his secrets n lies but I know all I care 2 know. We went 2 counsoling once. It helped 4 a few years but then I wonder if it wasn’t just that I was happy n didn’t notice what he was doing. Either way it was 2 much 4 me anymore.
There is no weakness in forgiveness… but speaking from experience I would leave. Wishing you the best!
Forgiving is easy forgetting is difficult
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As a Christian God does call us to forgive however there is a reason adultery is one of the only ways out of a marriage. Matthew 5:31. He doesn’t call us to stay. He doesn’t call us to commit to someone who doesn’t love us. He calls us to forgive which means to stop feeling angry or resentful. Doesn’t mean to stay.
Same situation as you exact the chic told me n all i foragve him he change alot completely 100% change but i regret forgiving him its in my mind constantly we moves 3 hours away n all i have no trust i feel like i dont care anymore unless you can truly forgive and moveon it not going to work me n him dont fight we do have our ups n down the truth is i no longer want to be marry to him n yes i love him n all but i feel nothing for him personally my part you need to leave now unless you are willing to completely forgive him n move on its allways going be in your head
Leave once a cheater always a CHEATER!
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Are you willing to forgive and forgive and forgive over and over again?
If you stay and choose to forgive, he will continue to cheat. Get out while you can
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no you werent born a mug
If you think things are over with this girl and he regrets… but before taking him back keep in mind he might do it again.
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